[Applause] take this job and shove it
hump day thank God it’s Friday Sunday
hump day thank God it’s Friday Sunday night blues so I’m sure you all have
night blues so I’m sure you all have
night blues so I’m sure you all have heard these popular terms about jobs but
heard these popular terms about jobs but
heard these popular terms about jobs but did you know that most heart attacks
did you know that most heart attacks
did you know that most heart attacks happen Monday morning and a lot of them
happen Monday morning and a lot of them
happen Monday morning and a lot of them are related to job stress so the
are related to job stress so the
are related to job stress so the question I ask do we all really hate our
question I ask do we all really hate our
question I ask do we all really hate our jobs as much
jobs as much
jobs as much well 2/3 of us do according to the
well 2/3 of us do according to the
well 2/3 of us do according to the Bureau of Labor Statistics 51% of the
Bureau of Labor Statistics 51% of the
Bureau of Labor Statistics 51% of the American workforce are disengaged at
American workforce are disengaged at
American workforce are disengaged at work so basically you just don’t want to
work so basically you just don’t want to
work so basically you just don’t want to be there another 16% are actively
be there another 16% are actively
be there another 16% are actively disengaged so what does this mean they
disengaged so what does this mean they
disengaged so what does this mean they go around the workplace they mow they
go around the workplace they mow they
go around the workplace they mow they complain about everything and bring the
complain about everything and bring the
complain about everything and bring the morale of the workforce down how many
morale of the workforce down how many
morale of the workforce down how many people work with somebody about like
people work with somebody about like
people work with somebody about like that ok so another rinse is interesting
that ok so another rinse is interesting
that ok so another rinse is interesting fact the length of time you stay in your
fact the length of time you stay in your
fact the length of time you stay in your job is not determined by whether you
job is not determined by whether you
job is not determined by whether you like it or whether you don’t like it so
like it or whether you don’t like it so
like it or whether you don’t like it so for those 1/3 of people who actually
for those 1/3 of people who actually
for those 1/3 of people who actually like their jobs and I think you guys
like their jobs and I think you guys
like their jobs and I think you guys have a secret you leave your jobs at the
have a secret you leave your jobs at the
have a secret you leave your jobs at the same rate so if you’re 45 years and
same rate so if you’re 45 years and
same rate so if you’re 45 years and older like me you will stay in your jobs
older like me you will stay in your jobs
older like me you will stay in your jobs an average of 7 to 10 years if you’re
an average of 7 to 10 years if you’re
an average of 7 to 10 years if you’re under 45 you guys will stand your jobs
under 45 you guys will stand your jobs
under 45 you guys will stand your jobs an average of 5 years but if you’re
an average of 5 years but if you’re
an average of 5 years but if you’re millennial you’ll stay in your does
millennial you’ll stay in your does
millennial you’ll stay in your does about 2 years maybe they have something
about 2 years maybe they have something
about 2 years maybe they have something figured out but we’re not going to go
figured out but we’re not going to go
figured out but we’re not going to go into that today so if you sum it up you
into that today so if you sum it up you
into that today so if you sum it up you got all these people 2/3 of the American
got all these people 2/3 of the American
got all these people 2/3 of the American workforce and they’d hate their jobs but
workforce and they’d hate their jobs but
workforce and they’d hate their jobs but they could potentially be in their jobs
they could potentially be in their jobs
they could potentially be in their jobs up to a decade hating it
up to a decade hating it
up to a decade hating it is that what I’m hearing from some of my
is that what I’m hearing from some of my
is that what I’m hearing from some of my job transition clients the number one
job transition clients the number one
job transition clients the number one reason people don’t leave a job they
reason people don’t leave a job they
reason people don’t leave a job they hate is fear they’re afraid that if they
hate is fear they’re afraid that if they
hate is fear they’re afraid that if they make that job job the next job might be
make that job job the next job might be
make that job job the next job might be worse another thing that I’m hearing is
worse another thing that I’m hearing is
worse another thing that I’m hearing is they don’t believe their skills are
they don’t believe their skills are
they don’t believe their skills are transferable so that I really don’t get
transferable so that I really don’t get
transferable so that I really don’t get because if you work for Pepsi you can
because if you work for Pepsi you can
because if you work for Pepsi you can work for coca-cola right the last reason
work for coca-cola right the last reason
work for coca-cola right the last reason and this is the saddest reason of all
and this is the saddest reason of all
and this is the saddest reason of all some of my clients believe they are too
some of my clients believe they are too
some of my clients believe they are too old for a company to want them so my
old for a company to want them so my
old for a company to want them so my message today is of hope that you can
message today is of hope that you can
message today is of hope that you can change your job and actually transform
change your job and actually transform
change your job and actually transform your life I know I was one of these
your life I know I was one of these
your life I know I was one of these people I was in a job for 15 years that
people I was in a job for 15 years that
people I was in a job for 15 years that I didn’t love and I would still be there
I didn’t love and I would still be there
I didn’t love and I would still be there today had not a series of events in my
today had not a series of events in my
today had not a series of events in my life happened the first of which is a
life happened the first of which is a
life happened the first of which is a divorce
divorce
divorce my ex left and took two thirds over a
my ex left and took two thirds over a
my ex left and took two thirds over a household income with him when he left
household income with him when he left
household income with him when he left and if that wasn’t bad enough one month
and if that wasn’t bad enough one month
and if that wasn’t bad enough one month he said to me I don’t have child support
he said to me I don’t have child support
he said to me I don’t have child support this month for our three daughters under
this month for our three daughters under
this month for our three daughters under five years old I didn’t know what to do
five years old I didn’t know what to do
five years old I didn’t know what to do I mean it was so tough I had to make
I mean it was so tough I had to make
I mean it was so tough I had to make decisions like gee do I pay electric
decisions like gee do I pay electric
decisions like gee do I pay electric this month or do we have heat this month
this month or do we have heat this month
this month or do we have heat this month because I was one of those people who
because I was one of those people who
because I was one of those people who did not believe I could get a job making
did not believe I could get a job making
did not believe I could get a job making enough money to take care of my kids so
enough money to take care of my kids so
enough money to take care of my kids so I did the only thing I knew how to do I
I did the only thing I knew how to do I
I did the only thing I knew how to do I went back to school at night for 13 very
went back to school at night for 13 very
went back to school at night for 13 very very very long years after which I
very very long years after which I
very very long years after which I earned my bachelor’s and my master’s and
earned my bachelor’s and my master’s and
earned my bachelor’s and my master’s and during this time I changed jobs within
during this time I changed jobs within
during this time I changed jobs within my company to be in alignment with what
my company to be in alignment with what
my company to be in alignment with what I was taken in school I had a really
I was taken in school I had a really
I was taken in school I had a really supportive manager she was excited about
supportive manager she was excited about
supportive manager she was excited about my education as well and we were both
my education as well and we were both
my education as well and we were both looking forward to that day when I
looking forward to that day when I
looking forward to that day when I graduated and I would
graduated and I would
graduated and I would get that salary bump so I remember the
get that salary bump so I remember the
get that salary bump so I remember the day I walked into her office and the
day I walked into her office and the
day I walked into her office and the first thing she said to me is I’m sorry
first thing she said to me is I’m sorry
first thing she said to me is I’m sorry and she goes this company doesn’t give
and she goes this company doesn’t give
and she goes this company doesn’t give salary bumps just because you got a
salary bumps just because you got a
salary bumps just because you got a degree at this point I felt like my life
degree at this point I felt like my life
degree at this point I felt like my life from the marriage and from the low
from the marriage and from the low
from the marriage and from the low salary for so long was like a sad
salary for so long was like a sad
salary for so long was like a sad country song so I finally got the
country song so I finally got the
country song so I finally got the courage to leave poverty corporation so
courage to leave poverty corporation so
courage to leave poverty corporation so in my next job I doubled my income so
in my next job I doubled my income so
in my next job I doubled my income so all of a sudden I didn’t need to rely on
all of a sudden I didn’t need to rely on
all of a sudden I didn’t need to rely on child support to take care of my family
child support to take care of my family
child support to take care of my family it was amazing for about two years and
it was amazing for about two years and
it was amazing for about two years and then my nine-to-five became 15 hours a
then my nine-to-five became 15 hours a
then my nine-to-five became 15 hours a day 7 days a week so that family that I
day 7 days a week so that family that I
day 7 days a week so that family that I now could afford to take care of I
now could afford to take care of I
now could afford to take care of I couldn’t even see them I was up against
couldn’t even see them I was up against
couldn’t even see them I was up against another really tough decision so at this
another really tough decision so at this
another really tough decision so at this point I said I have to change I have to
point I said I have to change I have to
point I said I have to change I have to leave because I have no work-life
leave because I have no work-life
leave because I have no work-life balance and I had to just quit and find
balance and I had to just quit and find
balance and I had to just quit and find another job so I quit no family Time Inc
another job so I quit no family Time Inc
another job so I quit no family Time Inc but here are some signs that your
but here are some signs that your
but here are some signs that your overworked in your job and here you go
overworked in your job and here you go
overworked in your job and here you go are you exhausted when you first wake up
are you exhausted when you first wake up
are you exhausted when you first wake up in the morning are you no longer doing
in the morning are you no longer doing
in the morning are you no longer doing those things in your life that you love
those things in your life that you love
those things in your life that you love to do like going to dinner with friends
to do like going to dinner with friends
to do like going to dinner with friends or going to concerts or anything that
or going to concerts or anything that
or going to concerts or anything that you like to do in your downtime do you
you like to do in your downtime do you
you like to do in your downtime do you lose your patience over the littlest
lose your patience over the littlest
lose your patience over the littlest things this was me so that’s why I had
things this was me so that’s why I had
things this was me so that’s why I had to go so in the next job it was a little
to go so in the next job it was a little
to go so in the next job it was a little bit better I worked some long hours but
bit better I worked some long hours but
bit better I worked some long hours but I had my weekends off now I could see my
I had my weekends off now I could see my
I had my weekends off now I could see my family I could see my friends and start
family I could see my friends and start
family I could see my friends and start to build their life and everything was
to build their life and everything was
to build their life and everything was great job was great my co-workers were
great job was great my co-workers were
great job was great my co-workers were awesome manager was awesome I even
awesome manager was awesome I even
awesome manager was awesome I even helped my manager make partner but
helped my manager make partner but
helped my manager make partner but that didn’t translate into any kind of
that didn’t translate into any kind of
that didn’t translate into any kind of promotion for me for all the work I had
promotion for me for all the work I had
promotion for me for all the work I had done I was at another crossroads do I
done I was at another crossroads do I
done I was at another crossroads do I stay or do I leave here’s another
stay or do I leave here’s another
stay or do I leave here’s another interesting fact for every 100 females
interesting fact for every 100 females
interesting fact for every 100 females who advance from an entry-level position
who advance from an entry-level position
who advance from an entry-level position into management 130 men advance so I had
into management 130 men advance so I had
into management 130 men advance so I had to make a decision do I stay with this
to make a decision do I stay with this
to make a decision do I stay with this company and I chose to leave because the
company and I chose to leave because the
company and I chose to leave because the writing was on the wall and when I left
writing was on the wall and when I left
writing was on the wall and when I left my goal was to get my promotion and now
my goal was to get my promotion and now
my goal was to get my promotion and now I wanted me really clear I’m not
I wanted me really clear I’m not
I wanted me really clear I’m not promoting job jumping I’m promoting
promoting job jumping I’m promoting
promoting job jumping I’m promoting being loyal to a company I’m promoting
being loyal to a company I’m promoting
being loyal to a company I’m promoting loving what you do because I know that
loving what you do because I know that
loving what you do because I know that there are amazing corporations out there
there are amazing corporations out there
there are amazing corporations out there they give you flexibility they give you
they give you flexibility they give you
they give you flexibility they give you promotion opportunities I haven’t have
promotion opportunities I haven’t have
promotion opportunities I haven’t have one client who started in a new job and
one client who started in a new job and
one client who started in a new job and they cater breakfast and lunches how
they cater breakfast and lunches how
they cater breakfast and lunches how cool is that you give them food they’ll
cool is that you give them food they’ll
cool is that you give them food they’ll stay but companies are now raising the
stay but companies are now raising the
stay but companies are now raising the bar to recruit the brightest and the
bar to recruit the brightest and the
bar to recruit the brightest and the best
best
best because actually from that perspective
because actually from that perspective
because actually from that perspective it’s hard to get good people so I left
it’s hard to get good people so I left
it’s hard to get good people so I left my next job I got the promotion I got
my next job I got the promotion I got
my next job I got the promotion I got the office I got a large team life was
the office I got a large team life was
the office I got a large team life was wonderful until I was being asked to do
wonderful until I was being asked to do
wonderful until I was being asked to do some of the most unethical things that I
some of the most unethical things that I
some of the most unethical things that I just could not do so here I am at
just could not do so here I am at
just could not do so here I am at another crossroads it was so stressful
another crossroads it was so stressful
another crossroads it was so stressful that I eventually ended up taking a
that I eventually ended up taking a
that I eventually ended up taking a leave of absence which was the best
leave of absence which was the best
leave of absence which was the best thing I could have done at this time
thing I could have done at this time
thing I could have done at this time because after all this hard work I
because after all this hard work I
because after all this hard work I needed a moment to think and when I look
needed a moment to think and when I look
needed a moment to think and when I look back over my transitions what I realized
back over my transitions what I realized
back over my transitions what I realized is I changed my job to fix the problem I
is I changed my job to fix the problem I
is I changed my job to fix the problem I changed my job to stop a pain point so
changed my job to stop a pain point so
changed my job to stop a pain point so there’s two things that you should do
there’s two things that you should do
there’s two things that you should do for any relationship first no one to get
for any relationship first no one to get
for any relationship first no one to get out now I have mastered that one but you
out now I have mastered that one but you
out now I have mastered that one but you need to know before you get into a
need to know before you get into a
need to know before you get into a relationship what is it that you
relationship what is it that you
relationship what is it that you want the bigger picture don’t just fix a
want the bigger picture don’t just fix a
want the bigger picture don’t just fix a pain point so I realized what I needed
pain point so I realized what I needed
pain point so I realized what I needed was a job that loved me respected me and
was a job that loved me respected me and
was a job that loved me respected me and valued me but first I had to learn how
valued me but first I had to learn how
valued me but first I had to learn how to love respect and value myself so that
to love respect and value myself so that
to love respect and value myself so that was a really good lesson so on my next
was a really good lesson so on my next
was a really good lesson so on my next job we’ll just call this job home I
job we’ll just call this job home I
job we’ll just call this job home I found a job where I could be myself I
found a job where I could be myself I
found a job where I could be myself I could be comfortable and I could create
could be comfortable and I could create
could be comfortable and I could create my work family I regained my life so
my work family I regained my life so
my work family I regained my life so when I look back over the six years of
when I look back over the six years of
when I look back over the six years of job transitions I realized some pretty
job transitions I realized some pretty
job transitions I realized some pretty amazing things in a six year period I
amazing things in a six year period I
amazing things in a six year period I quintupled my income I moved my
quintupled my income I moved my
quintupled my income I moved my daughters to a better school district I
daughters to a better school district I
daughters to a better school district I also supported my daughters all three of
also supported my daughters all three of
also supported my daughters all three of them in getting their college education
them in getting their college education
them in getting their college education I bought my dream house and I love to
I bought my dream house and I love to
I bought my dream house and I love to host family holiday dinners and I have a
host family holiday dinners and I have a
host family holiday dinners and I have a big family and we all love to get
big family and we all love to get
big family and we all love to get together so life was good so I would
together so life was good so I would
together so life was good so I would like to share three things with you they
like to share three things with you they
like to share three things with you they may help you move forward and have a
may help you move forward and have a
may help you move forward and have a successful job change number one face
successful job change number one face
successful job change number one face your fear it’s very difficult changing a
your fear it’s very difficult changing a
your fear it’s very difficult changing a job and when you first start a job you
job and when you first start a job you
job and when you first start a job you go through that probation period I
go through that probation period I
go through that probation period I really think they need to rebrand that
really think they need to rebrand that
really think they need to rebrand that and call it rock star in training also
and call it rock star in training also
and call it rock star in training also fear in my book means false evidence
fear in my book means false evidence
fear in my book means false evidence appearing real so half the things you’re
appearing real so half the things you’re
appearing real so half the things you’re worried about in that job change don’t
worried about in that job change don’t
worried about in that job change don’t even exist number two know your words
even exist number two know your words
even exist number two know your words searching for a job is very scary
searching for a job is very scary
searching for a job is very scary because you have all these people trying
because you have all these people trying
because you have all these people trying to get that position that you want okay
to get that position that you want okay
to get that position that you want okay the job process is all about judgment
the job process is all about judgment
the job process is all about judgment they judge your resume they judge your
they judge your resume they judge your
they judge your resume they judge your answers to those tricky interview
answers to those tricky interview
answers to those tricky interview questions they even judge the way you
questions they even judge the way you
questions they even judge the way you look
look
look so my advice is remember who you are
so my advice is remember who you are
so my advice is remember who you are because it really is all about mindset
because it really is all about mindset
because it really is all about mindset be your authentic self so there’s a
be your authentic self so there’s a
be your authentic self so there’s a quote that I want to share it’s by Steve
quote that I want to share it’s by Steve
quote that I want to share it’s by Steve Jobs and it’s about jobs ironically in
Jobs and it’s about jobs ironically in
Jobs and it’s about jobs ironically in order to do great work
order to do great work
order to do great work you must love what you do if you haven’t
you must love what you do if you haven’t
you must love what you do if you haven’t found it yet keep looking
found it yet keep looking
found it yet keep looking just keep looking don’t settle so my
just keep looking don’t settle so my
just keep looking don’t settle so my wish for you is that you find a place a
wish for you is that you find a place a
wish for you is that you find a place a job that you can call home because I
job that you can call home because I
job that you can call home because I know you can change your job and
know you can change your job and
know you can change your job and transform your life thank you
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