a very good morning to all of you who are here and a big big thank you to all
are here and a big big thank you to all
are here and a big big thank you to all the organizers who have spent so much
the organizers who have spent so much
the organizers who have spent so much time and effort to get us here I am here
time and effort to get us here I am here
time and effort to get us here I am here all the way from Mumbai and yes I’m a
all the way from Mumbai and yes I’m a
all the way from Mumbai and yes I’m a practicing psychiatrist for the last 27
practicing psychiatrist for the last 27
practicing psychiatrist for the last 27 years and I’m here to share a little
years and I’m here to share a little
years and I’m here to share a little journey with you in June of 2017 on a
journey with you in June of 2017 on a
journey with you in June of 2017 on a rainy evening a family went out to
rainy evening a family went out to
rainy evening a family went out to dinner after they had finished dinner
dinner after they had finished dinner
dinner after they had finished dinner the young boy 25 year old decided to
the young boy 25 year old decided to
the young boy 25 year old decided to drop his family back and told his
drop his family back and told his
drop his family back and told his parents that I’m just going to meet my
parents that I’m just going to meet my
parents that I’m just going to meet my friends I’m going for a drive and I’ll
friends I’m going for a drive and I’ll
friends I’m going for a drive and I’ll be back in half an hour and what did he
be back in half an hour and what did he
be back in half an hour and what did he do he takes a taxi goes to the Mumbai
do he takes a taxi goes to the Mumbai
do he takes a taxi goes to the Mumbai ceiling the volley ceiling that I’m sure
ceiling the volley ceiling that I’m sure
ceiling the volley ceiling that I’m sure all of you have been at some stage and
all of you have been at some stage and
all of you have been at some stage and decides to jump off the next day the
decides to jump off the next day the
decides to jump off the next day the family is looking for him whatsapp
family is looking for him whatsapp
family is looking for him whatsapp social media is full of people looking
social media is full of people looking
social media is full of people looking for him finding him friends are being
for him finding him friends are being
for him finding him friends are being contacted and yes
contacted and yes
contacted and yes the cops drag his body out I’m here to
the cops drag his body out I’m here to
the cops drag his body out I’m here to talk to you about suicide something that
talk to you about suicide something that
talk to you about suicide something that is a reality today every three seconds
is a reality today every three seconds
is a reality today every three seconds someone thinks of taking their life
someone thinks of taking their life
someone thinks of taking their life unfortunately every 40 seconds someone
unfortunately every 40 seconds someone
unfortunately every 40 seconds someone succeeds a total of reported 8 lakh
succeeds a total of reported 8 lakh
succeeds a total of reported 8 lakh suicides every year and the unfortunate
suicides every year and the unfortunate
suicides every year and the unfortunate truth is that one-third of them are from
truth is that one-third of them are from
truth is that one-third of them are from India why is it that people do this what
India why is it that people do this what
India why is it that people do this what happens to them have you become weak
happens to them have you become weak
happens to them have you become weak have you become
have you become
have you become sissies is it that we don’t want to face
sissies is it that we don’t want to face
sissies is it that we don’t want to face life any
life any
life any go do we want to take the easy route out
go do we want to take the easy route out
go do we want to take the easy route out just near the ceiling there is there was
just near the ceiling there is there was
just near the ceiling there is there was another boy who checked into the hotel a
another boy who checked into the hotel a
another boy who checked into the hotel a five-star hotel and started live
five-star hotel and started live
five-star hotel and started live messaging on messenger facebook
messaging on messenger facebook
messaging on messenger facebook messenger telling his friends how he was
messenger telling his friends how he was
messenger telling his friends how he was fed up of life and was going to take the
fed up of life and was going to take the
fed up of life and was going to take the final plunge of course his friends
final plunge of course his friends
final plunge of course his friends thought he was joking why would he want
thought he was joking why would he want
thought he was joking why would he want to kill himself he was 24 he had his
to kill himself he was 24 he had his
to kill himself he was 24 he had his full life ahead of him and yet he
full life ahead of him and yet he
full life ahead of him and yet he decided to jump out to break open a
decided to jump out to break open a
decided to jump out to break open a window and jump out of that door every
window and jump out of that door every
window and jump out of that door every 40 seconds and the unfortunate part is
40 seconds and the unfortunate part is
40 seconds and the unfortunate part is that most of these people belong to this
that most of these people belong to this
that most of these people belong to this age group of 15 to 29 when life is so
age group of 15 to 29 when life is so
age group of 15 to 29 when life is so rosy you have all the opportunities in
rosy you have all the opportunities in
rosy you have all the opportunities in front of them and yes so much is done to
front of them and yes so much is done to
front of them and yes so much is done to combat terrorism in our world today but
combat terrorism in our world today but
combat terrorism in our world today but who is going to save you from yourselves
who is going to save you from yourselves
who is going to save you from yourselves why is it that some people can go on
why is it that some people can go on
why is it that some people can go on struggling and you know keep on taking
struggling and you know keep on taking
struggling and you know keep on taking challenges and why is it that there are
challenges and why is it that there are
challenges and why is it that there are those who cannot even live within
those who cannot even live within
those who cannot even live within themselves what makes them different who
themselves what makes them different who
themselves what makes them different who are these people
are these people
are these people yes most of them are youngsters
yes most of them are youngsters
yes most of them are youngsters teenagers India has the highest number
teenagers India has the highest number
teenagers India has the highest number of teenagers killing themselves in the
of teenagers killing themselves in the
of teenagers killing themselves in the world is it only teenagers no igv a
world is it only teenagers no igv a
world is it only teenagers no igv a trick population our elderly population
trick population our elderly population
trick population our elderly population is also very close there are close
is also very close there are close
is also very close there are close number too and then we’ve all heard of
number too and then we’ve all heard of
number too and then we’ve all heard of farmer suicides but let me tell you
farmer suicides but let me tell you
farmer suicides but let me tell you housewives commit suicide six times more
housewives commit suicide six times more
housewives commit suicide six times more than farmers can children ever think of
than farmers can children ever think of
than farmers can children ever think of killing themselves I have seen a
killing themselves I have seen a
killing themselves I have seen a six-year-old who fooled a lot of people
six-year-old who fooled a lot of people
six-year-old who fooled a lot of people telling them that you know she had
telling them that you know she had
telling them that you know she had actually climbed up and taken her
actually climbed up and taken her
actually climbed up and taken her mother’s antiepileptic pills and taken
mother’s antiepileptic pills and taken
mother’s antiepileptic pills and taken an overdose of that and told everybody
an overdose of that and told everybody
an overdose of that and told everybody that oh I thought they were sweets and I
that oh I thought they were sweets and I
that oh I thought they were sweets and I have taken this and I as I sat with her
have taken this and I as I sat with her
have taken this and I as I sat with her in a session of play therapy she told me
in a session of play therapy she told me
in a session of play therapy she told me she shared with me as to how unloved she
she shared with me as to how unloved she
she shared with me as to how unloved she felt because she thought the mother
felt because she thought the mother
felt because she thought the mother loved her elder brother because there
loved her elder brother because there
loved her elder brother because there was a glass of milk which was given to
was a glass of milk which was given to
was a glass of milk which was given to the elder brother and she did not get
the elder brother and she did not get
the elder brother and she did not get any milk every day where are these
any milk every day where are these
any milk every day where are these people they are amongst us you look
people they are amongst us you look
people they are amongst us you look around and they are amongst us
around and they are amongst us
around and they are amongst us one out of every five teenagers is
one out of every five teenagers is
one out of every five teenagers is reported by the whu-oh to be suffering
reported by the whu-oh to be suffering
reported by the whu-oh to be suffering from depression but do they come up to
from depression but do they come up to
from depression but do they come up to us and tell us that they are depressed
us and tell us that they are depressed
us and tell us that they are depressed of course not because the minute they
of course not because the minute they
of course not because the minute they will come up to you and tell you that
will come up to you and tell you that
will come up to you and tell you that you know I’m feeling depressed without
you know I’m feeling depressed without
you know I’m feeling depressed without without even listening to them we will
without even listening to them we will
without even listening to them we will start telling them about why they should
start telling them about why they should
start telling them about why they should not be depressed nobody is allowed to
not be depressed nobody is allowed to
not be depressed nobody is allowed to feel depressed in our country if I see
feel depressed in our country if I see
feel depressed in our country if I see youngsters who bring their friends to
youngsters who bring their friends to
youngsters who bring their friends to meet me and say that you know I wanted
meet me and say that you know I wanted
meet me and say that you know I wanted to come and see you because I thought
to come and see you because I thought
to come and see you because I thought this is an illness but my parents and my
this is an illness but my parents and my
this is an illness but my parents and my teachers won’t agree that is because the
teachers won’t agree that is because the
teachers won’t agree that is because the stigma of visiting a psychiatrist in our
stigma of visiting a psychiatrist in our
stigma of visiting a psychiatrist in our country are you mad are you mad you want
country are you mad are you mad you want
country are you mad are you mad you want to see a psychiatrist no no no no you’re
to see a psychiatrist no no no no you’re
to see a psychiatrist no no no no you’re perfectly fine come on just study hard
perfectly fine come on just study hard
perfectly fine come on just study hard and it will all go away and what happens
and it will all go away and what happens
and it will all go away and what happens to this youngster one day yes the
to this youngster one day yes the
to this youngster one day yes the helplessness the hopelessness the
helplessness the hopelessness the
helplessness the hopelessness the worthlessness of his life looms larger
worthlessness of his life looms larger
worthlessness of his life looms larger it’s like that as if there’s something
it’s like that as if there’s something
it’s like that as if there’s something stuck in your throat it won’t go down
stuck in your throat it won’t go down
stuck in your throat it won’t go down and it won’t come out and then you take
and it won’t come out and then you take
and it won’t come out and then you take the final plunge you decide that life is
the final plunge you decide that life is
the final plunge you decide that life is not worth living any longer and try to
not worth living any longer and try to
not worth living any longer and try to kill yourself
kill yourself
kill yourself what do you see next well if you are
what do you see next well if you are
what do you see next well if you are successful there is no next but if you
successful there is no next but if you
successful there is no next but if you are not successful you will see a family
are not successful you will see a family
are not successful you will see a family doctor telling you how shameful it is to
doctor telling you how shameful it is to
doctor telling you how shameful it is to try and kill yourself about how you’re
try and kill yourself about how you’re
try and kill yourself about how you’re going to spoil the family name your
going to spoil the family name your
going to spoil the family name your parents are looking at you angrily
parents are looking at you angrily
parents are looking at you angrily telling you come on come on if you did
telling you come on come on if you did
telling you come on come on if you did not want to study you should’ve just
not want to study you should’ve just
not want to study you should’ve just told us this do you know how much this
told us this do you know how much this
told us this do you know how much this has cost the family and yes and then
has cost the family and yes and then
has cost the family and yes and then there are people you know we all have
there are people you know we all have
there are people you know we all have free advisers in our country who will
free advisers in our country who will
free advisers in our country who will come and tell you that why don’t you
come and tell you that why don’t you
come and tell you that why don’t you take him for a holiday you know she is
take him for a holiday you know she is
take him for a holiday you know she is just stressed out and you know these
just stressed out and you know these
just stressed out and you know these kids take so much stress and no one
kids take so much stress and no one
kids take so much stress and no one understands that you could be suffering
understands that you could be suffering
understands that you could be suffering just as you suffer from a physical
just as you suffer from a physical
just as you suffer from a physical illness you could just be suffering from
illness you could just be suffering from
illness you could just be suffering from a depression or schizophrenia or anxiety
a depression or schizophrenia or anxiety
a depression or schizophrenia or anxiety disorder or anything else are these the
disorder or anything else are these the
disorder or anything else are these the only causes of suicide
only causes of suicide
only causes of suicide no but literature shows us that two out
no but literature shows us that two out
no but literature shows us that two out of three people who are trying to kill
of three people who are trying to kill
of three people who are trying to kill themselves are depressed and what is
themselves are depressed and what is
themselves are depressed and what is even worse is that a lot of them are
even worse is that a lot of them are
even worse is that a lot of them are intoxicated at that time one study
intoxicated at that time one study
intoxicated at that time one study showed me that 75 percent of people who
showed me that 75 percent of people who
showed me that 75 percent of people who were trying to kill themselves were
were trying to kill themselves were
were trying to kill themselves were under in under the influence of alcohol
under in under the influence of alcohol
under in under the influence of alcohol and this is something that we are facing
and this is something that we are facing
and this is something that we are facing but there are so many myths about
but there are so many myths about
but there are so many myths about suicide which are going around in our
suicide which are going around in our
suicide which are going around in our country the religious don’t try to kill
country the religious don’t try to kill
country the religious don’t try to kill themselves if you’re mentally brave you
themselves if you’re mentally brave you
themselves if you’re mentally brave you won’t kill yourself and the worst one is
won’t kill yourself and the worst one is
won’t kill yourself and the worst one is people who talk about suicide will not
people who talk about suicide will not
people who talk about suicide will not attempt it very far from the truth in
attempt it very far from the truth in
attempt it very far from the truth in fact people who kill themselves have
fact people who kill themselves have
fact people who kill themselves have spoken at least seven out of ten people
spoken at least seven out of ten people
spoken at least seven out of ten people have given clear-cut indications to
have given clear-cut indications to
have given clear-cut indications to others and they are telling them that I
others and they are telling them that I
others and they are telling them that I want to kill myself but why are they
want to kill myself but why are they
want to kill myself but why are they telling them that because they actually
telling them that because they actually
telling them that because they actually want to be saved they do not want to
want to be saved they do not want to
want to be saved they do not want to kill themselves then there are those who
kill themselves then there are those who
kill themselves then there are those who feel that oh if he’s talking about
feel that oh if he’s talking about
feel that oh if he’s talking about killing himself what can I do anyway
killing himself what can I do anyway
killing himself what can I do anyway he’s going to go and do it that’s not
he’s going to go and do it that’s not
he’s going to go and do it that’s not true they want you to listen to them
true they want you to listen to them
true they want you to listen to them they want you to listen to what they are
they want you to listen to what they are
they want you to listen to what they are saying and more than that what they are
saying and more than that what they are
saying and more than that what they are not saying so where are these people
not saying so where are these people
not saying so where are these people some of them are sitting in the house
some of them are sitting in the house
some of them are sitting in the house is locked up cooped up while their
is locked up cooped up while their
is locked up cooped up while their friends are all around and their only
friends are all around and their only
friends are all around and their only contact with the world unfortunately his
contact with the world unfortunately his
contact with the world unfortunately his social media what do they see everyone’s
social media what do they see everyone’s
social media what do they see everyone’s having great lives and they are going
having great lives and they are going
having great lives and they are going through something horrible some of them
through something horrible some of them
through something horrible some of them are confused with their own sexuality
are confused with their own sexuality
are confused with their own sexuality they do not understand what is happening
they do not understand what is happening
they do not understand what is happening to them they may they wonder whether
to them they may they wonder whether
to them they may they wonder whether they are homosexual or whether they are
they are homosexual or whether they are
they are homosexual or whether they are bisexual and they do not even know who
bisexual and they do not even know who
bisexual and they do not even know who they can talk to so they remain cooped
they can talk to so they remain cooped
they can talk to so they remain cooped up there they do not like their bodies
up there they do not like their bodies
up there they do not like their bodies and they’re struggling with body image
and they’re struggling with body image
and they’re struggling with body image issues and they said they’re right there
issues and they said they’re right there
issues and they said they’re right there wondering what is to be done their
wondering what is to be done their
wondering what is to be done their parents try to reach out to them parents
parents try to reach out to them parents
parents try to reach out to them parents love their kids they want to reach out
love their kids they want to reach out
love their kids they want to reach out to them but what happens is that in
to them but what happens is that in
to them but what happens is that in teenagers depression can sometimes be
teenagers depression can sometimes be
teenagers depression can sometimes be expressed as anger or refusal to do
expressed as anger or refusal to do
expressed as anger or refusal to do anything so these are the kids who will
anything so these are the kids who will
anything so these are the kids who will not have their but who will not eat and
not have their but who will not eat and
not have their but who will not eat and they will not want to communicate with
they will not want to communicate with
they will not want to communicate with anyone else and of course their grades
anyone else and of course their grades
anyone else and of course their grades start falling and then there are those
start falling and then there are those
start falling and then there are those who go out there and try to tell people
who go out there and try to tell people
who go out there and try to tell people that they do not want to live and how do
that they do not want to live and how do
that they do not want to live and how do they say it they just say that oh you
they say it they just say that oh you
they say it they just say that oh you know by my next birthday you won’t see
know by my next birthday you won’t see
know by my next birthday you won’t see me here or you know it was great to know
me here or you know it was great to know
me here or you know it was great to know you or suddenly they’ll come and give
you or suddenly they’ll come and give
you or suddenly they’ll come and give you a little gift or if you look at
you a little gift or if you look at
you a little gift or if you look at elderly people they might just want to
elderly people they might just want to
elderly people they might just want to wrap up all their businesses you know of
wrap up all their businesses you know of
wrap up all their businesses you know of course our country has also seen
course our country has also seen
course our country has also seen financial stress and the number of
financial stress and the number of
financial stress and the number of suicides where that has also increased
suicides where that has also increased
suicides where that has also increased so this is actually an epidemic which is
so this is actually an epidemic which is
so this is actually an epidemic which is here and the best part about this is
here and the best part about this is
here and the best part about this is that no I do not require millions of
that no I do not require millions of
that no I do not require millions of rupees to be spent
rupees to be spent
rupees to be spent anyone can make a difference each one of
anyone can make a difference each one of
anyone can make a difference each one of you sitting here can make a difference
you sitting here can make a difference
you sitting here can make a difference by just paying attention to these signs
by just paying attention to these signs
by just paying attention to these signs as doctors you know whenever baby is
as doctors you know whenever baby is
as doctors you know whenever baby is born there’s so much joy there’s so much
born there’s so much joy there’s so much
born there’s so much joy there’s so much rejoicing but 10% of these women go
rejoicing but 10% of these women go
rejoicing but 10% of these women go through depression and hardly
through depression and hardly
through depression and hardly any inquiry about their mental health so
any inquiry about their mental health so
any inquiry about their mental health so what happens to this new mother she
what happens to this new mother she
what happens to this new mother she starts feeling inadequate she doesn’t
starts feeling inadequate she doesn’t
starts feeling inadequate she doesn’t know what to do and we read the
know what to do and we read the
know what to do and we read the newspapers
newspapers
newspapers a young lady jumps out with her child
a young lady jumps out with her child
a young lady jumps out with her child that was just a postpartum depression or
that was just a postpartum depression or
that was just a postpartum depression or psychosis which was not looked at the
psychosis which was not looked at the
psychosis which was not looked at the lady gave us enough signals but we did
lady gave us enough signals but we did
lady gave us enough signals but we did not pick it up because nobody talks
not pick it up because nobody talks
not pick it up because nobody talks about suicide at any young death you go
about suicide at any young death you go
about suicide at any young death you go there and people will discuss how
there and people will discuss how
there and people will discuss how cardiac illnesses have increased and and
cardiac illnesses have increased and and
cardiac illnesses have increased and and then in hushed whispers somebody will
then in hushed whispers somebody will
then in hushed whispers somebody will say do you think he killed himself
say do you think he killed himself
say do you think he killed himself why hushed whispers why do we even use
why hushed whispers why do we even use
why hushed whispers why do we even use the word committing suicide yes suicide
the word committing suicide yes suicide
the word committing suicide yes suicide was a crime now it has been
was a crime now it has been
was a crime now it has been decriminalized and that is something
decriminalized and that is something
decriminalized and that is something that each one of us can help now how can
that each one of us can help now how can
that each one of us can help now how can we help we can help by just listening to
we help we can help by just listening to
we help we can help by just listening to the person if somebody talks about
the person if somebody talks about
the person if somebody talks about killing themselves what do we do we get
killing themselves what do we do we get
killing themselves what do we do we get uncomfortable because we don’t know how
uncomfortable because we don’t know how
uncomfortable because we don’t know how to deal with them and we change the
to deal with them and we change the
to deal with them and we change the topic
topic
topic but just imagine if I had to have a
but just imagine if I had to have a
but just imagine if I had to have a heart attack right here right now what
heart attack right here right now what
heart attack right here right now what would you do you would just leave
would you do you would just leave
would you do you would just leave everything else and rush me to the
everything else and rush me to the
everything else and rush me to the hospital
hospital
hospital but if somebody talks about killing
but if somebody talks about killing
but if somebody talks about killing themselves just because we are
themselves just because we are
themselves just because we are uncomfortable we say oh let’s talk about
uncomfortable we say oh let’s talk about
uncomfortable we say oh let’s talk about something else you know life is so
something else you know life is so
something else you know life is so beautiful and all of this and we change
beautiful and all of this and we change
beautiful and all of this and we change the topic and then we go back and either
the topic and then we go back and either
the topic and then we go back and either gossip with our loved ones but that is
gossip with our loved ones but that is
gossip with our loved ones but that is our own inadequacy but what can be done
our own inadequacy but what can be done
our own inadequacy but what can be done is something so simple just leave
is something so simple just leave
is something so simple just leave whatever you’re doing take the person to
whatever you’re doing take the person to
whatever you’re doing take the person to a corner and address the issue and the
a corner and address the issue and the
a corner and address the issue and the most important thing is to listen to
most important thing is to listen to
most important thing is to listen to them to listen why to listen to what
them to listen why to listen to what
them to listen why to listen to what they are saying why are you feeling like
they are saying why are you feeling like
they are saying why are you feeling like this allow them to talk do not interrupt
this allow them to talk do not interrupt
this allow them to talk do not interrupt give them a shoulder look into their
give them a shoulder look into their
give them a shoulder look into their eyes and listen with your heart and give
eyes and listen with your heart and give
eyes and listen with your heart and give the person the confidence that he or she
the person the confidence that he or she
the person the confidence that he or she can talk to you that you are going to
can talk to you that you are going to
can talk to you that you are going to listen to them and you are going to do
listen to them and you are going to do
listen to them and you are going to do your best even though you’re not a
your best even though you’re not a
your best even though you’re not a mental health professional you are going
mental health professional you are going
mental health professional you are going to do your best to help them get to the
to do your best to help them get to the
to do your best to help them get to the other side this could be over a party do
other side this could be over a party do
other side this could be over a party do not leave the person alone ensure that
not leave the person alone ensure that
not leave the person alone ensure that there is someone with them and make an
there is someone with them and make an
there is someone with them and make an appointment with them and tell them to
appointment with them and tell them to
appointment with them and tell them to come and meet you and understand why
come and meet you and understand why
come and meet you and understand why they are feeling like this since when
they are feeling like this since when
they are feeling like this since when are they feeling like this and yes you
are they feeling like this and yes you
are they feeling like this and yes you may not have the answers I have seen
may not have the answers I have seen
may not have the answers I have seen suicidal individuals who come to me and
suicidal individuals who come to me and
suicidal individuals who come to me and say that you know I don’t want to live
say that you know I don’t want to live
say that you know I don’t want to live and how can you change I have a debt of
and how can you change I have a debt of
and how can you change I have a debt of X amount how can you change that for me
X amount how can you change that for me
X amount how can you change that for me and I tell them I said yes you’re right
and I tell them I said yes you’re right
and I tell them I said yes you’re right I cannot change your debt but maybe we
I cannot change your debt but maybe we
I cannot change your debt but maybe we can sit and look at different options
can sit and look at different options
can sit and look at different options because I definitely believe that death
because I definitely believe that death
because I definitely believe that death is not the answer and when you listen
is not the answer and when you listen
is not the answer and when you listen with your heart when you show them that
with your heart when you show them that
with your heart when you show them that you care that you give them the
you care that you give them the
you care that you give them the confidence that they can talk to you
confidence that they can talk to you
confidence that they can talk to you that they can get over their
that they can get over their
that they can get over their helplessness their hopelessness and
helplessness their hopelessness and
helplessness their hopelessness and their worthlessness and yes what do you
their worthlessness and yes what do you
their worthlessness and yes what do you do next you making a first of all you
do next you making a first of all you
do next you making a first of all you convince them that they need to take
convince them that they need to take
convince them that they need to take help there are a lot of mental health
help there are a lot of mental health
help there are a lot of mental health specialists in our country today who are
specialists in our country today who are
specialists in our country today who are willing to help them you help them fight
willing to help them you help them fight
willing to help them you help them fight the stigma that it is smart to take help
the stigma that it is smart to take help
the stigma that it is smart to take help just as you have malaria and dengue and
just as you have malaria and dengue and
just as you have malaria and dengue and you take help for that the same way you
you take help for that the same way you
you take help for that the same way you take help for mental illnesses and yes
take help for mental illnesses and yes
take help for mental illnesses and yes you are not even sure if it’s an illness
you are not even sure if it’s an illness
you are not even sure if it’s an illness or if it’s affairs of life but when you
or if it’s affairs of life but when you
or if it’s affairs of life but when you go with them and you give them that
go with them and you give them that
go with them and you give them that confidence and sit with them with the
confidence and sit with them with the
confidence and sit with them with the doctor or with the psychiatrist or the
doctor or with the psychiatrist or the
doctor or with the psychiatrist or the psychologist and
psychologist and
psychologist and them and keep a watch on them at least
them and keep a watch on them at least
them and keep a watch on them at least for the next three months this is
for the next three months this is
for the next three months this is something that you should never swear
something that you should never swear
something that you should never swear secrecy to because if someone is
secrecy to because if someone is
secrecy to because if someone is suicidal you know you must involve the
suicidal you know you must involve the
suicidal you know you must involve the family members but that does not mean
family members but that does not mean
family members but that does not mean that tomorrow if your friend comes and
that tomorrow if your friend comes and
that tomorrow if your friend comes and tells you that you know I want to kill
tells you that you know I want to kill
tells you that you know I want to kill myself does not mean you that pick up
myself does not mean you that pick up
myself does not mean you that pick up the phone and start calling everybody
the phone and start calling everybody
the phone and start calling everybody else it just means that first when they
else it just means that first when they
else it just means that first when they are comfortable then you take them to
are comfortable then you take them to
are comfortable then you take them to the next step and tell them that okay
the next step and tell them that okay
the next step and tell them that okay come on we need to involve your family
come on we need to involve your family
come on we need to involve your family in this who do you trust there’s always
in this who do you trust there’s always
in this who do you trust there’s always one person in your family or friends or
one person in your family or friends or
one person in your family or friends or girl that we trust and with the help of
girl that we trust and with the help of
girl that we trust and with the help of that person you must help them in the
that person you must help them in the
that person you must help them in the recovery of their journey what are the
recovery of their journey what are the
recovery of their journey what are the things that we do not do when someone is
things that we do not do when someone is
things that we do not do when someone is suicidal we don’t leave them alone
suicidal we don’t leave them alone
suicidal we don’t leave them alone we don’t gossip about them we don’t let
we don’t gossip about them we don’t let
we don’t gossip about them we don’t let them down and yes take them to a safe
them down and yes take them to a safe
them down and yes take them to a safe environment so you know there’s been a
environment so you know there’s been a
environment so you know there’s been a lot of talk about oh let’s keep firearms
lot of talk about oh let’s keep firearms
lot of talk about oh let’s keep firearms away in fact there was a you know there
away in fact there was a you know there
away in fact there was a you know there was also something that people are
was also something that people are
was also something that people are saying is we should get rid of fans of
saying is we should get rid of fans of
saying is we should get rid of fans of course these things are not possible
course these things are not possible
course these things are not possible keeping firearms away at that moment
keeping firearms away at that moment
keeping firearms away at that moment helps so taking them away to a safe
helps so taking them away to a safe
helps so taking them away to a safe place helps but at the same time what
place helps but at the same time what
place helps but at the same time what really helps them is helping them to
really helps them is helping them to
really helps them is helping them to reconsider a lot of us have felt
reconsider a lot of us have felt
reconsider a lot of us have felt suicidal at some point or the other and
suicidal at some point or the other and
suicidal at some point or the other and what did it take it took just one or two
what did it take it took just one or two
what did it take it took just one or two caring individuals to put a hand on her
caring individuals to put a hand on her
caring individuals to put a hand on her shoulder to comfort us to understand us
shoulder to comfort us to understand us
shoulder to comfort us to understand us not to give us lectures to help us tide
not to give us lectures to help us tide
not to give us lectures to help us tide over the crisis and today it is a
over the crisis and today it is a
over the crisis and today it is a national crisis that we are talking
national crisis that we are talking
national crisis that we are talking about our schools our doctors need to be
about our schools our doctors need to be
about our schools our doctors need to be equipped our schools need counselors as
equipped our schools need counselors as
equipped our schools need counselors as we do physical checkups
we do physical checkups
we do physical checkups we need mental health checkups
we need mental health checkups
we need mental health checkups in every company in every school in
in every company in every school in
in every company in every school in every college we need to identify those
every college we need to identify those
every college we need to identify those who talk about being suicidal and then
who talk about being suicidal and then
who talk about being suicidal and then those who do not talk about it
those who do not talk about it
those who do not talk about it does everyone suffer from a depression
does everyone suffer from a depression
does everyone suffer from a depression no there could be those who are
no there could be those who are
no there could be those who are suffering with personality disorders
suffering with personality disorders
suffering with personality disorders we’ve all heard about the blue whale you
we’ve all heard about the blue whale you
we’ve all heard about the blue whale you know there was so much excitement about
know there was so much excitement about
know there was so much excitement about the blue whale and you know it’s as if
the blue whale and you know it’s as if
the blue whale and you know it’s as if we need to blame someone else but I was
we need to blame someone else but I was
we need to blame someone else but I was very happy with that because at least we
very happy with that because at least we
very happy with that because at least we are addressing the problem today and
are addressing the problem today and
are addressing the problem today and that is of suicide they walk amongst us
that is of suicide they walk amongst us
that is of suicide they walk amongst us depression is so high one out of four
depression is so high one out of four
depression is so high one out of four individuals is suffering from depression
individuals is suffering from depression
individuals is suffering from depression but depression is invisible if you have
but depression is invisible if you have
but depression is invisible if you have a fracture you can see it this is a
a fracture you can see it this is a
a fracture you can see it this is a fracture of the mind we can all see it
fracture of the mind we can all see it
fracture of the mind we can all see it if we open our eyes wide if we open our
if we open our eyes wide if we open our
if we open our eyes wide if we open our hearts wide if our arms are wide enough
hearts wide if our arms are wide enough
hearts wide if our arms are wide enough to gather them and lead them to help and
to gather them and lead them to help and
to gather them and lead them to help and stay with them death is not the answer
stay with them death is not the answer
stay with them death is not the answer suicide is a cry for help let’s help
suicide is a cry for help let’s help
suicide is a cry for help let’s help them let’s get them to the other side
them let’s get them to the other side
them let’s get them to the other side thank you so much
thank you so much
thank you so much [Applause]
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