[Applause] when I was in the eighth grade this is
when I was in the eighth grade this is
when I was in the eighth grade this is what I was like I had an outrageous
what I was like I had an outrageous
what I was like I had an outrageous obsession with Justin Bieber
obsession with Justin Bieber
obsession with Justin Bieber I knew his mother’s middle name his
I knew his mother’s middle name his
I knew his mother’s middle name his hobbies and even the name of his third
hobbies and even the name of his third
hobbies and even the name of his third cat but I have a confession to make I
cat but I have a confession to make I
cat but I have a confession to make I didn’t really like Justin Bieber I spent
didn’t really like Justin Bieber I spent
didn’t really like Justin Bieber I spent hours of research on money just trying
hours of research on money just trying
hours of research on money just trying to fit in with my friend group that was
to fit in with my friend group that was
to fit in with my friend group that was centered around this idol my actions
centered around this idol my actions
centered around this idol my actions result raw result of fear of being
result raw result of fear of being
result raw result of fear of being excluded rather than a passion for this
excluded rather than a passion for this
excluded rather than a passion for this 17 year old rising star the influence we
17 year old rising star the influence we
17 year old rising star the influence we have on each other is powerful and I’m
have on each other is powerful and I’m
have on each other is powerful and I’m here to tell you about the power of your
here to tell you about the power of your
here to tell you about the power of your influence and that it does matter but
influence and that it does matter but
influence and that it does matter but the extent of our impact on each other
the extent of our impact on each other
the extent of our impact on each other goes beyond what we may expect in fact
goes beyond what we may expect in fact
goes beyond what we may expect in fact our influence can go as far as to
our influence can go as far as to
our influence can go as far as to literally physically change another
literally physically change another
literally physically change another person’s weight dr. Nicholas Christakis
person’s weight dr. Nicholas Christakis
person’s weight dr. Nicholas Christakis a professor at Harvard Medical School
a professor at Harvard Medical School
a professor at Harvard Medical School conducted a groundbreaking study he
conducted a groundbreaking study he
conducted a groundbreaking study he observed 5,000 key subjects with half
observed 5,000 key subjects with half
observed 5,000 key subjects with half being overweight or obese then he
being overweight or obese then he
being overweight or obese then he studied how their weight influenced the
studied how their weight influenced the
studied how their weight influenced the weight of those in their social
weight of those in their social
weight of those in their social relations this was measured by recording
relations this was measured by recording
relations this was measured by recording the body mass index of every participant
the body mass index of every participant
the body mass index of every participant before and after the study within 32
before and after the study within 32
before and after the study within 32 years quick Christakis found that those
years quick Christakis found that those
years quick Christakis found that those who were merely acquainted with each
who were merely acquainted with each
who were merely acquainted with each other had a 57% chance of gaining weight
other had a 57% chance of gaining weight
other had a 57% chance of gaining weight if one of them had gained weight but in
if one of them had gained weight but in
if one of them had gained weight but in mutually tight relationships if one of
mutually tight relationships if one of
mutually tight relationships if one of the friends had gained weight the other
the friends had gained weight the other
the friends had gained weight the other friend had up to a 95 percent risk of
friend had up to a 95 percent risk of
friend had up to a 95 percent risk of gaining weight the fact that there’s a
gaining weight the fact that there’s a
gaining weight the fact that there’s a statistic as large as 95% and
statistic as large as 95% and
statistic as large as 95% and guaranteeing the impact of others on us
guaranteeing the impact of others on us
guaranteeing the impact of others on us demonstrates how large of a role we play
demonstrates how large of a role we play
demonstrates how large of a role we play and determinate each other’s actions
and determinate each other’s actions
and determinate each other’s actions most of what we wear our hobbies our
most of what we wear our hobbies our
most of what we wear our hobbies our habits our decisions everything that we
habits our decisions everything that we
habits our decisions everything that we perceive acceptable by our standards our
perceive acceptable by our standards our
perceive acceptable by our standards our result of other people’s impact on us I
result of other people’s impact on us I
result of other people’s impact on us I don’t study at Harvard I’m not an expert
don’t study at Harvard I’m not an expert
don’t study at Harvard I’m not an expert in sociology but I have been morphed by
in sociology but I have been morphed by
in sociology but I have been morphed by others and so have you so I ask you to
others and so have you so I ask you to
others and so have you so I ask you to listen not just because this could
listen not just because this could
listen not just because this could change you but
change you but
change you but change how you change others according
change how you change others according
change how you change others according to Harvard Health publications there are
to Harvard Health publications there are
to Harvard Health publications there are three concepts as to how we influence
three concepts as to how we influence
three concepts as to how we influence each other
each other
each other the first is Association Association is
the first is Association Association is
the first is Association Association is any form of social connection we have to
any form of social connection we have to
any form of social connection we have to another person whether it be physical or
another person whether it be physical or
another person whether it be physical or virtual people you were associated with
virtual people you were associated with
virtual people you were associated with discuss their ideas and perspectives
discuss their ideas and perspectives
discuss their ideas and perspectives around you and once you become aware of
around you and once you become aware of
around you and once you become aware of them you may begin to develop similar
them you may begin to develop similar
them you may begin to develop similar viewpoints for example this could
viewpoints for example this could
viewpoints for example this could influence whether you voted for Clinton
influence whether you voted for Clinton
influence whether you voted for Clinton or Trump perhaps Donald Trump’s win was
or Trump perhaps Donald Trump’s win was
or Trump perhaps Donald Trump’s win was driven by the immense amount of
driven by the immense amount of
driven by the immense amount of attention in the media which led to
attention in the media which led to
attention in the media which led to discussions in workplaces schools and
discussions in workplaces schools and
discussions in workplaces schools and even at home with Trump’s fame trumping
even at home with Trump’s fame trumping
even at home with Trump’s fame trumping the media people began to conform to the
the media people began to conform to the
the media people began to conform to the hot topic which may have allowed him to
hot topic which may have allowed him to
hot topic which may have allowed him to gain more votes excuse me
gain more votes excuse me
gain more votes excuse me I just yawned and in the next 30 seconds
I just yawned and in the next 30 seconds
I just yawned and in the next 30 seconds as a reaction most of you will yawn as
as a reaction most of you will yawn as
as a reaction most of you will yawn as well none of you intentionally thought
well none of you intentionally thought
well none of you intentionally thought to yawn yeah a significant number of you
to yawn yeah a significant number of you
to yawn yeah a significant number of you did this is the second concept the
did this is the second concept the
did this is the second concept the mirroring effect humans have developed
mirroring effect humans have developed
mirroring effect humans have developed the Mearing effect as a survival
the Mearing effect as a survival
the Mearing effect as a survival mechanism to build relationships and
mechanism to build relationships and
mechanism to build relationships and avoid exclusion but today mirroring
avoid exclusion but today mirroring
avoid exclusion but today mirroring houses adapting to each other’s bad
houses adapting to each other’s bad
houses adapting to each other’s bad habits unintentionally such as eating
habits unintentionally such as eating
habits unintentionally such as eating more and exercising less because those
more and exercising less because those
more and exercising less because those around us are my personal experience
around us are my personal experience
around us are my personal experience with this I cared when my oldest sister
with this I cared when my oldest sister
with this I cared when my oldest sister was a senior in high school stress
was a senior in high school stress
was a senior in high school stress levels were building up homework was
levels were building up homework was
levels were building up homework was overwhelming college applications were
overwhelming college applications were
overwhelming college applications were due and her best friend had just left
due and her best friend had just left
due and her best friend had just left for college little by little as demands
for college little by little as demands
for college little by little as demands rose her appetite retreated by the
rose her appetite retreated by the
rose her appetite retreated by the middle of first semester her cheeks were
middle of first semester her cheeks were
middle of first semester her cheeks were pinching inwards and when she wore her
pinching inwards and when she wore her
pinching inwards and when she wore her uniform it appeared as though it was
uniform it appeared as though it was
uniform it appeared as though it was still on the hanger over time I found
still on the hanger over time I found
still on the hanger over time I found myself touching my stomach more eating
myself touching my stomach more eating
myself touching my stomach more eating less and becoming more insecure with my
less and becoming more insecure with my
less and becoming more insecure with my body
body
body when summer had come around I had lost
when summer had come around I had lost
when summer had come around I had lost seven pounds I was 10
seven pounds I was 10
seven pounds I was 10 Mearing has this adapting to each
Mearing has this adapting to each
Mearing has this adapting to each other’s bad habits whether we intend to
other’s bad habits whether we intend to
other’s bad habits whether we intend to or not and we need to be aware of these
or not and we need to be aware of these
or not and we need to be aware of these effects the last concept is peer
effects the last concept is peer
effects the last concept is peer pressure
pressure
pressure peer pressure are the expectations that
peer pressure are the expectations that
peer pressure are the expectations that we feel others have for us and we must
we feel others have for us and we must
we feel others have for us and we must live up to in order to be seen as equal
live up to in order to be seen as equal
live up to in order to be seen as equal we are all aware of a negative side
we are all aware of a negative side
we are all aware of a negative side effects of alcohol yet according to the
effects of alcohol yet according to the
effects of alcohol yet according to the Center for Disease Control and
Center for Disease Control and
Center for Disease Control and Prevention why is it almost guaranteed
Prevention why is it almost guaranteed
Prevention why is it almost guaranteed that eighty one point six percent of us
that eighty one point six percent of us
that eighty one point six percent of us will have consumed a drink before the
will have consumed a drink before the
will have consumed a drink before the age of eighteen
age of eighteen
age of eighteen teenagers are creating pressures by
teenagers are creating pressures by
teenagers are creating pressures by generalizing that those who don’t drink
generalizing that those who don’t drink
generalizing that those who don’t drink are socially awkward not as cool and
are socially awkward not as cool and
are socially awkward not as cool and closed off as described by a few local
closed off as described by a few local
closed off as described by a few local teenagers
teenagers
teenagers Paul Dillon from research on Association
Paul Dillon from research on Association
Paul Dillon from research on Association in Australia training says quote alcohol
in Australia training says quote alcohol
in Australia training says quote alcohol consumption is no longer accepted it’s
consumption is no longer accepted it’s
consumption is no longer accepted it’s expected close quote
expected close quote
expected close quote therefore we are forced to conform to
therefore we are forced to conform to
therefore we are forced to conform to the expectations of society or otherwise
the expectations of society or otherwise
the expectations of society or otherwise face the stereotypes and exclusion that
face the stereotypes and exclusion that
face the stereotypes and exclusion that has been set many of us have heard of
has been set many of us have heard of
has been set many of us have heard of our principal mr. Bradley’s famous juice
our principal mr. Bradley’s famous juice
our principal mr. Bradley’s famous juice metaphor which led to this legendary
metaphor which led to this legendary
metaphor which led to this legendary senior prank shout-out to mr. Bradley
senior prank shout-out to mr. Bradley
senior prank shout-out to mr. Bradley thank you but I want to take on this
thank you but I want to take on this
thank you but I want to take on this metaphor from a different perspective
metaphor from a different perspective
metaphor from a different perspective according to National Geographic geese
according to National Geographic geese
according to National Geographic geese fly in a V formation so they can
fly in a V formation so they can
fly in a V formation so they can increase flight efficiency up to 72
increase flight efficiency up to 72
increase flight efficiency up to 72 percent it is vital that the lead goose
percent it is vital that the lead goose
percent it is vital that the lead goose quacks to keep the others in rhythm so
quacks to keep the others in rhythm so
quacks to keep the others in rhythm so they can reach their desired destination
they can reach their desired destination
they can reach their desired destination now imagine this we are all geese
now imagine this we are all geese
now imagine this we are all geese migrating south for the winter and it’s
migrating south for the winter and it’s
migrating south for the winter and it’s your turn to take the late position when
your turn to take the late position when
your turn to take the late position when you are in the lead position are you
you are in the lead position are you
you are in the lead position are you keeping others in rhythm so we can all
keeping others in rhythm so we can all
keeping others in rhythm so we can all reach our desired destination people are
reach our desired destination people are
reach our desired destination people are using association the mirroring effect
using association the mirroring effect
using association the mirroring effect and peer pressure to negatively
and peer pressure to negatively
and peer pressure to negatively influence us but we need to use these
influence us but we need to use these
influence us but we need to use these concepts to positively influence them
concepts to positively influence them
concepts to positively influence them it’s not just what you’re doing
it’s not just what you’re doing
it’s not just what you’re doing consciously but subconsciously that can
consciously but subconsciously that can
consciously but subconsciously that can change people I’m not telling you to
change people I’m not telling you to
change people I’m not telling you to unfriend those who may negatively impact
unfriend those who may negatively impact
unfriend those who may negatively impact you but that you should keep yourself
you but that you should keep yourself
you but that you should keep yourself surrounded by people who uplift you as
surrounded by people who uplift you as
surrounded by people who uplift you as well as reach out to those who need your
well as reach out to those who need your
well as reach out to those who need your positive influence we have the
positive influence we have the
positive influence we have the responsibility as parents friends
responsibility as parents friends
responsibility as parents friends teachers and fret and administrators to
teachers and fret and administrators to
teachers and fret and administrators to pull each other out of that habit and
pull each other out of that habit and
pull each other out of that habit and not fall into them ourselves you
not fall into them ourselves you
not fall into them ourselves you have the power to change people the
have the power to change people the
have the power to change people the impact we have on each other may seem
impact we have on each other may seem
impact we have on each other may seem subtle but the results are profound via
subtle but the results are profound via
subtle but the results are profound via the goose that Sears the flock back on
the goose that Sears the flock back on
the goose that Sears the flock back on course thank you
course thank you
course thank you [Applause]
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