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Striking a Balance: Career Vs. Family and Tech’s Role in it All | Stefany Soh | TEDxUplandsSchool


I usually don’t like me you may picture

I usually don’t like me you may picture yourself in 20 years time you’re living

yourself in 20 years time you’re living

yourself in 20 years time you’re living in you because you’re working your way

in you because you’re working your way

in you because you’re working your way up Korea Leonard please your bus is

up Korea Leonard please your bus is

up Korea Leonard please your bus is going to promote units me your partner

going to promote units me your partner

going to promote units me your partner have brought in careers and your triumph

have brought in careers and your triumph

have brought in careers and your triumph of the knives like HP diamond you’re

of the knives like HP diamond you’re

of the knives like HP diamond you’re going to all this again next weekend

going to all this again next weekend

going to all this again next weekend people say you’re the best ones but are

people say you’re the best ones but are

people say you’re the best ones but are you your biological clock is ticking

you your biological clock is ticking

you your biological clock is ticking away the doctor say I heard in fact I’m

away the doctor say I heard in fact I’m

away the doctor say I heard in fact I’m on this picture so any continuous time

on this picture so any continuous time

on this picture so any continuous time you have son and the doctor and United

you have son and the doctor and United

you have son and the doctor and United steer perfect except you’re going all

steer perfect except you’re going all

steer perfect except you’re going all this you’re not going anywhere

this you’re not going anywhere

this you’re not going anywhere you missed it a crash lab the 2cv

you missed it a crash lab the 2cv

you missed it a crash lab the 2cv children and you couldn’t either in it

children and you couldn’t either in it

children and you couldn’t either in it had children and the expense of the

had children and the expense of the

had children and the expense of the career starts is seen in the state

career starts is seen in the state

career starts is seen in the state because you could be out there

because you could be out there

because you could be out there shattering the glass ceiling but do not

shattering the glass ceiling but do not

shattering the glass ceiling but do not you hear so I mean she’d like we can’t

you hear so I mean she’d like we can’t

you hear so I mean she’d like we can’t have it all a high-flying career and

have it all a high-flying career and

have it all a high-flying career and profanity but what can I told you that

profanity but what can I told you that

profanity but what can I told you that he could let speak to get it necessary

he could let speak to get it necessary

he could let speak to get it necessary right so you’re singing your

right so you’re singing your

right so you’re singing your sipping champagne diamond’s dripping

sipping champagne diamond’s dripping

sipping champagne diamond’s dripping from the neck a cigars over and in two

from the neck a cigars over and in two

from the neck a cigars over and in two perfect children playing on a perfectly

perfect children playing on a perfectly

perfect children playing on a perfectly manicured lawn the hospital spacer over

manicured lawn the hospital spacer over

manicured lawn the hospital spacer over its shoulders as he gets into the verse

its shoulders as he gets into the verse

its shoulders as he gets into the verse and rolls out of the sprawling estate

and rolls out of the sprawling estate

and rolls out of the sprawling estate you’re both at the top of the food chain

you’re both at the top of the food chain

you’re both at the top of the food chain in their careers by the time the kids

in their careers by the time the kids

in their careers by the time the kids showed up the kids go to prestigious

showed up the kids go to prestigious

showed up the kids go to prestigious private schools to be doing amazingly

private schools to be doing amazingly

private schools to be doing amazingly you life is going exactly to plan

you life is going exactly to plan

you life is going exactly to plan because you had the foresight to three

because you had the foresight to three

because you had the foresight to three servings so today I’m here to share with

servings so today I’m here to share with

servings so today I’m here to share with you my thoughts on the challenge of

you my thoughts on the challenge of

you my thoughts on the challenge of balancing a career and family life form

balancing a career and family life form

balancing a career and family life form an inner psyche

an inner psyche

an inner psyche I also hope to offer a solution with

I also hope to offer a solution with

I also hope to offer a solution with which we can actually have it all and

which we can actually have it all and

which we can actually have it all and Sweden animals are so often accused of

Sweden animals are so often accused of

Sweden animals are so often accused of craving so if you’re a tree directly

craving so if you’re a tree directly

craving so if you’re a tree directly student like me round about this time

student like me round about this time

student like me round about this time figure you might just think about

figure you might just think about

figure you might just think about university education you want to get

university education you want to get

university education you want to get some hotshot university it becomes a

some hotshot university it becomes a

some hotshot university it becomes a part of professional having children is

part of professional having children is

part of professional having children is the last thing on your mind but I don’t

the last thing on your mind but I don’t

the last thing on your mind but I don’t see that our choices today childbearing

see that our choices today childbearing

see that our choices today childbearing tends to cause a lot less anxiety for

tends to cause a lot less anxiety for

tends to cause a lot less anxiety for families every time you change Nia when

families every time you change Nia when

families every time you change Nia when my twenty seventy or cousin visits my

my twenty seventy or cousin visits my

my twenty seventy or cousin visits my grandmother make that the schools are

grandmother make that the schools are

grandmother make that the schools are for not even children yet she’ll say

for not even children yet she’ll say

for not even children yet she’ll say your generation only on holidays for

your generation only on holidays for

your generation only on holidays for yourself you’re missing out now

yourself you’re missing out now

yourself you’re missing out now embarrassed absolutely erupts but

embarrassed absolutely erupts but

embarrassed absolutely erupts but bubbling underneath it all we can stand

bubbling underneath it all we can stand

bubbling underneath it all we can stand disappointment it much seems like broken

disappointment it much seems like broken

disappointment it much seems like broken promise and unspoken Thomas of the

promise and unspoken Thomas of the

promise and unspoken Thomas of the standing now let’s face it she the young

standing now let’s face it she the young

standing now let’s face it she the young generations and pushing for babies is

generations and pushing for babies is

generations and pushing for babies is not news

not news

not news it always happens every time you eat

it always happens every time you eat

it always happens every time you eat something but I think sometimes we

something but I think sometimes we

something but I think sometimes we Millennials are misunderstood yes we do

Millennials are misunderstood yes we do

Millennials are misunderstood yes we do want our money our because of Iranian so

want our money our because of Iranian so

want our money our because of Iranian so he started Syria children but this is

he started Syria children but this is

he started Syria children but this is not because we don’t want to accept the

not because we don’t want to accept the

not because we don’t want to accept the responsibilities to continue on

responsibilities to continue on

responsibilities to continue on generation but because we feel we cannot

generation but because we feel we cannot

generation but because we feel we cannot afford to become parents until with my

afford to become parents until with my

afford to become parents until with my dad to be successful or in the very

dad to be successful or in the very

dad to be successful or in the very least secure yes the many was doing it

least secure yes the many was doing it

least secure yes the many was doing it all but how do you live off and have

all but how do you live off and have

all but how do you live off and have previous generations successful that’s

previous generations successful that’s

previous generations successful that’s the factor pass the baby boomers we’re

the factor pass the baby boomers we’re

the factor pass the baby boomers we’re generation born between 1946 and 1964

generation born between 1946 and 1964

generation born between 1946 and 1964 because even you leave it rigid some

because even you leave it rigid some

because even you leave it rigid some women began entering applause now this

women began entering applause now this

women began entering applause now this method it raised that key kids kids who

method it raised that key kids kids who

method it raised that key kids kids who found me well home to an empty house

found me well home to an empty house

found me well home to an empty house let’s just

let’s just

let’s just 60 or Neos generally good infinitives

60 or Neos generally good infinitives

60 or Neos generally good infinitives now because the baby boomers spent a lot

now because the baby boomers spent a lot

now because the baby boomers spent a lot of the time energy raising the children

of the time energy raising the children

of the time energy raising the children a lot of them then reached the pinnacle

a lot of them then reached the pinnacle

a lot of them then reached the pinnacle of their careers their children the last

of their careers their children the last

of their careers their children the last tickets are commonly known as Generation

tickets are commonly known as Generation

tickets are commonly known as Generation X the generation bought between 1916

X the generation bought between 1916

X the generation bought between 1916 1918 that filled the world falls and

1918 that filled the world falls and

1918 that filled the world falls and eventhough see now society at the time

eventhough see now society at the time

eventhough see now society at the time of expected people expected women to

of expected people expected women to

of expected people expected women to work but at the same time expected that

work but at the same time expected that

work but at the same time expected that has been raised children so due to a

has been raised children so due to a

has been raised children so due to a reproductive choice women did both in

reproductive choice women did both in

reproductive choice women did both in the news those who could have white

the news those who could have white

the news those who could have white house I have to child care on there at

house I have to child care on there at

house I have to child care on there at work

work

work but however some women who unsustainable

but however some women who unsustainable

but however some women who unsustainable with ratio children still cannot reach

with ratio children still cannot reach

with ratio children still cannot reach the top with experience now we have

the top with experience now we have

the top with experience now we have children of Generation X via the many

children of Generation X via the many

children of Generation X via the many sports events eighty and 2000 we want to

sports events eighty and 2000 we want to

sports events eighty and 2000 we want to be successful career people what an

be successful career people what an

be successful career people what an eclectic lifestyle give me someone to

eclectic lifestyle give me someone to

eclectic lifestyle give me someone to Paris in fact a research by six book you

Paris in fact a research by six book you

Paris in fact a research by six book you research in the u.s. found that lentils

research in the u.s. found that lentils

research in the u.s. found that lentils prioritize Parenthood over marriage too

at all but again ask how written off

at all but again ask how written off what the answer seems simple first an

what the answer seems simple first an

what the answer seems simple first an amateur latina but this again as I

amateur latina but this again as I

amateur latina but this again as I suggested for bricks within herself

suggested for bricks within herself

suggested for bricks within herself columns take a look at this graph

columns take a look at this graph

columns take a look at this graph well unique it shows no it isn’t show a

well unique it shows no it isn’t show a

well unique it shows no it isn’t show a student steady motivation all the time

student steady motivation all the time

student steady motivation all the time is it is if your happiness up with

is it is if your happiness up with

is it is if your happiness up with direction of your marriage how much this

direction of your marriage how much this

direction of your marriage how much this is quality of American president kidding

is quality of American president kidding

is quality of American president kidding it’s not this guy shows you a woman’s

it’s not this guy shows you a woman’s

it’s not this guy shows you a woman’s fertility s ages and we know that that

fertility s ages and we know that that

fertility s ages and we know that that was Jefferson rule that but most women

was Jefferson rule that but most women

was Jefferson rule that but most women are created equal even that every girl

are created equal even that every girl

are created equal even that every girl is born with approximately two minute

is born with approximately two minute

is born with approximately two minute eggs and ovaries now as they age as

eggs and ovaries now as they age as

eggs and ovaries now as they age as girls aged is about diminishes and now I

girls aged is about diminishes and now I

girls aged is about diminishes and now I H we probably had round favorite

H we probably had round favorite

H we probably had round favorite thousand just thought you wouldn’t know

how many do you know that by the age of

how many do you know that by the age of 30

30

30 a woman has lost nearly 90% of all

a woman has lost nearly 90% of all

a woman has lost nearly 90% of all things but this will never happen to you

things but this will never happen to you

things but this will never happen to you right now scary reality is it’s only a

right now scary reality is it’s only a

right now scary reality is it’s only a matter of time before you let something

built to do remember

built to do remember chances are it’s your husband’s you know

chances are it’s your husband’s you know

chances are it’s your husband’s you know how these folks cells in IVF at first in

how these folks cells in IVF at first in

how these folks cells in IVF at first in improv experts are tiny such as a big

improv experts are tiny such as a big

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thick neck no tails – tails so greatly

thick neck no tails – tails so greatly affect attorney diversity here it’s not

affect attorney diversity here it’s not

affect attorney diversity here it’s not fishy s what you’re probably wondering

fishy s what you’re probably wondering

fishy s what you’re probably wondering why am i standing here talk to you about

why am i standing here talk to you about

why am i standing here talk to you about this effectiveness for centuries

this effectiveness for centuries

this effectiveness for centuries why is fertility particularly a problem

why is fertility particularly a problem

why is fertility particularly a problem for Millennials well for those reasons

for Millennials well for those reasons

for Millennials well for those reasons we choose to refuse and in a average we

we choose to refuse and in a average we

we choose to refuse and in a average we pursue higher education and what was

pursue higher education and what was

pursue higher education and what was enter the workforce and this means that

enter the workforce and this means that

enter the workforce and this means that by the time you get done having children

by the time you get done having children

by the time you get done having children they’re more of us for infantile now the

they’re more of us for infantile now the

they’re more of us for infantile now the problem is a woman’s natural fertility

problem is a woman’s natural fertility

problem is a woman’s natural fertility falters just

falters just

falters just ironically the reality of it all seems

ironically the reality of it all seems

ironically the reality of it all seems like such a meta but a broken promise by

like such a meta but a broken promise by

like such a meta but a broken promise by mother nature as generation that brought

mother nature as generation that brought

mother nature as generation that brought the information technology wave into the

the information technology wave into the

the information technology wave into the bedroom I think that the answer to our

bedroom I think that the answer to our

bedroom I think that the answer to our problems lies in medical technology

problems lies in medical technology

problems lies in medical technology obviously work policies such as child

obviously work policies such as child

obviously work policies such as child care would be a great help but I will be

care would be a great help but I will be

care would be a great help but I will be going to that as a science enthusiast I

going to that as a science enthusiast I

going to that as a science enthusiast I believe that the solution for us is it

believe that the solution for us is it

believe that the solution for us is it freezing now sorry self explanatory

freezing now sorry self explanatory

freezing now sorry self explanatory Desmond you are CH through a small

Desmond you are CH through a small

Desmond you are CH through a small surgical procedure freeze them today’s

surgical procedure freeze them today’s

surgical procedure freeze them today’s the use and whether it has children is

the use and whether it has children is

the use and whether it has children is thought that with half IVF conceive a

thought that with half IVF conceive a

thought that with half IVF conceive a child this is an example of its facing

child this is an example of its facing

child this is an example of its facing his duties he sees put up some age into

his duties he sees put up some age into

his duties he sees put up some age into a containers visa for these medical

a containers visa for these medical

a containers visa for these medical advancements in medieval women tap

advancements in medieval women tap

advancements in medieval women tap babies all the way into a fifties

babies all the way into a fifties

babies all the way into a fifties expenses or maybe maybe not the

expenses or maybe maybe not the

expenses or maybe maybe not the estimated cost per yeah – it’s 50 US

estimated cost per yeah – it’s 50 US

estimated cost per yeah – it’s 50 US dollars and this is around the price of

dollars and this is around the price of

dollars and this is around the price of a progress so tell us if you start an X

a progress so tell us if you start an X

a progress so tell us if you start an X it’s like first of you’re buying ten

it’s like first of you’re buying ten

it’s like first of you’re buying ten provinces in the urine which to somebody

provinces in the urine which to somebody

provinces in the urine which to somebody Korea is much anyway what is the value

Korea is much anyway what is the value

Korea is much anyway what is the value of having a corner office the view

of having a corner office the view

of having a corner office the view nice research thus far has shown that

nice research thus far has shown that

nice research thus far has shown that babies born through this technology and

babies born through this technology and

babies born through this technology and just as healthy as those button through

just as healthy as those button through

just as healthy as those button through natural conception in fact using a

natural conception in fact using a

natural conception in fact using a freezing you have the opportunity to

freezing you have the opportunity to

freezing you have the opportunity to detect Admiral embryos such as those

detect Admiral embryos such as those

detect Admiral embryos such as those with Down syndrome H reason only became

with Down syndrome H reason only became

with Down syndrome H reason only became feasible over the last two that these

feasible over the last two that these

feasible over the last two that these disabilities Union it only became

disabilities Union it only became

disabilities Union it only became feasible over the last two decades when

feasible over the last two decades when

feasible over the last two decades when scientists discovered this technology

scientists discovered this technology

scientists discovered this technology called this technique of vitrification

called this technique of vitrification

called this technique of vitrification which we see eats fast freezing so

which we see eats fast freezing so

which we see eats fast freezing so previously the problem with so freezing

previously the problem with so freezing

previously the problem with so freezing worse but it’s when it’s froze they form

worse but it’s when it’s froze they form

worse but it’s when it’s froze they form ice crystals this damaged structure in

ice crystals this damaged structure in

ice crystals this damaged structure in the excel now with vitrification it is

the excel now with vitrification it is

the excel now with vitrification it is so fast that it turns solid without

so fast that it turns solid without

so fast that it turns solid without crystallization into an almost to spare

crystallization into an almost to spare

crystallization into an almost to spare in glass t just like this

this technology is not established with

this technology is not established with about a thousand babies already born

about a thousand babies already born

about a thousand babies already born from its basic if not more

these 5% of all a set of frozen thought

these 5% of all a set of frozen thought successfully and this percent it’s 70%

successfully and this percent it’s 70%

successfully and this percent it’s 70% then present I successfully so company’s

then present I successfully so company’s

then present I successfully so company’s tech companies such as Facebook and

tech companies such as Facebook and

tech companies such as Facebook and Apple I’ve really gotten ahead of the

Apple I’ve really gotten ahead of the

Apple I’ve really gotten ahead of the game they offer increasing benefits for

game they offer increasing benefits for

game they offer increasing benefits for employees this is in a bid to attract

employees this is in a bid to attract

employees this is in a bid to attract and retain the presence and bests of

and retain the presence and bests of

and retain the presence and bests of women and they see this sums up I hear

women and they see this sums up I hear

women and they see this sums up I hear poverty today to encourage the people in

poverty today to encourage the people in

poverty today to encourage the people in my generation to explorance considerest

my generation to explorance considerest

my generation to explorance considerest experiencing technology offices win-win

experiencing technology offices win-win

experiencing technology offices win-win solutions previously I already presently

solutions previously I already presently

solutions previously I already presently the data collected about women who have

the data collected about women who have

the data collected about women who have a physic has revealed a certain

a physic has revealed a certain

a physic has revealed a certain demographic they tend to be women who

demographic they tend to be women who

demographic they tend to be women who are highly educated highly successful

are highly educated highly successful

are highly educated highly successful and are in managerial positions but the

and are in managerial positions but the

and are in managerial positions but the one mistake we all make is feeding the

one mistake we all make is feeding the

one mistake we all make is feeding the next to it so if you’re my age you may

next to it so if you’re my age you may

next to it so if you’re my age you may be the Sigma speech thinking that this

be the Sigma speech thinking that this

be the Sigma speech thinking that this is not relevant to you but this is

is not relevant to you but this is

is not relevant to you but this is especially relevant to you because you

especially relevant to you because you

especially relevant to you because you have time so I urge you to plan ahead

so if you’re thinking of freezing your

so if you’re thinking of freezing your minutes the first thing you need to

minutes the first thing you need to

minutes the first thing you need to consider is how much time you have to do

consider is how much time you have to do

consider is how much time you have to do it because as you age it’s your less

it because as you age it’s your less

it because as you age it’s your less mess healthy and their less better the

mess healthy and their less better the

mess healthy and their less better the condition they’re in it’s less ideal

condition they’re in it’s less ideal

condition they’re in it’s less ideal preservation people face it it’s for a

preservation people face it it’s for a

preservation people face it it’s for a variety of reasons some even wanted to

variety of reasons some even wanted to

variety of reasons some even wanted to make two wonderful sewer Korea some

make two wonderful sewer Korea some

make two wonderful sewer Korea some people didn’t illnesses such as cancer

people didn’t illnesses such as cancer

people didn’t illnesses such as cancer where treatment affects fertility and

where treatment affects fertility and

where treatment affects fertility and some people just haven’t found a life

some people just haven’t found a life

some people just haven’t found a life partner to have family with it yet

partner to have family with it yet

partner to have family with it yet tonight I like to end with a story when

tonight I like to end with a story when

tonight I like to end with a story when I was 30 it useful I was a flyer in the

I was 30 it useful I was a flyer in the

I was 30 it useful I was a flyer in the century leading to that’s me there are

century leading to that’s me there are

century leading to that’s me there are the extreme right I think I kept taking

the extreme right I think I kept taking

the extreme right I think I kept taking in that in the end supposed to look like

in that in the end supposed to look like

in that in the end supposed to look like that but as my first series of forgive

that but as my first series of forgive

that but as my first series of forgive me it was a dangerous spot as you can

me it was a dangerous spot as you can

me it was a dangerous spot as you can see but the exhilaration of executing a

see but the exhilaration of executing a

see but the exhilaration of executing a stunt successfully made its sole worth

stunt successfully made its sole worth

stunt successfully made its sole worth in one day

in one day

in one day I spun this a little too fast and

I spun this a little too fast and

I spun this a little too fast and sliding off at seeds and just out of my

sliding off at seeds and just out of my

sliding off at seeds and just out of my teammates press I felt it a flaw I broke

teammates press I felt it a flaw I broke

teammates press I felt it a flaw I broke my arm but if you were to ask me if I

my arm but if you were to ask me if I

my arm but if you were to ask me if I would do it all over again and take

would do it all over again and take

would do it all over again and take these risks I would say in a heartbeat

these risks I would say in a heartbeat

these risks I would say in a heartbeat likewise increasing and IVF come with

likewise increasing and IVF come with

likewise increasing and IVF come with lots of risks and costs and there’s

lots of risks and costs and there’s

lots of risks and costs and there’s never a guarantee of

never a guarantee of

never a guarantee of but if there’s one thing Millennials

but if there’s one thing Millennials

but if there’s one thing Millennials like more in social media its choices

like more in social media its choices

like more in social media its choices and freezing my eggs give us gives us

and freezing my eggs give us gives us

and freezing my eggs give us gives us choice to widen our reproductive choices

choice to widen our reproductive choices

choice to widen our reproductive choices and to have children when we want it

and to have children when we want it

and to have children when we want it when we want them there’s why aren’t you

when we want them there’s why aren’t you

when we want them there’s why aren’t you it’s reason should not just be a

it’s reason should not just be a

it’s reason should not just be a footnote of our lives but a chapter of

footnote of our lives but a chapter of

footnote of our lives but a chapter of its own thank you

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