I’m a fake feminist I come here all needs and Freddie on stage with my high
needs and Freddie on stage with my high
needs and Freddie on stage with my high heels on and my warm smile to preach the
heels on and my warm smile to preach the
heels on and my warm smile to preach the good gospel of gender equity as a tool
good gospel of gender equity as a tool
good gospel of gender equity as a tool of liberation for both men and women but
of liberation for both men and women but
of liberation for both men and women but let’s be honest I might just be cashing
let’s be honest I might just be cashing
let’s be honest I might just be cashing in on a very juicy and burst trend I
in on a very juicy and burst trend I
in on a very juicy and burst trend I might still be falling for emotionally
might still be falling for emotionally
might still be falling for emotionally unavailable men I might as well still
unavailable men I might as well still
unavailable men I might as well still treat my colleagues or coworkers with
treat my colleagues or coworkers with
treat my colleagues or coworkers with the same capitalist competitive gene
the same capitalist competitive gene
the same capitalist competitive gene that is so entrenched in all of us I
might just be a fraud or not being a
might just be a fraud or not being a feminist in 2017 is walking a very thin
feminist in 2017 is walking a very thin
feminist in 2017 is walking a very thin line on one side you have the trolls and
line on one side you have the trolls and
line on one side you have the trolls and cyberbully are sending you hate messages
cyberbully are sending you hate messages
cyberbully are sending you hate messages on social media and on the other side
on social media and on the other side
on social media and on the other side your peers your friends your family who
your peers your friends your family who
your peers your friends your family who is questioning this why are you so
is questioning this why are you so
is questioning this why are you so passionate about this topic there are so
passionate about this topic there are so
passionate about this topic there are so many times that I ask myself how
many times that I ask myself how
many times that I ask myself how legitimate I am really am i speaking
legitimate I am really am i speaking
legitimate I am really am i speaking truth or am i cynically or even
truth or am i cynically or even
truth or am i cynically or even unconsciously tapping into this trend
unconsciously tapping into this trend
unconsciously tapping into this trend and taking advantage of it for my own
and taking advantage of it for my own
and taking advantage of it for my own selfish benefit and visibility it’s a
selfish benefit and visibility it’s a
selfish benefit and visibility it’s a hard question to answer I don’t think
hard question to answer I don’t think
hard question to answer I don’t think anybody here is 100% altruistic or free
anybody here is 100% altruistic or free
anybody here is 100% altruistic or free from ego
from ego
from ego especially by the way we’ve been raised
especially by the way we’ve been raised
especially by the way we’ve been raised so it’s very hard to be a 100% pure race
so it’s very hard to be a 100% pure race
so it’s very hard to be a 100% pure race feminists but we can try and we can keep
feminists but we can try and we can keep
feminists but we can try and we can keep each other in check and when I’m in
each other in check and when I’m in
each other in check and when I’m in doubt I think about the five-year-old me
doubt I think about the five-year-old me
doubt I think about the five-year-old me if you want a last little overly what
if you want a last little overly what
if you want a last little overly what she wanted the most as a gift she would
she wanted the most as a gift she would
she wanted the most as a gift she would have said peace peace and balance I
have said peace peace and balance I
have said peace peace and balance I hated conflict when I would hear my
hated conflict when I would hear my
hated conflict when I would hear my parents fight I would pray for hours to
parents fight I would pray for hours to
parents fight I would pray for hours to make it stop when I was at the dinner
make it stop when I was at the dinner
make it stop when I was at the dinner table I would feel the need to intervene
table I would feel the need to intervene
table I would feel the need to intervene between them to balance their energies
between them to balance their energies
between them to balance their energies to channel the conversation rephrased
to channel the conversation rephrased
to channel the conversation rephrased the conversation the phrases that in
the conversation the phrases that in
the conversation the phrases that in words so that they wouldn’t hurt each
words so that they wouldn’t hurt each
words so that they wouldn’t hurt each other that much I hated the poison of
other that much I hated the poison of
other that much I hated the poison of Spears the bleeding wants so I observed
Spears the bleeding wants so I observed
Spears the bleeding wants so I observed I listened and I could feel their deep
I listened and I could feel their deep
I listened and I could feel their deep pain below their anger I could feel that
pain below their anger I could feel that
pain below their anger I could feel that my mom just wanted a more balanced
my mom just wanted a more balanced
my mom just wanted a more balanced marriage with more love and appreciation
marriage with more love and appreciation
marriage with more love and appreciation and I could feel that my dad would have
and I could feel that my dad would have
and I could feel that my dad would have loved to escape from the pressure of the
loved to escape from the pressure of the
loved to escape from the pressure of the family business and his overwhelming
family business and his overwhelming
family business and his overwhelming father but they couldn’t they were
father but they couldn’t they were
father but they couldn’t they were trapped in their respective boxes my dad
trapped in their respective boxes my dad
trapped in their respective boxes my dad was trapped in a man box he was supposed
was trapped in a man box he was supposed
was trapped in a man box he was supposed to provide for the family he was
to provide for the family he was
to provide for the family he was supposed to be tough even if he was a
supposed to be tough even if he was a
supposed to be tough even if he was a kid at heart he was supposed to cope
kid at heart he was supposed to cope
kid at heart he was supposed to cope with his father’s constant criticism
with his father’s constant criticism
with his father’s constant criticism prove his value without receiving any
prove his value without receiving any
prove his value without receiving any word of appreciation and my mom was
word of appreciation and my mom was
word of appreciation and my mom was trapped in a woman box a very smart
trapped in a woman box a very smart
trapped in a woman box a very smart educated woman in managing the household
educated woman in managing the household
educated woman in managing the household and bored to death in a rural remote
and bored to death in a rural remote
and bored to death in a rural remote village giving away her career
village giving away her career
village giving away her career aspirations and travel plans
aspirations and travel plans
aspirations and travel plans and as I grew up I realized that this
and as I grew up I realized that this
and as I grew up I realized that this personal story was actually a system at
personal story was actually a system at
personal story was actually a system at one from the rural villages of south of
one from the rural villages of south of
one from the rural villages of south of France to the cities of Pakistan the
France to the cities of Pakistan the
France to the cities of Pakistan the symptoms might be different but the
symptoms might be different but the
symptoms might be different but the disease is the same because we all live
disease is the same because we all live
disease is the same because we all live in a matrix so embedded in us that we
in a matrix so embedded in us that we
in a matrix so embedded in us that we are completely oblivious about it
are completely oblivious about it
are completely oblivious about it we even deny its existence we live in a
we even deny its existence we live in a
we even deny its existence we live in a world of fear and domination the world
world of fear and domination the world
world of fear and domination the world based on war and aggression where the
based on war and aggression where the
based on war and aggression where the stats of military spending are actually
stats of military spending are actually
stats of military spending are actually up to eight times the stats of education
up to eight times the stats of education
up to eight times the stats of education spending if we would stop spending on
spending if we would stop spending on
spending if we would stop spending on military for only eight days we could
military for only eight days we could
military for only eight days we could provide and pay for the education of
provide and pay for the education of
provide and pay for the education of each child on the planet for 12 years a
each child on the planet for 12 years a
each child on the planet for 12 years a world of deep individual suffering
world of deep individual suffering
world of deep individual suffering because to prepare people to this world
because to prepare people to this world
because to prepare people to this world we actually Mitchell aid them to carve
we actually Mitchell aid them to carve
we actually Mitchell aid them to carve them into these boxes from a very young
them into these boxes from a very young
them into these boxes from a very young age with devaluate women it’s a girl is
age with devaluate women it’s a girl is
age with devaluate women it’s a girl is still 11 world in many places parents
still 11 world in many places parents
still 11 world in many places parents and teachers interrupt girls twice as
and teachers interrupt girls twice as
and teachers interrupt girls twice as much as boys we train our girl to engage
much as boys we train our girl to engage
much as boys we train our girl to engage into quieter and calmer activities we
into quieter and calmer activities we
into quieter and calmer activities we train them to conform and obey very soon
train them to conform and obey very soon
train them to conform and obey very soon and we train our boys through our ads
and we train our boys through our ads
and we train our boys through our ads through media from your language to
through media from your language to
through media from your language to fight to address any conflict with
fight to address any conflict with
fight to address any conflict with violence to disconnect from their
violence to disconnect from their
violence to disconnect from their emotions unless it’s anger we trap
emotions unless it’s anger we trap
emotions unless it’s anger we trap people into narratives women shouldn’t
people into narratives women shouldn’t
people into narratives women shouldn’t be loud women are too emotional to lead
be loud women are too emotional to lead
be loud women are too emotional to lead women don’t write that well
women don’t write that well
women don’t write that well and Men mint on gray man of strong men
and Men mint on gray man of strong men
and Men mint on gray man of strong men don’t feel pain and these matrix goes
don’t feel pain and these matrix goes
don’t feel pain and these matrix goes very deep or meta stories are biased or
very deep or meta stories are biased or
very deep or meta stories are biased or myths or religion our stories are
myths or religion our stories are
myths or religion our stories are written by men about men or about women
written by men about men or about women
written by men about men or about women with a male gaze so we only see half of
with a male gaze so we only see half of
with a male gaze so we only see half of the story today
the story today
the story today Millennials are asking for renewed
Millennials are asking for renewed
Millennials are asking for renewed gender roles but what do they see when
gender roles but what do they see when
gender roles but what do they see when they look around them they go to night
they look around them they go to night
they look around them they go to night club and listen to blurred lines I know
club and listen to blurred lines I know
club and listen to blurred lines I know you want it right you dance that I won –
you want it right you dance that I won –
you want it right you dance that I won – I did – they see Donald Trump running
I did – they see Donald Trump running
I did – they see Donald Trump running the world they see master street
the world they see master street
the world they see master street harassment in India or in chrome toxic
harassment in India or in chrome toxic
harassment in India or in chrome toxic masculinity shooting people everywhere
masculinity shooting people everywhere
masculinity shooting people everywhere we’re reaching the limit of a system the
we’re reaching the limit of a system the
we’re reaching the limit of a system the domination model is threatening the
domination model is threatening the
domination model is threatening the whole humankind a world where half of
whole humankind a world where half of
whole humankind a world where half of the population is trained to oppress the
the population is trained to oppress the
the population is trained to oppress the other half is not a happy place both
other half is not a happy place both
other half is not a happy place both sexes are slaves to each other so what
sexes are slaves to each other so what
sexes are slaves to each other so what can we do about it well the first step
can we do about it well the first step
can we do about it well the first step is to reclaim the narrative worlds or
is to reclaim the narrative worlds or
is to reclaim the narrative worlds or magical worlds or powerful words are
magical worlds or powerful words are
magical worlds or powerful words are free they’re available to anyone and
free they’re available to anyone and
free they’re available to anyone and those who tell the stories are actually
those who tell the stories are actually
those who tell the stories are actually those who ruled the world so what is
those who ruled the world so what is
those who ruled the world so what is your story the story you choose to tell
your story the story you choose to tell
your story the story you choose to tell not the one that others have invented
not the one that others have invented
not the one that others have invented for you your family your friends your
for you your family your friends your
for you your family your friends your colleagues the media whoever and I’m
colleagues the media whoever and I’m
colleagues the media whoever and I’m especially talking to women here because
especially talking to women here because
especially talking to women here because we are especially targeted by negative
we are especially targeted by negative
we are especially targeted by negative narratives what is your true story
narratives what is your true story
narratives what is your true story honestly truly without an overinflated
honestly truly without an overinflated
honestly truly without an overinflated sense of self-esteem or under estimated
sense of self-esteem or under estimated
sense of self-esteem or under estimated why
why
why who do you want to be and then the
who do you want to be and then the
who do you want to be and then the second step for me is to engage in
second step for me is to engage in
second step for me is to engage in collective action for years I’ve been
collective action for years I’ve been
collective action for years I’ve been researching positive project solutions
researching positive project solutions
researching positive project solutions to balance this world and what is
to balance this world and what is
to balance this world and what is fantastic is that new media is offering
fantastic is that new media is offering
fantastic is that new media is offering us new tools to shift the way gender and
us new tools to shift the way gender and
us new tools to shift the way gender and social activism has been done it’s more
social activism has been done it’s more
social activism has been done it’s more fun it’s more fast it’s faster is
fun it’s more fast it’s faster is
fun it’s more fast it’s faster is accessible to anyone it can be called it
accessible to anyone it can be called it
accessible to anyone it can be called it can be questioned by for its depth for
can be questioned by for its depth for
can be questioned by for its depth for its impact but I find it actually
its impact but I find it actually
its impact but I find it actually fascinating these crossroads between
fascinating these crossroads between
fascinating these crossroads between deep systemic social change and fun fast
deep systemic social change and fun fast
deep systemic social change and fun fast visual tools suddenly conversation which
visual tools suddenly conversation which
visual tools suddenly conversation which has had been confined to very
has had been confined to very
has had been confined to very intellectual spheres go viral and today
intellectual spheres go viral and today
intellectual spheres go viral and today more than ever we need everyone to be a
more than ever we need everyone to be a
more than ever we need everyone to be a change maker so in the city where
change maker so in the city where
change maker so in the city where supposedly Hermione’s has been created I
supposedly Hermione’s has been created I
supposedly Hermione’s has been created I would say that this trend that can be
would say that this trend that can be
would say that this trend that can be called cool feminism has many magic
called cool feminism has many magic
called cool feminism has many magic wands in his toolkit one of them is
wands in his toolkit one of them is
wands in his toolkit one of them is humor humor is very powerful there are
humor humor is very powerful there are
humor humor is very powerful there are different website one of them is
different website one of them is
different website one of them is all-male panels where for example if you
all-male panels where for example if you
all-male panels where for example if you go to a conference where you actually
go to a conference where you actually
go to a conference where you actually see an all-male panel you can take a
see an all-male panel you can take a
see an all-male panel you can take a picture and upload them on that tumblr
picture and upload them on that tumblr
picture and upload them on that tumblr and then you have a nice picture of
and then you have a nice picture of
and then you have a nice picture of David Hasselhoff with a thumbs up
David Hasselhoff with a thumbs up
David Hasselhoff with a thumbs up telling you yeah you made it or you have
telling you yeah you made it or you have
telling you yeah you made it or you have this Twitter or Facebook account called
this Twitter or Facebook account called
this Twitter or Facebook account called man who has it all which actually uses
man who has it all which actually uses
man who has it all which actually uses different images and phrases and
different images and phrases and
different images and phrases and switches the rules and you have for
switches the rules and you have for
switches the rules and you have for example an image of a man playing the
example an image of a man playing the
example an image of a man playing the guitar and just saying oh man too
guitar and just saying oh man too
guitar and just saying oh man too emotional to deal with political issues
emotional to deal with political issues
emotional to deal with political issues we have new channels like ATT and
we have new channels like ATT and
we have new channels like ATT and BuzzFeed ag+ which produce short viral
BuzzFeed ag+ which produce short viral
BuzzFeed ag+ which produce short viral videos of 1-2 minutes tackling a subject
videos of 1-2 minutes tackling a subject
videos of 1-2 minutes tackling a subject that was once buried in world’s economic
that was once buried in world’s economic
that was once buried in world’s economic forum reports like the pay gap and this
forum reports like the pay gap and this
forum reports like the pay gap and this video that you might have seen about the
video that you might have seen about the
video that you might have seen about the woman discovering the pay gap and who
woman discovering the pay gap and who
woman discovering the pay gap and who actually decides to work only 78 percent
actually decides to work only 78 percent
actually decides to work only 78 percent of the day
of the day
of the day so she speaks and then she doesn’t
so she speaks and then she doesn’t
so she speaks and then she doesn’t finish the sentences in the middle of a
finish the sentences in the middle of a
finish the sentences in the middle of a meeting or she just backs off of her
meeting or she just backs off of her
meeting or she just backs off of her conference call ten minutes before the
conference call ten minutes before the
conference call ten minutes before the end she’s like I’m only paid for 78
end she’s like I’m only paid for 78
end she’s like I’m only paid for 78 percent so it’s reductivism Gary luck
percent so it’s reductivism Gary luck
percent so it’s reductivism Gary luck tourism is an interesting way of doing
tourism is an interesting way of doing
tourism is an interesting way of doing things and making change as well in
things and making change as well in
things and making change as well in Paris only 2% of the streets are named
Paris only 2% of the streets are named
Paris only 2% of the streets are named after women 2% so a group decided to
after women 2% so a group decided to
after women 2% so a group decided to take matters in their own hands and they
take matters in their own hands and they
take matters in their own hands and they took different images and pasted them
took different images and pasted them
took different images and pasted them all around Paris like Kay Nina Simone
all around Paris like Kay Nina Simone
all around Paris like Kay Nina Simone and sweet Frida Kahlo and again this is
and sweet Frida Kahlo and again this is
and sweet Frida Kahlo and again this is simple cheap but makes people think
simple cheap but makes people think
simple cheap but makes people think technology is helping us to leverage the
technology is helping us to leverage the
technology is helping us to leverage the power of the crowd it’s changing the way
power of the crowd it’s changing the way
power of the crowd it’s changing the way activism is done
activism is done
activism is done suddenly platforms like change.org allow
suddenly platforms like change.org allow
suddenly platforms like change.org allow parents to question the brand’s who
parents to question the brand’s who
parents to question the brand’s who actually try to sell sexist t-shirts for
actually try to sell sexist t-shirts for
actually try to sell sexist t-shirts for example now I’m a hero I want to marry a
example now I’m a hero I want to marry a
example now I’m a hero I want to marry a hero like the Avengers one all these new
hero like the Avengers one all these new
hero like the Avengers one all these new tools or helping us to balance the world
tools or helping us to balance the world
tools or helping us to balance the world but for me where these cool feminism
but for me where these cool feminism
but for me where these cool feminism trend is going beyond is alleged
trend is going beyond is alleged
trend is going beyond is alleged superficiality and blamed fakeness is
superficiality and blamed fakeness is
superficiality and blamed fakeness is when it actually changed the stories
when it actually changed the stories
when it actually changed the stories when it engages contour storytelling
when it engages contour storytelling
when it engages contour storytelling because how do you create a system of
because how do you create a system of
because how do you create a system of oppression you create stories to back it
oppression you create stories to back it
oppression you create stories to back it up to legitimate it you create content
up to legitimate it you create content
up to legitimate it you create content and with your science are the voices and
and with your science are the voices and
and with your science are the voices and how do you destroy a system of
how do you destroy a system of
how do you destroy a system of oppression by new stories if you want to
oppression by new stories if you want to
oppression by new stories if you want to change the world you have to change the
change the world you have to change the
change the world you have to change the stories so we need more female
stories so we need more female
stories so we need more female storytellers to tell the other side of
storytellers to tell the other side of
storytellers to tell the other side of the story we need women to grab a mic to
the story we need women to grab a mic to
the story we need women to grab a mic to grab a pen to grab a camera to show
grab a pen to grab a camera to show
grab a pen to grab a camera to show their reality to leverage the power of
their reality to leverage the power of
their reality to leverage the power of images to impact people visually
images to impact people visually
images to impact people visually emotionally to use new media like
emotionally to use new media like
emotionally to use new media like YouTube channels news
YouTube channels news
YouTube channels news letters podcasts to have an impact and
letters podcasts to have an impact and
letters podcasts to have an impact and to convert the world in collective of
to convert the world in collective of
to convert the world in collective of changemakers because now more than ever
changemakers because now more than ever
changemakers because now more than ever we have a collective duty of activism
we have a collective duty of activism
we have a collective duty of activism and we have the tools to make it happen
and we have the tools to make it happen
and we have the tools to make it happen we have a collective duty to reframe and
we have a collective duty to reframe and
we have a collective duty to reframe and rethink or unconscious biases the songs
rethink or unconscious biases the songs
rethink or unconscious biases the songs we listen to the words we use the media
we listen to the words we use the media
we listen to the words we use the media we watch the shoes we buy we have to
we watch the shoes we buy we have to
we watch the shoes we buy we have to shift from a domination to a partnership
shift from a domination to a partnership
shift from a domination to a partnership model to question the oppressor within
model to question the oppressor within
model to question the oppressor within us to pass from the blade to the chalice
us to pass from the blade to the chalice
us to pass from the blade to the chalice from Darth Vader to Luke and Leia
from Darth Vader to Luke and Leia
from Darth Vader to Luke and Leia Skywalker and we have to be all each one
Skywalker and we have to be all each one
Skywalker and we have to be all each one of us part of this solution even if they
of us part of this solution even if they
of us part of this solution even if they call us fake Gandhi used to say at the
call us fake Gandhi used to say at the
call us fake Gandhi used to say at the beginning they ignore you after they
beginning they ignore you after they
beginning they ignore you after they laugh at you after they fight you and
laugh at you after they fight you and
laugh at you after they fight you and after you win small situations can lead
after you win small situations can lead
after you win small situations can lead to massive system transformation a new
to massive system transformation a new
to massive system transformation a new world is possible based on trust and
world is possible based on trust and
world is possible based on trust and love because at the end of the day what
love because at the end of the day what
love because at the end of the day what stories do is that they connect with our
stories do is that they connect with our
stories do is that they connect with our shared humanity we are one I am you you
shared humanity we are one I am you you
shared humanity we are one I am you you are me and deep down we all love no
are me and deep down we all love no
are me and deep down we all love no matter what they told us so now is the
matter what they told us so now is the
matter what they told us so now is the time to create this mass this critical
time to create this mass this critical
time to create this mass this critical mass of new stories to build a new
mass of new stories to build a new
mass of new stories to build a new archetype because it’s a vital quest
archetype because it’s a vital quest
archetype because it’s a vital quest it’s the spiritual one so that we can
it’s the spiritual one so that we can
it’s the spiritual one so that we can all finally find peace and balance
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