when I was 15 years old my family took a trip to Florida to visit friends because
trip to Florida to visit friends because
trip to Florida to visit friends because of our friends generosity we were able
of our friends generosity we were able
of our friends generosity we were able to stay in a beautiful home in Orlando
to stay in a beautiful home in Orlando
to stay in a beautiful home in Orlando and visit all of the parks at
and visit all of the parks at
and visit all of the parks at Disneyworld free of charge not only this
Disneyworld free of charge not only this
Disneyworld free of charge not only this but I was able to bring my best friend
but I was able to bring my best friend
but I was able to bring my best friend Scott along for the trip I was so
Scott along for the trip I was so
Scott along for the trip I was so excited I couldn’t think of anything
excited I couldn’t think of anything
excited I couldn’t think of anything better now despite the fact that we
better now despite the fact that we
better now despite the fact that we would be traveling to what is often
would be traveling to what is often
would be traveling to what is often called the happiest place on earth I
called the happiest place on earth I
called the happiest place on earth I decided that I needed more entertainment
decided that I needed more entertainment
decided that I needed more entertainment and so I brought my Nintendo GameCube I
and so I brought my Nintendo GameCube I
and so I brought my Nintendo GameCube I just bought a new game and I wanted to
just bought a new game and I wanted to
just bought a new game and I wanted to play it with Scott Scott and I ended up
play it with Scott Scott and I ended up
play it with Scott Scott and I ended up playing this game more than we did just
playing this game more than we did just
playing this game more than we did just about anything else on this trip short
about anything else on this trip short
about anything else on this trip short of sleeping and this was a problem not
of sleeping and this was a problem not
of sleeping and this was a problem not because it kept us from enjoying other
because it kept us from enjoying other
because it kept us from enjoying other elements of the trip but because I got
elements of the trip but because I got
elements of the trip but because I got competitive something like that
competitive something like that
competitive something like that I had always been competitive growing up
I had always been competitive growing up
I had always been competitive growing up I played sports I love board games I
I played sports I love board games I
I played sports I love board games I would even shout answers at the
would even shout answers at the
would even shout answers at the television when jeopardy was on to try
television when jeopardy was on to try
television when jeopardy was on to try to beat the contestants but something
to beat the contestants but something
to beat the contestants but something about this game Soulcalibur to really
about this game Soulcalibur to really
about this game Soulcalibur to really got me going and that was unfortunate
got me going and that was unfortunate
got me going and that was unfortunate because by the second day of the trip
because by the second day of the trip
because by the second day of the trip Scott was whooping me mercilessly
Scott was whooping me mercilessly
Scott was whooping me mercilessly I just couldn’t win and I couldn’t stand
I just couldn’t win and I couldn’t stand
I just couldn’t win and I couldn’t stand that I couldn’t believe that he had come
that I couldn’t believe that he had come
that I couldn’t believe that he had come with my family on my vacation
with my family on my vacation
with my family on my vacation it was beating me at my video game I
it was beating me at my video game I
it was beating me at my video game I deserved to win I had done so much for
deserved to win I had done so much for
deserved to win I had done so much for him I couldn’t think of a single reason
him I couldn’t think of a single reason
him I couldn’t think of a single reason why I should be losing but I continued
why I should be losing but I continued
why I should be losing but I continued to lose
to lose
to lose by the end of the trip I’d said some
by the end of the trip I’d said some
by the end of the trip I’d said some things that I regretted I had thrown my
things that I regretted I had thrown my
things that I regretted I had thrown my controller at least half a dozen times
controller at least half a dozen times
controller at least half a dozen times across the room and I’d almost punched
across the room and I’d almost punched
across the room and I’d almost punched my best friend in the face this is one
my best friend in the face this is one
my best friend in the face this is one of my most vivid memories in large part
of my most vivid memories in large part
of my most vivid memories in large part because Scott remains my best friend to
because Scott remains my best friend to
because Scott remains my best friend to this day but as I look back I realized
this day but as I look back I realized
this day but as I look back I realized that my life has been filled with
that my life has been filled with
that my life has been filled with experiences just like the one that I
experiences just like the one that I
experiences just like the one that I described where I felt like I deserved
described where I felt like I deserved
described where I felt like I deserved more lamented the fact that it wasn’t
more lamented the fact that it wasn’t
more lamented the fact that it wasn’t being given to me and got angry there’s
being given to me and got angry there’s
being given to me and got angry there’s a word to describe this type of behavior
entitled I’ve wrestled with feelings of
entitled I’ve wrestled with feelings of entitlement for my entire life when
entitlement for my entire life when
entitlement for my entire life when these feelings arise in the moment I
these feelings arise in the moment I
these feelings arise in the moment I rarely recognize them for what they are
rarely recognize them for what they are
rarely recognize them for what they are but after the fact I can see how they’ve
but after the fact I can see how they’ve
but after the fact I can see how they’ve poisoned my minds and potentially impact
poisoned my minds and potentially impact
poisoned my minds and potentially impact relationships with the people that I
relationships with the people that I
relationships with the people that I love with that said I’m willing to bet
love with that said I’m willing to bet
love with that said I’m willing to bet that I’m not the only person in this
that I’m not the only person in this
that I’m not the only person in this room who has experienced something like
room who has experienced something like
room who has experienced something like this because if you have ever felt like
this because if you have ever felt like
this because if you have ever felt like you deserve something more than somebody
you deserve something more than somebody
you deserve something more than somebody else put somebody else down to further
else put somebody else down to further
else put somebody else down to further yourself or done something selfish
yourself or done something selfish
yourself or done something selfish without thinking about the consequences
without thinking about the consequences
without thinking about the consequences it’s because you felt entitled to that
and if you regretted anything that you
and if you regretted anything that you had said or done or thought then you
had said or done or thought then you
had said or done or thought then you fought the same battle that I have
I decided to build an argument against
I decided to build an argument against entitlement to try to change my
entitlement to try to change my
entitlement to try to change my relationship with it so I could
relationship with it so I could
relationship with it so I could understand it better I figured that if
understand it better I figured that if
understand it better I figured that if I’ve been able to rationalize my way
I’ve been able to rationalize my way
I’ve been able to rationalize my way into these feelings for almost my entire
into these feelings for almost my entire
into these feelings for almost my entire life surely I can rationalize my way out
life surely I can rationalize my way out
life surely I can rationalize my way out of them along the way I’ve realized that
of them along the way I’ve realized that
of them along the way I’ve realized that the impacts of entitlement go far beyond
the impacts of entitlement go far beyond
the impacts of entitlement go far beyond any individual who feels it as a
any individual who feels it as a
any individual who feels it as a practice it’s embedded in the fabric of
practice it’s embedded in the fabric of
practice it’s embedded in the fabric of our society and that alone makes it
our society and that alone makes it
our society and that alone makes it worth talking about I’d like to share
worth talking about I’d like to share
worth talking about I’d like to share the three points of my argument with you
the three points of my argument with you
the three points of my argument with you today
number one our entitlement is part of a
number one our entitlement is part of a larger game often a zero-sum game in
larger game often a zero-sum game in
larger game often a zero-sum game in economics a zero-sum game is one where
economics a zero-sum game is one where
economics a zero-sum game is one where the gains of the winners are
the gains of the winners are
the gains of the winners are proportionate to the losses of the
proportionate to the losses of the
proportionate to the losses of the losers a good example of this is poker
losers a good example of this is poker
losers a good example of this is poker in poker there are a finite number of
in poker there are a finite number of
in poker there are a finite number of chips and if you win a hand and you get
chips and if you win a hand and you get
chips and if you win a hand and you get 50 chips those 50 chips are being lost
50 chips those 50 chips are being lost
50 chips those 50 chips are being lost by other people when we feel entitled in
by other people when we feel entitled in
by other people when we feel entitled in order for our wish to come true some
order for our wish to come true some
order for our wish to come true some thing or someone else is going to have
thing or someone else is going to have
thing or someone else is going to have to cede resources and opportunity to us
to cede resources and opportunity to us
to cede resources and opportunity to us and when we’re talking about scarce
and when we’re talking about scarce
and when we’re talking about scarce resources that are in such high demand
resources that are in such high demand
resources that are in such high demand in our world like money and power and
in our world like money and power and
in our world like money and power and Status it’s inevitable that they’re
Status it’s inevitable that they’re
Status it’s inevitable that they’re going to be winners and losers why does
going to be winners and losers why does
going to be winners and losers why does this matter
this matter
this matter think back to the story I just told
think back to the story I just told
think back to the story I just told about the time I spent in Florida with
about the time I spent in Florida with
about the time I spent in Florida with Scott I wanted to beat him so badly at
Scott I wanted to beat him so badly at
Scott I wanted to beat him so badly at that game I wanted to win every single
that game I wanted to win every single
that game I wanted to win every single time and I did not care if he won once
time and I did not care if he won once
time and I did not care if he won once but I never stopped to think about what
but I never stopped to think about what
but I never stopped to think about what my overwhelming victory might mean for
my overwhelming victory might mean for
my overwhelming victory might mean for him anger sadness disappointment
him anger sadness disappointment
him anger sadness disappointment feelings of resentment towards the
feelings of resentment towards the
feelings of resentment towards the situation or even towards me and I
situation or even towards me and I
situation or even towards me and I wouldn’t be able to fault him for any of
wouldn’t be able to fault him for any of
wouldn’t be able to fault him for any of that because nobody likes to lose
that because nobody likes to lose
that because nobody likes to lose especially not 100%
especially not 100%
especially not 100% the time if this example strikes you as
the time if this example strikes you as
the time if this example strikes you as insignificant in the broader scope of
insignificant in the broader scope of
insignificant in the broader scope of our lives I assure you that it’s
our lives I assure you that it’s
our lives I assure you that it’s scalable let’s say for example that you
scalable let’s say for example that you
scalable let’s say for example that you are the secretary for Health and Human
are the secretary for Health and Human
are the secretary for Health and Human Services
Services
Services in the United States of America and
in the United States of America and
in the United States of America and because of the work that you’re doing
because of the work that you’re doing
because of the work that you’re doing because of the respect that you’ve
because of the respect that you’ve
because of the respect that you’ve earned and the responsibilities that you
earned and the responsibilities that you
earned and the responsibilities that you carry you feel entitled to privately
carry you feel entitled to privately
carry you feel entitled to privately chartered flights whenever you travel
chartered flights whenever you travel
chartered flights whenever you travel these flights cost money and you might
these flights cost money and you might
these flights cost money and you might not stop to think about what your
not stop to think about what your
not stop to think about what your expenditures mean for the availability
expenditures mean for the availability
expenditures mean for the availability of resources now and in the future and
of resources now and in the future and
of resources now and in the future and consequently you might not realize how
consequently you might not realize how
consequently you might not realize how that impacts the ability for your
that impacts the ability for your
that impacts the ability for your department to deliver on its promise of
department to deliver on its promise of
department to deliver on its promise of public service what I’m trying to say is
public service what I’m trying to say is
public service what I’m trying to say is this when we feel we deserve something
this when we feel we deserve something
this when we feel we deserve something more than somebody else or we have
more than somebody else or we have
more than somebody else or we have something and we hold tightly to it and
something and we hold tightly to it and
something and we hold tightly to it and not think of the consequences we need to
not think of the consequences we need to
not think of the consequences we need to remember that there are other players in
remember that there are other players in
remember that there are other players in the game which brings me to my second
the game which brings me to my second
the game which brings me to my second point entitlement is an individual
point entitlement is an individual
point entitlement is an individual feeling but it’s become a societal issue
feeling but it’s become a societal issue
feeling but it’s become a societal issue I’ve realized that entitlement manifests
I’ve realized that entitlement manifests
I’ve realized that entitlement manifests itself in two different ways as feeling
itself in two different ways as feeling
itself in two different ways as feeling that we deserve something that we don’t
that we deserve something that we don’t
that we deserve something that we don’t have but also as holding tightly to
have but also as holding tightly to
have but also as holding tightly to something that we already do I’ve been
something that we already do I’ve been
something that we already do I’ve been interested recently to see how the form
interested recently to see how the form
interested recently to see how the form of these ideas has been cited as a
of these ideas has been cited as a
of these ideas has been cited as a reason for concern for the future
reason for concern for the future
reason for concern for the future because it’s a hallmark of the
because it’s a hallmark of the
because it’s a hallmark of the millennial generation but I’m more
millennial generation but I’m more
millennial generation but I’m more concerned about the latter of these two
concerned about the latter of these two
concerned about the latter of these two ideas because that type of entitlement
ideas because that type of entitlement
ideas because that type of entitlement is something that’s been carried by our
is something that’s been carried by our
is something that’s been carried by our country’s most powerful social class
country’s most powerful social class
country’s most powerful social class since the beginning and that class has
since the beginning and that class has
since the beginning and that class has been unable to shake it I can say this
been unable to shake it I can say this
been unable to shake it I can say this confidently because I was born into this
confidently because I was born into this
confidently because I was born into this class I’m white I’m male and I’ve been
class I’m white I’m male and I’ve been
class I’m white I’m male and I’ve been afforded the opportunity to get an
afforded the opportunity to get an
afforded the opportunity to get an education
education
education I come from a small working-class family
I come from a small working-class family
I come from a small working-class family and I understand what it means to
and I understand what it means to
and I understand what it means to struggle in a small handful of ways but
struggle in a small handful of ways but
struggle in a small handful of ways but I’ve never been systematically put at
I’ve never been systematically put at
I’ve never been systematically put at the losing end of somebody else’s
the losing end of somebody else’s
the losing end of somebody else’s entitlement game because of my race or
entitlement game because of my race or
entitlement game because of my race or my gender or some other trait that I was
my gender or some other trait that I was
my gender or some other trait that I was born into
you see when laws are passed in our
you see when laws are passed in our country to promote equality for minority
country to promote equality for minority
country to promote equality for minority groups a barrier is lifted and the path
groups a barrier is lifted and the path
groups a barrier is lifted and the path towards equality may seem more clear but
towards equality may seem more clear but
towards equality may seem more clear but balance doesn’t install itself it’s a
balance doesn’t install itself it’s a
balance doesn’t install itself it’s a responsibility of people who have
responsibility of people who have
responsibility of people who have benefited from advantages in money in
benefited from advantages in money in
benefited from advantages in money in status and power to cede some of what
status and power to cede some of what
status and power to cede some of what they have and put it towards fighting
they have and put it towards fighting
they have and put it towards fighting for equality it’s our responsibility as
for equality it’s our responsibility as
for equality it’s our responsibility as people to be conscious of this because
people to be conscious of this because
people to be conscious of this because when we hold tightly to something that
when we hold tightly to something that
when we hold tightly to something that we already have and we don’t question
we already have and we don’t question
we already have and we don’t question what that means for others we could very
what that means for others we could very
what that means for others we could very well be causing damage to our society in
well be causing damage to our society in
well be causing damage to our society in the long run in fact some damage has
the long run in fact some damage has
the long run in fact some damage has already been done and I’d like to share
already been done and I’d like to share
already been done and I’d like to share two easy examples of this with you first
two easy examples of this with you first
two easy examples of this with you first desegregation in America for schools was
desegregation in America for schools was
desegregation in America for schools was mandated following the verdict of brown
mandated following the verdict of brown
mandated following the verdict of brown versus the Board of Education over 60
versus the Board of Education over 60
versus the Board of Education over 60 years ago
years ago
years ago yet there are school districts in
yet there are school districts in
yet there are school districts in Alabama that are actively fighting to
Alabama that are actively fighting to
Alabama that are actively fighting to lock black students out of their
lock black students out of their
lock black students out of their programs groups of white people in
programs groups of white people in
programs groups of white people in predominantly white areas feel entitled
predominantly white areas feel entitled
predominantly white areas feel entitled to raising their children in an
to raising their children in an
to raising their children in an environment that is exclusive and they
environment that is exclusive and they
environment that is exclusive and they believe that to be to their benefit but
believe that to be to their benefit but
believe that to be to their benefit but these people choose to ignore the impact
these people choose to ignore the impact
these people choose to ignore the impact that this could have on those excluded
that this could have on those excluded
that this could have on those excluded access to fewer resources overall a
access to fewer resources overall a
access to fewer resources overall a weaker educational experience and it’s
weaker educational experience and it’s
weaker educational experience and it’s things like that that contribute to
things like that that contribute to
things like that that contribute to stratification in our society another
stratification in our society another
stratification in our society another example as recently as two
example as recently as two
example as recently as two and sixteen women in America were making
and sixteen women in America were making
and sixteen women in America were making eighty percent of what men earn for
eighty percent of what men earn for
eighty percent of what men earn for doing the same work this comes 50 years
doing the same work this comes 50 years
doing the same work this comes 50 years after the Fair Labor Standards Act was
after the Fair Labor Standards Act was
after the Fair Labor Standards Act was passed in the United States to pave away
passed in the United States to pave away
passed in the United States to pave away for equality between genders in the
for equality between genders in the
for equality between genders in the workplace progress has been made but as
workplace progress has been made but as
workplace progress has been made but as you can see the rate of progress has
you can see the rate of progress has
you can see the rate of progress has actually slowed down over the past 15
actually slowed down over the past 15
actually slowed down over the past 15 years responsibility for this Falls to
years responsibility for this Falls to
years responsibility for this Falls to business leaders who feel entitled to
business leaders who feel entitled to
business leaders who feel entitled to run their businesses as they see fit
run their businesses as they see fit
run their businesses as they see fit which might include actively or
which might include actively or
which might include actively or passively supporting trends that pad
passively supporting trends that pad
passively supporting trends that pad their bottom line or push some other
their bottom line or push some other
their bottom line or push some other agenda but are clearly unfair to some of
agenda but are clearly unfair to some of
agenda but are clearly unfair to some of their workers these circumstances
their workers these circumstances
their workers these circumstances persist because when not violent or
persist because when not violent or
persist because when not violent or loudly oppressive discrimination can be
loudly oppressive discrimination can be
loudly oppressive discrimination can be difficult to spot let alone fight
difficult to spot let alone fight
difficult to spot let alone fight against again when laws are passed in
against again when laws are passed in
against again when laws are passed in this country it removes a barrier it
this country it removes a barrier it
this country it removes a barrier it might clear a path but it doesn’t
might clear a path but it doesn’t
might clear a path but it doesn’t install balance automatically it’s up to
install balance automatically it’s up to
install balance automatically it’s up to people by their individual means to take
people by their individual means to take
people by their individual means to take stock of what they have and to push for
stock of what they have and to push for
stock of what they have and to push for equality before I get to my third point
equality before I get to my third point
equality before I get to my third point I’d like to ask everybody in the room to
I’d like to ask everybody in the room to
I’d like to ask everybody in the room to think about someone that they feel
think about someone that they feel
think about someone that they feel carries a sense of entitlement what is
carries a sense of entitlement what is
carries a sense of entitlement what is it about this person that makes you view
it about this person that makes you view
it about this person that makes you view them in this way I can’t imagine that
them in this way I can’t imagine that
them in this way I can’t imagine that you view this as an endearing quality
you view this as an endearing quality
you view this as an endearing quality this is interesting to me because our
this is interesting to me because our
this is interesting to me because our society wields the idea of entitlement
society wields the idea of entitlement
society wields the idea of entitlement with a negative connotation and paints
with a negative connotation and paints
with a negative connotation and paints it as an extreme which I think
it as an extreme which I think
it as an extreme which I think inherently makes us less willing to see
inherently makes us less willing to see
inherently makes us less willing to see it in ourselves I think it’s important
it in ourselves I think it’s important
it in ourselves I think it’s important that we normalize the idea of
that we normalize the idea of
that we normalize the idea of entitlement because whether we recognize
entitlement because whether we recognize
entitlement because whether we recognize it or not it’s something that we all
it or not it’s something that we all
it or not it’s something that we all feel every day
feel every day
feel every day you may not be actively pining after
you may not be actively pining after
you may not be actively pining after something that you feel you deserve
something that you feel you deserve
something that you feel you deserve perhaps more so than somebody else but
perhaps more so than somebody else but
perhaps more so than somebody else but you certainly feel entitled to your
you certainly feel entitled to your
you certainly feel entitled to your sense of normal your daily routine
sense of normal your daily routine
sense of normal your daily routine morning coffee vacations time spent with
morning coffee vacations time spent with
morning coffee vacations time spent with family and friends these are all things
family and friends these are all things
family and friends these are all things that you’ve come to expect but what if
that you’ve come to expect but what if
that you’ve come to expect but what if they were reduced or taken away from you
they were reduced or taken away from you
they were reduced or taken away from you completely how would you feel it’s easy
completely how would you feel it’s easy
completely how would you feel it’s easy to forget when you benefit from
to forget when you benefit from
to forget when you benefit from something or you have a privilege that
something or you have a privilege that
something or you have a privilege that there are others in the world who don’t
there are others in the world who don’t
there are others in the world who don’t have that at all and some others who
have that at all and some others who
have that at all and some others who have it to a lesser extent and could
have it to a lesser extent and could
have it to a lesser extent and could still use the help
ultimately it’s up to us to build a
ultimately it’s up to us to build a culture of self-evaluation and
culture of self-evaluation and
culture of self-evaluation and self-reflection so that we can do our
self-reflection so that we can do our
self-reflection so that we can do our best to reconcile our expectations and
best to reconcile our expectations and
best to reconcile our expectations and our wants with those of others with that
our wants with those of others with that
our wants with those of others with that said I’d like to leave you with one
said I’d like to leave you with one
said I’d like to leave you with one final idea and that exactly is how we
final idea and that exactly is how we
final idea and that exactly is how we can begin to manage our feelings of
can begin to manage our feelings of
can begin to manage our feelings of entitlement to embrace it at first
entitlement to embrace it at first
entitlement to embrace it at first understanding that it’s a part of us but
understanding that it’s a part of us but
understanding that it’s a part of us but ultimately channel it in a way that’s
ultimately channel it in a way that’s
ultimately channel it in a way that’s more effective because I don’t expect
more effective because I don’t expect
more effective because I don’t expect these feelings to ever disappear a few
these feelings to ever disappear a few
these feelings to ever disappear a few years ago a professor and researcher
years ago a professor and researcher
years ago a professor and researcher from the University of California named
from the University of California named
from the University of California named Paul piff conducted a study on how to
Paul piff conducted a study on how to
Paul piff conducted a study on how to reduce feelings of entitlement in
reduce feelings of entitlement in
reduce feelings of entitlement in individuals for this he gathered
individuals for this he gathered
individuals for this he gathered subjects and split them into two groups
subjects and split them into two groups
subjects and split them into two groups all of the subjects were asked to
all of the subjects were asked to
all of the subjects were asked to complete an evaluation that would allow
complete an evaluation that would allow
complete an evaluation that would allow them to be graded on the psychological
them to be graded on the psychological
them to be graded on the psychological entitlements scale or P es the p es
entitlements scale or P es the p es
entitlements scale or P es the p es consists of nine statements that
consists of nine statements that
consists of nine statements that respondents must express a degree of
respondents must express a degree of
respondents must express a degree of agreement or greater disagreement with
agreement or greater disagreement with
agreement or greater disagreement with the only difference between these two
the only difference between these two
the only difference between these two groups was that before completing the
groups was that before completing the
groups was that before completing the evaluation for the P es one group was
evaluation for the P es one group was
evaluation for the P es one group was prompted to name three benefits of
prompted to name three benefits of
prompted to name three benefits of treating others as
treating others as
treating others as while the other was simply prompted to
while the other was simply prompted to
while the other was simply prompted to his three activities that they complete
his three activities that they complete
his three activities that they complete in the average day what the study found
in the average day what the study found
in the average day what the study found is that the group that was prompted to
is that the group that was prompted to
is that the group that was prompted to think about others was significantly
think about others was significantly
think about others was significantly less entitled compared to the group that
less entitled compared to the group that
less entitled compared to the group that was asked about themselves this is a
was asked about themselves this is a
was asked about themselves this is a powerful idea simply by reminding
powerful idea simply by reminding
powerful idea simply by reminding ourselves of the good that can come from
ourselves of the good that can come from
ourselves of the good that can come from doing well by other people
doing well by other people
doing well by other people we can distance ourselves from feelings
we can distance ourselves from feelings
we can distance ourselves from feelings of entitlement from feeling like we
of entitlement from feeling like we
of entitlement from feeling like we deserve more than somebody else and by
deserve more than somebody else and by
deserve more than somebody else and by definition promote equality and feelings
definition promote equality and feelings
definition promote equality and feelings of unity I feel that if we were able to
of unity I feel that if we were able to
of unity I feel that if we were able to adopt this ingrain it in our everyday
adopt this ingrain it in our everyday
adopt this ingrain it in our everyday lives as individuals and allow it to
lives as individuals and allow it to
lives as individuals and allow it to scale up to a societal level we would be
scale up to a societal level we would be
scale up to a societal level we would be able to potentially redefine how we view
able to potentially redefine how we view
able to potentially redefine how we view concepts like fairness and equality and
concepts like fairness and equality and
concepts like fairness and equality and necessity and what we deserve overall so
necessity and what we deserve overall so
necessity and what we deserve overall so where do we start I think it begins with
where do we start I think it begins with
where do we start I think it begins with ourselves we need to teach ourselves to
ourselves we need to teach ourselves to
ourselves we need to teach ourselves to be humble to stop ourselves in the
be humble to stop ourselves in the
be humble to stop ourselves in the moments where we feel like we’re being
moments where we feel like we’re being
moments where we feel like we’re being slighted we deserve something more than
slighted we deserve something more than
slighted we deserve something more than somebody else and think of those others
somebody else and think of those others
somebody else and think of those others next we need to engage other people on
next we need to engage other people on
next we need to engage other people on this topic especially those who we feel
this topic especially those who we feel
this topic especially those who we feel are likely to disagree progress will
are likely to disagree progress will
are likely to disagree progress will never never come by reciting the same
never never come by reciting the same
never never come by reciting the same idea in an echo chamber and although it
idea in an echo chamber and although it
idea in an echo chamber and although it may be difficult to convince other
may be difficult to convince other
may be difficult to convince other people that they should see things
people that they should see things
people that they should see things differently if you share your story of
differently if you share your story of
differently if you share your story of entitlement and your relationship with
entitlement and your relationship with
entitlement and your relationship with it then perhaps you can convince them to
it then perhaps you can convince them to
it then perhaps you can convince them to feel the same way and lastly but
feel the same way and lastly but
feel the same way and lastly but certainly not the least of these points
certainly not the least of these points
certainly not the least of these points we need to prepare to teach later
we need to prepare to teach later
we need to prepare to teach later generations the ones that are coming
generations the ones that are coming
generations the ones that are coming next
next
next what it means to be humble and to
what it means to be humble and to
what it means to be humble and to provide them the active support and the
provide them the active support and the
provide them the active support and the structure needed for them to assimilate
structure needed for them to assimilate
structure needed for them to assimilate the idea of humility into who they are
the idea of humility into who they are
the idea of humility into who they are so that it becomes second nature this is
so that it becomes second nature this is
so that it becomes second nature this is a tall order I know but I believe that
a tall order I know but I believe that
a tall order I know but I believe that it can be done so long as we hold on to
it can be done so long as we hold on to
it can be done so long as we hold on to one central idea we’re all playing the
one central idea we’re all playing the
one central idea we’re all playing the same game and we’re playing it together
so the next time you feel entitled to
so the next time you feel entitled to something you feel like you deserve
something you feel like you deserve
something you feel like you deserve something more than somebody else think
something more than somebody else think
something more than somebody else think about what that means for the others and
about what that means for the others and
about what that means for the others and if you find it frustrating just don’t
if you find it frustrating just don’t
if you find it frustrating just don’t throw your controller thank you
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