[Music] [Applause]
you are fat and you are disgusting you
you are fat and you are disgusting you are ugly you have too many wrinkles your
are ugly you have too many wrinkles your
are ugly you have too many wrinkles your freckles are hideous
freckles are hideous
freckles are hideous it sounds pretty offensive right but
it sounds pretty offensive right but
it sounds pretty offensive right but these are the messages that have been
these are the messages that have been
these are the messages that have been thrown at us every single day and many
thrown at us every single day and many
thrown at us every single day and many of us are buying into them I did just a
of us are buying into them I did just a
of us are buying into them I did just a few short years ago I stood in front of
few short years ago I stood in front of
few short years ago I stood in front of the mirror and I said to myself you are
the mirror and I said to myself you are
the mirror and I said to myself you are fat you are disgusting and you are ugly
fat you are disgusting and you are ugly
fat you are disgusting and you are ugly I thought that my self-worth on this
I thought that my self-worth on this
I thought that my self-worth on this planet was determined by how I looked so
planet was determined by how I looked so
planet was determined by how I looked so in a body that I hated I took myself to
in a body that I hated I took myself to
in a body that I hated I took myself to the surgeon and I strip down to my
the surgeon and I strip down to my
the surgeon and I strip down to my underwear and I declared help me for my
underwear and I declared help me for my
underwear and I declared help me for my body is broken and he agreed he grabbed
body is broken and he agreed he grabbed
body is broken and he agreed he grabbed my fat down here and said I think we
my fat down here and said I think we
my fat down here and said I think we should remove that he picked up my
should remove that he picked up my
should remove that he picked up my breasts like they were dirty tissue
breasts like they were dirty tissue
breasts like they were dirty tissue and said they should be up here
and said they should be up here
and said they should be up here let’s fix them what he didn’t know was
let’s fix them what he didn’t know was
let’s fix them what he didn’t know was that this stomach had housed three
that this stomach had housed three
that this stomach had housed three children and these breasts had fed four
children and these breasts had fed four
children and these breasts had fed four thousand meals to those three
but I was so elated because the body
but I was so elated because the body that I thought was broken was going to
that I thought was broken was going to
that I thought was broken was going to be fixed and what I realized now but not
be fixed and what I realized now but not
be fixed and what I realized now but not back then it wasn’t my body that needed
back then it wasn’t my body that needed
back then it wasn’t my body that needed to change it was my perspective so many
to change it was my perspective so many
to change it was my perspective so many people so many human beings across the
people so many human beings across the
people so many human beings across the planet are being anchored down by this
planet are being anchored down by this
planet are being anchored down by this negative and Dark Passenger inside their
negative and Dark Passenger inside their
negative and Dark Passenger inside their heads that says you are not good enough
heads that says you are not good enough
heads that says you are not good enough and you would agree with me I’m sure
and you would agree with me I’m sure
and you would agree with me I’m sure it’s hard to navigate life with this
it’s hard to navigate life with this
it’s hard to navigate life with this inner voice now I’m not here today to
inner voice now I’m not here today to
inner voice now I’m not here today to show you or make you feel bad I’m here
show you or make you feel bad I’m here
show you or make you feel bad I’m here to ask you to shift the way that you
to ask you to shift the way that you
to ask you to shift the way that you think the conversation that people are
think the conversation that people are
think the conversation that people are having with their personal trainers with
having with their personal trainers with
having with their personal trainers with their friends with their hairdressers is
their friends with their hairdressers is
their friends with their hairdressers is one of negativity when it comes to their
one of negativity when it comes to their
one of negativity when it comes to their bodies for women this inner voice is bad
bodies for women this inner voice is bad
bodies for women this inner voice is bad enough but we have to walk down the
enough but we have to walk down the
enough but we have to walk down the street where there are billboards that
street where there are billboards that
street where there are billboards that tell us that we should be anything other
tell us that we should be anything other
tell us that we should be anything other than what we are a bus goes past with a
than what we are a bus goes past with a
than what we are a bus goes past with a hot-looking chick on there you open up a
hot-looking chick on there you open up a
hot-looking chick on there you open up a magazine there’s more imagery you turn
magazine there’s more imagery you turn
magazine there’s more imagery you turn on the TV you watch a movie it’s
on the TV you watch a movie it’s
on the TV you watch a movie it’s everywhere
everywhere
everywhere it’s such a bed all for women it is so
it’s such a bed all for women it is so
it’s such a bed all for women it is so hard and it’s devastating what these
hard and it’s devastating what these
hard and it’s devastating what these messages are doing because we are not
messages are doing because we are not
messages are doing because we are not putting ourselves forward and using our
putting ourselves forward and using our
putting ourselves forward and using our brilliant minds because we are being
brilliant minds because we are being
brilliant minds because we are being anchored down and we are buying into
anchored down and we are buying into
anchored down and we are buying into these messages that tell us that we are
these messages that tell us that we are
these messages that tell us that we are not good enough and then if you don’t
not good enough and then if you don’t
not good enough and then if you don’t conform
conform
conform to the ideal shape of a body or what
to the ideal shape of a body or what
to the ideal shape of a body or what they determine as beautiful your only
they determine as beautiful your only
they determine as beautiful your only choice is to spend your life being at
choice is to spend your life being at
choice is to spend your life being at war with your body fight the signs of
war with your body fight the signs of
war with your body fight the signs of agingg defy your wrinkles cover up your
agingg defy your wrinkles cover up your
agingg defy your wrinkles cover up your trouble areas if you think about a young
trouble areas if you think about a young
trouble areas if you think about a young baby in your mind right now think about
baby in your mind right now think about
baby in your mind right now think about a young baby with dimples on its chubby
a young baby with dimples on its chubby
a young baby with dimples on its chubby gorgeous size it’s delicious right but
gorgeous size it’s delicious right but
gorgeous size it’s delicious right but if you were 25 and you have dimples on
if you were 25 and you have dimples on
if you were 25 and you have dimples on your chubby thighs it’s a very big
your chubby thighs it’s a very big
your chubby thighs it’s a very big problem and you’ve only got a couple of
problem and you’ve only got a couple of
problem and you’ve only got a couple of choices go to the surgeon and have
choices go to the surgeon and have
choices go to the surgeon and have liposuction or at the very least get
liposuction or at the very least get
liposuction or at the very least get yourself a gym membership or you could
yourself a gym membership or you could
yourself a gym membership or you could do and make the choice that millions are
do and make the choice that millions are
do and make the choice that millions are and that is to take a step back from
and that is to take a step back from
and that is to take a step back from life and start being small and hidden
life and start being small and hidden
life and start being small and hidden cover up your thighs never wear shorts
cover up your thighs never wear shorts
cover up your thighs never wear shorts if you have arms like mine that wobble
if you have arms like mine that wobble
if you have arms like mine that wobble well after I finished waving never wear
well after I finished waving never wear
well after I finished waving never wear a singlet or a sleeveless dress if you
a singlet or a sleeveless dress if you
a singlet or a sleeveless dress if you hate your body in a bikini then just
hate your body in a bikini then just
hate your body in a bikini then just don’t go to the beach or enjoy that time
don’t go to the beach or enjoy that time
don’t go to the beach or enjoy that time with your kids at the pool don’t do it
with your kids at the pool don’t do it
with your kids at the pool don’t do it if you really really hate your body then
if you really really hate your body then
if you really really hate your body then you can stop being intimate with the one
you can stop being intimate with the one
you can stop being intimate with the one that you love these are the choices that
that you love these are the choices that
that you love these are the choices that people are making every single day and
people are making every single day and
people are making every single day and body shaming and body loathing and
body shaming and body loathing and
body shaming and body loathing and negativity is a universal problem we’re
negativity is a universal problem we’re
negativity is a universal problem we’re all experiencing it I believe that we
all experiencing it I believe that we
all experiencing it I believe that we have truly lost our perspective
have truly lost our perspective
have truly lost our perspective we have been bullied and shamed into
we have been bullied and shamed into
we have been bullied and shamed into thinking that this is a problem I want
thinking that this is a problem I want
thinking that this is a problem I want to share with you a small clip from the
to share with you a small clip from the
to share with you a small clip from the documentary embrace that I’ve just made
you suck me in Don you can’t win no
you suck me in Don you can’t win no matter what I do
matter what I do
matter what I do all around me everywhere I look it’s not
all around me everywhere I look it’s not
all around me everywhere I look it’s not bad snake stand traps are all over the
bad snake stand traps are all over the
bad snake stand traps are all over the face now you’re showing your face
face now you’re showing your face
face now you’re showing your face killing us slowly sometimes quickly
killing us slowly sometimes quickly
killing us slowly sometimes quickly don’t you care
hungry and horny crying I see you and
hungry and horny crying I see you and baby
baby
baby [Applause]
just about enough of it they’ve got us
just about enough of it they’ve got us right where they want us hungry horny
right where they want us hungry horny
right where they want us hungry horny wanting every product that they say by
wanting every product that they say by
wanting every product that they say by me we do but I tell you what this is not
me we do but I tell you what this is not
me we do but I tell you what this is not a tragedy I want to share with you what
a tragedy I want to share with you what
a tragedy I want to share with you what I think is a tragedy this is a tragedy
I think is a tragedy this is a tragedy
I think is a tragedy this is a tragedy girls that went to school for an
girls that went to school for an
girls that went to school for an education and were taken and kidnapped
education and were taken and kidnapped
education and were taken and kidnapped they were stolen many were raped many
they were stolen many were raped many
they were stolen many were raped many were murdered some came home they all
were murdered some came home they all
were murdered some came home they all didn’t come home and I can’t fathom
didn’t come home and I can’t fathom
didn’t come home and I can’t fathom being a mother to three children the
being a mother to three children the
being a mother to three children the thought of taking my three children to
thought of taking my three children to
thought of taking my three children to school in the morning and going to get
school in the morning and going to get
school in the morning and going to get them at the end of the day and they’re
them at the end of the day and they’re
them at the end of the day and they’re not there because they’ve been taken
not there because they’ve been taken
not there because they’ve been taken against their will and I think what
against their will and I think what
against their will and I think what might be even worse is the thought that
might be even worse is the thought that
might be even worse is the thought that they’re just down the road but I still
they’re just down the road but I still
they’re just down the road but I still can’t bring them home this is a tragedy
can’t bring them home this is a tragedy
can’t bring them home this is a tragedy and this is not people who have nowhere
and this is not people who have nowhere
and this is not people who have nowhere to go they have no home they feel so
to go they have no home they feel so
to go they have no home they feel so unloved by the world this is
unloved by the world this is
unloved by the world this is heartbreaking and this is a tragedy and
heartbreaking and this is a tragedy and
heartbreaking and this is a tragedy and this isn’t every three seconds on this
this isn’t every three seconds on this
this isn’t every three seconds on this planet every three seconds
planet every three seconds
planet every three seconds a child is dying because they don’t have
a child is dying because they don’t have
a child is dying because they don’t have food and I know that when my son has
food and I know that when my son has
food and I know that when my son has come home from school and he said to me
come home from school and he said to me
come home from school and he said to me mum you didn’t put enough food in my
mum you didn’t put enough food in my
mum you didn’t put enough food in my lunchbox today I turn into this Italian
lunchbox today I turn into this Italian
lunchbox today I turn into this Italian honor no Italian in me but I sit him
honor no Italian in me but I sit him
honor no Italian in me but I sit him down and I want to feed him and I want
down and I want to feed him and I want
down and I want to feed him and I want to nourish him are you four yet so I
to nourish him are you four yet so I
to nourish him are you four yet so I can’t even begin to imagine the pain of
can’t even begin to imagine the pain of
can’t even begin to imagine the pain of holding your child who is dying in your
holding your child who is dying in your
holding your child who is dying in your arms because you can’t give your child
arms because you can’t give your child
arms because you can’t give your child food this is a tragedy and this isn’t
food this is a tragedy and this isn’t
food this is a tragedy and this isn’t this little box that people stand on to
this little box that people stand on to
this little box that people stand on to determine their their worth in the
determine their their worth in the
determine their their worth in the health am I good am i bad what am I
health am I good am i bad what am I
health am I good am i bad what am I going to be today this little box that
going to be today this little box that
going to be today this little box that will so much power young girls and women
will so much power young girls and women
will so much power young girls and women are then forced into prostitution every
are then forced into prostitution every
are then forced into prostitution every single day and yet so many women and
single day and yet so many women and
single day and yet so many women and people are consumed by things that don’t
people are consumed by things that don’t
people are consumed by things that don’t matter like a few lines on the side of
matter like a few lines on the side of
matter like a few lines on the side of their body no home no home no food no
their body no home no home no food no
their body no home no home no food no choice these things are tragedies and
choice these things are tragedies and
choice these things are tragedies and I’m not saying that body dissatisfaction
I’m not saying that body dissatisfaction
I’m not saying that body dissatisfaction isn’t I have seen in reading with my
isn’t I have seen in reading with my
isn’t I have seen in reading with my very own eyes some heartbreaking stories
very own eyes some heartbreaking stories
very own eyes some heartbreaking stories of people who are suicidal and have
of people who are suicidal and have
of people who are suicidal and have depression and anxiety related to body
depression and anxiety related to body
depression and anxiety related to body to
to
to satisfaction I’m not saying that that
satisfaction I’m not saying that that
satisfaction I’m not saying that that isn’t tragic it is but what isn’t is the
isn’t tragic it is but what isn’t is the
isn’t tragic it is but what isn’t is the way that my thighs rub together when I
way that my thighs rub together when I
way that my thighs rub together when I walk or my stomach that has an overhang
walk or my stomach that has an overhang
walk or my stomach that has an overhang over my knickers or my brace that are
over my knickers or my brace that are
over my knickers or my brace that are deflated because I think that 4000 mil
deflated because I think that 4000 mil
deflated because I think that 4000 mil did I mention
did I mention
did I mention all my backpack or when I go to the
all my backpack or when I go to the
all my backpack or when I go to the shops and I try on some jeans and they
shops and I try on some jeans and they
shops and I try on some jeans and they just don’t fit because my buns too big
just don’t fit because my buns too big
just don’t fit because my buns too big that is not a tragedy
that is not a tragedy
that is not a tragedy I have asked thousands of people across
I have asked thousands of people across
I have asked thousands of people across the world this question when you take
the world this question when you take
the world this question when you take your final breath on this earth what
your final breath on this earth what
your final breath on this earth what thoughts will be going through your mind
thoughts will be going through your mind
thoughts will be going through your mind what will you be thinking about and no
what will you be thinking about and no
what will you be thinking about and no one has ever said to me their big bum or
one has ever said to me their big bum or
one has ever said to me their big bum or their cellulite or their stretch marks
their cellulite or their stretch marks
their cellulite or their stretch marks because those things don’t matter and if
because those things don’t matter and if
because those things don’t matter and if we can come back to the here and now
we can come back to the here and now
we can come back to the here and now while we are living and breathing and
while we are living and breathing and
while we are living and breathing and capable and able and have that
capable and able and have that
capable and able and have that perspective and have that gratitude we
perspective and have that gratitude we
perspective and have that gratitude we all have access to a joyous and rich and
all have access to a joyous and rich and
all have access to a joyous and rich and abundant life today when I remove the
abundant life today when I remove the
abundant life today when I remove the blinkers and looked at this body for the
blinkers and looked at this body for the
blinkers and looked at this body for the amazing body that it is I saw life
amazing body that it is I saw life
amazing body that it is I saw life differently and I came to the
differently and I came to the
differently and I came to the realization that everything up until
realization that everything up until
realization that everything up until that moment had been a lie and I had
that moment had been a lie and I had
that moment had been a lie and I had been carrying on like her
been carrying on like her
been carrying on like her ungrateful asshole
ungrateful asshole
ungrateful asshole true and I believe if I look beyond
true and I believe if I look beyond
true and I believe if I look beyond those lights that I could make you fine
those lights that I could make you fine
those lights that I could make you fine some ungrateful ourselves in this
some ungrateful ourselves in this
some ungrateful ourselves in this audience
nf okay because we’re human beings
nf okay because we’re human beings we’ve just been taken off course and led
we’ve just been taken off course and led
we’ve just been taken off course and led down the path that’s not joyful or fun
down the path that’s not joyful or fun
down the path that’s not joyful or fun and we just need to tap into our
and we just need to tap into our
and we just need to tap into our perspective and come back but I would
perspective and come back but I would
perspective and come back but I would like to sit a challenge for each and
like to sit a challenge for each and
like to sit a challenge for each and every one of you here today and that is
every one of you here today and that is
every one of you here today and that is to consider the strength of your
to consider the strength of your
to consider the strength of your character and your spirit it doesn’t
character and your spirit it doesn’t
character and your spirit it doesn’t need a perfect body
need a perfect body
need a perfect body it needs a kind and resilient heart and
it needs a kind and resilient heart and
it needs a kind and resilient heart and when you tap into perspective and look
when you tap into perspective and look
when you tap into perspective and look at this body for the amazing body that
at this body for the amazing body that
at this body for the amazing body that it is you will have overflowing
it is you will have overflowing
it is you will have overflowing gratitude because your body is not an
gratitude because your body is not an
gratitude because your body is not an ornament it is the vehicle to your
ornament it is the vehicle to your
ornament it is the vehicle to your dreams thank you
dreams thank you
dreams thank you [Applause]
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