Speak well of me ~ 3 “how”s to accept yourself ~ | Chisaki Nishimori | TEDxUTsukuba

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Oh’s Hello NISHIMORI

First of all, I have something I would like to ask you first

How many people think that I am doing my best now

Please give your hands up

Thank you

Then let’s change the question

How many people think that you are recognized for yourself

Thank you

I will recognize yourself in just one yourself that you want to share with you today

Only this

So why did you come to talk about this story?

It is the best foundation for you to be happy to recognize yourself

Yes, I believe it

In what is to admit myself is needed

I am thinking of these three

One with community one more

And the third is a question

I stand as if I’m confident at all now as Rex’s speakers before everyone

It might appear like being

But when the story of the spar I can not have confidence in yourself to the old days

That was such a human being

I will go back to the story when I was junior high school student

At that time one of my precious friends could not attend school

Okay as a friend that I was able to such a friend

Originally only to call out

I felt that myself was pretty inconclusive

And when I become a college student

Studying psychology and studying not only by studying but also working on various things

Any problems can be saved when people are in trouble

I wanted to be such a self

After entering university, I will challenge everything to whatever I ‘m interested

Was

For example, as shown in this picture together with many children

Like teaching and playing studying or planning for it

Volunteer’s circle shoes also belonged

I also went to Tokyo for a 2 hour part-time job

I also wanted the students to use social business as a choice for employment and started a group

That activity was taken up in web media and newspapers in some cases

I am doing whatever I want to do, so I should have been satisfied

But

For example, in a late night train coming back from Tokyo

There was a time when the switch was depressed like a switch in a single room

Words that flow in my mind at such times

It’s that people are working hard more

I have to be able to do more than I need to do more

It was such a word that I feel painful when I think back now

Of course I thought that I was also painful at that time

But I thought that because I am not trying hard because I am not trying hard for that reason

It was

There were also a lot of times when my efforts were fruit but even now such a time is good, but next time more

I had imposed on himself the pressure to make more efforts to be able to do

One such shocking question became me at such a time

That was the first time you asked to everyone

It is a question that I am recognized for myself

The question was put on last summer

It was when I joined the program in Seattle

The program concerns social innovation and leadership

Together with 25 young people from all over Japan

For example, you can visit companies that are doing social business, or interact with discussions or teams

Myself and leadership through the project

Also so treated

It was such a program to learn about va- tion

I learned how to face myself in that

How do we demonstrate leadership in various people ?

I also had a good time to learn about social innovation

And I accept myself step by step and growing

I got such a feeling

But one day we came back to Japan one day suddenly thought of this

Also When you return to Japan are many things every day to go too busy also be good on their own

I wonder if I will not be able to recognize myself

At that time you ask yourself that you recognized yourself by yourself

I was chased from the organizer of the program

When that is the question

I did not come out of the throat at all with the word yes

And for the first time Oh Oh when I witness because that is meet not their own

I noticed that I did not recognize myself

It’s had a lid unconsciously in their own until now

It was the moment I faced such a thing

But soon afterwards I did not recognize myself by myself soon I will give myself tomorrow

I can not have confidence

I thought that way

But the organizer told me

Okay You can admit yourself yourself

And

Rather than evaluate yourself compared to other people carefully feeling that you did your best

Beneath me say Fu that in Praise yourself

I came back from Seattle to Japan

Have you ever become as I do

It seems that women on this screen also see every day

What is written

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I would like to receive praise myself and get praise obediently from other people obediently in Japanese

It is a word

Write this on your own note just before returning from Seattle

And I was looking back at the morning every day every day

It is, as it were to say, close to me

Every day I watched this memo and praised myself

Since it began to become a habit of praising , there was a change in the report

For example, when you say opinions within a group

It might be a fool if I say Bakon’na that it is my until then

I could not speak easily saying there might not be such a person thinking

Beneath the

My opinion is an original thing that no one else has

And by saying this opinion in this place, we can provide new suggestions to others

So soon it became easier for you to express your opinion

For example, Nishimori from other people is doing this kind of activity

When subjected voice to Fu that I have to do my best I interesting

If it was before, no it is not such a thing I can not do this either I can not do that person

I denied myself naturally like a child who is working harder but that kind of thing

It will is fading naturally because words to deprecating yourself

What let’s plus now I own to reverse

And I was given myself to other people

It turned into an idea of ​​what there is

Hmm

Here is my story, but next is the number to make your story

To that end I would like to introduce the three ends to finally recognize myself

First one is community

For example, everyone

Such as in my previous Once But if at the time that described his own opinion in something populations

To be told that I am stupid

There may be times when you think that it might be better not to do such a thing

But, for example, on the premise that each community in which you are living is different from each other

Enjoy what you say

What about a community that accepts as a strength?

Surely you guys think that it will make your opinion obediently cheaper

The other person After his is perhaps the place that I thought is inferior to the other person until now

Wrong

I think that it will be recognized as a very wonderful place

And everyone such a community to think that there is surely also around you

You can also make it with your hands

That community was Seattle data fellows for me

And their own enter and you also one day in such a community do not allow yourself

You may realize that

It might be a little painful it is to take in everyone’s maybe

In but on everybody that know their correct self-awareness goes one step from there to earlier

Mr. Ozawa feels it is a very important and important step from experience in Seattle

Then, after the notice I had noticed in particular that it is not authorized to yourself this question is

It becomes important

I can not accept myself because I am confined to others’ standards and what I should be like

It is from

But in so doing much I we have to become this kind of wind Toka must be rough way

Once convinced that there is no I think that it is difficult to easily advance

What is important is I am thinking on other people’s standards now

It is a matter of thinking on self-standards

If you are thinking on other people’s criteria, for example you can do better than yourself compared to yesterday myself

Turn to the things that have come and changed

If you can pull back to your standards from the standards of others then you can grow your own

You should be able to feel it

If you and everyone’s is made to be able to admit their own to obtain this 123 put order

From there is a turn to you to make the first one of the community

We make a community where everyone can be in a safe place of safety and involve the former people there

I think that’s fine .

That way I will increase the number of people who can speak in the community

I came back from this and made this esbillab

Also, there is a group called Hamitalk that every person really wants to do in here

I can argue for what I want to say

A place that can be realized

I tried making it

I’m sure you can do such a place to everyone

And, rather than getting inspiration from other people or asking others to recognize themselves

To admit

This is You’d be the first step to becoming a happy you guys I’m here

I always believe in myself that I can recognize myself

Thank you very much.

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