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So You Say You Want To Be Happy? | Racquel Berry-Benjamin | TEDxSaintThomas


hello so you said you want to be happy

hello so you said you want to be happy what why do you want to be happy

my thought is that you’ve had some form

my thought is that you’ve had some form of joy you’ve experienced bliss delight

of joy you’ve experienced bliss delight

of joy you’ve experienced bliss delight pleasure and it felt good because

pleasure and it felt good because

pleasure and it felt good because happiness feels good but wasn’t truly

happiness feels good but wasn’t truly

happiness feels good but wasn’t truly happiness just moments of happiness I

happiness just moments of happiness I

happiness just moments of happiness I guess your question to me is why present

guess your question to me is why present

guess your question to me is why present unhappiness for me simple my motivation

unhappiness for me simple my motivation

unhappiness for me simple my motivation was that’s all I am I here I want to be

was that’s all I am I here I want to be

was that’s all I am I here I want to be happy you listen to co-workers you

happy you listen to co-workers you

happy you listen to co-workers you listen to family members you listen to

listen to family members you listen to

listen to family members you listen to friend and as always seems to be a

friend and as always seems to be a

friend and as always seems to be a finger pointed for the blame game and I

finger pointed for the blame game and I

finger pointed for the blame game and I was like are you crazy your happiness

was like are you crazy your happiness

was like are you crazy your happiness depends and then and then when you ask

depends and then and then when you ask

depends and then and then when you ask for wasn’t you really want I just want

for wasn’t you really want I just want

for wasn’t you really want I just want to be happy so there I decided to go on

to be happy so there I decided to go on

to be happy so there I decided to go on a self search in happiness journey and

a self search in happiness journey and

a self search in happiness journey and here are my results and this quite

here are my results and this quite

here are my results and this quite simple life is very simple so the first

simple life is very simple so the first

simple life is very simple so the first step I did was discovered who I what who

step I did was discovered who I what who

step I did was discovered who I what who is Raquel I engaged in a variety of self

is Raquel I engaged in a variety of self

is Raquel I engaged in a variety of self assessments I know that migraine I did

assessments I know that migraine I did

assessments I know that migraine I did an intelligence test I found out what it

an intelligence test I found out what it

an intelligence test I found out what it was passionate about I confirmed my

was passionate about I confirmed my

was passionate about I confirmed my learning style and this entire journey

learning style and this entire journey

learning style and this entire journey was about confirmation for me some

was about confirmation for me some

was about confirmation for me some things were very shocking by the way

things were very shocking by the way

things were very shocking by the way when you do this you’re going to find

when you do this you’re going to find

when you do this you’re going to find some shoppers in their son you don’t

some shoppers in their son you don’t

some shoppers in their son you don’t want to accept but you will I pay

want to accept but you will I pay

want to accept but you will I pay attention to me I can’t attention two

attention to me I can’t attention two

attention to me I can’t attention two times when our happy moments when I were

times when our happy moments when I were

times when our happy moments when I were in bliss also moments when I had

in bliss also moments when I had

in bliss also moments when I had make tough decisions and I recorded it

make tough decisions and I recorded it

make tough decisions and I recorded it so I started with a simple basic stuff

so I started with a simple basic stuff

so I started with a simple basic stuff you know things you can’t control your

you know things you can’t control your

you know things you can’t control your eye color your hair texture your

eye color your hair texture your

eye color your hair texture your ethnicity I also look at my experiences

ethnicity I also look at my experiences

ethnicity I also look at my experiences my culture the foods I grew up on the

my culture the foods I grew up on the

my culture the foods I grew up on the music the dances the environment my

music the dances the environment my

music the dances the environment my family background all of the things that

family background all of the things that

family background all of the things that made me who I am on this journey I

made me who I am on this journey I

made me who I am on this journey I learned that I love a right brainer then

learned that I love a right brainer then

learned that I love a right brainer then a left brain that was a shocker for me

a left brain that was a shocker for me

a left brain that was a shocker for me now everything I do but inside i did was

now everything I do but inside i did was

now everything I do but inside i did was up in that current analytical logical

up in that current analytical logical

up in that current analytical logical but nope i did the test once said right

but nope i did the test once said right

but nope i did the test once said right nope with it again i’m more right than

nope with it again i’m more right than

nope with it again i’m more right than left i do a different assessment and the

left i do a different assessment and the

left i do a different assessment and the results were the same so I have to

results were the same so I have to

results were the same so I have to accept this nothing I go like be cream

accept this nothing I go like be cream

accept this nothing I go like be cream as a matter of fact that’s where I let

as a matter of fact that’s where I let

as a matter of fact that’s where I let go that’s why I got sense of really

creative but this was confirmation that

creative but this was confirmation that are more of a right greener than

are more of a right greener than

are more of a right greener than electric it says on facial

electric it says on facial

electric it says on facial visual-spatial I love creativity I’m the

visual-spatial I love creativity I’m the

visual-spatial I love creativity I’m the artsy type and as i continue on my

artsy type and as i continue on my

artsy type and as i continue on my journey I learned that my learning I

journey I learned that my learning I

journey I learned that my learning I confirmed really that my learning style

confirmed really that my learning style

confirmed really that my learning style is to be engaged to be hands-on to be

is to be engaged to be hands-on to be

is to be engaged to be hands-on to be active and you see the same pattern

active and you see the same pattern

active and you see the same pattern again revealed itself in my values

again revealed itself in my values

again revealed itself in my values creativity these are the things that I’m

creativity these are the things that I’m

creativity these are the things that I’m passionate on my core balance I’m

passionate on my core balance I’m

passionate on my core balance I’m sharing this creativity with you because

sharing this creativity with you because

sharing this creativity with you because this is something I did on my own during

this is something I did on my own during

this is something I did on my own during this time I knew I wanted to reflect my

this time I knew I wanted to reflect my

this time I knew I wanted to reflect my personal logo this is in my home office

personal logo this is in my home office

personal logo this is in my home office and I didn’t know where so I painted it

and I didn’t know where so I painted it

and I didn’t know where so I painted it wall my last creation is a gift that I

wall my last creation is a gift that I

wall my last creation is a gift that I did for a recent 12th grade graduate

did for a recent 12th grade graduate

did for a recent 12th grade graduate here in st. Thomas and it’s from a brown

here in st. Thomas and it’s from a brown

here in st. Thomas and it’s from a brown paper bag the card is of a brown paper

paper bag the card is of a brown paper

paper bag the card is of a brown paper bag as well as the envelope and then I

bag as well as the envelope and then I

bag as well as the envelope and then I got to work on Zachary again a sense of

got to work on Zachary again a sense of

got to work on Zachary again a sense of really so my results a most accurate in

really so my results a most accurate in

really so my results a most accurate in terms of being creative I just didn’t

terms of being creative I just didn’t

terms of being creative I just didn’t know that it was more than the other now

know that it was more than the other now

know that it was more than the other now with respect to my genius my

with respect to my genius my

with respect to my genius my intelligence my strength when I learned

intelligence my strength when I learned

intelligence my strength when I learned on this journey this self-seeking

on this journey this self-seeking

on this journey this self-seeking journey is that an interpersonal I love

journey is that an interpersonal I love

journey is that an interpersonal I love to learn I love to grow and it revealed

to learn I love to grow and it revealed

to learn I love to grow and it revealed to me that I love to learn I grow to

to me that I love to learn I grow to

to me that I love to learn I grow to serve the greater good it says I’m a

serve the greater good it says I’m a

serve the greater good it says I’m a people person has interpersonal what

people person has interpersonal what

people person has interpersonal what would your result see it reveal them I’m

would your result see it reveal them I’m

would your result see it reveal them I’m a natural leader and I love service but

a natural leader and I love service but

a natural leader and I love service but with all of this with all of this in

with all of this with all of this in

with all of this with all of this in discovering self I think this was the

discovering self I think this was the

discovering self I think this was the most shocking it said I have traits by

most shocking it said I have traits by

most shocking it said I have traits by President Barack Obama I felt

President Barack Obama I felt

President Barack Obama I felt presidential

presidential

presidential oh the lovely / whimsy can you imagine

oh the lovely / whimsy can you imagine

oh the lovely / whimsy can you imagine ran all night and then who what do you

ran all night and then who what do you

ran all night and then who what do you know and you think you know again the

know and you think you know again the

know and you think you know again the lovely Donald Trump your results are

lovely Donald Trump your results are

lovely Donald Trump your results are going to shock you they are but you know

going to shock you they are but you know

going to shock you they are but you know what you have to look at the thread and

what you have to look at the thread and

what you have to look at the thread and what I learned on this journey is that

what I learned on this journey is that

what I learned on this journey is that we all the three leaders out of there we

we all the three leaders out of there we

we all the three leaders out of there we all make decisions based on our core

all make decisions based on our core

all make decisions based on our core values our strengths and our beliefs and

values our strengths and our beliefs and

values our strengths and our beliefs and their I don’t care what you thought it

their I don’t care what you thought it

their I don’t care what you thought it was that’s what I came up with so step

was that’s what I came up with so step

was that’s what I came up with so step two on this journey I’ve already

two on this journey I’ve already

two on this journey I’ve already discovered self but it doesn’t end there

discovered self but it doesn’t end there

discovered self but it doesn’t end there you gotta grow that’s what I learn cuz

you gotta grow that’s what I learn cuz

you gotta grow that’s what I learn cuz once you know something you got to do

once you know something you got to do

once you know something you got to do something I want you to do it the

something I want you to do it the

something I want you to do it the natural state is to get more and better

natural state is to get more and better

natural state is to get more and better so you have to have a continuous world

so you have to have a continuous world

so you have to have a continuous world process so on this journey my personal

process so on this journey my personal

process so on this journey my personal development that I engaging we’re wrong

development that I engaging we’re wrong

development that I engaging we’re wrong five areas my intellectual wellness my

five areas my intellectual wellness my

five areas my intellectual wellness my spiritual wellness my social emotional

spiritual wellness my social emotional

spiritual wellness my social emotional wellness my physical and my financial my

wellness my physical and my financial my

wellness my physical and my financial my physical and my financial as you can see

physical and my financial as you can see

physical and my financial as you can see they needed a little help so I got the

they needed a little help so I got the

they needed a little help so I got the world I created goals i created a

world I created goals i created a

world I created goals i created a schedule a plan I must admit the finance

schedule a plan I must admit the finance

schedule a plan I must admit the finance did oversee the physical but nonetheless

did oversee the physical but nonetheless

did oversee the physical but nonetheless i enrolled in free webinars engage in my

i enrolled in free webinars engage in my

i enrolled in free webinars engage in my own reading joined volunteered

own reading joined volunteered

own reading joined volunteered everything and put everything to use in

everything and put everything to use in

everything and put everything to use in my growth I told naturally i love new

my growth I told naturally i love new

my growth I told naturally i love new experiences but on this journey I was

experiences but on this journey I was

experiences but on this journey I was intentional try something new for me i

intentional try something new for me i

intentional try something new for me i ate at again

ate at again

ate at again it was so good i ate it twice take the

it was so good i ate it twice take the

it was so good i ate it twice take the risk apply for the job write the book

risk apply for the job write the book

risk apply for the job write the book ask for the vote hey do your tan top

give up self that’s step 3 you gotta get

give up self that’s step 3 you gotta get ourselves now you can do this in general

ourselves now you can do this in general

ourselves now you can do this in general ways or you can do this in meaningful

ways or you can do this in meaningful

ways or you can do this in meaningful purpose movies what do I mean by that

purpose movies what do I mean by that

purpose movies what do I mean by that could help the neighbor take out the

could help the neighbor take out the

could help the neighbor take out the trash you can babysit for a friend you

trash you can babysit for a friend you

trash you can babysit for a friend you can serve at the shelter you can help an

can serve at the shelter you can help an

can serve at the shelter you can help an elderly person across the street simple

elderly person across the street simple

elderly person across the street simple needed but not meaningful to this extent

needed but not meaningful to this extent

needed but not meaningful to this extent meaningful in the sense that you have to

meaningful in the sense that you have to

meaningful in the sense that you have to use your natural strengths your

use your natural strengths your

use your natural strengths your god-given abilities to serve the greater

god-given abilities to serve the greater

god-given abilities to serve the greater good so you could do something that I

good so you could do something that I

good so you could do something that I can’t do and I could do something that

can’t do and I could do something that

can’t do and I could do something that you can do but when I need you i have

you can do but when I need you i have

you can do but when I need you i have you or when you need me you happy is it

you or when you need me you happy is it

you or when you need me you happy is it your community that needs your service

your community that needs your service

your community that needs your service is it a cause that you’re passionate

is it a cause that you’re passionate

is it a cause that you’re passionate about is it your mission in life why is

about is it your mission in life why is

about is it your mission in life why is it

see for me this journey was more

see for me this journey was more confirming that revelation on maybe for

confirming that revelation on maybe for

confirming that revelation on maybe for you it’s going to be very revealing

you it’s going to be very revealing

you it’s going to be very revealing because I always knew my strength that

because I always knew my strength that

because I always knew my strength that was new my leadership style i can tell

was new my leadership style i can tell

was new my leadership style i can tell you what that wasn’t a heartbeat i could

you what that wasn’t a heartbeat i could

you what that wasn’t a heartbeat i could tell you the best describing words for

tell you the best describing words for

tell you the best describing words for me i could tell you my belief on service

me i could tell you my belief on service

me i could tell you my belief on service and why we’re here but it was never

and why we’re here but it was never

and why we’re here but it was never confirmed and when it’s confirmed I

confirmed and when it’s confirmed I

confirmed and when it’s confirmed I guarantee you I guarantee you gotta try

guarantee you I guarantee you gotta try

guarantee you I guarantee you gotta try this got to do your self-assessment your

this got to do your self-assessment your

this got to do your self-assessment your eyes are going to open wide so why

eyes are going to open wide so why

eyes are going to open wide so why you’re going to know what you’re going

you’re going to know what you’re going

you’re going to know what you’re going to do you’re going to know what you’re

to do you’re going to know what you’re

to do you’re going to know what you’re gonna say you’re going to know what

gonna say you’re going to know what

gonna say you’re going to know what decisions to make sound decisions and

decisions to make sound decisions and

decisions to make sound decisions and when people come to you and say oh my

when people come to you and say oh my

when people come to you and say oh my god Raquel you’re the best person for

god Raquel you’re the best person for

god Raquel you’re the best person for this I really really need your help you

this I really really need your help you

this I really really need your help you could stand up and say well you might

could stand up and say well you might

could stand up and say well you might want to rethink this I might really

want to rethink this I might really

want to rethink this I might really really stopped at that you’re confident

really stopped at that you’re confident

really stopped at that you’re confident enough to say that so my findings on

enough to say that so my findings on

enough to say that so my findings on this overall self-seeking journeys done

this overall self-seeking journeys done

this overall self-seeking journeys done happiness really comes from knowing

happiness really comes from knowing

happiness really comes from knowing yourself from living authentically from

yourself from living authentically from

yourself from living authentically from growing yourself intentional progress

growing yourself intentional progress

growing yourself intentional progress giving of yourself meaningful service

giving of yourself meaningful service

giving of yourself meaningful service and you know what happiness is it really

and you know what happiness is it really

and you know what happiness is it really comes from having an attitude of

comes from having an attitude of

comes from having an attitude of gratitude and an appreciative spirit

gratitude and an appreciative spirit

gratitude and an appreciative spirit most importantly it’s a choice

so do you know your is unique strengths

so do you know your is unique strengths do you know your natural abilities most

do you know your natural abilities most

do you know your natural abilities most dominant qualities if not why not better

dominant qualities if not why not better

dominant qualities if not why not better yet what are you growing making progress

yet what are you growing making progress

yet what are you growing making progress or you at a standstill where are you are

or you at a standstill where are you are

or you at a standstill where are you are you being a service are you sitting

you being a service are you sitting

you being a service are you sitting waiting to be served where’s your place

waiting to be served where’s your place

waiting to be served where’s your place in the world what is your purpose or

in the world what is your purpose or

in the world what is your purpose or your mission go out and make the world a

your mission go out and make the world a

your mission go out and make the world a better place who work on you thank

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