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Shaping sexuality | Tom Loois | TEDxVeghel


which of you has here in the last

year in the past year

scale also

ah who of the religious are on person

is hot against a Korean himself

henriette marie needed

Okay that is not bad

interesting if you have such a question in the

room states it is not quite

clearly how we should do it

relate to sexuality is that something

what we can just admit in that

room with full of strange

that is not so obvious and me

believe that is actually a shame because

sexuality

can be as much as his nearest natural source

frustration or problem is it

especially a source of pleasure

creativity of pleasure

that is why I am going to do something for you today

tell about how I think it is

otherwise

we clearly have too much to do in the Netherlands

make with our results

Jewish-Christian tradition but there are

alternatives

an alternative maybe what you do

they all ring a bell

the kama sutra

is now already 2 and a half

a thousand years ago so I assume too

even the oldest people in the room

rather that we can

remember but where we have the kamasutra

see as a kind of ikea many role

for towns and and fine sex

in the end much more a book that goes

about quality of life in which

sexuality a self-evident role

plays

and just that self-evidence of

sexuality that I want to try to get into

our society today to

and then you could say okay

so maybe you might be nice

dirty v2 again or important but yes

Why can we but why is that

important what touring with them already

to have

a third of people here in the

room that wants more sex

yes I will not ask for the trade

stabbing but look around you

maybe you have an average idea

figure what we give to our sex life

so a 5.9 that I did that for the first time

las I thought but I would the on the

high school just get away with

my parents might have

satisfied with it, but that’s what it is

and I think that’s ourselves and those

are also

too short we do

we are not entirely capable of that

idea of ​​integrating sexuality into

us to our lives and I actually try

to integrate that sexuality

a good example is here on it

screen appears

today what a strange relationship

we are up to till sex

in this you see episode in a lingo

row with someone spelling the word can shot

you are the people who do not know what

a pussy shot is like a porn movie

a man cums all over the face of

the woman in many cases that that was

said the people in the hall knew it

lucille werner panicked the de

white assistant of hers

did not know exactly what to do with it

arose key geerling all say

and as heaven not clear of okay we

How should your labels from here it seems

as if our society have split up

in a world that is about sex and one

world that is not about sex and thinking

but for example to the streets

have all the stores that the in the

there are almost all of them in the city center

stores where we could buy clothes

supermarkets and we have a cozy

small sexshop you

at the edge somewhere and where we like

we walk in secretly we look at

inside and maybe we’ll see it there

someone walk inside

We all think what I think of that

typical and that segregation of the tot

sexual non sexual I am over after

start thinking

and actually we have there in the Netherlands

a very nice and very nice word for

namely sex life

think about sex life after sex life

finally implies that we are a kind

of parallel reality

next to us have a world that does not

is about the here and now

but about it there and later what I want

do is that sex life with it

daily life

finally merging and how am I going

do I do that

design by design

because I believed we live in the

society of consumers and

making the products that we buy that

we use every day

that is how our lives shape

but that’s why I also believe that designers

to have the unique power through

of shaping innovative

objects innovative products that are about

having sex and having it with a smile or

with creativity or more on one

approach holistically

that way we become our society

to be able to adjust our culture in one

culture with more room for it

sexuality and thereby enjoyment

make glass your own make love not share

this and is a nice nice statement

but I if you did about products

what kind of products do we think like it

is about sexuality and design

We are behind all a bit

my sweetheart clearly had it so much

zebra print

but this is a machine of laws

all kinds of sex toys that can be found

his and that shop where I just got it

about

do not discuss the problem very much

imagination have sexless before

really only a goal in many cases

and that’s just something in it

and that can be done in red in blue

with wrinkle

and extra tail rip is something you can see

you vary a bit but I believe we do

much more is possible that we are outside of this

frame of a small vibrator

look and that and sexuality on one

to approach other ways

I have done two things look what

I am he can investigate what is

that space but maybe there is

in my head but how can we get there

that stimulate those designers to come here

otherwise think about it

We have done both through the

dosing by teaching design

academy eindhoven where I myself still

were trained several years ago

and the second is that I am an exhibition

then will I make it on a big stage

namely during the Dutch design week

eindhoven where nearly 300,000 every year

visitors come and one of the hotspots

is an international design world

show hey how would that other

look at sexuality look like

the other that other approach

I want to start with the piece of teacher

that was actually pretty

you could say the those who game you

that is about the for the or design

definitely makes sense about improving

the quality of life

but when I study the design myself

academy follow very remarkable there

to notice that nobody is talking about sex

at which we were now actually enjoy

with all his most we are not

all of them

also to sexual beings are also to

mark andel chair and we make the beautiful

small table and a glass

What do you think that is not about us

being human is not already in my idea

so what I wanted with the students

is going into this trajectory of well what would

we can then shape

she was right at design academy

were not quite it is all star trek

we must then be the golden we

we all want to make sextoys

not have

I say no we are not going to make any sextoys

believe me I have we go all the way

do it differently

in the end I have the promise

and I got 16 students

field

oh no yes eleven students 16 weeks and

awake

go through what is about sexuality

the beauty was I had never in my life

one in front of the class I found it

quite a de

I was not much older than I want

the students and it was about this

subject so I was quite tense

We can also do something for a while

We expect

but what I already notice in the first

lesson was on this subject that I

negotiable and with humor and

it can be very human to make that

everyone feels so for so long

to talk about it

we make a proposal round for the

getting to know students and with them

started telling about it immediately

yes I am also a virgin and yes I think

it’s weird that I’m talking about sex here

I have the idea that I still have one as a make

little like it from less where I am people

I certainly watched for once in the

20 other people were talking about

relational problems that they had

about vulnerability well we had so with

the sweat over and I actually notice already

the first lesson so that this is a whole

special project would start drilling where

talking about sex in a substantive way

could have

the 1st assignment I gave to the students

it is no pleasure to go seriously

your own personal experience of faith

that you have a look at how you

there as a designer to side relationship

example of this is the work of janne

mold did what you say but yourself

janne was inspired by my with his

ex-girlfriend lay on the course in bed

and the saint and now that they too

each other such soft words in the ear

whispers

a bit of a sneaky but yes ours

next so that he did not have anymore

she was watching that how can I do the

intimacy with myself

create so he has a mask

made by headphones with the mouthpiece

where you can yourself in your eye

The beautiful thing about this design

is I have it on I do not have it now

at market could recommend if you do it

usher on your bots the chat so directly

in your own you do not hear

ambient noise

but your own voice is pretty hard

now walk on the tetteren but if

So you talk to your own then you start

all of a sudden also whispering and with

that you are whispering, you feel too

your own warm breath along your ears

flow and or and give it what it was

really beautiful on the realization

are you already whispering to yourself

busy app

notice that you have all my sweet words

whisper to yourself

that is going to decorate yourself

so really a very special whole

special way to be intimate with

yourself

but this shows when it is about

enough experience that there is not alone

but goes for about masturbation

subtract but that you also care about whole

another way that intimacy with yourself

can experience

The second part of the course

actually more about it

yes what freedom students were what to

more familiar with the subject you

also dares to me what more is I there

to speak out

so I like a beautiful one

example of a project from that

came the project of maud van der

linden

she has designed a motivation park

That is how it is now known in the

Being a media was like a young girl or even

now when we look back at her younger

self interested in how they are in that

you did not know that for ten years at all

basically as a woman

you have to sit on it

Anyway could be fine and that’s okay

was to masturbate

and what they wanted is that

self-satisfaction

return

what did she do through this

project it’s all pajamas no but this

is a this more and yz is on one

house suit but where you are under you

breasts and at your crotch easy

have openings to just to yourself

and she made it herself

that if you move your shoulders that it

business suit

slight tingling between your legs

brings the good thing is that what

it happens here that it is not necessarily one

very vulgar design is late on one

see the whole natural way

that also have sexual needs and

that actually integrates into a suit mine

whatever you can imagine that would be in

for example in a beehive

to hang

the second thing is an exhibition

I dreamed of it on stage with that

30,000 men that I could leave

see what sexuality would do even more

can be that is ultimately for

commit be noted that there is an exhibition

not with my colleagues sander and mice

if you have savings from now

competes and knows for place shaping

sexual so by means of a

designer your new view on sexuality

to give

we wanted it to be a threshold-free

exhibition had to be young and old

would come in if you are with them there already

outside the beets along that street there

and who also thought about sex art

Jews came in and immediately how

where are all dildos and vibrators to

those worthy in one we just wanted to leave

see that it could also be different

here you see a look of the van

exhibition what kind of visitors

walking around that is really beautiful

seeing young and old went together

conversation

as a matter of course the fire was extinguished

but the law also laughed and we wanted the

make visitors really part of the

exhibition is balls everywhere

stickers stuck on purpose I do

touch ‘do is really that way too

in that in this story of that of that

airy relationship to sexuality there

to take with you within the exhibitions

were actually two subjects of it

importance

two themes are two coat hooks that we take out

from the work on and the

exhibition have arranged

first, that is physicality

all have life and that

finds it all generally

nice to be touched but

are also staying that over time

change and it’s life that if they do

nude are suddenly the sexual charge

have that is true

the second is a piece of imagination and

Sexuality is also about fantasy

also provided with front door

sexuality

but how can you as a designer

to trigger imagination to start with

physicality we had a number

weeks in the exhibition a week

just as fast

what to show we had

for example a vagina speedo vulva

versa from michel the game was called it yourself

an ergonomic mirror made for

women so that it is very easy to

view yourself for men she can

The fact also that respect but

with that you so you could say it

can also be with a bathroom mirror or

a small make-up mirror but correct

by that they have a specific object for it

full of it

you also create a right to exist for that

specific act of knowing how you

body looks just like research

that’s okay and that ‘s nice and you can do the

just from learning and the sit there

to

but it starts with that you know it

exists and does not dare to face it

see

on the other hand, we had work by arnoud

holleman pendant is called family and french

the series of the seven portraits and

Braille

where a penis is associated with

with a kind of power symbol

status symbol

see here seems 7 portraits of whole

friendly friendly

healthy varying relaxed buds

hanging next to each other and I found that too

a very nice picture also in that

to take exhibitions with you

you can do this yourself if you

this can see yourself wondering yes

how far do those cocks always have

plots of sexual charge has as the

gozo the nickname is still completely fine

also need to be offended at the

people live nice and active reading

which therefore runs a little walk to

bundling

but when it comes to body card I said it

just like that is also a body like me

developed by time and body what

wrinkles and where are sometimes believed

that sexuality on wood at the first

ripple

I have been told that sexuality

only gets better as you

gets older

which of you in the room is

whether her sexuality has improved

as he got older

yes okay well it also is difficult

to our parents but also to our grandparents

the xenon sexual beings have our

care industry care homes that have

only single beds

the rooms can not be locked

inside

and we have the idea of ​​that sex and

old age does not go that far either

naturally together and there

designer glenn dasilva change

and I want you now one

movie of late

hannah and ran increasingly difficult gerrit

saw this all together they chose the

proper support so that they are still

can go with his two because it is

not that they do not want to

sometimes they can not do everything themselves

and then help each other a great love

the more

because it is not just a tool

for hannah

it is also a tool for together

love assist for sex by age or am

a show has actually done

existing care objects

he has hacked so he has one

stool hacked and he has a walker

hacked has the stool that hacked so

you with a small one

yes such a shape and a tripod of

can make them a tripod for it

people who find it difficult to find them

legs apart as you do

it has a spoon spoon position

have almost exactly want to demonstrate that

you put this under it if you look better

can lay in your legs

easier to separate so you can

easy the man easier at the

woman can go inside

the second is a walker we already know

those things well now the gentlemen who just too

were not happy with him

but we all know ours

too big parents might have

but one has done what blen

the object is made so that it goes to

can move forward and backward

it is also kind of like that

helps and it starts you support that

the one that is so heavy for me not in the

voltage comes out

but how can you as a designer ensure that

people with a certain fantasy or who

stimulate fantasy

when it comes to using the

object how can you make them there

take part in days that go on

that they are creative with it

a good example of this is the work

from friso wiersma did five elements

and live by designing 5 objects

that do not necessarily have a specific function

so here is no manual when it is

not clear what you do with that card

with our tassel that needle you want

sponge system must do

and what makes this work very beautiful is that

it invites you to go yourself

experimenting means there is no good or

wrong

and that is not a frame of reference for

everyone uses this just about everyone

does this so another example

damp for lee van jan pieter kaptein

he made that a commission from us

from the exhibition and what I see

you actually mean exactly the intention of and

Here again you see that there is one

kind of rule discharge context and context

where there is no reference to how

must be able to contribute to one

more obvious eh about sexuality

by this thing stood in the

exhibition

then you can tell his number of things

happened that I had not previously

thought they could be there

but these are all new

objects and when it comes to it

making sexuality self-evident

and that lay with sex life about it

normal life and that by together

to mix together it is also

interesting to work with that with that

with that dirty mind with that look and

What is beautiful is we are working to

looking at how we can, as it were, the

sexual erotic potency of

awaken the object in our daily lives

kiss how can we show that with

a wink to your saw and the beginning already

the

clothespin by playing very simply

not make out a new object which we

make a new package and continue

just change that text

you create that way how the

In this way, a whole time is rich

new object can be this is never again

a clothespin

but this suddenly turns into total

something else

this object it will not be a mass product

so it’s actually more on

a row of wink to all of us

remind hey we can

not much more airy to

sexuality can not be sexuality

welcome in our lives and with pleasure

and look forward with pleasure and where in

our body is not necessarily a sexy world

we our elders can also

mix of enjoy

that we dare to blush that we dare

wet words between our legs or hard

but that we through the products and

through a fresh look

sexuality in the coming years

anchoring in our culture

thank you

[Applause]

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