let me begin with a question can I get a show of hands who here has ever googled
show of hands who here has ever googled
show of hands who here has ever googled themselves I have but what started off
themselves I have but what started off
themselves I have but what started off as momentary curiosity very quickly
as momentary curiosity very quickly
as momentary curiosity very quickly turned into an almost five year rule it
turned into an almost five year rule it
turned into an almost five year rule it almost ruined my life now before I
almost ruined my life now before I
almost ruined my life now before I continue I must point out that what I’m
continue I must point out that what I’m
continue I must point out that what I’m about to talk about is very confronting
about to talk about is very confronting
about to talk about is very confronting and graphic but there’s no way out this
and graphic but there’s no way out this
and graphic but there’s no way out this is a very confronting issue this is me
is a very confronting issue this is me
is a very confronting issue this is me at 17 years old
at 17 years old
at 17 years old an innocent selfie I took before a party
an innocent selfie I took before a party
an innocent selfie I took before a party I Google Image reverse searched myself a
I Google Image reverse searched myself a
I Google Image reverse searched myself a function of Google that allows you to
function of Google that allows you to
function of Google that allows you to upload an image and it shows you where
upload an image and it shows you where
upload an image and it shows you where it is on the Internet
it is on the Internet
it is on the Internet in a split second my screen was flooded
in a split second my screen was flooded
in a split second my screen was flooded with that image and dozens more images
with that image and dozens more images
with that image and dozens more images of me that have been stolen from my
of me that have been stolen from my
of me that have been stolen from my social media on links connected to porn
social media on links connected to porn
social media on links connected to porn sites on these sites nameless faceless
sites on these sites nameless faceless
sites on these sites nameless faceless sexual predators had published highly
sexual predators had published highly
sexual predators had published highly explicit sexual commentary about me and
explicit sexual commentary about me and
explicit sexual commentary about me and what they’d like to do to me cover her
what they’d like to do to me cover her
what they’d like to do to me cover her face would fuck her body one person
face would fuck her body one person
face would fuck her body one person wrote they also published identifying
wrote they also published identifying
wrote they also published identifying information about me where I lived what
information about me where I lived what
information about me where I lived what I studied who I was but things got worse
I studied who I was but things got worse
I studied who I was but things got worse I soon discovered that these sexual
I soon discovered that these sexual
I soon discovered that these sexual predators had doctored or photoshopped
predators had doctored or photoshopped
predators had doctored or photoshopped my face onto the bodies of naked adult
my face onto the bodies of naked adult
my face onto the bodies of naked adult actresses engaged in sexual intercourse
actresses engaged in sexual intercourse
actresses engaged in sexual intercourse of me being ejaculated on by two men
of me being ejaculated on by two men
of me being ejaculated on by two men sperm was edited onto my face I was
sperm was edited onto my face I was
sperm was edited onto my face I was edited
edited
edited onto the cover of a porn DVD
onto the cover of a porn DVD
onto the cover of a porn DVD perpetrators had edited my images to
perpetrators had edited my images to
perpetrators had edited my images to give the effects that my blouse was
give the effects that my blouse was
give the effects that my blouse was transparent or see-through so you could
transparent or see-through so you could
transparent or see-through so you could see my nipples perpetrators ejaculated
see my nipples perpetrators ejaculated
see my nipples perpetrators ejaculated on images of me took photos of their
on images of me took photos of their
on images of me took photos of their sperm and penises on these images and
sperm and penises on these images and
sperm and penises on these images and posted them on to porn sites
posted them on to porn sites
posted them on to porn sites come on printed pics is what they call
come on printed pics is what they call
come on printed pics is what they call it
it
it now you might be wondering what sorts of
now you might be wondering what sorts of
now you might be wondering what sorts of images I posted on social media this is
images I posted on social media this is
images I posted on social media this is me at around 19 at the Clermont hotel
me at around 19 at the Clermont hotel
me at around 19 at the Clermont hotel just a few suburbs away and they
just a few suburbs away and they
just a few suburbs away and they superimposed that face into this and
superimposed that face into this and
superimposed that face into this and things got worse nothing was off-limits
things got worse nothing was off-limits
things got worse nothing was off-limits for these predators they even posted an
for these predators they even posted an
for these predators they even posted an image with my little sister on these
image with my little sister on these
image with my little sister on these sites too now you might be thinking well
sites too now you might be thinking well
sites too now you might be thinking well you do dress provocatively even a little
you do dress provocatively even a little
you do dress provocatively even a little sexually suggestive attention-seeking
sexually suggestive attention-seeking
sexually suggestive attention-seeking maybe but just because a woman’s body
maybe but just because a woman’s body
maybe but just because a woman’s body gets attention doesn’t mean she’s
gets attention doesn’t mean she’s
gets attention doesn’t mean she’s attention-seeking and what is
attention-seeking and what is
attention-seeking and what is provocative anyway what is sexually
provocative anyway what is sexually
provocative anyway what is sexually suggestive in some parts of the world
suggestive in some parts of the world
suggestive in some parts of the world showing your ankles is provocative it’s
showing your ankles is provocative it’s
showing your ankles is provocative it’s just like no matter what a woman wears
just like no matter what a woman wears
just like no matter what a woman wears it’s always perceived as more sexual
it’s always perceived as more sexual
it’s always perceived as more sexual than it is for me I just wanted to feel
than it is for me I just wanted to feel
than it is for me I just wanted to feel pretty and confident what’s so wrong
pretty and confident what’s so wrong
pretty and confident what’s so wrong with that now you might be thinking well
with that now you might be thinking well
with that now you might be thinking well can’t you just set your social media on
can’t you just set your social media on
can’t you just set your social media on private well these perpetrators were
private well these perpetrators were
private well these perpetrators were calculated they befriended my friends on
calculated they befriended my friends on
calculated they befriended my friends on social media and to fake profiles they
social media and to fake profiles they
social media and to fake profiles they followed the public galleries of the
followed the public galleries of the
followed the public galleries of the events and places are regularly visited
events and places are regularly visited
events and places are regularly visited why should one have to retreat and hide
why should one have to retreat and hide
why should one have to retreat and hide out of fear that something like you
out of fear that something like you
out of fear that something like you could happen what I post and what I wear
could happen what I post and what I wear
could happen what I post and what I wear isn’t an invitation to violate and abuse
isn’t an invitation to violate and abuse
isn’t an invitation to violate and abuse me the only person that should be
me the only person that should be
me the only person that should be changing their behavior is the
changing their behavior is the
changing their behavior is the perpetrators
perpetrators
perpetrators [Applause]
now you might be thinking why me well
now you might be thinking why me well I’m just one of the thousands upon
I’m just one of the thousands upon
I’m just one of the thousands upon thousands of ordinary women who are
thousands of ordinary women who are
thousands of ordinary women who are being preyed upon in these mass-scale
being preyed upon in these mass-scale
being preyed upon in these mass-scale horrific online cultures websites and
horrific online cultures websites and
horrific online cultures websites and threads that are dedicated to sexually
threads that are dedicated to sexually
threads that are dedicated to sexually exploiting and doctoring ordinary images
exploiting and doctoring ordinary images
exploiting and doctoring ordinary images of women into porn as I speak there are
of women into porn as I speak there are
of women into porn as I speak there are women who are being preyed upon and they
women who are being preyed upon and they
women who are being preyed upon and they don’t even know it in the beginning I
don’t even know it in the beginning I
don’t even know it in the beginning I tried seeking help I went to police
tried seeking help I went to police
tried seeking help I went to police I contacted government agencies I even
I contacted government agencies I even
I contacted government agencies I even tried to hire a private investigator but
tried to hire a private investigator but
tried to hire a private investigator but they were too expensive but there was
they were too expensive but there was
they were too expensive but there was nothing that they could do I mean what
nothing that they could do I mean what
nothing that they could do I mean what could you do when the sites are hosted
could you do when the sites are hosted
could you do when the sites are hosted overseas and the perpetrators are from
overseas and the perpetrators are from
overseas and the perpetrators are from overseas I was told I had to contact the
overseas I was told I had to contact the
overseas I was told I had to contact the sites one by one notifying the
sites one by one notifying the
sites one by one notifying the webmasters to get everything deleted and
webmasters to get everything deleted and
webmasters to get everything deleted and so as you can imagine in complete and
so as you can imagine in complete and
so as you can imagine in complete and utter fear and pain I did I contacted
utter fear and pain I did I contacted
utter fear and pain I did I contacted the webmasters requesting that they
the webmasters requesting that they
the webmasters requesting that they delete the material shared without
delete the material shared without
delete the material shared without consent and I had some successes but I
consent and I had some successes but I
consent and I had some successes but I also had some major setbacks the more I
also had some major setbacks the more I
also had some major setbacks the more I fought the more sites I would discover
fought the more sites I would discover
fought the more sites I would discover and with time the more my images were
and with time the more my images were
and with time the more my images were being seen and shared in the tens of
being seen and shared in the tens of
being seen and shared in the tens of thousands
thousands
thousands I had one webmaster respond to me saying
I had one webmaster respond to me saying
I had one webmaster respond to me saying he’ll Oni doesn’t delete the site if I
he’ll Oni doesn’t delete the site if I
he’ll Oni doesn’t delete the site if I sent him nude photos of myself within 24
sent him nude photos of myself within 24
sent him nude photos of myself within 24 hours and this went on for years
hours and this went on for years
hours and this went on for years fighting against his dodgy disgusting
fighting against his dodgy disgusting
fighting against his dodgy disgusting sites but I was fighting a losing battle
sites but I was fighting a losing battle
sites but I was fighting a losing battle and I couldn’t continue this any longer
and I couldn’t continue this any longer
and I couldn’t continue this any longer for my own mental health but what could
for my own mental health but what could
for my own mental health but what could I do maybe I thought
I do maybe I thought
I do maybe I thought if I spoke out I could reclaim my name
if I spoke out I could reclaim my name
if I spoke out I could reclaim my name and I could rewrite my narrative on my
and I could rewrite my narrative on my
and I could rewrite my narrative on my own terms
own terms
own terms maybe if I spoke out I could raise
maybe if I spoke out I could raise
maybe if I spoke out I could raise awareness about this maybe I could even
awareness about this maybe I could even
awareness about this maybe I could even try to change the law and so I did
[Music]
[Music] I spoke out publicly late last year and
I spoke out publicly late last year and
I spoke out publicly late last year and news of my story reverberating around
news of my story reverberating around
news of my story reverberating around the world but this was the response
the world but this was the response
the world but this was the response she’s a fat ugly slut she’s a whore
she’s a fat ugly slut she’s a whore
she’s a fat ugly slut she’s a whore she’s an attention-seeking piece of
she’s an attention-seeking piece of
she’s an attention-seeking piece of trash feel flattered baby it’s a
trash feel flattered baby it’s a
trash feel flattered baby it’s a compliment
compliment
compliment I was victim blamed and slut shamed and
I was victim blamed and slut shamed and
I was victim blamed and slut shamed and told I was deserving of what happened to
told I was deserving of what happened to
told I was deserving of what happened to me and quite frankly that was more
me and quite frankly that was more
me and quite frankly that was more difficult for me to endure than my
difficult for me to endure than my
difficult for me to endure than my actual experiences of image based abuse
but I couldn’t let this criticism defeat
but I couldn’t let this criticism defeat me
me
me I knew what the perpetrators had done
I knew what the perpetrators had done
I knew what the perpetrators had done was wrong and I knew what they were
was wrong and I knew what they were
was wrong and I knew what they were doing to others was wrong
doing to others was wrong
doing to others was wrong and so I petitioned I sent her
and so I petitioned I sent her
and so I petitioned I sent her impassioned pleas for support but it
impassioned pleas for support but it
impassioned pleas for support but it didn’t work I think I got like 330
didn’t work I think I got like 330
didn’t work I think I got like 330 signatures and that was really
signatures and that was really
signatures and that was really disheartening but I then contacted my
disheartening but I then contacted my
disheartening but I then contacted my state and federal MPs and I was referred
state and federal MPs and I was referred
state and federal MPs and I was referred to the New South Wales Attorney
to the New South Wales Attorney
to the New South Wales Attorney General’s Department who were already in
General’s Department who were already in
General’s Department who were already in the process of drafting new laws to
the process of drafting new laws to
the process of drafting new laws to criminalize the non-consensual
criminalize the non-consensual
criminalize the non-consensual distribution of intimate images image
distribution of intimate images image
distribution of intimate images image based sexual abuse some of you may know
based sexual abuse some of you may know
based sexual abuse some of you may know it as revenge porn and soon I became a
it as revenge porn and soon I became a
it as revenge porn and soon I became a spokesperson a public face for the new
spokesperson a public face for the new
spokesperson a public face for the new laws but I must point out I do not in
laws but I must point out I do not in
laws but I must point out I do not in any way shape or form want to take
any way shape or form want to take
any way shape or form want to take credit for this change in the law this
credit for this change in the law this
credit for this change in the law this is on the backs of cyber safety experts
is on the backs of cyber safety experts
is on the backs of cyber safety experts of researchers of the Attorney General’s
of researchers of the Attorney General’s
of researchers of the Attorney General’s Department of so many people who have
Department of so many people who have
Department of so many people who have fought for years but for the first time
fought for years but for the first time
fought for years but for the first time ever New South Wales was the first state
ever New South Wales was the first state
ever New South Wales was the first state in all the world to specifically include
in all the world to specifically include
in all the world to specifically include a provision on altering images something
a provision on altering images something
a provision on altering images something that happened to me something you
that happened to me something you
that happened to me something you certainly didn’t don’t hear about very
certainly didn’t don’t hear about very
certainly didn’t don’t hear about very often and now a CT has also criminalized
often and now a CT has also criminalized
often and now a CT has also criminalized this
this
this also with a provision on altered images
also with a provision on altered images
also with a provision on altered images and next year WI is introducing
and next year WI is introducing
and next year WI is introducing legislation and hopefully they
legislation and hopefully they
legislation and hopefully they introduced a provision on altered images
introduced a provision on altered images
introduced a provision on altered images and I urge every state in every country
and I urge every state in every country
and I urge every state in every country in this world to follow suit because
in this world to follow suit because
in this world to follow suit because right now there’s no justice for people
right now there’s no justice for people
right now there’s no justice for people like me despite it all despite the hate
like me despite it all despite the hate
like me despite it all despite the hate and despite the criticism just like the
and despite the criticism just like the
and despite the criticism just like the fact that I’m never going to get justice
fact that I’m never going to get justice
fact that I’m never going to get justice because my experience has happened
because my experience has happened
because my experience has happened before this movement of law reform
before this movement of law reform
before this movement of law reform speaking out was the best thing I’ve
speaking out was the best thing I’ve
speaking out was the best thing I’ve ever done because I know for a fact that
ever done because I know for a fact that
ever done because I know for a fact that is helped people and I just want to live
is helped people and I just want to live
is helped people and I just want to live in a world where regardless of what I
in a world where regardless of what I
in a world where regardless of what I wear or what I post that I’m still
wear or what I post that I’m still
wear or what I post that I’m still worthy of being treated with dignity and
worthy of being treated with dignity and
worthy of being treated with dignity and respect respect now that’s an idea we’re
respect respect now that’s an idea we’re
respect respect now that’s an idea we’re sharing
sharing
sharing [Applause]
[Applause]
[Applause] [Music]
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