often when I’m in front of one
audience known that usually the topic
sex generates two types of reactions
opposing and complementary
there are those who already smile with a certain
complacency and straighten your back e
there are those who crouch on the
armchair with a little discomfort
good if I had to choose a metaphor
space to define the relationship that
we usually have sexuality
I would use that of the fortress as a place
closed where to keep so many things
precious that we want to defend a place
in which we also hide secrets
well reassure me today I do not come here
to assault your fortress you can
be comfortable and comfortable what I want
do with this little intervention a
show you a couple of critical ideas
it’s a creative input I’m not coming here
judge you or tell you what it is
right or wrong because in reality
any way that people have
to live sex that is both consensual and
that it does not cause physical damage is anyway
legitimate and it is not just me to say it
which is notoriously mentality
open
also says the dsm 5 which is the
periodic publication
world organization of the
healthcare that defines what it is
mental illness and what not
in the field of sexuality and that
precisely in its latest edition ad e
pathologize those paraphilias that a
time were defined as perversions and
that were considered mental illnesses
yet the idea that sex is something
of natural and that there are some
practices that are natural and others that
I’m not
continues to be in force is a
concept that is very dear to above all
to people organizations and institutions
that on sexuality they would like to have
control
in reality sexuality is one
technology that has evolved over the course
of the centuries and on the idea that freedom
sexuality is a progress to which it does not
we must give up
I think we should not accept any
kind of relativism because freedom
sex has often cost life
to many men and women who have paid
dear their non-adherence to the regime
sexual life of the age in which they lived
and if I talk about the regime and it seems to you
exaggerated, let me go on
our western sexual culture indeed
let’s just say that our culture
Western is impregnated with images and
of stories in which sex is an element
founding
but what kind of sex if we think of the
Greek Greek mythology
we can not fail to notice a dripping
of violence against rape of sexual acts
that when I’m not openly
traumatic, however, are dramatically
not consensual
we think of the rea silvia the mother of
romulus and oar mythical founders
in the city of rome rea silvia si
asleep on the banks of the Tiber god
Mars sees it and decides to own it
he does it gently and silently
she does not even notice or pay for it
only the consequences obviously and
how can we forget the marble group of
canova di apollo and dafne you are there
in front of you and you’re still dazzled by the
whiteness of the marble and the guide you
pushes to notice the plasticity
opera
this upward movement that
transforms the soft flesh of the nymph
the hard branch and leaves do not tell you
the scream of daphne ‘s pain he says
rather than letting me touch dates of
wooden wind but unfortunately it is one
situation that maybe you will happen to
try later in life and that
say of the rats of the sabines another
exemplary history
the inhabitants of the city of Rome
original
they were all males no one wanted them
marry and then so nicely
they choose to tend a trap has one
neighboring people organize one
great party with games
and while everyone is still there
happy and drunk steal women is one
story that has a happy ending
linked to patience and wisdom
of women however a story of which later
many centuries we have not yet learned
the lesson
because you continue to play in
more or less horrible way
in reality
our sexual imaginary is full
of stories in which sex is violence ee
this fortress that we defend so much
jealously also contains these stories
and let’s talk about sexual imaginary
we do not talk about sex education that
that is also another chasm in which
for today we will not look at respect
to sexual imagery or an experience
staff that has been going on for years
which I compare with a lot of people
on the subject of pornography they are men and
women who grew up in the pre age
Internet
Well , most of them have had the
first contact with pornography well
before 10 years and then what happens
that our sexual imaginary is
been influenced with forms of
direct and indirect pornography over
that with these archetypes so violent
and and all this continues abroad in the
our fortress and therefore my invitation
for today is that if not to lower
just the drawbridge to leave
enter some fresh air inside the
our fortress open a window for
that we could do on one side of the
beautiful discoveries re-discussing all those
beliefs that we jealously guard
on what excites us and what does not
it excites us about what ours are
beauty standards and what are the
absolute negatives and perhaps we will succeed
also to make peace with a whole series of
dissatisfaction and frustration that there
We have been carrying on for a lot of years and
we do not know where I come from
many many dysfunctional behaviors
I am very much in the field of sexuality
often linked more to suffering
social and cultural heritage that has
pathologies and its here that’s
my invitation for today and I would wish
that one day all these ours
fortresses can be transformed into
gardens that we can clean up from
weeds in which we can grow everyone
the flowers that we like the most
cactus and in which maybe we can invite
friends and friends to have tea
[Applause]
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