[Applause] thank you my name is Charlie Boyle and I
thank you my name is Charlie Boyle and I
thank you my name is Charlie Boyle and I am 18 and family coach
am 18 and family coach
am 18 and family coach I’m also an international speaker and
I’m also an international speaker and
I’m also an international speaker and for the last three years I’ve helped
for the last three years I’ve helped
for the last three years I’ve helped teens and families improving their lives
teens and families improving their lives
teens and families improving their lives through communication and through
through communication and through
through communication and through coaching do you know how you can be more
coaching do you know how you can be more
coaching do you know how you can be more productive and confident in the scope of
productive and confident in the scope of
productive and confident in the scope of just one day what if I told you that
just one day what if I told you that
just one day what if I told you that that was possible
that was possible
that was possible um sorry through just one keynote or key
um sorry through just one keynote or key
um sorry through just one keynote or key thought the answer to that is self
thought the answer to that is self
thought the answer to that is self awareness and today I’ll be telling you
awareness and today I’ll be telling you
awareness and today I’ll be telling you how self aware has changed my life and
how self aware has changed my life and
how self aware has changed my life and how you can change your life too so if
how you can change your life too so if
how you can change your life too so if you start about if you start off with
you start about if you start off with
you start about if you start off with the definition of self awareness so a
the definition of self awareness so a
the definition of self awareness so a self awareness per definition is the
self awareness per definition is the
self awareness per definition is the conscious knowledge of one’s own
conscious knowledge of one’s own
conscious knowledge of one’s own character feelings motives and designers
character feelings motives and designers
character feelings motives and designers and it also states that the process can
and it also states that the process can
and it also states that the process can be painful but that it leads to greater
be painful but that it leads to greater
be painful but that it leads to greater self awareness and I can tell you for me
self awareness and I can tell you for me
self awareness and I can tell you for me the process was very painful and the
the process was very painful and the
the process was very painful and the process for you guys is most probably
process for you guys is most probably
process for you guys is most probably also painful but that it leads to
also painful but that it leads to
also painful but that it leads to greater self-awareness so let me tell
greater self-awareness so let me tell
greater self-awareness so let me tell you a bit about myself and my story I
you a bit about myself and my story I
you a bit about myself and my story I was born in Spain and I grew up in
was born in Spain and I grew up in
was born in Spain and I grew up in France and the United States by the age
France and the United States by the age
France and the United States by the age of twelve we moved back to Denmark I had
of twelve we moved back to Denmark I had
of twelve we moved back to Denmark I had a French father and a Danish mother I
a French father and a Danish mother I
a French father and a Danish mother I had a good home so I was raised and a
had a good home so I was raised and a
had a good home so I was raised and a good in a good place and
by the age of 16 my father passed away
by the age of 16 my father passed away which was a very difficult time as a
which was a very difficult time as a
which was a very difficult time as a team when a parent passes away like you
team when a parent passes away like you
team when a parent passes away like you don’t you’re the age at that age you
don’t you’re the age at that age you
don’t you’re the age at that age you don’t know yourself you don’t know
don’t know yourself you don’t know
don’t know yourself you don’t know you’re on your own identity so I
you’re on your own identity so I
you’re on your own identity so I actually went through a very tough time
actually went through a very tough time
actually went through a very tough time a very difficult time and I ended up
a very difficult time and I ended up
a very difficult time and I ended up dropping out of two schools between the
dropping out of two schools between the
dropping out of two schools between the ages of 16 and 21 so when I was 21 I was
ages of 16 and 21 so when I was 21 I was
ages of 16 and 21 so when I was 21 I was still very young as someone you might be
still very young as someone you might be
still very young as someone you might be as well here I decided to move to Spain
as well here I decided to move to Spain
as well here I decided to move to Spain I literally just took by his two
I literally just took by his two
I literally just took by his two suitcases and said to my mom I’m aren’t
suitcases and said to my mom I’m aren’t
suitcases and said to my mom I’m aren’t here and she didn’t believe me so my old
here and she didn’t believe me so my old
here and she didn’t believe me so my old family was like NAT you’re not going
family was like NAT you’re not going
family was like NAT you’re not going anywhere I said well sure I am
anywhere I said well sure I am
anywhere I said well sure I am so I took my two suitcases I just just
so I took my two suitcases I just just
so I took my two suitcases I just just left because I thought in my mind that
left because I thought in my mind that
left because I thought in my mind that my life was gonna improve dramatically
my life was gonna improve dramatically
my life was gonna improve dramatically when I moved away so actually running
when I moved away so actually running
when I moved away so actually running away from my problems which I found out
away from my problems which I found out
away from my problems which I found out a later age that was the case I was in
a later age that was the case I was in
a later age that was the case I was in Spain I lived there for four years
Spain I lived there for four years
Spain I lived there for four years and that was I was at a time in my life
and that was I was at a time in my life
and that was I was at a time in my life where I started reflecting on life I
where I started reflecting on life I
where I started reflecting on life I started reflecting on the different
started reflecting on the different
started reflecting on the different situations that I came into and I know
situations that I came into and I know
situations that I came into and I know that I knew that I had a unique ability
that I knew that I had a unique ability
that I knew that I had a unique ability to actually solve my own problems or the
to actually solve my own problems or the
to actually solve my own problems or the issues that I had but I didn’t know how
issues that I had but I didn’t know how
issues that I had but I didn’t know how to take action upon it maybe some of you
to take action upon it maybe some of you
to take action upon it maybe some of you may know this or may have been in the
may know this or may have been in the
may know this or may have been in the same situation where you know you have
same situation where you know you have
same situation where you know you have an issue you know you have a challenge
an issue you know you have a challenge
an issue you know you have a challenge you had the solution in your head but
you had the solution in your head but
you had the solution in your head but you just you just don’t know how to get
you just you just don’t know how to get
you just you just don’t know how to get above that or how to take action upon it
above that or how to take action upon it
above that or how to take action upon it at least that was the case for me a lot
at least that was the case for me a lot
at least that was the case for me a lot of times so again I went on for 4 years
of times so again I went on for 4 years
of times so again I went on for 4 years I lived there and the the the solutions
I lived there and the the the solutions
I lived there and the the the solutions and the challenges just keep keep kept
and the challenges just keep keep kept
and the challenges just keep keep kept arising but I didn’t know how to do
arising but I didn’t know how to do
arising but I didn’t know how to do anything about it so when I was 25 I
anything about it so when I was 25 I
anything about it so when I was 25 I moved to LA
moved to LA
moved to LA for two years and by the age of 27 I
for two years and by the age of 27 I
for two years and by the age of 27 I moved back to Denmark I didn’t have an
moved back to Denmark I didn’t have an
moved back to Denmark I didn’t have an education at the age of seven 27 so I
education at the age of seven 27 so I
education at the age of seven 27 so I thought that was about time and I
thought that was about time and I
thought that was about time and I studied for five and a half years so I
studied for five and a half years so I
studied for five and a half years so I was finished when I was 33 and at the
was finished when I was 33 and at the
was finished when I was 33 and at the age of 33 I got a job and I just need to
age of 33 I got a job and I just need to
age of 33 I got a job and I just need to say that I’ve been in the hotel and
say that I’ve been in the hotel and
say that I’ve been in the hotel and restaurant industry for 20 years so that
restaurant industry for 20 years so that
restaurant industry for 20 years so that was actually the industry that I thought
was actually the industry that I thought
was actually the industry that I thought that I was gonna kind of gonna continue
that I was gonna kind of gonna continue
that I was gonna kind of gonna continue in so I got a job in a conference place
in so I got a job in a conference place
in so I got a job in a conference place and I was there for I don’t know a month
and I was there for I don’t know a month
and I was there for I don’t know a month and a half two months and I have to
and a half two months and I have to
and a half two months and I have to admit during the day I was on Facebook
admit during the day I was on Facebook
admit during the day I was on Facebook you’re not supposed to be on Facebook at
you’re not supposed to be on Facebook at
you’re not supposed to be on Facebook at work great nor at school are you right
work great nor at school are you right
work great nor at school are you right but I was and I looked at cuz I got this
but I was and I looked at cuz I got this
but I was and I looked at cuz I got this bling you know when you get a message so
bling you know when you get a message so
bling you know when you get a message so I got a message I read the message and
I got a message I read the message and
I got a message I read the message and he says good morning Charlotte I hope
he says good morning Charlotte I hope
he says good morning Charlotte I hope that this is going to be the first day
that this is going to be the first day
that this is going to be the first day of the rest of your life congratulations
of the rest of your life congratulations
of the rest of your life congratulations you just want to coach education and
you just want to coach education and
you just want to coach education and that was my turning point and that is
that was my turning point and that is
that was my turning point and that is what has changed my life completely I
what has changed my life completely I
what has changed my life completely I have four years wanted to work with in
have four years wanted to work with in
have four years wanted to work with in coaching I have loved children and teens
coaching I have loved children and teens
coaching I have loved children and teens since I can remember so for me that that
since I can remember so for me that that
since I can remember so for me that that that message was like wow up until that
that message was like wow up until that
that message was like wow up until that time I was full I was full of life you
time I was full I was full of life you
time I was full I was full of life you know when you’ve eaten so much you can’t
know when you’ve eaten so much you can’t
know when you’ve eaten so much you can’t you can’t even walk so that’s how I felt
you can’t even walk so that’s how I felt
you can’t even walk so that’s how I felt both mentally physically in every single
both mentally physically in every single
both mentally physically in every single way so that was the starting point of
way so that was the starting point of
way so that was the starting point of the turnaround in my life I got the
the turnaround in my life I got the
the turnaround in my life I got the coach education and it took six months
coach education and it took six months
coach education and it took six months and I went through pain I went through
and I went through pain I went through
and I went through pain I went through sorrow I went through grief and I went
sorrow I went through grief and I went
sorrow I went through grief and I went through everything every single process
through everything every single process
through everything every single process or everything every single emotion that
or everything every single emotion that
or everything every single emotion that you have in your body good and bad I
you have in your body good and bad I
you have in your body good and bad I also left but I mostly cried for the six
also left but I mostly cried for the six
also left but I mostly cried for the six months and that was that was what
months and that was that was what
months and that was that was what happened to me you don’t necessarily
happened to me you don’t necessarily
happened to me you don’t necessarily have to feel the same way when you take
have to feel the same way when you take
have to feel the same way when you take when you go through this process of
when you go through this process of
when you go through this process of self-awareness but I can tell you that
self-awareness but I can tell you that
self-awareness but I can tell you that self-awareness is an essential part of
self-awareness is an essential part of
self-awareness is an essential part of us as human beings because it creates an
us as human beings because it creates an
us as human beings because it creates an awareness inside of us that has
awareness inside of us that has
awareness inside of us that has consequences for the outer world and it
consequences for the outer world and it
consequences for the outer world and it has consequences for you and for the
has consequences for you and for the
has consequences for you and for the people that you are around whether you
people that you are around whether you
people that you are around whether you like it or not
like it or not
like it or not so self-awareness is taking
so self-awareness is taking
so self-awareness is taking responsibility for yourself your actions
responsibility for yourself your actions
responsibility for yourself your actions what you do and how you do it so I’d
what you do and how you do it so I’d
what you do and how you do it so I’d like to tell you a little story about a
like to tell you a little story about a
like to tell you a little story about a team that I met a couple months ago he’s
team that I met a couple months ago he’s
team that I met a couple months ago he’s 12 years old and I was a teacher at this
12 years old and I was a teacher at this
12 years old and I was a teacher at this place I was there for three weeks and he
place I was there for three weeks and he
place I was there for three weeks and he actually stole my heart he was a cute
actually stole my heart he was a cute
actually stole my heart he was a cute young team and we just clicked from the
young team and we just clicked from the
young team and we just clicked from the beginning we had a lot of fun but I was
beginning we had a lot of fun but I was
beginning we had a lot of fun but I was also very attentive on him because he
also very attentive on him because he
also very attentive on him because he was a kid that very easily got
was a kid that very easily got
was a kid that very easily got distracted but he could also focus if
distracted but he could also focus if
distracted but he could also focus if you just you know tapped him on the back
you just you know tapped him on the back
you just you know tapped him on the back and say maybe should just be a little
and say maybe should just be a little
and say maybe should just be a little more attentive or just listen to the
more attentive or just listen to the
more attentive or just listen to the teacher who’s like yeah yeah that’s true
teacher who’s like yeah yeah that’s true
teacher who’s like yeah yeah that’s true okay I’ll focus but if you didn’t say
okay I’ll focus but if you didn’t say
okay I’ll focus but if you didn’t say anything he wouldn’t do it
anything he wouldn’t do it
anything he wouldn’t do it because he was just demotivated and I
because he was just demotivated and I
because he was just demotivated and I kind of recognized myself in him in some
kind of recognized myself in him in some
kind of recognized myself in him in some ways although he was very wilder than I
ways although he was very wilder than I
ways although he was very wilder than I was so one day I came
was so one day I came
was so one day I came and his head was down his body language
and his head was down his body language
and his head was down his body language you know it’s very important with the
you know it’s very important with the
you know it’s very important with the body language any of you know anything
body language any of you know anything
body language any of you know anything about body language no yes so you know
about body language no yes so you know
about body language no yes so you know it’s very important to have a straight
it’s very important to have a straight
it’s very important to have a straight back to look people in the eyes and he
back to look people in the eyes and he
back to look people in the eyes and he was doing the total opposite of that so
was doing the total opposite of that so
was doing the total opposite of that so I grabbed him and I said to come on
I grabbed him and I said to come on
I grabbed him and I said to come on let’s go let’s go somewhere and talk so
let’s go let’s go somewhere and talk so
let’s go let’s go somewhere and talk so we went into the kitchen and this place
we went into the kitchen and this place
we went into the kitchen and this place was like very small like we barely had
was like very small like we barely had
was like very small like we barely had space for anything and I sat down to him
space for anything and I sat down to him
space for anything and I sat down to him and I said what’s going on
and I said what’s going on
and I said what’s going on he said I don’t know this is very
he said I don’t know this is very
he said I don’t know this is very overwhelming because this was at a place
overwhelming because this was at a place
overwhelming because this was at a place with about 20 other 12 year olds I mean
with about 20 other 12 year olds I mean
with about 20 other 12 year olds I mean imagine 220 students of 12 year olds
imagine 220 students of 12 year olds
imagine 220 students of 12 year olds girls and boys being wild and laughing
girls and boys being wild and laughing
girls and boys being wild and laughing and screaming and doing everything and
and screaming and doing everything and
and screaming and doing everything and for him this was a couple of days after
for him this was a couple of days after
for him this was a couple of days after and he was very overwhelming overwhelmed
and he was very overwhelming overwhelmed
and he was very overwhelming overwhelmed and I said to him okay and he said I
and I said to him okay and he said I
and I said to him okay and he said I have a headache I have a stomachache and
have a headache I have a stomachache and
have a headache I have a stomachache and as a coach as a team coach working with
as a coach as a team coach working with
as a coach as a team coach working with teens for the past three years I know
teens for the past three years I know
teens for the past three years I know that having a headache means something
that having a headache means something
that having a headache means something else I mean we all know that that means
else I mean we all know that that means
else I mean we all know that that means something else but it’s not always that
something else but it’s not always that
something else but it’s not always that we deal with it
we deal with it
we deal with it then may we might take a pill or we
then may we might take a pill or we
then may we might take a pill or we might go out to eat or might drink or
might go out to eat or might drink or
might go out to eat or might drink or might do something else that actually
might do something else that actually
might do something else that actually distracts us from the main issue so I
distracts us from the main issue so I
distracts us from the main issue so I said okay what’s going on hmm
said okay what’s going on hmm
said okay what’s going on hmm and it’s I mean bare mine this is a 12
and it’s I mean bare mine this is a 12
and it’s I mean bare mine this is a 12 year old boy he doesn’t always know the
year old boy he doesn’t always know the
year old boy he doesn’t always know the issue or what it is I looked him in the
issue or what it is I looked him in the
issue or what it is I looked him in the eye and I say you know what the role
eye and I say you know what the role
eye and I say you know what the role that you’re playing amongst the other
that you’re playing amongst the other
that you’re playing amongst the other guys here is actually draining you and
guys here is actually draining you and
guys here is actually draining you and he looked at me he was like I don’t
he looked at me he was like I don’t
he looked at me he was like I don’t understand
understand
understand and I said the role that you’re taking
and I said the role that you’re taking
and I said the role that you’re taking on the way that you are with all these
on the way that you are with all these
on the way that you are with all these other young
other young
other young people is not good is draining you and
people is not good is draining you and
people is not good is draining you and he looks at me he’s like you know what
he looks at me he’s like you know what
he looks at me he’s like you know what now that you say it I see what you mean
now that you say it I see what you mean
now that you say it I see what you mean and that was the most powerful moment
and that was the most powerful moment
and that was the most powerful moment for me as a coach as a human being that
for me as a coach as a human being that
for me as a coach as a human being that a 12 year old recognizes and admits and
a 12 year old recognizes and admits and
a 12 year old recognizes and admits and he finally can put into words or I did
he finally can put into words or I did
he finally can put into words or I did it for him but he actually can see that
it for him but he actually can see that
it for him but he actually can see that that was the issue so that was and
that was the issue so that was and
that was the issue so that was and that’s like it’s for me it’s a great
that’s like it’s for me it’s a great
that’s like it’s for me it’s a great shout out to parents that we are role
shout out to parents that we are role
shout out to parents that we are role models for children we are role models
models for children we are role models
models for children we are role models for our teens we need to help them
for our teens we need to help them
for our teens we need to help them create self-awareness and for for us to
create self-awareness and for for us to
create self-awareness and for for us to be able to create create self-awareness
be able to create create self-awareness
be able to create create self-awareness in our children and in our teens guess
in our children and in our teens guess
in our children and in our teens guess what we have to create it in ourselves
what we have to create it in ourselves
what we have to create it in ourselves first and it’s so important because it
first and it’s so important because it
first and it’s so important because it has consequences if we don’t create that
has consequences if we don’t create that
has consequences if we don’t create that self-awareness in ourselves that means
self-awareness in ourselves that means
self-awareness in ourselves that means creating better communication with your
creating better communication with your
creating better communication with your child with your teen well that also
child with your teen well that also
child with your teen well that also means that you have to communicate with
means that you have to communicate with
means that you have to communicate with yourself better so everything we do
yourself better so everything we do
yourself better so everything we do affect our children and teens and
affect our children and teens and
affect our children and teens and whether your parents are not here the
whether your parents are not here the
whether your parents are not here the same goes for you as well
same goes for you as well
same goes for you as well it’s the same thing you don’t have to
it’s the same thing you don’t have to
it’s the same thing you don’t have to have children to create self-awareness
have children to create self-awareness
have children to create self-awareness the only reason why I’m saying is
the only reason why I’m saying is
the only reason why I’m saying is because I work with teens and families
because I work with teens and families
because I work with teens and families so I know the consequences and I know
so I know the consequences and I know
so I know the consequences and I know what effect it has and what a big impact
what effect it has and what a big impact
what effect it has and what a big impact it has on families how many of you know
it has on families how many of you know
it has on families how many of you know or how many of you knew the word
or how many of you knew the word
or how many of you knew the word self-awareness because before you came
self-awareness because before you came
self-awareness because before you came in here today
so how many of you have worked with
so how many of you have worked with self-awareness exactly my point and it’s
self-awareness exactly my point and it’s
self-awareness exactly my point and it’s not a bad thing that not a lot of you
not a bad thing that not a lot of you
not a bad thing that not a lot of you have worked with self-awareness I’m just
have worked with self-awareness I’m just
have worked with self-awareness I’m just encouraging you then when you leave here
encouraging you then when you leave here
encouraging you then when you leave here today do yourself a favor and start
today do yourself a favor and start
today do yourself a favor and start looking into this it doesn’t mean that
looking into this it doesn’t mean that
looking into this it doesn’t mean that you have to take the same at your coach
you have to take the same at your coach
you have to take the same at your coach education as I did it doesn’t mean that
education as I did it doesn’t mean that
education as I did it doesn’t mean that you have to sit and meditate every day
you have to sit and meditate every day
you have to sit and meditate every day it doesn’t I mean it doesn’t mean
it doesn’t I mean it doesn’t mean
it doesn’t I mean it doesn’t mean there’s no right wrong with any of this
there’s no right wrong with any of this
there’s no right wrong with any of this and there is no correct way of doing it
and there is no correct way of doing it
and there is no correct way of doing it because we’re all individuals and we all
because we’re all individuals and we all
because we’re all individuals and we all do it differently but by by looking into
do it differently but by by looking into
do it differently but by by looking into self-awareness you can change your life
self-awareness you can change your life
self-awareness you can change your life so ask yourself this question so I’m
so ask yourself this question so I’m
so ask yourself this question so I’m going to end this on a question what
going to end this on a question what
going to end this on a question what step can you do already today just a
step can you do already today just a
step can you do already today just a small step that can help you change you
small step that can help you change you
small step that can help you change you and your life to create a better life
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