thanks guys it’s my mic on ok it’s not order to be here today so thank you for
order to be here today so thank you for
order to be here today so thank you for allowing me to speak so my name is John
allowing me to speak so my name is John
allowing me to speak so my name is John Kim I’m one of five thousand 623 John
Kim I’m one of five thousand 623 John
Kim I’m one of five thousand 623 John Kim’s just on this campus alone my my
Kim’s just on this campus alone my my
Kim’s just on this campus alone my my Korean name is Charlie but the teachers
Korean name is Charlie but the teachers
Korean name is Charlie but the teachers can pronounce it so they call me Chucky
can pronounce it so they call me Chucky
can pronounce it so they call me Chucky until the 4th grade until my parents
until the 4th grade until my parents
until the 4th grade until my parents went to a Korean fortune-teller and they
went to a Korean fortune-teller and they
went to a Korean fortune-teller and they came back with the name John and I was
came back with the name John and I was
came back with the name John and I was like that’s such a generic name but
like that’s such a generic name but
like that’s such a generic name but thank God they didn’t let a
thank God they didn’t let a
thank God they didn’t let a nine-year-old name himself a potty mouth
nine-year-old name himself a potty mouth
nine-year-old name himself a potty mouth nine-year-old name himself or Elsa I’d
nine-year-old name himself or Elsa I’d
nine-year-old name himself or Elsa I’d be standing in front of you today is
be standing in front of you today is
be standing in front of you today is like cannon man or maybe rad so what
like cannon man or maybe rad so what
like cannon man or maybe rad so what does my name have to do with resiliency
does my name have to do with resiliency
does my name have to do with resiliency so as I announced my Korean name there’s
so as I announced my Korean name there’s
so as I announced my Korean name there’s a part of me my pseudo side my false
a part of me my pseudo side my false
a part of me my pseudo side my false self that wants to rip out that chapter
self that wants to rip out that chapter
self that wants to rip out that chapter that’s embarrassed of that name and I
that’s embarrassed of that name and I
that’s embarrassed of that name and I have to fight that because I believe
have to fight that because I believe
have to fight that because I believe that the road to ourselves is where true
that the road to ourselves is where true
that the road to ourselves is where true resiliency lives so I tell people I’ve
resiliency lives so I tell people I’ve
resiliency lives so I tell people I’ve lived two lives there’s the old John Kim
lived two lives there’s the old John Kim
lived two lives there’s the old John Kim in the new John Kim and the Great Divide
in the new John Kim and the Great Divide
in the new John Kim and the Great Divide came in the form of a divorce and so the
came in the form of a divorce and so the
came in the form of a divorce and so the old John Kim pre divorce was struggling
old John Kim pre divorce was struggling
old John Kim pre divorce was struggling screenwriter and I read I ran the scenic
screenwriter and I read I ran the scenic
screenwriter and I read I ran the scenic nightclub in Hollywood and I was
nightclub in Hollywood and I was
nightclub in Hollywood and I was obsessed with chasing shiny things my
obsessed with chasing shiny things my
obsessed with chasing shiny things my idea of success was a three-picture deal
idea of success was a three-picture deal
idea of success was a three-picture deal the Porsche Range Rover combo in the
the Porsche Range Rover combo in the
the Porsche Range Rover combo in the horseshoe-shaped driveway the Glass
horseshoe-shaped driveway the Glass
horseshoe-shaped driveway the Glass House in the hills and a beautiful wife
House in the hills and a beautiful wife
House in the hills and a beautiful wife and I didn’t because I didn’t obtain
and I didn’t because I didn’t obtain
and I didn’t because I didn’t obtain those things I didn’t allow myself to be
those things I didn’t allow myself to be
those things I didn’t allow myself to be happy and so I spent a decade in coffee
happy and so I spent a decade in coffee
happy and so I spent a decade in coffee shops trying to think of clever dialogue
shops trying to think of clever dialogue
shops trying to think of clever dialogue and trying to sell the million dollar
and trying to sell the million dollar
and trying to sell the million dollar screenplay but I was exchanging my truth
screenplay but I was exchanging my truth
screenplay but I was exchanging my truth for membership to a club called success
for membership to a club called success
for membership to a club called success and I was wasn’t on the guest list so I
and I was wasn’t on the guest list so I
and I was wasn’t on the guest list so I was depressed and I was just like going
was depressed and I was just like going
was depressed and I was just like going through life empty hollow like a leaf
through life empty hollow like a leaf
through life empty hollow like a leaf and I was talking to my own therapist
and I was talking to my own therapist
and I was talking to my own therapist and he said John if you can’t make
and he said John if you can’t make
and he said John if you can’t make movies what do you want to do with your
movies what do you want to do with your
movies what do you want to do with your life and I said if I can’t move people
life and I said if I can’t move people
life and I said if I can’t move people by the masters I’ll do it one at a time
by the masters I’ll do it one at a time
by the masters I’ll do it one at a time I want to do it you’re doing so my
I want to do it you’re doing so my
I want to do it you’re doing so my mid-thirties I went back to school and I
mid-thirties I went back to school and I
mid-thirties I went back to school and I became a therapist and that was the
became a therapist and that was the
became a therapist and that was the beginning of my resiliency journey now
beginning of my resiliency journey now
beginning of my resiliency journey now the interested the interesting thing
the interested the interesting thing
the interested the interesting thing about a divorce is that it can shake
about a divorce is that it can shake
about a divorce is that it can shake your life at your sketch and if you
your life at your sketch and if you
your life at your sketch and if you don’t know what net just sketch is
don’t know what net just sketch is
don’t know what net just sketch is pretend like you do so I don’t feel old
pretend like you do so I don’t feel old
pretend like you do so I don’t feel old but it gives you a blank canvas and it
but it gives you a blank canvas and it
but it gives you a blank canvas and it allows you to start all over be someone
allows you to start all over be someone
allows you to start all over be someone different but more importantly allows
different but more importantly allows
different but more importantly allows you to connect yourself so that’s what I
you to connect yourself so that’s what I
you to connect yourself so that’s what I did I I got some tattoos I bought a
did I I got some tattoos I bought a
did I I got some tattoos I bought a motorcycle connecting to the 14 year old
motorcycle connecting to the 14 year old
motorcycle connecting to the 14 year old in me who was zipping around the
in me who was zipping around the
in me who was zipping around the neighborhood in his little lawn mower
neighborhood in his little lawn mower
neighborhood in his little lawn mower engine scooter and those were some of
engine scooter and those were some of
engine scooter and those were some of the best times of my life I I found
the best times of my life I I found
the best times of my life I I found CrossFit and connecting me to the 12
CrossFit and connecting me to the 12
CrossFit and connecting me to the 12 year old who was spinning on his head in
year old who was spinning on his head in
year old who was spinning on his head in the driveway my dad would come home with
the driveway my dad would come home with
the driveway my dad would come home with throw books at me and tell me this is
throw books at me and tell me this is
throw books at me and tell me this is not why we came to America and then I
not why we came to America and then I
not why we came to America and then I started a little blog called angry
started a little blog called angry
started a little blog called angry therapist connecting me to the writer
therapist connecting me to the writer
therapist connecting me to the writer that I locked into a Hope Chest when I
that I locked into a Hope Chest when I
that I locked into a Hope Chest when I quit screenwriting and I pulled the
quit screenwriting and I pulled the
quit screenwriting and I pulled the curtain back and I decided to be
curtain back and I decided to be
curtain back and I decided to be transparent I decided to be vulnerable I
transparent I decided to be vulnerable I
transparent I decided to be vulnerable I decided to show myself for the first
decided to show myself for the first
decided to show myself for the first time and basically I said that I’m
time and basically I said that I’m
time and basically I said that I’m divorced I’m hurting I’m broken and I’m
divorced I’m hurting I’m broken and I’m
divorced I’m hurting I’m broken and I’m a therapist how can I help you and it
a therapist how can I help you and it
a therapist how can I help you and it turned into a full practice and I
turned into a full practice and I
turned into a full practice and I started coaching people all over the
started coaching people all over the
started coaching people all over the world thousands of sessions and then
world thousands of sessions and then
world thousands of sessions and then offline I thought you know if we’re
offline I thought you know if we’re
offline I thought you know if we’re gonna talk about life let’s do life what
gonna talk about life let’s do life what
gonna talk about life let’s do life what we’re talking so I went on hikes and I
we’re talking so I went on hikes and I
we’re talking so I went on hikes and I would just zoom around town on my little
would just zoom around town on my little
would just zoom around town on my little more cycle met people in coffee shops
more cycle met people in coffee shops
more cycle met people in coffee shops around lakes I brought them into the
around lakes I brought them into the
around lakes I brought them into the fitness world and that led to a book
fitness world and that led to a book
fitness world and that led to a book deal and then it led to a company that I
deal and then it led to a company that I
deal and then it led to a company that I co-founded called shift and we’re
co-founded called shift and we’re
co-founded called shift and we’re training life coaches to help people
training life coaches to help people
training life coaches to help people help people and doing it in a way that’s
help people and doing it in a way that’s
help people and doing it in a way that’s honest to them and a lot of people are
honest to them and a lot of people are
honest to them and a lot of people are calling in a movement because we’re
calling in a movement because we’re
calling in a movement because we’re changing the way we change and all of
changing the way we change and all of
changing the way we change and all of that leading to me here today in this
that leading to me here today in this
that leading to me here today in this room encouraging you guys to throw away
room encouraging you guys to throw away
room encouraging you guys to throw away all your blueprints all your shoulds all
all your blueprints all your shoulds all
all your blueprints all your shoulds all your definitions on what you think
your definitions on what you think
your definitions on what you think success looks like that’s injected by
success looks like that’s injected by
success looks like that’s injected by commercials advertising society old
commercials advertising society old
commercials advertising society old versions of yourself because true
versions of yourself because true
versions of yourself because true resiliency is about connection and that
resiliency is about connection and that
resiliency is about connection and that connection has to be honest in order for
connection has to be honest in order for
connection has to be honest in order for you to be at your potential and go in
you to be at your potential and go in
you to be at your potential and go in the direction that you’re meant to go in
the direction that you’re meant to go in
the direction that you’re meant to go in everyone else will adjust let me say
everyone else will adjust let me say
everyone else will adjust let me say that again everyone will adjust
that again everyone will adjust
that again everyone will adjust including your parents send them the
including your parents send them the
including your parents send them the voicemail because your job here and this
voicemail because your job here and this
voicemail because your job here and this is what I’ve discovered
is what I’ve discovered
is what I’ve discovered it’s not to please anyone your job on
it’s not to please anyone your job on
it’s not to please anyone your job on this planet is not to please anyone it’s
this planet is not to please anyone it’s
this planet is not to please anyone it’s to live the most honest authentic life
to live the most honest authentic life
to live the most honest authentic life that you can because that’s the only way
that you can because that’s the only way
that you can because that’s the only way that your unique gifts will shine not
that your unique gifts will shine not
that your unique gifts will shine not for you but for us you have to get to a
for you but for us you have to get to a
for you but for us you have to get to a place where you not only connect with
place where you not only connect with
place where you not only connect with yourself but you actually like yourself
yourself but you actually like yourself
yourself but you actually like yourself because then you are no longer in parts
because then you are no longer in parts
because then you are no longer in parts your whole you become a squirrel and I
your whole you become a squirrel and I
your whole you become a squirrel and I was so nervous that I was gonna say
was so nervous that I was gonna say
was so nervous that I was gonna say squirrel at this part of the speech but
squirrel at this part of the speech but
squirrel at this part of the speech but it did say squirrel right okay so quick
it did say squirrel right okay so quick
it did say squirrel right okay so quick story a few weeks ago I was talking to
story a few weeks ago I was talking to
story a few weeks ago I was talking to my energy coach and she said John I feel
my energy coach and she said John I feel
my energy coach and she said John I feel like you’re elements you are marble and
like you’re elements you are marble and
like you’re elements you are marble and I said no I’m in Aries I’m fire and
I said no I’m in Aries I’m fire and
I said no I’m in Aries I’m fire and she’s like no I feel like you’re marble
she’s like no I feel like you’re marble
she’s like no I feel like you’re marble and I thought about this and I was like
and I thought about this and I was like
and I thought about this and I was like you know what you’re right so for the
you know what you’re right so for the
you know what you’re right so for the last 10 years I’ve been running toward
last 10 years I’ve been running toward
last 10 years I’ve been running toward myself and holding on to me with both
myself and holding on to me with both
myself and holding on to me with both hands and actually getting to a place
hands and actually getting to a place
hands and actually getting to a place where I’m okay with me and so I’ve
where I’m okay with me and so I’ve
where I’m okay with me and so I’ve become a swirl and no one can separate
become a swirl and no one can separate
become a swirl and no one can separate my color so you got to get to a place
my color so you got to get to a place
my color so you got to get to a place where you not only connect but you like
where you not only connect but you like
where you not only connect but you like yourself because if you like yourself
yourself because if you like yourself
yourself because if you like yourself you’re going to be compassionate toward
you’re going to be compassionate toward
you’re going to be compassionate toward yourself you’re going to stop working
yourself you’re going to stop working
yourself you’re going to stop working out chapters you’re going to stand on
out chapters you’re going to stand on
out chapters you’re going to stand on your truth you’re going to announce your
your truth you’re going to announce your
your truth you’re going to announce your Korean name yes these are notes I get
Korean name yes these are notes I get
Korean name yes these are notes I get tattoos so I could camouflage the notes
tattoos so I could camouflage the notes
tattoos so I could camouflage the notes when I speak
when I speak
when I speak so how do you do this how do you connect
so how do you do this how do you connect
so how do you do this how do you connect with yourself so you can be resilient
with yourself so you can be resilient
with yourself so you can be resilient there’s no complicated process you guys
there’s no complicated process you guys
there’s no complicated process you guys all know how to do this you listen to
all know how to do this you listen to
all know how to do this you listen to that faint whisper that you’ve been
that faint whisper that you’ve been
that faint whisper that you’ve been ignoring for so long and like in your
ignoring for so long and like in your
ignoring for so long and like in your relationship it’s built moment by moment
relationship it’s built moment by moment
relationship it’s built moment by moment day by day so you listen and you honor
day by day so you listen and you honor
day by day so you listen and you honor and you execute in everyday life until
and you execute in everyday life until
and you execute in everyday life until you feel complete until you feel whole
you feel complete until you feel whole
you feel complete until you feel whole until you feel connected until you’ve
until you feel connected until you’ve
until you feel connected until you’ve swam too far to turn back that’s when
swam too far to turn back that’s when
swam too far to turn back that’s when you lose your glasses and you’re given a
you lose your glasses and you’re given a
you lose your glasses and you’re given a cape so in closing I just want to say
cape so in closing I just want to say
cape so in closing I just want to say that resiliency isn’t about overcoming
that resiliency isn’t about overcoming
that resiliency isn’t about overcoming it’s about connecting and accepting and
it’s about connecting and accepting and
it’s about connecting and accepting and living that the byproduct of that is
living that the byproduct of that is
living that the byproduct of that is overcoming so if you want to be
overcoming so if you want to be
overcoming so if you want to be resilient blow up all your blueprints
resilient blow up all your blueprints
resilient blow up all your blueprints everything that you think you should be
everything that you think you should be
everything that you think you should be or where you should be in your life and
or where you should be in your life and
or where you should be in your life and walk into that massive rubble find that
walk into that massive rubble find that
walk into that massive rubble find that part of you that you’ve disconnected
part of you that you’ve disconnected
part of you that you’ve disconnected with and dust her off and let her speak
with and dust her off and let her speak
with and dust her off and let her speak thank you
thank you
thank you [Applause]
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