Hey hi everyone so I’m Carrie and [Music]
my car yeah the construction fortified
my car yeah the construction fortified structure DLC
hi I’m Carrie on your 13 and today I’m
hi I’m Carrie on your 13 and today I’m going to be talking about self
going to be talking about self
going to be talking about self reflection and how its kind of helped me
reflection and how its kind of helped me
reflection and how its kind of helped me overcome a lot of obstacles that were
overcome a lot of obstacles that were
overcome a lot of obstacles that were meaningful to me and my life so I’m
meaningful to me and my life so I’m
meaningful to me and my life so I’m going to start off telling you a story
going to start off telling you a story
going to start off telling you a story about something that happened to me a
about something that happened to me a
about something that happened to me a few years ago and so kind of after that
few years ago and so kind of after that
few years ago and so kind of after that I’m going to tell you about how this
I’m going to tell you about how this
I’m going to tell you about how this kind of inspired me to do more self
kind of inspired me to do more self
kind of inspired me to do more self reflection and how that’s helped me
reflection and how that’s helped me
reflection and how that’s helped me apply it to a lot of different aspects
apply it to a lot of different aspects
apply it to a lot of different aspects of my life so so this is now something
of my life so so this is now something
of my life so so this is now something strange this story so it’s about how one
strange this story so it’s about how one
strange this story so it’s about how one day I came home from school and it was
day I came home from school and it was
day I came home from school and it was after a really tiring day you know I’d
after a really tiring day you know I’d
after a really tiring day you know I’d stayed up late late the night before
stayed up late late the night before
stayed up late late the night before working on an assessment and so I was
working on an assessment and so I was
working on an assessment and so I was ready to come home and take a very long
ready to come home and take a very long
ready to come home and take a very long nap and so I got to my door and I lived
nap and so I got to my door and I lived
nap and so I got to my door and I lived inside my bag and I discovered that I
inside my bag and I discovered that I
inside my bag and I discovered that I left my phone key at home and so I was
left my phone key at home and so I was
left my phone key at home and so I was just standing outside my door and I was
just standing outside my door and I was
just standing outside my door and I was really really disappointed in myself so
really really disappointed in myself so
really really disappointed in myself so I sat down and I texted my mom and I
I sat down and I texted my mom and I
I sat down and I texted my mom and I just spent like the next two hours
just spent like the next two hours
just spent like the next two hours waiting for someone to get home and so
waiting for someone to get home and so
waiting for someone to get home and so in this time I had a lot of time to kind
in this time I had a lot of time to kind
in this time I had a lot of time to kind of reflect on you know the things that
of reflect on you know the things that
of reflect on you know the things that like maybe not
like maybe not
like maybe not remember the key because I was sitting
remember the key because I was sitting
remember the key because I was sitting outside and I have nothing to do and so
outside and I have nothing to do and so
outside and I have nothing to do and so because of that right I spent this time
because of that right I spent this time
because of that right I spent this time I’m thinking about why I bought it and
I’m thinking about why I bought it and
I’m thinking about why I bought it and you know at this point I like hated
you know at this point I like hated
you know at this point I like hated myself for not working on my assessment
myself for not working on my assessment
myself for not working on my assessment earlier I hated my teacher for setting
earlier I hated my teacher for setting
earlier I hated my teacher for setting this deadline I hated you know schools
this deadline I hated you know schools
this deadline I hated you know schools for have
for have
for have I hated all academic institutions for
I hated all academic institutions for
I hated all academic institutions for existing but after that after like you
existing but after that after like you
existing but after that after like you know this reflection process I realized
know this reflection process I realized
know this reflection process I realized that you know I forgot my key because
that you know I forgot my key because
that you know I forgot my key because boom I overslept the night before I was
boom I overslept the night before I was
boom I overslept the night before I was running a little bit late but since that
running a little bit late but since that
running a little bit late but since that day I have never forgotten my key again
day I have never forgotten my key again
day I have never forgotten my key again I never forgot it because I reflected on
I never forgot it because I reflected on
I never forgot it because I reflected on whether I could have changed anything
whether I could have changed anything
whether I could have changed anything about the reasons that happened but I
about the reasons that happened but I
about the reasons that happened but I like the reasons why I forgot it and I
like the reasons why I forgot it and I
like the reasons why I forgot it and I thought about how forgetting my key
thought about how forgetting my key
thought about how forgetting my key could kind of help me and be more
could kind of help me and be more
could kind of help me and be more valuable in the future and this is
valuable in the future and this is
valuable in the future and this is something that I feel like a lot of us
something that I feel like a lot of us
something that I feel like a lot of us need to do more because in Hong Kong you
need to do more because in Hong Kong you
need to do more because in Hong Kong you know we’re constantly really busy we’re
know we’re constantly really busy we’re
know we’re constantly really busy we’re constantly moving through our day law
constantly moving through our day law
constantly moving through our day law especially with the amount of school we
especially with the amount of school we
especially with the amount of school we have to do and so kind of it’s really
have to do and so kind of it’s really
have to do and so kind of it’s really important I think for me especially to
important I think for me especially to
important I think for me especially to take the time out of my day maybe like
take the time out of my day maybe like
take the time out of my day maybe like on the commute back home at the gym in
on the commute back home at the gym in
on the commute back home at the gym in the shower just think about something
the shower just think about something
the shower just think about something that we normally wouldn’t have thought
that we normally wouldn’t have thought
that we normally wouldn’t have thought twice about because in that process
twice about because in that process
twice about because in that process we’re able to kind of think about
we’re able to kind of think about
we’re able to kind of think about different things I really reflect on it
different things I really reflect on it
different things I really reflect on it and help maximize our experiences and
and help maximize our experiences and
and help maximize our experiences and improve our lives and so my experience
improve our lives and so my experience
improve our lives and so my experience was forgetting the key was valuable
was forgetting the key was valuable
was forgetting the key was valuable because I wouldn’t take that I you know
because I wouldn’t take that I you know
because I wouldn’t take that I you know ensure that the next time I remember to
ensure that the next time I remember to
ensure that the next time I remember to bring my key every time I passed the
bring my key every time I passed the
bring my key every time I passed the counter I’m like remember that time I
counter I’m like remember that time I
counter I’m like remember that time I saw outside my house
saw outside my house
saw outside my house and so that way you know by waiting
and so that way you know by waiting
and so that way you know by waiting outside I was able to think about it and
outside I was able to think about it and
outside I was able to think about it and we don’t only just suffer those same
we don’t only just suffer those same
we don’t only just suffer those same consequences but we can kind of take our
consequences but we can kind of take our
consequences but we can kind of take our different experiences and reflect on it
different experiences and reflect on it
different experiences and reflect on it and so the thing about like you know
and so the thing about like you know
and so the thing about like you know like we’ve all heard the saying we learn
like we’ve all heard the saying we learn
like we’ve all heard the saying we learn new things every day and so the reason
new things every day and so the reason
new things every day and so the reason why I almost don’t remember the new
why I almost don’t remember the new
why I almost don’t remember the new things that we’ve learned you know the
things that we’ve learned you know the
things that we’ve learned you know the reason why things are like that was a
reason why things are like that was a
reason why things are like that was a pretty useless day is because we don’t
pretty useless day is because we don’t
pretty useless day is because we don’t really take the time to reflect on those
really take the time to reflect on those
really take the time to reflect on those experiences and so kind of by taking
experiences and so kind of by taking
experiences and so kind of by taking that information that we have
that information that we have
that information that we have information that we stumble upon that’s
information that we stumble upon that’s
information that we stumble upon that’s the way that we can you know really
the way that we can you know really
the way that we can you know really improve our lives and so for example I
improve our lives and so for example I
improve our lives and so for example I recently read something online about how
recently read something online about how
recently read something online about how I could go is Fred you know I spent
I could go is Fred you know I spent
I could go is Fred you know I spent the entire day with you thinking about
the entire day with you thinking about
the entire day with you thinking about the threats that I’d like imagining blue
the threats that I’d like imagining blue
the threats that I’d like imagining blue sweat and green sweat and so I went home
sweat and green sweat and so I went home
sweat and green sweat and so I went home and I searched up online and I found out
and I searched up online and I found out
and I searched up online and I found out that this breaths luck isn’t actually
that this breaths luck isn’t actually
that this breaths luck isn’t actually sweat it’s a fluid that hippos secrete
sweat it’s a fluid that hippos secrete
sweat it’s a fluid that hippos secrete that acts as a sunscreen a moisturizer
that acts as a sunscreen a moisturizer
that acts as a sunscreen a moisturizer and a water color which is really cool
and a water color which is really cool
and a water color which is really cool so I went home right okay at home
so I went home right okay at home
so I went home right okay at home already so my friend at the dinner table
already so my friend at the dinner table
already so my friend at the dinner table I came back to school the next day I
I came back to school the next day I
I came back to school the next day I told my friends about it which was a
told my friends about it which was a
told my friends about it which was a really interesting conversation starter
really interesting conversation starter
really interesting conversation starter and I’m telling you about that now
and I’m telling you about that now
and I’m telling you about that now because it’s something that I remember
because it’s something that I remember
because it’s something that I remember because it’s something I reflected on
because it’s something I reflected on
because it’s something I reflected on and so it’s okay you know if today at
and so it’s okay you know if today at
and so it’s okay you know if today at this talk the only thing you remember is
this talk the only thing you remember is
this talk the only thing you remember is blood fled but I’d be very pleased
blood fled but I’d be very pleased
blood fled but I’d be very pleased because you’re taking the time now to
because you’re taking the time now to
because you’re taking the time now to reflect on this piece of knowledge and
reflect on this piece of knowledge and
reflect on this piece of knowledge and to really think about it and so if you
to really think about it and so if you
to really think about it and so if you go home today and if you do research on
go home today and if you do research on
go home today and if you do research on anything else with these talks anything
anything else with these talks anything
anything else with these talks anything from my top and if you kind of think
from my top and if you kind of think
from my top and if you kind of think about it and think about
about it and think about
about it and think about pipe to your own life then you’re doing
pipe to your own life then you’re doing
pipe to your own life then you’re doing further reflection and your further
further reflection and your further
further reflection and your further maximising your experience on the other
maximising your experience on the other
maximising your experience on the other hand if you’re just sitting here today
hand if you’re just sitting here today
hand if you’re just sitting here today and you don’t really think about what’s
and you don’t really think about what’s
and you don’t really think about what’s going on in these TED talks you go home
going on in these TED talks you go home
going on in these TED talks you go home you might forget about them in the next
you might forget about them in the next
you might forget about them in the next few weeks and you could have wasted an
few weeks and you could have wasted an
few weeks and you could have wasted an entire afternoon here but you could have
entire afternoon here but you could have
entire afternoon here but you could have been doing something else that was more
been doing something else that was more
been doing something else that was more productive so it’s kind of really
productive so it’s kind of really
productive so it’s kind of really important because through
important because through
important because through self-reflection for able to maximize
self-reflection for able to maximize
self-reflection for able to maximize every single one of the experiences we
every single one of the experiences we
every single one of the experiences we have no matter how uses they may seem
have no matter how uses they may seem
have no matter how uses they may seem and that’s having some kind of take
and that’s having some kind of take
and that’s having some kind of take advantage of them and really use them to
advantage of them and really use them to
advantage of them and really use them to our benefit and so because
our benefit and so because
our benefit and so because self-reflection helps us maximize the
self-reflection helps us maximize the
self-reflection helps us maximize the usefulness of our experiences helps us
usefulness of our experiences helps us
usefulness of our experiences helps us know more and improve for the future and
know more and improve for the future and
know more and improve for the future and it can just really help us like improve
it can just really help us like improve
it can just really help us like improve our lives right but it also does more
our lives right but it also does more
our lives right but it also does more than that it helps us get to know more
than that it helps us get to know more
than that it helps us get to know more about ourselves it helps us be more self
about ourselves it helps us be more self
about ourselves it helps us be more self aware and makes us better people in the
aware and makes us better people in the
aware and makes us better people in the long run and so if we want to know more
long run and so if we want to know more
long run and so if we want to know more about self reflection you can go come
about self reflection you can go come
about self reflection you can go come and do some research because I’m really
and do some research because I’m really
and do some research because I’m really not an expert today I’m going to be
not an expert today I’m going to be
not an expert today I’m going to be talking more about my experiences with
talking more about my experiences with
talking more about my experiences with self reflection and how it’s helped me
self reflection and how it’s helped me
self reflection and how it’s helped me with my life so something that I’ve
with my life so something that I’ve
with my life so something that I’ve always personally struggled with is
always personally struggled with is
always personally struggled with is image and self-esteem so like I never
image and self-esteem so like I never
image and self-esteem so like I never wear my hair down outside of my house
wear my hair down outside of my house
wear my hair down outside of my house until I was 14 because I really didn’t
until I was 14 because I really didn’t
until I was 14 because I really didn’t like my hair I constantly criticized how
like my hair I constantly criticized how
like my hair I constantly criticized how I looked you know I was always really
I looked you know I was always really
I looked you know I was always really worried about other people thought of me
worried about other people thought of me
worried about other people thought of me I was really conscious you know of
I was really conscious you know of
I was really conscious you know of whether they were saying bad things
whether they were saying bad things
whether they were saying bad things about me and I never really wanted to
about me and I never really wanted to
about me and I never really wanted to raise attention to myself and so I
raise attention to myself and so I
raise attention to myself and so I always you know I would always kind of
always you know I would always kind of
always you know I would always kind of try to sweep my problems underneath the
try to sweep my problems underneath the
try to sweep my problems underneath the carpet I would put on
carpet I would put on
carpet I would put on face and you know I never really tried
face and you know I never really tried
face and you know I never really tried to face them and I kind of just hoped
to face them and I kind of just hoped
to face them and I kind of just hoped that they would go away and so the thing
that they would go away and so the thing
that they would go away and so the thing about you know growing up in Hong Kong
about you know growing up in Hong Kong
about you know growing up in Hong Kong you know with Asian parents Eastern
you know with Asian parents Eastern
you know with Asian parents Eastern culture kind of really focuses on saving
culture kind of really focuses on saving
culture kind of really focuses on saving faces for yourself for your family you
faces for yourself for your family you
faces for yourself for your family you know being the best person that you can
know being the best person that you can
know being the best person that you can possibly be so that other people are
possibly be so that other people are
possibly be so that other people are like wow that family is so good that
like wow that family is so good that
like wow that family is so good that daughter is such a good daughter
daughter is such a good daughter
daughter is such a good daughter and so often because of this I felt like
and so often because of this I felt like
and so often because of this I felt like I was constantly under the pressure to
I was constantly under the pressure to
I was constantly under the pressure to being the best person I had to be for my
being the best person I had to be for my
being the best person I had to be for my family
family
family and to me this was you know this really
and to me this was you know this really
and to me this was you know this really happy confident successful person and so
happy confident successful person and so
happy confident successful person and so I was always so worried about trying to
I was always so worried about trying to
I was always so worried about trying to pretend to be this happy confident
pretend to be this happy confident
pretend to be this happy confident person you know in front of other
person you know in front of other
person you know in front of other families in front of other parents and I
families in front of other parents and I
families in front of other parents and I forgot to actually try to be that kind
forgot to actually try to be that kind
forgot to actually try to be that kind of person and so something that I’ve
of person and so something that I’ve
of person and so something that I’ve experienced really recently is this past
experienced really recently is this past
experienced really recently is this past May you know I was I was like chosen to
May you know I was I was like chosen to
May you know I was I was like chosen to be head girl status right and I was very
be head girl status right and I was very
be head girl status right and I was very very scared I mean it’s such an honor
very scared I mean it’s such an honor
very scared I mean it’s such an honor but it was such a frightening
but it was such a frightening
but it was such a frightening opportunity and I couldn’t help but feel
opportunity and I couldn’t help but feel
opportunity and I couldn’t help but feel like I was under the pressure to be the
like I was under the pressure to be the
like I was under the pressure to be the best representative possible
best representative possible
best representative possible and so what I struggled most Smith was
and so what I struggled most Smith was
and so what I struggled most Smith was feeling like I was good enough to hold
feeling like I was good enough to hold
feeling like I was good enough to hold this position you know I didn’t feel
this position you know I didn’t feel
this position you know I didn’t feel like I was as smart or as wise or
like I was as smart or as wise or
like I was as smart or as wise or intellectual as sophiar Njemanze the
intellectual as sophiar Njemanze the
intellectual as sophiar Njemanze the previous head girls whom I really admire
previous head girls whom I really admire
previous head girls whom I really admire and so I was really anxious about
and so I was really anxious about
and so I was really anxious about filling their shoes and so over the
filling their shoes and so over the
filling their shoes and so over the summer I watched Legally Blonde too for
summer I watched Legally Blonde too for
summer I watched Legally Blonde too for those unfamiliar with the movie that
those unfamiliar with the movie that
those unfamiliar with the movie that follows
follows
follows Elwood that’s really upbeat blonde who
Elwood that’s really upbeat blonde who
Elwood that’s really upbeat blonde who goes to Harvard Law School and becomes a
goes to Harvard Law School and becomes a
goes to Harvard Law School and becomes a really successful lawyer in the first
really successful lawyer in the first
really successful lawyer in the first movie and in the second movie she goes
movie and in the second movie she goes
movie and in the second movie she goes to washington DC to pass a law and so in
to washington DC to pass a law and so in
to washington DC to pass a law and so in this time you know nobody there takes L
this time you know nobody there takes L
this time you know nobody there takes L very seriously because she’s not the
very seriously because she’s not the
very seriously because she’s not the stereotypical lawyer you know she she
stereotypical lawyer you know she she
stereotypical lawyer you know she she she wears pink suits she loves hair
she wears pink suits she loves hair
she wears pink suits she loves hair salon she loves gossip magazines and so
salon she loves gossip magazines and so
salon she loves gossip magazines and so even though this was something that it
even though this was something that it
even though this was something that it was different she didn’t try to do
was different she didn’t try to do
was different she didn’t try to do things with other people’s methods you
things with other people’s methods you
things with other people’s methods you know even though people were like that’s
know even though people were like that’s
know even though people were like that’s not the way you’re supposed to do it she
not the way you’re supposed to do it she
not the way you’re supposed to do it she did what works for her and that’s why
did what works for her and that’s why
did what works for her and that’s why she ends up succeeding she did things
she ends up succeeding she did things
she ends up succeeding she did things the Elwood’s way and so instead of
the Elwood’s way and so instead of
the Elwood’s way and so instead of trying to fit in you know that’s what
trying to fit in you know that’s what
trying to fit in you know that’s what she did she did what she used her
she did she did what she used her
she did she did what she used her advantages she used her strengths to her
advantages she used her strengths to her
advantages she used her strengths to her advantage and so because of my low
advantage and so because of my low
advantage and so because of my low self-esteem you know I was caught
self-esteem you know I was caught
self-esteem you know I was caught comparing myself to other people I was
comparing myself to other people I was
comparing myself to other people I was constantly you know criticizing myself
constantly you know criticizing myself
constantly you know criticizing myself I’m comparing the things that other
I’m comparing the things that other
I’m comparing the things that other people had and I didn’t but watching
people had and I didn’t but watching
people had and I didn’t but watching this movie reminded me that every single
this movie reminded me that every single
this movie reminded me that every single person is different and we all have our
person is different and we all have our
person is different and we all have our strengths and weaknesses and so through
strengths and weaknesses and so through
strengths and weaknesses and so through self-reflection I asked myself questions
self-reflection I asked myself questions
self-reflection I asked myself questions about you know what I’m proud of what
about you know what I’m proud of what
about you know what I’m proud of what I’m grateful for what my own strengths
I’m grateful for what my own strengths
I’m grateful for what my own strengths and weaknesses are and through this
and weaknesses are and through this
and weaknesses are and through this process you know I gained this better
process you know I gained this better
process you know I gained this better emotional self-awareness and I was kind
emotional self-awareness and I was kind
emotional self-awareness and I was kind of getting better at recognizing Who I
of getting better at recognizing Who I
of getting better at recognizing Who I am
am
am and achieve kind of what I want to
and achieve kind of what I want to
and achieve kind of what I want to achieve and be who I want to be and so
achieve and be who I want to be and so
achieve and be who I want to be and so having that self-awareness is so
having that self-awareness is so
having that self-awareness is so important for the way we view the world
important for the way we view the world
important for the way we view the world and the way we accomplish things because
and the way we accomplish things because
and the way we accomplish things because it affects people around us as well and
it affects people around us as well and
it affects people around us as well and but we don’t think we’re good enough
but we don’t think we’re good enough
but we don’t think we’re good enough then we kind of Express that negativity
then we kind of Express that negativity
then we kind of Express that negativity to other people and it affects the way
to other people and it affects the way
to other people and it affects the way that other people treat us and so for
that other people treat us and so for
that other people treat us and so for example you know when we lack
example you know when we lack
example you know when we lack self-esteem if someone is better than
self-esteem if someone is better than
self-esteem if someone is better than we’re thinking why can’t I be better why
we’re thinking why can’t I be better why
we’re thinking why can’t I be better why am I so bad instead of you know feeling
am I so bad instead of you know feeling
am I so bad instead of you know feeling good about other people’s successes you
good about other people’s successes you
good about other people’s successes you know we’re constantly comparing
know we’re constantly comparing
know we’re constantly comparing ourselves to other people and we’re
ourselves to other people and we’re
ourselves to other people and we’re criticizing ourselves and so in that
criticizing ourselves and so in that
criticizing ourselves and so in that sense we’re feeling bad about what other
sense we’re feeling bad about what other
sense we’re feeling bad about what other people are good at and we’re not
people are good at and we’re not
people are good at and we’re not celebrating their talents with them
celebrating their talents with them
celebrating their talents with them instead
instead
instead sitting in a corner sulking and so going
sitting in a corner sulking and so going
sitting in a corner sulking and so going back to this idea of self reflection we
back to this idea of self reflection we
back to this idea of self reflection we need to choose you know a different view
need to choose you know a different view
need to choose you know a different view of the world and try to shift our
of the world and try to shift our
of the world and try to shift our perspective because our world is a
perspective because our world is a
perspective because our world is a reflection of ourselves when we see the
reflection of ourselves when we see the
reflection of ourselves when we see the world as a place where were inferior or
world as a place where were inferior or
world as a place where were inferior or not good enough that we are inferior and
not good enough that we are inferior and
not good enough that we are inferior and not good enough but we don’t believe in
not good enough but we don’t believe in
not good enough but we don’t believe in ourselves and we think we’re bad at
ourselves and we think we’re bad at
ourselves and we think we’re bad at something then you know our successes as
something then you know our successes as
something then you know our successes as loops and we treat our failures as proof
loops and we treat our failures as proof
loops and we treat our failures as proof that we were right instead of you know
that we were right instead of you know
that we were right instead of you know treating them as the motivation to
treating them as the motivation to
treating them as the motivation to improve and you know I see this all the
improve and you know I see this all the
improve and you know I see this all the time you got stole you know if we think
time you got stole you know if we think
time you got stole you know if we think we’re bad at math if we get a bad grade
we’re bad at math if we get a bad grade
we’re bad at math if we get a bad grade in our math class and we’re like I knew
in our math class and we’re like I knew
in our math class and we’re like I knew it like I’m bad at math but then if we
it like I’m bad at math but then if we
it like I’m bad at math but then if we do well then where they owe is just
do well then where they owe is just
do well then where they owe is just absolute like I’m just gonna do badly
absolute like I’m just gonna do badly
absolute like I’m just gonna do badly again next time and so I think that this
again next time and so I think that this
again next time and so I think that this is something that a lot of us need to
is something that a lot of us need to
is something that a lot of us need to try and you know shift our perspective
try and you know shift our perspective
try and you know shift our perspective because that way we can start to see our
because that way we can start to see our
because that way we can start to see our successes as things worth celebrating
successes as things worth celebrating
successes as things worth celebrating and our failures and said as motivation
and our failures and said as motivation
and our failures and said as motivation to improve so I’ve been doing gymnastics
to improve so I’ve been doing gymnastics
to improve so I’ve been doing gymnastics since I was four years old and I stopped
since I was four years old and I stopped
since I was four years old and I stopped when I was 11 because I broke my arm and
when I was 11 because I broke my arm and
when I was 11 because I broke my arm and then I started again four years later
then I started again four years later
then I started again four years later when I was 15 and so before I broke my
when I was 15 and so before I broke my
when I was 15 and so before I broke my arm I was never really scared of doing
arm I was never really scared of doing
arm I was never really scared of doing any skills you know they just came
any skills you know they just came
any skills you know they just came really easily to me but after going back
really easily to me but after going back
really easily to me but after going back having experienced how dangerous the
having experienced how dangerous the
having experienced how dangerous the sport was and like being older I was a
sport was and like being older I was a
sport was and like being older I was a lot more afraid and I’ve also you know
lot more afraid and I’ve also you know
lot more afraid and I’ve also you know taller and heavier so the skills felt
taller and heavier so the skills felt
taller and heavier so the skills felt very different and unfamiliar but I
very different and unfamiliar but I
very different and unfamiliar but I slowly started getting my skills back I
slowly started getting my skills back I
slowly started getting my skills back I started getting me
started getting me
started getting me since that but in all those years before
since that but in all those years before
since that but in all those years before and after I quit gymnastics both before
and after I quit gymnastics both before
and after I quit gymnastics both before and after I broke my arm the beam was
and after I broke my arm the beam was
and after I broke my arm the beam was always you know something that I was
always you know something that I was
always you know something that I was really really scared of because it’s
really really scared of because it’s
really really scared of because it’s it’s like this four inch wide piece of
it’s like this four inch wide piece of
it’s like this four inch wide piece of wood that’s what’s new flips on them
wood that’s what’s new flips on them
wood that’s what’s new flips on them yeah that’s really scary and so you know
yeah that’s really scary and so you know
yeah that’s really scary and so you know after reflecting I realized that that’s
after reflecting I realized that that’s
after reflecting I realized that that’s what genetics is about you know that’s
what genetics is about you know that’s
what genetics is about you know that’s what I love about it it’s like you know
what I love about it it’s like you know
what I love about it it’s like you know take adversities doing cool things I’m
take adversities doing cool things I’m
take adversities doing cool things I’m like going out of my comfort zone but
like going out of my comfort zone but
like going out of my comfort zone but you know every time I went on the beam I
you know every time I went on the beam I
you know every time I went on the beam I still have to face this fear and every
still have to face this fear and every
still have to face this fear and every time you know regardless of how I’ve
time you know regardless of how I’ve
time you know regardless of how I’ve shifted my perspective I was still
shifted my perspective I was still
shifted my perspective I was still really afraid and so I realized that
really afraid and so I realized that
really afraid and so I realized that while strength and ability are really
while strength and ability are really
while strength and ability are really important your mental awareness and kind
important your mental awareness and kind
important your mental awareness and kind of like being aware like your own
of like being aware like your own
of like being aware like your own emotions it’s really important that
emotions it’s really important that
emotions it’s really important that gymnastics because how we feel can
gymnastics because how we feel can
gymnastics because how we feel can affect the rest of your routine and so
affect the rest of your routine and so
affect the rest of your routine and so because I was scared every time I went
because I was scared every time I went
because I was scared every time I went on the beam I was so so careful and I
on the beam I was so so careful and I
on the beam I was so so careful and I like would do my skills very late
like would do my skills very late
like would do my skills very late attentively and jockeyed be like you
attentively and jockeyed be like you
attentively and jockeyed be like you know I felt but even though I like did
know I felt but even though I like did
know I felt but even though I like did them really tentatively you know I was
them really tentatively you know I was
them really tentatively you know I was still all myself and I still got low
still all myself and I still got low
still all myself and I still got low scores and I didn’t do well in
scores and I didn’t do well in
scores and I didn’t do well in competitions because I was afraid to
competitions because I was afraid to
competitions because I was afraid to practice I was afraid to go out of my
practice I was afraid to go out of my
practice I was afraid to go out of my comfort zone and maybe like I was afraid
comfort zone and maybe like I was afraid
comfort zone and maybe like I was afraid to fall
to fall
to fall and so I associated the beam with
and so I associated the beam with
and so I associated the beam with falling and so every time I fell this is
falling and so every time I fell this is
falling and so every time I fell this is proof that I was bad this is proof that
proof that I was bad this is proof that
proof that I was bad this is proof that I couldn’t practice more and improve
I couldn’t practice more and improve
I couldn’t practice more and improve because I was scared I’d fall
because I was scared I’d fall
because I was scared I’d fall but it wasn’t my abilities that were the
but it wasn’t my abilities that were the
but it wasn’t my abilities that were the problem if I did them on the floor I’d
problem if I did them on the floor I’d
problem if I did them on the floor I’d land them in the street mom I could do
land them in the street mom I could do
land them in the street mom I could do easily it was this mental barrier and so
easily it was this mental barrier and so
easily it was this mental barrier and so I kind of tried to approach my beam
I kind of tried to approach my beam
I kind of tried to approach my beam skills with more determination to get
skills with more determination to get
skills with more determination to get over this fear and I tried to shift my
over this fear and I tried to shift my
over this fear and I tried to shift my perspective again and so instead of
perspective again and so instead of
perspective again and so instead of thinking about how easily I could fall I
thinking about how easily I could fall I
thinking about how easily I could fall I thought about how easily I could stay on
thought about how easily I could stay on
thought about how easily I could stay on and once I shifted my perspective and
and once I shifted my perspective and
and once I shifted my perspective and once I started trying to kind of gain
once I started trying to kind of gain
once I started trying to kind of gain more confidence then my skills were
more confidence then my skills were
more confidence then my skills were performed better and I landed my skills
performed better and I landed my skills
performed better and I landed my skills yeah with a bang instead of what I did
yeah with a bang instead of what I did
yeah with a bang instead of what I did just now and so once I gave each skill
just now and so once I gave each skill
just now and so once I gave each skill my everything that instead of trying to
my everything that instead of trying to
my everything that instead of trying to do them like and cushioning my landing I
do them like and cushioning my landing I
do them like and cushioning my landing I started to improve
started to improve
started to improve but this also came with a trade-off
but this also came with a trade-off
but this also came with a trade-off right because my better skills came with
right because my better skills came with
right because my better skills came with a price when I did fall which I did over
a price when I did fall which I did over
a price when I did fall which I did over and over again
and over again
and over again I felt harder and faster and so I
I felt harder and faster and so I
I felt harder and faster and so I learned that I didn’t always succeed
learned that I didn’t always succeed
learned that I didn’t always succeed just because I shifted my perspective
just because I shifted my perspective
just because I shifted my perspective because things wouldn’t have changed
because things wouldn’t have changed
because things wouldn’t have changed just like that but giving it my
just like that but giving it my
just like that but giving it my everything and really kind of trying to
everything and really kind of trying to
everything and really kind of trying to do everything in the best way I possibly
do everything in the best way I possibly
do everything in the best way I possibly good made my successes worth celebrating
good made my successes worth celebrating
good made my successes worth celebrating and when I fell you know I learned that
and when I fell you know I learned that
and when I fell you know I learned that I just needed to reconstruct my
I just needed to reconstruct my
I just needed to reconstruct my confidence and try again and give it my
confidence and try again and give it my
confidence and try again and give it my best again now it would have been so
best again now it would have been so
best again now it would have been so easy to say I’m bad at the beam I just
easy to say I’m bad at the beam I just
easy to say I’m bad at the beam I just accept that and move on but instead of
accept that and move on but instead of
accept that and move on but instead of by changing my approach I became more
by changing my approach I became more
by changing my approach I became more confident and I
confident and I
confident and I better and so this is this is a kind of
better and so this is this is a kind of
better and so this is this is a kind of choice that we made I chose to shift my
choice that we made I chose to shift my
choice that we made I chose to shift my perspective and I chose to see the beam
perspective and I chose to see the beam
perspective and I chose to see the beam as something that I could succeed at
as something that I could succeed at
as something that I could succeed at instead of something I would fall off of
instead of something I would fall off of
instead of something I would fall off of we choose to climb a mountain and you
we choose to climb a mountain and you
we choose to climb a mountain and you know complain about the time hike up
know complain about the time hike up
know complain about the time hike up there or we can choose to get to the top
there or we can choose to get to the top
there or we can choose to get to the top I’m really taking the view I’d
I’m really taking the view I’d
I’m really taking the view I’d appreciate it and so today I know I’m
appreciate it and so today I know I’m
appreciate it and so today I know I’m not the wisest I know I’m not the most
not the wisest I know I’m not the most
not the wisest I know I’m not the most intellectual and I know that also fails
intellectual and I know that also fails
intellectual and I know that also fails sometimes and other people will be
sometimes and other people will be
sometimes and other people will be better than me
better than me
better than me but I feel like it was really important
but I feel like it was really important
but I feel like it was really important for me to understand that what people
for me to understand that what people
for me to understand that what people see about me and what people don’t say
see about me and what people don’t say
see about me and what people don’t say about me are so part of who I am
about me are so part of who I am
about me are so part of who I am and so even though I know that other
and so even though I know that other
and so even though I know that other people will still be better that’s okay
people will still be better that’s okay
people will still be better that’s okay and I’m getting better at shifting my
and I’m getting better at shifting my
and I’m getting better at shifting my perspective and recognizing my strengths
perspective and recognizing my strengths
perspective and recognizing my strengths and using them to my advantage instead
and using them to my advantage instead
and using them to my advantage instead of trying to do something someone else’s
of trying to do something someone else’s
of trying to do something someone else’s way as I know my weaknesses can help me
way as I know my weaknesses can help me
way as I know my weaknesses can help me strive to improve but I can do so I
strive to improve but I can do so I
strive to improve but I can do so I simultaneously be happy with who I am
simultaneously be happy with who I am
simultaneously be happy with who I am already so thanks for listening today
already so thanks for listening today
already so thanks for listening today and I hope that through self-reflection
and I hope that through self-reflection
and I hope that through self-reflection you were able to get something for my
you were able to get something for my
you were able to get something for my talk today
talk today
talk today [Applause]
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