imagine that you are pregnant
lives in a raised fourth floor is not
working
you just made some purchases of 10
very heavy food bags and your husband
refuses to help you carry the
shopping on the steps his seasoning
four floors not because you can not but
because he does not want and how he likes
go mule in your delicate state
load the purchases with a lot of effort and
in a few hours it starts to bleed you want
to your fetus
which is very clear that nobody was
hit but it’s also clear that the
negligence and sadism of her husband
it turned literally fatal is already
story is very very close to my life
receive help for physical abuse that is
you can see it ‘s hard to get help for
the out for the kind of abuse that is not
It is even more difficult
I grew up between the United States and the
Dominican republic being
Latin American and Black at the same time
low class in a racist class world
macho colorist what good
we pretend like women to
latina nor does exist do we have television and
we will have magazines or history books
and women like me just do not
exists
while moving mountains
will love women of now factions more
European
this is reflected in everyday life
it means that you are like me, we receive more
abuse and when they will tell us crumbs of
anything
or one to thank him because it is a
please make us being a black woman
means or is it for me
literally men
Latin Americans who are gentlemen or
how is it that they are factions more
European or whiter hair less
Crespo they open the door for her and me
they miss me in the face literally me
has happened many times because one
like she’s not a woman when she’s black
accustomed to abuse
I ended up in an abusive relationship but
I see the truth I did not understand
I was used to beaten women
but since I had no bruises and there was
loving moments supposedly everything was going
ok but it really was not like that
I suffered humiliations with such constants
scorn insults and always better for
myself that by bocona or that answered
or something defended me even when I had
19 years old and my boyfriend over six feet
hit me in the face they told me it was
by mouth and that surely not what
I searched
so why when he insults me I do not
they made you feel bad and you’re going to think like that
I deserved better
eventually I started to see myself
same how I looked useless a parasite
a good one for nothing
I started instead of how to figure out how
commit suicide I made plans as to what
could be really the only reason
why I did not do it because I have a
daughter her here I can not leave alone in
this kind of world while he lived that
dilemma I started a blog and learn about
of emotional abuse instead of writing
about that discrimination
racial gender
I received a lot of support many opportunities
also many things many threats
because he uses violence against
women is normal
a day like any other
I started writing about things that have
lived different types of abuse
emotional is high this time I started every
sentence with my life of the king and that
translate maybe my friend does not hit you
Native American suggested to me that
let’s make a hashtag and it also started
write their villages example was very
casual but by two days they had
hundreds of women’s tickets too
telling their stories a week to
well thousands around the world counting
not only example but also giving
account of what they had lived because
that kind of abuse or has normalized
that was at a time when I the
only access I had to reach that
integrates over the internet and I did not think
I would never get away much less than I was going to
be giving a chat about the topic
cintia garcía galindo communicated
with me
a few months later and suggested that what
let’s do in Spanish
I immediately said yes and
we started the work was done from
mexico what I could not take the
message spend women ‘s shelters
victims of domestic violence to
indigenous communities even to
hostels in california for women
ie migrants form a bridge from
the united states to latin america and the
world together
now that there is emotional abuse for
be exact is defined as actions or
words that purpose or are of
hurt and humiliate revenge for insult
evaluate it is very common to be blamed for
all your mistakes and good is imperative
that we start our homes with
our children that we start processes of
accounting of our communities that
let’s start listening and believing
victims when he tells his stories
support them to believe in ourselves and
get together and form our own
bridges
as well as we formed it interio and the thousands
of women around the world who
they joined my life and maybe I will not hit you
is in us to examine how we
they treat us as we treat
others and is in us form the
links and bridges as we did
simple extending the arms
extending help and support and basically
healing our communities
developing sensitive communities and
conscious and raising our children
in new and different ways
who are aware of all the
ways in which you can hurt the
people
Thank you
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for
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