when people think of narcissism the general response is disgust an image of
general response is disgust an image of
general response is disgust an image of a greedy egotistical and widely hated
a greedy egotistical and widely hated
a greedy egotistical and widely hated person who probably looks something like
person who probably looks something like
person who probably looks something like this as for me I usually think about the
this as for me I usually think about the
this as for me I usually think about the Greek myth of narcissus and echo echo
Greek myth of narcissus and echo echo
Greek myth of narcissus and echo echo was an imp
was an imp
was an imp who said something that offended Hera
who said something that offended Hera
who said something that offended Hera who was queen of the gods so as
who was queen of the gods so as
who was queen of the gods so as punishment echo was cursed so that she
punishment echo was cursed so that she
punishment echo was cursed so that she could only say the words last spoken to
could only say the words last spoken to
could only say the words last spoken to her she saw a narcissist a hunter
her she saw a narcissist a hunter
her she saw a narcissist a hunter sometime later and fell in love with him
sometime later and fell in love with him
sometime later and fell in love with him as did the majority of the other nips
as did the majority of the other nips
as did the majority of the other nips but he rejected them all because he
but he rejected them all because he
but he rejected them all because he thought that he was too good for them
thought that he was too good for them
thought that he was too good for them well these angry nips talked to
well these angry nips talked to
well these angry nips talked to Aphrodite the goddess of love and she
Aphrodite the goddess of love and she
Aphrodite the goddess of love and she cursed narcissus to fall in love with
cursed narcissus to fall in love with
cursed narcissus to fall in love with his own reflection as a punishment for
his own reflection as a punishment for
his own reflection as a punishment for being so cool he wasted away in funnel
being so cool he wasted away in funnel
being so cool he wasted away in funnel of pond
of pond
of pond staring at himself for the rest of his
staring at himself for the rest of his
staring at himself for the rest of his life and when he died his body was
life and when he died his body was
life and when he died his body was turned into the narcissus flower as a
turned into the narcissus flower as a
turned into the narcissus flower as a reminder of the consequences of being
reminder of the consequences of being
reminder of the consequences of being too self-absorbed we closely associate
too self-absorbed we closely associate
too self-absorbed we closely associate the message of this ancient story with a
the message of this ancient story with a
the message of this ancient story with a common word especially in today’s
common word especially in today’s
common word especially in today’s egocentric society narcissism the term
egocentric society narcissism the term
egocentric society narcissism the term narcissism can be used to describe a
narcissism can be used to describe a
narcissism can be used to describe a personality trait in which people become
personality trait in which people become
personality trait in which people become excessively self-centered narcissism can
excessively self-centered narcissism can
excessively self-centered narcissism can also refer to narcissistic personality
also refer to narcissistic personality
also refer to narcissistic personality disorder which is the presence of
disorder which is the presence of
disorder which is the presence of specific patterns of characteristics in
specific patterns of characteristics in
specific patterns of characteristics in an individual that limit affective
an individual that limit affective
an individual that limit affective personality functioning people with
personality functioning people with
personality functioning people with narcissistic personality disorder or MPD
narcissistic personality disorder or MPD
narcissistic personality disorder or MPD showcase an inflated sense of their own
showcase an inflated sense of their own
showcase an inflated sense of their own importance a deep need for admiration
importance a deep need for admiration
importance a deep need for admiration and a lack of empathy for others but
and a lack of empathy for others but
and a lack of empathy for others but most of you will never be affected by
most of you will never be affected by
most of you will never be affected by NPD according to a national study of
NPD according to a national study of
NPD according to a national study of major mental illnesses in 2008 only 6.2
major mental illnesses in 2008 only 6.2
major mental illnesses in 2008 only 6.2 percent of the United States population
percent of the United States population
percent of the United States population was diagnosed with it but while only a
was diagnosed with it but while only a
was diagnosed with it but while only a relatively small part of our society
relatively small part of our society
relatively small part of our society suffers from NPD
suffers from NPD
suffers from NPD a large portion exhibits traits of
a large portion exhibits traits of
a large portion exhibits traits of narcissism tradesmen are exactly
narcissism tradesmen are exactly
narcissism tradesmen are exactly healthier beneficial traits such as self
healthier beneficial traits such as self
healthier beneficial traits such as self aggrandizing attention-seeking behavior
aggrandizing attention-seeking behavior
aggrandizing attention-seeking behavior and fixation on materialism these traits
and fixation on materialism these traits
and fixation on materialism these traits are so intricately woven into our lives
are so intricately woven into our lives
are so intricately woven into our lives and expectations that it is hard to
and expectations that it is hard to
and expectations that it is hard to convince ourselves that they are a
convince ourselves that they are a
convince ourselves that they are a problem but believe me they are and
problem but believe me they are and
problem but believe me they are and these traits aren’t even a recent
these traits aren’t even a recent
these traits aren’t even a recent development the traits of narcissism
development the traits of narcissism
development the traits of narcissism that a majority of people exhibit can be
that a majority of people exhibit can be
that a majority of people exhibit can be traced back to an American society and
traced back to an American society and
traced back to an American society and made the shift from appreciating the
made the shift from appreciating the
made the shift from appreciating the greater good to focusing on the
greater good to focusing on the
greater good to focusing on the individual this created a society based
individual this created a society based
individual this created a society based on self admiration and love yourself
on self admiration and love yourself
on self admiration and love yourself messages at first these messages were
messages at first these messages were
messages at first these messages were directed towards people who really
directed towards people who really
directed towards people who really needed it like victims of emotional
needed it like victims of emotional
needed it like victims of emotional abuse but it was soon absorbed by
abuse but it was soon absorbed by
abuse but it was soon absorbed by everyone and it became important that
everyone and it became important that
everyone and it became important that everyone loved themselves the message in
everyone loved themselves the message in
everyone loved themselves the message in itself is well-intentioned but the
itself is well-intentioned but the
itself is well-intentioned but the extent to which you should value self
extent to which you should value self
extent to which you should value self and the way in which these messages are
and the way in which these messages are
and the way in which these messages are delivered have become warped with time
delivered have become warped with time
delivered have become warped with time this idea of love yourself is meant to
this idea of love yourself is meant to
this idea of love yourself is meant to say that if you believe in yourself and
say that if you believe in yourself and
say that if you believe in yourself and see yourself as succeeding you can be
see yourself as succeeding you can be
see yourself as succeeding you can be better but I fear that it has twisted
better but I fear that it has twisted
better but I fear that it has twisted into something else a motivator teaching
into something else a motivator teaching
into something else a motivator teaching people that what really matters is
people that what really matters is
people that what really matters is seeing yourself as better than you
seeing yourself as better than you
seeing yourself as better than you actually are
actually are
actually are this is when the lines between
this is when the lines between
this is when the lines between narcissistic traits and self-admiration
narcissistic traits and self-admiration
narcissistic traits and self-admiration become blurred another common
become blurred another common
become blurred another common self-admiration message that can be
self-admiration message that can be
self-admiration message that can be taken too far is telling yourself or
taken too far is telling yourself or
taken too far is telling yourself or being told especially as a kid that
being told especially as a kid that
being told especially as a kid that you’re special initially there’s nothing
you’re special initially there’s nothing
you’re special initially there’s nothing wrong with assuring your children that
wrong with assuring your children that
wrong with assuring your children that they are unique and should just be
they are unique and should just be
they are unique and should just be themselves but repeating this over and
themselves but repeating this over and
themselves but repeating this over and over can lead the child to believe that
over can lead the child to believe that
over can lead the child to believe that since they are special everyone should
since they are special everyone should
since they are special everyone should know that they are special and offer
know that they are special and offer
know that they are special and offer them special treatment in the United
them special treatment in the United
them special treatment in the United States especially we take the desire for
States especially we take the desire for
States especially we take the desire for narcissism vailed a self-esteem way too
narcissism vailed a self-esteem way too
narcissism vailed a self-esteem way too far and blur the lines in dangerous ways
far and blur the lines in dangerous ways
far and blur the lines in dangerous ways because it’s what we are taught to
because it’s what we are taught to
because it’s what we are taught to believe the increase in traits of
believe the increase in traits of
believe the increase in traits of narcissism seems to be growing steadily
narcissism seems to be growing steadily
narcissism seems to be growing steadily for example cosmetic plastic surgery
for example cosmetic plastic surgery
for example cosmetic plastic surgery used to enhance features that are
used to enhance features that are
used to enhance features that are considered attractive is five times more
considered attractive is five times more
considered attractive is five times more popular today than in the 1970s what’s
popular today than in the 1970s what’s
popular today than in the 1970s what’s even more interesting is that according
even more interesting is that according
even more interesting is that according to the narcissism epidemic written by
to the narcissism epidemic written by
to the narcissism epidemic written by doctors Jean xx and W Keith Campbell
doctors Jean xx and W Keith Campbell
doctors Jean xx and W Keith Campbell one out of four college students agreed
one out of four college students agreed
one out of four college students agreed with the majority of items on a list of
with the majority of items on a list of
with the majority of items on a list of standard narcissistic traits one reason
standard narcissistic traits one reason
standard narcissistic traits one reason cited by twins and Campbell for this
cited by twins and Campbell for this
cited by twins and Campbell for this rise in narcissism is the rise in
rise in narcissism is the rise in
rise in narcissism is the rise in valuing celebrities who also display
valuing celebrities who also display
valuing celebrities who also display narcissistic traits such as Kim
narcissistic traits such as Kim
narcissistic traits such as Kim Kardashian Kanye West and Paris Hilton
Kardashian Kanye West and Paris Hilton
Kardashian Kanye West and Paris Hilton one out of four teenagers say that they
one out of four teenagers say that they
one out of four teenagers say that they are influenced more by celebrities such
are influenced more by celebrities such
are influenced more by celebrities such as these and by people they know and to
as these and by people they know and to
as these and by people they know and to all the Americans with aspirations for
all the Americans with aspirations for
all the Americans with aspirations for being famous
being famous
being famous imitating the behaviors and habits
imitating the behaviors and habits
imitating the behaviors and habits displayed by these celebrities looks
displayed by these celebrities looks
displayed by these celebrities looks like the easy way out
like the easy way out
like the easy way out in the same study twins in Campbell
in the same study twins in Campbell
in the same study twins in Campbell discovered that of the 18 to 25 year old
discovered that of the 18 to 25 year old
discovered that of the 18 to 25 year old survey 51% said that becoming famous was
survey 51% said that becoming famous was
survey 51% said that becoming famous was an important goal for them just think
an important goal for them just think
an important goal for them just think about that more than half of our younger
about that more than half of our younger
about that more than half of our younger generation valued being known over
generation valued being known over
generation valued being known over solving global issues or helping their
solving global issues or helping their
solving global issues or helping their community in some impactful way what
community in some impactful way what
community in some impactful way what does that say about how we as a society
does that say about how we as a society
does that say about how we as a society view celebrities why are the people on
view celebrities why are the people on
view celebrities why are the people on our pedestals I’ll clear in the first
our pedestals I’ll clear in the first
our pedestals I’ll clear in the first place where do they fall in comparison
place where do they fall in comparison
place where do they fall in comparison to people like Jane Goodall or Bill
to people like Jane Goodall or Bill
to people like Jane Goodall or Bill Gates our society is placing greater
Gates our society is placing greater
Gates our society is placing greater emphasis on people at their face value
emphasis on people at their face value
emphasis on people at their face value contribution wise what does someone like
contribution wise what does someone like
contribution wise what does someone like Justin Bieber offer next to Nikola Tesla
Justin Bieber offer next to Nikola Tesla
Justin Bieber offer next to Nikola Tesla another widespread outlet of narcissism
another widespread outlet of narcissism
another widespread outlet of narcissism in our culture is the rise and
in our culture is the rise and
in our culture is the rise and importance of a strong social media
importance of a strong social media
importance of a strong social media presence social media is intended to
presence social media is intended to
presence social media is intended to edges as a way to keep in touch with
edges as a way to keep in touch with
edges as a way to keep in touch with friends and update others on your life
friends and update others on your life
friends and update others on your life which isn’t necessarily a bad thing but
which isn’t necessarily a bad thing but
which isn’t necessarily a bad thing but the reasons for using it have become
the reasons for using it have become
the reasons for using it have become distorted
distorted
distorted especially with developments such as
especially with developments such as
especially with developments such as selfies people with narcissistic traits
selfies people with narcissistic traits
selfies people with narcissistic traits ride on self-promotion and status
ride on self-promotion and status
ride on self-promotion and status symbols which they have easy access to
symbols which they have easy access to
symbols which they have easy access to through media sites of course this
through media sites of course this
through media sites of course this doesn’t mean that using social media
doesn’t mean that using social media
doesn’t mean that using social media automatically makes you a narcissist but
automatically makes you a narcissist but
automatically makes you a narcissist but it certainly encourages many of the
it certainly encourages many of the
it certainly encourages many of the traits displayed in a narcissistic
traits displayed in a narcissistic
traits displayed in a narcissistic personality for example a lot of social
personality for example a lot of social
personality for example a lot of social media
media
media it’s the user chance to like whatever
it’s the user chance to like whatever
it’s the user chance to like whatever post your video they see and a lot of
post your video they see and a lot of
post your video they see and a lot of the time people judge themselves based
the time people judge themselves based
the time people judge themselves based on the likes that they do or do not
on the likes that they do or do not
on the likes that they do or do not receive when did these lights especially
receive when did these lights especially
receive when did these lights especially the ones associated with images of
the ones associated with images of
the ones associated with images of bodies and beauty take over the purpose
bodies and beauty take over the purpose
bodies and beauty take over the purpose of social media why did we let it happen
of social media why did we let it happen
of social media why did we let it happen why are we giving users the tools to
why are we giving users the tools to
why are we giving users the tools to create a narcissistic personality online
create a narcissistic personality online
create a narcissistic personality online and how can we stop it the most
and how can we stop it the most
and how can we stop it the most important way that we can limit the
important way that we can limit the
important way that we can limit the epidemic is to first realize that
epidemic is to first realize that
epidemic is to first realize that narcissism is not a good thing all of
narcissism is not a good thing all of
narcissism is not a good thing all of the flashy things pretty phases and
the flashy things pretty phases and
the flashy things pretty phases and illusions of success may seem desirable
illusions of success may seem desirable
illusions of success may seem desirable but the traits that go along with it are
but the traits that go along with it are
but the traits that go along with it are not worth the long-term costs narcissism
not worth the long-term costs narcissism
not worth the long-term costs narcissism isn’t a serious threat to our society
isn’t a serious threat to our society
isn’t a serious threat to our society government or planet it’s not going to
government or planet it’s not going to
government or planet it’s not going to kill people or create catastrophe but
kill people or create catastrophe but
kill people or create catastrophe but narcissistic traits can lead to a
narcissistic traits can lead to a
narcissistic traits can lead to a miserable life valuing our image and
miserable life valuing our image and
miserable life valuing our image and self-worth of our actions and deeds is
self-worth of our actions and deeds is
self-worth of our actions and deeds is devastating it has been branded into us
devastating it has been branded into us
devastating it has been branded into us that others opinions make up who we are
that others opinions make up who we are
that others opinions make up who we are why should others get to shape us and
why should others get to shape us and
why should others get to shape us and tell us what we can and can’t do when
tell us what we can and can’t do when
tell us what we can and can’t do when did being liked for who we pretend to be
did being liked for who we pretend to be
did being liked for who we pretend to be means so much to us you can’t make
means so much to us you can’t make
means so much to us you can’t make yourself happy by measuring up to
yourself happy by measuring up to
yourself happy by measuring up to someone else’s standards and you can’t
someone else’s standards and you can’t
someone else’s standards and you can’t make yourself happy by forcing yourself
make yourself happy by forcing yourself
make yourself happy by forcing yourself to care about things simply because
to care about things simply because
to care about things simply because others value them think of narcissists
others value them think of narcissists
others value them think of narcissists who may have considered himself happy
who may have considered himself happy
who may have considered himself happy admiring himself for the rest of his
admiring himself for the rest of his
admiring himself for the rest of his life but was really too absorbed to
life but was really too absorbed to
life but was really too absorbed to realize what he was missing out on we
realize what he was missing out on we
realize what he was missing out on we need to take a step back and realize
need to take a step back and realize
need to take a step back and realize what we’re getting drawn into narcissism
what we’re getting drawn into narcissism
what we’re getting drawn into narcissism is not in any way beneficial or
is not in any way beneficial or
is not in any way beneficial or satisfying with narcissism there’s no
satisfying with narcissism there’s no
satisfying with narcissism there’s no happy ending by seeing ourselves as we
happy ending by seeing ourselves as we
happy ending by seeing ourselves as we really are we can step away from the
really are we can step away from the
really are we can step away from the temptation of self obsession and be
temptation of self obsession and be
temptation of self obsession and be happy without trying to make ourselves
happy without trying to make ourselves
happy without trying to make ourselves seem better than others try thinking of
seem better than others try thinking of
seem better than others try thinking of others not because you want to be a
others not because you want to be a
others not because you want to be a saint but because you genuinely want to
saint but because you genuinely want to
saint but because you genuinely want to make them happy cut back on all the
make them happy cut back on all the
make them happy cut back on all the unnecessary luxuries and remind yourself
unnecessary luxuries and remind yourself
unnecessary luxuries and remind yourself that your value is in who you are and
that your value is in who you are and
that your value is in who you are and not what you own narcissism it’s all
not what you own narcissism it’s all
not what you own narcissism it’s all about the ego
about the ego
about the ego the wealth the fame and the control but
the wealth the fame and the control but
the wealth the fame and the control but it is all a misconception there are much
it is all a misconception there are much
it is all a misconception there are much better values and much better ways of
better values and much better ways of
better values and much better ways of life thank you
life thank you
life thank you [Applause]
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