processing please wait who remembers being a teenager who is a teenager who
being a teenager who is a teenager who
being a teenager who is a teenager who plans on being a teenager teenagers say
plans on being a teenager teenagers say
plans on being a teenager teenagers say and do reckless things illogical things
and do reckless things illogical things
and do reckless things illogical things unreasonable things things that make
unreasonable things things that make
unreasonable things things that make adults COO and kids go ah and they claim
adults COO and kids go ah and they claim
adults COO and kids go ah and they claim to do it because you know that’s what
to do it because you know that’s what
to do it because you know that’s what they’re doing there they’re living they
they’re doing there they’re living they
they’re doing there they’re living they do strange and unusual things that make
do strange and unusual things that make
do strange and unusual things that make people question what is going on in
people question what is going on in
people question what is going on in their mind well I’m a teacher I’m a high
their mind well I’m a teacher I’m a high
their mind well I’m a teacher I’m a high school teacher I don’t deal with
school teacher I don’t deal with
school teacher I don’t deal with anything that’s not a teenager I deal
anything that’s not a teenager I deal
anything that’s not a teenager I deal with them all day and although I’m a
with them all day and although I’m a
with them all day and although I’m a teacher
teacher
teacher I’ve been called all of these things at
I’ve been called all of these things at
I’ve been called all of these things at one point or another I’ve been referred
one point or another I’ve been referred
one point or another I’ve been referred to as a counselor a mentor these are the
to as a counselor a mentor these are the
to as a counselor a mentor these are the nice ones jailer that’s a good one
nice ones jailer that’s a good one
nice ones jailer that’s a good one that’s detention right there
that’s detention right there
that’s detention right there if you ever curious mom that one’s my
if you ever curious mom that one’s my
if you ever curious mom that one’s my favorite dad wants that one confused me
favorite dad wants that one confused me
favorite dad wants that one confused me not gonna lie but basically you need to
not gonna lie but basically you need to
not gonna lie but basically you need to understand something this is a really
understand something this is a really
understand something this is a really really simple picture of a brain and I
really simple picture of a brain and I
really simple picture of a brain and I don’t need you to know much about it
don’t need you to know much about it
don’t need you to know much about it other than these three little things
other than these three little things
other than these three little things that big blue section that’s right here
that big blue section that’s right here
that big blue section that’s right here for all of you that’s curious that’s
for all of you that’s curious that’s
for all of you that’s curious that’s your prefrontal cortex and it’s
your prefrontal cortex and it’s
your prefrontal cortex and it’s responsible for reasoned thought in that
responsible for reasoned thought in that
responsible for reasoned thought in that part of your brain you make decisions
part of your brain you make decisions
part of your brain you make decisions based on logic and reason consequence
based on logic and reason consequence
based on logic and reason consequence weighing and thinking then you’ve got
weighing and thinking then you’ve got
weighing and thinking then you’ve got that little orange section that’s the
that little orange section that’s the
that little orange section that’s the hypothalamus that’s your emotional
hypothalamus that’s your emotional
hypothalamus that’s your emotional processing center it’s where you
processing center it’s where you
processing center it’s where you actually learn how to feel and retain
actually learn how to feel and retain
actually learn how to feel and retain memories which will go out into the
memories which will go out into the
memories which will go out into the other parts of your cortex and attach to
other parts of your cortex and attach to
other parts of your cortex and attach to it you have these two little almond
it you have these two little almond
it you have these two little almond shapes it’s only one on this picture
shapes it’s only one on this picture
shapes it’s only one on this picture butts on both sides called the amygdala
butts on both sides called the amygdala
butts on both sides called the amygdala and the amygdala has got all the
and the amygdala has got all the
and the amygdala has got all the dopamine circuits and neural circuitry
dopamine circuits and neural circuitry
dopamine circuits and neural circuitry in there which does positive
in there which does positive
in there which does positive reinforcement negative reinforcement and
reinforcement negative reinforcement and
reinforcement negative reinforcement and all those fun things fun part about this
all those fun things fun part about this
all those fun things fun part about this is well we have these big bridges huge
is well we have these big bridges huge
is well we have these big bridges huge bridges in the addled minds between the
bridges in the addled minds between the
bridges in the addled minds between the prefrontal cortex the big blue area
prefrontal cortex the big blue area
prefrontal cortex the big blue area and that gut instinct area but in
and that gut instinct area but in
and that gut instinct area but in teenagers well that’s not the case in
teenagers well that’s not the case in
teenagers well that’s not the case in teenagers you are actively remodeling
teenagers you are actively remodeling
teenagers you are actively remodeling your brain you have a brain when you’re
your brain you have a brain when you’re
your brain you have a brain when you’re a child we all know this children you
a child we all know this children you
a child we all know this children you agree you have a brain excellence adults
agree you have a brain excellence adults
agree you have a brain excellence adults we know we have a brain
we know we have a brain
we know we have a brain teenagers are reconstructing their brain
teenagers are reconstructing their brain
teenagers are reconstructing their brain they’re actively killing cells off wait
they’re actively killing cells off wait
they’re actively killing cells off wait they’re killing brain cells yeah daily
they’re killing brain cells yeah daily
they’re killing brain cells yeah daily they’re taking a sledgehammer right to
they’re taking a sledgehammer right to
they’re taking a sledgehammer right to that bridge and destroying it at the
that bridge and destroying it at the
that bridge and destroying it at the same time as construction now if you
same time as construction now if you
same time as construction now if you have been in the UAE long enough you
have been in the UAE long enough you
have been in the UAE long enough you understand that if you need to build
understand that if you need to build
understand that if you need to build something you need to break something
something you need to break something
something you need to break something down preferably at the same time and
down preferably at the same time and
down preferably at the same time and reroute traffic okay that is the teenage
reroute traffic okay that is the teenage
reroute traffic okay that is the teenage mind they are riru ting traffic through
mind they are riru ting traffic through
mind they are riru ting traffic through some pathway while breaking down
some pathway while breaking down
some pathway while breaking down something building something and neither
something building something and neither
something building something and neither parts like fitting yet adult thought
parts like fitting yet adult thought
parts like fitting yet adult thought impulse reason thought action teenage
impulse reason thought action teenage
impulse reason thought action teenage that this is the whole processing please
that this is the whole processing please
that this is the whole processing please wait section I’m telling you about the
wait section I’m telling you about the
wait section I’m telling you about the bridge is out people okay traffic is
bridge is out people okay traffic is
bridge is out people okay traffic is being rerouted there is an impulse that
being rerouted there is an impulse that
being rerouted there is an impulse that impulse seemed so good and I’m gonna do
impulse seemed so good and I’m gonna do
impulse seemed so good and I’m gonna do it right now that McLaren is calling my
it right now that McLaren is calling my
it right now that McLaren is calling my name if I sell my house I can have a
name if I sell my house I can have a
name if I sell my house I can have a McLaren the McLaren does not have a
McLaren the McLaren does not have a
McLaren the McLaren does not have a bathroom okay obviously I did not buy
bathroom okay obviously I did not buy
bathroom okay obviously I did not buy the McLaren teenage brain McLaren
the McLaren teenage brain McLaren
the McLaren teenage brain McLaren awesome fast speed what bathroom then
awesome fast speed what bathroom then
awesome fast speed what bathroom then they need to go to the bathroom that
they need to go to the bathroom that
they need to go to the bathroom that reason thought bridge is so narrow that
reason thought bridge is so narrow that
reason thought bridge is so narrow that sometimes it’s actually behind you get
sometimes it’s actually behind you get
sometimes it’s actually behind you get that impulse that idea this seems good
that impulse that idea this seems good
that impulse that idea this seems good I’m gonna do this right now
I’m gonna do this right now
I’m gonna do this right now or that looks like a really good idea or
or that looks like a really good idea or
or that looks like a really good idea or say something and their mouth is a foot
say something and their mouth is a foot
say something and their mouth is a foot ahead of their brain and then something
ahead of their brain and then something
ahead of their brain and then something comes out and you’re like why did you
comes out and you’re like why did you
comes out and you’re like why did you say that say what that I don’t know what
say that say what that I don’t know what
say that say what that I don’t know what I say did you even think about what you
I say did you even think about what you
I say did you even think about what you were saying yes after was that really
were saying yes after was that really
were saying yes after was that really good I didn’t maybe not so why did you
good I didn’t maybe not so why did you
good I didn’t maybe not so why did you do it oh okay
do it oh okay
do it oh okay so we’re good yep okay
so we’re good yep okay
so we’re good yep okay and they’ll come to you with all these
and they’ll come to you with all these
and they’ll come to you with all these things these crazy ideas these memories
things these crazy ideas these memories
things these crazy ideas these memories these plans and you’re just like whoa
these plans and you’re just like whoa
these plans and you’re just like whoa well don’t tell me this did you think
well don’t tell me this did you think
well don’t tell me this did you think this through and they’re like totally
this through and they’re like totally
this through and they’re like totally thought this dream like really yeah no
thought this dream like really yeah no
thought this dream like really yeah no maybe not well we all need something to
maybe not well we all need something to
maybe not well we all need something to blame people like to blame peer pressure
blame people like to blame peer pressure
blame people like to blame peer pressure they like to blame bad parenting they
they like to blame bad parenting they
they like to blame bad parenting they like to plan good parenting the friends
like to plan good parenting the friends
like to plan good parenting the friends the food the video games the cell phones
the food the video games the cell phones
the food the video games the cell phones anything that they can blame I give you
anything that they can blame I give you
anything that they can blame I give you something to blame right here is
something to blame right here is
something to blame right here is something called kiss pepsin it’s that
something called kiss pepsin it’s that
something called kiss pepsin it’s that really giant molecule over there I know
really giant molecule over there I know
really giant molecule over there I know if you can see it got well called kiss
if you can see it got well called kiss
if you can see it got well called kiss pepped in because it was discovered in
pepped in because it was discovered in
pepped in because it was discovered in 1996 that means it’s younger than me in
1996 that means it’s younger than me in
1996 that means it’s younger than me in fact I was almost a teenager when it was
fact I was almost a teenager when it was
fact I was almost a teenager when it was discovered so too late for my parents
discovered so too late for my parents
discovered so too late for my parents but this protein discovered in 1996
but this protein discovered in 1996
but this protein discovered in 1996 Hershey Pennsylvania where the Hershey
Hershey Pennsylvania where the Hershey
Hershey Pennsylvania where the Hershey factory is which makes kisses you’re
factory is which makes kisses you’re
factory is which makes kisses you’re getting the connection there we go there
getting the connection there we go there
getting the connection there we go there we go well done guys
we go well done guys
we go well done guys you have just used your brain actively
you have just used your brain actively
you have just used your brain actively like it’s but what it does it’s produced
like it’s but what it does it’s produced
like it’s but what it does it’s produced in three places your hypothalamus that
in three places your hypothalamus that
in three places your hypothalamus that emotional processing center it’s
emotional processing center it’s
emotional processing center it’s produced in the adrenal gland the
produced in the adrenal gland the
produced in the adrenal gland the adrenal gland is coincidentally where
adrenal gland is coincidentally where
adrenal gland is coincidentally where this very other common shall we say
this very other common shall we say
this very other common shall we say trigger is also made called adrenaline
trigger is also made called adrenaline
trigger is also made called adrenaline we’re mixing adrenaline with the let’s
we’re mixing adrenaline with the let’s
we’re mixing adrenaline with the let’s do something stupid protein evolution
do something stupid protein evolution
do something stupid protein evolution and I get my hands on you we’re gonna
and I get my hands on you we’re gonna
and I get my hands on you we’re gonna talk and then it’s made in the pancreas
talk and then it’s made in the pancreas
talk and then it’s made in the pancreas literally part of your gut system so
literally part of your gut system so
literally part of your gut system so what does it do we don’t know we don’t
what does it do we don’t know we don’t
what does it do we don’t know we don’t know much about it at all actually but
know much about it at all actually but
know much about it at all actually but what we do know is that it is the
what we do know is that it is the
what we do know is that it is the kickstart and the truth like it’s just
kickstart and the truth like it’s just
kickstart and the truth like it’s just about you straight into puberty before
about you straight into puberty before
about you straight into puberty before anything else this happens it gets
anything else this happens it gets
anything else this happens it gets released and it stimulates the huge
released and it stimulates the huge
released and it stimulates the huge cascade that we like to call the
cascade that we like to call the
cascade that we like to call the attitude phase everything gets kicked
attitude phase everything gets kicked
attitude phase everything gets kicked off by this protein and there’s a whole
off by this protein and there’s a whole
off by this protein and there’s a whole bunch of people who get back together
bunch of people who get back together
bunch of people who get back together every single year in fact the third
every single year in fact the third
every single year in fact the third conference just happened in March for
conference just happened in March for
conference just happened in March for kiss pepped in 2017 brain and beyond
kiss pepped in 2017 brain and beyond
kiss pepped in 2017 brain and beyond super awesome title what did we discover
super awesome title what did we discover
super awesome title what did we discover not much we just know that it does a
not much we just know that it does a
not much we just know that it does a whole bunch of stuff and we’re still
whole bunch of stuff and we’re still
whole bunch of stuff and we’re still working on it but if you don’t give it
working on it but if you don’t give it
working on it but if you don’t give it to mammalian mom
to mammalian mom
to mammalian mom like rats and bunny rabbits you get
like rats and bunny rabbits you get
like rats and bunny rabbits you get really really big babies
really really big babies
really really big babies there’s the ladies they don’t do
there’s the ladies they don’t do
there’s the ladies they don’t do anything I don’t like all right this is
anything I don’t like all right this is
anything I don’t like all right this is like adults who would spend their entire
like adults who would spend their entire
like adults who would spend their entire time coloring rainbows on your walls so
time coloring rainbows on your walls so
time coloring rainbows on your walls so now you have somebody to blame but I got
now you have somebody to blame but I got
now you have somebody to blame but I got bad news for you this bad boy starts
bad news for you this bad boy starts
bad news for you this bad boy starts causing changes starts causing changes
causing changes starts causing changes
causing changes starts causing changes around 14 causes these changes for the
around 14 causes these changes for the
around 14 causes these changes for the remodeling of your brain takes a giant
remodeling of your brain takes a giant
remodeling of your brain takes a giant sledgehammer and it takes what it calls
sledgehammer and it takes what it calls
sledgehammer and it takes what it calls a plan all right that plan is let’s
a plan all right that plan is let’s
a plan all right that plan is let’s listen to the environment and change it
listen to the environment and change it
listen to the environment and change it so that when we need to use stuff we
so that when we need to use stuff we
so that when we need to use stuff we have better access to it faster now that
have better access to it faster now that
have better access to it faster now that makes perfect sense but it takes this
makes perfect sense but it takes this
makes perfect sense but it takes this limiter and starts breaking down these
limiter and starts breaking down these
limiter and starts breaking down these bridges continues for about 10 years and
bridges continues for about 10 years and
bridges continues for about 10 years and girls about 12 years and guys they’re
girls about 12 years and guys they’re
girls about 12 years and guys they’re building bigger bridges people okay they
building bigger bridges people okay they
building bigger bridges people okay they need a few more years problem with it is
need a few more years problem with it is
need a few more years problem with it is it doesn’t end at the magical 19 to 20
it doesn’t end at the magical 19 to 20
it doesn’t end at the magical 19 to 20 teenagers are not the only ones who are
teenagers are not the only ones who are
teenagers are not the only ones who are doing this
doing this
doing this this process continues till about 24 to
this process continues till about 24 to
this process continues till about 24 to 26 I’m barely out of it so this reckless
26 I’m barely out of it so this reckless
26 I’m barely out of it so this reckless impulsive discovering nature behavior is
impulsive discovering nature behavior is
impulsive discovering nature behavior is happening for a decade of these young
happening for a decade of these young
happening for a decade of these young people’s life and during this decade
people’s life and during this decade
people’s life and during this decade that whole hypothalamus amygdala center
that whole hypothalamus amygdala center
that whole hypothalamus amygdala center is up regulated is hyper it is insane it
is up regulated is hyper it is insane it
is up regulated is hyper it is insane it is super excited and it is excited
is super excited and it is excited
is super excited and it is excited without talking the free frontal cortex
without talking the free frontal cortex
without talking the free frontal cortex which means it is super excited to do
which means it is super excited to do
which means it is super excited to do stuff and the person who’s supposed to
stuff and the person who’s supposed to
stuff and the person who’s supposed to be in control the P frontal cortex right
be in control the P frontal cortex right
be in control the P frontal cortex right there doesn’t know how to talk to it and
there doesn’t know how to talk to it and
there doesn’t know how to talk to it and be like think about this are you sure
be like think about this are you sure
be like think about this are you sure it’s a good idea well no but I’ll think
it’s a good idea well no but I’ll think
it’s a good idea well no but I’ll think about that later
about that later
about that later and believe it or not put them in the
and believe it or not put them in the
and believe it or not put them in the room with a bunch of teenagers and they
room with a bunch of teenagers and they
room with a bunch of teenagers and they actually feed off each other
actually feed off each other
actually feed off each other it’ll up regulate even more so anytime
it’ll up regulate even more so anytime
it’ll up regulate even more so anytime they’re in a room with teenagers they’ll
they’re in a room with teenagers they’ll
they’re in a room with teenagers they’ll be like oh my god I’m feeling amazingly
be like oh my god I’m feeling amazingly
be like oh my god I’m feeling amazingly horrible and awesome at the same time
horrible and awesome at the same time
horrible and awesome at the same time but I’m not sure why
aha
aha and I love when they come into my class
and I love when they come into my class
and I love when they come into my class they’re like hey miss like hey what’s up
they’re like hey miss like hey what’s up
they’re like hey miss like hey what’s up uh-huh
uh-huh
uh-huh you okay yeah but and now like two
you okay yeah but and now like two
you okay yeah but and now like two seconds later they’re like oh my god
seconds later they’re like oh my god
seconds later they’re like oh my god like what like it is Thursday
like what like it is Thursday
like what like it is Thursday yeah what’s Thursday five minutes ago –
yeah what’s Thursday five minutes ago –
yeah what’s Thursday five minutes ago – you still good yeah miss why aren’t you
you still good yeah miss why aren’t you
you still good yeah miss why aren’t you saying now can I have your phone why do
saying now can I have your phone why do
saying now can I have your phone why do you want my phone just put the phone in
you want my phone just put the phone in
you want my phone just put the phone in okay I’ll put the phone but I get this
okay I’ll put the phone but I get this
okay I’ll put the phone but I get this behavior on a different level than their
behavior on a different level than their
behavior on a different level than their parents i watch these same kids go to
parents i watch these same kids go to
parents i watch these same kids go to their parents and their parents like hey
their parents and their parents like hey
their parents and their parents like hey how’s your day and the only one of the
how’s your day and the only one of the
how’s your day and the only one of the is fine how’s school of school like
is fine how’s school of school like
is fine how’s school of school like uh-huh what did you do stuff do you have
uh-huh what did you do stuff do you have
uh-huh what did you do stuff do you have homework no can I go now and you’re like
homework no can I go now and you’re like
homework no can I go now and you’re like what happened to this vibrant kid well
what happened to this vibrant kid well
what happened to this vibrant kid well sorry parents you’re not their peers and
sorry parents you’re not their peers and
sorry parents you’re not their peers and because of that regulation it’s actually
because of that regulation it’s actually
because of that regulation it’s actually evolutionary they want to go and impress
evolutionary they want to go and impress
evolutionary they want to go and impress their peers because of that whole
their peers because of that whole
their peers because of that whole puberty thing and their brain tells them
puberty thing and their brain tells them
puberty thing and their brain tells them hey if you go hang out with your peers
hey if you go hang out with your peers
hey if you go hang out with your peers I’m gonna up regulate the good feeling
I’m gonna up regulate the good feeling
I’m gonna up regulate the good feeling and if you can get your peers to pay
and if you can get your peers to pay
and if you can get your peers to pay attention and look at you I’m gonna
attention and look at you I’m gonna
attention and look at you I’m gonna regulate it even more and do you know
regulate it even more and do you know
regulate it even more and do you know what the fastest way to make your peers
what the fastest way to make your peers
what the fastest way to make your peers look at you is go do something stupid
look at you is go do something stupid
look at you is go do something stupid like drive really fast or you know what
like drive really fast or you know what
like drive really fast or you know what jump off the bridge or so you have any
jump off the bridge or so you have any
jump off the bridge or so you have any burgers you can grab your mouth of the
burgers you can grab your mouth of the
burgers you can grab your mouth of the same time that’s a solid idea right
same time that’s a solid idea right
same time that’s a solid idea right there just keep yeah so every so often
there just keep yeah so every so often
there just keep yeah so every so often you’ll walk by teenagers and you’ll be
you’ll walk by teenagers and you’ll be
you’ll walk by teenagers and you’ll be like what are you doing they’re like
like what are you doing they’re like
like what are you doing they’re like nothing
nothing
nothing oh they’re processing things at a higher
oh they’re processing things at a higher
oh they’re processing things at a higher more elevated level they are feeling
more elevated level they are feeling
more elevated level they are feeling things more intensely than an adult is
things more intensely than an adult is
things more intensely than an adult is and the problem is they’re feeling it
and the problem is they’re feeling it
and the problem is they’re feeling it without the control there’s a whole they
without the control there’s a whole they
without the control there’s a whole they are processing it without the control of
are processing it without the control of
are processing it without the control of the prefrontal cortex so everything is
the prefrontal cortex so everything is
the prefrontal cortex so everything is like oh my god I’m again and what I
like oh my god I’m again and what I
like oh my god I’m again and what I don’t know okay what can I do to help
don’t know okay what can I do to help
don’t know okay what can I do to help you I don’t know well what’s wrong
you I don’t know well what’s wrong
you I don’t know well what’s wrong nothing okay take a seat we’ll deal with
nothing okay take a seat we’ll deal with
nothing okay take a seat we’ll deal with that later
that later
that later so these dopamine circuits are kicking
so these dopamine circuits are kicking
so these dopamine circuits are kicking up higher more expressively and there
up higher more expressively and there
up higher more expressively and there the uncontrolled and they’re worse
the uncontrolled and they’re worse
the uncontrolled and they’re worse around their peers which means that
around their peers which means that
around their peers which means that schools awesome but when they go around
schools awesome but when they go around
schools awesome but when they go around adults they’re still firing they don’t
adults they’re still firing they don’t
adults they’re still firing they don’t know how to control it and they mouth
know how to control it and they mouth
know how to control it and they mouth back oh oh so you got your parents going
back oh oh so you got your parents going
back oh oh so you got your parents going why won’t you listen to me well the
why won’t you listen to me well the
why won’t you listen to me well the answer is they have a sensitive and
answer is they have a sensitive and
answer is they have a sensitive and reactive amygdala okay was that mean
reactive amygdala okay was that mean
reactive amygdala okay was that mean well basically fear aggression
well basically fear aggression
well basically fear aggression self-consciousness depression anxiety
self-consciousness depression anxiety
self-consciousness depression anxiety all these are really really really
all these are really really really
all these are really really really strong and they’re sending the system’s
strong and they’re sending the system’s
strong and they’re sending the system’s firing everywhere but the bridge that’s
firing everywhere but the bridge that’s
firing everywhere but the bridge that’s telling them like really what are you
telling them like really what are you
telling them like really what are you afraid of or do you really think that’s
afraid of or do you really think that’s
afraid of or do you really think that’s a good idea or maybe you should think
a good idea or maybe you should think
a good idea or maybe you should think about this for a sec it’s just flat-out
about this for a sec it’s just flat-out
about this for a sec it’s just flat-out it’s not there
it’s not there
it’s not there so Dutch resources have said that the
so Dutch resources have said that the
so Dutch resources have said that the students will act in their environment
students will act in their environment
students will act in their environment or the young adults will act in their
or the young adults will act in their
or the young adults will act in their environment based on their environmental
environment based on their environmental
environment based on their environmental feeds which is good
feeds which is good
feeds which is good so they get a rise from something
so they get a rise from something
so they get a rise from something they’re gonna do it again
they’re gonna do it again
they’re gonna do it again toronto-based researchers took it one
toronto-based researchers took it one
toronto-based researchers took it one step further said okay that’s true
step further said okay that’s true
step further said okay that’s true that’s true but if you change their
that’s true but if you change their
that’s true but if you change their environment I don’t mean lock them up
environment I don’t mean lock them up
environment I don’t mean lock them up get that’s a bad idea the more you lock
get that’s a bad idea the more you lock
get that’s a bad idea the more you lock them up they’re more they’re gonna want
them up they’re more they’re gonna want
them up they’re more they’re gonna want to get out to do things but if you can
to get out to do things but if you can
to get out to do things but if you can create a delay in their idea of impulse
create a delay in their idea of impulse
create a delay in their idea of impulse action and get them to think for
action and get them to think for
action and get them to think for themselves even though that bridge is
themselves even though that bridge is
themselves even though that bridge is not fully constructed there’s still
not fully constructed there’s still
not fully constructed there’s still messages getting through there so the
messages getting through there so the
messages getting through there so the environment has an impact on the child
environment has an impact on the child
environment has an impact on the child we know this so if you can give them the
we know this so if you can give them the
we know this so if you can give them the time to think and this is why I called
time to think and this is why I called
time to think and this is why I called it processing please wait very often if
it processing please wait very often if
it processing please wait very often if you get them to stop back and take a
you get them to stop back and take a
you get them to stop back and take a minute longer to think hold them back
minute longer to think hold them back
minute longer to think hold them back give them an idea distract them they
give them an idea distract them they
give them an idea distract them they will get distracted and they’ll think
will get distracted and they’ll think
will get distracted and they’ll think about it and it won’t be so far because
about it and it won’t be so far because
about it and it won’t be so far because most of the time they won’t actually
most of the time they won’t actually
most of the time they won’t actually know why they’ve done something they’ve
know why they’ve done something they’ve
know why they’ve done something they’ve just done it because it seemed like a
just done it because it seemed like a
just done it because it seemed like a good idea or because it was that action
good idea or because it was that action
good idea or because it was that action from the impulse without the reason
from the impulse without the reason
from the impulse without the reason thought which means you’re a role model
thought which means you’re a role model
thought which means you’re a role model you want your kid to get off the phone
you want your kid to get off the phone
you want your kid to get off the phone get off your phone we’ve also found out
get off your phone we’ve also found out
get off your phone we’ve also found out something in the last few years called
something in the last few years called
something in the last few years called murim mirror neurons
murim mirror neurons
murim mirror neurons what these are are their neurons in the
what these are are their neurons in the
what these are are their neurons in the brain that are involved with did I lose
brain that are involved with did I lose
brain that are involved with did I lose my mind no sorry I think I did there we
my mind no sorry I think I did there we
my mind no sorry I think I did there we go
go
go so these mirror neurons what they do is
so these mirror neurons what they do is
so these mirror neurons what they do is they’re involved in empathy and
they’re involved in empathy and
they’re involved in empathy and development of behavior they watch you
development of behavior they watch you
development of behavior they watch you do something and they learn from it but
do something and they learn from it but
do something and they learn from it but believe it or not it just has to be a
believe it or not it just has to be a
believe it or not it just has to be a human face or a human
human face or a human
human face or a human esque face they do it with monkeys too
esque face they do it with monkeys too
esque face they do it with monkeys too so if you take a young child put them in
so if you take a young child put them in
so if you take a young child put them in front of a monkey and the monkey does
front of a monkey and the monkey does
front of a monkey and the monkey does stuff the child will do the same things
stuff the child will do the same things
stuff the child will do the same things monkey see monkey do has never been more
monkey see monkey do has never been more
monkey see monkey do has never been more true but these developments go through
true but these developments go through
true but these developments go through that limbic system and they process the
that limbic system and they process the
that limbic system and they process the same ideas so you stay on your phone
same ideas so you stay on your phone
same ideas so you stay on your phone they stay on their phone you don’t want
they stay on their phone you don’t want
they stay on their phone you don’t want to have conversation at dinner they
to have conversation at dinner they
to have conversation at dinner they don’t have conversation at dinner but
don’t have conversation at dinner but
don’t have conversation at dinner but what this also means is if you surround
what this also means is if you surround
what this also means is if you surround them with people let’s say you want them
them with people let’s say you want them
them with people let’s say you want them to do something fun and they’re like why
to do something fun and they’re like why
to do something fun and they’re like why I don’t wanna go be like hey why don’t
I don’t wanna go be like hey why don’t
I don’t wanna go be like hey why don’t you bring a friend now that does mean
you bring a friend now that does mean
you bring a friend now that does mean you’re gonna have not one but two
you’re gonna have not one but two
you’re gonna have not one but two teenagers potentially more around you at
teenagers potentially more around you at
teenagers potentially more around you at the same time and I know that’s a
the same time and I know that’s a
the same time and I know that’s a threatening idea okay it’s kinda like
threatening idea okay it’s kinda like
threatening idea okay it’s kinda like feeding Raptors you’ve seen this right
feeding Raptors you’ve seen this right
feeding Raptors you’ve seen this right okay same idea but if you bring two of
okay same idea but if you bring two of
okay same idea but if you bring two of them or three of them they will feed
them or three of them they will feed
them or three of them they will feed amongst each other and also be
amongst each other and also be
amongst each other and also be controlling themselves and you can make
controlling themselves and you can make
controlling themselves and you can make that positive environment that we’re
that positive environment that we’re
that positive environment that we’re talking about where you can actually
talking about where you can actually
talking about where you can actually have them around you where they feed off
have them around you where they feed off
have them around you where they feed off each other and build these processes and
each other and build these processes and
each other and build these processes and this bridge but you’re there to make
this bridge but you’re there to make
this bridge but you’re there to make sure that that reason thought bridge
sure that that reason thought bridge
sure that that reason thought bridge between impulse and action is you which
between impulse and action is you which
between impulse and action is you which is kind of cool so my advice be patient
is kind of cool so my advice be patient
is kind of cool so my advice be patient it’s gonna go on for a long time they
it’s gonna go on for a long time they
it’s gonna go on for a long time they are remodeling and they’re not
are remodeling and they’re not
are remodeling and they’re not remodeling just one lane they’re
remodeling just one lane they’re
remodeling just one lane they’re remodeling the most important part of
remodeling the most important part of
remodeling the most important part of their brain and they are becoming
their brain and they are becoming
their brain and they are becoming rational reasonable logical adults one
rational reasonable logical adults one
rational reasonable logical adults one horribly illogical unreasonable reckless
horribly illogical unreasonable reckless
horribly illogical unreasonable reckless action at a time and let’s face it I
action at a time and let’s face it I
action at a time and let’s face it I know some pretty reckless adults thank
know some pretty reckless adults thank
know some pretty reckless adults thank you
you
you [Applause]
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