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Power of Breakup | Onkar Kishan Khullar | TEDxRamanujanCollege


good morning everyone today it’s not

good morning everyone today it’s not about me it’s about all of you how many

about me it’s about all of you how many

about me it’s about all of you how many people over here are single can you

people over here are single can you

people over here are single can you please raise your hands okay we have a

please raise your hands okay we have a

please raise your hands okay we have a couple of single people over here how

couple of single people over here how

couple of single people over here how many are committed can you please raise

many are committed can you please raise

many are committed can you please raise your hands okay

your hands okay

your hands okay we still have a couple of people how

we still have a couple of people how

we still have a couple of people how many people over here have fallen in

many people over here have fallen in

many people over here have fallen in love okay all of you great how many of

love okay all of you great how many of

love okay all of you great how many of you have ever had a heartbreak cabesa

you have ever had a heartbreak cabesa

you have ever had a heartbreak cabesa Cadell to tie yes so a caution before I

Cadell to tie yes so a caution before I

Cadell to tie yes so a caution before I start that I will make sure that there

start that I will make sure that there

start that I will make sure that there will be one breakup in this room I

will be one breakup in this room I

will be one breakup in this room I cannot guarantee if there is one new

cannot guarantee if there is one new

cannot guarantee if there is one new relationship also but one breakup for

relationship also but one breakup for

relationship also but one breakup for sure Bollywood has made us see love

sure Bollywood has made us see love

sure Bollywood has made us see love stories as the end destination we have

stories as the end destination we have

stories as the end destination we have always been brought up that the ideal

always been brought up that the ideal

always been brought up that the ideal story when a actor meters actress when

story when a actor meters actress when

story when a actor meters actress when the hero meets a zero in is the ideal

the hero meets a zero in is the ideal

the hero meets a zero in is the ideal state is the destination to be but

state is the destination to be but

state is the destination to be but nobody talks about what if the story

nobody talks about what if the story

nobody talks about what if the story ends what if the entire story ends what

ends what if the entire story ends what

ends what if the entire story ends what if there is a heartbreak what after that

if there is a heartbreak what after that

if there is a heartbreak what after that what after the happily ever after nobody

what after the happily ever after nobody

what after the happily ever after nobody talks about that thousands of years ago

talks about that thousands of years ago

talks about that thousands of years ago man was God man had limitless powers as

man was God man had limitless powers as

man was God man had limitless powers as God would have suddenly man started

God would have suddenly man started

God would have suddenly man started misusing these powers abusing these

misusing these powers abusing these

misusing these powers abusing these powers and the Supreme God realized that

powers and the Supreme God realized that

powers and the Supreme God realized that he needs to take these away

so he asked his adviser where should I

so he asked his adviser where should I hide it

hide it

hide it so the first adviser said put it deep in

so the first adviser said put it deep in

so the first adviser said put it deep in the ground but then God said man would

the ground but then God said man would

the ground but then God said man would find that and dig it out the second

find that and dig it out the second

find that and dig it out the second advisor said put a deep in the ocean and

advisor said put a deep in the ocean and

advisor said put a deep in the ocean and God said that man will find that out as

God said that man will find that out as

God said that man will find that out as well

well

well the third adviser said put it at the top

the third adviser said put it at the top

the third adviser said put it at the top of the mountain and God said that man

of the mountain and God said that man

of the mountain and God said that man would climb that mountain one day so God

would climb that mountain one day so God

would climb that mountain one day so God so the Supreme God decided that this

so the Supreme God decided that this

so the Supreme God decided that this power the source of this part needs to

power the source of this part needs to

power the source of this part needs to be hidden in the heart of the man where

be hidden in the heart of the man where

be hidden in the heart of the man where it cannot be found yes the heart the key

it cannot be found yes the heart the key

it cannot be found yes the heart the key to this power are only two yes two one

to this power are only two yes two one

to this power are only two yes two one is love the other one is break up two

is love the other one is break up two

is love the other one is break up two keys this is how you’re going to access

keys this is how you’re going to access

keys this is how you’re going to access it first let’s talk about a favorite

it first let’s talk about a favorite

it first let’s talk about a favorite topic

topic

topic love I would like to have a small

love I would like to have a small

love I would like to have a small experiment over here can all of you for

experiment over here can all of you for

experiment over here can all of you for the next 20 seconds shake the hands of

the next 20 seconds shake the hands of

the next 20 seconds shake the hands of your right or your left partner and look

your right or your left partner and look

your right or your left partner and look him right in the eyes and smile that’s

him right in the eyes and smile that’s

him right in the eyes and smile that’s it

it

it just do that for 20 seconds look him in

just do that for 20 seconds look him in

just do that for 20 seconds look him in the eye smile and shake his hands I’m

the eye smile and shake his hands I’m

the eye smile and shake his hands I’m really sorry for the ones who don’t have

really sorry for the ones who don’t have

really sorry for the ones who don’t have a partner beside them yeah this is what

a partner beside them yeah this is what

a partner beside them yeah this is what love feels like and this is what I call

love feels like and this is what I call

love feels like and this is what I call chemical lucha in small quantities this

chemical lucha in small quantities this

chemical lucha in small quantities this is what love does you can even feel good

is what love does you can even feel good

is what love does you can even feel good or take the same medication if I may

or take the same medication if I may

or take the same medication if I may call from chocolates the same effect you

call from chocolates the same effect you

call from chocolates the same effect you will get it from chocolates the same

will get it from chocolates the same

will get it from chocolates the same effect you will get it from jamming or

effect you will get it from jamming or

effect you will get it from jamming or exercising whenever you exercise

exercising whenever you exercise

exercising whenever you exercise suddenly after sweating you feel like

suddenly after sweating you feel like

suddenly after sweating you feel like you can conquer the world suddenly that

you can conquer the world suddenly that

you can conquer the world suddenly that dopamine rush that is the small chemical

dopamine rush that is the small chemical

dopamine rush that is the small chemical Loach I am talking about but let’s talk

Loach I am talking about but let’s talk

Loach I am talking about but let’s talk about the bigger chemical lo cha which

about the bigger chemical lo cha which

about the bigger chemical lo cha which happens during love this chemical lucha

happens during love this chemical lucha

happens during love this chemical lucha is highly contagious like every other

is highly contagious like every other

is highly contagious like every other virus out there this emotional energy

virus out there this emotional energy

virus out there this emotional energy can be transferred from one person to

can be transferred from one person to

can be transferred from one person to another might be dreamy right this can’t

another might be dreamy right this can’t

another might be dreamy right this can’t be possible all of you must be thinking

research has shown that man traps his

research has shown that man traps his energy or his emotion in his creation

energy or his emotion in his creation

energy or his emotion in his creation the greatest artists of our time the

the greatest artists of our time the

the greatest artists of our time the poets have transferred it to their poems

poets have transferred it to their poems

poets have transferred it to their poems artists have transferred it to the

artists have transferred it to the

artists have transferred it to the paintings entrepreneurs have transferred

paintings entrepreneurs have transferred

paintings entrepreneurs have transferred it to their startups whether it’s a

it to their startups whether it’s a

it to their startups whether it’s a painting a poem a company a book a

painting a poem a company a book a

painting a poem a company a book a movement even food people do transfer

movement even food people do transfer

movement even food people do transfer their emotional energies still don’t

their emotional energies still don’t

their emotional energies still don’t believe me right the Greeks call this

believe me right the Greeks call this

believe me right the Greeks call this Meraki the power of doing things with

Meraki the power of doing things with

Meraki the power of doing things with love

love

love why is them why is your mom’s food the

why is them why is your mom’s food the

why is them why is your mom’s food the tastiest just one answer because it’s

tastiest just one answer because it’s

tastiest just one answer because it’s made from the heart that’s it that’s the

made from the heart that’s it that’s the

made from the heart that’s it that’s the emotional energy which is there that is

emotional energy which is there that is

emotional energy which is there that is why it is tasty but there is a flaw in

why it is tasty but there is a flaw in

why it is tasty but there is a flaw in love during love you only do impossible

love during love you only do impossible

love during love you only do impossible things for your partner that’s it not

things for your partner that’s it not

things for your partner that’s it not for anyone else not even for yourself

for anyone else not even for yourself

for anyone else not even for yourself you do it for the person you love how

you do it for the person you love how

you do it for the person you love how many times you must have said chance are

many times you must have said chance are

many times you must have said chance are eight or longer or I will get the moon

eight or longer or I will get the moon

eight or longer or I will get the moon for you human beings have this ability

for you human beings have this ability

for you human beings have this ability to transform themselves into something

to transform themselves into something

to transform themselves into something they cannot do when they are in love but

they cannot do when they are in love but

they cannot do when they are in love but only for that one person but now what

only for that one person but now what

only for that one person but now what about a heartbreak all of you must be

about a heartbreak all of you must be

about a heartbreak all of you must be thinking when I talk about a heartbreak

thinking when I talk about a heartbreak

thinking when I talk about a heartbreak it’s not related to just your partner

it’s not related to just your partner

it’s not related to just your partner it’s related to

it’s related to

it’s related to appearance to anyone you love even your

appearance to anyone you love even your

appearance to anyone you love even your friends whenever you are hurt that’s

friends whenever you are hurt that’s

friends whenever you are hurt that’s what a heartbreak is it can happen

what a heartbreak is it can happen

what a heartbreak is it can happen through three things either the person

through three things either the person

through three things either the person you love says no they cheat on you or

you love says no they cheat on you or

you love says no they cheat on you or they die this one these three things

they die this one these three things

they die this one these three things maximum cases this heartbreak can happen

maximum cases this heartbreak can happen

maximum cases this heartbreak can happen so I was I I went down the memory lane

so I was I I went down the memory lane

so I was I I went down the memory lane to find my own answers in 2005 at the

to find my own answers in 2005 at the

to find my own answers in 2005 at the age of 14 my first heartbreak I created

age of 14 my first heartbreak I created

age of 14 my first heartbreak I created a sketch fine great next after two years

a sketch fine great next after two years

a sketch fine great next after two years once again another heartbreak created a

once again another heartbreak created a

once again another heartbreak created a sculpture then I dropped out from two

sculpture then I dropped out from two

sculpture then I dropped out from two different colleges two not one left my

different colleges two not one left my

different colleges two not one left my family business as well my parents

family business as well my parents

family business as well my parents thought I have gone mad they took me to

thought I have gone mad they took me to

thought I have gone mad they took me to psychologist a psychiatrist you name it

psychologist a psychiatrist you name it

psychologist a psychiatrist you name it I was there I was with all the Swami the

I was there I was with all the Swami the

I was there I was with all the Swami the Baba’s whichever you can think of I have

Baba’s whichever you can think of I have

Baba’s whichever you can think of I have been dragged there in 2014 I created a

been dragged there in 2014 I created a

been dragged there in 2014 I created a painting out of thumb pins 16,000 thumb

painting out of thumb pins 16,000 thumb

painting out of thumb pins 16,000 thumb pins it took me three weeks and the

pins it took me three weeks and the

pins it took me three weeks and the fingers stopped working the painting of

fingers stopped working the painting of

fingers stopped working the painting of shiva and shakhty the perfect dough I

shiva and shakhty the perfect dough I

shiva and shakhty the perfect dough I didn’t feel any pain it was another

didn’t feel any pain it was another

didn’t feel any pain it was another energy which created it today I have

energy which created it today I have

energy which created it today I have left three colleges started and closed a

left three colleges started and closed a

left three colleges started and closed a lot of companies written a lot of books

lot of companies written a lot of books

lot of companies written a lot of books made a lot of paintings created lot of

made a lot of paintings created lot of

made a lot of paintings created lot of music and still trying to break some

music and still trying to break some

music and still trying to break some world records out there and I am still

world records out there and I am still

world records out there and I am still 25 but I have just realized that

25 but I have just realized that

25 but I have just realized that whatever have been doing from past years

whatever have been doing from past years

whatever have been doing from past years there is a pattern to all of it and the

there is a pattern to all of it and the

there is a pattern to all of it and the one common element is a hard

one common element is a hard

one common element is a hard whenever I have been heartbroken I’ve

whenever I have been heartbroken I’ve

whenever I have been heartbroken I’ve managed to do this plain and simple

managed to do this plain and simple

managed to do this plain and simple that’s it that’s what I saw after

that’s it that’s what I saw after

that’s it that’s what I saw after connecting my dots I thought I was mad

connecting my dots I thought I was mad

connecting my dots I thought I was mad and I was different but what is this so

and I was different but what is this so

and I was different but what is this so I just went out to find out whether it

I just went out to find out whether it

I just went out to find out whether it was just me or is it out there I

was just me or is it out there I

was just me or is it out there I realized that the biggest artists in

realized that the biggest artists in

realized that the biggest artists in history the biggest masterpieces are

history the biggest masterpieces are

history the biggest masterpieces are made after and heartbreak don’t believe

made after and heartbreak don’t believe

made after and heartbreak don’t believe me right Mumtaz Mahal died in 1631 his

me right Mumtaz Mahal died in 1631 his

me right Mumtaz Mahal died in 1631 his husband

husband

husband Shah Jahan commissioned what today we

Shah Jahan commissioned what today we

Shah Jahan commissioned what today we call as the Taj Mahal for her he spent

call as the Taj Mahal for her he spent

call as the Taj Mahal for her he spent 20 years and a billion dollars just for

20 years and a billion dollars just for

20 years and a billion dollars just for a memory plain and simple

a memory plain and simple

a memory plain and simple that’s the power of a heartbreak but

that’s the power of a heartbreak but

that’s the power of a heartbreak but that was what for 500 years ago artists

that was what for 500 years ago artists

that was what for 500 years ago artists from across the world whether it’s Amy

from across the world whether it’s Amy

from across the world whether it’s Amy Winehouse whether it’s Alexander whether

Winehouse whether it’s Alexander whether

Winehouse whether it’s Alexander whether Shakespeare whether this Adele all of

Shakespeare whether this Adele all of

Shakespeare whether this Adele all of them have been showing their scars and

them have been showing their scars and

them have been showing their scars and telling the world that this is the

telling the world that this is the

telling the world that this is the energy which drives them they are saying

energy which drives them they are saying

energy which drives them they are saying yes to scars they are showing it off

yes to scars they are showing it off

yes to scars they are showing it off they are not shy of it the world was not

they are not shy of it the world was not

they are not shy of it the world was not changed by gurus Baba’s or Swami’s but

changed by gurus Baba’s or Swami’s but

changed by gurus Baba’s or Swami’s but those who hide emotional energy who did

those who hide emotional energy who did

those who hide emotional energy who did not like what was going on that is the

not like what was going on that is the

not like what was going on that is the truth if you don’t believe me I would

truth if you don’t believe me I would

truth if you don’t believe me I would like to share an experiment with you all

like to share an experiment with you all

like to share an experiment with you all of you if you go back home or wherever

of you if you go back home or wherever

of you if you go back home or wherever you are just go and try up a heartbreak

you are just go and try up a heartbreak

you are just go and try up a heartbreak for

for

for and then see it I have experienced it

and then see it I have experienced it

and then see it I have experienced it that’s what I’m sharing today how does a

that’s what I’m sharing today how does a

that’s what I’m sharing today how does a breakup actually feel you must all be

breakup actually feel you must all be

breakup actually feel you must all be thinking for those who haven’t had it

during a breakup with each rock bottom

during a breakup with each rock bottom you’re in the most depressed stage of

you’re in the most depressed stage of

you’re in the most depressed stage of your life you’re broke you’re in pieces

your life you’re broke you’re in pieces

your life you’re broke you’re in pieces you’re at a edge you’re on the edge of a

you’re at a edge you’re on the edge of a

you’re at a edge you’re on the edge of a cliff you have no shame nothing left to

cliff you have no shame nothing left to

cliff you have no shame nothing left to lose that’s what the status you’re in

lose that’s what the status you’re in

lose that’s what the status you’re in and then there is a pattern in it the

and then there is a pattern in it the

and then there is a pattern in it the first thing which you notice is that

first thing which you notice is that

first thing which you notice is that you’re on the edge of a cliff you might

you’re on the edge of a cliff you might

you’re on the edge of a cliff you might fall or you might fly but you’re not

fall or you might fly but you’re not

fall or you might fly but you’re not scared of anything there is no fear at

scared of anything there is no fear at

scared of anything there is no fear at all there is nothing to lose secondly

all there is nothing to lose secondly

all there is nothing to lose secondly you have this extreme emotional energy

you have this extreme emotional energy

you have this extreme emotional energy whether it’s insecurity jealousy

whether it’s insecurity jealousy

whether it’s insecurity jealousy heartbreak depression everything there’s

heartbreak depression everything there’s

heartbreak depression everything there’s so much energy inside you which needs to

so much energy inside you which needs to

so much energy inside you which needs to come out so much inside you third you

come out so much inside you third you

come out so much inside you third you have the mental space even though you

have the mental space even though you

have the mental space even though you might be the busiest person on the

might be the busiest person on the

might be the busiest person on the planet still your mind becomes empty you

planet still your mind becomes empty you

planet still your mind becomes empty you still want to do things you’re still

still want to do things you’re still

still want to do things you’re still thinking about yourself you get suddenly

thinking about yourself you get suddenly

thinking about yourself you get suddenly so much time to introspect and that’s

so much time to introspect and that’s

so much time to introspect and that’s the time where you get to know what your

the time where you get to know what your

the time where you get to know what your heart really wants what you really want

heart really wants what you really want

heart really wants what you really want to do as soon as you get that emotional

to do as soon as you get that emotional

to do as soon as you get that emotional energy as soon as you get that emotional

energy as soon as you get that emotional

energy as soon as you get that emotional mental space so the formula is simple no

mental space so the formula is simple no

mental space so the formula is simple no fear lots of energy and a free mind

fear lots of energy and a free mind

fear lots of energy and a free mind whichever success book you open today

whichever success book you open today

whichever success book you open today that’s the formula which exists nothing

that’s the formula which exists nothing

that’s the formula which exists nothing else you can either fail or you can use

else you can either fail or you can use

else you can either fail or you can use this energy to fuel your success your

this energy to fuel your success your

this energy to fuel your success your success to making that painting you

success to making that painting you

success to making that painting you always wanted writing that poem which

always wanted writing that poem which

always wanted writing that poem which you always dreamt of or starting that

you always dreamt of or starting that

you always dreamt of or starting that company or that book or even that

company or that book or even that

company or that book or even that movement

movement

movement you can use it as that fuel without

you can use it as that fuel without

you can use it as that fuel without falling down before I end I would just

falling down before I end I would just

falling down before I end I would just like to give you one disclaimer please

like to give you one disclaimer please

like to give you one disclaimer please do not drop out from your college do not

do not drop out from your college do not

do not drop out from your college do not leave your jobs just find out what you

leave your jobs just find out what you

leave your jobs just find out what you really love to do that’s it what your

really love to do that’s it what your

really love to do that’s it what your heart is really telling you and where

heart is really telling you and where

heart is really telling you and where you can CH analyze this energy to thank

you can CH analyze this energy to thank

you can CH analyze this energy to thank you and have a nice day

you and have a nice day

you and have a nice day [Applause]

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