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Personality Matters! | Berfin Necimoglu | TEDxSciencesPoCampusMenton


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[Music] hello everyone I’m back in a gym

hello everyone I’m back in a gym

hello everyone I’m back in a gym although a second-year english track

although a second-year english track

although a second-year english track student from Salzburg Bali

student from Salzburg Bali

student from Salzburg Bali come to Stone Mountain now you might

come to Stone Mountain now you might

come to Stone Mountain now you might question why on earth would I start one

question why on earth would I start one

question why on earth would I start one of the most important speeches of my

of the most important speeches of my

of the most important speeches of my life with a sentence like that of all

life with a sentence like that of all

life with a sentence like that of all the quotes catchphrases hooks that I

the quotes catchphrases hooks that I

the quotes catchphrases hooks that I could use why would I choose that one

could use why would I choose that one

could use why would I choose that one there are millions of University

there are millions of University

there are millions of University students around the world 13,000 of

students around the world 13,000 of

students around the world 13,000 of which they’re studying in science

which they’re studying in science

which they’re studying in science Bhupathi clearly I’m not the only one

Bhupathi clearly I’m not the only one

Bhupathi clearly I’m not the only one with that title in college admission

with that title in college admission

with that title in college admission process is made out of different steps

process is made out of different steps

process is made out of different steps according to different institutions yet

according to different institutions yet

according to different institutions yet I believe it’s not just about your SAT

I believe it’s not just about your SAT

I believe it’s not just about your SAT scores or your GPA but more about your

scores or your GPA but more about your

scores or your GPA but more about your personality because I wouldn’t be

personality because I wouldn’t be

personality because I wouldn’t be acquiring that title of a sales bow

acquiring that title of a sales bow

acquiring that title of a sales bow student if it wasn’t for my personality

student if it wasn’t for my personality

student if it wasn’t for my personality you see this is a report that was

you see this is a report that was

you see this is a report that was written about me after my interview for

written about me after my interview for

written about me after my interview for South Pole in May 2015

South Pole in May 2015

South Pole in May 2015 one of the hardest 20 minutes of my

one of the hardest 20 minutes of my

one of the hardest 20 minutes of my academic life talking about Middle East

academic life talking about Middle East

academic life talking about Middle East and politic Middle Eastern conflicts

and politic Middle Eastern conflicts

and politic Middle Eastern conflicts commenting on articles that I’ve never

commenting on articles that I’ve never

commenting on articles that I’ve never read before it was rather challenging

read before it was rather challenging

read before it was rather challenging for me I’m not gonna lie and towards the

for me I’m not gonna lie and towards the

for me I’m not gonna lie and towards the end of my interview one of my

end of my interview one of my

end of my interview one of my interviewers asked me if I could tell

interviewers asked me if I could tell

interviewers asked me if I could tell them a book that I recently read she’d

them a book that I recently read she’d

them a book that I recently read she’d probably understood that I was not

probably understood that I was not

probably understood that I was not capable of answering any more questions

capable of answering any more questions

capable of answering any more questions related to politics but I also realized

related to politics but I also realized

related to politics but I also realized that it might need be a interview trick

that it might need be a interview trick

that it might need be a interview trick she wanted me to make something up

she wanted me to make something up

she wanted me to make something up something that I didn’t actually read

something that I didn’t actually read

something that I didn’t actually read and I was confident enough I’m sorry not

and I was confident enough I’m sorry not

and I was confident enough I’m sorry not to fall into this trap because I thought

to fall into this trap because I thought

to fall into this trap because I thought I already lost everything that I had so

I already lost everything that I had so

I already lost everything that I had so I said to her which was the truth the

I said to her which was the truth the

I said to her which was the truth the last book that I read was trip Mount

last book that I read was trip Mount

last book that I read was trip Mount Allah Madonna yeah

Allah Madonna yeah

Allah Madonna yeah the exact same reaction that I got from

the exact same reaction that I got from

the exact same reaction that I got from her she had no clue what I was talking

her she had no clue what I was talking

her she had no clue what I was talking about it was a Turkish novel and I

about it was a Turkish novel and I

about it was a Turkish novel and I didn’t even translate the title of the

didn’t even translate the title of the

didn’t even translate the title of the novel but then this made me realize that

novel but then this made me realize that

novel but then this made me realize that the tables were actually turning around

the tables were actually turning around

the tables were actually turning around for me so I was like I gained my

for me so I was like I gained my

for me so I was like I gained my confidence back and I was like oh you

confidence back and I was like oh you

confidence back and I was like oh you don’t know I was a very famous one in

don’t know I was a very famous one in

don’t know I was a very famous one in Turkey okay let me tell you about

Turkey okay let me tell you about

Turkey okay let me tell you about something that you might know as if I

something that you might know as if I

something that you might know as if I knew what I was talking about and I told

knew what I was talking about and I told

knew what I was talking about and I told him about the other novel that I

him about the other novel that I

him about the other novel that I recently read which was Veronica decides

recently read which was Veronica decides

recently read which was Veronica decides to die has nothing to do with politics

to die has nothing to do with politics

to die has nothing to do with politics it’s a psychological novel it’s about a

it’s a psychological novel it’s about a

it’s a psychological novel it’s about a girl who fails to commit suicide and is

girl who fails to commit suicide and is

girl who fails to commit suicide and is taken to a mental hospital where she

taken to a mental hospital where she

taken to a mental hospital where she learns the value of life and love I mean

learns the value of life and love I mean

learns the value of life and love I mean where’s the politics of this there is

where’s the politics of this there is

where’s the politics of this there is wait because in that hospital

wait because in that hospital

wait because in that hospital Veronica also learns how to listen to

Veronica also learns how to listen to

Veronica also learns how to listen to people and I personally believe that a

people and I personally believe that a

people and I personally believe that a politician should be a good listener

politician should be a good listener

politician should be a good listener above anything else so that’s what I

above anything else so that’s what I

above anything else so that’s what I told them with the exact same confidence

told them with the exact same confidence

told them with the exact same confidence that I have in front of you right now

that I have in front of you right now

that I have in front of you right now but I went out of the interview and I

but I went out of the interview and I

but I went out of the interview and I went to my parents I said there is no

went to my parents I said there is no

went to my parents I said there is no way that I’m getting in they hated me I

way that I’m getting in they hated me I

way that I’m getting in they hated me I could see it on their faces turns out I

could see it on their faces turns out I

could see it on their faces turns out I can’t read faces and see also admissions

can’t read faces and see also admissions

can’t read faces and see also admissions at a very good poker face because I did

at a very good poker face because I did

at a very good poker face because I did get in but not because they loved my

get in but not because they loved my

get in but not because they loved my problematic about Veronica or how I

problematic about Veronica or how I

problematic about Veronica or how I presented or what I said no they loved

presented or what I said no they loved

presented or what I said no they loved how I said it how I presented my

how I said it how I presented my

how I said it how I presented my arguments so when I saw this report last

arguments so when I saw this report last

arguments so when I saw this report last year March it brought the inevitable

year March it brought the inevitable

year March it brought the inevitable question into mind why do we give more

question into mind why do we give more

question into mind why do we give more importance to our grades to our titles

importance to our grades to our titles

importance to our grades to our titles than our personality

than our personality

than our personality it was my personality that helped me in

it was my personality that helped me in

it was my personality that helped me in that interview so why are we afraid of

that interview so why are we afraid of

that interview so why are we afraid of showing who we are do we always have to

showing who we are do we always have to

showing who we are do we always have to be trapped somewhere to reach out for

be trapped somewhere to reach out for

be trapped somewhere to reach out for our personality can’t we use it always

our personality can’t we use it always

our personality can’t we use it always and to question these a bit more and to

and to question these a bit more and to

and to question these a bit more and to find answers to these questions let’s

find answers to these questions let’s

find answers to these questions let’s take the simplest yet most effective

take the simplest yet most effective

take the simplest yet most effective example possible introducing ourselves

example possible introducing ourselves

example possible introducing ourselves what do you think matters when you

what do you think matters when you

what do you think matters when you introduce yourself to someone your name

introduce yourself to someone your name

introduce yourself to someone your name your title your university your high

your title your university your high

your title your university your high school or simply your qualities and what

school or simply your qualities and what

school or simply your qualities and what makes you you your creativity your your

makes you you your creativity your your

makes you you your creativity your your character according to see on suppose

character according to see on suppose

character according to see on suppose students it’s name that matters only

students it’s name that matters only

students it’s name that matters only name as I answered this question how do

name as I answered this question how do

name as I answered this question how do you how do you introduce yourself to

you how do you introduce yourself to

you how do you introduce yourself to someone you’ve just met they same name

someone you’ve just met they same name

someone you’ve just met they same name only sufficient and when you think about

only sufficient and when you think about

only sufficient and when you think about it duh name what am I gonna tell them my

it duh name what am I gonna tell them my

it duh name what am I gonna tell them my star sign okay but they answered very

star sign okay but they answered very

star sign okay but they answered very different two different things to the

different two different things to the

different two different things to the second question that I have because they

second question that I have because they

second question that I have because they told me they don’t actually remember the

told me they don’t actually remember the

told me they don’t actually remember the name of the people that they met huh

name of the people that they met huh

name of the people that they met huh okay so the idea is here that seals both

okay so the idea is here that seals both

okay so the idea is here that seals both students including me choose to

students including me choose to

students including me choose to introduce themselves with their names

introduce themselves with their names

introduce themselves with their names and their names only but don’t actually

and their names only but don’t actually

and their names only but don’t actually remember the names that they were

remember the names that they were

remember the names that they were introduced by okay and to give you one

introduced by okay and to give you one

introduced by okay and to give you one another scale in this question of name

another scale in this question of name

another scale in this question of name here’s what I found from my own country

here’s what I found from my own country

here’s what I found from my own country these are the most common five male and

these are the most common five male and

these are the most common five male and female names recorded in Turkey

female names recorded in Turkey

female names recorded in Turkey according to Turkish Statistical

according to Turkish Statistical

according to Turkish Statistical Institute and General Directorate of

Institute and General Directorate of

Institute and General Directorate of civil registration and Nationality and

civil registration and Nationality and

civil registration and Nationality and the first two well and the first two of

the first two well and the first two of

the first two well and the first two of each are given up to two million people

each are given up to two million people

each are given up to two million people okay so I’m asking you once again what

okay so I’m asking you once again what

okay so I’m asking you once again what is going to set us apart from all those

is going to set us apart from all those

is going to set us apart from all those people who share the same name with us

people who share the same name with us

people who share the same name with us when that is how we try to introduce

when that is how we try to introduce

when that is how we try to introduce ourselves and my answer to that question

ourselves and my answer to that question

ourselves and my answer to that question would be personality as I’m standing

would be personality as I’m standing

would be personality as I’m standing here in front of you right now

here in front of you right now

here in front of you right now I’m sure and I’m steady and I know that

I’m sure and I’m steady and I know that

I’m sure and I’m steady and I know that personality matters over the years

personality matters over the years

personality matters over the years politicians debaters scholars have shown

politicians debaters scholars have shown

politicians debaters scholars have shown us the importance of personality

us the importance of personality

us the importance of personality de-facto for those who can remember not

de-facto for those who can remember not

de-facto for those who can remember not that long ago in 1829 Don Quinn Andrew

that long ago in 1829 Don Quinn Andrew

that long ago in 1829 Don Quinn Andrew Jackson ran for the u.s. presidential

Jackson ran for the u.s. presidential

Jackson ran for the u.s. presidential elections with the

elections with the

elections with the open of Don Quincy Adams his opponent

open of Don Quincy Adams his opponent

open of Don Quincy Adams his opponent who can write or Andrew Jackson who can

who can write or Andrew Jackson who can

who can write or Andrew Jackson who can fight and this shows the significance of

fight and this shows the significance of

fight and this shows the significance of one’s personality over the substance of

one’s personality over the substance of

one’s personality over the substance of their work it is what leads to populism

their work it is what leads to populism

their work it is what leads to populism whether you’re supported or not and

whether you’re supported or not and

whether you’re supported or not and cults of personality and politics the

cults of personality and politics the

cults of personality and politics the phenomenon of charismatic leaders much

phenomenon of charismatic leaders much

phenomenon of charismatic leaders much can be said about the wide area of

can be said about the wide area of

can be said about the wide area of charismatic leaders that the world has

charismatic leaders that the world has

charismatic leaders that the world has seen as they have enjoyed varying levels

seen as they have enjoyed varying levels

seen as they have enjoyed varying levels of success on the job with different

of success on the job with different

of success on the job with different qualities and politics but one thing

qualities and politics but one thing

qualities and politics but one thing that they have in common is that people

that they have in common is that people

that they have in common is that people vote for them people elect them because

vote for them people elect them because

vote for them people elect them because they like the way they speak the way

they like the way they speak the way

they like the way they speak the way they just are because I’m not you’re on

they just are because I’m not you’re on

they just are because I’m not you’re on that report you so see on spell

that report you so see on spell

that report you so see on spell basically like nothing about my academic

basically like nothing about my academic

basically like nothing about my academic abilities it was just how I spoke but

abilities it was just how I spoke but

abilities it was just how I spoke but also when we think about politicians

also when we think about politicians

also when we think about politicians scholars historians that the world has

scholars historians that the world has

scholars historians that the world has seen there’s not that many that we can

seen there’s not that many that we can

seen there’s not that many that we can remember think about it people who you

remember think about it people who you

remember think about it people who you consider that have changed the world how

consider that have changed the world how

consider that have changed the world how many you can count for me it’s not that

many you can count for me it’s not that

many you can count for me it’s not that many handful maybe more than handful for

many handful maybe more than handful for

many handful maybe more than handful for example Bill Gates the founder of

example Bill Gates the founder of

example Bill Gates the founder of Microsoft is known for his dedication

Microsoft is known for his dedication

Microsoft is known for his dedication and hard work whereas Steve Jobs the

and hard work whereas Steve Jobs the

and hard work whereas Steve Jobs the co-founder of Apple is known for his wit

co-founder of Apple is known for his wit

co-founder of Apple is known for his wit creative thinking and eccentric

creative thinking and eccentric

creative thinking and eccentric personality both can be considered as

personality both can be considered as

personality both can be considered as equally successful in their fields but

equally successful in their fields but

equally successful in their fields but it is jobs that comes to mind as an

it is jobs that comes to mind as an

it is jobs that comes to mind as an innovator we do have stronger emotional

innovator we do have stronger emotional

innovator we do have stronger emotional ties when we use Apple products don’t we

ties when we use Apple products don’t we

ties when we use Apple products don’t we than any other phones computers and this

than any other phones computers and this

than any other phones computers and this ties into the image of jobs and what he

ties into the image of jobs and what he

ties into the image of jobs and what he has created his personality as we saw it

has created his personality as we saw it

has created his personality as we saw it he made it cool to be a college dropout

he made it cool to be a college dropout

he made it cool to be a college dropout or being fired from your very own

or being fired from your very own

or being fired from your very own company I don’t think that’s an easy

company I don’t think that’s an easy

company I don’t think that’s an easy feat to accomplish but normatively

feat to accomplish but normatively

feat to accomplish but normatively speaking the last two examples that I’ve

speaking the last two examples that I’ve

speaking the last two examples that I’ve given under Jackson and

given under Jackson and

given under Jackson and jobs can be considered as as I would

jobs can be considered as as I would

jobs can be considered as as I would like to call them positive personalities

like to call them positive personalities

like to call them positive personalities they put a smile on our faces when we

they put a smile on our faces when we

they put a smile on our faces when we think about these people we feel happy

think about these people we feel happy

think about these people we feel happy but a personality does not necessarily

but a personality does not necessarily

but a personality does not necessarily have to be good or positive for you to

have to be good or positive for you to

have to be good or positive for you to notice it right right because just after

notice it right right because just after

notice it right right because just after I asked that question we thought about a

I asked that question we thought about a

I asked that question we thought about a specific person who you don’t want to

specific person who you don’t want to

specific person who you don’t want to actually admit that has a strong

actually admit that has a strong

actually admit that has a strong personality you might not like the way

personality you might not like the way

personality you might not like the way they lead their lives the way they

they lead their lives the way they

they lead their lives the way they approach things but just after I asked

approach things but just after I asked

approach things but just after I asked that question even though was a

that question even though was a

that question even though was a rhetorical one you thought about him or

rhetorical one you thought about him or

rhetorical one you thought about him or her which proves that they made you

her which proves that they made you

her which proves that they made you remember them and those are the

remember them and those are the

remember them and those are the personalities that can turn heads around

personalities that can turn heads around

personalities that can turn heads around when they enter a room a very recent

when they enter a room a very recent

when they enter a room a very recent example can be given as Donald Trump

example can be given as Donald Trump

example can be given as Donald Trump it is widely said and known by his

it is widely said and known by his

it is widely said and known by his supporters that they find him honest and

supporters that they find him honest and

supporters that they find him honest and frank and they look beyond the elements

frank and they look beyond the elements

frank and they look beyond the elements in his policies that they disagree with

in his policies that they disagree with

in his policies that they disagree with some may be emailed to this charm and

some may be emailed to this charm and

some may be emailed to this charm and some might support it but it is

some might support it but it is

some might support it but it is pointless to deny that there is a charm

pointless to deny that there is a charm

pointless to deny that there is a charm which awarded him the presents

which awarded him the presents

which awarded him the presents presidency he made everyone remember him

presidency he made everyone remember him

presidency he made everyone remember him and those are the personalities that are

and those are the personalities that are

and those are the personalities that are strong enough to be politicians debaters

strong enough to be politicians debaters

strong enough to be politicians debaters scholars strong enough to make them them

scholars strong enough to make them them

scholars strong enough to make them them and take them who they are stat where

and take them who they are stat where

and take them who they are stat where they are standing right now and it’s

they are standing right now and it’s

they are standing right now and it’s definitely strong enough to make us who

definitely strong enough to make us who

definitely strong enough to make us who we are but another thing that all these

we are but another thing that all these

we are but another thing that all these examples that have given so far have in

examples that have given so far have in

examples that have given so far have in common is the fact that they had their

common is the fact that they had their

common is the fact that they had their time and chance unfortunately not all of

time and chance unfortunately not all of

time and chance unfortunately not all of us of the luck to be in the public eye

us of the luck to be in the public eye

us of the luck to be in the public eye and attract masses with our personality

and attract masses with our personality

and attract masses with our personality some of us try never get the chance some

some of us try never get the chance some

some of us try never get the chance some of us do get the chance some of us just

of us do get the chance some of us just

of us do get the chance some of us just don’t care for some it doesn’t matter to

don’t care for some it doesn’t matter to

don’t care for some it doesn’t matter to be remembered by masses it’s just that

be remembered by masses it’s just that

be remembered by masses it’s just that one person that matters whether it be an

one person that matters whether it be an

one person that matters whether it be an important individual or someone

important individual or someone

important individual or someone you love think about how happy when you

you love think about how happy when you

you love think about how happy when you feel when someone goes to you and says

feel when someone goes to you and says

feel when someone goes to you and says oh yeah I remember you

oh yeah I remember you

oh yeah I remember you you’re the clumsy one aren’t you so how

you’re the clumsy one aren’t you so how

you’re the clumsy one aren’t you so how do we reach to this point how do we make

do we reach to this point how do we make

do we reach to this point how do we make someone remember us but more importantly

someone remember us but more importantly

someone remember us but more importantly how do we make ourselves believe that

how do we make ourselves believe that

how do we make ourselves believe that personality matters of course it’s not

personality matters of course it’s not

personality matters of course it’s not something that can happen in a day in a

something that can happen in a day in a

something that can happen in a day in a blink of an eye it’s a process it has to

blink of an eye it’s a process it has to

blink of an eye it’s a process it has to be taken step by step but the first

be taken step by step but the first

be taken step by step but the first thing that we can do our first it can be

thing that we can do our first it can be

thing that we can do our first it can be changing the way we introduce ourselves

changing the way we introduce ourselves

changing the way we introduce ourselves next chance we have lunch break

next chance we have lunch break

next chance we have lunch break tonight’s party or any part of our lives

tonight’s party or any part of our lives

tonight’s party or any part of our lives when we introduce ourselves to someone

when we introduce ourselves to someone

when we introduce ourselves to someone let’s not be like Hello I’m so-and-so

let’s not be like Hello I’m so-and-so

let’s not be like Hello I’m so-and-so from so-and-so University studying

from so-and-so University studying

from so-and-so University studying so-and-so ha or I’m so-and-so from

so-and-so ha or I’m so-and-so from

so-and-so ha or I’m so-and-so from so-and-so company doing so-and-so your

so-and-so company doing so-and-so your

so-and-so company doing so-and-so your business card is for that every

business card is for that every

business card is for that every necessary information is written down

necessary information is written down

necessary information is written down there but what we’re trying to do is to

there but what we’re trying to do is to

there but what we’re trying to do is to make that person who’ve you’ve given the

make that person who’ve you’ve given the

make that person who’ve you’ve given the card to smile grin or even wrong when

card to smile grin or even wrong when

card to smile grin or even wrong when they find that card in the hidden places

they find that card in the hidden places

they find that card in the hidden places of their wallet five months after you’ve

of their wallet five months after you’ve

of their wallet five months after you’ve given it to them my grandfather a

given it to them my grandfather a

given it to them my grandfather a parliament member told me that he shakes

parliament member told me that he shakes

parliament member told me that he shakes up to 2,000 hands in a propaganda day

up to 2,000 hands in a propaganda day

up to 2,000 hands in a propaganda day and 250 to 300 in a regular day and when

and 250 to 300 in a regular day and when

and 250 to 300 in a regular day and when I asked him how many of these people we

I asked him how many of these people we

I asked him how many of these people we can actually remembers he told me 25

can actually remembers he told me 25

can actually remembers he told me 25 maybe 30 and when I asked him again why

maybe 30 and when I asked him again why

maybe 30 and when I asked him again why so little he told me I quote child I

so little he told me I quote child I

so little he told me I quote child I meet numerous people on there the same

meet numerous people on there the same

meet numerous people on there the same title and they’re the same company doing

title and they’re the same company doing

title and they’re the same company doing the same job under the same name even

the same job under the same name even

the same job under the same name even and the ones that I do remember at the

and the ones that I do remember at the

and the ones that I do remember at the ones that they can make a funny comment

ones that they can make a funny comment

ones that they can make a funny comment about politics or introduce themselves

about politics or introduce themselves

about politics or introduce themselves creatively or tell me genuinely in

creatively or tell me genuinely in

creatively or tell me genuinely in bluntly how they actually don’t agree

bluntly how they actually don’t agree

bluntly how they actually don’t agree with my politics so going back to what I

with my politics so going back to what I

with my politics so going back to what I said

said

said let’s try to use the next chance we have

let’s try to use the next chance we have

let’s try to use the next chance we have instead of presenting ourselves with a

instead of presenting ourselves with a

instead of presenting ourselves with a generic title let present let’s present

generic title let present let’s present

generic title let present let’s present what matters to us what makes us us

what matters to us what makes us us

what matters to us what makes us us because even though if they might hate

because even though if they might hate

because even though if they might hate it which is quite possible I’m telling

it which is quite possible I’m telling

it which is quite possible I’m telling you and there done that

you and there done that

you and there done that they’ll for sure remember it I know what

they’ll for sure remember it I know what

they’ll for sure remember it I know what you’re thinking right now I think I

you’re thinking right now I think I

you’re thinking right now I think I think I know we were thinking right now

think I know we were thinking right now

think I know we were thinking right now because about 15 minutes ago I

because about 15 minutes ago I

because about 15 minutes ago I introduced myself to you with the words

introduced myself to you with the words

introduced myself to you with the words hello I’m back in each Imola a second

hello I’m back in each Imola a second

hello I’m back in each Imola a second year English Jack student from science

year English Jack student from science

year English Jack student from science Bhupati confessed immortal and no I am

Bhupati confessed immortal and no I am

Bhupati confessed immortal and no I am not contradicting myself because that

not contradicting myself because that

not contradicting myself because that was just to show you that when we all go

was just to show you that when we all go

was just to show you that when we all go out of this room that name that title is

out of this room that name that title is

out of this room that name that title is not going to be anything but a small

not going to be anything but a small

not going to be anything but a small detail in a person’s personality the

detail in a person’s personality the

detail in a person’s personality the world might be a stage as they say and

world might be a stage as they say and

world might be a stage as they say and we are all merely the speakers but

we are all merely the speakers but

we are all merely the speakers but unfortunately we don’t always have 15

unfortunately we don’t always have 15

unfortunately we don’t always have 15 minutes so we have to make the most of

minutes so we have to make the most of

minutes so we have to make the most of our limited time so allow me once again

our limited time so allow me once again

our limited time so allow me once again hello I’m but you know what forget it

hello I’m but you know what forget it

hello I’m but you know what forget it thank you thank you thank you

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