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Pequeños gestos que cambian vidas | Mariano Oberlin | TEDxCordoba


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loneliness sometimes kills does not go as I eat

squeezing life this is doing it and I

I mean fundamentally the loneliness that

fruit of the exclusion fruit of

abandonment but also because not the

loneliness that is the result of ostracism

that self-inflicted loneliness is not only

the fruit of the every man for himself

I’m not interested in anyone

I do not need anything from anyone or want

need nothing and that others need

my

in front of this because I think that if

we had a minimal notion of power

immense and vivifying that each

gesture of love every gesture of closeness

every gesture of solidarity captures

we would go around generating meetings

and why is not it also resurrecting

dead

I say it because I feel myself a

dead resurrected when I was little

dad was kidnapped by the triple a and

to the tragic and profound absence that

that generated in my family that by

moments he gets in suspense when at night

we felt through the window that

they were approaching some steps down the street

thinking that maybe it was he who was going back to

merge in the embrace of reunion and

that I’m going to turn into sadness and

loneliness when that happens already long to

This tragedy was compounded by the fear of

abandonment and loneliness with respect to

neighbors and friends

maybe for fear of getting stuck with

us in that moment of us

we have been practically like

lepers

but thank God the story was another

these neighbors these friends not only

they did not leave but they all had

some gesture of closeness of simply

approaching to say if you are not alone

Here we are until we leave

rice package out there do not go to

scene on a day that we did not have nor

For that

some friendly people who had a fifth

in a twig that every year

brings us a barbour drawer and sometimes

that

savior week and cure of my parish

the Basque priest out there has been known

for many that a worker priest and when

charged the fortnight carries a basket

full of goodies hits the door

he ran out so nobody knows

who was

everyone knew but good was his

gesture was his way of appeasing a

little bit with that sweetness the bitterness that

we felt at that time and

even a family friend very friend of

my family that did not start to help with

the rent until it takes more or less

could be accommodated with work and with

economy

Then one day he told him that

it needed more the silver of the rent

and at the time they came and told us

We were gathering the staff of the

rent and some more pesos

we want to give you the house the house in

which my family lived to the day

today and that made me discover that the

loneliness kills but that solidarity

saves and can even resuscitate

Then I had to see my own life

is to do the same with others

in my house there is never a doctor missing

went to dinner or lunch that he received

some help of some kind never

missing guys too many spend

guys between the works of everything and

mom or was not the nurse arrive

many undernourished children malnourished at

dispensary and not for them received a

little time gives them food until

they could leave nutrition as you will see

In my house there was never any lack of food or desire

to eat

this one and so spend a lot of time up

that one day a mother arrived when

little one the most depressed the boys

malnourished and they stayed to live

for two years in my house and although

that at times I did not understand it and until

end of May a little bit of anger

because it was not so comfortable was a little house

chicanas and brothers my daughter or 7 the

family and three more

it was not the most comfortable thing for that too

that made me discover that solidarity

Let it be known that we are not alone

it gives us life until finally I

touched me eight years ago in a

parish east of the city of

córdoba barrio miguel maldonado with the

San Vicente cemetery area where

there is a need for shortages and

problems between the problems maybe one

of the most visible of drug trafficking and

the consumption of drugs

I barely arrived in less than a month

first after the expulsion he touched

responsible to know that the

prayer that we do the cures death not

the first three points that I got

to do were 25 17 and 19 years old that

they had committed suicide after a

episode of consumption and a girl of 4

years that had hanged her in that

At the moment there is talk that it could be a

account adjustment

we never really knew well after

what it was about but well that was the

first impression coming to the

parish and the first sensation was

say that málaga to make it and not

there was absolutely nothing to do

in front of that but a group of people from

the parish and of and neighbors of the neighborhood

they said yes but if we got together something

surely we will be able to do and another

once this appeared that solidarity

the meeting

sometimes dawn we started thinking that

we had not see what we had

among other things a glass of milk

we saw that the boys came from the

street they drink milk and they went back to the

jail

We said if we try to challenge a little bit

more and offer them something that makes them

get reacquainted with the cute part of the

life in those days had not given away

a skateboard then tango young man

carpenters do to play he made a

quick we put him in the atrium of the

parish the boys begin to jump

with the skateboard

then they stayed a while longer than

it was a little less on the street until

the carpentry teacher was saving

the speed with the skateboard in a

I boudoir which closed padlock next

outside ends up saving things

close love says from inside and one

of babes he was a 17 year old

he says there has not been a process has two

clavito

opened the padlock faster than it takes

the teacher then tildan me profe

worried I do not know where it comes out that I did

not because my dad takes me all the

days different place and it taught me how

you go to us we think there if you do not

we offer a different alternative this

boy

Hardly the end of the story

be different from what has been seen in

this moment not

at seven years old he is not choosing

that but in turn your dad is a

effective reference is that all

days brings the food the house in which

probably the night of the kiss of

good night and if we simply

we just say milk that does

it’s fine not enough if we do not

We link affectively if we do not offer

a real everyday concrete alternative

it was hard to think of another

lifestyle and there arose the idea of

that instead of us doing the

games for boys

we said and why do not we do

the games with the boys and not the

guys also learn a trade

learn to do something different

we started the toy wooden toy

some little things that start to come out

pretty the kids start to get excited

to those present also about the

young teens until came the

carpentry teacher that really

excellent interim mayor of batista

the first class puts everything together they say

well what do they want us to do between

they were all debating say they ‘re going to

make each a table the teacher says

‘Well let’s make a table but it’s not going

to be any table is going to be the best

table we can do

already with that I’m sure he captivated me

because usually the roof that you

we put excluded too low no

opaque ranchito movement with four

paritorians inhabitants work so no

pretend more than that

this prefix let’s do something better

what is the best they can do

arrangements has gone hand in hand with the props

of a work that we had done so much the

mayor cement and we miss nothing

because I am if we start to imagine

how it ends table made him cut the

sticks in equal parts laughter all

put an environment that we did not have until

now I had never used it until that

moment he turned the wood and

we went out for tournaments prices and this

must find a relationship with life

as well as this way that it seems that

he was in ruins and he does not need to be

you add nothing more simply than you

Take out the most beautiful thing you have inside

and leave heart in this way happens

also with life, life is not

it seems this ruin by the drug trying

in situations but if you let them help

you learn is not a tool and they put

see in this well the most beautiful thing

He has a good heart and everything in

regarding the relationship of Spain

make them duckling the perfect legs

Romans and still in castes and does not know

he had never retired again

because as well as spending months

you have to also life that in

how much to the wineries to find all this

be a whole relationship to the

issue that end up coming out in those

precious both where the guys who

says good exposure cremation

we made exposure is not the end of

week when the exhibition of

one of the boys were medicated

I went over and asked him what’s wrong

because now it tells me why receive my

mom and when months come the long

now you are asked why hours and

she told me look at your dad electors

have your brother bigger actors

close and I thought I was going to be bull

I was going to end up in first things

beautiful houses and this teacher with a little

of money and help manage a

tool pulled from the heart

discarding all the times I had

inside that until that moment and for a

lots of limitations not even your

own mom had managed to discover and

broke a social mandate that was to be

actor oo will be nothing but after

we were seeing that with this dimension of

teaching work school no

one day a boy was entering

the craft workshop

I was coming out of unemployment and I feel that

some guys who go down the street you

scream the priest’s weight but says

nothing in the neighborhood to which they are servile

to the narco clarified that I am not a narco

but deep down he was homo of bulimia

but I do not know how to tell laxe

faldero transit last night the mnr let’s say

the stupid of block tenth 7 the

conception that these guys have

they are doing here what they can do

well because when you go out to the street nothing

bullying and go 24 hours

day

if we can not change this

this image is being done is

to be difficult I had just given a

beach at that time and we will give

a video projector cannon we

we started to change the law in

giant screen activates the workshop

win in elche event to welcome all

the giant legends and put metegol

we start every kid that goes by the river

and this then the same as before the

they started to approach and when

they came which the church stays

with that workshop and amounted to

the size and was discovering that this

dimension of the game pleasure e

essential also to return to

fall in love with life’s happened once

that we have got a bed

elastic we put it together for the first time in a

camp was the novelty we would touch

in jumps together with ivana he threw himself

there was a case of people to make it happen but

clear there happen now well jumped 5

because jump they wanted to get us down and one of

the first one who jumps wanted to charge

give a return of mail and you had with

one know this moment is for

trombone 12 against and I tell you if what

what’s wrong with you is so desperate for

missing and tells me is that it’s the first time

that he could fly without drugging me in many

situations the problem if that drug

three situations that the problem is that

we have cut off our wings and many children

they do not know how to fly to rediscover

with pleasure with the cute part of the

lifetime

with this flight that life allows us

it is imperative and is that the dimension

Patio said that we put together a space

who tries to do school and this we

we realized that we also need a

patio where to recreate

but then we saw that there was

a boy that they did not even have

where to live

Sometimes the problem of drug

or because they had been orphaned

little boy live on the street and one of

they began to urgently go

house to live and we put together a lot

effort sacrifice a little house

precarious

We still have people team

armed at that time then I have

lived with him at the beginning and these

monsters that we sometimes have in the

head fruit of the taboo made you think

that this guy is going to blame me for nights

he slept the first last night with an eye

open there’s not much myth around

this and sometimes it is not so like that sometimes

just enter the heart of the other

and one discovers lots of

two of them did not pass the good days

the first two weeks was like the

honeymoon tovar until he started the

first conflict as a family I

says that a party the party was going to be

the house to the house narco ya beto navas no

yes yes no no yes no no yes no

it was night you go but it’s back

if you do not come back to eleven, it does not fly anymore

I was thinking about how they go out

search because we do not want to win but

it was good I thought it not right to me

I went to bed at eleven o’clock strike

the door spoke to him so he made a

fury that has us adapt to a party

the next day we got up

we found out that they had taken the

Feast of all kinds of passions without

reason but he did not know what happens

wrong to think that it was not happening because

goals ended and he tells me that the

first time I have someone to ask

permission because sometimes I had to

ask her permission to know that she is not

alone in the world knows that there is someone

that looks for box that already there in which you

you care that there is someone to whom

it belongs is that you belong

importance of knowing that we are not

alone have not always gone well

things are progressing lousy but

even so with time we have seen

fruits

maybe where we wait but from

Somehow he has said he does not understand

every gesture of love closeness

I meet even if it is not as one wants

sooner or later somehow flowers

I was very embarrassed here

It’s scary because I’m a disaster

for me I like the pick and shovel more

that the episode but but I come here

because here I also feel that I’m not

just because we see with the heart

loaded with names loaded faces of a

bunch of guys who are invisible

for a large part of society and that

They want to tell and remember also

ourselves that we are not alone

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