[Music] I want you to imagine that you’re five
I want you to imagine that you’re five
I want you to imagine that you’re five or six years old and you’re laying in
or six years old and you’re laying in
or six years old and you’re laying in your bedroom and your bedroom is dark
your bedroom and your bedroom is dark
your bedroom and your bedroom is dark and you’re scared because you’re pretty
and you’re scared because you’re pretty
and you’re scared because you’re pretty sure that there’s a monster in your
sure that there’s a monster in your
sure that there’s a monster in your closet maybe it’s under your bed you
closet maybe it’s under your bed you
closet maybe it’s under your bed you don’t know
don’t know
don’t know so you scream for your mom and your dad
so you scream for your mom and your dad
so you scream for your mom and your dad and they come in they turn on the light
and they come in they turn on the light
and they come in they turn on the light they check in the closet they look under
they check in the closet they look under
they check in the closet they look under your bed and there’s no monster and you
your bed and there’s no monster and you
your bed and there’s no monster and you feel instantly safe but for me as we sit
feel instantly safe but for me as we sit
feel instantly safe but for me as we sit in the dark together this is when I feel
in the dark together this is when I feel
in the dark together this is when I feel the most safe because my monster can’t
the most safe because my monster can’t
the most safe because my monster can’t see me and he doesn’t know where I am
see me and he doesn’t know where I am
see me and he doesn’t know where I am but as the lights start to come up my
but as the lights start to come up my
but as the lights start to come up my fears and my anxiety are real and
fears and my anxiety are real and
fears and my anxiety are real and they’re big I can I can feel my hands
they’re big I can I can feel my hands
they’re big I can I can feel my hands starting to get kind of clammy right now
starting to get kind of clammy right now
starting to get kind of clammy right now I can feel my heart starting to race I’m
I can feel my heart starting to race I’m
I can feel my heart starting to race I’m probably getting blotchy on my my chest
probably getting blotchy on my my chest
probably getting blotchy on my my chest and my neck that happens when I feel
and my neck that happens when I feel
and my neck that happens when I feel anxious and I feel this way whenever I
anxious and I feel this way whenever I
anxious and I feel this way whenever I think about this topic because in 2013
think about this topic because in 2013
think about this topic because in 2013 and 2014 my family and I were victimized
and 2014 my family and I were victimized
and 2014 my family and I were victimized by a stalker and he’s still out there
by a stalker and he’s still out there
by a stalker and he’s still out there somewhere
somewhere
somewhere I feel relatively confident that he’s
I feel relatively confident that he’s
I feel relatively confident that he’s not in the room with us today which is
not in the room with us today which is
not in the room with us today which is probably a good thing
probably a good thing
probably a good thing and my fear doesn’t come so much from
and my fear doesn’t come so much from
and my fear doesn’t come so much from talking to all of you my fear comes from
talking to all of you my fear comes from
talking to all of you my fear comes from the idea that maybe one day he’ll see
the idea that maybe one day he’ll see
the idea that maybe one day he’ll see this video online
this video online
this video online and although that we haven’t had a
and although that we haven’t had a
and although that we haven’t had a problem in the last four years those
problem in the last four years those
problem in the last four years those problems could begin again I think it’s
problems could begin again I think it’s
problems could begin again I think it’s important for you guys all to understand
important for you guys all to understand
important for you guys all to understand that stalking is a persistent pattern of
that stalking is a persistent pattern of
that stalking is a persistent pattern of unwanted behavior committed by another
unwanted behavior committed by another
unwanted behavior committed by another person that makes you feel scared
person that makes you feel scared
person that makes you feel scared threatened or fearful for you and your
threatened or fearful for you and your
threatened or fearful for you and your family safety a couple weeks into our
family safety a couple weeks into our
family safety a couple weeks into our stalking issues I received a text
stalking issues I received a text
stalking issues I received a text message from an untraceable cell phone
message from an untraceable cell phone
message from an untraceable cell phone number that said life as you know it
number that said life as you know it
number that said life as you know it will never be the same again
will never be the same again
will never be the same again those 11 little words never leave my
those 11 little words never leave my
those 11 little words never leave my mind what did they even mean
mind what did they even mean
mind what did they even mean that this person want to kill me kidnap
that this person want to kill me kidnap
that this person want to kill me kidnap me
me
me hurt my kids hurt my husband I didn’t
hurt my kids hurt my husband I didn’t
hurt my kids hurt my husband I didn’t know all I know is that someone out
know all I know is that someone out
know all I know is that someone out there and I had a pretty good idea of
there and I had a pretty good idea of
there and I had a pretty good idea of who it was wanted to hurt me and there
who it was wanted to hurt me and there
who it was wanted to hurt me and there is a lot of ways to make that happen the
is a lot of ways to make that happen the
is a lot of ways to make that happen the fear that I felt was paralyzing and it
fear that I felt was paralyzing and it
fear that I felt was paralyzing and it stopped me in my tracks for three years
stopped me in my tracks for three years
stopped me in my tracks for three years prior to my victimization I was a strong
prior to my victimization I was a strong
prior to my victimization I was a strong woman I’m a business owner I was a
woman I’m a business owner I was a
woman I’m a business owner I was a recognized national speaker that used to
recognized national speaker that used to
recognized national speaker that used to travel all over the country I used to go
travel all over the country I used to go
travel all over the country I used to go running all the time I was involved in
running all the time I was involved in
running all the time I was involved in all kinds of local community events and
all kinds of local community events and
all kinds of local community events and all of that stopped I’ve come to learn
all of that stopped I’ve come to learn
all of that stopped I’ve come to learn that I’m not alone in my reactions
that I’m not alone in my reactions
that I’m not alone in my reactions stalking victims typically experience a
stalking victims typically experience a
stalking victims typically experience a higher prevalence of social dysfunction
higher prevalence of social dysfunction
higher prevalence of social dysfunction of anxiety of severe depression and
of anxiety of severe depression and
of anxiety of severe depression and insomnia in my case I stopped running
insomnia in my case I stopped running
insomnia in my case I stopped running because I was just afraid to be alone
because I was just afraid to be alone
because I was just afraid to be alone outside definitely I couldn’t go to work
outside definitely I couldn’t go to work
outside definitely I couldn’t go to work because my depression and my anxiety was
because my depression and my anxiety was
because my depression and my anxiety was too much for me to manage without a lot
too much for me to manage without a lot
too much for me to manage without a lot of therapy more than half of all
of therapy more than half of all
of therapy more than half of all stalking victims lose five or more days
stalking victims lose five or more days
stalking victims lose five or more days of work I lost three years three years
of work I lost three years three years
of work I lost three years three years my husband and I we stopped socializing
my husband and I we stopped socializing
my husband and I we stopped socializing because I was just an emotional wreck
because I was just an emotional wreck
because I was just an emotional wreck all the time and the guilt that I felt
all the time and the guilt that I felt
all the time and the guilt that I felt for bringing this person into my life
for bringing this person into my life
for bringing this person into my life and now that my kids had to suffer for
and now that my kids had to suffer for
and now that my kids had to suffer for it my husband was horrible we probably
it my husband was horrible we probably
it my husband was horrible we probably should have gone for help to the police
should have gone for help to the police
should have gone for help to the police at this point but at this point I took a
at this point but at this point I took a
at this point but at this point I took a hundred percent of the responsibility
hundred percent of the responsibility
hundred percent of the responsibility for everything that was going on and as
for everything that was going on and as
for everything that was going on and as far as I was concerned I had hurt the
far as I was concerned I had hurt the
far as I was concerned I had hurt the person who was doing this to us so it
person who was doing this to us so it
person who was doing this to us so it was really my fault the fear that I felt
was really my fault the fear that I felt
was really my fault the fear that I felt was horrible but the feeling of being
was horrible but the feeling of being
was horrible but the feeling of being hunted and my family being hunted that
hunted and my family being hunted that
hunted and my family being hunted that is the most crippling thing that I have
is the most crippling thing that I have
is the most crippling thing that I have ever felt for months we tried to handle
ever felt for months we tried to handle
ever felt for months we tried to handle things on our own and when the first
things on our own and when the first
things on our own and when the first fake Facebook page was created
fake Facebook page was created
fake Facebook page was created tending to be me it reached out to all
tending to be me it reached out to all
tending to be me it reached out to all my family and friends and horrible
my family and friends and horrible
my family and friends and horrible things were said online we reported it
things were said online we reported it
things were said online we reported it and it was taken down when it happened
and it was taken down when it happened
and it was taken down when it happened for the second time and this time it
for the second time and this time it
for the second time and this time it attached itself to my business and
attached itself to my business and
attached itself to my business and reached out to my business colleagues
reached out to my business colleagues
reached out to my business colleagues all over the country we reported it and
all over the country we reported it and
all over the country we reported it and it was taken down but when it happened
it was taken down but when it happened
it was taken down but when it happened for the third time and this time it
for the third time and this time it
for the third time and this time it attached itself to our kids elementary
attached itself to our kids elementary
attached itself to our kids elementary school
school
school well that sent me over the emotional
well that sent me over the emotional
well that sent me over the emotional deep edge as I’m sure you can imagine
deep edge as I’m sure you can imagine
deep edge as I’m sure you can imagine and that is when we finally got the
and that is when we finally got the
and that is when we finally got the authorities involved after we filled out
authorities involved after we filled out
authorities involved after we filled out reports with the Sheriff’s Department we
reports with the Sheriff’s Department we
reports with the Sheriff’s Department we were approached by a victim’s advocate
were approached by a victim’s advocate
were approached by a victim’s advocate who will always have a special place in
who will always have a special place in
who will always have a special place in my heart we went to see her and I
my heart we went to see her and I
my heart we went to see her and I remember sitting on her couch and my
remember sitting on her couch and my
remember sitting on her couch and my husband was sitting here and she was
husband was sitting here and she was
husband was sitting here and she was sitting here and I was shaking and I was
sitting here and I was shaking and I was
sitting here and I was shaking and I was crying and I was apologizing to them
crying and I was apologizing to them
crying and I was apologizing to them both for creating this horrible madness
both for creating this horrible madness
both for creating this horrible madness that now infected our lives and she
that now infected our lives and she
that now infected our lives and she looked at me and she put her hand in
looked at me and she put her hand in
looked at me and she put her hand in mine she handed me a folder packet and
mine she handed me a folder packet and
mine she handed me a folder packet and she said Robyn I didn’t write this for
she said Robyn I didn’t write this for
she said Robyn I didn’t write this for you but you need to read it you see up
you but you need to read it you see up
you but you need to read it you see up until that point I still took all of the
until that point I still took all of the
until that point I still took all of the responsibility for everything that was
responsibility for everything that was
responsibility for everything that was happening to our family but it was that
happening to our family but it was that
happening to our family but it was that advocate in that moment on that day that
advocate in that moment on that day that
advocate in that moment on that day that made me realize oh my god we’re being
made me realize oh my god we’re being
made me realize oh my god we’re being stalked right now and this behavior is
stalked right now and this behavior is
stalked right now and this behavior is not normal and it’s not okay and it is
not normal and it’s not okay and it is
not normal and it’s not okay and it is not my fault
not my fault
not my fault if you’re going through this right now I
if you’re going through this right now I
if you’re going through this right now I need you to listen to me it’s not your
need you to listen to me it’s not your
need you to listen to me it’s not your fault either the first page in the
fault either the first page in the
fault either the first page in the packet that she gave me was a list of
packet that she gave me was a list of
packet that she gave me was a list of typical stalking behaviors and this is
typical stalking behaviors and this is
typical stalking behaviors and this is what it said a stalker will attempt to
what it said a stalker will attempt to
what it said a stalker will attempt to control track and threaten you for a
control track and threaten you for a
control track and threaten you for a variety of different ways everything on
variety of different ways everything on
variety of different ways everything on that list described us to a tee this
that list described us to a tee this
that list described us to a tee this confident strong woman that you’re
confident strong woman that you’re
confident strong woman that you’re looking at on stage today stayed hidden
looking at on stage today stayed hidden
looking at on stage today stayed hidden behind a locked door in my house
behind a locked door in my house
behind a locked door in my house and when I was home alone for one year
and when I was home alone for one year
and when I was home alone for one year if somebody rang the doorbell I didn’t
if somebody rang the doorbell I didn’t
if somebody rang the doorbell I didn’t answer it because I was sure whoever was
answer it because I was sure whoever was
answer it because I was sure whoever was on the other side of that door was there
on the other side of that door was there
on the other side of that door was there to kidnap or kill me even if it was the
to kidnap or kill me even if it was the
to kidnap or kill me even if it was the UPS guy and I like getting stuff but I
UPS guy and I like getting stuff but I
UPS guy and I like getting stuff but I was sure no matter what color they were
was sure no matter what color they were
was sure no matter what color they were wearing that they were out to get me can
wearing that they were out to get me can
wearing that they were out to get me can you imagine feeling that way all the
you imagine feeling that way all the
you imagine feeling that way all the time when I did leave the house it was
time when I did leave the house it was
time when I did leave the house it was only to drive our kids to and from
only to drive our kids to and from
only to drive our kids to and from school or to pick them up and when I was
school or to pick them up and when I was
school or to pick them up and when I was in my car I was constantly looking in my
in my car I was constantly looking in my
in my car I was constantly looking in my rearview mirror to make sure I wasn’t
rearview mirror to make sure I wasn’t
rearview mirror to make sure I wasn’t being followed
being followed
being followed their principal their teachers they all
their principal their teachers they all
their principal their teachers they all had pictures of our alleged stalker with
had pictures of our alleged stalker with
had pictures of our alleged stalker with very specific instructions to never let
very specific instructions to never let
very specific instructions to never let those kids leave without us thank God
those kids leave without us thank God
those kids leave without us thank God our kids were little and didn’t know
our kids were little and didn’t know
our kids were little and didn’t know what was going on because we watched
what was going on because we watched
what was going on because we watched them like hawks and had they been
them like hawks and had they been
them like hawks and had they been teenagers you know the kind that know
teenagers you know the kind that know
teenagers you know the kind that know everything and have no fear about
everything and have no fear about
everything and have no fear about anything they would have fought us tooth
anything they would have fought us tooth
anything they would have fought us tooth and nail to keep them safe my husband
and nail to keep them safe my husband
and nail to keep them safe my husband and I would probably still be in therapy
and I would probably still be in therapy
and I would probably still be in therapy today we probably should because and
today we probably should because and
today we probably should because and they’re all teenagers now but it has
they’re all teenagers now but it has
they’re all teenagers now but it has taken me four years to get back to a new
taken me four years to get back to a new
taken me four years to get back to a new normal life I call it my new normal life
normal life I call it my new normal life
normal life I call it my new normal life because the deep-rooted fear that exists
because the deep-rooted fear that exists
because the deep-rooted fear that exists from being stopped never leaves you you
from being stopped never leaves you you
from being stopped never leaves you you have days that are easier but then
have days that are easier but then
have days that are easier but then something happens and you go right back
something happens and you go right back
something happens and you go right back to that panic and fear of when it first
to that panic and fear of when it first
to that panic and fear of when it first happened so you may be asking yourself
happened so you may be asking yourself
happened so you may be asking yourself how it is that I even feel comfortable
how it is that I even feel comfortable
how it is that I even feel comfortable talking to all of you about this today
talking to all of you about this today
talking to all of you about this today and to be honest I don’t feel 100%
and to be honest I don’t feel 100%
and to be honest I don’t feel 100% comfortable I feel very vulnerable
comfortable I feel very vulnerable
comfortable I feel very vulnerable sharing a story that’s very personal to
sharing a story that’s very personal to
sharing a story that’s very personal to my husband and I and we actually went
my husband and I and we actually went
my husband and I and we actually went back and forth for quite a while and if
back and forth for quite a while and if
back and forth for quite a while and if we should even talk about this but we
we should even talk about this but we
we should even talk about this but we both agreed in the end that if we could
both agreed in the end that if we could
both agreed in the end that if we could help somebody else going through this
help somebody else going through this
help somebody else going through this same story then sharing what’s going on
same story then sharing what’s going on
same story then sharing what’s going on with us and how we got through it is
with us and how we got through it is
with us and how we got through it is worth it one of my favorite authors and
worth it one of my favorite authors and
worth it one of my favorite authors and speakers brené Brown says
speakers brené Brown says
speakers brené Brown says there is strength and vulnerability and
there is strength and vulnerability and
there is strength and vulnerability and today is another step in my emotional
today is another step in my emotional
today is another step in my emotional healing and my strength this is how I’m
healing and my strength this is how I’m
healing and my strength this is how I’m choosing to move forward even though I’m
choosing to move forward even though I’m
choosing to move forward even though I’m always looking behind my back
always looking behind my back
always looking behind my back because I know the sooner you start to
because I know the sooner you start to
because I know the sooner you start to talk about the stalking the sooner it
talk about the stalking the sooner it
talk about the stalking the sooner it gets you back in the driver’s seat of
gets you back in the driver’s seat of
gets you back in the driver’s seat of your own life and the quicker it takes
your own life and the quicker it takes
your own life and the quicker it takes the domination away from the stalker
the domination away from the stalker
the domination away from the stalker seven and a half million people in the
seven and a half million people in the
seven and a half million people in the United States every year are victimized
United States every year are victimized
United States every year are victimized by stalkers and of that seven and a half
by stalkers and of that seven and a half
by stalkers and of that seven and a half million eighty-five percent of them know
million eighty-five percent of them know
million eighty-five percent of them know the person who’s stalking them look
the person who’s stalking them look
the person who’s stalking them look around this room right now thirty people
around this room right now thirty people
around this room right now thirty people in this room took me going through a
in this room took me going through a
in this room took me going through a similar situation one in four women and
similar situation one in four women and
similar situation one in four women and one in 13 men are victimized by stalking
one in 13 men are victimized by stalking
one in 13 men are victimized by stalking at some point in their lifetime and of
at some point in their lifetime and of
at some point in their lifetime and of all the different types of stalking out
all the different types of stalking out
all the different types of stalking out there the most common which is called
there the most common which is called
there the most common which is called intimate relationship stalking does
intimate relationship stalking does
intimate relationship stalking does happen more often to women but the
happen more often to women but the
happen more often to women but the second most common which is called
second most common which is called
second most common which is called intimate relationship stalking I’m sorry
intimate relationship stalking I’m sorry
intimate relationship stalking I’m sorry it’s called acquaintance stalking
it’s called acquaintance stalking
it’s called acquaintance stalking happens more often to men the good news
happens more often to men the good news
happens more often to men the good news and I always like to find good news in
and I always like to find good news in
and I always like to find good news in every bad situation is that since the
every bad situation is that since the
every bad situation is that since the 1990s stalking is now illegal in every
1990s stalking is now illegal in every
1990s stalking is now illegal in every state in our country which is a big deal
state in our country which is a big deal
state in our country which is a big deal but the thing is is no matter what it is
but the thing is is no matter what it is
but the thing is is no matter what it is a very personal crime it is a very
a very personal crime it is a very
a very personal crime it is a very dangerous crime and there are no
dangerous crime and there are no
dangerous crime and there are no one-size-fits-all lists of solutions for
one-size-fits-all lists of solutions for
one-size-fits-all lists of solutions for everybody to deal with what they’re
everybody to deal with what they’re
everybody to deal with what they’re dealing with so I want to share with you
dealing with so I want to share with you
dealing with so I want to share with you the four things that worked for us the
the four things that worked for us the
the four things that worked for us the first which is very hard is to stop all
first which is very hard is to stop all
first which is very hard is to stop all communication with the person who’s
communication with the person who’s
communication with the person who’s stalking you you have to find your
stalking you you have to find your
stalking you you have to find your bravery to tell the person up front I
bravery to tell the person up front I
bravery to tell the person up front I don’t want to have anything to do with
don’t want to have anything to do with
don’t want to have anything to do with you anymore and I did this I did it so
you anymore and I did this I did it so
you anymore and I did this I did it so many times I did it over text I did it
many times I did it over text I did it
many times I did it over text I did it over phone I now realize that because I
over phone I now realize that because I
over phone I now realize that because I kept responding to the person who was
kept responding to the person who was
kept responding to the person who was stalking me I was giving him exactly
stalking me I was giving him exactly
stalking me I was giving him exactly what he wanted was continual power over
what he wanted was continual power over
what he wanted was continual power over me the second thing you need to do is
me the second thing you need to do is
me the second thing you need to do is you need to tell people around you you
you need to tell people around you you
you need to tell people around you you need to create
need to create
need to create an army of support your friends your
an army of support your friends your
an army of support your friends your family your co-workers a few weeks into
family your co-workers a few weeks into
family your co-workers a few weeks into our stocking situation I was planning an
our stocking situation I was planning an
our stocking situation I was planning an event for a local charity in town
event for a local charity in town
event for a local charity in town two hours before the event was supposed
two hours before the event was supposed
two hours before the event was supposed to happen I went home to take a shower
to happen I went home to take a shower
to happen I went home to take a shower and put on my dress to go back and work
and put on my dress to go back and work
and put on my dress to go back and work the event that night one hour before I
the event that night one hour before I
the event that night one hour before I was gonna leave my house I got a call
was gonna leave my house I got a call
was gonna leave my house I got a call from a co-worker who was working the
from a co-worker who was working the
from a co-worker who was working the event with me to let me know that the
event with me to let me know that the
event with me to let me know that the person who was stalking me had just
person who was stalking me had just
person who was stalking me had just RSVP’d to attend that party so one hour
RSVP’d to attend that party so one hour
RSVP’d to attend that party so one hour before that party was supposed to happen
before that party was supposed to happen
before that party was supposed to happen I made the decision not to go tough call
I made the decision not to go tough call
I made the decision not to go tough call for me because I was in charge of the
for me because I was in charge of the
for me because I was in charge of the party he never went that night either
party he never went that night either
party he never went that night either and I often wonder if he was in the
and I often wonder if he was in the
and I often wonder if he was in the parking lot watching to see if I was
parking lot watching to see if I was
parking lot watching to see if I was gonna go in and that’s a fear that never
gonna go in and that’s a fear that never
gonna go in and that’s a fear that never leaves my mind the other thing that you
leaves my mind the other thing that you
leaves my mind the other thing that you need to think about is social media my
need to think about is social media my
need to think about is social media my recommendation is to get off of it but
recommendation is to get off of it but
recommendation is to get off of it but we all love our social media so if you
we all love our social media so if you
we all love our social media so if you can’t or won’t then you need to use the
can’t or won’t then you need to use the
can’t or won’t then you need to use the privacy settings and block your stalker
privacy settings and block your stalker
privacy settings and block your stalker from seeing what you’re doing and you
from seeing what you’re doing and you
from seeing what you’re doing and you need to make sure that your friends
need to make sure that your friends
need to make sure that your friends don’t post about you the person who made
don’t post about you the person who made
don’t post about you the person who made those fake facebook pages pretending to
those fake facebook pages pretending to
those fake facebook pages pretending to be me went so far as to go to my
be me went so far as to go to my
be me went so far as to go to my family’s pages and copy pictures of my
family’s pages and copy pictures of my
family’s pages and copy pictures of my family to put them on those fake pages
family to put them on those fake pages
family to put them on those fake pages so they look like they were mine the
so they look like they were mine the
so they look like they were mine the third thing you need to do is to keep
third thing you need to do is to keep
third thing you need to do is to keep yourself safe this might sound
yourself safe this might sound
yourself safe this might sound exhausting to you but it’s become second
exhausting to you but it’s become second
exhausting to you but it’s become second nature to me I Drive different ways to
nature to me I Drive different ways to
nature to me I Drive different ways to work all the time I leave my house at
work all the time I leave my house at
work all the time I leave my house at different times I’ve even been known to
different times I’ve even been known to
different times I’ve even been known to change gyms I am always aware of my
change gyms I am always aware of my
change gyms I am always aware of my surroundings I very rarely run by myself
surroundings I very rarely run by myself
surroundings I very rarely run by myself anymore and if I do it’s in a populated
anymore and if I do it’s in a populated
anymore and if I do it’s in a populated area I’ve also learned all kinds of
area I’ve also learned all kinds of
area I’ve also learned all kinds of self-defense techniques this is super
self-defense techniques this is super
self-defense techniques this is super empowering my favorite is boxing I have
empowering my favorite is boxing I have
empowering my favorite is boxing I have a mean right hook when my boxing
a mean right hook when my boxing
a mean right hook when my boxing instructor says I do I’m also very very
instructor says I do I’m also very very
instructor says I do I’m also very very trained in the use of self-defense
trained in the use of self-defense
trained in the use of self-defense techniques like pepper spray but if this
techniques like pepper spray but if this
techniques like pepper spray but if this is something you want to learn how to do
is something you want to learn how to do
is something you want to learn how to do you need to talk to a professional about
you need to talk to a professional about
you need to talk to a professional about it because the last thing you want to
it because the last thing you want to
it because the last thing you want to accidentally do when you’re scared at
accidentally do when you’re scared at
accidentally do when you’re scared at home and not wanting to answer the door
home and not wanting to answer the door
home and not wanting to answer the door is paint your neighbor
is paint your neighbor
is paint your neighbor so make sure you get help with all of
so make sure you get help with all of
so make sure you get help with all of this stuff the fourth thing you need to
this stuff the fourth thing you need to
this stuff the fourth thing you need to remember to do is to keep track of
remember to do is to keep track of
remember to do is to keep track of everything and remember stalking is
everything and remember stalking is
everything and remember stalking is illegal in the US so keep track of your
illegal in the US so keep track of your
illegal in the US so keep track of your records if you want to get a TPO a
records if you want to get a TPO a
records if you want to get a TPO a temporary protective order that’s great
temporary protective order that’s great
temporary protective order that’s great I should have done this it was
I should have done this it was
I should have done this it was recommended to us to do this I didn’t do
recommended to us to do this I didn’t do
recommended to us to do this I didn’t do it because I didn’t want to make crazy
it because I didn’t want to make crazy
it because I didn’t want to make crazy crazier and I was scared to have to see
crazier and I was scared to have to see
crazier and I was scared to have to see my stalker in court I wish I hadn’t had
my stalker in court I wish I hadn’t had
my stalker in court I wish I hadn’t had that fear and I’m telling you fight the
that fear and I’m telling you fight the
that fear and I’m telling you fight the fear because had we gotten that tpo we
fear because had we gotten that tpo we
fear because had we gotten that tpo we would have had a whole lot of less
would have had a whole lot of less
would have had a whole lot of less issues that we had because we didn’t
issues that we had because we didn’t
issues that we had because we didn’t have it so be brave go to your local
have it so be brave go to your local
have it so be brave go to your local authorities for help call your victims
authorities for help call your victims
authorities for help call your victims advocate if you don’t know who to call I
advocate if you don’t know who to call I
advocate if you don’t know who to call I want you to call the victim connect
want you to call the victim connect
want you to call the victim connect resource center at 855 for victim they
resource center at 855 for victim they
resource center at 855 for victim they specialize in helping victims of
specialize in helping victims of
specialize in helping victims of stalking as far as me and me telling my
stalking as far as me and me telling my
stalking as far as me and me telling my story to all of you today on this stage
story to all of you today on this stage
story to all of you today on this stage this is the final way that I’m getting
this is the final way that I’m getting
this is the final way that I’m getting my power back to the person who stalked
my power back to the person who stalked
my power back to the person who stalked me I have one thing to tell you life as
me I have one thing to tell you life as
me I have one thing to tell you life as I know it is not the same anymore
I know it is not the same anymore
I know it is not the same anymore it’s better I am stronger I am a better
it’s better I am stronger I am a better
it’s better I am stronger I am a better leader I am a better communicator I am a
leader I am a better communicator I am a
leader I am a better communicator I am a better wife and a better mother I am no
better wife and a better mother I am no
better wife and a better mother I am no longer led by my fear I am no longer a
longer led by my fear I am no longer a
longer led by my fear I am no longer a victim or even a survivor
victim or even a survivor
victim or even a survivor I am a thriver thank you very much
I am a thriver thank you very much
I am a thriver thank you very much [Applause]
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