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op sea conviction rhythm and during

many years I intuited a trip to

should make this trip that is

close to two groups of people with

very different realities of mine that

is close to people in situation

of begging in areas of

vulnerability drugs marginalization

misery of all kinds

I also wanted to be close to

people from the interior people who live

very difficult and so maybe

very simply people who

earth care survive work

arm

I managed to make this trip when

I go out on the road did not have a

very clear reason why I was going

where did this my need was

simply an intuition

I also did not know exactly what

do when you get there in these areas

so I had already participated in

groups or to take joint actions in the

streets and help the street population and the

group is great is the group he keeps

a constancy a consistency this

type of action in the merits group

the group works our humility to

comply with a decision that you do not

played better but the movie group has a

It’s a little thing that always bothered me.

group it has opened and gives a

among the people who are going to help

the people being assisted

huh

I think I’ve unconsciously already

I realized this, we are arriving our

us with our shirt that from our

group and we will help these people

needy and they thought look only

Cool, the people are coming. Come on.

helping the exchange is usually very good

But I needed to feel that reality.

more fully in a more

deeper

So it ‘s 100 group I went alone and

I started going to these areas, right?

drug vulnerability and I ended up

finding many of the answers

questions I was not asking

I arrived with needs and asked in

bakery in a newsstand where he had

large county

the action of beggars and then I went there

I went to cracolândia in são paulo

I spent some time there to serve the

revellion is with the beggars of

barriers in the bay and in large cities

and capitals and presents urban and

squares with great presence of beggars

I would arrive there with my small backpack.

with some banana biscuit sandwiches and

I would start sitting next to me

began to eat and offered for the

people who were closest to me

and we start to change idea and I

I listened quite right my order

is to know of your past life the

who took him this street condition

will be marginal will be addicted but

constantly told me about

their past lives and looked for

listen carefully and speak with your eyes

is to speak of love of a judgment nor

love them with a touch with

hand on his shoulder with a

I was recognized I started to realize

that in these exchanges, I was not

making a vertical quality like

I felt before I even think that

nor was it a charity because I too

talked about my pains my losses

My joys did not matter

to expose myself as vulnerable because I

I’m also vulnerable

I talked about my sushi pains .

my pains told me about my eagerness to

be happy because I’m very thirsty

happiness

It’s in these exchanges I got to know

the trajectories of these people and in the street

all in all

and I started to realize that I was

venerating these people as teachers of the

survival and the promenade listens to

as a friend and for many times I went

recognized as a friend and for me to be

recognized as a much better friend of the

to be recognized by any work

any done any words that I

I have given there and then these

early experiences on the streets

I began to feel the need one

I wish I started to feel welcomed

for them I started to feel more

comfortable in this type of environment

so I wanted to create bonds

deeper I went to sleep on the street

I wanted to be living that reality.

as close as possible despite knowing

I know that equality she might not

there is not

is the year in our exchanges during the

night so that the night will turn and

and for them religiousness or

spirituality and I kneel before

he asked them to perform to

me with my hand on my head I had

an idea and also in a few days

so I bought the bags of bread and

I made cheese sandwich I started to

encourage them to distribute with me

to other beggars

Then began beggars begin to

help other beggars and it’s amazing

how to be on duty if you put the

service of the neighbor can regenerate the

our spirit can not give a

response to feeling of worthlessness

that such persons in such conditions

street and they have can give an answer

to me maybe to us

our sense of powerlessness

in the face of the suffering of the world, I

when is it when I’m on duty?

I strongly encourage my

reflections on the same conduct in the

my family at work in transit

in the supermarket I think

service being supportive I think we

ignites to being a better person each time

the best son the best husband the best

friend best co-worker the best

Unemployed

the best is wronged the best

neighbor the best battered I started to

share some of these experiences

So many stories that I’ve lived

so the last few times

I started sharing with some friends and

people and many people

praise from brave and I started here

I never really liked it that way.

I began to realize that the courage in

many cases in my it was a process

fairly long

I remember when I was around

about 10 years I would go home to a

football playing was raining

quite and close to my house had a

street boy , that’s right. more or less

of my age group maybe a

little older teen already he

was covering the rain and the cold

putting the shirt on the knee

sitting on the curb and I was near

house in the end a good deed but I

I sensed with that scene and took the

my shirt and went to deliver to him without

say nothing

he was amazed by that attitude

He kept his hand to catch more

before grabbing the shirt he turned to

me

and asked so you will be left without

he then touched me deeply

because that boy in that

street rain chill circumstance

helpless friends and family by

close it bothered me before

he accept a donation is that

probably part of a good effect

there in that condition and so I

I realize that today is courage a

Maybe the long-term process is not me.

It took me decades to finally

begin these forays that I have

I made my latest trend

right and I realize I actually accept

This is when people call me

brave and everything but I do not

I feel like this because I know that in the

I’m simply following a

intuition I’m following my

heart

when we leave our heart to

We do not exert a practice of

courage we exercise an act of

need we simply need

do what needs to be done for the

our own life and does is and accepting

these brave compliments of people

constantly asked if I do not have

afraid to go to these areas and everything else

I understand all this because I passed

by delicate situations situations

danger but the fear of going to install

in these environments was never greater than

my desire to be there rather than to

my desire to love and have a song

of bob dylan in a phrase of a song

it enough that I bring to my

life he speaks deceive you without deceit

Use when you have nothing at all.

You got nothing to lose so I tried.

I totally undressed who I was and what

that I had to leave the house and everyone

my furniture and started this

trajectory then when I have these

environments take my money to

My clothes are my cell phone.

Documents do not matter to me

none of this is of value to me of course

they brought much for my integrity

physics is like living

I’m not a kamikaze I take mine

care, time has realized the danger

before the period approaches me

of course it is not an exact science but

I also can not I started to

to feel in this walk that

nor does life itself belong to me

so I can not be afraid to put in

risk if I put you at risk.

It’s an act of love if I have to

lose there I know I miss

loving and out of these street experiences

Also on the streets, I have

experience of the interiors in farm

of the plantations and in the

Brazil, I’ve walked a little bit already.

also

and go there in these environments receive

life lessons of solidarity

awesome I’m going to count three

quickly so many stories I

I’ve lived another one of them I was

there doing on one of the farms people

beating cement is not

beating the cement was with the shovel and a

fellow in the backlands was in the

hoe the elite other people close by

and approached me and said quietly

that he wanted to teach me a prayer

secret or a protection prayer

He said so I do not want to teach you

about the action because you come from a

very dangerous city in rio de janeiro

and I wanted to protect you from afar

through this prayer I found that

so beautiful so this delivery

mixing a bit of spirituality

He’s bringing her a little to me.

just asked me not to share this

prayer to anyone because otherwise would

losing strength was not worth anything

so I’ve been insuring her no one

I know only one and another situation

another opportunity I was in another

farm say goodbye to all my

companions there’s work hoe

And I went and I was going to ride a ride.

the truck and the farm I was in was

in piauí it was in front of a

br then the br cross was on the other

side of the road signaling was already

there for half an hour in a truck and

a car was stopping and there came a

these friends that I had just

farewell and crossed the street approached

I took his wallet and took out the

only note he had in the wallet

He told me that he wanted to.

deliver a note of this value as well

low but it was a huge era of enormous

human value because he told me that

I wanted to deliver because I could pass

need on the road since traveling from

ride and he said he had already passed

much need in his life and that he

I had had helped much he wanted

do the same for me in that situation

on another occasion a situation

of pure beauty and beautiful purity was

when the present is the daughters of a

friend of yours

It’s with more dolls that I bought one.

supermarket the super simple dolls

I gave them to them and they were

our very happy in one of them in

ecstasy of joy

she turned to me and thanked me and

with the following sentence né

God bless you and God pay you

that touched me deeply is how

a child with that reality so

different from the child I was and can not

thank me for such a gift

simple with this snow magnitude and

Dear God, thank you and this

experience of the interiors so

plantation farms together

people, even the manual labor did not

convincing that with a simplicity

it is a way simplicity is a

decision and simplicity it can be

a solution to our personal life

for our professional life can be

a solution for the world also to

the relations of coexistence with

interpersonal relationships

but for us to live a life and

simplicity you have to give up

some things right?

Our pride is in relations of

Friendship and I think it’s mainly

of vanity not only physical vanity

slender decree and receive praise and

tanned for this and neither vanity

material ne

only to boast of goods and everything

more but mainly the vanity

because intellectual vanity

which brings us an illusory thirst for

social prestige

I think we need people.

recognize the greatness of doing

small and wanting to be anonymous is

not live a life in search of

recognition fame success not charge

living a life according to numbers

but let the numbers find us

I have tried in practice this is

very very difficult today I believe that

It’s easier to become a millionaire.

than to make me a humble man than me

make small

I think we need to look at each other.

out of the point of view of results

the things that we do in our

our lives

When I left for this trajectory, it’s

I never thought I did not even know what it is.

doing so I never thought in terms of

effectiveness of what you were doing

I’m sure that’s why.

I have lived so many moments infinite and

currently the result is not mine.

action criterion to do nothing in the

my life right?

after these experiences in the streets and

I began to re-evaluate the

same behaviors in my life and I started

to feel a deep shame of the

my past is the one I discovered

huge responsibility that I have

before my existence

this shame he is not

issue of money or property

materials exclusively but is a

question of perception of life is not

as I have for decades since the

I have always been sensitive to childhood.

these conditions of abandoned lives

I could for so long only worry

with my achievements with the

Brazilians with my relationships

exercising my ego centrism is that

combine in pride in my

aggression when I am annoyed

in my machismo and in my vanity

still this shame is much more

She does not paralyze me She does not bring me

guilt and depression

on the contrary she brings me strength she

she wants to live a life every

more at the service of those who need it most

I want to live a life that takes me away from

center of the universe and puts me through

Last I started talking here to

You that I wanted to accomplish this

I traveled on this trip, I want

end up saying that I’m still

On this trip and talk to you here.

does very well because it is a

possibility of a little reflection

more collective

these intimate experiences I have

lived and mainly that is a way

to repeat all this here to me high and

good sound and often these things

kept so long only inside me

and I repeat now it’s for myself I heard

that all these stories and all these

perceptions of life this brief

recent trajectory of my life she

message there is nothing new nothing right

a few millennia

this idea of love has not been propagated

throughout the world and has been practiced

centuries by millions of people

few of these people are well

famous but the vast majority million

are beautifully anonymous

and they live their lives.

So anonymity, I do not believe it’s

can we live for you

instrument of a greater love of love than

does not want anything in exchange for a love that

cry together who dreams together who wants to see

the other restored

I think the stance of love in our

she is not passive she is not

the politics

I think that the posture of love in our

lives it is revolutionary and everything that

the world calls utopia and romanticism

are in fact profound changes in the

most of the profound changes they

they are time consuming

they are silent and they are not

on the daily news.

people have so much difficulty

mobilization is and so little

matter how much wisdom there is in

words how much does the amount of

actions that are carried out what

really affects our lives our

environment is how much love you are if you live

is offered in this passage and for me

To say goodbye to you has a little more

I was not going to talk but I’m going to talk

I wanted to share is one of those

More responses of these responses

questions I was not doing

discover what talent is gift but what

quality is exercise

I’m not a good person to exercise.

kindness me whenever I can I

I’m not a caring person.

army solidarity i do not

I’m a safe man in the army.

control of my emotions and thus

wanting to say goodbye by exercising a

quality that I lack so much that neither is

so expensive I wanted to exercise my

humility and because I think that act of

altruism solidarity can not

to be convinced that

I ‘m a decent and honest good person

and such I ward off any exaltation of

me any intimate exaltation of me

same

so I ask that the applause of

nerd praxe nor when people

just said that they are directed

targeted

these people who live in these

abandoned and neglected by

we and themselves live people

crushed by our social structure

I put my hand in the trash to survive the

man with head in the open at night

cold and also the people who survive

of manual labor both in the field

How much in the city, right?

while here in this building and for

last I wanted to ask that these

applause including mine

directed to my parents that they

They live by my side every day.

although he died in front of me

they taught me what love is

they saved my life

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