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No More Grandmas Eating Cat Food | Susan Getman & Anna Maria Chavez | TEDxWilmingtonSalon


okay I want you to help me out I want

okay I want you to help me out I want you to close your eyes now I want you to

you to close your eyes now I want you to

you to close your eyes now I want you to think about what it’s like to age in

think about what it’s like to age in

think about what it’s like to age in America today

America today

America today do you have images in your mind come on

do you have images in your mind come on

do you have images in your mind come on now okay do you picture this how about

now okay do you picture this how about

now okay do you picture this how about this come on be honest who pictured this

this come on be honest who pictured this

this come on be honest who pictured this okay we admit it that’s not really fair

okay we admit it that’s not really fair

okay we admit it that’s not really fair given the title of our talk today to be

given the title of our talk today to be

given the title of our talk today to be honest we chose our title

honest we chose our title

honest we chose our title no more grandma’s eating cat food to

no more grandma’s eating cat food to

no more grandma’s eating cat food to grab your attention and to make a point

grab your attention and to make a point

grab your attention and to make a point lots of us have either/or views of Aging

lots of us have either/or views of Aging

lots of us have either/or views of Aging either you’re rich and healthy and

either you’re rich and healthy and

either you’re rich and healthy and living your dreams like our surfer dude

living your dreams like our surfer dude

living your dreams like our surfer dude or you’re sick and poor and living on

or you’re sick and poor and living on

or you’re sick and poor and living on cat food well we’re here to tell you

cat food well we’re here to tell you

cat food well we’re here to tell you that those are not your only choices in

that those are not your only choices in

that those are not your only choices in fact no matter what your circumstances

fact no matter what your circumstances

fact no matter what your circumstances are right here right now there are steps

are right here right now there are steps

are right here right now there are steps you can take to be economically secure

you can take to be economically secure

you can take to be economically secure as you age absolutely

as you age absolutely

as you age absolutely but let’s face it life after 65 has

but let’s face it life after 65 has

but let’s face it life after 65 has changed dramatically gone are mandatory

changed dramatically gone are mandatory

changed dramatically gone are mandatory retirements pensions and bingo games in

retirements pensions and bingo games in

retirements pensions and bingo games in church basements we’re working long past

church basements we’re working long past

church basements we’re working long past 65 both by choice and by necessity and

65 both by choice and by necessity and

65 both by choice and by necessity and we’re living longer too you know it’s

we’re living longer too you know it’s

we’re living longer too you know it’s interesting to think about a and man

interesting to think about a and man

interesting to think about a and man today who’s 65 he’ll most likely live

today who’s 65 he’ll most likely live

today who’s 65 he’ll most likely live until he’s 84 and four women will live

until he’s 84 and four women will live

until he’s 84 and four women will live till 86 and if you’re a couple age 65

till 86 and if you’re a couple age 65

till 86 and if you’re a couple age 65 you actually have a 50% chance of living

you actually have a 50% chance of living

you actually have a 50% chance of living to 92 unlike any generation before us we

to 92 unlike any generation before us we

to 92 unlike any generation before us we now have an extra 60 plus years of life

now have an extra 60 plus years of life

now have an extra 60 plus years of life whoops

whoops

whoops 20 plus years of life to plan for how

20 plus years of life to plan for how

20 plus years of life to plan for how will we do it with our society chipping

will we do it with our society chipping

will we do it with our society chipping away at economic constants like pensions

away at economic constants like pensions

away at economic constants like pensions social security and

social security and

social security and Medicare it can seem like planning for

Medicare it can seem like planning for

Medicare it can seem like planning for our future requires a crystal ball but

our future requires a crystal ball but

our future requires a crystal ball but it actually only takes a few things

it actually only takes a few things

it actually only takes a few things number one thinking ahead about

number one thinking ahead about

number one thinking ahead about retirement plan now for the future

retirement plan now for the future

retirement plan now for the future number two understanding what help is

number two understanding what help is

number two understanding what help is available

available

available and number three knowing where to go

and number three knowing where to go

and number three knowing where to go when things don’t really turn out like

when things don’t really turn out like

when things don’t really turn out like you planned well I don’t have a crystal

you planned well I don’t have a crystal

you planned well I don’t have a crystal ball but I had an amazing grandmother B

ball but I had an amazing grandmother B

ball but I had an amazing grandmother B synthesis she beautiful I was her

synthesis she beautiful I was her

synthesis she beautiful I was her favorite but she was incredible didn’t

favorite but she was incredible didn’t

favorite but she was incredible didn’t have a great education but she knew that

have a great education but she knew that

have a great education but she knew that we had to invest in our future it was

we had to invest in our future it was

we had to invest in our future it was about us she made everybody feel

about us she made everybody feel

about us she made everybody feel empowered especially the girls and she’s

empowered especially the girls and she’s

empowered especially the girls and she’s like today you go to school because

like today you go to school because

like today you go to school because tomorrow

tomorrow

tomorrow it’s about your investment in your life

it’s about your investment in your life

it’s about your investment in your life she used to trail me all the time say

she used to trail me all the time say

she used to trail me all the time say Anna Madea keep going and boys wait till

Anna Madea keep going and boys wait till

Anna Madea keep going and boys wait till you’re 30 because to her again it was

you’re 30 because to her again it was

you’re 30 because to her again it was all about the numbers I’ve got a few

all about the numbers I’ve got a few

all about the numbers I’ve got a few numbers for you

numbers for you

numbers for you the first one there’s an estimate that

the first one there’s an estimate that

the first one there’s an estimate that says that it costs fourteen thousand

says that it costs fourteen thousand

says that it costs fourteen thousand dollars a year to raise a child well I

dollars a year to raise a child well I

dollars a year to raise a child well I have a son his name is Michael

have a son his name is Michael

have a son his name is Michael Christopher and I can tell you that

Christopher and I can tell you that

Christopher and I can tell you that number is actually pretty accurate I

number is actually pretty accurate I

number is actually pretty accurate I think it’s actually a little low but how

think it’s actually a little low but how

think it’s actually a little low but how many of you know how much it cost each

many of you know how much it cost each

many of you know how much it cost each year to age anybody well our partners at

year to age anybody well our partners at

year to age anybody well our partners at the University of Massachusetts Boston

the University of Massachusetts Boston

the University of Massachusetts Boston actually do have an estimate a number

actually do have an estimate a number

actually do have an estimate a number for us and this is what they say if you

for us and this is what they say if you

for us and this is what they say if you are 65 and renting your home you will

are 65 and renting your home you will

are 65 and renting your home you will need $23,000 a year just to cover your

need $23,000 a year just to cover your

need $23,000 a year just to cover your basic necessities we’re talking housing

basic necessities we’re talking housing

basic necessities we’re talking housing heat and food not surfboards let’s do

heat and food not surfboards let’s do

heat and food not surfboards let’s do the math you need twenty three thousand

the math you need twenty three thousand

the math you need twenty three thousand dollars a year for the bare essentials

dollars a year for the bare essentials

dollars a year for the bare essentials today the average Social Security

today the average Social Security

today the average Social Security benefit is sixteen thousand dollars a

benefit is sixteen thousand dollars a

benefit is sixteen thousand dollars a year which leaves a gap of seven

year which leaves a gap of seven

year which leaves a gap of seven thousand dollars so you turn to personal

thousand dollars so you turn to personal

thousand dollars so you turn to personal savings and here’s a statistic that may

savings and here’s a statistic that may

savings and here’s a statistic that may shock you among people

shock you among people

shock you among people hiring today the median savings is

hiring today the median savings is

hiring today the median savings is $40,000 $40,000 total so if you’re

$40,000 $40,000 total so if you’re

$40,000 $40,000 total so if you’re looking to make up that $7,000 gap with

looking to make up that $7,000 gap with

looking to make up that $7,000 gap with your savings $40,000 will get you not

your savings $40,000 will get you not

your savings $40,000 will get you not quite six years just for the basics and

quite six years just for the basics and

quite six years just for the basics and remember people are living 20 or more

remember people are living 20 or more

remember people are living 20 or more years past retirement these days and

years past retirement these days and

years past retirement these days and unfortunately women actually start

unfortunately women actually start

unfortunately women actually start further behind they enter retirement

further behind they enter retirement

further behind they enter retirement with the huge hurdle that’s followed

with the huge hurdle that’s followed

with the huge hurdle that’s followed them throughout their lives it’s called

them throughout their lives it’s called

them throughout their lives it’s called the pay gap duh right ladies okay now

the pay gap duh right ladies okay now

the pay gap duh right ladies okay now it’s called the pay gap and it really

it’s called the pay gap and it really

it’s called the pay gap and it really causes issues for us because again we’re

causes issues for us because again we’re

causes issues for us because again we’re entering retirement with less money

entering retirement with less money

entering retirement with less money saved and less money earned and for

saved and less money earned and for

saved and less money earned and for women of color

women of color

women of color there’s even a deeper disparity overall

there’s even a deeper disparity overall

there’s even a deeper disparity overall women earn nearly $4,000 a year or less

women earn nearly $4,000 a year or less

women earn nearly $4,000 a year or less in Social Security benefits than men but

in Social Security benefits than men but

in Social Security benefits than men but again there’s an answer and for us you

again there’s an answer and for us you

again there’s an answer and for us you know we continue to work toward this

know we continue to work toward this

know we continue to work toward this issue because it’s important that

issue because it’s important that

issue because it’s important that everybody’s engaged and everybody knows

everybody’s engaged and everybody knows

everybody’s engaged and everybody knows what’s possible I have another number

what’s possible I have another number

what’s possible I have another number for you our friends at the it’s Employee

for you our friends at the it’s Employee

for you our friends at the it’s Employee Benefit Research Institute stated that

Benefit Research Institute stated that

Benefit Research Institute stated that it actually cost women today to retire a

it actually cost women today to retire a

it actually cost women today to retire a hundred and forty three thousand dollars

hundred and forty three thousand dollars

hundred and forty three thousand dollars just to cover her medical benefits and

just to cover her medical benefits and

just to cover her medical benefits and cost and issues during retirement and

cost and issues during retirement and

cost and issues during retirement and that’s with Medicare so what can you do

that’s with Medicare so what can you do

that’s with Medicare so what can you do to think ahead even if you haven’t paid

to think ahead even if you haven’t paid

to think ahead even if you haven’t paid but saved a single penny so far first

but saved a single penny so far first

but saved a single penny so far first start putting in time and effort on a

start putting in time and effort on a

start putting in time and effort on a regular basis develop revisit and refine

regular basis develop revisit and refine

regular basis develop revisit and refine a financial plan you can do it alone

a financial plan you can do it alone

a financial plan you can do it alone with a partner or with a friend even

with a partner or with a friend even

with a partner or with a friend even better do it with an expert

better do it with an expert

better do it with an expert Keeney to your plan is a budget so

Keeney to your plan is a budget so

Keeney to your plan is a budget so that’s really boring I’m sorry it’s a

that’s really boring I’m sorry it’s a

that’s really boring I’m sorry it’s a little boring yep it’s boring nothing

little boring yep it’s boring nothing

little boring yep it’s boring nothing fancy about it but you’ve got to know

fancy about it but you’ve got to know

fancy about it but you’ve got to know what’s coming in and going out now as

what’s coming in and going out now as

what’s coming in and going out now as well as what your budget will look like

well as what your budget will look like

well as what your budget will look like in the future it’s also essential to

in the future it’s also essential to

in the future it’s also essential to reduce debt limit your use of credit and

reduce debt limit your use of credit and

reduce debt limit your use of credit and don’t forget to pay yourself first by

don’t forget to pay yourself first by

don’t forget to pay yourself first by putting money into savings with

putting money into savings with

putting money into savings with budgeting comes the requirement of

budgeting comes the requirement of

budgeting comes the requirement of discipline

discipline

discipline boring boring discipline yes

boring boring discipline yes

boring boring discipline yes Hana it’s boring especially in our

Hana it’s boring especially in our

Hana it’s boring especially in our instant gratification society but

instant gratification society but

instant gratification society but without discipline your plan will fall

without discipline your plan will fall

without discipline your plan will fall apart and so will your dreams of a

apart and so will your dreams of a

apart and so will your dreams of a fulfilling retirement there are great

fulfilling retirement there are great

fulfilling retirement there are great tools online that can help you the

tools online that can help you the

tools online that can help you the Social Security Administration website

Social Security Administration website

Social Security Administration website for example will calculate your benefit

for example will calculate your benefit

for example will calculate your benefit depending on when you start to collect

depending on when you start to collect

depending on when you start to collect and ballpark estimate helps you figure

and ballpark estimate helps you figure

and ballpark estimate helps you figure out how much to save for a comfortable

out how much to save for a comfortable

out how much to save for a comfortable later life well that brings us actually

later life well that brings us actually

later life well that brings us actually to the second point we wanted to make

to the second point we wanted to make

to the second point we wanted to make and that’s knowing where to go for help

and that’s knowing where to go for help

and that’s knowing where to go for help if you need it my friend mr. MacNeil is

if you need it my friend mr. MacNeil is

if you need it my friend mr. MacNeil is a good example of that he enjoyed life

a good example of that he enjoyed life

a good example of that he enjoyed life long independence as a makeup artist and

long independence as a makeup artist and

long independence as a makeup artist and stylist of the stars of the Harlem

stylist of the stars of the Harlem

stylist of the stars of the Harlem Renaissance but at age 80 his luck

Renaissance but at age 80 his luck

Renaissance but at age 80 his luck turned when his funds dried up he was

turned when his funds dried up he was

turned when his funds dried up he was forced to move from his New York home in

forced to move from his New York home in

forced to move from his New York home in with his son in Delaware this is not

with his son in Delaware this is not

with his son in Delaware this is not what he wanted the good news is that mr.

what he wanted the good news is that mr.

what he wanted the good news is that mr. McNeill turned to his local Senior

McNeill turned to his local Senior

McNeill turned to his local Senior Center for help now if you think that

Center for help now if you think that

Center for help now if you think that senior centers are just places where old

senior centers are just places where old

senior centers are just places where old people sit around and play bingo

people sit around and play bingo

people sit around and play bingo think again senior centers are fantastic

think again senior centers are fantastic

think again senior centers are fantastic places to socialize learn new things

places to socialize learn new things

places to socialize learn new things stay fit and engaged and get help when

stay fit and engaged and get help when

stay fit and engaged and get help when you need it at the Wilmington Senior

you need it at the Wilmington Senior

you need it at the Wilmington Senior Center mr. McNeil met with a financial

Center mr. McNeil met with a financial

Center mr. McNeil met with a financial coach from Delaware standby

coach from Delaware standby

coach from Delaware standby any program together they discovered he

any program together they discovered he

any program together they discovered he was eligible for an additional Social

was eligible for an additional Social

was eligible for an additional Social Security benefit that added a thousand

Security benefit that added a thousand

Security benefit that added a thousand dollars a month to his income they also

dollars a month to his income they also

dollars a month to his income they also used the benefits checkup from the

used the benefits checkup from the

used the benefits checkup from the National Council on Aging and found

National Council on Aging and found

National Council on Aging and found extra food for healthy meals at home

extra food for healthy meals at home

extra food for healthy meals at home today mr. McNeil is independent once

today mr. McNeil is independent once

today mr. McNeil is independent once more he lives in his own apartment comes

more he lives in his own apartment comes

more he lives in his own apartment comes and goes as he pleases and is most happy

and goes as he pleases and is most happy

and goes as he pleases and is most happy hanging out with his lady friends at the

hanging out with his lady friends at the

hanging out with his lady friends at the Senior Center I can see why are you so

Senior Center I can see why are you so

Senior Center I can see why are you so happy so you have great stories can you

happy so you have great stories can you

happy so you have great stories can you tell us a story around our third point

tell us a story around our third point

tell us a story around our third point and that’s where to go when things don’t

and that’s where to go when things don’t

and that’s where to go when things don’t go it’s quite as planned I can and this

go it’s quite as planned I can and this

go it’s quite as planned I can and this story is about one of the people I

story is about one of the people I

story is about one of the people I treasure most in my life

treasure most in my life

treasure most in my life my ninety eight year old mother-in-law

my ninety eight year old mother-in-law

my ninety eight year old mother-in-law was a homemaker who raised five children

was a homemaker who raised five children

was a homemaker who raised five children I’m married to bill number five Clara

I’m married to bill number five Clara

I’m married to bill number five Clara was loved and well taken care of by her

was loved and well taken care of by her

was loved and well taken care of by her optometrist husband who died nearly

optometrist husband who died nearly

optometrist husband who died nearly thirty years ago he left life insurance

thirty years ago he left life insurance

thirty years ago he left life insurance an annuity Social Security no mortgage

an annuity Social Security no mortgage

an annuity Social Security no mortgage plus he had taken out a long-term care

plus he had taken out a long-term care

plus he had taken out a long-term care policy for her few years back Clara

policy for her few years back Clara

policy for her few years back Clara moved into an assisted living residence

moved into an assisted living residence

moved into an assisted living residence where she quickly found friends they eat

where she quickly found friends they eat

where she quickly found friends they eat together each day talk politics and

together each day talk politics and

together each day talk politics and reminisce but four years into her new

reminisce but four years into her new

reminisce but four years into her new home and Clara is running out of money

home and Clara is running out of money

home and Clara is running out of money now what fortunately for her there’s

now what fortunately for her there’s

now what fortunately for her there’s Medicaid Clara never envisioned using it

Medicaid Clara never envisioned using it

Medicaid Clara never envisioned using it and she’s probably not someone that you

and she’s probably not someone that you

and she’s probably not someone that you can imagine meeting it but for Clara and

can imagine meeting it but for Clara and

can imagine meeting it but for Clara and millions of other older adults across

millions of other older adults across

millions of other older adults across our country Medicaid is a life saver

our country Medicaid is a life saver

our country Medicaid is a life saver with it they are able to stay safe

with it they are able to stay safe

with it they are able to stay safe secure and happy in the place they call

secure and happy in the place they call

secure and happy in the place they call home so here’s our idea worth spreading

home so here’s our idea worth spreading

home so here’s our idea worth spreading aging shouldn’t be something

aging shouldn’t be something

aging shouldn’t be something just happens to you like career

just happens to you like career

just happens to you like career decisions education decisions

decisions education decisions

decisions education decisions relationship decisions you have to make

relationship decisions you have to make

relationship decisions you have to make thoughtful deliberate choices about

thoughtful deliberate choices about

thoughtful deliberate choices about aging you have to think ahead you have

aging you have to think ahead you have

aging you have to think ahead you have to know where to go for help and what

to know where to go for help and what

to know where to go for help and what help is available you know at the

help is available you know at the

help is available you know at the National Council on Aging we talked a

National Council on Aging we talked a

National Council on Aging we talked a lot about mastering aging to us that

lot about mastering aging to us that

lot about mastering aging to us that means aging with the best health

means aging with the best health

means aging with the best health economic security and independence

economic security and independence

economic security and independence possible for your situation

possible for your situation

possible for your situation and it’s also about thinking about the

and it’s also about thinking about the

and it’s also about thinking about the third stage of your life because in this

third stage of your life because in this

third stage of your life because in this society we teach kids how to become

society we teach kids how to become

society we teach kids how to become adults but we don’t teach older people

adults but we don’t teach older people

adults but we don’t teach older people how to grow well older and safe so again

how to grow well older and safe so again

how to grow well older and safe so again we would love to engage you all in

we would love to engage you all in

we would love to engage you all in ensuring that you are embracing this

ensuring that you are embracing this

ensuring that you are embracing this stage of life it’s about you it’s about

stage of life it’s about you it’s about

stage of life it’s about you it’s about understanding what’s possible and like a

understanding what’s possible and like a

understanding what’s possible and like a good Girl Scout or Boy Scout you can be

good Girl Scout or Boy Scout you can be

good Girl Scout or Boy Scout you can be prepared because being prepared means we

prepared because being prepared means we

prepared because being prepared means we can live the life we want to the very

can live the life we want to the very

can live the life we want to the very end without ever buying cat food unless

end without ever buying cat food unless

end without ever buying cat food unless that is we have a cat

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