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New Meeting Culture | Gothanayagi Tharmalingam | TEDxYishun


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[Applause] very start by offering you a few easy

very start by offering you a few easy

very start by offering you a few easy simple hats to conduct productive

simple hats to conduct productive

simple hats to conduct productive meetings if you somehow acquire these

meetings if you somehow acquire these

meetings if you somehow acquire these skills your meeting experience will be

skills your meeting experience will be

skills your meeting experience will be pretty cool they’re active and I’m gonna

pretty cool they’re active and I’m gonna

pretty cool they’re active and I’m gonna share is about how you could have a

share is about how you could have a

share is about how you could have a productive meeting and jump out out bad

productive meeting and jump out out bad

productive meeting and jump out out bad eating habits okay what happened then

eating habits okay what happened then

eating habits okay what happened then what happen what happen so you drop the

what happen what happen so you drop the

what happen what happen so you drop the ball literally just imagine what went

ball literally just imagine what went

ball literally just imagine what went through your mind when you saw the ball

through your mind when you saw the ball

through your mind when you saw the ball flying

flying

flying you got a big defector UN out of focus

you got a big defector UN out of focus

you got a big defector UN out of focus and probably thought three what’s going

and probably thought three what’s going

and probably thought three what’s going on

on

on What’s Up now what’s this ball thingy so

What’s Up now what’s this ball thingy so

What’s Up now what’s this ball thingy so these are small things that you can do

these are small things that you can do

these are small things that you can do in a meeting these trainings workshops

in a meeting these trainings workshops

in a meeting these trainings workshops are interested in and want to shift the

are interested in and want to shift the

are interested in and want to shift the momentum having an object it’s literally

momentum having an object it’s literally

momentum having an object it’s literally a game-changer it makes you engage and

a game-changer it makes you engage and

a game-changer it makes you engage and interact with people so you just get

interact with people so you just get

interact with people so you just get that stuff chat and you wonder what was

that stuff chat and you wonder what was

that stuff chat and you wonder what was going on

going on

going on there was already something happening at

there was already something happening at

there was already something happening at your mental level so we will learn how

your mental level so we will learn how

your mental level so we will learn how people by doing something with a simple

people by doing something with a simple

people by doing something with a simple thing at the ball so you’re noticing

thing at the ball so you’re noticing

thing at the ball so you’re noticing what they’re going to and how this will

what they’re going to and how this will

what they’re going to and how this will affect in total you’re making experience

affect in total you’re making experience

affect in total you’re making experience so what’s the first thing that happens

so what’s the first thing that happens

so what’s the first thing that happens to the meeting everyone when you come to

to the meeting everyone when you come to

to the meeting everyone when you come to a meeting what you do

yeah

yeah so usually a good meeting starts with a

so usually a good meeting starts with a

so usually a good meeting starts with a nice warm hello hi how are you welcome

nice warm hello hi how are you welcome

nice warm hello hi how are you welcome is mine good eye contact and that

is mine good eye contact and that

is mine good eye contact and that already sexy was doing for you okay so

already sexy was doing for you okay so

already sexy was doing for you okay so you’re not going to be able to let us

you’re not going to be able to let us

you’re not going to be able to let us sit down and be a consumer yesterday

sit down and be a consumer yesterday

sit down and be a consumer yesterday you’re going to participate and practice

you’re going to participate and practice

you’re going to participate and practice out what we are going through so that it

out what we are going through so that it

out what we are going through so that it becomes an experience so good meeting

becomes an experience so good meeting

becomes an experience so good meeting starts with an introduction similarly

starts with an introduction similarly

starts with an introduction similarly like here where you have a lot of

like here where you have a lot of

like here where you have a lot of strangers and we want to engage and

strangers and we want to engage and

strangers and we want to engage and laugh just trying this out so can you

laugh just trying this out so can you

laugh just trying this out so can you just like Choi say hello my name is give

just like Choi say hello my name is give

just like Choi say hello my name is give a warm house hello and welcome and shake

a warm house hello and welcome and shake

a warm house hello and welcome and shake somebody’s hand

somebody’s hand

somebody’s hand nobody some people out there yes I can

nobody some people out there yes I can

nobody some people out there yes I can see you yeah say hello maybe someone in

see you yeah say hello maybe someone in

see you yeah say hello maybe someone in the back and say why are you excited to

the back and say why are you excited to

the back and say why are you excited to be here take a deep breath notice what

be here take a deep breath notice what

be here take a deep breath notice what happened to you just this small

happened to you just this small

happened to you just this small interaction and engagement with another

interaction and engagement with another

interaction and engagement with another human being

human being

human being brings you to a kind of a situation

brings you to a kind of a situation

brings you to a kind of a situation where you feel warm in center just talk

where you feel warm in center just talk

where you feel warm in center just talk to somebody maybe it’s also someone you

to somebody maybe it’s also someone you

to somebody maybe it’s also someone you know it’s fine but just interacting with

know it’s fine but just interacting with

know it’s fine but just interacting with them which you an opening which is the

them which you an opening which is the

them which you an opening which is the kind of energy and level that you want

kind of energy and level that you want

kind of energy and level that you want to have in your meetings don’t want

to have in your meetings don’t want

to have in your meetings don’t want people to come in sit down and strange

people to come in sit down and strange

people to come in sit down and strange me I look

me I look

me I look hmmm what’s going on you want to start

hmmm what’s going on you want to start

hmmm what’s going on you want to start something like that so that’s that’s a

something like that so that’s that’s a

something like that so that’s that’s a good start and when you hear everyone’s

good start and when you hear everyone’s

good start and when you hear everyone’s voice you start with an expectation you

voice you start with an expectation you

voice you start with an expectation you know why you are here

know why you are here

know why you are here a quick check how come you have ever

a quick check how come you have ever

a quick check how come you have ever attended any tea or any kind of meeting

attended any tea or any kind of meeting

attended any tea or any kind of meeting okay what’s up guys attended the next

okay what’s up guys attended the next

okay what’s up guys attended the next question how many of you had at least

question how many of you had at least

question how many of you had at least one body meeting in your life so what

one body meeting in your life so what

one body meeting in your life so what about these meetings that made you

about these meetings that made you

about these meetings that made you excited oh boy

excited oh boy

excited oh boy you gotta take care of this details so

you gotta take care of this details so

you gotta take care of this details so that you know how to manage it

that you know how to manage it

that you know how to manage it differently and you can use the

differently and you can use the

differently and you can use the interactions and the a teaspoon and

interactions and the a teaspoon and

interactions and the a teaspoon and shift the momentum like the ball of your

shift the momentum like the ball of your

shift the momentum like the ball of your head just now you’re making experiences

head just now you’re making experiences

head just now you’re making experiences will be so beautiful and suddenly your

will be so beautiful and suddenly your

will be so beautiful and suddenly your mind wanders off to that far far away

mind wanders off to that far far away

mind wanders off to that far far away place where you think oh my god is

place where you think oh my god is

place where you think oh my god is urgent past that I need to do it’s

urgent past that I need to do it’s

urgent past that I need to do it’s sitting on my dash anymore or perhaps

sitting on my dash anymore or perhaps

sitting on my dash anymore or perhaps you were thinking about the difficult

you were thinking about the difficult

you were thinking about the difficult conversation that you have with your

conversation that you have with your

conversation that you have with your boss or a customer that has somehow

boss or a customer that has somehow

boss or a customer that has somehow affected you emotionally and again

affected you emotionally and again

affected you emotionally and again probably you are thinking about vision

probably you are thinking about vision

probably you are thinking about vision yeah who do I go in and the very least

yeah who do I go in and the very least

yeah who do I go in and the very least you might also be thinking about what do

you might also be thinking about what do

you might also be thinking about what do I do when I go home tonight

I do when I go home tonight

I do when I go home tonight my spouse asked me to get something for

my spouse asked me to get something for

my spouse asked me to get something for dinner so these are things that I check

dinner so these are things that I check

dinner so these are things that I check our minds and make us not in the moment

our minds and make us not in the moment

our minds and make us not in the moment during the meetings so I had the

during the meetings so I had the

during the meetings so I had the opportunity to work with

opportunity to work with

opportunity to work with my clients and so this is the client in

my clients and so this is the client in

my clients and so this is the client in Assisi and we once a high esteem okay

Assisi and we once a high esteem okay

Assisi and we once a high esteem okay she has working experience in

she has working experience in

she has working experience in hospitality industry on the way to

hospitality industry on the way to

hospitality industry on the way to organization and part of the job is

organization and part of the job is

organization and part of the job is either to attend meetings or the quality

either to attend meetings or the quality

either to attend meetings or the quality will become for meetings because she

will become for meetings because she

will become for meetings because she wants to have some discussions some

wants to have some discussions some

wants to have some discussions some ideas some creative thoughts how she can

ideas some creative thoughts how she can

ideas some creative thoughts how she can manage the meetings better so what she

manage the meetings better so what she

manage the meetings better so what she did like I put employee she tried to

did like I put employee she tried to

did like I put employee she tried to Google up all the tools doors whatever

Google up all the tools doors whatever

Google up all the tools doors whatever how I need a meeting

how I need a meeting

how I need a meeting engaging how do I get people involved

engaging how do I get people involved

engaging how do I get people involved and so on but somehow along the way she

and so on but somehow along the way she

and so on but somehow along the way she found although she knew a lot of things

found although she knew a lot of things

found although she knew a lot of things that she needed to do and avoided

that she needed to do and avoided

that she needed to do and avoided meetings she didn’t quite produce the

meetings she didn’t quite produce the

meetings she didn’t quite produce the results that she wanted one of the main

results that she wanted one of the main

results that she wanted one of the main things that she destroyed or encountered

things that she destroyed or encountered

things that she destroyed or encountered in really my style

in really my style

in really my style a lot of people today I didn’t get away

a lot of people today I didn’t get away

a lot of people today I didn’t get away from eating all these things we don’t

from eating all these things we don’t

from eating all these things we don’t know and some of the times a client she

know and some of the times a client she

know and some of the times a client she also helped back-to-back meetings so she

also helped back-to-back meetings so she

also helped back-to-back meetings so she had to run from one meeting to another

had to run from one meeting to another

had to run from one meeting to another meeting having very minimal buffer in

meeting having very minimal buffer in

meeting having very minimal buffer in between so either she was late for

between so either she was late for

between so either she was late for someone or she was waiting for someone

someone or she was waiting for someone

someone or she was waiting for someone so this was a big problem in the

so this was a big problem in the

so this was a big problem in the meetings and the next thing that she is

meetings and the next thing that she is

meetings and the next thing that she is understand Oh God employee meetings

understand Oh God employee meetings

understand Oh God employee meetings people are participating they are

people are participating they are

people are participating they are sitting like a spectator who had for

sitting like a spectator who had for

sitting like a spectator who had for some tickets in a movie and you know

some tickets in a movie and you know

some tickets in a movie and you know and disengaging themselves so how do you

and disengaging themselves so how do you

and disengaging themselves so how do you get people to participate so you’re

get people to participate so you’re

get people to participate so you’re going to do something now it’s really

going to do something now it’s really

going to do something now it’s really over participation are you willing to

over participation are you willing to

over participation are you willing to participate 100% how many of you are

participate 100% how many of you are

participate 100% how many of you are okay all right you’re gonna see them and

okay all right you’re gonna see them and

okay all right you’re gonna see them and your favorite team is playing in your

your favorite team is playing in your

your favorite team is playing in your back to row for them if they get a goal

back to row for them if they get a goal

back to row for them if they get a goal how would your enemy so if they miss the

how would your enemy so if they miss the

how would your enemy so if they miss the goal what would your reaction be like

okay this is all about takes a few

okay this is all about takes a few seconds we do that and you get energy so

seconds we do that and you get energy so

seconds we do that and you get energy so why we need to do that how did you feel

why we need to do that how did you feel

why we need to do that how did you feel when you decided to play and you were

when you decided to play and you were

when you decided to play and you were evolved and you were looking at it your

evolved and you were looking at it your

evolved and you were looking at it your mind your body everything was involved

mind your body everything was involved

mind your body everything was involved in the process rather than only sitting

in the process rather than only sitting

in the process rather than only sitting and listening to what I’m saying

and listening to what I’m saying

and listening to what I’m saying so it’s very important when you do the

so it’s very important when you do the

so it’s very important when you do the meetings or trading so much or whatever

meetings or trading so much or whatever

meetings or trading so much or whatever that you figure out a small area where

that you figure out a small area where

that you figure out a small area where you can engage your participants

you can engage your participants

you can engage your participants otherwise they will go to sleep the next

otherwise they will go to sleep the next

otherwise they will go to sleep the next thing that client faced was that you

thing that client faced was that you

thing that client faced was that you know people are against me

know people are against me

know people are against me they’re people listening to answer they

they’re people listening to answer they

they’re people listening to answer they want to give you a reply they are not

want to give you a reply they are not

want to give you a reply they are not listening in a way that is engaging the

listening in a way that is engaging the

listening in a way that is engaging the conversation many people think that if

conversation many people think that if

conversation many people think that if you listen if you’re doing listening now

you listen if you’re doing listening now

you listen if you’re doing listening now you have to be silent and

and then after that so that’s not what

and then after that so that’s not what miss beautiful and active listening and

miss beautiful and active listening and

miss beautiful and active listening and engaging listening is about not only

engaging listening is about not only

engaging listening is about not only fella easy but also to a nice place

fella easy but also to a nice place

fella easy but also to a nice place whatever that you’ve learned or listen

whatever that you’ve learned or listen

whatever that you’ve learned or listen know understood in a way that is useful

know understood in a way that is useful

know understood in a way that is useful to the listener and as well adding value

to the listener and as well adding value

to the listener and as well adding value to the speaker so yeah what this is

to the speaker so yeah what this is

to the speaker so yeah what this is meaning not only the audio song to me

meaning not only the audio song to me

meaning not only the audio song to me but you also what we look into what this

but you also what we look into what this

but you also what we look into what this means

means

means how can you interpret with your frame of

how can you interpret with your frame of

how can you interpret with your frame of reference your understanding how do you

reference your understanding how do you

reference your understanding how do you give value to the speaker so we need to

give value to the speaker so we need to

give value to the speaker so we need to practice listening carefully the next

practice listening carefully the next

practice listening carefully the next thing is that speaking of technically

thing is that speaking of technically

thing is that speaking of technically [Music]

yeah

yeah and especially if it happens like right

and especially if it happens like right

and especially if it happens like right after on time that’s the prime time to

after on time that’s the prime time to

after on time that’s the prime time to fall asleep yeah cue that comes in where

fall asleep yeah cue that comes in where

fall asleep yeah cue that comes in where your eyes are open and then you know

your eyes are open and then you know

your eyes are open and then you know nowadays we live in the era of

nowadays we live in the era of

nowadays we live in the era of Technology so you really want to get

Technology so you really want to get

Technology so you really want to get maximum benefit of this next few seconds

maximum benefit of this next few seconds

maximum benefit of this next few seconds you must learn to disconnect the

you must learn to disconnect the

you must learn to disconnect the technology that keeps you connected with

technology that keeps you connected with

technology that keeps you connected with people so far away is also the one that

people so far away is also the one that

people so far away is also the one that keeps will be selective with the people

keeps will be selective with the people

keeps will be selective with the people very dear to you so you know everything

very dear to you so you know everything

very dear to you so you know everything now oh yeah I am

now oh yeah I am

now oh yeah I am I know this but knowing is not the same

I know this but knowing is not the same

I know this but knowing is not the same as doing you may know a lot of things

as doing you may know a lot of things

as doing you may know a lot of things you also know how to behave and be in an

you also know how to behave and be in an

you also know how to behave and be in an auditorium but somehow sometimes you

auditorium but somehow sometimes you

auditorium but somehow sometimes you don’t do the things that we know and

don’t do the things that we know and

don’t do the things that we know and Tony is also not the same as P because

Tony is also not the same as P because

Tony is also not the same as P because you can do something but not be part of

you can do something but not be part of

you can do something but not be part of it so always do the things what you say

it so always do the things what you say

it so always do the things what you say and what you mean and consist believe we

and what you mean and consist believe we

and what you mean and consist believe we think sudden stop immediately so then

think sudden stop immediately so then

think sudden stop immediately so then finally our computing machines okay

finally our computing machines okay

finally our computing machines okay you’re gonna start a new MIDI culture

you’re gonna start a new MIDI culture

you’re gonna start a new MIDI culture you gotta start somewhere so that people

you gotta start somewhere so that people

you gotta start somewhere so that people get used to what you’re doing and this

get used to what you’re doing and this

get used to what you’re doing and this becomes 17 so how do you start a culture

becomes 17 so how do you start a culture

becomes 17 so how do you start a culture it’s a very big boy come to the

it’s a very big boy come to the

it’s a very big boy come to the beginning with something as small as a

beginning with something as small as a

beginning with something as small as a habit okay so we transformed everything

habit okay so we transformed everything

habit okay so we transformed everything that was a problem people being laid

that was a problem people being laid

that was a problem people being laid people not participating everything to a

people not participating everything to a

people not participating everything to a new meeting culture above from your

new meeting culture above from your

new meeting culture above from your chest

chest

chest okay so what’s gonna happen you drink it

okay so what’s gonna happen you drink it

okay so what’s gonna happen you drink it spring up yeah it’s like anything up so

spring up yeah it’s like anything up so

spring up yeah it’s like anything up so when I say one two three go quickly why

when I say one two three go quickly why

when I say one two three go quickly why you need to do that I will tell you

you need to do that I will tell you

you need to do that I will tell you right after you finish it okay

right after you finish it okay

right after you finish it okay are you ready one two three spring up

are you ready one two three spring up

are you ready one two three spring up okay whoops

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[Music] how you feel you want to do this and the

how you feel you want to do this and the

how you feel you want to do this and the reason we experience this is that after

reason we experience this is that after

reason we experience this is that after this when you have to attend MEP do

this when you have to attend MEP do

this when you have to attend MEP do everything

everything

everything think about how you think these are not

think about how you think these are not

think about how you think these are not very complicated things in sprockets

very complicated things in sprockets

very complicated things in sprockets money so you and I can do it and that

money so you and I can do it and that

money so you and I can do it and that means that you have to unlearn some of

means that you have to unlearn some of

means that you have to unlearn some of the things that you’ve learned and

the things that you’ve learned and

the things that you’ve learned and relearn what we are doing now normally

relearn what we are doing now normally

relearn what we are doing now normally many things we want to think outside the

many things we want to think outside the

many things we want to think outside the box okay but it doesn’t make it all our

box okay but it doesn’t make it all our

box okay but it doesn’t make it all our life we are in the box we live in a box

life we are in the box we live in a box

life we are in the box we live in a box we come to work in a box probably your

we come to work in a box probably your

we come to work in a box probably your office looks like a box you eat

office looks like a box you eat

office looks like a box you eat something out of a box enter so then how

something out of a box enter so then how

something out of a box enter so then how do you think ourselves outside the box

do you think ourselves outside the box

do you think ourselves outside the box the trick to that is to unlearn and

the trick to that is to unlearn and

the trick to that is to unlearn and relearn new things so you can’t only use

relearn new things so you can’t only use

relearn new things so you can’t only use body language and interactions to engage

body language and interactions to engage

body language and interactions to engage people because committing if I can use a

people because committing if I can use a

people because committing if I can use a good content I’m not talking about life

good content I’m not talking about life

good content I’m not talking about life do you know what I’m talking about

do you know what I’m talking about

do you know what I’m talking about No so only body language doesn’t come

No so only body language doesn’t come

No so only body language doesn’t come but it has to go in compliment so a

but it has to go in compliment so a

but it has to go in compliment so a well-prepared agenda basically looks

well-prepared agenda basically looks

well-prepared agenda basically looks like this it looks like an arc of

like this it looks like an arc of

like this it looks like an arc of tension people come to a meeting like

tension people come to a meeting like

tension people come to a meeting like just now maybe hi we have to beginning

just now maybe hi we have to beginning

just now maybe hi we have to beginning part where we started with an

part where we started with an

part where we started with an introduction and we went to a few main

introduction and we went to a few main

introduction and we went to a few main points all the big problems will be

points all the big problems will be

points all the big problems will be things in a short while we were it some

things in a short while we were it some

things in a short while we were it some things

things

things and then what you can do and then the

and then what you can do and then the

and then what you can do and then the end is finished

end is finished

end is finished so the at regardless of tension is valid

so the at regardless of tension is valid

so the at regardless of tension is valid whether you’re doing a 15-minute meeting

whether you’re doing a 15-minute meeting

whether you’re doing a 15-minute meeting 30 minutes between you one hour one day

30 minutes between you one hour one day

30 minutes between you one hour one day one week one month one year whatever

one week one month one year whatever

one week one month one year whatever there’s always enough it starts with low

there’s always enough it starts with low

there’s always enough it starts with low expectations plus energy buildup so once

expectations plus energy buildup so once

expectations plus energy buildup so once you’re away about this you gotta decide

you’re away about this you gotta decide

you’re away about this you gotta decide you want to let the energy truck or do

you want to let the energy truck or do

you want to let the energy truck or do you build in New York a new occupant is

some things put against something

some things put against something I mean chartered something that’s my

I mean chartered something that’s my

I mean chartered something that’s my body so that’s how you build multiple

body so that’s how you build multiple

body so that’s how you build multiple arcs so I could stand here for 15

arcs so I could stand here for 15

arcs so I could stand here for 15 minutes and talk in a monotone or I

minutes and talk in a monotone or I

minutes and talk in a monotone or I could do something to engage you

could do something to engage you

could do something to engage you periodically to keep the momentum and

periodically to keep the momentum and

periodically to keep the momentum and shift the energy up and down you can

shift the energy up and down you can

shift the energy up and down you can also do this and have very good results

also do this and have very good results

also do this and have very good results immunities keeping agenda and some

immunities keeping agenda and some

immunities keeping agenda and some context so that we can you really save

context so that we can you really save

context so that we can you really save some our five in the meeting but of

some our five in the meeting but of

some our five in the meeting but of course you need to prepare when you

course you need to prepare when you

course you need to prepare when you spend time preparing for the meeting

spend time preparing for the meeting

spend time preparing for the meeting people come in formed and they are ready

people come in formed and they are ready

people come in formed and they are ready to make decisions so you can think about

to make decisions so you can think about

to make decisions so you can think about what you can do for the future rather

what you can do for the future rather

what you can do for the future rather than okay it happened like that I was at

than okay it happened like that I was at

than okay it happened like that I was at a loss again so what’s the purpose of

a loss again so what’s the purpose of

a loss again so what’s the purpose of all that reporting versus charting

all that reporting versus charting

all that reporting versus charting you want to be charting in your future

you want to be charting in your future

you want to be charting in your future to have some productive reading habits

to have some productive reading habits

to have some productive reading habits so what could you do about productivity

so what could you do about productivity

so what could you do about productivity ethics you can have other content input

ethics you can have other content input

ethics you can have other content input for evaluation productive meetings you

for evaluation productive meetings you

for evaluation productive meetings you could do a few hats some of these hats

could do a few hats some of these hats

could do a few hats some of these hats are the keys keep it short and simple

are the keys keep it short and simple

are the keys keep it short and simple through a communication and engagement

through a communication and engagement

through a communication and engagement if you have PowerPoint okay you can do a

if you have PowerPoint okay you can do a

if you have PowerPoint okay you can do a stand-up meeting outside discussions so

stand-up meeting outside discussions so

stand-up meeting outside discussions so you can decide if you want to be in your

you can decide if you want to be in your

you can decide if you want to be in your board book or in a boardroom

board book or in a boardroom

board book or in a boardroom we can move out to some warehouse

we can move out to some warehouse

we can move out to some warehouse we face they’re not such kind of

we face they’re not such kind of

we face they’re not such kind of excitement and it is within the meetings

excitement and it is within the meetings

excitement and it is within the meetings so this is the summary of what we have

so this is the summary of what we have

so this is the summary of what we have done our media culture we have the

done our media culture we have the

done our media culture we have the agenda we had things the quick hacks

agenda we had things the quick hacks

agenda we had things the quick hacks that you can do and last three days

that you can do and last three days

that you can do and last three days knowledge alone is not enough you must

knowledge alone is not enough you must

knowledge alone is not enough you must you must do the meeting that you want to

you must do the meeting that you want to

you must do the meeting that you want to attend and the meeting only after that

attend and the meeting only after that

attend and the meeting only after that people can start doing the work so what

people can start doing the work so what

people can start doing the work so what happened to the mind finally experience

happened to the mind finally experience

happened to the mind finally experience is happy to be here too

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