Narrative means to life-saving | Yikun Zhou | TEDxYaohuLake

my face might be very bad

my face might be very bad maybe Melissa my head has found its

maybe Melissa my head has found its

maybe Melissa my head has found its place experience terrible but in August

place experience terrible but in August

place experience terrible but in August in 2016 one morning I was woken up by

in 2016 one morning I was woken up by

in 2016 one morning I was woken up by phone call from a girl

phone call from a girl

phone call from a girl Susan a long-lost friend of mine I pick

Susan a long-lost friend of mine I pick

Susan a long-lost friend of mine I pick it up the thing that was his point but

it up the thing that was his point but

it up the thing that was his point but there’s a weak voice saying myself again

there’s a weak voice saying myself again

there’s a weak voice saying myself again I’m overwhelmed by this sudden Chanukah

I’m overwhelmed by this sudden Chanukah

I’m overwhelmed by this sudden Chanukah and I was so I was trying to figure out

and I was so I was trying to figure out

and I was so I was trying to figure out the wire to save her but I feel that I

the wire to save her but I feel that I

the wire to save her but I feel that I had no other options and at least I

had no other options and at least I

had no other options and at least I needed to stop her for the moment

needed to stop her for the moment

needed to stop her for the moment so I said places now you have come for

so I said places now you have come for

so I said places now you have come for my help you won’t kill yourself

my help you won’t kill yourself

my help you won’t kill yourself and this before you get my break so I

and this before you get my break so I

and this before you get my break so I need you to come to Shanghai by this

need you to come to Shanghai by this

need you to come to Shanghai by this weekend to be honest I had no idea what

weekend to be honest I had no idea what

weekend to be honest I had no idea what to do but that was the only option that

to do but that was the only option that

to do but that was the only option that I could choose so two days later she

I could choose so two days later she

I could choose so two days later she came to Shanghai we met each other any

came to Shanghai we met each other any

came to Shanghai we met each other any airport and I directly took they to the

airport and I directly took they to the

airport and I directly took they to the bomb I was about to take that on

bomb I was about to take that on

bomb I was about to take that on together around Shanghai maybe perhaps I

together around Shanghai maybe perhaps I

together around Shanghai maybe perhaps I thought that could easily be minutes and

thought that could easily be minutes and

thought that could easily be minutes and help but turned out to be until we set

help but turned out to be until we set

help but turned out to be until we set up one of those stairs in the bus do we

up one of those stairs in the bus do we

up one of those stairs in the bus do we start to talk without the real problem

start to talk without the real problem

start to talk without the real problem set

set

set there have been taunting her for several

there have been taunting her for several

there have been taunting her for several years there I began to understand the

years there I began to understand the

years there I began to understand the stories I began to understand I began to

stories I began to understand I began to

stories I began to understand I began to know herself narrated stories of her

know herself narrated stories of her

know herself narrated stories of her past experiences but Susan was a

past experiences but Susan was a

past experiences but Susan was a sophomore student a father died of a

sophomore student a father died of a

sophomore student a father died of a heart attack and for several successful

heart attack and for several successful

heart attack and for several successful treatments happy more real

treatments happy more real

treatments happy more real and it was already set but uh but the

and it was already set but uh but the

and it was already set but uh but the father to come back to them to request

father to come back to them to request

father to come back to them to request ah-haaa that was an ordinary day in

ah-haaa that was an ordinary day in

ah-haaa that was an ordinary day in ordinary morning Susan was speaking in a

ordinary morning Susan was speaking in a

ordinary morning Susan was speaking in a back suffering a pain from his from the

back suffering a pain from his from the

back suffering a pain from his from the period because she was suffering a

period because she was suffering a

period because she was suffering a period and she a mark came back from

period and she a mark came back from

period and she a mark came back from outside from an early exercise didn’t

outside from an early exercise didn’t

outside from an early exercise didn’t bring the keys with her she’s not better

bring the keys with her she’s not better

bring the keys with her she’s not better doors and the reason why she didn’t

doors and the reason why she didn’t

doors and the reason why she didn’t bring the keys with there was that

bring the keys with there was that

bring the keys with there was that because she was doing morning exercise

because she was doing morning exercise

because she was doing morning exercise and she was wearing a pair of pants

and she was wearing a pair of pants

and she was wearing a pair of pants without pockets I was surprised I was

without pockets I was surprised I was

without pockets I was surprised I was surprised that Susan was telling this

surprised that Susan was telling this

surprised that Susan was telling this story in such a specific and detailed

story in such a specific and detailed

story in such a specific and detailed fashion but it seems as if she was

fashion but it seems as if she was

fashion but it seems as if she was trying to justify something so Susan is

trying to justify something so Susan is

trying to justify something so Susan is 90 back to the second and painful and

90 back to the second and painful and

90 back to the second and painful and sleepy she didn’t want together to open

sleepy she didn’t want together to open

sleepy she didn’t want together to open it over that Obama why would she she had

it over that Obama why would she she had

it over that Obama why would she she had that there was someone moving next to me

that there was someone moving next to me

that there was someone moving next to me which is her father the father was

well I believe that Mexicans have

well I believe that Mexicans have experienced similar situations in our

experienced similar situations in our

experienced similar situations in our daily life sometimes we can stop want to

daily life sometimes we can stop want to

daily life sometimes we can stop want to get help you just want to line that for

get help you just want to line that for

get help you just want to line that for a few more seconds don’t only does what

a few more seconds don’t only does what

a few more seconds don’t only does what don’t go to school for running

don’t go to school for running

don’t go to school for running this was something like that it’s very

this was something like that it’s very

this was something like that it’s very very what we did but the cost was Susan

very what we did but the cost was Susan

very what we did but the cost was Susan was too much she visits Barry at home

was too much she visits Barry at home

was too much she visits Barry at home because she attribution she made it was

because she attribution she made it was

because she attribution she made it was then she feels it the beloved father

then she feels it the beloved father

then she feels it the beloved father she was the murderer of her father

she was the murderer of her father

she was the murderer of her father because of the laziness because she

because of the laziness because she

because of the laziness because she didn’t want to cover that I was

didn’t want to cover that I was

didn’t want to cover that I was astonished to hear his story the

astonished to hear his story the

astonished to hear his story the narrative of us ended up like this

narrative of us ended up like this

narrative of us ended up like this several months before we back in

several months before we back in

several months before we back in Shanghai he had already committed

Shanghai he had already committed

Shanghai he had already committed several Oh Susanna trans life you say

several Oh Susanna trans life you say

several Oh Susanna trans life you say father mother and the lack of knowledge

father mother and the lack of knowledge

father mother and the lack of knowledge however at the bar he was sitting beside

however at the bar he was sitting beside

however at the bar he was sitting beside me and she said I know it’s wrong and

me and she said I know it’s wrong and

me and she said I know it’s wrong and it’s wrong but I meets my dad said watch

it’s wrong but I meets my dad said watch

it’s wrong but I meets my dad said watch and if I had helped myself that’s that’s

and if I had helped myself that’s that’s

and if I had helped myself that’s that’s the only way I could see him again

the only way I could see him again

the only way I could see him again and that’s the occupation number that is

and that’s the occupation number that is

and that’s the occupation number that is at the very moment after she finished

at the very moment after she finished

at the very moment after she finished her story I began to make it clear and

her story I began to make it clear and

her story I began to make it clear and perhaps I thought all of the narratives

perhaps I thought all of the narratives

perhaps I thought all of the narratives all of the experiences all of herself

all of the experiences all of herself

all of the experiences all of herself narrative stories all came down to a

narrative stories all came down to a

narrative stories all came down to a single point at one decide she just

single point at one decide she just

single point at one decide she just and the only to see her father in heaven

and the only to see her father in heaven

and the only to see her father in heaven who said you know thyself and that’s the

who said you know thyself and that’s the

who said you know thyself and that’s the end of the story

end of the story

end of the story that’s that’s the end of the story that

that’s that’s the end of the story that

that’s that’s the end of the story that she told herself she had been telling

she told herself she had been telling

she told herself she had been telling herself

and there I decided to engage I decided

and there I decided to engage I decided to rewrite this story I started with

to rewrite this story I started with

to rewrite this story I started with several very simple questions for which

several very simple questions for which

several very simple questions for which she could answer but I guess I started

she could answer but I guess I started

she could answer but I guess I started with Susan do you believe in ghosts

with Susan do you believe in ghosts

with Susan do you believe in ghosts yes she was super crying for exactly

yes she was super crying for exactly

yes she was super crying for exactly there’s all that in the eyes and I said

there’s all that in the eyes and I said

there’s all that in the eyes and I said do you believe that the coast of your

do you believe that the coast of your

do you believe that the coast of your father is right now even in the book and

father is right now even in the book and

father is right now even in the book and then I said you miss him so much right

then I said you miss him so much right

then I said you miss him so much right listen so much what you see right now

listen so much what you see right now

listen so much what you see right now right here she said yes and then I

right here she said yes and then I

right here she said yes and then I raised the key question the very

raised the key question the very

raised the key question the very question had changed almost everything

question had changed almost everything

question had changed almost everything because I realized that all the

because I realized that all the

because I realized that all the narratives end up yeah but the story is

narratives end up yeah but the story is

narratives end up yeah but the story is not complete so I really questioned I

not complete so I really questioned I

not complete so I really questioned I said okay Susan now kill yourself right

said okay Susan now kill yourself right

said okay Susan now kill yourself right now right here you meet your dad that’s

now right here you meet your dad that’s

now right here you meet your dad that’s your story

your story

your story that’s how it is what is the first thing

yourself crying inside

yourself crying inside Tony Susan what is the first thing

Tony Susan what is the first thing

Tony Susan what is the first thing that’s trying to tell your father I kept

that’s trying to tell your father I kept

that’s trying to tell your father I kept asking the same question but three times

asking the same question but three times

asking the same question but three times she just didn’t respond and she said I

she just didn’t respond and she said I

she just didn’t respond and she said I knew our furry friends and young very

knew our furry friends and young very

knew our furry friends and young very close to success of saving the life she

close to success of saving the life she

close to success of saving the life she had never thought of this question and

had never thought of this question and

had never thought of this question and she never be able to do without the help

she never be able to do without the help

she never be able to do without the help of the Philip Artie and I took one step

of the Philip Artie and I took one step

of the Philip Artie and I took one step further I said okay you cannot just tell

further I said okay you cannot just tell

further I said okay you cannot just tell you that that I just murdered myself at

you that that I just murdered myself at

you that that I just murdered myself at home and now I can see you you don’t

home and now I can see you you don’t

home and now I can see you you don’t want him another heart attack to you

with tears and I know I succeeded and

with tears and I know I succeeded and that’s it promise me promise me you will

that’s it promise me promise me you will

that’s it promise me promise me you will you will live until one day you meet her

you will live until one day you meet her

you will live until one day you meet her that the first thing that came out of

that the first thing that came out of

that the first thing that came out of the mind was that I’ve had a wonderful

the mind was that I’ve had a wonderful

the mind was that I’ve had a wonderful life and of course you promised me no

life and of course you promised me no

life and of course you promised me no more lives a life per second but I said

more lives a life per second but I said

more lives a life per second but I said Susan by chanting and writing a

Susan by chanting and writing a

Susan by chanting and writing a narrative and herself enumerated stories

narrative and herself enumerated stories

narrative and herself enumerated stories because our past is simply a story that

because our past is simply a story that

because our past is simply a story that we have been telling ourselves and here

we have been telling ourselves and here

we have been telling ourselves and here comes the concept of narrative therapy

comes the concept of narrative therapy

comes the concept of narrative therapy the concept of narrative therapy is a

the concept of narrative therapy is a

the concept of narrative therapy is a form of psychotherapy as seeks to help

form of psychotherapy as seeks to help

form of psychotherapy as seeks to help you identify the events

you identify the events

you identify the events so that they can come from bladder

so that they can come from bladder

so that they can come from bladder problems in their face in future the

problems in their face in future the

problems in their face in future the therapist which was me myself in that

therapist which was me myself in that

therapist which was me myself in that story the thoughtless seeks to help

story the thoughtless seeks to help

story the thoughtless seeks to help people help order a new narrative about

people help order a new narrative about

people help order a new narrative about themselves will say a different

themselves will say a different

themselves will say a different narrative about himself by investigating

narrative about himself by investigating

narrative about himself by investigating their personal history in Susan’s

their personal history in Susan’s

their personal history in Susan’s personal history she was aware of the

personal history she was aware of the

personal history she was aware of the father and the only way that she could

father and the only way that she could

father and the only way that she could see her mother was to kill herself so

see her mother was to kill herself so

see her mother was to kill herself so that’s why she attempted several times

that’s why she attempted several times

that’s why she attempted several times of suicide and she began to think that

of suicide and she began to think that

of suicide and she began to think that was the only way to do it and I

was the only way to do it and I

was the only way to do it and I completed the story I read birth the

completed the story I read birth the

completed the story I read birth the story

story

story well I gave her a new identity and

well I gave her a new identity and

well I gave her a new identity and identity that engaged in her own

identity that engaged in her own

identity that engaged in her own personal story identity

personal story identity

personal story identity announcer therapy the approach aims not

announcer therapy the approach aims not

announcer therapy the approach aims not to deflect people’s problems and

to deflect people’s problems and

to deflect people’s problems and people’s identities with the problems

people’s identities with the problems

people’s identities with the problems they may face in the future or the

they may face in the future or the

they may face in the future or the mystic sentiment another the approach

mystic sentiment another the approach

mystic sentiment another the approach emphasis tends to avoid the kinds of

emphasis tends to avoid the kinds of

emphasis tends to avoid the kinds of wantonness

wantonness

wantonness essentially the nature of the self that

essentially the nature of the self that

essentially the nature of the self that lead people to believe that there is a

lead people to believe that there is a

lead people to believe that there is a biologically determined to south which

biologically determined to south which

biologically determined to south which dementia however there is not a

dementia however there is not a

dementia however there is not a narrative therapy the concept of

narrative therapy the concept of

narrative therapy the concept of identity as a primarily social evidence

identity as a primarily social evidence

identity as a primarily social evidence can be changed

can be changed

can be changed and I nearly gave her a tip interest so

and I nearly gave her a tip interest so

and I nearly gave her a tip interest so this is how I say attention to that from

this is how I say attention to that from

this is how I say attention to that from a beauty little girl to the responsible

a beauty little girl to the responsible

a beauty little girl to the responsible daughter to promise to live until a

daughter to promise to live until a

daughter to promise to live until a father monthly sad but happy when

father monthly sad but happy when

father monthly sad but happy when meeting her again so ladies and

meeting her again so ladies and

meeting her again so ladies and gentlemen this is the power of human

gentlemen this is the power of human

gentlemen this is the power of human voice this is the power of conversation

voice this is the power of conversation

voice this is the power of conversation perhaps it is the most powerful salmon

perhaps it is the most powerful salmon

perhaps it is the most powerful salmon worth different changes the course of

worth different changes the course of

worth different changes the course of history like the Declaration of

history like the Declaration of

history like the Declaration of Independence for Martin Luther King’s

Independence for Martin Luther King’s

Independence for Martin Luther King’s beautiful by them and sometimes it also

beautiful by them and sometimes it also

beautiful by them and sometimes it also changes the course of an individualistic

changes the course of an individualistic

changes the course of an individualistic because because there’s one thing that

because because there’s one thing that

because because there’s one thing that human boys only human voices irritated

human boys only human voices irritated

human boys only human voices irritated that makes all the difference we tell

that makes all the difference we tell

that makes all the difference we tell stories we tell stories that shape who

stories we tell stories that shape who

stories we tell stories that shape who we are what we do we tell stories