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My Life at 3’9” | Peter Pecic | TEDxStThomasAquinasHS


beep to describe to you some of the

beep to describe to you some of the ideas that I’ve gotten for what I should

ideas that I’ve gotten for what I should

ideas that I’ve gotten for what I should do with my wheelchair for Halloween now

do with my wheelchair for Halloween now

do with my wheelchair for Halloween now this past year the ideas were decorated

this past year the ideas were decorated

this past year the ideas were decorated as a tank with a turret and all along

as a tank with a turret and all along

as a tank with a turret and all along with put a horse onto the front and

with put a horse onto the front and

with put a horse onto the front and pretend to be a chariot racer and then

pretend to be a chariot racer and then

pretend to be a chariot racer and then my personal favorite put a seat on to

my personal favorite put a seat on to

my personal favorite put a seat on to the side and you and I can pretend to be

the side and you and I can pretend to be

the side and you and I can pretend to be in a biker gang I can’t help but say

in a biker gang I can’t help but say

in a biker gang I can’t help but say though the best ideas have come from my

though the best ideas have come from my

though the best ideas have come from my closest friends when they say that

closest friends when they say that

closest friends when they say that they’re going to buy me a pair of

they’re going to buy me a pair of

they’re going to buy me a pair of goggles strap a v8 to my wheelchair and

goggles strap a v8 to my wheelchair and

goggles strap a v8 to my wheelchair and allow me to drive myself to school you

allow me to drive myself to school you

allow me to drive myself to school you know as one does but joking aside the

know as one does but joking aside the

know as one does but joking aside the people in my life even those whom I hold

people in my life even those whom I hold

people in my life even those whom I hold most dear see me as different different

most dear see me as different different

most dear see me as different different in a good way or a bad way more likely

in a good way or a bad way more likely

in a good way or a bad way more likely the former but that separation is still

the former but that separation is still

the former but that separation is still there I actually hear most from children

there I actually hear most from children

there I actually hear most from children whenever I’m in line at the grocery

whenever I’m in line at the grocery

whenever I’m in line at the grocery store and I hear the child behind me

store and I hear the child behind me

store and I hear the child behind me whisper to his mother why is he like

whisper to his mother why is he like

whisper to his mother why is he like that and I can hear the hesitation in

that and I can hear the hesitation in

that and I can hear the hesitation in her voice when she responds with

her voice when she responds with

her voice when she responds with something along the lines of because

something along the lines of because

something along the lines of because he’s special so even though children are

he’s special so even though children are

he’s special so even though children are the only ones who are so blatant about

the only ones who are so blatant about

the only ones who are so blatant about it I know that everyone’s curious but

it I know that everyone’s curious but

it I know that everyone’s curious but the fact of the matter is I really don’t

the fact of the matter is I really don’t

the fact of the matter is I really don’t mind I’m perfectly fine with telling

mind I’m perfectly fine with telling

mind I’m perfectly fine with telling people why I’m like this how I got to be

people why I’m like this how I got to be

people why I’m like this how I got to be like this so let me start off with a

like this so let me start off with a

like this so let me start off with a show of hands raise your hand if you’ve

show of hands raise your hand if you’ve

show of hands raise your hand if you’ve ever heard of a group it defuses known

ever heard of a group it defuses known

ever heard of a group it defuses known as muscular dystrophy alright so a lot

as muscular dystrophy alright so a lot

as muscular dystrophy alright so a lot of you and that’s quite common almost as

of you and that’s quite common almost as

of you and that’s quite common almost as common as the diseases one in every 40

common as the diseases one in every 40

common as the diseases one in every 40 people it’s a silent carrier of the SMA

people it’s a silent carrier of the SMA

people it’s a silent carrier of the SMA gene spinal muscular atrophy or SMA is

gene spinal muscular atrophy or SMA is

gene spinal muscular atrophy or SMA is what I have and it’s very unique in

what I have and it’s very unique in

what I have and it’s very unique in terms of when it starts to affect the

terms of when it starts to affect the

terms of when it starts to affect the patient the worst form is SMA type 1 and

patient the worst form is SMA type 1 and

patient the worst form is SMA type 1 and that is when an infant can make it no

that is when an infant can make it no

that is when an infant can make it no past 12 months of age or 12 months of

past 12 months of age or 12 months of

past 12 months of age or 12 months of life before their respiratory system

life before their respiratory system

life before their respiratory system just gives up the most benign form would

just gives up the most benign form would

just gives up the most benign form would be SMA type 4 in which a patient won’t

be SMA type 4 in which a patient won’t

be SMA type 4 in which a patient won’t even know they have it or won’t see any

even know they have it or won’t see any

even know they have it or won’t see any symptoms that is until 30 or 40 years of

symptoms that is until 30 or 40 years of

symptoms that is until 30 or 40 years of age and their life expectancy is

age and their life expectancy is

age and their life expectancy is unaffected I fall right in the middle

unaffected I fall right in the middle

unaffected I fall right in the middle with SMA type 2 that basically means

with SMA type 2 that basically means

with SMA type 2 that basically means I’ve never been able to walk I have

I’ve never been able to walk I have

I’ve never been able to walk I have difficulty swallowing effectively and my

difficulty swallowing effectively and my

difficulty swallowing effectively and my respiratory system has been affected as

respiratory system has been affected as

respiratory system has been affected as for my life expectancy that can fall

for my life expectancy that can fall

for my life expectancy that can fall anywhere between 15 years of age all the

anywhere between 15 years of age all the

anywhere between 15 years of age all the way up until 46 years of age the longest

way up until 46 years of age the longest

way up until 46 years of age the longest reported case SMA type 2 so

reported case SMA type 2 so

reported case SMA type 2 so unfortunately that means I’m going to

unfortunately that means I’m going to

unfortunately that means I’m going to have to get that bucket list sooner I

have to get that bucket list sooner I

have to get that bucket list sooner I mean doing a wheelie on top of Mount

mean doing a wheelie on top of Mount

mean doing a wheelie on top of Mount Everest just might have to wait for next

Everest just might have to wait for next

Everest just might have to wait for next life man and we know my respiratory

life man and we know my respiratory

life man and we know my respiratory system has been affected by this disease

system has been affected by this disease

system has been affected by this disease in fact I try to counter it all I can

in fact I try to counter it all I can

in fact I try to counter it all I can for example I’ve been singing all my

for example I’ve been singing all my

for example I’ve been singing all my life most of my high school career has

life most of my high school career has

life most of my high school career has been spent in very room learning music

been spent in very room learning music

been spent in very room learning music rehearsing it and performing it and that

rehearsing it and performing it and that

rehearsing it and performing it and that has tremendously increased my breathing

has tremendously increased my breathing

has tremendously increased my breathing control more recently I’ve been pushing

control more recently I’ve been pushing

control more recently I’ve been pushing myself towards doing a lot of public

myself towards doing a lot of public

myself towards doing a lot of public speaking because it’s not only good for

speaking because it’s not only good for

speaking because it’s not only good for your self-confidence but breathing

your self-confidence but breathing

your self-confidence but breathing control as well who knew but whatever I

control as well who knew but whatever I

control as well who knew but whatever I try to do to counteract it I just can’t

try to do to counteract it I just can’t

try to do to counteract it I just can’t shake the fact that my life will be cut

shake the fact that my life will be cut

shake the fact that my life will be cut short and I know what you’re thinking

short and I know what you’re thinking

short and I know what you’re thinking God Peter wait a hit in the face of

God Peter wait a hit in the face of

God Peter wait a hit in the face of sadness and you’re right it’s grim

sadness and you’re right it’s grim

sadness and you’re right it’s grim talking about your own mortality and

talking about your own mortality and

talking about your own mortality and that’s

that’s

that’s I find it so easy to talk about though

I find it so easy to talk about though

I find it so easy to talk about though because I don’t ever let it stop me a

because I don’t ever let it stop me a

because I don’t ever let it stop me a lot of people would think because their

lot of people would think because their

lot of people would think because their life is so different from my own that

life is so different from my own that

life is so different from my own that would be enough for me to just spiral

would be enough for me to just spiral

would be enough for me to just spiral into depression but that’s never been

into depression but that’s never been

into depression but that’s never been the case let me give you an example so

the case let me give you an example so

the case let me give you an example so for my fine arts credit this year I’m

for my fine arts credit this year I’m

for my fine arts credit this year I’m taking a film class and the very first

taking a film class and the very first

taking a film class and the very first films we watched were silent

films we watched were silent

films we watched were silent black-and-white films and the first film

black-and-white films and the first film

black-and-white films and the first film I was watching and I remember thinking

I was watching and I remember thinking

I was watching and I remember thinking to myself man I was sitting here in the

to myself man I was sitting here in the

to myself man I was sitting here in the theater in 1900

theater in 1900

theater in 1900 I would totally ask for my money back

I would totally ask for my money back

I would totally ask for my money back this is so boring without sound the only

this is so boring without sound the only

this is so boring without sound the only reason I can think that is because

reason I can think that is because

reason I can think that is because having sound in my movies is all I’ve

having sound in my movies is all I’ve

having sound in my movies is all I’ve ever known

ever known

ever known take this example and apply it to my

take this example and apply it to my

take this example and apply it to my life

life

life a lot of people mention how they would

a lot of people mention how they would

a lot of people mention how they would never even think of being in my

never even think of being in my

never even think of being in my situation they wouldn’t be able to cope

situation they wouldn’t be able to cope

situation they wouldn’t be able to cope and they think the same or they think

and they think the same or they think

and they think the same or they think that I believe the same but that’s never

that I believe the same but that’s never

that I believe the same but that’s never been the case I’ve never felt bad for

been the case I’ve never felt bad for

been the case I’ve never felt bad for myself because this is all I’ve ever

myself because this is all I’ve ever

myself because this is all I’ve ever known to be life to me this is life but

known to be life to me this is life but

known to be life to me this is life but that doesn’t mean I never ignore that

that doesn’t mean I never ignore that

that doesn’t mean I never ignore that doesn’t mean I don’t ever acknowledge my

doesn’t mean I don’t ever acknowledge my

doesn’t mean I don’t ever acknowledge my disability being humble is one thing

disability being humble is one thing

disability being humble is one thing being ignorant is another for example

being ignorant is another for example

being ignorant is another for example every time I try to make plans with

every time I try to make plans with

every time I try to make plans with friends it always starts out the same

friends it always starts out the same

friends it always starts out the same with will I be able to get around your

with will I be able to get around your

with will I be able to get around your house or if they’re a step to get into

house or if they’re a step to get into

house or if they’re a step to get into your door more importantly in my

your door more importantly in my

your door more importantly in my educational career every year starts out

educational career every year starts out

educational career every year starts out with me asking and emailing all of my

with me asking and emailing all of my

with me asking and emailing all of my teacher is saying is it okay if I type

teacher is saying is it okay if I type

teacher is saying is it okay if I type all of my assignments simply because of

all of my assignments simply because of

all of my assignments simply because of my inability to write more than half of

my inability to write more than half of

my inability to write more than half of a page for my hand goes limp so I know

a page for my hand goes limp so I know

a page for my hand goes limp so I know how big of a burden I have in my life

how big of a burden I have in my life

how big of a burden I have in my life I know how big the crosses that I have

I know how big the crosses that I have

I know how big the crosses that I have to carry with me every day and yet I

to carry with me every day and yet I

to carry with me every day and yet I can’t help but think that this burden

can’t help but think that this burden

can’t help but think that this burden has only made me stronger in how I walk

has only made me stronger in how I walk

has only made me stronger in how I walk with my friend

with my friend

with my friend during their darkest days just a few

during their darkest days just a few

during their darkest days just a few years ago I was speaking to one of my

years ago I was speaking to one of my

years ago I was speaking to one of my closest friends and she was just having

closest friends and she was just having

closest friends and she was just having an awful day and I told her the truth

an awful day and I told her the truth

an awful day and I told her the truth I said people look up to you you mean a

I said people look up to you you mean a

I said people look up to you you mean a lot to so many people and someone needs

lot to so many people and someone needs

lot to so many people and someone needs to be the lighthouse brightly shining

to be the lighthouse brightly shining

to be the lighthouse brightly shining for all to see even during the darkest

for all to see even during the darkest

for all to see even during the darkest of storms she took this in mind and felt

of storms she took this in mind and felt

of storms she took this in mind and felt tremendously better after I had said

tremendously better after I had said

tremendously better after I had said this and this ability of mine this

this and this ability of mine this

this and this ability of mine this ability to inspire I don’t think it

ability to inspire I don’t think it

ability to inspire I don’t think it comes to motivation I think it comes

comes to motivation I think it comes

comes to motivation I think it comes from love and that’s something the world

from love and that’s something the world

from love and that’s something the world is really running well on these days I

is really running well on these days I

is really running well on these days I am always I’m almost always seeing with

am always I’m almost always seeing with

am always I’m almost always seeing with a smile on my face in fact just the

a smile on my face in fact just the

a smile on my face in fact just the other day one of my closest friends

other day one of my closest friends

other day one of my closest friends Chris asked me Peter how do you stay so

Chris asked me Peter how do you stay so

Chris asked me Peter how do you stay so positive every day and I told me the

positive every day and I told me the

positive every day and I told me the truth I said I’ve always taken life

truth I said I’ve always taken life

truth I said I’ve always taken life head-on with a smile on my face

head-on with a smile on my face

head-on with a smile on my face and laughter in my back pocket and he

and laughter in my back pocket and he

and laughter in my back pocket and he told me that’s a really rewarding way to

told me that’s a really rewarding way to

told me that’s a really rewarding way to look at life and going a little off

look at life and going a little off

look at life and going a little off script here before today before giving

script here before today before giving

script here before today before giving this speech I gave it to a smaller

this speech I gave it to a smaller

this speech I gave it to a smaller audience and after I had given it this

audience and after I had given it this

audience and after I had given it this person came up to me and told me you

person came up to me and told me you

person came up to me and told me you know Peter that really really spoke to

know Peter that really really spoke to

know Peter that really really spoke to me and I just want to thank you for that

me and I just want to thank you for that

me and I just want to thank you for that because every once in a while you know I

because every once in a while you know I

because every once in a while you know I lose hope in the positivity of the world

lose hope in the positivity of the world

lose hope in the positivity of the world and I feel like I’m the only one it’s

and I feel like I’m the only one it’s

and I feel like I’m the only one it’s always positive so thank you for

always positive so thank you for

always positive so thank you for providing me and I just don’t know what

providing me and I just don’t know what

providing me and I just don’t know what else to describe it as other than the

else to describe it as other than the

else to describe it as other than the power of love because I think that’s the

power of love because I think that’s the

power of love because I think that’s the best way to deal with fear you know just

best way to deal with fear you know just

best way to deal with fear you know just laugh in the face of it and it can’t do

laugh in the face of it and it can’t do

laugh in the face of it and it can’t do anything to you it shows you the pout it

anything to you it shows you the pout it

anything to you it shows you the pout it shows you the power of a laugh the power

shows you the power of a laugh the power

shows you the power of a laugh the power of a smile the power of love

of a smile the power of love

of a smile the power of love and I’ve been so blessed to have had the

and I’ve been so blessed to have had the

and I’ve been so blessed to have had the same group of tightly knit friends stick

same group of tightly knit friends stick

same group of tightly knit friends stick with me all the way from freshman year

with me all the way from freshman year

with me all the way from freshman year until today my junior year so that’s the

until today my junior year so that’s the

until today my junior year so that’s the reason that I am the way that I am the

reason that I am the way that I am the

reason that I am the way that I am the people in my life my family my friends

people in my life my family my friends

people in my life my family my friends my teachers everyone they are the reason

my teachers everyone they are the reason

my teachers everyone they are the reason that I get up every single morning with

that I get up every single morning with

that I get up every single morning with a grin on my face so to answer the

a grin on my face so to answer the

a grin on my face so to answer the question being in a wheelchair has

question being in a wheelchair has

question being in a wheelchair has affected my life and so many ways that I

affected my life and so many ways that I

affected my life and so many ways that I am so blessed to have had this

am so blessed to have had this

am so blessed to have had this opportunity to connect with so many

opportunity to connect with so many

opportunity to connect with so many different people now in closing what’s

different people now in closing what’s

different people now in closing what’s the difference between each and every

the difference between each and every

the difference between each and every one of your lives

one of your lives

one of your lives when compared to mine well depending on

when compared to mine well depending on

when compared to mine well depending on how you look at it I think you’ve been

how you look at it I think you’ve been

how you look at it I think you’ve been wonderful thank you

wonderful thank you

wonderful thank you [Applause]

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