moving forward have any of you ever made a mistake
a mistake
a mistake how about held a grudge who has ever
how about held a grudge who has ever
how about held a grudge who has ever regretted holding that grudge hello my
regretted holding that grudge hello my
regretted holding that grudge hello my name is Matthias Webb and I’m in eighth
name is Matthias Webb and I’m in eighth
name is Matthias Webb and I’m in eighth grade today we’ll be talking about a
grade today we’ll be talking about a
grade today we’ll be talking about a very interesting cycle that happens in
very interesting cycle that happens in
very interesting cycle that happens in everyone’s everyday life I call this
everyone’s everyday life I call this
everyone’s everyday life I call this cycle the MGR cycle aka mistakes grudges
cycle the MGR cycle aka mistakes grudges
cycle the MGR cycle aka mistakes grudges regrets everyone makes mistakes some
regrets everyone makes mistakes some
regrets everyone makes mistakes some mistakes are bigger than others some
mistakes are bigger than others some
mistakes are bigger than others some mistakes require more effort for
mistakes require more effort for
mistakes require more effort for forgiveness some mistakes change the
forgiveness some mistakes change the
forgiveness some mistakes change the course of our lives but we never realize
course of our lives but we never realize
course of our lives but we never realize how others mistakes shape our lives and
how others mistakes shape our lives and
how others mistakes shape our lives and we won’t be able to forgive until we
we won’t be able to forgive until we
we won’t be able to forgive until we understand that when I was little my dad
understand that when I was little my dad
understand that when I was little my dad wasn’t there for me and as a kid that
wasn’t there for me and as a kid that
wasn’t there for me and as a kid that broke my heart as I got older I started
broke my heart as I got older I started
broke my heart as I got older I started to realize that if he hadn’t have made
to realize that if he hadn’t have made
to realize that if he hadn’t have made those mistakes I wouldn’t be Who I am
those mistakes I wouldn’t be Who I am
those mistakes I wouldn’t be Who I am today today I consider myself a happy
today today I consider myself a happy
today today I consider myself a happy energetic passionate person
energetic passionate person
energetic passionate person now my dad and I have a better
now my dad and I have a better
now my dad and I have a better relationship but if in the past I had it
relationship but if in the past I had it
relationship but if in the past I had it have known that if he made a mistake and
have known that if he made a mistake and
have known that if he made a mistake and I held a grudge on him I would regret it
I held a grudge on him I would regret it
I held a grudge on him I would regret it I wouldn’t be here talking about it
I wouldn’t be here talking about it
I wouldn’t be here talking about it today the best of the best make mistakes
today the best of the best make mistakes
today the best of the best make mistakes and yes it’s hard to forgive but you
and yes it’s hard to forgive but you
and yes it’s hard to forgive but you really want to hold a grudge on someone
really want to hold a grudge on someone
really want to hold a grudge on someone for the rest of your life why why do we
for the rest of your life why why do we
for the rest of your life why why do we hold grudges when they’re really hard to
hold grudges when they’re really hard to
hold grudges when they’re really hard to deal with the most of the time work
deal with the most of the time work
deal with the most of the time work against what we really want why do we
against what we really want why do we
against what we really want why do we hurt ourselves even more why is it so
hurt ourselves even more why is it so
hurt ourselves even more why is it so hard to move on and let go most
hard to move on and let go most
hard to move on and let go most importantly how can we move on I let go
importantly how can we move on I let go
importantly how can we move on I let go now there are a few ways to let go we
now there are a few ways to let go we
now there are a few ways to let go we could acknowledge your problem figure
could acknowledge your problem figure
could acknowledge your problem figure out or made us hold that certain grudge
out or made us hold that certain grudge
out or made us hold that certain grudge because you can never fully fix the
because you can never fully fix the
because you can never fully fix the problem if you don’t understand it after
problem if you don’t understand it after
problem if you don’t understand it after you understand the problem it’ll make it
you understand the problem it’ll make it
you understand the problem it’ll make it much easier it’ll still be hard just not
much easier it’ll still be hard just not
much easier it’ll still be hard just not as hard as before another thing you
as hard as before another thing you
as hard as before another thing you could try is sharing your feelings and
could try is sharing your feelings and
could try is sharing your feelings and now I know this is something a counselor
now I know this is something a counselor
now I know this is something a counselor would say but it’s true sometimes the
would say but it’s true sometimes the
would say but it’s true sometimes the best thing to do is to literally let it
best thing to do is to literally let it
best thing to do is to literally let it go and talk out all of your feelings
go and talk out all of your feelings
go and talk out all of your feelings this may also not fully fix the problem
this may also not fully fix the problem
this may also not fully fix the problem but at least a situation won’t be as
but at least a situation won’t be as
but at least a situation won’t be as tense anymore
tense anymore
tense anymore a few other things you could try are to
a few other things you could try are to
a few other things you could try are to switch places don’t dwell on it take the
switch places don’t dwell on it take the
switch places don’t dwell on it take the positive and accept it
positive and accept it
positive and accept it lastly and my personal favorite to
lastly and my personal favorite to
lastly and my personal favorite to forgive now many people get confused on
forgive now many people get confused on
forgive now many people get confused on this one to forgive is not to forget
this one to forgive is not to forget
this one to forgive is not to forget it’s just to understand that nobody is
it’s just to understand that nobody is
it’s just to understand that nobody is perfect and everyone will make mistakes
perfect and everyone will make mistakes
perfect and everyone will make mistakes out of this list forgiveness is probably
out of this list forgiveness is probably
out of this list forgiveness is probably the hardest especially if the person
the hardest especially if the person
the hardest especially if the person caused you a lot of hurt and pain but
caused you a lot of hurt and pain but
caused you a lot of hurt and pain but it’s the only one to truly let go of all
it’s the only one to truly let go of all
it’s the only one to truly let go of all of the hatred inside of you when someone
of the hatred inside of you when someone
of the hatred inside of you when someone hurts us in a certain way it could be
hurts us in a certain way it could be
hurts us in a certain way it could be our natural reaction to get back at them
our natural reaction to get back at them
our natural reaction to get back at them in a dark and angry way in most cases
in a dark and angry way in most cases
in a dark and angry way in most cases the person will usually forgive the
the person will usually forgive the
the person will usually forgive the other person after a matter of time we
other person after a matter of time we
other person after a matter of time we do not forgive their person the feelings
do not forgive their person the feelings
do not forgive their person the feelings can either turn into revenge or holding
can either turn into revenge or holding
can either turn into revenge or holding a grudge if the person who inflicts harm
a grudge if the person who inflicts harm
a grudge if the person who inflicts harm might not even know that they caused
might not even know that they caused
might not even know that they caused these her feelings the silly part is
these her feelings the silly part is
these her feelings the silly part is that with us putting all of this hatred
that with us putting all of this hatred
that with us putting all of this hatred and dark feelings inside of us it’s only
and dark feelings inside of us it’s only
and dark feelings inside of us it’s only hurting us physically mentally and
hurting us physically mentally and
hurting us physically mentally and emotionally furthermore when holding
emotionally furthermore when holding
emotionally furthermore when holding grudges you can never forget the
grudges you can never forget the
grudges you can never forget the incident you can choose to ignore it
incident you can choose to ignore it
incident you can choose to ignore it with all of your will but you can never
with all of your will but you can never
with all of your will but you can never truly and fully forget it News Health a
truly and fully forget it News Health a
truly and fully forget it News Health a website about health issues state
website about health issues state
website about health issues state something along the lines of holding
something along the lines of holding
something along the lines of holding grudges is really bad for you it
grudges is really bad for you it
grudges is really bad for you it stresses you out too much which hurts
stresses you out too much which hurts
stresses you out too much which hurts your brain it negatively affects your
your brain it negatively affects your
your brain it negatively affects your health and is proven to increase anxiety
health and is proven to increase anxiety
health and is proven to increase anxiety and frustration not only mentally it may
and frustration not only mentally it may
and frustration not only mentally it may also hurt you physically including heart
also hurt you physically including heart
also hurt you physically including heart disease high blood pressure back pains
disease high blood pressure back pains
disease high blood pressure back pains and headaches these are all reasons why
and headaches these are all reasons why
and headaches these are all reasons why you should never hold a grudge now I’m
you should never hold a grudge now I’m
you should never hold a grudge now I’m speaking here today because I truly
speaking here today because I truly
speaking here today because I truly believe that if you hold a grudge
believe that if you hold a grudge
believe that if you hold a grudge eventually you will regret it yet I do
eventually you will regret it yet I do
eventually you will regret it yet I do understand why some people might want to
understand why some people might want to
understand why some people might want to hold a grudge the main reason I believe
hold a grudge the main reason I believe
hold a grudge the main reason I believe people would want to hold a grudge will
people would want to hold a grudge will
people would want to hold a grudge will be to not forget what happened this may
be to not forget what happened this may
be to not forget what happened this may also help protect family and friends
also help protect family and friends
also help protect family and friends others would much rather forgive and
others would much rather forgive and
others would much rather forgive and move on for example the story of Eva Kor
move on for example the story of Eva Kor
move on for example the story of Eva Kor Eva Kor survived the OSH woods
Eva Kor survived the OSH woods
Eva Kor survived the OSH woods concentration camp in World War two as
concentration camp in World War two as
concentration camp in World War two as children even her sister were treated
children even her sister were treated
children even her sister were treated and tested like human guinea pigs by the
and tested like human guinea pigs by the
and tested like human guinea pigs by the Nazi soldiers Eva who is now 81 forgave
Nazi soldiers Eva who is now 81 forgave
Nazi soldiers Eva who is now 81 forgave Oscar groaning who is 93 and was a Nazi
Oscar groaning who is 93 and was a Nazi
Oscar groaning who is 93 and was a Nazi guard
guard
guard Eva said I will never understand why
Eva said I will never understand why
Eva said I will never understand why anger is preferable to a goodwill
anger is preferable to a goodwill
anger is preferable to a goodwill gesture this quote shows that if Eva was
gesture this quote shows that if Eva was
gesture this quote shows that if Eva was able to forgive these horrible crimes we
able to forgive these horrible crimes we
able to forgive these horrible crimes we can forgive other acts of unkindness
can forgive other acts of unkindness
can forgive other acts of unkindness it is also unhealthy to hold a grudge
it is also unhealthy to hold a grudge
it is also unhealthy to hold a grudge because in dampens your mood and makes
because in dampens your mood and makes
because in dampens your mood and makes you more negative as a person just
you more negative as a person just
you more negative as a person just because someone made a mistake good
because someone made a mistake good
because someone made a mistake good friend or not doesn’t mean you should go
friend or not doesn’t mean you should go
friend or not doesn’t mean you should go at them in a negative way if you believe
at them in a negative way if you believe
at them in a negative way if you believe that they deserve a second chance then
that they deserve a second chance then
that they deserve a second chance then give it to them but like I said before I
give it to them but like I said before I
give it to them but like I said before I truly believe you shouldn’t hold a
truly believe you shouldn’t hold a
truly believe you shouldn’t hold a grudge because there are so many
grudge because there are so many
grudge because there are so many negative things holding grudges can do
negative things holding grudges can do
negative things holding grudges can do to you and not very many positive when
to you and not very many positive when
to you and not very many positive when someone makes a mistake and you hold a
someone makes a mistake and you hold a
someone makes a mistake and you hold a grudge on them it’s hard to repair that
grudge on them it’s hard to repair that
grudge on them it’s hard to repair that relationship let’s say for example
relationship let’s say for example
relationship let’s say for example you’re really good friends with someone
you’re really good friends with someone
you’re really good friends with someone and want to keep that friendship when
and want to keep that friendship when
and want to keep that friendship when they make a mistake which I guarantee
they make a mistake which I guarantee
they make a mistake which I guarantee they will instead of holding a grudge
they will instead of holding a grudge
they will instead of holding a grudge work it out you’ll also feel less
work it out you’ll also feel less
work it out you’ll also feel less stressed and won’t have a headache
stressed and won’t have a headache
stressed and won’t have a headache most importantly others people’s
most importantly others people’s
most importantly others people’s mistakes can shape who you are and I
mistakes can shape who you are and I
mistakes can shape who you are and I feel very lucky that even though my dad
feel very lucky that even though my dad
feel very lucky that even though my dad made many mistakes I never held a grudge
made many mistakes I never held a grudge
made many mistakes I never held a grudge on him I have no negative feelings
on him I have no negative feelings
on him I have no negative feelings towards him on top of the fact that is
towards him on top of the fact that is
towards him on top of the fact that is my own dad the point is that when I look
my own dad the point is that when I look
my own dad the point is that when I look back at my short yet meaningful life I’m
back at my short yet meaningful life I’m
back at my short yet meaningful life I’m happy I never held a grudge because now
happy I never held a grudge because now
happy I never held a grudge because now I have no regrets thank you
I have no regrets thank you
I have no regrets thank you [Applause]
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