I’ve always had a few in my life
however, certainties of a thing are always
been sure and that there were i
males and that there were females
then I grew up and became
mom and I had three children
the big one is a 13 year old female
small and a male at seven years e
the middle one, as he says, is a bit
both a male and a female is
at 9 years my son in fact since
when he was little he always showed
a predilection for all that
belonged to the female world from
clothes to games in their own way
to play only with oneself
all those who were the characters
female cartoon or even
of videogames and it’s like that and me
honestly I’ve never found anything there
My daughter had always played badly
with the lego of firemen it is allowed them
he wanted to play with Disney princesses
there was absolutely no problem
as long as around 3 years has
started asking you mom but
when can I become a child?
and there I understood that indeed
there could be something that was not
exactly the same as he had
concerned my daughter I started to
ask me questions even if I always have questions
left free to be what he is
it felt like I was started
inform me, however, I never found
absolutely nothing that concerned
the argument until one day pushed
from friends who told me that
I was wrong to support him that I had to
start buying the toy cars
robots the guns went by one
psychologist of childhood and I am
informed to know from her if I did
good or I hurt this psychologist me
He said he did not absolutely have me
talked about gender identity and has me
just spoken he told me maybe yours
big son will be homosexual for
which I came home I said goes
good peace for me it was not a problem e
I kept leaving it free of
however, at the same time I am myself
put to talk with my friends
homosexuals asking them how it was like
it had been their childhood if to see
if I found any arguments they could
be shared with my life
son
and they told me that they did not have
never felt the need to be a female
they had never wanted to dress up
female or play with female things
so they told me they were pushing me to
investigate further and I never found
nothing until at a certain point I am
had the lighting as I speak
very good English to look for you
in English and at times when I am
I started looking in English I made myself
I count that there was a outside of Italy
infinite world of children like mine and
of families like mine where children
he did not recognize himself in their sex
biological
looking on the internet especially in the
Anglo-Saxon countries united states
england australia i saw that the
what could be defined
let’s say the problem even if problematic
it was not about my son it was that
there are many children born
biologically of a sex but not yes
they recognize in their biological sex
because reality there is a sex
Biological is a psychic sex and I have to
tell the truth when I found out
I did not hear this thing
anguished I felt relieved
because finding a motivation
I also knew a bit how to move like
how to act and I often made the mistake up
a few years ago to go to mine
son and ask him but you feel
males or you feel female and he is every
Once he looked at me very amazed
I thought a moment and then he told me boh me
I feel myself and I there for this
answer does not understand and then onwards after
some time I realized that actually
he was right we grew up
in a binary thought in which man is
a male or female that we tend to
catalog people as long as they are
small and fit into a stereotype
gender that must belong by force
or masculine or feminine in reality
a child is a virgin creature from
all points of view and if it is not
influenced by the exterior is
simply who he is and if we look at it
society that surrounds us this barita
it is becoming more and more
extreme in all in all that precisely
from the kinder sheep that now they are from
male at the same time there were
less killer was a fine bic pen
it was one now even as a bic pen there
from male and there is a female clothes
since the very young children are from
super look like mini mini
women these little girls and male gods
superuomini since small children for which gods
children who do not feel perfectly
represented by the gender stereotype
then than now begin at some
point to feel the influence of the world
external that he must necessarily
address from one side or from
that other one and also the parents tend
make the mistake of sending them oh here oh
over there
also because actually more
simple because in the moment
it remains so in the middle and people do not
they know how to give people a label
they are in crisis
I remember last year I think with mine
son had been a difficult time
at school there were children who did it
they teased and then the teacher
he had gone a bit in crisis he did not know
more how to handle the situation and we are
went together by the psychologist who for
a period that he had made one
evaluation to my son to understand up
when he could if he could
feel the discomfort of this way of his
be different let’s say from the normal and me
I remember that after talking with the
psychologist, the psychologist told me
watch your son away if he feels a
uncomfortable that if you know how to handle the
situation both need to talk to me
I am here available because
when I went home I said it
and he looked at me and told me mum
and I do not have to go there and the psychologist
I have no problem getting dressed
how I dress can be who I am
the others who have to go there for
understand why they struggle to
manage a child that is one
pink t-shirt actually I have to say
that this topic puts into
discussing our whole way of
see seeing reality
if one manages to go further and understand
these children what they can do
teach you
the fact is that often children who do not
are
mentioned that you actually do not
recognize in their biological sex and
they are forced in to live in the
stereotype that society expects from
growing them then arrive at a certain
point before puberty that not
they can play more on the thing because
with puberty
at that point either if you’re a boy or you’re a girl
if these children were not accepted
and year have not developed a character
strong enough
totally they are in crisis we have seen me
I have it I’m always talking to mom
so I do not give scientific terms though
the data there is the only scientific data that
for me it is essential to say is that these
kids when they arrive at puberty
those who have not been accepted by the
41 percent family tries the
suicide and often succeeds
I thought it was a bit like that
it was given to scare instead in
reality then comparing with others
families
I had the answer that actually
it was so these children often
they become anorexic because they know that
if they do not eat it stops the development and
then the body does not develop or
they become bulimic because they gain weight
the breast is hidden, let’s say in the
overweight a whole series of creeds
things that are really terrible for which
these children absolutely go
welcomed as a child all this of
I’ve talked about so far has a name e
the name dysphoria of gender the dysphoria
gender is a bad tolerance and the
genus of course the biological genus la
gender dysphoria is unfortunately still
inserted in the manual
diagnostic and statistical disease
psychiatric to me honestly when I am
they said this and I thought of mine
son took a shot too
because honestly my son a
cute clever baby like
all the others play like everyone else
it has no characteristic of a
child who may have a disease
psychiatric
in reality the problem is that it is the
company that does not accept a certain ta
point creates you a whole series of
actually of dysphaoria edimar
but it is not a thing
innate of these of these kids yes
if it comes a certain point that struggling to
accept their body however how many
teenage children struggle to
accept their body if they have around
had a welcoming family of
welcoming friends and school
welcoming they get there more or less like
all the others
my problem had been that for
discover all these things I always was
due to go abroad for which
talk with associations abroad
with families saw a conference the
US ted conferences me
they always helped a lot because
they often talked about mothers who
tell the stories identical to mine
however, it is never in Italy
absolutely nothing and I asked if
someone knew of children like the
My nobody knew about children like
mine until at some point I have
decided to open a blog that is mine
blog called my son in pink e
which tells our story
that was not written for
exhibitionism was written because
also under the opinion of the psychologist
which I often turn to for advice
on how to behave
I thought that if I exposed myself
telling my story normally
without any kind of shame because
there is nothing to be ashamed of
it’s probably families that
they were in my same situation
they would contact me exactly like
I had contacted the families
abroad and then at the end of August I have
open this blog I talked to my parents
children I asked them what it was
they thought they were in agreement indeed
my son was overjoyed because so
He said he did not
that people would have started to
know how his story was and therefore
perhaps they would also have found themselves
other children who shared his
same passions actually just
released the blog slowly have
started contacting me to contact me
of families and now we are a little bit
all Italy
they also contacted me from abroad
Italian families living in new
zealand in new york in england that
they have the problem that they live there serene
but when they come to Italy they have i
grandparents uncles and cousins who go in
crisis because they do not understand what it is
this story and then slowly
talking about it because basically the
problem that is there is that there is not
information for which we must talk about it
there is nothing to be ashamed of
of problems, in short, the things of
shame in life are others
these children are children like everyone
others may be given an eye to him
more about it because actually
they may have more difficulty a
integrate
but apart from that there is no non
there’s nothing wrong with me today
he is 46 years old thanks to my children i have
understood that there is not only masche alone
female but there is an infinite variety
of possibilities and they all go
absolutely accepted but above all
I understood my son has never taught
that no one should be judged and so the thing
that I always tell everyone is of
tell my story to tell
stories similar to mine of not not
keep things for themselves and not
judge when we are faced with
an adult who does not represent the
our idea of our person
stereotype of a male with ours
female stereotype because that
Today’s adult was the child who today a
my son and so he needs too
he of all the hospitality of the whole
understanding they all need
How many
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