my name is marina Benjamin I’m a writer and that’s my latest book mm-hmm it
and that’s my latest book mm-hmm it
and that’s my latest book mm-hmm it would be nice to stop the clock
would be nice to stop the clock
would be nice to stop the clock wouldn’t it to have a middle pause in
wouldn’t it to have a middle pause in
wouldn’t it to have a middle pause in our lives when we could take the time
our lives when we could take the time
our lives when we could take the time out to review where we are where we’re
out to review where we are where we’re
out to review where we are where we’re going and perhaps even who we are
going and perhaps even who we are
going and perhaps even who we are this middle paws idea was the subject of
this middle paws idea was the subject of
this middle paws idea was the subject of my latest book it’s a memoir in which I
my latest book it’s a memoir in which I
my latest book it’s a memoir in which I recorded the time of my life when I
recorded the time of my life when I
recorded the time of my life when I arrived at this challenging moment
arrived at this challenging moment
arrived at this challenging moment approaching 50 having a kind of wobble
approaching 50 having a kind of wobble
approaching 50 having a kind of wobble wondering where I was going
wondering where I was going
wondering where I was going feeling as though everything I had done
feeling as though everything I had done
feeling as though everything I had done was in crisis up for review it wasn’t a
was in crisis up for review it wasn’t a
was in crisis up for review it wasn’t a pleasant kind of feeling but I thought
pleasant kind of feeling but I thought
pleasant kind of feeling but I thought that it was worth pausing and looking at
that it was worth pausing and looking at
that it was worth pausing and looking at those struggles and trying to come to
those struggles and trying to come to
those struggles and trying to come to terms with them and most especially to
terms with them and most especially to
terms with them and most especially to see what might lie on the other side the
see what might lie on the other side the
see what might lie on the other side the trouble with time in midlife is that we
trouble with time in midlife is that we
trouble with time in midlife is that we don’t feel as if we have any we don’t
don’t feel as if we have any we don’t
don’t feel as if we have any we don’t feel as if we have a single minute in
feel as if we have a single minute in
feel as if we have a single minute in which to pause let alone to reflect on
which to pause let alone to reflect on
which to pause let alone to reflect on the bigger picture of where we are in
the bigger picture of where we are in
the bigger picture of where we are in life instead most of us feel as though
life instead most of us feel as though
life instead most of us feel as though we’re on a treadmill pedaling very very
we’re on a treadmill pedaling very very
we’re on a treadmill pedaling very very fast sometimes just to stay in the same
fast sometimes just to stay in the same
fast sometimes just to stay in the same spot another image that comes to my mind
spot another image that comes to my mind
spot another image that comes to my mind is that Abdo under a rolling pin being
is that Abdo under a rolling pin being
is that Abdo under a rolling pin being spread ever more thinly to cover the
spread ever more thinly to cover the
spread ever more thinly to cover the very edges of our lives being a wife a
very edges of our lives being a wife a
very edges of our lives being a wife a partner a housekeeper a career woman
partner a housekeeper a career woman
partner a housekeeper a career woman looking after aging parents and growing
looking after aging parents and growing
looking after aging parents and growing children helping out neighbors and
children helping out neighbors and
children helping out neighbors and friends it’s as if there’s never enough
friends it’s as if there’s never enough
friends it’s as if there’s never enough time left for ourselves in fact all the
time left for ourselves in fact all the
time left for ourselves in fact all the evidence suggests that women in midlife
evidence suggests that women in midlife
evidence suggests that women in midlife are busier than they’ve ever been of
are busier than they’ve ever been of
are busier than they’ve ever been of course there are lots of positive spins
course there are lots of positive spins
course there are lots of positive spins that you can put on this we are
that you can put on this we are
that you can put on this we are established in our careers at midlife
established in our careers at midlife
established in our careers at midlife and brave enough to dynamite them if we
and brave enough to dynamite them if we
and brave enough to dynamite them if we want to take a different part
want to take a different part
want to take a different part or choose new adventures we are young
or choose new adventures we are young
or choose new adventures we are young enough still to have a good energy but
enough still to have a good energy but
enough still to have a good energy but old enough to know how not to squander
old enough to know how not to squander
old enough to know how not to squander it or be reckless with it we are young
it or be reckless with it we are young
it or be reckless with it we are young enough to be in touch with upcoming
enough to be in touch with upcoming
enough to be in touch with upcoming trends and to learn new skills and old
trends and to learn new skills and old
trends and to learn new skills and old enough to tell apart the faddish from
enough to tell apart the faddish from
enough to tell apart the faddish from the genuine genuine ly useful ones we
the genuine genuine ly useful ones we
the genuine genuine ly useful ones we have experience we understand commitment
have experience we understand commitment
have experience we understand commitment we can mentor younger colleagues except
we can mentor younger colleagues except
we can mentor younger colleagues except this isn’t how the story generally goes
this isn’t how the story generally goes
this isn’t how the story generally goes too often we feel hurried along by time
too often we feel hurried along by time
too often we feel hurried along by time or blown along by it like wind whipping
or blown along by it like wind whipping
or blown along by it like wind whipping through washing on a clothes line we
through washing on a clothes line we
through washing on a clothes line we feel out of control with firefighting
feel out of control with firefighting
feel out of control with firefighting multitasking trying very hard to hold it
multitasking trying very hard to hold it
multitasking trying very hard to hold it all together I think one of the things
all together I think one of the things
all together I think one of the things that I felt that motivated me to write
that I felt that motivated me to write
that I felt that motivated me to write this book was just exhaustion the
this book was just exhaustion the
this book was just exhaustion the exhaustion of living this kind of life
exhaustion of living this kind of life
exhaustion of living this kind of life and I didn’t really know I knew I wanted
and I didn’t really know I knew I wanted
and I didn’t really know I knew I wanted something else but I didn’t know how to
something else but I didn’t know how to
something else but I didn’t know how to get it and so I thought I’d better give
get it and so I thought I’d better give
get it and so I thought I’d better give it some time think about it the other
it some time think about it the other
it some time think about it the other problem of course in midlife if you
problem of course in midlife if you
problem of course in midlife if you pause to analyze it is the tremendous
pause to analyze it is the tremendous
pause to analyze it is the tremendous pressure culturally on middle-aged women
pressure culturally on middle-aged women
pressure culturally on middle-aged women to stop the clock not so that we can
to stop the clock not so that we can
to stop the clock not so that we can review where we are and change things
review where we are and change things
review where we are and change things for the better but for the very purpose
for the better but for the very purpose
for the better but for the very purpose of holding back time blocking it in the
of holding back time blocking it in the
of holding back time blocking it in the way that a dam holds back a fast flowing
way that a dam holds back a fast flowing
way that a dam holds back a fast flowing river this idea that we can stop time so
river this idea that we can stop time so
river this idea that we can stop time so that we can remain young if you look at
that we can remain young if you look at
that we can remain young if you look at popular culture for example they would
popular culture for example they would
popular culture for example they would have us believe or it would have us
have us believe or it would have us
have us believe or it would have us believe that aging is all in the mind
believe that aging is all in the mind
believe that aging is all in the mind that 50 is the new 40 that you’re only
that 50 is the new 40 that you’re only
that 50 is the new 40 that you’re only as old as you feel
as old as you feel
as old as you feel we’ve all heard these statements there’s
we’ve all heard these statements there’s
we’ve all heard these statements there’s something seductive about them but I
something seductive about them but I
something seductive about them but I think they’re pernicious and destructive
think they’re pernicious and destructive
think they’re pernicious and destructive the other thing that we’re told and
the other thing that we’re told and
the other thing that we’re told and which kind of seduces us into thinking
which kind of seduces us into thinking
which kind of seduces us into thinking that we can hold back time delay getting
that we can hold back time delay getting
that we can hold back time delay getting older
older
older is the fact that in reality we now share
is the fact that in reality we now share
is the fact that in reality we now share the same culture as our children do we
the same culture as our children do we
the same culture as our children do we read the same books we listen to the
read the same books we listen to the
read the same books we listen to the same music we consume the same films and
same music we consume the same films and
same music we consume the same films and the same food we eat at the same
the same food we eat at the same
the same food we eat at the same restaurants sometimes we even wear the
restaurants sometimes we even wear the
restaurants sometimes we even wear the same clothes we tell ourselves we’re not
same clothes we tell ourselves we’re not
same clothes we tell ourselves we’re not fuddy-duddies like our parents were when
fuddy-duddies like our parents were when
fuddy-duddies like our parents were when they were 50 then there’s surgery pushed
they were 50 then there’s surgery pushed
they were 50 then there’s surgery pushed on us as an aide to this particular kind
on us as an aide to this particular kind
on us as an aide to this particular kind of what I think of as developmental
of what I think of as developmental
of what I think of as developmental arrests we can plump wrinkles into
arrests we can plump wrinkles into
arrests we can plump wrinkles into non-existence smooth away creases with
non-existence smooth away creases with
non-existence smooth away creases with Botox lift whatever sags organ en’t what
Botox lift whatever sags organ en’t what
Botox lift whatever sags organ en’t what his lurking suck out the excess fat and
his lurking suck out the excess fat and
his lurking suck out the excess fat and we can all exercise madly to maintain
we can all exercise madly to maintain
we can all exercise madly to maintain the kind of bodies that we had when we
the kind of bodies that we had when we
the kind of bodies that we had when we were in our 30s this is a seduction this
were in our 30s this is a seduction this
were in our 30s this is a seduction this is the new paradigm of middle-age
is the new paradigm of middle-age
is the new paradigm of middle-age lessness the attempt to stop time in its
lessness the attempt to stop time in its
lessness the attempt to stop time in its tracks what it leads to I would argue is
tracks what it leads to I would argue is
tracks what it leads to I would argue is developmental arrests narcissism it
developmental arrests narcissism it
developmental arrests narcissism it suggests that we can’t grow that we
suggests that we can’t grow that we
suggests that we can’t grow that we can’t learn that we need to stay exactly
can’t learn that we need to stay exactly
can’t learn that we need to stay exactly the same and if we stay the same then we
the same and if we stay the same then we
the same and if we stay the same then we can’t move forwards when a conundrum so
can’t move forwards when a conundrum so
can’t move forwards when a conundrum so what I came to understand through
what I came to understand through
what I came to understand through writing this book which is a very deeply
writing this book which is a very deeply
writing this book which is a very deeply personal book and very self exposing I
personal book and very self exposing I
personal book and very self exposing I chose I thought that in order to speak
chose I thought that in order to speak
chose I thought that in order to speak to other women I had to be very
to other women I had to be very
to other women I had to be very rigorously honest about what I was going
rigorously honest about what I was going
rigorously honest about what I was going through but what I came to understand
through but what I came to understand
through but what I came to understand about my only at midlife crisis is that
about my only at midlife crisis is that
about my only at midlife crisis is that time is not something out there flowing
time is not something out there flowing
time is not something out there flowing fast beside us like a river and carrying
fast beside us like a river and carrying
fast beside us like a river and carrying us off into the rapids it’s in us
us off into the rapids it’s in us
us off into the rapids it’s in us it’s the metric by which we accumulate
it’s the metric by which we accumulate
it’s the metric by which we accumulate experience and it is the fact that what
experience and it is the fact that what
experience and it is the fact that what I learned was that we embody time what
I learned was that we embody time what
I learned was that we embody time what do I mean by this by this idea that we
do I mean by this by this idea that we
do I mean by this by this idea that we embody time well if you think about when
embody time well if you think about when
embody time well if you think about when we’re young
we’re young
we’re young when in menstruate we embody a monthly
when in menstruate we embody a monthly
when in menstruate we embody a monthly cycle we are tied to the lunar camp
cycle we are tied to the lunar camp
cycle we are tied to the lunar camp calendar there is a rhythm to our
calendar there is a rhythm to our
calendar there is a rhythm to our existence we all know it we all regulate
existence we all know it we all regulate
existence we all know it we all regulate according to that monthly cycle and yet
according to that monthly cycle and yet
according to that monthly cycle and yet we have to keep it out of the workplace
we have to keep it out of the workplace
we have to keep it out of the workplace this is a man’s world you don’t take
this is a man’s world you don’t take
this is a man’s world you don’t take that monthly rhythm into the workplace
that monthly rhythm into the workplace
that monthly rhythm into the workplace you you don’t you ignore the fact that
you you don’t you ignore the fact that
you you don’t you ignore the fact that work that that you have this rhythm as
work that that you have this rhythm as
work that that you have this rhythm as we age time changes our bodies our
we age time changes our bodies our
we age time changes our bodies our monthly cycles stop we enter menopause
monthly cycles stop we enter menopause
monthly cycles stop we enter menopause if you’re like me you enter it very
if you’re like me you enter it very
if you’re like me you enter it very suddenly I have had a hysterectomy we
suddenly I have had a hysterectomy we
suddenly I have had a hysterectomy we suffer sweats
suffer sweats
suffer sweats we have anxiety attacks we get insomnia
we have anxiety attacks we get insomnia
we have anxiety attacks we get insomnia our libidos decline or energies flag we
our libidos decline or energies flag we
our libidos decline or energies flag we develop aches and pains and we have to
develop aches and pains and we have to
develop aches and pains and we have to keep all of that out of the workplace –
keep all of that out of the workplace –
keep all of that out of the workplace – menopause is really the last taboo
menopause is really the last taboo
menopause is really the last taboo nobody talks about it let alone says
nobody talks about it let alone says
nobody talks about it let alone says make space for me I’m menopausal so I
make space for me I’m menopausal so I
make space for me I’m menopausal so I believe that we need to learn a new
believe that we need to learn a new
believe that we need to learn a new approach to time from what our bodies
approach to time from what our bodies
approach to time from what our bodies are telling us when people talk glibly
are telling us when people talk glibly
are telling us when people talk glibly about age-appropriate behavior they tend
about age-appropriate behavior they tend
about age-appropriate behavior they tend to overlook the very real sensory
to overlook the very real sensory
to overlook the very real sensory dimension of what I think of as embodied
dimension of what I think of as embodied
dimension of what I think of as embodied time so it is my body that tells me that
time so it is my body that tells me that
time so it is my body that tells me that bungy jumping off a tall building isn’t
bungy jumping off a tall building isn’t
bungy jumping off a tall building isn’t a good idea
a good idea
a good idea at my age whether I listen or not that’s
at my age whether I listen or not that’s
at my age whether I listen or not that’s beside the point it is my body that
beside the point it is my body that
beside the point it is my body that tells me when I have been out in the Sun
tells me when I have been out in the Sun
tells me when I have been out in the Sun for too long or when I’ve had too much
for too long or when I’ve had too much
for too long or when I’ve had too much to drink or when I’ve spent too many
to drink or when I’ve spent too many
to drink or when I’ve spent too many hours online or too long sitting in the
hours online or too long sitting in the
hours online or too long sitting in the same chair it is my body that tells me
same chair it is my body that tells me
same chair it is my body that tells me when I might benefit from a walk or time
when I might benefit from a walk or time
when I might benefit from a walk or time with the dog or from a sugary treat or a
with the dog or from a sugary treat or a
with the dog or from a sugary treat or a chat with a friend a different order of
chat with a friend a different order of
chat with a friend a different order of tasks some editing to cut up the writing
tasks some editing to cut up the writing
tasks some editing to cut up the writing cleaning a house so that my unconscious
cleaning a house so that my unconscious
cleaning a house so that my unconscious brain can get on with doing the
brain can get on with doing the
brain can get on with doing the interesting stuff stored up learned and
interesting stuff stored up learned and
interesting stuff stored up learned and cherished this kind of embodied time and
cherished this kind of embodied time and
cherished this kind of embodied time and this embodied knowing it signifies
this embodied knowing it signifies
this embodied knowing it signifies maturity
maturity
maturity it is intuitive deep knowing embodied
it is intuitive deep knowing embodied
it is intuitive deep knowing embodied time belongs to the brainstem not the
time belongs to the brainstem not the
time belongs to the brainstem not the cerebellum it’s time that’s in the guts
cerebellum it’s time that’s in the guts
cerebellum it’s time that’s in the guts it’s time that it’s in the heart the
it’s time that it’s in the heart the
it’s time that it’s in the heart the French writer Collette who was one of
French writer Collette who was one of
French writer Collette who was one of the big inspirations for this book who
the big inspirations for this book who
the big inspirations for this book who grow grew old very disgracefully said in
grow grew old very disgracefully said in
grow grew old very disgracefully said in one of her novels when my body thinks
one of her novels when my body thinks
one of her novels when my body thinks all my flesh has a soul I love this
all my flesh has a soul I love this
all my flesh has a soul I love this statement it’s so simple and yet it’s so
statement it’s so simple and yet it’s so
statement it’s so simple and yet it’s so profound and I feel that I know what she
profound and I feel that I know what she
profound and I feel that I know what she means the message to me is that we need
means the message to me is that we need
means the message to me is that we need to embrace time rather than fight it we
to embrace time rather than fight it we
to embrace time rather than fight it we need to move let it move us and to let
need to move let it move us and to let
need to move let it move us and to let it change us and to let ourselves change
it change us and to let ourselves change
it change us and to let ourselves change with it but what does this mean it means
with it but what does this mean it means
with it but what does this mean it means acknowledging that women who reach 50
acknowledging that women who reach 50
acknowledging that women who reach 50 may not want the same things they’ve
may not want the same things they’ve
may not want the same things they’ve always wanted they may not be as hungry
always wanted they may not be as hungry
always wanted they may not be as hungry for success as they were when they were
for success as they were when they were
for success as they were when they were 30 and if they are then they want that
30 and if they are then they want that
30 and if they are then they want that success on their own terms
success on their own terms
success on their own terms they may have more energy for nurturing
they may have more energy for nurturing
they may have more energy for nurturing others and may want to spend their
others and may want to spend their
others and may want to spend their energy on others than on themselves they
energy on others than on themselves they
energy on others than on themselves they may want to slow down because they
may want to slow down because they
may want to slow down because they understand that when you slow down you
understand that when you slow down you
understand that when you slow down you can see things around you more clearly
can see things around you more clearly
can see things around you more clearly they may trust their intuitions and
they may trust their intuitions and
they may trust their intuitions and their experience more than they used to
their experience more than they used to
their experience more than they used to it’s becoming quite wide widely known
it’s becoming quite wide widely known
it’s becoming quite wide widely known now in neuroscience that what we lose in
now in neuroscience that what we lose in
now in neuroscience that what we lose in cognitive speed as we age we more than
cognitive speed as we age we more than
cognitive speed as we age we more than make up for in middle age where brain
make up for in middle age where brain
make up for in middle age where brain synaptic changes in the brain mean that
synaptic changes in the brain mean that
synaptic changes in the brain mean that we become better at making connections
we become better at making connections
we become better at making connections and building bridges
I wanted to end by talking about the Ark
I wanted to end by talking about the Ark of life which is often represented as
of life which is often represented as
of life which is often represented as the bell curve here’s birth here is
the bell curve here’s birth here is
the bell curve here’s birth here is death and here is the peak and the idea
death and here is the peak and the idea
death and here is the peak and the idea is that we climb up towards this peak
is that we climb up towards this peak
is that we climb up towards this peak and then somewhere around midlife it all
and then somewhere around midlife it all
and then somewhere around midlife it all changes and we decline this half of life
changes and we decline this half of life
changes and we decline this half of life isn’t mapped out for us there are all
isn’t mapped out for us there are all
isn’t mapped out for us there are all kinds of models about how you reach your
kinds of models about how you reach your
kinds of models about how you reach your peak what you’re supposed to do in your
peak what you’re supposed to do in your
peak what you’re supposed to do in your 20s and your 30s and how you consolidate
20s and your 30s and how you consolidate
20s and your 30s and how you consolidate in your 40s when you’re supposed to have
in your 40s when you’re supposed to have
in your 40s when you’re supposed to have children when you’re supposed to work
children when you’re supposed to work
children when you’re supposed to work when you’re supposed to stop working
when you’re supposed to stop working
when you’re supposed to stop working when you get to this point where I am
when you get to this point where I am
when you get to this point where I am when I started writing this book and I
when I started writing this book and I
when I started writing this book and I look forward and I thought there is no
look forward and I thought there is no
look forward and I thought there is no plan for the second half of that it’s
plan for the second half of that it’s
plan for the second half of that it’s other than the baby boomer plan which is
other than the baby boomer plan which is
other than the baby boomer plan which is you work work work work then you stop
you work work work work then you stop
you work work work work then you stop and retire and it all falls apart and it
and retire and it all falls apart and it
and retire and it all falls apart and it really does fall apart because people
really does fall apart because people
really does fall apart because people who are dear to that model of second
who are dear to that model of second
who are dear to that model of second half of life suffer depression and
half of life suffer depression and
half of life suffer depression and isolation feeling worthless they’re not
isolation feeling worthless they’re not
isolation feeling worthless they’re not involved in society they’re not engaged
involved in society they’re not engaged
involved in society they’re not engaged it seems like a terrible model the over
it seems like a terrible model the over
it seems like a terrible model the over way to age and there is a way of looking
way to age and there is a way of looking
way to age and there is a way of looking at this arc rather differently and that
at this arc rather differently and that
at this arc rather differently and that way of looking at it comes from the
way of looking at it comes from the
way of looking at it comes from the philosophy of Carl Jung psychoanalyst
philosophy of Carl Jung psychoanalyst
philosophy of Carl Jung psychoanalyst and he talks about the arc of life it’s
and he talks about the arc of life it’s
and he talks about the arc of life it’s the same shape but it has a totally
the same shape but it has a totally
the same shape but it has a totally different cost to it
different cost to it
different cost to it we still have birth and death and a peak
we still have birth and death and a peak
we still have birth and death and a peak but what he says is you don’t know you
but what he says is you don’t know you
but what he says is you don’t know you can never tell when you’re at your peak
can never tell when you’re at your peak
can never tell when you’re at your peak until after you’ve passed it so don’t
until after you’ve passed it so don’t
until after you’ve passed it so don’t even try and waste your time thinking
even try and waste your time thinking
even try and waste your time thinking about am i picking now have I peaked
about am i picking now have I peaked
about am i picking now have I peaked already am I still gonna peak
already am I still gonna peak
already am I still gonna peak is there is there just decline ahead of
is there is there just decline ahead of
is there is there just decline ahead of me oh god I’ve peaked now I’m on the
me oh god I’ve peaked now I’m on the
me oh god I’ve peaked now I’m on the downhill slope that’s not how you look
downhill slope that’s not how you look
downhill slope that’s not how you look at it so what he says is he compares
at it so what he says is he compares
at it so what he says is he compares this out to the rising and the setting
this out to the rising and the setting
this out to the rising and the setting of a Sun over the course of a single day
of a Sun over the course of a single day
of a Sun over the course of a single day so in the morning of life the Sun rises
so in the morning of life the Sun rises
so in the morning of life the Sun rises and we grow with it
and we grow with it
and we grow with it attaining a peak of maximum illumination
attaining a peak of maximum illumination
attaining a peak of maximum illumination where we we understand our capacities we
where we we understand our capacities we
where we we understand our capacities we can see clearly this is a wonderful
can see clearly this is a wonderful
can see clearly this is a wonderful wonderful moment but he says you must
wonderful moment but he says you must
wonderful moment but he says you must never live the afternoon of your life
never live the afternoon of your life
never live the afternoon of your life according to the program of your morning
according to the program of your morning
according to the program of your morning because if you do what you’re going to
because if you do what you’re going to
because if you do what you’re going to see is darkness falling it’s the
see is darkness falling it’s the
see is darkness falling it’s the traditional model of decline well he
traditional model of decline well he
traditional model of decline well he says instead is if you ditch the morning
says instead is if you ditch the morning
says instead is if you ditch the morning program for the afternoon of life what
program for the afternoon of life what
program for the afternoon of life what you do with the sun’s rays as you go
you do with the sun’s rays as you go
you do with the sun’s rays as you go into the second half of your life is you
into the second half of your life is you
into the second half of your life is you turn them inwards and you let those rays
turn them inwards and you let those rays
turn them inwards and you let those rays illuminate the inside and what he sees
illuminate the inside and what he sees
illuminate the inside and what he sees as the program of the afternoon is a
as the program of the afternoon is a
as the program of the afternoon is a program of enrichment and I thought that
program of enrichment and I thought that
program of enrichment and I thought that was an absolutely lovely metaphor for
was an absolutely lovely metaphor for
was an absolutely lovely metaphor for ageing I’m just going to end on a final
ageing I’m just going to end on a final
ageing I’m just going to end on a final note which is what happens when you flip
note which is what happens when you flip
note which is what happens when you flip the bell curve and you have birth here
the bell curve and you have birth here
the bell curve and you have birth here and death here and instead of a peak you
and death here and instead of a peak you
and death here and instead of a peak you have a trough
does anybody know what this curve
does anybody know what this curve corresponds to this curve corresponds to
corresponds to this curve corresponds to
corresponds to this curve corresponds to happiness studies it’s becoming again
happiness studies it’s becoming again
happiness studies it’s becoming again increasingly widespread across cultures
increasingly widespread across cultures
increasingly widespread across cultures that people in midlife arrive at a kind
that people in midlife arrive at a kind
that people in midlife arrive at a kind of trough of despair happiness levels
of trough of despair happiness levels
of trough of despair happiness levels reported happiness levels are lower
reported happiness levels are lower
reported happiness levels are lower between the ages of 45 and 55 they don’t
between the ages of 45 and 55 they don’t
between the ages of 45 and 55 they don’t any other time in your life so we talked
any other time in your life so we talked
any other time in your life so we talked about midlife crisis we talked about
about midlife crisis we talked about
about midlife crisis we talked about midlife blues this is where we are we’re
midlife blues this is where we are we’re
midlife blues this is where we are we’re in the trough and it does feel very dark
in the trough and it does feel very dark
in the trough and it does feel very dark and despairing in that time but the
and despairing in that time but the
and despairing in that time but the great news is is that people get happier
great news is is that people get happier
great news is is that people get happier when they’re older it’s reported
when they’re older it’s reported
when they’re older it’s reported everywhere that this is the case people
everywhere that this is the case people
everywhere that this is the case people in their 70s and their 80s report
in their 70s and their 80s report
in their 70s and their 80s report greater levels of contentment so I don’t
greater levels of contentment so I don’t
greater levels of contentment so I don’t know about you but I think that we’re in
know about you but I think that we’re in
know about you but I think that we’re in our midlife crisis when we come out of
our midlife crisis when we come out of
our midlife crisis when we come out of it we can soar up like rockets
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