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Mi jefe tenía razón: la maternidad transformó mi vida | Natalia Gherardi | TEDxSanIsidroWomen


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the first time you become aware that

there could be something about the

motherhood that had an impact on

professional development was when a

boss who loved me a lot and who valued

my work told me in the middle a run

of hours in the office

you’re going to make an excellent lawyer if you do not

you fill up with children

the comment seemed absurd

ridiculous weird that might have to do

had no children or planning to have the

I was still 26 27 years old and the idea of

my mom had a lot to do with

personal development with the professional

as I imagined I develop my

life then I did not understand the comment

the neurons do not deteriorate and they

they contract and that seems the ability or the

knowledge of law with the

maternity

in fact a friend had had a son

in the office and nothing had changed in

work for the boy had

changed for his wife who left the

office where I worked for

engage in more flexible employment than

will allow you to make your life compatible

personal with his professional life

then the truth is that the comment

of my boss was not directed at me not

I was thinking about myself and my

aspirations in my ideas was

molded by an idea culturally

determined about what he knew

and experience showed that

indeed the arrival of a child of

a daughter has a transformative impact

in the time of women much more

here in the time of the males

that show us also with data

statistical surveys of the use of

time make use of time costs are

a statistical tool that already

have been used in almost 20 countries in america

Latin and the Caribbean that is shaped

periodical which consists of asking

a group of people surveyed women

and males

how was your day yesterday is a

exercise similar to thinking the agenda

of the day

yesterday as you will think and arm

a list of the actions of the

activities that they did yesterday and it is to that

statistical tool shows us the

very different use of time we do

women and men mainly

when we have responsibilities of

watch out

in Argentina the women with responsibility

with children we dedicate more than double

time that men with children to

care tasks and women who

we live as a couple

We also dedicate more hours to

care work that women who

they live in mono-maternal homes or that

are heads of household that means that

We take care not only of children and

daughters but we also dedicate hours

of care for adults who can

self provide yourself with that care then

what are the care tasks of care

of this set of actions that

they carry out mate daily and that

ensure the reproduction of society

care involves actions for the

attention the need for physics the

feeding the clothing the toilet and

emotional of the people who in

general is resolved inside of

the families is care includes then

direct actions to attend to the

children girls adults

elderly and people with diseases

and that the truth and all people

because in reality every day

We care needs

concentrate with greater strength it

concentrate more intensively in the

extremes of life childhood and

old age but throughout our life

we always have situations of

relative dependence that make

we need care

that’s what the use survey

of time they tell us that they devote more

time the women than in the males

tell us the surveys use of

time and also does not say it

everyday experience

then the care includes these

direct actions of care but

also the management of care when

we coordinate with someone to help us in

the delegation that

we have many care tasks because

we hire someone in our house or

because we do not delegate to the family

how many times we call by phone

please remove my son from school that

did not arrive

it is not true that also management of

be careful in the delegation we make

towards other people and also includes

the generation of preconditions

for care someone has to

take care of buying the food so that

Cook to buy the elements of

toilet for cleaning

someone has to take care of the transfer

of the people from home from here to

there and who deals with all that there

invisible hands that make all of that

happen that every day life goes on

spinning and that people have the

dress to go back to school so

go to work and to continue with the

life is not true

those invisible hands do these tasks

that we do not see that we do not look until

are made and that was one of the

appeals of unemployment of women of

last October 19, what happens if those

invisible hands stop passing

no task strategies are not performed

there we realize that there are many

the things that happen daily

modern studies call this

economy of caring for a theory that

shows that these invisible tasks

these invisible hands not only

they carry out activities but they generate

value has an economic value

this care work that the certain thing is

that because it’s usually done at

within families is resolved in

great extent to the interior of families

this work is not considered as such

but the truth is that these tasks that

has an important component of love and

affection of personal ties

they also demand time and effort

time and effort that is withdrawn from others

activities time and effort as the

works only that the jobs have

a retribution in money and this

unpaid work

when you go inside the face of

families is invisible is not

recognized now how can this

happen every day

why women carry out

these tasks in a greater way or

disproportionately greater than

the men

this idea rests in the

elasticity of women’s time and

the true jobs is that women

we have massively incorporated to the

world of employment although with many

disparities in terms of access and

rise and others as they heard ago

a while ago we women have

massively incorporated into the market of

employment without there having been a

redistribution equal in equal measure to the

interior of families at work

of care

this has an impact on life in the

development possibilities of the

aspirations of women but has

a greater impact on poor women

because women with fewer resources

economic interests have greater demands

care and have fewer resources

economic to solve that greater

demand for care with appeals to

market hiring people hiring

school transport with private medicine

that solves the medical shifts of a

more way sometimes simpler than

Public hospitals and others

so what do we need to do to

resolve these tensions in the

social organization of current care

what is unfair

both in terms of gender and in

socio-economic terms to address

these tensions

public policies are needed

broad and complex public policies

that we realize the enormous

branches that are involved

in the idea of ​​care for example the

job

this one organized on the idea of

man supplier the male supplier and

the woman taking care of the times of

I work the demands of the day

labor the licenses if well organized

about the idea that the worker or the

worker can dedicate 100 percent

of your time and your necessary energy

for work because someone is

will take care of the problems

relatives the resolutions of the subjects

of care

that presumption rest

a family ideal that no longer exists in

a family model that is no longer

women also have jobs the

families are diverse

marriages dissolve

families are assembled and then

think about appealing to the idea that the male

providers the woman carer no longer

responds to the reality of many

families in Argentina and in the world there are

several actions that are taking

go ahead to start thinking about

care policies one more way

integral and license reforms

that without being important

think about maternity leave with

other criteria extend the license of

parenthood incorporate licenses

parental

they are important initiatives but not

enough because we know that the

responsibility is of care they exceed in

much the biological moment of

birth or the time of adoption

the responsibility is for care so

less regarding sons and daughters

extend I do not know until I’m 18 and

when we finished taking care down

we started to look up also

we have responsibilities and we want

take care responsibilities

respect to older adults and others

people in the families then the

jobs when they think about licenses

and the reforms that are concentrated

in the licenses you also have to

think that the responsibilities of

care is much wider

when my boss told me at that time

20 years ago

this comment that I found absurd

the truth is that he was not wrong

The truth is that his comment was

molded into a culture that told him and

that he was certain that I

would have as a woman much greater demand

of care time I had had

my male partner was right

experience showed him that that was

A) Yes

then the challenge is to think the

care responsibilities for

families in a way that recognizes

this complex framework that involves no

only the inside of the families and

the need to democratize work

of care to

inside of families but that

also recognize the value and

need to have institutions

receptive to family needs

thinking about the in the days of

work in which the days

school children in the times of the centers

of health the times and forms of

transfer impacting so very

important in families but also

The challenge is to rethink the

Shared care responsibilities

between women and men

the challenge the interesting the ideal

it would be that we can share the time

the effort the anguish but also

the enormous satisfaction that follows from

share care equitably

between men and women

Thank you

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