also let’s that I’m really tired of having the stock I’ve given this talk in
having the stock I’ve given this talk in
having the stock I’ve given this talk in so many forms to so many people that I’m
so many forms to so many people that I’m
so many forms to so many people that I’m standing here and I feel this utter
standing here and I feel this utter
standing here and I feel this utter sense of deja vu like we’re gonna go
sense of deja vu like we’re gonna go
sense of deja vu like we’re gonna go over the same points again and again and
over the same points again and again and
over the same points again and again and again I’ve had this talk with my father
again I’ve had this talk with my father
again I’ve had this talk with my father last night I had this talk with my best
last night I had this talk with my best
last night I had this talk with my best friend last week
friend last week
friend last week I had this talk with the last man I
I had this talk with the last man I
I had this talk with the last man I dated I had this talk of my cousin’s I
dated I had this talk of my cousin’s I
dated I had this talk of my cousin’s I had to stop with the uber driver whose
had to stop with the uber driver whose
had to stop with the uber driver whose cat I was sitting in some time ago so
cat I was sitting in some time ago so
cat I was sitting in some time ago so you know every time I stand here and I
you know every time I stand here and I
you know every time I stand here and I talk about this I’m just like oh god not
talk about this I’m just like oh god not
talk about this I’m just like oh god not again but here I am on my crusade to
again but here I am on my crusade to
again but here I am on my crusade to recruit men into the cause of gender
recruit men into the cause of gender
recruit men into the cause of gender equality I am here to talk to you about
equality I am here to talk to you about
equality I am here to talk to you about the big f word feminism now Albert
the big f word feminism now Albert
the big f word feminism now Albert Einstein once said the definition of
Einstein once said the definition of
Einstein once said the definition of insanity is doing something again and
insanity is doing something again and
insanity is doing something again and again and again expecting a different
again and again expecting a different
again and again expecting a different result
result
result some people have called me insane for
some people have called me insane for
some people have called me insane for doing this so often but I don’t think I
doing this so often but I don’t think I
doing this so often but I don’t think I am because results are showing women’s
am because results are showing women’s
am because results are showing women’s issues are coming up on the forefront
issues are coming up on the forefront
issues are coming up on the forefront and that has opened a door for various
and that has opened a door for various
and that has opened a door for various minority issues – it’s coming to a point
minority issues – it’s coming to a point
minority issues – it’s coming to a point where we are talking about things we
where we are talking about things we
where we are talking about things we have realized that stakeholder patterns
have realized that stakeholder patterns
have realized that stakeholder patterns exist and that the manifestation of
exist and that the manifestation of
exist and that the manifestation of inequality is very different from the
inequality is very different from the
inequality is very different from the causes of it so we’re smart we’re
causes of it so we’re smart we’re
causes of it so we’re smart we’re smarter than the people before us right
smarter than the people before us right
smarter than the people before us right and that’s awesome because that’s hope
and that’s awesome because that’s hope
and that’s awesome because that’s hope hope brings change hope brings ability
hope brings change hope brings ability
hope brings change hope brings ability hope fix ability to impact hope brings
hope fix ability to impact hope brings
hope fix ability to impact hope brings ability to think of a better future and
ability to think of a better future and
ability to think of a better future and today I’m talking about a bit more of
today I’m talking about a bit more of
today I’m talking about a bit more of hope the hope that men actively join
hope the hope that men actively join
hope the hope that men actively join feminism so why would I want men to
feminism so why would I want men to
feminism so why would I want men to actively contribute to
actively contribute to
actively contribute to movement that has been identified as we
movement that has been identified as we
movement that has been identified as we maintain space and men sealing it why
maintain space and men sealing it why
maintain space and men sealing it why would men want to do that so that’s what
would men want to do that so that’s what
would men want to do that so that’s what we’re going to be doing here today
we’re going to be doing here today
we’re going to be doing here today now you know this is a point I have a
now you know this is a point I have a
now you know this is a point I have a lot of trouble communicating to people
lot of trouble communicating to people
lot of trouble communicating to people men see
men see
men see Oh gender equality means women get
Oh gender equality means women get
Oh gender equality means women get rights that’s right they say Oh feminism
rights that’s right they say Oh feminism
rights that’s right they say Oh feminism is all about women because it has the
is all about women because it has the
is all about women because it has the word per minute that’s right to an
word per minute that’s right to an
word per minute that’s right to an extent but what men don’t realize is
extent but what men don’t realize is
extent but what men don’t realize is that feminism is not men versus women
that feminism is not men versus women
that feminism is not men versus women it’s not like you know man was his wife
it’s not like you know man was his wife
it’s not like you know man was his wife man was his right woman
man was his right woman
man was his right woman it is us versus the patriarchy now the
it is us versus the patriarchy now the
it is us versus the patriarchy now the big P word like this is this is my
big P word like this is this is my
big P word like this is this is my trigger word I hear the word patriarchy
trigger word I hear the word patriarchy
trigger word I hear the word patriarchy and I’m just like I don’t like it
and I’m just like I don’t like it
and I’m just like I don’t like it patriarchy is not a sword that men we
patriarchy is not a sword that men we
patriarchy is not a sword that men we use against the world and molohia
use against the world and molohia
use against the world and molohia I’m not pressing you patriarchy impacts
I’m not pressing you patriarchy impacts
I’m not pressing you patriarchy impacts men too and very negatively at that men
men too and very negatively at that men
men too and very negatively at that men don’t realize it but patriarchy has been
don’t realize it but patriarchy has been
don’t realize it but patriarchy has been training you to be incapable of
training you to be incapable of
training you to be incapable of communicating with your own
communicating with your own
communicating with your own vulnerabilities your own emotions it’s
vulnerabilities your own emotions it’s
vulnerabilities your own emotions it’s come to a point where men don’t even
come to a point where men don’t even
come to a point where men don’t even realize what they are missing out on
realize what they are missing out on
realize what they are missing out on because they’ve been conditioned for so
because they’ve been conditioned for so
because they’ve been conditioned for so long now you know what kind of
long now you know what kind of
long now you know what kind of conditioning are we talking about let’s
conditioning are we talking about let’s
conditioning are we talking about let’s start with the fact that when a child is
start with the fact that when a child is
start with the fact that when a child is born we decide to tell the world about
born we decide to tell the world about
born we decide to tell the world about its gender through clothing you know you
its gender through clothing you know you
its gender through clothing you know you start from that step point and then you
start from that step point and then you
start from that step point and then you go ahead and tell boys you cannot cry
go ahead and tell boys you cannot cry
go ahead and tell boys you cannot cry you cannot be vulnerable you can no you
you cannot be vulnerable you can no you
you cannot be vulnerable you can no you do not have a feminine side and hence
do not have a feminine side and hence
do not have a feminine side and hence you must actively tamp it down that
you must actively tamp it down that
you must actively tamp it down that sounds little problematic to me if you
sounds little problematic to me if you
sounds little problematic to me if you ask me and that is teittleman the law of
ask me and that is teittleman the law of
ask me and that is teittleman the law of the land is very much against you today
the land is very much against you today
the land is very much against you today so some time ago a month ago there was a
so some time ago a month ago there was a
so some time ago a month ago there was a can rape case in the Banaras Hindu
can rape case in the Banaras Hindu
can rape case in the Banaras Hindu University which are the most premier
University which are the most premier
University which are the most premier universities
universities
universities country right now so according to the
country right now so according to the
country right now so according to the criminal law Amendment Act of 2013 the
criminal law Amendment Act of 2013 the
criminal law Amendment Act of 2013 the legal recourse for add gangway
legal recourse for add gangway
legal recourse for add gangway is punishment minimum twenty years to
is punishment minimum twenty years to
is punishment minimum twenty years to life and financial repatriation that
life and financial repatriation that
life and financial repatriation that takes care to victims five you know
takes care to victims five you know
takes care to victims five you know medical needs as well as rehabilitation
medical needs as well as rehabilitation
medical needs as well as rehabilitation needs unfortunately this time the victim
needs unfortunately this time the victim
needs unfortunately this time the victim was a man the laws of this country are
was a man the laws of this country are
was a man the laws of this country are not gender neutral the laws of this
not gender neutral the laws of this
not gender neutral the laws of this country are not gender neutral hence he
country are not gender neutral hence he
country are not gender neutral hence he does not get this Rico’s thanks the
does not get this Rico’s thanks the
does not get this Rico’s thanks the biggest case he can file is physical
biggest case he can file is physical
biggest case he can file is physical assault it does not take into account
assault it does not take into account
assault it does not take into account the trauma of sexual assault which has
the trauma of sexual assault which has
the trauma of sexual assault which has been categorically considered and has
been categorically considered and has
been categorically considered and has been put across in the media now why
been put across in the media now why
been put across in the media now why does that happen
does that happen
does that happen why are the laws not gender neutral they
why are the laws not gender neutral they
why are the laws not gender neutral they are not gender neutral because we
are not gender neutral because we
are not gender neutral because we believe that men cannot be victims why
believe that men cannot be victims why
believe that men cannot be victims why can’t men not be victims because the
can’t men not be victims because the
can’t men not be victims because the patriarchy states that men are only
patriarchy states that men are only
patriarchy states that men are only aggressors now you and I were very very
aggressors now you and I were very very
aggressors now you and I were very very privileged women why are we privileged
privileged women why are we privileged
privileged women why are we privileged because we have the power to observe we
because we have the power to observe we
because we have the power to observe we have the capability to observe we have
have the capability to observe we have
have the capability to observe we have the capability to distill those
the capability to distill those
the capability to distill those observations into something concrete
observations into something concrete
observations into something concrete when I talk to you here I do not just
when I talk to you here I do not just
when I talk to you here I do not just talk to students and teachers I talk to
talk to students and teachers I talk to
talk to students and teachers I talk to policymakers educationalists people in
policymakers educationalists people in
policymakers educationalists people in the media people who will go into the
the media people who will go into the
the media people who will go into the future I talk to people who change
future I talk to people who change
future I talk to people who change perceptions you understand what’s
perceptions you understand what’s
perceptions you understand what’s happening right you understand that
happening right you understand that
happening right you understand that these stakeholder patterns exist hence
these stakeholder patterns exist hence
these stakeholder patterns exist hence it’s your duty to take them forward to
it’s your duty to take them forward to
it’s your duty to take them forward to push them forward and to create a sense
push them forward and to create a sense
push them forward and to create a sense of education amongst people now you know
of education amongst people now you know
of education amongst people now you know in 2014 there was a world serving the
in 2014 there was a world serving the
in 2014 there was a world serving the world survey was on suicide rates India
world survey was on suicide rates India
world survey was on suicide rates India has the largest number of suicides in
has the largest number of suicides in
has the largest number of suicides in the world in 2015 the same data was dug
the world in 2015 the same data was dug
the world in 2015 the same data was dug up a little deeper and 21 percent of
up a little deeper and 21 percent of
up a little deeper and 21 percent of those suicides were men who was told
those suicides were men who was told
those suicides were men who was told we’ve trained our men very very well
we’ve trained our men very very well
we’ve trained our men very very well we’ve trained them to be quiet and to
we’ve trained them to be quiet and to
we’ve trained them to be quiet and to take everything that they can we’ve
take everything that they can we’ve
take everything that they can we’ve trained them to believe that they are
trained them to believe that they are
trained them to believe that they are not while you’re away
not while you’re away
not while you’re away we’ve trained them well enough that they
we’ve trained them well enough that they
we’ve trained them well enough that they literally die before they get a chance
literally die before they get a chance
literally die before they get a chance to speak so why this is the form of
to speak so why this is the form of
to speak so why this is the form of repression right and this is very active
repression right and this is very active
repression right and this is very active oppression why do we not consider it so
oppression why do we not consider it so
oppression why do we not consider it so is it because it doesn’t look like
is it because it doesn’t look like
is it because it doesn’t look like oppression is it because you know we
oppression is it because you know we
oppression is it because you know we look at things at face value and say of
look at things at face value and say of
look at things at face value and say of course a man can’t do your breast is it
course a man can’t do your breast is it
course a man can’t do your breast is it because it’s difficult to shake status
because it’s difficult to shake status
because it’s difficult to shake status quo up you know what I think it’s the
quo up you know what I think it’s the
quo up you know what I think it’s the problem that once you start questioning
problem that once you start questioning
problem that once you start questioning something as basic as this you’re going
something as basic as this you’re going
something as basic as this you’re going to open up a Pandora’s box of questions
to open up a Pandora’s box of questions
to open up a Pandora’s box of questions and you’re going to have to actively
and you’re going to have to actively
and you’re going to have to actively look at the repercussions of what’s been
look at the repercussions of what’s been
look at the repercussions of what’s been happening you know what is the most
happening you know what is the most
happening you know what is the most interesting side effects of feminism
interesting side effects of feminism
interesting side effects of feminism this was a study done in Wisconsin
this was a study done in Wisconsin
this was a study done in Wisconsin recently and it shows that men who live
recently and it shows that men who live
recently and it shows that men who live in a feminist powered environment have
in a feminist powered environment have
in a feminist powered environment have shown a steady increase in their
shown a steady increase in their
shown a steady increase in their happiness now before you say that okay
happiness now before you say that okay
happiness now before you say that okay that means feminist women aren’t happy
that means feminist women aren’t happy
that means feminist women aren’t happy feminist women have actively that higher
feminist women have actively that higher
feminist women have actively that higher on that happiness index since 2012 when
on that happiness index since 2012 when
on that happiness index since 2012 when the researchers started being conducted
the researchers started being conducted
the researchers started being conducted feminism neutrally means that people are
feminism neutrally means that people are
feminism neutrally means that people are generally happier because people are now
generally happier because people are now
generally happier because people are now exploring new things they’re trying out
exploring new things they’re trying out
exploring new things they’re trying out new chicks they are not affected by
new chicks they are not affected by
new chicks they are not affected by antiquated gender roles are not fettered
antiquated gender roles are not fettered
antiquated gender roles are not fettered by expectations feminism and it’s very
by expectations feminism and it’s very
by expectations feminism and it’s very crux is about ability it’s about giving
crux is about ability it’s about giving
crux is about ability it’s about giving choice to people and the ability to
choice to people and the ability to
choice to people and the ability to create good wise choices this is an
create good wise choices this is an
create good wise choices this is an education unto itself learning how to
education unto itself learning how to
education unto itself learning how to involve feminism in your life is an
involve feminism in your life is an
involve feminism in your life is an education you give to yourself you know
education you give to yourself you know
education you give to yourself you know the facts are very simple feminism looks
the facts are very simple feminism looks
the facts are very simple feminism looks at men stakeholders
at men stakeholders
at men stakeholders feminism does not look at men only as
feminism does not look at men only as
feminism does not look at men only as the allies it looks at them as active
the allies it looks at them as active
the allies it looks at them as active beneficiaries of the entire movement we
beneficiaries of the entire movement we
beneficiaries of the entire movement we believe that men are beyond their base
believe that men are beyond their base
believe that men are beyond their base abilities we believe that men are beyond
abilities we believe that men are beyond
abilities we believe that men are beyond their you know caves man like natural
their you know caves man like natural
their you know caves man like natural masculinity that has been so toxic to
masculinity that has been so toxic to
masculinity that has been so toxic to them over so many years we believe that
them over so many years we believe that
them over so many years we believe that men can be vulnerable we believe that
men can be vulnerable we believe that
men can be vulnerable we believe that men can be broken by accepting that a
men can be broken by accepting that a
men can be broken by accepting that a man has feelings that can be hurt by
man has feelings that can be hurt by
man has feelings that can be hurt by accepting that systematic degradation of
accepting that systematic degradation of
accepting that systematic degradation of men occurs – we are opening up doors to
men occurs – we are opening up doors to
men occurs – we are opening up doors to healing no world order can change until
healing no world order can change until
healing no world order can change until it’s shaken and broken no seed can
it’s shaken and broken no seed can
it’s shaken and broken no seed can germinate until it cracks open a little
germinate until it cracks open a little
germinate until it cracks open a little and it allows water and sunshine to pour
and it allows water and sunshine to pour
and it allows water and sunshine to pour in it’s not an easy thing to do you know
in it’s not an easy thing to do you know
in it’s not an easy thing to do you know when you look at changing the status quo
when you look at changing the status quo
when you look at changing the status quo that has supported you for so long in
that has supported you for so long in
that has supported you for so long in ways that are very obvious we understand
ways that are very obvious we understand
ways that are very obvious we understand the fear which is why it’s not about you
the fear which is why it’s not about you
the fear which is why it’s not about you just sealing space in public matters
just sealing space in public matters
just sealing space in public matters it’s also about you entering the private
it’s also about you entering the private
it’s also about you entering the private sphere we don’t ask you to simply leave
sphere we don’t ask you to simply leave
sphere we don’t ask you to simply leave power out we asked you to share it we
power out we asked you to share it we
power out we asked you to share it we ask you to explore a plethora of
ask you to explore a plethora of
ask you to explore a plethora of experiences you never thought you had in
experiences you never thought you had in
experiences you never thought you had in you to see so you know at the end of the
you to see so you know at the end of the
you to see so you know at the end of the day this was my recruitment call this
day this was my recruitment call this
day this was my recruitment call this was a clarion call if you do not call
was a clarion call if you do not call
was a clarion call if you do not call yourself a feminist think of the fact
yourself a feminist think of the fact
yourself a feminist think of the fact that when you do you are gunning for a
that when you do you are gunning for a
that when you do you are gunning for a better softer kinder world where we all
better softer kinder world where we all
better softer kinder world where we all grow into each other not away from each
grow into each other not away from each
grow into each other not away from each other so I really do hope when you go
other so I really do hope when you go
other so I really do hope when you go away from you know you maybe open up the
away from you know you maybe open up the
away from you know you maybe open up the internet and you look up mail feminism
internet and you look up mail feminism
internet and you look up mail feminism maybe you look up how to be a good Ally
maybe you look up how to be a good Ally
maybe you look up how to be a good Ally maybe you look up am I dressed because
maybe you look up am I dressed because
maybe you look up am I dressed because that would you be finally a point where
that would you be finally a point where
that would you be finally a point where you realize that yes you have the
you realize that yes you have the
you realize that yes you have the ability to be a kind of
ability to be a kind of
ability to be a kind of just think about it that’s all I ask of
just think about it that’s all I ask of
just think about it that’s all I ask of you thank you
you thank you
you thank you [Applause]
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