Narcissists
Looks like a bad word, right?
As an open wound bleeding, it is still painful.
Social narcissism reflects our current cultural reality
Their growth represents an increasing challenge to the areas of work around the world.
The origin of the word “narcissism” belongs to Greek mythology.
(Narcissus), a young fisherman and handsome man par excellence,
Tired of fishing and intensity of free days
He rested next to a wonderful fresh water well.
As he drank the water, he saw his beautiful image.
He adored himself madly.
He refused to drink for fear that his beautiful image would disappear.
He ended up with the time to remain fascinated by himself
His death was marked by the growth of a single flower.
They are narcissus.
In our real world that does not rely on legends,
We are surrounded by these selfish and powerful beings
As our Greek friend, who does not exceed his thirst but addicted to the sense of excellence
To be admired is everything for them.
If they are left unconditionally,
Their narcissistic instincts continue to boil until they turn into special treatment merits,
Blame,
And to overestimate their capabilities
Become aggressive when exposed to criticism,
Arrogant and growing.
She has almost no sympathy for others.
Everyone can spot someone!
You may even be sitting next to someone!
You may even be one of them.
(Laughter)
Well, if there is something we know for certain, it is that their numbers are increasing.
[‘Millennium Generation’]
(Laughter)
I compared a study over 30 years
Between the qualities of narcissism and sympathy among university students,
When this study began in the 1980s, the figures were very good
The high narcissistic qualities were 30%
While the attributes of sympathy accounted for 70%.
30 years after our arrival in the millennium generation,
The opposite is true.
Found that 70% of the students showed a strong narcissistic pattern,
While only 30% showed empathy.
We do not claim that all Millennium members are narcissists,
But this study tells us that tendencies are much higher
Than the generations that have appeared before
Why do we care about this?
Well, because 40 percent of our workforce currently belongs to the millennium generation.
This figure will rise in 2030 to 75%.
This represents a real challenge.
But not all narcissists were created equal
Among them are distinguished individuals.
(Laughter)
They estimated that 1% of the population
That is, one in every 100 out of control.
These people suffer from narcissistic personality disorder.
They consider the risk to be unsafe.
I would like to classify them into parasitic species like those in the plant world
They do not integrate into any ecosystem,
In particular the working environment.
They are followed by Nargisione extremists.
Their number is estimated at between 6 and 10% of the population.
They are also very distinguished,
Although they are under control, they are highly toxic.
I love to share them with poison ivy.
It is better to be left alone and not to be exposed to them
Our next rating is a varied garden.
These people are not very bad,
Their situation is mild to moderate,
With little management, and with little development,
With a fair amount of care, they can enjoy very good qualities.
They can be adapted exceptionally.
And be very pleased,
And very charming,
Confident of themselves –
And for honest honesty – they can do the work.
Now, no one really knows precisely why narcissism is growing.
But perception
Is that it stems from our individual and post-war isolationism.
Which also changed parenting techniques,
Where children are raised in a harmful manner while parents are missing at work
Where praise is given to increase self-esteem and each child receives a shield.
They also do not have free play,
Instead, we have very early reliance on and exposure to the media.
So regardless of the reason,
These people are a very big obstacle when employing them
And even harder to work for.
But they stay.
So how do we,
Such as employers and managers
To improve the exploitation of these characters difficult to see,
In order to make sure our business is successful
And provide positive working environments?
The first step is to employ in an appropriate manner.
You should then know that these personal patterns exist.
You should warn them.
By doing this, you can contribute to the examination and removal of 10%
From personal turbulent and extremist narcissists.
Realize that these personal styles
Highly toxic and unproductive in the working environment even as leaders.
In addition, when you test,
You need to know not only the functional skills required,
But also personal skills that fit that job.
When you do this, you can really benefit from those characters
For your own good.
We know that their ability to persuade is great,
We know they work well as islands in themselves.
We know that they can become very happy,
They are also very loyal.
So by mating personal skills with the same job,
You can ensure greater success.
The second step is to know your environment.
You must lead and empower leaders.
If you leave the wheel, narcissists will take over.
Weeds grow in cracks, so be strong
In addition, create a family environment.
That is the spirit of the united team.
The greatest good rules,
Make sure you have a team.
Collective success is your yardstick for the success of all individuals.
By applying this, you can get a stronger and more successful work environment.
(Google) and (Facebook) to do so.
Moreover, they need nutrition.
They need constant and frequent feeding.
We must tell their thirst for praise.
We need to praise them with praise and motivation,
I repeat, permanently and not uninterrupted.
I repeat, we need to praise them as well,
And to give them periodic reports on their performance.
And alert them,
And keep them on the right track that is appropriate to the objectives of the group,
Finally we need to create a supportive working environment,
Not only for narcissistic characters,
But for everyone.
By doing this, you can make sure you have good communication
In case of contrary conduct,
It can be detected quickly,
Without any kind of sanctions against them, they are reported.
Then, you need to define your expectations in a clear way,
It is not just identifying the required functional skills,
But also the overall behavior that you accept in the work environment.
The more accurate you provide with examples, the better you are,
You must also support this idea frequently.
People need to remind them that this is really required.
Then assume responsibility,
Take responsibility at all levels.
I repeat, people need the ticket
That trust is not necessarily equal to efficiency.
Documentation is also an important system to follow with this type of personality.
We know that the narcissists have a great tendency to sue.
So you have to protect yourself, your employees and your business
Documenting poor work behavior
And made clear to them what the next steps were.
Last but not least, there is a need for a disciplinary process in place.
Should be applied at all levels
From CEO down.
Their application requires a consistent,
There are no lost opportunities.
By doing this, you can increase ethics in the company itself
And continue to apply the procedures.
By following these three steps,
You can improve the exploitation of these difficult characters in an effective way
Develop an environment,
Where all employees and businesses can thrive and succeed.
thank you
(clap)
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