so who has ever done something incredibly dumb in their life raise your
incredibly dumb in their life raise your
incredibly dumb in their life raise your hands
everyone now keep your hands in the air
everyone now keep your hands in the air if you’ve ever thought afterwards I
if you’ve ever thought afterwards I
if you’ve ever thought afterwards I really shouldn’t do that again alright
really shouldn’t do that again alright
really shouldn’t do that again alright basically everyone again you can put
basically everyone again you can put
basically everyone again you can put your hands down so this is something
your hands down so this is something
your hands down so this is something that I call a note to self basically a
that I call a note to self basically a
that I call a note to self basically a note to self it’s something that is part
note to self it’s something that is part
note to self it’s something that is part of something bigger rules to life now
of something bigger rules to life now
of something bigger rules to life now before I get into what these rules to
before I get into what these rules to
before I get into what these rules to life are what they mean how they work
life are what they mean how they work
life are what they mean how they work and everything I need to give you a
and everything I need to give you a
and everything I need to give you a backstory so who has ever seen the TV
backstory so who has ever seen the TV
backstory so who has ever seen the TV show NCIS raise your hands alright
show NCIS raise your hands alright
show NCIS raise your hands alright pretty much everyone for those you that
pretty much everyone for those you that
pretty much everyone for those you that haven’t one of the main characters in TV
haven’t one of the main characters in TV
haven’t one of the main characters in TV show his name is Leroy jethro gibbs
show his name is Leroy jethro gibbs
show his name is Leroy jethro gibbs now Gibbs has created rules like I have
now Gibbs has created rules like I have
now Gibbs has created rules like I have and as a matter of fact these rules are
and as a matter of fact these rules are
and as a matter of fact these rules are dedicated to the episodes you see them
dedicated to the episodes you see them
dedicated to the episodes you see them all the time one of the episodes is
all the time one of the episodes is
all the time one of the episodes is actually called rule 51 where you see
actually called rule 51 where you see
actually called rule 51 where you see the creation of rule 51 but also like
the creation of rule 51 but also like
the creation of rule 51 but also like three or four other rules are mentioned
three or four other rules are mentioned
three or four other rules are mentioned in it so one day I was sitting back home
in it so one day I was sitting back home
in it so one day I was sitting back home in Illinois and I thought to myself what
in Illinois and I thought to myself what
in Illinois and I thought to myself what happens if I make my own list of rules
happens if I make my own list of rules
happens if I make my own list of rules seems like something cool to do like
seems like something cool to do like
seems like something cool to do like Gibbs is a law enforcement officer
Gibbs is a law enforcement officer
Gibbs is a law enforcement officer that’s what I want to do when I grow up
that’s what I want to do when I grow up
that’s what I want to do when I grow up so I did that I made my own list of
so I did that I made my own list of
so I did that I made my own list of rules I took some ideas from Gibbs and
rules I took some ideas from Gibbs and
rules I took some ideas from Gibbs and some the ideas were investigative
some the ideas were investigative
some the ideas were investigative techniques the special things and some
techniques the special things and some
techniques the special things and some of them were just more fun ones that I
of them were just more fun ones that I
of them were just more fun ones that I created myself one of those ones I
created myself one of those ones I
created myself one of those ones I created was originally rule 13 now it’s
created was originally rule 13 now it’s
created was originally rule 13 now it’s rule 16 and that is never fall or lean
rule 16 and that is never fall or lean
rule 16 and that is never fall or lean to a side compromise so basically if you
to a side compromise so basically if you
to a side compromise so basically if you ever see an argument happening you want
ever see an argument happening you want
ever see an argument happening you want to help those people out go over don’t
to help those people out go over don’t
to help those people out go over don’t take a side just help them find
take a side just help them find
take a side just help them find something that’s beneficial to both of
something that’s beneficial to both of
something that’s beneficial to both of them in 2013 I was on a Boy Scout camp
them in 2013 I was on a Boy Scout camp
them in 2013 I was on a Boy Scout camp staff called nationally national youth
staff called nationally national youth
staff called nationally national youth leadership training called NY LT n wild
leadership training called NY LT n wild
leadership training called NY LT n wild T the lead youth that year isn’t was
T the lead youth that year isn’t was
T the lead youth that year isn’t was John now John had actually created his
John now John had actually created his
John now John had actually created his own list of rules like I had when I
own list of rules like I had when I
own list of rules like I had when I found that out him hyper heads together
found that out him hyper heads together
found that out him hyper heads together find the commonalities found the
find the commonalities found the
find the commonalities found the differences and at the end of the day
differences and at the end of the day
differences and at the end of the day John had 28 rules and I had 36 so here
John had 28 rules and I had 36 so here
John had 28 rules and I had 36 so here we see selection of rule 16 through 24
we see selection of rule 16 through 24
we see selection of rule 16 through 24 there’s a blank spot on mine because
there’s a blank spot on mine because
there’s a blank spot on mine because John actually had a 19 point 5 at the
John actually had a 19 point 5 at the
John actually had a 19 point 5 at the time and since then our rules have
time and since then our rules have
time and since then our rules have changed some the following year I
changed some the following year I
changed some the following year I redeemed the head lead youth for this
redeemed the head lead youth for this
redeemed the head lead youth for this camp at a big job John couldn’t make it
camp at a big job John couldn’t make it
camp at a big job John couldn’t make it back because he had courage he had some
back because he had courage he had some
back because he had courage he had some other things he had take care of not
other things he had take care of not
other things he had take care of not only that I was also the area director
only that I was also the area director
only that I was also the area director for a program area across the street at
for a program area across the street at
for a program area across the street at another Boy Scout camp called buckskin
another Boy Scout camp called buckskin
another Boy Scout camp called buckskin my buckskin it was something new to me
my buckskin it was something new to me
my buckskin it was something new to me it wasn’t there when I had been a camper
it wasn’t there when I had been a camper
it wasn’t there when I had been a camper there years before so in left side of
there years before so in left side of
there years before so in left side of the screen we see a thing called the
the screen we see a thing called the
the screen we see a thing called the black hole basically they took two 60 or
black hole basically they took two 60 or
black hole basically they took two 60 or 70 foot corrugated tubes put them on the
70 foot corrugated tubes put them on the
70 foot corrugated tubes put them on the side of the hill and you slip down them
side of the hill and you slip down them
side of the hill and you slip down them on an old plastic sled known as tomahawk
on an old plastic sled known as tomahawk
on an old plastic sled known as tomahawk throwing now I knew some stuff about
throwing now I knew some stuff about
throwing now I knew some stuff about tomahawk throwing but I knew not much
tomahawk throwing but I knew not much
tomahawk throwing but I knew not much about the black hole so between these
about the black hole so between these
about the black hole so between these two camps I learned that here that life
two camps I learned that here that life
two camps I learned that here that life has no rules to follow than what I
has no rules to follow than what I
has no rules to follow than what I already had figured out nor I guess
already had figured out nor I guess
already had figured out nor I guess you’d say serious rules so about one of
you’d say serious rules so about one of
you’d say serious rules so about one of the rules I came up with that year was
the rules I came up with that year was
the rules I came up with that year was rule 8 figure it out I don’t mean figure
rule 8 figure it out I don’t mean figure
rule 8 figure it out I don’t mean figure out what the rule is that’s what the
out what the rule is that’s what the
out what the rule is that’s what the actual rule is it’s not like who’s on
actual rule is it’s not like who’s on
actual rule is it’s not like who’s on first only a few of you got that that’s
first only a few of you got that that’s
first only a few of you got that that’s alright so I had to figure out how to
alright so I had to figure out how to
alright so I had to figure out how to run my program area that year I didn’t
run my program area that year I didn’t
run my program area that year I didn’t have much to go on from the previous
have much to go on from the previous
have much to go on from the previous area director but I had some information
area director but I had some information
area director but I had some information from my supervisors which worked for me
from my supervisors which worked for me
from my supervisors which worked for me but like I said I had to figure things
but like I said I had to figure things
but like I said I had to figure things out if something went wrong whether it
out if something went wrong whether it
out if something went wrong whether it was just an easy time change what do I
was just an easy time change what do I
was just an easy time change what do I do for the next 15 minutes or how do I
do for the next 15 minutes or how do I
do for the next 15 minutes or how do I take this 15 minutes that I now lost and
take this 15 minutes that I now lost and
take this 15 minutes that I now lost and add that back in or something more
add that back in or something more
add that back in or something more serious like maybe someone getting hurt
serious like maybe someone getting hurt
serious like maybe someone getting hurt currently 55 rules exist those in my own
currently 55 rules exist those in my own
currently 55 rules exist those in my own list of rules some of them are more
list of rules some of them are more
list of rules some of them are more lighthearted and I’m more serious side
lighthearted and I’m more serious side
lighthearted and I’m more serious side of the spectrum of lightheartedness
of the spectrum of lightheartedness
of the spectrum of lightheartedness bottom is rule 29 always have your phone
bottom is rule 29 always have your phone
bottom is rule 29 always have your phone wallet with you I’ll explain that one in
wallet with you I’ll explain that one in
wallet with you I’ll explain that one in a little bit but some other rules have
a little bit but some other rules have
a little bit but some other rules have been learned through blood sweat and
been learned through blood sweat and
been learned through blood sweat and tears like rule 25 always wear closed
tears like rule 25 always wear closed
tears like rule 25 always wear closed toed shoes which you can all see I’m
toed shoes which you can all see I’m
toed shoes which you can all see I’m successfully doing today some of that
successfully doing today some of that
successfully doing today some of that let’s go back to that note to self
let’s go back to that note to self
let’s go back to that note to self because that’s where these rules come
because that’s where these rules come
because that’s where these rules come from
from
from so it’s note to self idea it works
so it’s note to self idea it works
so it’s note to self idea it works pretty well but people forget them all
pretty well but people forget them all
pretty well but people forget them all the time if I were to ask all of you
the time if I were to ask all of you
the time if I were to ask all of you right now think back the last six years
right now think back the last six years
right now think back the last six years about how long I’ve been doing the rules
about how long I’ve been doing the rules
about how long I’ve been doing the rules think back and think of five of these
think back and think of five of these
think back and think of five of these note to self who’ve said you told
note to self who’ve said you told
note to self who’ve said you told yourself I wonder how many of you could
yourself I wonder how many of you could
yourself I wonder how many of you could think of five of them but if you expand
think of five of them but if you expand
think of five of them but if you expand these out to a rule you’ll be likely to
these out to a rule you’ll be likely to
these out to a rule you’ll be likely to remember a lot more like fifty five of
remember a lot more like fifty five of
remember a lot more like fifty five of them
them
them so with that these notes of cells
so with that these notes of cells
so with that these notes of cells they’re rather complex they’re just an
they’re rather complex they’re just an
they’re rather complex they’re just an internal thing that’s really all they
internal thing that’s really all they
internal thing that’s really all they are so how do we change that from that
are so how do we change that from that
are so how do we change that from that kind of ugly looking thing if you were
kind of ugly looking thing if you were
kind of ugly looking thing if you were able to actually see it to a cohesive
able to actually see it to a cohesive
able to actually see it to a cohesive complex external rule surprisingly it’s
complex external rule surprisingly it’s
complex external rule surprisingly it’s pretty easy sit down spend time and
pretty easy sit down spend time and
pretty easy sit down spend time and think about what happened typically you
think about what happened typically you
think about what happened typically you learn this note to self after you tell
learn this note to self after you tell
learn this note to self after you tell yourself that was really dumb after that
yourself that was really dumb after that
yourself that was really dumb after that was really cool I should remember that
was really cool I should remember that
was really cool I should remember that so that’s how you create the rules and
so that’s how you create the rules and
so that’s how you create the rules and I’m not saying for one note to self you
I’m not saying for one note to self you
I’m not saying for one note to self you have to create one rule when you break
have to create one rule when you break
have to create one rule when you break it down into manageable pieces you might
it down into manageable pieces you might
it down into manageable pieces you might find three rules maybe five maybe ten so
find three rules maybe five maybe ten so
find three rules maybe five maybe ten so the front of all example rule 29 how I
the front of all example rule 29 how I
the front of all example rule 29 how I got to that one day was outside with
got to that one day was outside with
got to that one day was outside with some friends in high school I didn’t
some friends in high school I didn’t
some friends in high school I didn’t have my wallet with me and as well
have my wallet with me and as well
have my wallet with me and as well hanging out I thought to myself what
hanging out I thought to myself what
hanging out I thought to myself what happens if I got hurt if the paramedics
happens if I got hurt if the paramedics
happens if I got hurt if the paramedics had to come how would they know what my
had to come how would they know what my
had to come how would they know what my name is how they know who to contact how
name is how they know who to contact how
name is how they know who to contact how they know to some all’s had a little
they know to some all’s had a little
they know to some all’s had a little allergy cards how they know if they can
allergy cards how they know if they can
allergy cards how they know if they can can or cannot give me certain
can or cannot give me certain
can or cannot give me certain medications they wouldn’t so i expanded
medications they wouldn’t so i expanded
medications they wouldn’t so i expanded that further what happens if I don’t
that further what happens if I don’t
that further what happens if I don’t have my phone and I was in a car
have my phone and I was in a car
have my phone and I was in a car accident
accident
accident how do I know the passerby isn’t exactly
how do I know the passerby isn’t exactly
how do I know the passerby isn’t exactly that just a passerby
that just a passerby
that just a passerby so I created rule 29 now once I created
so I created rule 29 now once I created
so I created rule 29 now once I created it I had to write it down psychological
it I had to write it down psychological
it I had to write it down psychological studies show that you write something
studies show that you write something
studies show that you write something down you’re more likely to remember it
down you’re more likely to remember it
down you’re more likely to remember it so I had to write it down but by writing
so I had to write it down but by writing
so I had to write it down but by writing it down I don’t mean that you have to
it down I don’t mean that you have to
it down I don’t mean that you have to remember it perfectly you don’t have to
remember it perfectly you don’t have to
remember it perfectly you don’t have to remember where every period in comma is
remember where every period in comma is
remember where every period in comma is anything with that you don’t have to
anything with that you don’t have to
anything with that you don’t have to remember the specific number if someone
remember the specific number if someone
remember the specific number if someone were to yell out right now and ask me
were to yell out right now and ask me
were to yell out right now and ask me what is rule 38 that is phenomenal
what is rule 38 that is phenomenal
what is rule 38 that is phenomenal question I cannot answer it but if
question I cannot answer it but if
question I cannot answer it but if someone were to say hey Ben figure it
someone were to say hey Ben figure it
someone were to say hey Ben figure it out well that’s a rule or always wear
out well that’s a rule or always wear
out well that’s a rule or always wear closed toed shoes that’s a rule the
closed toed shoes that’s a rule the
closed toed shoes that’s a rule the importance of it is that if you’re in a
importance of it is that if you’re in a
importance of it is that if you’re in a situation you just have to remember the
situation you just have to remember the
situation you just have to remember the content of the rule so we do the rules
content of the rule so we do the rules
content of the rule so we do the rules apply well it depends when you create
apply well it depends when you create
apply well it depends when you create your own list of rules maybe you’ll say
your own list of rules maybe you’ll say
your own list of rules maybe you’ll say – I in situations XY and Z where a B and
– I in situations XY and Z where a B and
– I in situations XY and Z where a B and C my own list of rules they always apply
C my own list of rules they always apply
C my own list of rules they always apply because of a stipulation I put in there
because of a stipulation I put in there
because of a stipulation I put in there and that is rule 19 sometimes you have
and that is rule 19 sometimes you have
and that is rule 19 sometimes you have to break a rule which I know it sounds
to break a rule which I know it sounds
to break a rule which I know it sounds very counterintuitive this whole talk so
very counterintuitive this whole talk so
very counterintuitive this whole talk so far let me explain I was at I was doing
far let me explain I was at I was doing
far let me explain I was at I was doing something one day and I came across a
something one day and I came across a
something one day and I came across a situation where a rule would effectively
situation where a rule would effectively
situation where a rule would effectively work but I thought about it and I told
work but I thought about it and I told
work but I thought about it and I told myself if I were to utilize this rule
myself if I were to utilize this rule
myself if I were to utilize this rule right now nothing would actually change
right now nothing would actually change
right now nothing would actually change if I don’t use it I’ll stick it through
if I don’t use it I’ll stick it through
if I don’t use it I’ll stick it through perfectly fine everything will work out
perfectly fine everything will work out
perfectly fine everything will work out in the end so I didn’t use it there’s no
in the end so I didn’t use it there’s no
in the end so I didn’t use it there’s no need for it so that’s what my rules
need for it so that’s what my rules
need for it so that’s what my rules always apply but when you create your
always apply but when you create your
always apply but when you create your own you define when they apply the last
own you define when they apply the last
own you define when they apply the last thing I want to explain is why they work
thing I want to explain is why they work
thing I want to explain is why they work in order to do that we have to go back
in order to do that we have to go back
in order to do that we have to go back to a philosopher named John Locke
to a philosopher named John Locke
to a philosopher named John Locke now Locke had the view on knowledge of
now Locke had the view on knowledge of
now Locke had the view on knowledge of an empiricist and an empiricist says
an empiricist and an empiricist says
an empiricist and an empiricist says that we gain our knowledge our thoughts
that we gain our knowledge our thoughts
that we gain our knowledge our thoughts and our learning capabilities from our
and our learning capabilities from our
and our learning capabilities from our senses and from our experiences so he
senses and from our experiences so he
senses and from our experiences so he described it as tabula rasa also known
described it as tabula rasa also known
described it as tabula rasa also known as the blank slate theory now the blank
as the blank slate theory now the blank
as the blank slate theory now the blank slate works that when you are born you
slate works that when you are born you
slate works that when you are born you have no pride
have no pride
have no pride our built-in knowledge on the world or
our built-in knowledge on the world or
our built-in knowledge on the world or on life in general so you take all of
on life in general so you take all of
on life in general so you take all of your experiences everything that you do
your experiences everything that you do
your experiences everything that you do and everything you can see feel touch
and everything you can see feel touch
and everything you can see feel touch here and you put that onto a blank slate
here and you put that onto a blank slate
here and you put that onto a blank slate almost like a blank piece of paper and
almost like a blank piece of paper and
almost like a blank piece of paper and all this piles up and it creates who you
all this piles up and it creates who you
all this piles up and it creates who you are it gives you your knowledge it gives
are it gives you your knowledge it gives
are it gives you your knowledge it gives you the capability to learn but the
you the capability to learn but the
you the capability to learn but the rules take this one step further you
rules take this one step further you
rules take this one step further you take that big pile of information and
take that big pile of information and
take that big pile of information and you break it down into those manageable
you break it down into those manageable
you break it down into those manageable pieces you by organizing it out you’re
pieces you by organizing it out you’re
pieces you by organizing it out you’re able to find your way through your
able to find your way through your
able to find your way through your thoughts and through your knowledge
thoughts and through your knowledge
thoughts and through your knowledge easier more quickly so you expand your
easier more quickly so you expand your
easier more quickly so you expand your knowledge and by literally writing it
knowledge and by literally writing it
knowledge and by literally writing it down again you gain the memory retention
down again you gain the memory retention
down again you gain the memory retention and this blank slate goes throughout
and this blank slate goes throughout
and this blank slate goes throughout your entire life from birth until death
your entire life from birth until death
your entire life from birth until death so we will always be using the blank
so we will always be using the blank
so we will always be using the blank slate now if you use the rules they’ll
slate now if you use the rules they’ll
slate now if you use the rules they’ll always be able to have a more expanded
always be able to have a more expanded
always be able to have a more expanded knowledge and the last thing I mentioned
knowledge and the last thing I mentioned
knowledge and the last thing I mentioned is rule 40 when the job is done walk
is rule 40 when the job is done walk
is rule 40 when the job is done walk away thank you
away thank you
away thank you [Applause]
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