[Music] so I’m gonna do a magic show Oh
so I’m gonna do a magic show Oh
so I’m gonna do a magic show Oh inspirational okay fine I like to start
inspirational okay fine I like to start
inspirational okay fine I like to start by asking people how many people here
by asking people how many people here
by asking people how many people here are in some sort of a relationship I
are in some sort of a relationship I
are in some sort of a relationship I would hope all the hands go up right we
would hope all the hands go up right we
would hope all the hands go up right we don’t realize how important
don’t realize how important
don’t realize how important relationships are and more importantly
relationships are and more importantly
relationships are and more importantly how they impact us as leaders one of the
how they impact us as leaders one of the
how they impact us as leaders one of the things I realized very early on so I’m
things I realized very early on so I’m
things I realized very early on so I’m originally from India came here in
originally from India came here in
originally from India came here in second grade started school where I
second grade started school where I
second grade started school where I learned a stray Apple and there was a
learned a stray Apple and there was a
learned a stray Apple and there was a teacher who was kind enough we came here
teacher who was kind enough we came here
teacher who was kind enough we came here at Memorial Day weekend who stayed in
at Memorial Day weekend who stayed in
at Memorial Day weekend who stayed in the summer to teach us English I’ll
the summer to teach us English I’ll
the summer to teach us English I’ll never forget her name mrs. Schwartz nor
never forget her name mrs. Schwartz nor
never forget her name mrs. Schwartz nor will I forget her feelings that she had
will I forget her feelings that she had
will I forget her feelings that she had towards teaching us at the same time I
towards teaching us at the same time I
towards teaching us at the same time I learned quite a bit about relationships
learned quite a bit about relationships
learned quite a bit about relationships being new to America one of the things
being new to America one of the things
being new to America one of the things was what not to do
was what not to do
was what not to do so as I was going to school I thought
so as I was going to school I thought
so as I was going to school I thought going as they say against the grain was
going as they say against the grain was
going as they say against the grain was okay well needless to say probably for
okay well needless to say probably for
okay well needless to say probably for about the first two three years of my
about the first two three years of my
about the first two three years of my education my parents would have to come
education my parents would have to come
education my parents would have to come and pick me up in the principal’s office
and pick me up in the principal’s office
and pick me up in the principal’s office I was blaming it on English as a second
I was blaming it on English as a second
I was blaming it on English as a second language but my parents knew better it
language but my parents knew better it
language but my parents knew better it was probably the fact that I quite
was probably the fact that I quite
was probably the fact that I quite hadn’t learned as a young child how
hadn’t learned as a young child how
hadn’t learned as a young child how important relationships are so getting
important relationships are so getting
important relationships are so getting into fights with students isn’t really
into fights with students isn’t really
into fights with students isn’t really the right way to have relationships now
the right way to have relationships now
the right way to have relationships now that seems obvious to us as we grow
that seems obvious to us as we grow
that seems obvious to us as we grow older but at the time it didn’t seem
older but at the time it didn’t seem
older but at the time it didn’t seem like I was doing that so I passed
like I was doing that so I passed
like I was doing that so I passed forward and I go into high school and I
forward and I go into high school and I
forward and I go into high school and I realize like okay that’s not working for
realize like okay that’s not working for
realize like okay that’s not working for me so what do I do now well parents had
me so what do I do now well parents had
me so what do I do now well parents had always taught me that it’s important to
always taught me that it’s important to
always taught me that it’s important to help people what a simple message help
help people what a simple message help
help people what a simple message help people I’ve heard different messages
people I’ve heard different messages
people I’ve heard different messages tonight about helping people
tonight about helping people
tonight about helping people so I said you know what let me help
so I said you know what let me help
so I said you know what let me help people in high school and I did I did
people in high school and I did I did
people in high school and I did I did the best that I could with whatever I
the best that I could with whatever I
the best that I could with whatever I could but how important relationships
could but how important relationships
could but how important relationships are came to me it hit home thirty years
are came to me it hit home thirty years
are came to me it hit home thirty years later I was recently at my high school
later I was recently at my high school
later I was recently at my high school reunion and a person comes up to me and
reunion and a person comes up to me and
reunion and a person comes up to me and he says me ty I said yes because of
he says me ty I said yes because of
he says me ty I said yes because of course we all looked the same from 30
course we all looked the same from 30
course we all looked the same from 30 years ago right so he says is Bruce like
years ago right so he says is Bruce like
years ago right so he says is Bruce like Bruce ooh gives me his last name I go oh
Bruce ooh gives me his last name I go oh
Bruce ooh gives me his last name I go oh my god it’s been 30 years he goes I just
my god it’s been 30 years he goes I just
my god it’s been 30 years he goes I just wanted to say thank you I said for what
wanted to say thank you I said for what
wanted to say thank you I said for what he said you helped me through math class
he said you helped me through math class
he said you helped me through math class in 12th grade and I didn’t realize back
in 12th grade and I didn’t realize back
in 12th grade and I didn’t realize back then how much people remember how much
then how much people remember how much
then how much people remember how much you helped them until 30 years later
you helped them until 30 years later
you helped them until 30 years later although I had kept following that path
although I had kept following that path
although I had kept following that path and we’ll get to that in a second
and we’ll get to that in a second
and we’ll get to that in a second imagine what our kids that are here or
imagine what our kids that are here or
imagine what our kids that are here or our kids that we have that are younger
our kids that we have that are younger
our kids that we have that are younger can do to make an impact on people’s
can do to make an impact on people’s
can do to make an impact on people’s lives that they may never find out about
lives that they may never find out about
lives that they may never find out about that it’ll take years for the other
that it’ll take years for the other
that it’ll take years for the other people to kind of realize that you know
people to kind of realize that you know
people to kind of realize that you know what I had somebody in my life whether
what I had somebody in my life whether
what I had somebody in my life whether it was a teacher or a student who had an
it was a teacher or a student who had an
it was a teacher or a student who had an impact on their lives from many many
impact on their lives from many many
impact on their lives from many many years from before well I took that from
years from before well I took that from
years from before well I took that from high school on to college and I realized
high school on to college and I realized
high school on to college and I realized that as long as relationships are
that as long as relationships are
that as long as relationships are working let me try to continue building
working let me try to continue building
working let me try to continue building relationships and the relationships that
relationships and the relationships that
relationships and the relationships that I built were all professional of course
I built were all professional of course
I built were all professional of course we’re all selfish and I realize if I
we’re all selfish and I realize if I
we’re all selfish and I realize if I build professional relationships of
build professional relationships of
build professional relationships of course they’re gonna help me to help me
course they’re gonna help me to help me
course they’re gonna help me to help me in my business to help me as a leader
in my business to help me as a leader
in my business to help me as a leader within my own organization and it did
within my own organization and it did
within my own organization and it did but what I realized is after about say 5
but what I realized is after about say 5
but what I realized is after about say 5 10 15 years is those relationships they
10 15 years is those relationships they
10 15 years is those relationships they didn’t really feel satisfying and why is
didn’t really feel satisfying and why is
didn’t really feel satisfying and why is that because those sad those
that because those sad those
that because those sad those relationships are built on something
relationships are built on something
relationships are built on something that only we want it isn’t until that
that only we want it isn’t until that
that only we want it isn’t until that one thank you that I received at a
one thank you that I received at a
one thank you that I received at a 30-year reunion felt a lot more
30-year reunion felt a lot more
30-year reunion felt a lot more satisfying than the professional
satisfying than the professional
satisfying than the professional chips I had been built for so many years
chips I had been built for so many years
chips I had been built for so many years so I realized that back in about 2008
so I realized that back in about 2008
so I realized that back in about 2008 and a start to have an impact on our
and a start to have an impact on our
and a start to have an impact on our relationships what can we do as a
relationships what can we do as a
relationships what can we do as a community to make difference in our
community to make difference in our
community to make difference in our relationships with everybody every day
relationships with everybody every day
relationships with everybody every day so that they feel like they’re important
so that they feel like they’re important
so that they feel like they’re important and this is where I think communities
and this is where I think communities
and this is where I think communities can come together whether it’s
can come together whether it’s
can come together whether it’s day-to-day with our kids whether it’s
day-to-day with our kids whether it’s
day-to-day with our kids whether it’s day-to-day with the people that we work
day-to-day with the people that we work
day-to-day with the people that we work with
with
with whether it’s day-to-day at the people
whether it’s day-to-day at the people
whether it’s day-to-day at the people that we meet in the supermarket this is
that we meet in the supermarket this is
that we meet in the supermarket this is where our leadership comes in and we
where our leadership comes in and we
where our leadership comes in and we feel that leadership is only meant for
feel that leadership is only meant for
feel that leadership is only meant for people that are in organizations that
people that are in organizations that
people that are in organizations that are leading people but at every moment
are leading people but at every moment
are leading people but at every moment at a minimum you are leading yourself at
at a minimum you are leading yourself at
at a minimum you are leading yourself at every moment you’re somewhere and
every moment you’re somewhere and
every moment you’re somewhere and somebody’s watching how you behave and
somebody’s watching how you behave and
somebody’s watching how you behave and what you do and that leadership ability
what you do and that leadership ability
what you do and that leadership ability comes with you no matter where you go so
comes with you no matter where you go so
comes with you no matter where you go so as I explained this to students that I
as I explained this to students that I
as I explained this to students that I go to campuses and speak I tell them
go to campuses and speak I tell them
go to campuses and speak I tell them that you’re just starting your career
that you’re just starting your career
that you’re just starting your career but you have no idea how many lives you
but you have no idea how many lives you
but you have no idea how many lives you can change you’re gonna have your
can change you’re gonna have your
can change you’re gonna have your day-to-day career anyway but how many
day-to-day career anyway but how many
day-to-day career anyway but how many lives are you gonna impact because of
lives are you gonna impact because of
lives are you gonna impact because of the way that you behave because of the
the way that you behave because of the
the way that you behave because of the way that you think because of the way
way that you think because of the way
way that you think because of the way that you help others and we know what’s
that you help others and we know what’s
that you help others and we know what’s going on in our political system and
going on in our political system and
going on in our political system and things going on in the world imagine if
things going on in the world imagine if
things going on in the world imagine if those just do to people and I won’t name
those just do to people and I won’t name
those just do to people and I won’t name them if they had a great relationship
them if they had a great relationship
them if they had a great relationship but obviously they don’t so one wants to
but obviously they don’t so one wants to
but obviously they don’t so one wants to flare off and the other one wants to say
flare off and the other one wants to say
flare off and the other one wants to say that you know America’s number one if
that you know America’s number one if
that you know America’s number one if just two people talked what would it do
just two people talked what would it do
just two people talked what would it do imagine how if two people in our lives
imagine how if two people in our lives
imagine how if two people in our lives that we have a disagreement with us and
that we have a disagreement with us and
that we have a disagreement with us and somebody else if we just talked what a
somebody else if we just talked what a
somebody else if we just talked what a difference it would make
difference it would make
difference it would make and that and the conversations don’t
and that and the conversations don’t
and that and the conversations don’t need to be long they don’t have to be
need to be long they don’t have to be
need to be long they don’t have to be complicated they’re simple sometimes
complicated they’re simple sometimes
complicated they’re simple sometimes it’s as simple hello sometimes it’s a
it’s as simple hello sometimes it’s a
it’s as simple hello sometimes it’s a simple sorry sometimes it’s a thank you
simple sorry sometimes it’s a thank you
simple sorry sometimes it’s a thank you but the important part is that
but the important part is that
but the important part is that communication doesn’t break down so what
communication doesn’t break down so what
communication doesn’t break down so what I’d like to offer up to everybody that’s
I’d like to offer up to everybody that’s
I’d like to offer up to everybody that’s here tonight is who’s one person that
here tonight is who’s one person that
here tonight is who’s one person that you can talk to to call to make a
you can talk to to call to make a
you can talk to to call to make a difference in our community
difference in our community
difference in our community where
where
where we’re students whether we’re parents
we’re students whether we’re parents
we’re students whether we’re parents whether we’re teachers
whether we’re teachers
whether we’re teachers whether we are in other professions we
whether we are in other professions we
whether we are in other professions we are doing those things on a day to day
are doing those things on a day to day
are doing those things on a day to day basis because that’s our job but first
basis because that’s our job but first
basis because that’s our job but first and foremost we are leaders and by
and foremost we are leaders and by
and foremost we are leaders and by leaders relationships are what wide
leaders relationships are what wide
leaders relationships are what wide people follow us so there’s one person
people follow us so there’s one person
people follow us so there’s one person you can call I encourage you go out
you can call I encourage you go out
you can call I encourage you go out there and make that call when you leave
there and make that call when you leave
there and make that call when you leave here tonight thank you
here tonight thank you
here tonight thank you [Applause]
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