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good evening leadership is love
good evening leadership is love leadership is love this is the medicine
leadership is love this is the medicine
leadership is love this is the medicine for human connection the words spoken by
for human connection the words spoken by
for human connection the words spoken by my predecessor great teacher Bill Shawn
my predecessor great teacher Bill Shawn
my predecessor great teacher Bill Shawn and I’m before he passed away some seven
and I’m before he passed away some seven
and I’m before he passed away some seven years ago every class at UC Berkeley in
years ago every class at UC Berkeley in
years ago every class at UC Berkeley in leadership he ended with the words so
leadership he ended with the words so
leadership he ended with the words so the students could hear and walk away
the students could hear and walk away
the students could hear and walk away with that leadership is love every one
with that leadership is love every one
with that leadership is love every one of us has a leader every single one of
of us has a leader every single one of
of us has a leader every single one of you is a leader leadership is a choice
you is a leader leadership is a choice
you is a leader leadership is a choice doesn’t it’s not about having direct
doesn’t it’s not about having direct
doesn’t it’s not about having direct reports not about being in a high place
reports not about being in a high place
reports not about being in a high place company active leadership are happening
company active leadership are happening
company active leadership are happening all the time
all the time
all the time for questions that the Navajo tradition
for questions that the Navajo tradition
for questions that the Navajo tradition asks when someone’s not feeling well the
asks when someone’s not feeling well the
asks when someone’s not feeling well the first one is when in your life did you
first one is when in your life did you
first one is when in your life did you stop singing when in your life did you
stop singing when in your life did you
stop singing when in your life did you stop dancing when in your life did you
stop dancing when in your life did you
stop dancing when in your life did you stop telling stories and when in your
stop telling stories and when in your
stop telling stories and when in your life did you stop feeling comfortable in
life did you stop feeling comfortable in
life did you stop feeling comfortable in the sweet territory of silence they
the sweet territory of silence they
the sweet territory of silence they didn’t give pills and shots and things
didn’t give pills and shots and things
didn’t give pills and shots and things they wanted to understand how a person
they wanted to understand how a person
they wanted to understand how a person maybe fell out of sync was no longer in
maybe fell out of sync was no longer in
maybe fell out of sync was no longer in sync with themself or in sync with the
sync with themself or in sync with the
sync with themself or in sync with the world what did it mean to stop what does
world what did it mean to stop what does
world what did it mean to stop what does it mean to stop singing when did you
it mean to stop singing when did you
it mean to stop singing when did you stop really living really enjoying
stop really living really enjoying
stop really living really enjoying yourself taking rest doing new things
yourself taking rest doing new things
yourself taking rest doing new things when in your life did you stop telling
when in your life did you stop telling
when in your life did you stop telling stories when did you stop relating to
stories when did you stop relating to
stories when did you stop relating to people connecting to people a little too
people connecting to people a little too
people connecting to people a little too busy to connect to people and when did
busy to connect to people and when did
busy to connect to people and when did people stop connecting to you UC
people stop connecting to you UC
people stop connecting to you UC Berkeley I have a wonderful job I’m the
Berkeley I have a wonderful job I’m the
Berkeley I have a wonderful job I’m the heart guy at the Business School
heart guy at the Business School
heart guy at the Business School I get to teach the five powers of
I get to teach the five powers of
I get to teach the five powers of leadership of personal connection the
leadership of personal connection the
leadership of personal connection the five powers of the power of presence the
five powers of the power of presence the
five powers of the power of presence the power of communication power of
power of communication power of
power of communication power of conviction the power of intention and
conviction the power of intention and
conviction the power of intention and the power of knowledge these five powers
the power of knowledge these five powers
the power of knowledge these five powers show up all the time and these five
show up all the time and these five
show up all the time and these five powers lead us to creating new
powers lead us to creating new
powers lead us to creating new relationships and new possibilities with
relationships and new possibilities with
relationships and new possibilities with people surrounding us a long time ago
people surrounding us a long time ago
people surrounding us a long time ago when I was 25 it was November 19th 1977
when I was 25 it was November 19th 1977
when I was 25 it was November 19th 1977 I’m standing on the airfield at Ben
I’m standing on the airfield at Ben
I’m standing on the airfield at Ben Gurion Airport outside of Tel Aviv it’s
Gurion Airport outside of Tel Aviv it’s
Gurion Airport outside of Tel Aviv it’s a very very special day there’s an Air
a very very special day there’s an Air
a very very special day there’s an Air Egypt jet circling around it’s there
Egypt jet circling around it’s there
Egypt jet circling around it’s there illegally because a great thing is about
illegally because a great thing is about
illegally because a great thing is about to happen it lands and the tall elegant
to happen it lands and the tall elegant
to happen it lands and the tall elegant man comes down the stairway it’s Anwar
man comes down the stairway it’s Anwar
man comes down the stairway it’s Anwar Sadat he comes down the stairway into a
Sadat he comes down the stairway into a
Sadat he comes down the stairway into a sea of dignitaries Prime Minister
sea of dignitaries Prime Minister
sea of dignitaries Prime Minister Menachem Begin is there General Moshe
Menachem Begin is there General Moshe
Menachem Begin is there General Moshe Dayan Yitzhak Rabin
Dayan Yitzhak Rabin
Dayan Yitzhak Rabin he doesn’t stay very long there he moves
he doesn’t stay very long there he moves
he doesn’t stay very long there he moves over to a middle-aged grandmotherly
over to a middle-aged grandmotherly
over to a middle-aged grandmotherly woman on the right-hand side of the
woman on the right-hand side of the
woman on the right-hand side of the airfield
airfield
airfield it’s former prime minister Golda Meir
it’s former prime minister Golda Meir
it’s former prime minister Golda Meir his former arch enemy he boughs to her
his former arch enemy he boughs to her
his former arch enemy he boughs to her extends his hand and says madam it is
extends his hand and says madam it is
extends his hand and says madam it is such a pleasure to see you she takes his
such a pleasure to see you she takes his
such a pleasure to see you she takes his hand moves it to the right we’re all
hand moves it to the right we’re all
hand moves it to the right we’re all wondering what’s going to happen and two
wondering what’s going to happen and two
wondering what’s going to happen and two steps forward and she throws her arms
steps forward and she throws her arms
steps forward and she throws her arms around him and says mr. president I
around him and says mr. president I
around him and says mr. president I welcome you to my land I’ve been waiting
welcome you to my land I’ve been waiting
welcome you to my land I’ve been waiting my entire life for this moment in that
my entire life for this moment in that
my entire life for this moment in that moment you saw the five powers her
moment you saw the five powers her
moment you saw the five powers her presence her presence was completely
presence her presence was completely
presence her presence was completely integrated with awareness
integrated with awareness
integrated with awareness self-confidence and a lot of
self-confidence and a lot of
self-confidence and a lot of vulnerability the communication the
vulnerability the communication the
vulnerability the communication the conviction the meeting of two old
conviction the meeting of two old
conviction the meeting of two old enemies suddenly became a new
enemies suddenly became a new
enemies suddenly became a new possibility and
possibility and
possibility and it wasn’t perfect then and it’s not
it wasn’t perfect then and it’s not
it wasn’t perfect then and it’s not perfect now but somehow relations were
perfect now but somehow relations were
perfect now but somehow relations were established embassies happened some
established embassies happened some
established embassies happened some months after and that moment of showing
months after and that moment of showing
months after and that moment of showing up and choosing to be present choosing
up and choosing to be present choosing
up and choosing to be present choosing to be present
to be present
to be present that’s the choice all of us can make you
that’s the choice all of us can make you
that’s the choice all of us can make you never know who’s going to cross your
never know who’s going to cross your
never know who’s going to cross your path you never know who’s going to enter
path you never know who’s going to enter
path you never know who’s going to enter your world it could be the grocery clerk
your world it could be the grocery clerk
your world it could be the grocery clerk a post-office person it could be a
a post-office person it could be a
a post-office person it could be a teacher it could be anyone are you open
teacher it could be anyone are you open
teacher it could be anyone are you open to human connection you never know what
to human connection you never know what
to human connection you never know what that’s going to lead you do a lot of
that’s going to lead you do a lot of
that’s going to lead you do a lot of working corporations I was working with
working corporations I was working with
working corporations I was working with a leader of a national security lab for
a leader of a national security lab for
a leader of a national security lab for years his very very nice man Gary and I
years his very very nice man Gary and I
years his very very nice man Gary and I liked him a lot that he had a really bad
liked him a lot that he had a really bad
liked him a lot that he had a really bad reputation in the laboratory because he
reputation in the laboratory because he
reputation in the laboratory because he was very frugal and he wouldn’t sign
was very frugal and he wouldn’t sign
was very frugal and he wouldn’t sign purchase orders and ultimately he
purchase orders and ultimately he
purchase orders and ultimately he paralyzed the workforce they could do
paralyzed the workforce they could do
paralyzed the workforce they could do their work so I did a workforce study
their work so I did a workforce study
their work so I did a workforce study and I showed him the results I sent Gary
and I showed him the results I sent Gary
and I showed him the results I sent Gary at this moment my friend 78% of 7,000
at this moment my friend 78% of 7,000
at this moment my friend 78% of 7,000 people would give you a no-confidence
people would give you a no-confidence
people would give you a no-confidence vote how does that feel and he went into
vote how does that feel and he went into
vote how does that feel and he went into denial mark you can’t count very well
denial mark you can’t count very well
denial mark you can’t count very well I’m sure you didn’t count the things and
I’m sure you didn’t count the things and
I’m sure you didn’t count the things and so forth I said you can take it and look
so forth I said you can take it and look
so forth I said you can take it and look at the data what are you gonna do about
at the data what are you gonna do about
at the data what are you gonna do about it
it
it and finally after some hours he said
and finally after some hours he said
and finally after some hours he said okay I need to change the movie how
okay I need to change the movie how
okay I need to change the movie how should I do it I said I’m your coach I’m
should I do it I said I’m your coach I’m
should I do it I said I’m your coach I’m not gonna tell you how to do it how do
not gonna tell you how to do it how do
not gonna tell you how to do it how do you want to do it he said well the
you want to do it he said well the
you want to do it he said well the problem is they don’t know me said okay
problem is they don’t know me said okay
problem is they don’t know me said okay let them know you he decided he wanted
let them know you he decided he wanted
let them know you he decided he wanted to share his leadership story where he
to share his leadership story where he
to share his leadership story where he came from what his story was I said
came from what his story was I said
came from what his story was I said brilliant idea three weeks from now
brilliant idea three weeks from now
brilliant idea three weeks from now there’s an emerging leaders conference
there’s an emerging leaders conference
there’s an emerging leaders conference they’re gonna be beginning work in a
they’re gonna be beginning work in a
they’re gonna be beginning work in a Leadership Academy and you can be the
Leadership Academy and you can be the
Leadership Academy and you can be the keynote speaker and kick the whole thing
keynote speaker and kick the whole thing
keynote speaker and kick the whole thing off a just about died of nervousness but
off a just about died of nervousness but
off a just about died of nervousness but he did it anyway so at this Grand Hotel
he did it anyway so at this Grand Hotel
he did it anyway so at this Grand Hotel in the Albuquerque area here’s Gary 68
in the Albuquerque area here’s Gary 68
in the Albuquerque area here’s Gary 68 shaking like a leaf coming towards the
shaking like a leaf coming towards the
shaking like a leaf coming towards the audience just like you
audience just like you
audience just like you 550 engineers and scientists right there
550 engineers and scientists right there
550 engineers and scientists right there can you imagine the crowd engineers and
can you imagine the crowd engineers and
can you imagine the crowd engineers and scientists and he looked at me and I
scientists and he looked at me and I
scientists and he looked at me and I gave my nod he looked into their eyes
gave my nod he looked into their eyes
gave my nod he looked into their eyes and he said my father died when I was
and he said my father died when I was
and he said my father died when I was six my father died when I was six my
six my father died when I was six my
six my father died when I was six my mother after her day job had to go out
mother after her day job had to go out
mother after her day job had to go out put on a maid’s uniform and clean the
put on a maid’s uniform and clean the
put on a maid’s uniform and clean the houses of the wealthy people in South
houses of the wealthy people in South
houses of the wealthy people in South Miami Beach
Miami Beach
Miami Beach so my five brothers and myself would
so my five brothers and myself would
so my five brothers and myself would have food to eat on the weekends my
have food to eat on the weekends my
have food to eat on the weekends my mother will be 96 next week she remains
mother will be 96 next week she remains
mother will be 96 next week she remains my most beloved hero I thought I was at
my most beloved hero I thought I was at
my most beloved hero I thought I was at a rock concert the cheering the
a rock concert the cheering the
a rock concert the cheering the high-fives the double five people
high-fives the double five people
high-fives the double five people hugging me and even know who they are
hugging me and even know who they are
hugging me and even know who they are rushing towards the stage hugging this
rushing towards the stage hugging this
rushing towards the stage hugging this man empathy absolutely like water
man empathy absolutely like water
man empathy absolutely like water through the aisles the identification
through the aisles the identification
through the aisles the identification because all of them didn’t grow up with
because all of them didn’t grow up with
because all of them didn’t grow up with the silver spoon in their mouth a lot of
the silver spoon in their mouth a lot of
the silver spoon in their mouth a lot of them grew up in very poor conditions
them grew up in very poor conditions
them grew up in very poor conditions suddenly there was a universal
suddenly there was a universal
suddenly there was a universal communication moment there was a
communication moment there was a
communication moment there was a universal understanding there was a
universal understanding there was a
universal understanding there was a universal human connection we are one
universal human connection we are one
universal human connection we are one and now we understand and forgiveness
and now we understand and forgiveness
and now we understand and forgiveness was all around the next day at the
was all around the next day at the
was all around the next day at the laboratory you would have also thought
laboratory you would have also thought
laboratory you would have also thought it was a holiday transformation was
it was a holiday transformation was
it was a holiday transformation was everywhere positivity in the air I said
everywhere positivity in the air I said
everywhere positivity in the air I said to Gary I’m gonna buy you lunch pal I’m
to Gary I’m gonna buy you lunch pal I’m
to Gary I’m gonna buy you lunch pal I’m so proud of you see you 12:30 I’m
so proud of you see you 12:30 I’m
so proud of you see you 12:30 I’m waiting 12:30 12:40 oh what’s happened
waiting 12:30 12:40 oh what’s happened
waiting 12:30 12:40 oh what’s happened now shows up at 1:00 I said where the
now shows up at 1:00 I said where the
now shows up at 1:00 I said where the hell were you been waiting for you for a
hell were you been waiting for you for a
hell were you been waiting for you for a half an hour he said I’m really sorry
half an hour he said I’m really sorry
half an hour he said I’m really sorry but I was signing purchase orders
but I was signing purchase orders
but I was signing purchase orders Wow that was quick he said you know last
Wow that was quick he said you know last
Wow that was quick he said you know last night was a huge wake-up call
night was a huge wake-up call
night was a huge wake-up call a huge wake-up call I feel like a
a huge wake-up call I feel like a
a huge wake-up call I feel like a hundred pounds came off me thank you so
hundred pounds came off me thank you so
hundred pounds came off me thank you so much for the moment and I said no the
much for the moment and I said no the
much for the moment and I said no the thanks is mine thank you these are the
thanks is mine thank you these are the
thanks is mine thank you these are the possibilities of human connection our
possibilities of human connection our
possibilities of human connection our stories our personal stories we all have
stories our personal stories we all have
stories our personal stories we all have leadership stories you have 80 stories I
leadership stories you have 80 stories I
leadership stories you have 80 stories I have 160 there are stories everywhere
have 160 there are stories everywhere
have 160 there are stories everywhere everywhere and we can often connect
everywhere and we can often connect
everywhere and we can often connect through our stories in May of 1984 I
through our stories in May of 1984 I
through our stories in May of 1984 I went to see a production of Death of a
went to see a production of Death of a
went to see a production of Death of a Salesman Dustin Hoffman in the main role
Salesman Dustin Hoffman in the main role
Salesman Dustin Hoffman in the main role I was a theater director for years I
I was a theater director for years I
I was a theater director for years I directed this play I know every word I
directed this play I know every word I
directed this play I know every word I love it and I always got a place for
love it and I always got a place for
love it and I always got a place for myself because my wife and family don’t
myself because my wife and family don’t
myself because my wife and family don’t like to come because I comment on the
like to come because I comment on the
like to come because I comment on the plays it’s going on they said you know
plays it’s going on they said you know
plays it’s going on they said you know what we’ll meet you for a drink after so
what we’ll meet you for a drink after so
what we’ll meet you for a drink after so I said fine I’ll be the third row center
I said fine I’ll be the third row center
I said fine I’ll be the third row center happy as a clam Wednesday Walter Kerr
happy as a clam Wednesday Walter Kerr
happy as a clam Wednesday Walter Kerr theater I’m right there where you’re
theater I’m right there where you’re
theater I’m right there where you’re sitting and of course it’s an American
sitting and of course it’s an American
sitting and of course it’s an American tragedy it’s Willy Loman poor guy my
tragedy it’s Willy Loman poor guy my
tragedy it’s Willy Loman poor guy my father’s generation tries his best tries
father’s generation tries his best tries
father’s generation tries his best tries his best and doesn’t have any work and
his best and doesn’t have any work and
his best and doesn’t have any work and can’t support his wife and so he resorts
can’t support his wife and so he resorts
can’t support his wife and so he resorts finally to suicide because at least the
finally to suicide because at least the
finally to suicide because at least the life insurance will kick in and she’ll
life insurance will kick in and she’ll
life insurance will kick in and she’ll have some security so imagine the last
have some security so imagine the last
have some security so imagine the last scene with the widow Linda at the
scene with the widow Linda at the
scene with the widow Linda at the cemetery theater just like this looking
cemetery theater just like this looking
cemetery theater just like this looking at this wall and she says to the
at this wall and she says to the
at this wall and she says to the audience why did you do it dear why did
audience why did you do it dear why did
audience why did you do it dear why did you do it we made the last payment on
you do it we made the last payment on
you do it we made the last payment on the house today and there’s nobody home
the house today and there’s nobody home
the house today and there’s nobody home why did you do it
why did you do it
why did you do it we’re free at last we’re free
we’re free at last we’re free
we’re free at last we’re free we’re free suddenly I feel a hand on top
we’re free suddenly I feel a hand on top
we’re free suddenly I feel a hand on top of my hand I think I’m imagining it but
of my hand I think I’m imagining it but
of my hand I think I’m imagining it but I look in this actually a hand covering
I look in this actually a hand covering
I look in this actually a hand covering my and I look
my and I look
my and I look over to my left first who’s touching me
over to my left first who’s touching me
over to my left first who’s touching me in New York City my left the elderly
in New York City my left the elderly
in New York City my left the elderly woman with snow-white hair tears in her
woman with snow-white hair tears in her
woman with snow-white hair tears in her eyes beautiful blue eyes and she just
eyes beautiful blue eyes and she just
eyes beautiful blue eyes and she just mouths the words very quietly do you
mouths the words very quietly do you
mouths the words very quietly do you mind do you mind and then of course the
mind do you mind and then of course the
mind do you mind and then of course the applause and standing ovation Dustin
applause and standing ovation Dustin
applause and standing ovation Dustin Hoffman my god the audience is like out
Hoffman my god the audience is like out
Hoffman my god the audience is like out of their minds my seatmate says I’m so
of their minds my seatmate says I’m so
of their minds my seatmate says I’m so sorry sir
sorry sir
sorry sir excuse me I have to go that’s it in a
excuse me I have to go that’s it in a
excuse me I have to go that’s it in a wait wait I someone talk to you for a
wait wait I someone talk to you for a
wait wait I someone talk to you for a moment she said I have to get my train I
moment she said I have to get my train I
moment she said I have to get my train I said I’ll get your train I promise I’ll
said I’ll get your train I promise I’ll
said I’ll get your train I promise I’ll get you home we go to a little diner
get you home we go to a little diner
get you home we go to a little diner crummy little diner in Times Square
crummy little diner in Times Square
crummy little diner in Times Square sitting there having coffee Betty
sitting there having coffee Betty
sitting there having coffee Betty Johnson 85 lost her husband seven years
Johnson 85 lost her husband seven years
Johnson 85 lost her husband seven years ago tells me your story the kids never
ago tells me your story the kids never
ago tells me your story the kids never call I’m so lonely I’m so lonely she
call I’m so lonely I’m so lonely she
call I’m so lonely I’m so lonely she said but I’m feeling a little guilty I
said but I’m feeling a little guilty I
said but I’m feeling a little guilty I said what is it
said what is it
said what is it she said when Linda spoke those words we
she said when Linda spoke those words we
she said when Linda spoke those words we made the last payment on the house today
made the last payment on the house today
made the last payment on the house today I saw how lonely she was and suddenly I
I saw how lonely she was and suddenly I
I saw how lonely she was and suddenly I didn’t feel so badly because I realized
didn’t feel so badly because I realized
didn’t feel so badly because I realized I’m not the only lonely person I said Oh
I’m not the only lonely person I said Oh
I’m not the only lonely person I said Oh sweetheart you are not the only lovely
sweetheart you are not the only lovely
sweetheart you are not the only lovely person
person
person I’m also lonely my sister’s lovely a lot
I’m also lonely my sister’s lovely a lot
I’m also lonely my sister’s lovely a lot of us are lonely he just took my hand
of us are lonely he just took my hand
of us are lonely he just took my hand she said it’s such an honor to spend an
she said it’s such an honor to spend an
she said it’s such an honor to spend an afternoon with another lonely human we
afternoon with another lonely human we
afternoon with another lonely human we met for several times after that coffee
met for several times after that coffee
met for several times after that coffee theater talking about life the ups and
theater talking about life the ups and
theater talking about life the ups and downs of life came a very very good good
downs of life came a very very good good
downs of life came a very very good good friend of mine passed away a few years
friend of mine passed away a few years
friend of mine passed away a few years ago so finally we see what happens when
ago so finally we see what happens when
ago so finally we see what happens when presence is at the table there was so
presence is at the table there was so
presence is at the table there was so much presence in that little diner the
much presence in that little diner the
much presence in that little diner the vulnerability the carrying there was so
vulnerability the carrying there was so
vulnerability the carrying there was so much love in that diner crummy little
much love in that diner crummy little
much love in that diner crummy little table love all around Marianne
table love all around Marianne
table love all around Marianne Williamson put it very well in her
Williamson put it very well in her
Williamson put it very well in her best-selling book
best-selling book
best-selling book I return to love when she said when
I return to love when she said when
I return to love when she said when we’re liberated from our own fear our
we’re liberated from our own fear our
we’re liberated from our own fear our presence automatically liberates
presence automatically liberates
presence automatically liberates liberate others and when we let our own
liberate others and when we let our own
liberate others and when we let our own light shine when we let our own light
light shine when we let our own light
light shine when we let our own light shine we give others permission to do
shine we give others permission to do
shine we give others permission to do the same love is the only medicine you
the same love is the only medicine you
the same love is the only medicine you need for the journey of human connection
need for the journey of human connection
need for the journey of human connection love is the only medicine you need it’s
love is the only medicine you need it’s
love is the only medicine you need it’s actually what the world needs the most
actually what the world needs the most
actually what the world needs the most right this very moment every one of you
right this very moment every one of you
right this very moment every one of you is a leader every one of you has the
is a leader every one of you has the
is a leader every one of you has the love within you to actually create the
love within you to actually create the
love within you to actually create the new possibilities all of this all the
new possibilities all of this all the
new possibilities all of this all the marianne williamson swards being
marianne williamson swards being
marianne williamson swards being liberated from our own fear our presence
automatically darshan little acts of
automatically darshan little acts of leadership and they happen to also be
leadership and they happen to also be
leadership and they happen to also be little acts of love thank you
little acts of love thank you
little acts of love thank you [Applause]
[Applause]
[Applause] [Music]
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