okay parents parents are the fundamental cornerstone of our society because they
cornerstone of our society because they
cornerstone of our society because they raised the next generation by defining
raised the next generation by defining
raised the next generation by defining the rules in a household and by being
the rules in a household and by being
the rules in a household and by being the core examples for their children
the core examples for their children
the core examples for their children some are researcher on parenting
some are researcher on parenting
some are researcher on parenting practices and I’m a parent too so I know
practices and I’m a parent too so I know
practices and I’m a parent too so I know all about the worries the questions and
all about the worries the questions and
all about the worries the questions and the feelings of guilt that parents may
the feelings of guilt that parents may
the feelings of guilt that parents may have did I handle this tantrum okay
have did I handle this tantrum okay
have did I handle this tantrum okay should I set more rules should I be more
should I set more rules should I be more
should I set more rules should I be more involved or is it better to just let go
involved or is it better to just let go
involved or is it better to just let go a bit we have these questions and
a bit we have these questions and
a bit we have these questions and worries about many domains of child
worries about many domains of child
worries about many domains of child development we have them about school
development we have them about school
development we have them about school achievements about interactions with
achievements about interactions with
achievements about interactions with peers sports manners about how much
peers sports manners about how much
peers sports manners about how much children watch television what video
children watch television what video
children watch television what video games they play about sleep and of
games they play about sleep and of
games they play about sleep and of course about eating so what do we as
course about eating so what do we as
course about eating so what do we as parents do when we worry or we have
parents do when we worry or we have
parents do when we worry or we have questions we ask for advice from our own
questions we ask for advice from our own
questions we ask for advice from our own parents or friends or we look in
parents or friends or we look in
parents or friends or we look in handbooks or at the Internet and luckily
handbooks or at the Internet and luckily
handbooks or at the Internet and luckily there are hundreds of handbooks and
there are hundreds of handbooks and
there are hundreds of handbooks and websites on parenting practices
websites on parenting practices
websites on parenting practices available but today I will tell you that
available but today I will tell you that
available but today I will tell you that some of the advice that is given on the
some of the advice that is given on the
some of the advice that is given on the Indies handbooks may actually be wrong
Indies handbooks may actually be wrong
Indies handbooks may actually be wrong so I’m a psychologist and I study eating
so I’m a psychologist and I study eating
so I’m a psychologist and I study eating behaviors of children so I’m interested
behaviors of children so I’m interested
behaviors of children so I’m interested in how we can help children to develop
in how we can help children to develop
in how we can help children to develop healthy eating habits and I’m interested
healthy eating habits and I’m interested
healthy eating habits and I’m interested in how we can help parents to achieve
in how we can help parents to achieve
in how we can help parents to achieve this so they’re very two very common
this so they’re very two very common
this so they’re very two very common problems with children sitting at the
problems with children sitting at the
problems with children sitting at the kitchen table they eat too much or they
kitchen table they eat too much or they
kitchen table they eat too much or they eat too little and both drive parents
eat too little and both drive parents
eat too little and both drive parents nuts so to start with the first eating
nuts so to start with the first eating
nuts so to start with the first eating too much we all know that obesity is a
too much we all know that obesity is a
too much we all know that obesity is a worldwide problem it’s an epidemic at
worldwide problem it’s an epidemic at
worldwide problem it’s an epidemic at this epidemic often starts already
this epidemic often starts already
this epidemic often starts already in childhood and this makes parents the
in childhood and this makes parents the
in childhood and this makes parents the Gateway to solving or at least reducing
Gateway to solving or at least reducing
Gateway to solving or at least reducing the obesity rates and with my research I
the obesity rates and with my research I
the obesity rates and with my research I want to offer parents two tools to solve
want to offer parents two tools to solve
want to offer parents two tools to solve this problem in the best way possible so
this problem in the best way possible so
this problem in the best way possible so what do we as adults do when we want to
what do we as adults do when we want to
what do we as adults do when we want to lose weight or prevent weight gain
lose weight or prevent weight gain
lose weight or prevent weight gain exactly we cut foods out of our diet
exactly we cut foods out of our diet
exactly we cut foods out of our diet no more sugars no more snacks no more
no more sugars no more snacks no more
no more sugars no more snacks no more fast food no more soft drinks and that
fast food no more soft drinks and that
fast food no more soft drinks and that is what parents will do to their
is what parents will do to their
is what parents will do to their children too but just google it and many
children too but just google it and many
children too but just google it and many many websites will tell you that strict
many websites will tell you that strict
many websites will tell you that strict control and the banning of foods is
control and the banning of foods is
control and the banning of foods is dangerous so buying no cookies anymore
dangerous so buying no cookies anymore
dangerous so buying no cookies anymore and putting chocolate on the top shelf
and putting chocolate on the top shelf
and putting chocolate on the top shelf will backfire parents are warned because
will backfire parents are warned because
will backfire parents are warned because the banning of this food will lead to a
the banning of this food will lead to a
the banning of this food will lead to a desire which will result in overeating
desire which will result in overeating
desire which will result in overeating when these foods are freely available
when these foods are freely available
when these foods are freely available and that eventually leads to weight gain
and that eventually leads to weight gain
and that eventually leads to weight gain and over weight so wait a minute parents
and over weight so wait a minute parents
and over weight so wait a minute parents are warned that the banning of foods
are warned that the banning of foods
are warned that the banning of foods will result in obesity which is actually
will result in obesity which is actually
will result in obesity which is actually the one thing that they’re trying to
the one thing that they’re trying to
the one thing that they’re trying to prevent this doesn’t make sense it
prevent this doesn’t make sense it
prevent this doesn’t make sense it contradicts logic it contradicts
contradicts logic it contradicts
contradicts logic it contradicts intuition and unintentionally it leads
intuition and unintentionally it leads
intuition and unintentionally it leads to feelings of guilt among parents so
to feelings of guilt among parents so
to feelings of guilt among parents so these guidelines are based on some
these guidelines are based on some
these guidelines are based on some experimental studies and these are
experimental studies and these are
experimental studies and these are really great studies very well-designed
really great studies very well-designed
really great studies very well-designed experiments but that is also the problem
experiments but that is also the problem
experiments but that is also the problem with these studies because findings have
with these studies because findings have
with these studies because findings have not been replicated outside the lab in
not been replicated outside the lab in
not been replicated outside the lab in real life and work from my own research
real life and work from my own research
real life and work from my own research group has actually led to different
group has actually led to different
group has actually led to different conclusions so using a different design
conclusions so using a different design
conclusions so using a different design and observational design in which we
and observational design in which we
and observational design in which we follow families over time we found that
follow families over time we found that
follow families over time we found that parents aren’t actually causing the
parents aren’t actually causing the
parents aren’t actually causing the overeating know they’re doing their best
overeating know they’re doing their best
overeating know they’re doing their best to prevent it to control it because they
to prevent it to control it because they
to prevent it to control it because they worry about
worry about
worry about their child’s weight so parents relax
their child’s weight so parents relax
their child’s weight so parents relax and don’t worry
and don’t worry
and don’t worry it does not seem so much harm in putting
it does not seem so much harm in putting
it does not seem so much harm in putting the chocolate on the top top shelf okay
the chocolate on the top top shelf okay
the chocolate on the top top shelf okay now let’s move on to that other problem
now let’s move on to that other problem
now let’s move on to that other problem at the kitchen table children who are
at the kitchen table children who are
at the kitchen table children who are difficult picky eaters you know does
difficult picky eaters you know does
difficult picky eaters you know does children who don’t want to eat their
children who don’t want to eat their
children who don’t want to eat their broccoli or beans or fish or who all of
broccoli or beans or fish or who all of
broccoli or beans or fish or who all of a sudden claim I hate milk yes you
a sudden claim I hate milk yes you
a sudden claim I hate milk yes you probably know or one or two of those
probably know or one or two of those
probably know or one or two of those children or you were one like this
children or you were one like this
children or you were one like this yourself and that’s not so strange that
yourself and that’s not so strange that
yourself and that’s not so strange that you notice behavior because it’s really
you notice behavior because it’s really
you notice behavior because it’s really common about 50% goes through a phase of
common about 50% goes through a phase of
common about 50% goes through a phase of picky eating at some point and in most
picky eating at some point and in most
picky eating at some point and in most children the vegetable hatred disappears
children the vegetable hatred disappears
children the vegetable hatred disappears over time although in some it may last a
over time although in some it may last a
over time although in some it may last a bit longer in most children this
bit longer in most children this
bit longer in most children this difficult behavior is not really a
difficult behavior is not really a
difficult behavior is not really a health problem per se but it does drive
health problem per se but it does drive
health problem per se but it does drive parents nuts because parents don’t want
parents nuts because parents don’t want
parents nuts because parents don’t want their child to be hungry or
their child to be hungry or
their child to be hungry or undernourished so they try to persuade
undernourished so they try to persuade
undernourished so they try to persuade their child to eat a little bit more
their child to eat a little bit more
their child to eat a little bit more come on one more bite please or okay so
come on one more bite please or okay so
come on one more bite please or okay so this is your plate well then at least
this is your plate well then at least
this is your plate well then at least finish this part of it again this is
finish this part of it again this is
finish this part of it again this is very logical parenting behavior but the
very logical parenting behavior but the
very logical parenting behavior but the handbooks advise against it pressuring a
handbooks advise against it pressuring a
handbooks advise against it pressuring a child to much will have negative
child to much will have negative
child to much will have negative consequences that’s what the handbooks
consequences that’s what the handbooks
consequences that’s what the handbooks saying because children will start to
saying because children will start to
saying because children will start to hate the forced foods and eventually eat
hate the forced foods and eventually eat
hate the forced foods and eventually eat less again this idea is based on
less again this idea is based on
less again this idea is based on experimental studies conducted in the
experimental studies conducted in the
experimental studies conducted in the lab but observational work from others
lab but observational work from others
lab but observational work from others and also from my own group has led to
and also from my own group has led to
and also from my own group has led to different conclusions at pushing a child
different conclusions at pushing a child
different conclusions at pushing a child to eat something is not really causing
to eat something is not really causing
to eat something is not really causing picky eating it’s much more the other
picky eating it’s much more the other
picky eating it’s much more the other way around it’s parents who try to help
way around it’s parents who try to help
way around it’s parents who try to help their child and solve the problem so my
their child and solve the problem so my
their child and solve the problem so my advice is parents don’t worry if you try
advice is parents don’t worry if you try
advice is parents don’t worry if you try to persuade your child
to persuade your child
to persuade your child eat the broccoli when he is he or she is
eat the broccoli when he is he or she is
eat the broccoli when he is he or she is being a picky eater parents don’t worry
being a picky eater parents don’t worry
being a picky eater parents don’t worry or don’t feel guilty when you try to
or don’t feel guilty when you try to
or don’t feel guilty when you try to limit the food intake of your child when
limit the food intake of your child when
limit the food intake of your child when he or she is becoming a bit heavy it
he or she is becoming a bit heavy it
he or she is becoming a bit heavy it seems that this intuitive parenting
seems that this intuitive parenting
seems that this intuitive parenting behavior is actually not so bad after
behavior is actually not so bad after
behavior is actually not so bad after all it is much more people like me who
all it is much more people like me who
all it is much more people like me who need to do more because we cannot just
need to do more because we cannot just
need to do more because we cannot just based guidelines on one type of study so
based guidelines on one type of study so
based guidelines on one type of study so we need to do more and we need to look
we need to do more and we need to look
we need to do more and we need to look at the problem from different angles so
at the problem from different angles so
at the problem from different angles so we should do more research and yes we
we should do more research and yes we
we should do more research and yes we should do experimental studies but also
should do experimental studies but also
should do experimental studies but also observational studies in real life and
observational studies in real life and
observational studies in real life and interviews and we should do intervention
interviews and we should do intervention
interviews and we should do intervention studies to test if what we put in these
studies to test if what we put in these
studies to test if what we put in these handbooks is really helping thank you
handbooks is really helping thank you
handbooks is really helping thank you [Applause]
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