we all remember our first crush mine her name was sandy she was the most
name was sandy she was the most
name was sandy she was the most beautiful girl I had ever seen curly
beautiful girl I had ever seen curly
beautiful girl I had ever seen curly brown hair green eyes and the dimple on
brown hair green eyes and the dimple on
brown hair green eyes and the dimple on her right cheek whenever she giggled I
her right cheek whenever she giggled I
her right cheek whenever she giggled I was 9 years old and I wanted to marry
was 9 years old and I wanted to marry
was 9 years old and I wanted to marry her back then unfortunately for me all
her back then unfortunately for me all
her back then unfortunately for me all the boys in my class wanted to marry her
the boys in my class wanted to marry her
the boys in my class wanted to marry her – starting with dad the bully who
– starting with dad the bully who
– starting with dad the bully who intimidated other kids took this stuff
intimidated other kids took this stuff
intimidated other kids took this stuff and offered them to her as a sign of
and offered them to her as a sign of
and offered them to her as a sign of sandless love – Zahi this shyest nerd
sandless love – Zahi this shyest nerd
sandless love – Zahi this shyest nerd ever
ever
ever who made sure to sit next to her during
who made sure to sit next to her during
who made sure to sit next to her during math classes should she need any help
math classes should she need any help
math classes should she need any help and her multiplication and long division
and her multiplication and long division
and her multiplication and long division exercises I wanted her to notice me
exercises I wanted her to notice me
exercises I wanted her to notice me I wanted her attention finally the day
I wanted her attention finally the day
I wanted her attention finally the day came the day I would make all the other
came the day I would make all the other
came the day I would make all the other boys envy me it was at class and we were
boys envy me it was at class and we were
boys envy me it was at class and we were assigned to draw something and present
assigned to draw something and present
assigned to draw something and present it to our moms on Mother’s Day we each
it to our moms on Mother’s Day we each
it to our moms on Mother’s Day we each had our crayons and materials ready for
had our crayons and materials ready for
had our crayons and materials ready for the job
the job
the job except for sandy she was upset she
except for sandy she was upset she
except for sandy she was upset she wanted to draw a lily but she only had
wanted to draw a lily but she only had
wanted to draw a lily but she only had the yellow crayon and guess who had the
the yellow crayon and guess who had the
the yellow crayon and guess who had the color purple oh yes yours truly this was
color purple oh yes yours truly this was
color purple oh yes yours truly this was my chance I would give her my crayon she
my chance I would give her my crayon she
my chance I would give her my crayon she would definitely fall in love with me
would definitely fall in love with me
would definitely fall in love with me and she would be my wife but not so fast
and she would be my wife but not so fast
and she would be my wife but not so fast as it was a bit hesitant on how to
as it was a bit hesitant on how to
as it was a bit hesitant on how to approach sandy Sammy the spoiled brat
approach sandy Sammy the spoiled brat
approach sandy Sammy the spoiled brat had already beat me to it before I knew
had already beat me to it before I knew
had already beat me to it before I knew it sandy was coloring side by side with
it sandy was coloring side by side with
it sandy was coloring side by side with him I hated him I hated how he made her
him I hated him I hated how he made her
him I hated him I hated how he made her smile I even hated how both their names
smile I even hated how both their names
smile I even hated how both their names starts with the same letter I had missed
starts with the same letter I had missed
starts with the same letter I had missed my chance with sandy throughout my 20
my chance with sandy throughout my 20
my chance with sandy throughout my 20 years I had lost many Sandy’s the first
years I had lost many Sandy’s the first
years I had lost many Sandy’s the first time I missed my chance was because I
time I missed my chance was because I
time I missed my chance was because I let out the right moment slip from my
let out the right moment slip from my
let out the right moment slip from my hands all the other times I was just
hands all the other times I was just
hands all the other times I was just waiting for another right moment I
waiting for another right moment I
waiting for another right moment I waited too long to tell my mom I broke
waited too long to tell my mom I broke
waited too long to tell my mom I broke her vintage vase she found out I got
her vintage vase she found out I got
her vintage vase she found out I got punished I procrastinated in adopting a
punished I procrastinated in adopting a
punished I procrastinated in adopting a healthier lifestyle
healthier lifestyle
healthier lifestyle my decisions to go ahead with a diet
my decisions to go ahead with a diet
my decisions to go ahead with a diet were and still are awaiting the right
were and still are awaiting the right
were and still are awaiting the right Monday I was afraid I was afraid to tell
Monday I was afraid I was afraid to tell
Monday I was afraid I was afraid to tell my best friend that he was messing his
my best friend that he was messing his
my best friend that he was messing his life up I was afraid that you would
life up I was afraid that you would
life up I was afraid that you would think I was being judgmental
think I was being judgmental
think I was being judgmental he wouldn’t appreciate my honesty in any
he wouldn’t appreciate my honesty in any
he wouldn’t appreciate my honesty in any case he messed up when I lost him anyway
case he messed up when I lost him anyway
case he messed up when I lost him anyway I waited too long to tell my granddad
I waited too long to tell my granddad
I waited too long to tell my granddad how much he meant to me
how much he meant to me
how much he meant to me I continued to blame myself for that
I continued to blame myself for that
I continued to blame myself for that after he passed away I hesitated to
after he passed away I hesitated to
after he passed away I hesitated to choose what university I would study and
choose what university I would study and
choose what university I would study and I ended up wasting the whole academic
I ended up wasting the whole academic
I ended up wasting the whole academic year as a result all of this happened to
year as a result all of this happened to
year as a result all of this happened to me because I kept waiting for this
me because I kept waiting for this
me because I kept waiting for this so-called right moment
so-called right moment
so-called right moment I kept questioning myself one is the
I kept questioning myself one is the
I kept questioning myself one is the right moment to come clean and a mistake
right moment to come clean and a mistake
right moment to come clean and a mistake on your part one is the right moment to
on your part one is the right moment to
on your part one is the right moment to speak up even when you know someone you
speak up even when you know someone you
speak up even when you know someone you love would get hurt when is the right
love would get hurt when is the right
love would get hurt when is the right moment to break up with your significant
moment to break up with your significant
moment to break up with your significant other and when is the right moment to
other and when is the right moment to
other and when is the right moment to tell your parents how much he loved them
tell your parents how much he loved them
tell your parents how much he loved them before it’s too late
before it’s too late
before it’s too late those questions found their way to my
those questions found their way to my
those questions found their way to my professional life and I found myself
professional life and I found myself
professional life and I found myself wondering when is the right moment to
wondering when is the right moment to
wondering when is the right moment to ask for a promotion when is the right
ask for a promotion when is the right
ask for a promotion when is the right moment to quit a job if that incident
moment to quit a job if that incident
moment to quit a job if that incident with Sandy has taught me anything
with Sandy has taught me anything
with Sandy has taught me anything instead there is no fixed formula nor a
instead there is no fixed formula nor a
instead there is no fixed formula nor a structural algorithm to define or
structural algorithm to define or
structural algorithm to define or produce the right moment there is no
produce the right moment there is no
produce the right moment there is no such thing as the right moment it is all
such thing as the right moment it is all
such thing as the right moment it is all about you it is about how willing you
about you it is about how willing you
about you it is about how willing you are to create the right moment and to
are to create the right moment and to
are to create the right moment and to reflect afterwards on how right that
reflect afterwards on how right that
reflect afterwards on how right that moment was all experiences are lessons
moment was all experiences are lessons
moment was all experiences are lessons learned for the next time you attempt to
learned for the next time you attempt to
learned for the next time you attempt to create the right moment most of us are
create the right moment most of us are
create the right moment most of us are so concerned with finding what’s right
so concerned with finding what’s right
so concerned with finding what’s right that we end up with all the wrongs we
that we end up with all the wrongs we
that we end up with all the wrongs we are held back by our doubts crippled by
are held back by our doubts crippled by
are held back by our doubts crippled by our fears of what if I should wait a bit
our fears of what if I should wait a bit
our fears of what if I should wait a bit more what if I ended up making things
more what if I ended up making things
more what if I ended up making things worse we think that we will always have
worse we think that we will always have
worse we think that we will always have more time on our hands
more time on our hands
more time on our hands to those of you who can relate to this I
to those of you who can relate to this I
to those of you who can relate to this I say we do not have all that time and
say we do not have all that time and
say we do not have all that time and time is not on our side it’s okay to be
time is not on our side it’s okay to be
time is not on our side it’s okay to be afraid of what we can’t foresee but
afraid of what we can’t foresee but
afraid of what we can’t foresee but what’s not okay is the statement in your
what’s not okay is the statement in your
what’s not okay is the statement in your place when you know you’re missing
place when you know you’re missing
place when you know you’re missing something and then wondering why things
something and then wondering why things
something and then wondering why things are the way they are it’s not okay to
are the way they are it’s not okay to
are the way they are it’s not okay to invest your efforts in a dead-end job
invest your efforts in a dead-end job
invest your efforts in a dead-end job and then to wonder why you’re not as
and then to wonder why you’re not as
and then to wonder why you’re not as successful or at least as fulfilled as
successful or at least as fulfilled as
successful or at least as fulfilled as you want to be it’s certainly another k
you want to be it’s certainly another k
you want to be it’s certainly another k to drag a relationship on when you know
to drag a relationship on when you know
to drag a relationship on when you know you have fallen out of love to waste
you have fallen out of love to waste
you have fallen out of love to waste your and the other at the others time
your and the other at the others time
your and the other at the others time and then to wonder what if you were with
and then to wonder what if you were with
and then to wonder what if you were with that other person your heart beats at
that other person your heart beats at
that other person your heart beats at the side and it’s never okay an absolute
the side and it’s never okay an absolute
the side and it’s never okay an absolute no-no to assume that your loved ones
no-no to assume that your loved ones
no-no to assume that your loved ones know how much they mean to you to assume
know how much they mean to you to assume
know how much they mean to you to assume that there will be a tomorrow for you or
that there will be a tomorrow for you or
that there will be a tomorrow for you or for them when you can simply say thank
for them when you can simply say thank
for them when you can simply say thank you and I love you the right moment is
you and I love you the right moment is
you and I love you the right moment is what we make of it fear of the unknown
what we make of it fear of the unknown
what we make of it fear of the unknown is enough table
is enough table
is enough table mistakes are unavoidable but what we can
mistakes are unavoidable but what we can
mistakes are unavoidable but what we can do in the meantime is to provide
do in the meantime is to provide
do in the meantime is to provide ourselves with as many experiences and
ourselves with as many experiences and
ourselves with as many experiences and as many lessons learned that’s when we
as many lessons learned that’s when we
as many lessons learned that’s when we become more aware of how to seize
become more aware of how to seize
become more aware of how to seize whatever opportunity lies in front of us
whatever opportunity lies in front of us
whatever opportunity lies in front of us that’s when we shall never have to wait
that’s when we shall never have to wait
that’s when we shall never have to wait recently I approached my boss at work
recently I approached my boss at work
recently I approached my boss at work and I told him I believe I deserve a pay
and I told him I believe I deserve a pay
and I told him I believe I deserve a pay raise he has been expressionless so far
raise he has been expressionless so far
raise he has been expressionless so far so I’m not quite sure about this right
so I’m not quite sure about this right
so I’m not quite sure about this right moment but at least I have not gotten
moment but at least I have not gotten
moment but at least I have not gotten myself fired however I made sure my
myself fired however I made sure my
myself fired however I made sure my parents know how much I appreciate them
parents know how much I appreciate them
parents know how much I appreciate them and how much they mean the word to me
and how much they mean the word to me
and how much they mean the word to me and as hesitant as I was about giving
and as hesitant as I was about giving
and as hesitant as I was about giving this TEDx talk it was they who cheered
this TEDx talk it was they who cheered
this TEDx talk it was they who cheered me up
me up
me up and supported me all the way through it
and supported me all the way through it
and supported me all the way through it so the bottom line if you are ever
so the bottom line if you are ever
so the bottom line if you are ever confronted with a sandy but did not have
confronted with a sandy but did not have
confronted with a sandy but did not have the color purple it’s okay you don’t
the color purple it’s okay you don’t
the color purple it’s okay you don’t need it you make use of what you’ve got
need it you make use of what you’ve got
need it you make use of what you’ve got which is what really
which is what really
which is what really matters mix the colors red and blue
matters mix the colors red and blue
matters mix the colors red and blue together and guess what color you get
together and guess what color you get
together and guess what color you get thank you
thank you
thank you [Applause]
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