independence the act of not relying on others for one’s
others for one’s
others for one’s necessities now where’s a society have
necessities now where’s a society have
necessities now where’s a society have decided that in order to survive in this
decided that in order to survive in this
decided that in order to survive in this world one must be independent
world one must be independent
world one must be independent advertisements on the internet saying be
advertisements on the internet saying be
advertisements on the internet saying be independent or wikiHow articles saying
independent or wikiHow articles saying
independent or wikiHow articles saying thirteen steps become independent we are
thirteen steps become independent we are
thirteen steps become independent we are so obsessed with this term independence
so obsessed with this term independence
so obsessed with this term independence but is it necessarily bad to rely on
but is it necessarily bad to rely on
but is it necessarily bad to rely on other people I ask myself this three
other people I ask myself this three
other people I ask myself this three years ago sitting in the empty bus
years ago sitting in the empty bus
years ago sitting in the empty bus staring at the big beautiful skies of
staring at the big beautiful skies of
staring at the big beautiful skies of Seoul South Korea it was a quiet day
Seoul South Korea it was a quiet day
Seoul South Korea it was a quiet day students going to their classes
students going to their classes
students going to their classes businessmen in their gray suits
businessmen in their gray suits
businessmen in their gray suits attending their workplaces just a normal
attending their workplaces just a normal
attending their workplaces just a normal workday but it was some occasion for me
workday but it was some occasion for me
workday but it was some occasion for me and so while my uncle’s family was gone
and so while my uncle’s family was gone
and so while my uncle’s family was gone to their respective places I was alone
to their respective places I was alone
to their respective places I was alone so I actually decide to do something
so I actually decide to do something
so I actually decide to do something with my life and I went outside I went
with my life and I went outside I went
with my life and I went outside I went outside instead of picking around the
outside instead of picking around the
outside instead of picking around the house like I normally would and so I
house like I normally would and so I
house like I normally would and so I went to the mall it was enormous it was
went to the mall it was enormous it was
went to the mall it was enormous it was gigantic
gigantic
gigantic it’s seoul there of shops selling bags
it’s seoul there of shops selling bags
it’s seoul there of shops selling bags shoes clothes you name it and so i spent
shoes clothes you name it and so i spent
shoes clothes you name it and so i spent a lot of my time there nothing really
a lot of my time there nothing really
a lot of my time there nothing really caught my eye but then again i couldn’t
caught my eye but then again i couldn’t
caught my eye but then again i couldn’t buy anything if it even if it did i was
buy anything if it even if it did i was
buy anything if it even if it did i was just a poor boy at the time but i did
just a poor boy at the time but i did
just a poor boy at the time but i did spend a lot of time there and by the
spend a lot of time there and by the
spend a lot of time there and by the time I got home it was already like 9
time I got home it was already like 9
time I got home it was already like 9 o’clock and as a young good boy I
o’clock and as a young good boy I
o’clock and as a young good boy I respected my curfews and so it was 9
respected my curfews and so it was 9
respected my curfews and so it was 9 o’clock and I was expecting to get like
o’clock and I was expecting to get like
o’clock and I was expecting to get like beat or something by my uncle but that
beat or something by my uncle but that
beat or something by my uncle but that never happened in fact they called me
never happened in fact they called me
never happened in fact they called me truly independent as if shopping alone
truly independent as if shopping alone
truly independent as if shopping alone with some sort of personal
with some sort of personal
with some sort of personal accomplishment but it seems to be that
accomplishment but it seems to be that
accomplishment but it seems to be that way especially in places like South
way especially in places like South
way especially in places like South Korea there’s a huge stigma surrounding
Korea there’s a huge stigma surrounding
Korea there’s a huge stigma surrounding the idea of dependency students are at
the idea of dependency students are at
the idea of dependency students are at the age of 6 forced to take the bus to
the age of 6 forced to take the bus to
the age of 6 forced to take the bus to school and parents don’t seem to give
school and parents don’t seem to give
school and parents don’t seem to give their children any life advice telling
their children any life advice telling
their children any life advice telling them find out for yourself and so adding
them find out for yourself and so adding
them find out for yourself and so adding that to their hectic
that to their hectic
that to their hectic academic lives students were so stressed
academic lives students were so stressed
academic lives students were so stressed and as a result of it many crashed so
and as a result of it many crashed so
and as a result of it many crashed so why is your stigma surrounding one side
why is your stigma surrounding one side
why is your stigma surrounding one side of it with dependency but not on the
of it with dependency but not on the
of it with dependency but not on the other extreme well maybe there is a
other extreme well maybe there is a
other extreme well maybe there is a reason we as a species are so obsessed
reason we as a species are so obsessed
reason we as a species are so obsessed with this idea of avoiding negative
with this idea of avoiding negative
with this idea of avoiding negative aspects and we so we draw a line between
aspects and we so we draw a line between
aspects and we so we draw a line between good and bad though often times we
good and bad though often times we
good and bad though often times we forget that having too much of something
forget that having too much of something
forget that having too much of something whether good or bad can lead to bad
whether good or bad can lead to bad
whether good or bad can lead to bad results in the end take sleep for
results in the end take sleep for
results in the end take sleep for example we all love a nice nap after a
example we all love a nice nap after a
example we all love a nice nap after a long day but nap too long for days weeks
long day but nap too long for days weeks
long day but nap too long for days weeks months even years and you’ve got
months even years and you’ve got
months even years and you’ve got yourself in a coma they are both both
yourself in a coma they are both both
yourself in a coma they are both both are very similar ideas where you’re
are very similar ideas where you’re
are very similar ideas where you’re resting your body is resting to help
resting your body is resting to help
resting your body is resting to help yourself in the future but you can
yourself in the future but you can
yourself in the future but you can always see the difference so this is
always see the difference so this is
always see the difference so this is what I proposed to be happening this is
what I proposed to be happening this is
what I proposed to be happening this is a good ideal taken to the extreme and
a good ideal taken to the extreme and
a good ideal taken to the extreme and there’s also there’s also could be
there’s also there’s also could be
there’s also there’s also could be another reason when we think of
another reason when we think of
another reason when we think of independent people our age we don’t
independent people our age we don’t
independent people our age we don’t think of someone going to the grocery
think of someone going to the grocery
think of someone going to the grocery store to buy groceries to survive for
store to buy groceries to survive for
store to buy groceries to survive for the week no we think of someone who is
the week no we think of someone who is
the week no we think of someone who is more outgoing more adventurous more
more outgoing more adventurous more
more outgoing more adventurous more talkative social so our perception of
talkative social so our perception of
talkative social so our perception of Independence is really defined as what
Independence is really defined as what
Independence is really defined as what other people have told us about their
other people have told us about their
other people have told us about their independence and their freedoms but how
independence and their freedoms but how
independence and their freedoms but how do you really want to be completely free
do you really want to be completely free
do you really want to be completely free so let me ask a question to you all how
so let me ask a question to you all how
so let me ask a question to you all how many of you’ve been home alone for a day
many of you’ve been home alone for a day
many of you’ve been home alone for a day two days a week two weeks more than that
two days a week two weeks more than that
two days a week two weeks more than that well I don’t go past two weeks myself
well I don’t go past two weeks myself
well I don’t go past two weeks myself even those who survived a week would
even those who survived a week would
even those who survived a week would know of the hardships of surviving alone
know of the hardships of surviving alone
know of the hardships of surviving alone you have to do your homework you have to
you have to do your homework you have to
you have to do your homework you have to work and prepare meals without any
work and prepare meals without any
work and prepare meals without any outside voices telling you what to do
outside voices telling you what to do
outside voices telling you what to do and sometimes we do need that outside
and sometimes we do need that outside
and sometimes we do need that outside voice and after a while
voice and after a while
voice and after a while it’s not as that as first but after a
it’s not as that as first but after a
it’s not as that as first but after a while the loneliness starts setting in
while the loneliness starts setting in
while the loneliness starts setting in and you find yourself talking to
and you find yourself talking to
and you find yourself talking to yourself about this and that how your
yourself about this and that how your
yourself about this and that how your day went how you have no friends all of
day went how you have no friends all of
day went how you have no friends all of that stuff so what am I trying to say
that stuff so what am I trying to say
that stuff so what am I trying to say here well the question I’m trying to
here well the question I’m trying to
here well the question I’m trying to pose is how we all want complete freedom
pose is how we all want complete freedom
pose is how we all want complete freedom but how free do you really want to be
but how free do you really want to be
but how free do you really want to be now I’m not trying to trash independence
now I’m not trying to trash independence
now I’m not trying to trash independence nor am I saying that you should
nor am I saying that you should
nor am I saying that you should completely just leech off your friends
completely just leech off your friends
completely just leech off your friends that’s a great idea no what I’m trying
that’s a great idea no what I’m trying
that’s a great idea no what I’m trying to say is that we should not rush
to say is that we should not rush
to say is that we should not rush ourselves into into these ideals of
ourselves into into these ideals of
ourselves into into these ideals of Independence but because obviously
Independence but because obviously
Independence but because obviously independence has its good qualities for
independence has its good qualities for
independence has its good qualities for example it helps people control their
example it helps people control their
example it helps people control their faith it enables children to get the
faith it enables children to get the
faith it enables children to get the experiences and qualifications they need
experiences and qualifications they need
experiences and qualifications they need for when they actually do need to become
for when they actually do need to become
for when they actually do need to become independent for like their adult lives
independent for like their adult lives
independent for like their adult lives there is a reason why I told my story
there is a reason why I told my story
there is a reason why I told my story it’s not all just boring don’t worry
it’s not all just boring don’t worry
it’s not all just boring don’t worry about it I actually have some fun stuff
about it I actually have some fun stuff
about it I actually have some fun stuff because getting off that bus on that
because getting off that bus on that
because getting off that bus on that sunny day in South Korea Seoul South
sunny day in South Korea Seoul South
sunny day in South Korea Seoul South Korea mind you it felt refreshing I got
Korea mind you it felt refreshing I got
Korea mind you it felt refreshing I got to taste freedom for the first time in
to taste freedom for the first time in
to taste freedom for the first time in my life and well the the adrenaline was
my life and well the the adrenaline was
my life and well the the adrenaline was just kicking in and next thing you know
just kicking in and next thing you know
just kicking in and next thing you know I was exploring my world and it was all
I was exploring my world and it was all
I was exploring my world and it was all just so great and then I got lost and
just so great and then I got lost and
just so great and then I got lost and but at that point it didn’t really kick
but at that point it didn’t really kick
but at that point it didn’t really kick in I mean I was still just having the
in I mean I was still just having the
in I mean I was still just having the time of my life just exploring and it
time of my life just exploring and it
time of my life just exploring and it wasn’t until later that I really
wasn’t until later that I really
wasn’t until later that I really realized that crap I was lost and so you
realized that crap I was lost and so you
realized that crap I was lost and so you had this twelve-year-old kid running on
had this twelve-year-old kid running on
had this twelve-year-old kid running on the streets of Seoul South Korea
the streets of Seoul South Korea
the streets of Seoul South Korea trying to find someone anyone who could
trying to find someone anyone who could
trying to find someone anyone who could spend their time to talk to me for like
spend their time to talk to me for like
spend their time to talk to me for like five minutes trying to find my home
five minutes trying to find my home
five minutes trying to find my home where it was because I was a clueless
where it was because I was a clueless
where it was because I was a clueless little kid at the time but obviously I’m
little kid at the time but obviously I’m
little kid at the time but obviously I’m here right now so I did find my way back
here right now so I did find my way back
here right now so I did find my way back but it wasn’t easy but from that
but it wasn’t easy but from that
but it wasn’t easy but from that experience it really did it enriched
experience it really did it enriched
experience it really did it enriched some of my skills
some of my skills
some of my skills it helped me read maps it allowed me to
it helped me read maps it allowed me to
it helped me read maps it allowed me to talk to express myself and for other
talk to express myself and for other
talk to express myself and for other people and most importantly it allowed
people and most importantly it allowed
people and most importantly it allowed me to stay calm
me to stay calm
me to stay calm as calm as I can be I guess in a
as calm as I can be I guess in a
as calm as I can be I guess in a stressful situation and so my point in
stressful situation and so my point in
stressful situation and so my point in all of this is that while independence
all of this is that while independence
all of this is that while independence is still a good thing we should not
is still a good thing we should not
is still a good thing we should not force ourselves into into progressing to
force ourselves into into progressing to
force ourselves into into progressing to there however I’m not discouraging
there however I’m not discouraging
there however I’m not discouraging yourself you wrap yourself in bubble
yourself you wrap yourself in bubble
yourself you wrap yourself in bubble wrap and hide away watching Netflix know
wrap and hide away watching Netflix know
wrap and hide away watching Netflix know we can still state we can still take
we can still state we can still take
we can still state we can still take steps in order to in order to begin our
steps in order to in order to begin our
steps in order to in order to begin our journey to independence in fact making
journey to independence in fact making
journey to independence in fact making the decision to become independent is a
the decision to become independent is a
the decision to become independent is a decision that will improve independence
decision that will improve independence
decision that will improve independence so this is why I implore you all of you
so this is why I implore you all of you
so this is why I implore you all of you try try get a head start leave the house
try try get a head start leave the house
try try get a head start leave the house for once take off your blanket clothes
for once take off your blanket clothes
for once take off your blanket clothes Netflix go outside for once in your
Netflix go outside for once in your
Netflix go outside for once in your lifetime and try getting lost and try
lifetime and try getting lost and try
lifetime and try getting lost and try finally we’re back that’ll help with
finally we’re back that’ll help with
finally we’re back that’ll help with your directional skills try working
your directional skills try working
your directional skills try working maybe it’ll help your financial
maybe it’ll help your financial
maybe it’ll help your financial independence try everything again and
independence try everything again and
independence try everything again and again and again until you get better at
again and again until you get better at
again and again until you get better at it because practice makes perfect
it because practice makes perfect
it because practice makes perfect and that’s very good so what I’m saying
and that’s very good so what I’m saying
and that’s very good so what I’m saying is well we shouldn’t force some
is well we shouldn’t force some
is well we shouldn’t force some dependence when are we gonna head start
dependence when are we gonna head start
dependence when are we gonna head start we’re young after all and we can live
we’re young after all and we can live
we’re young after all and we can live our worryfree lies we’re at it because
our worryfree lies we’re at it because
our worryfree lies we’re at it because it’s impossible to prepare for
it’s impossible to prepare for
it’s impossible to prepare for everything that life throws at you we
everything that life throws at you we
everything that life throws at you we can try our best to do to avoid it thank
can try our best to do to avoid it thank
can try our best to do to avoid it thank you
you
you [Applause]
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