If I Can Do This, You Can Too. | Sana Farooq | TEDxFAST

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[Music] thank you very much for the introduction

thank you very much for the introduction

thank you very much for the introduction hello everyone hello everyone that’s

hello everyone hello everyone that’s

hello everyone hello everyone that’s great

great

great how many future leaders and

how many future leaders and

how many future leaders and entrepreneurs do we have in this room

entrepreneurs do we have in this room

entrepreneurs do we have in this room today right

today right

today right that’s brilliant and how many females

that’s brilliant and how many females

that’s brilliant and how many females who want to be future entrepreneurs and

who want to be future entrepreneurs and

who want to be future entrepreneurs and leaders I can’t see ok that’s fine and

leaders I can’t see ok that’s fine and

leaders I can’t see ok that’s fine and how many of those female entrepreneurs

how many of those female entrepreneurs

how many of those female entrepreneurs and leaders who also want to be moms and

and leaders who also want to be moms and

and leaders who also want to be moms and have a family as well right so basically

have a family as well right so basically

have a family as well right so basically today what I’m gonna be talking to you

today what I’m gonna be talking to you

today what I’m gonna be talking to you about is that if I can do this you can

about is that if I can do this you can

about is that if I can do this you can too right

too right

too right and this is very very important and I

and this is very very important and I

and this is very very important and I want all current entrepreneurs and

want all current entrepreneurs and

want all current entrepreneurs and leaders male and female and especially

leaders male and female and especially

leaders male and female and especially aspiring female entrepreneurs and

aspiring female entrepreneurs and

aspiring female entrepreneurs and leaders to really take away this one

leaders to really take away this one

leaders to really take away this one thing from my talk today everyone these

thing from my talk today everyone these

thing from my talk today everyone these days is talking about the challenges

days is talking about the challenges

days is talking about the challenges being faced by women LED startups and by

being faced by women LED startups and by

being faced by women LED startups and by women in leadership positions we all

women in leadership positions we all

women in leadership positions we all know the statistics of how low the

know the statistics of how low the

know the statistics of how low the number is of female led startups

number is of female led startups

number is of female led startups globally and the number of VC funded

globally and the number of VC funded

globally and the number of VC funded female startups is even lower right but

female startups is even lower right but

female startups is even lower right but I started thinking about why and I

I started thinking about why and I

I started thinking about why and I started talking to a lot of women who

started talking to a lot of women who

started talking to a lot of women who are now trying to lead who are trying to

are now trying to lead who are trying to

are now trying to lead who are trying to be entrepreneurs and I’ve come here

be entrepreneurs and I’ve come here

be entrepreneurs and I’ve come here today to tell you just one simple thing

today to tell you just one simple thing

today to tell you just one simple thing if I can do this and I am doing it and

if I can do this and I am doing it and

if I can do this and I am doing it and I’m very happy doing it then you can too

I’m very happy doing it then you can too

I’m very happy doing it then you can too it’s really that simple and the way to

it’s really that simple and the way to

it’s really that simple and the way to do it is actually just to change your

do it is actually just to change your

do it is actually just to change your internal dialogue so instead of thinking

internal dialogue so instead of thinking

internal dialogue so instead of thinking I might do this or I don’t know if I can

I might do this or I don’t know if I can

I might do this or I don’t know if I can do this you have to say yes I can do

do this you have to say yes I can do

do this you have to say yes I can do this and that’s how we must start

this and that’s how we must start

this and that’s how we must start thinking if I can do this you can do

thinking if I can do this you can do

thinking if I can do this you can do this

this

this I did my degree from Karachi University

I did my degree from Karachi University

I did my degree from Karachi University in English literature right no Ivy

in English literature right no Ivy

in English literature right no Ivy League no MBA I got married in my early

League no MBA I got married in my early

League no MBA I got married in my early 20s and I have two kids

20s and I have two kids

20s and I have two kids should I keep and I have two really

should I keep and I have two really

should I keep and I have two really beautiful intelligent smart kids and I

beautiful intelligent smart kids and I

beautiful intelligent smart kids and I love having my family but this is not

love having my family but this is not

love having my family but this is not the profile of an entrepreneur I was

the profile of an entrepreneur I was

the profile of an entrepreneur I was working in education but I didn’t know

working in education but I didn’t know

working in education but I didn’t know how to run a business or start a

how to run a business or start a

how to run a business or start a business I didn’t know anything about

business I didn’t know anything about

business I didn’t know anything about EdTech especially and my startup is

EdTech especially and my startup is

EdTech especially and my startup is related to EdTech right and living and

related to EdTech right and living and

related to EdTech right and living and working in London to be honest I take

working in London to be honest I take

working in London to be honest I take most of the wrong boxes so ethnicity

most of the wrong boxes so ethnicity

most of the wrong boxes so ethnicity nationality religion gender I take the

nationality religion gender I take the

nationality religion gender I take the wrong option on all the boxes right but

wrong option on all the boxes right but

wrong option on all the boxes right but that didn’t stop me because I had to

that didn’t stop me because I had to

that didn’t stop me because I had to keep telling myself I can do this and

keep telling myself I can do this and

keep telling myself I can do this and make it happen

make it happen

make it happen so if I can be happy and successful and

so if I can be happy and successful and

so if I can be happy and successful and do this you really can

do this you really can

do this you really can because you’re not different from me yes

because you’re not different from me yes

because you’re not different from me yes there will be challenges there will be a

there will be challenges there will be a

there will be challenges there will be a lot of challenges and it will be hard so

lot of challenges and it will be hard so

lot of challenges and it will be hard so raising finance a lack of business

raising finance a lack of business

raising finance a lack of business skills financial skills technical skills

skills financial skills technical skills

skills financial skills technical skills a lot of pressure from social

a lot of pressure from social

a lot of pressure from social expectations poor networks and a lack of

expectations poor networks and a lack of

expectations poor networks and a lack of confidence these are generally the

confidence these are generally the

confidence these are generally the challenges that are listed for women

challenges that are listed for women

challenges that are listed for women entrepreneurs and leaders but when I

entrepreneurs and leaders but when I

entrepreneurs and leaders but when I look at this list of challenges I don’t

look at this list of challenges I don’t

look at this list of challenges I don’t actually see all these external

actually see all these external

actually see all these external challenges I see only one internal

challenges I see only one internal

challenges I see only one internal challenge and for me that just means

challenge and for me that just means

challenge and for me that just means changing the narrative inside it’s about

changing the narrative inside it’s about

changing the narrative inside it’s about me believing that I can do this I can do

me believing that I can do this I can do

me believing that I can do this I can do this I can be married and have a career

this I can be married and have a career

this I can be married and have a career I can have kids

I can have kids

I can have kids and pursue and fulfill my dreams I can

and pursue and fulfill my dreams I can

and pursue and fulfill my dreams I can aim high I can earn more and I can get

aim high I can earn more and I can get

aim high I can earn more and I can get to the top I can compete with my male

to the top I can compete with my male

to the top I can compete with my male counterparts yes I can and I can have a

counterparts yes I can and I can have a

counterparts yes I can and I can have a family and a personal life and be happy

family and a personal life and be happy

family and a personal life and be happy at the same time I can do this right so

at the same time I can do this right so

at the same time I can do this right so I have to keep telling myself and the

I have to keep telling myself and the

I have to keep telling myself and the trick is that you have to spot

trick is that you have to spot

trick is that you have to spot when you find yourself making those

when you find yourself making those

when you find yourself making those excuses in your mind and you just flip

excuses in your mind and you just flip

excuses in your mind and you just flip the narrative you change it so for

the narrative you change it so for

the narrative you change it so for example in the journey of the last 18

example in the journey of the last 18

example in the journey of the last 18 months I’ve actually closed down my

months I’ve actually closed down my

months I’ve actually closed down my company twice okay and the first time I

company twice okay and the first time I

company twice okay and the first time I actually closed it down and it was only

actually closed it down and it was only

actually closed it down and it was only four months into the journey and the

four months into the journey and the

four months into the journey and the situation was that both my kids had

situation was that both my kids had

situation was that both my kids had chickenpox

chickenpox

chickenpox it was Ramadan in London which means I

it was Ramadan in London which means I

it was Ramadan in London which means I was fasting 19.5 hours every day for a

was fasting 19.5 hours every day for a

was fasting 19.5 hours every day for a month

month

month I was already helping my husband run his

I was already helping my husband run his

I was already helping my husband run his business

business

business I had in-laws I was trying to deal with

I had in-laws I was trying to deal with

I had in-laws I was trying to deal with the social life stuff at school stuff at

the social life stuff at school stuff at

the social life stuff at school stuff at home run the house I was trying to do

home run the house I was trying to do

home run the house I was trying to do everything and I just got overwhelmed

everything and I just got overwhelmed

everything and I just got overwhelmed and I told myself you know what this is

and I told myself you know what this is

and I told myself you know what this is crazy I can’t do this

crazy I can’t do this

crazy I can’t do this this is actually impossible right and I

this is actually impossible right and I

this is actually impossible right and I told myself this and I believed it and I

told myself this and I believed it and I

told myself this and I believed it and I closed it ELN was gone gone two months

closed it ELN was gone gone two months

closed it ELN was gone gone two months nothing but then something kept nagging

nothing but then something kept nagging

nothing but then something kept nagging at me because I kept thinking why can’t

at me because I kept thinking why can’t

at me because I kept thinking why can’t I do this there are so many successful

I do this there are so many successful

I do this there are so many successful women out there and they are doing this

women out there and they are doing this

women out there and they are doing this right so why can’t I and it kept bugging

right so why can’t I and it kept bugging

right so why can’t I and it kept bugging me bugging bugging me and after two

me bugging bugging me and after two

me bugging bugging me and after two months I started again I sat down I made

months I started again I sat down I made

months I started again I sat down I made plans I planned my timings childcare

plans I planned my timings childcare

plans I planned my timings childcare budgets my schedules when am I gonna

budgets my schedules when am I gonna

budgets my schedules when am I gonna work how am I gonna handle meetings I

work how am I gonna handle meetings I

work how am I gonna handle meetings I worked out everything and two months

worked out everything and two months

worked out everything and two months later I was ready I was organized and I

later I was ready I was organized and I

later I was ready I was organized and I worked hard I cannot tell you how hard

worked hard I cannot tell you how hard

worked hard I cannot tell you how hard I’ve worked how long I haven’t slept

I’ve worked how long I haven’t slept

I’ve worked how long I haven’t slept more than three or four hours per night

more than three or four hours per night

more than three or four hours per night but the thing is I can do this I am

but the thing is I can do this I am

but the thing is I can do this I am doing this and it means you can do this

doing this and it means you can do this

doing this and it means you can do this too I think a lot of the times it’s

too I think a lot of the times it’s

too I think a lot of the times it’s actually a lack of confidence I speak to

actually a lack of confidence I speak to

actually a lack of confidence I speak to so many brilliant amazing women with so

so many brilliant amazing women with so

so many brilliant amazing women with so many ideas but it’s a lack of confidence

many ideas but it’s a lack of confidence

many ideas but it’s a lack of confidence that they have they don’t believe that

that they have they don’t believe that

that they have they don’t believe that they can actually make it happen and

they can actually make it happen and

they can actually make it happen and also they believe they don’t have time

also they believe they don’t have time

also they believe they don’t have time but I think if we change that one belief

but I think if we change that one belief

but I think if we change that one belief inside us that I can do this you will

inside us that I can do this you will

inside us that I can do this you will find the time to do it you will find

find the time to do it you will find

find the time to do it you will find ways to get things done it’s all about

ways to get things done it’s all about

ways to get things done it’s all about saying if I can if I can do this then

saying if I can if I can do this then

saying if I can if I can do this then you

you

you can do it too and then keep pushing

can do it too and then keep pushing

can do it too and then keep pushing yourself so an example of this would be

yourself so an example of this would be

yourself so an example of this would be that you know everyone’s talking about

that you know everyone’s talking about

that you know everyone’s talking about how entrepreneurs need to be able to

how entrepreneurs need to be able to

how entrepreneurs need to be able to network right make connections with the

network right make connections with the

network right make connections with the right people pitch your company and all

right people pitch your company and all

right people pitch your company and all of that

of that

of that I hate networking I absolutely hate it

I hate networking I absolutely hate it

I hate networking I absolutely hate it I’m actually an introvert and I would

I’m actually an introvert and I would

I’m actually an introvert and I would much rather spend the day with my family

much rather spend the day with my family

much rather spend the day with my family reading a book then actually go out and

reading a book then actually go out and

reading a book then actually go out and keep pitching my company to random

keep pitching my company to random

keep pitching my company to random strangers right that’s not my idea of

strangers right that’s not my idea of

strangers right that’s not my idea of fun at all but I made myself do it I

fun at all but I made myself do it I

fun at all but I made myself do it I said I can do this so many people do

said I can do this so many people do

said I can do this so many people do this all the time I can do this too and

this all the time I can do this too and

this all the time I can do this too and I kept pushing myself I’d go to these

I kept pushing myself I’d go to these

I kept pushing myself I’d go to these meetings and conferences and say okay I

meetings and conferences and say okay I

meetings and conferences and say okay I brought this many business cards and

brought this many business cards and

brought this many business cards and today they’re gonna get handed out I

today they’re gonna get handed out I

today they’re gonna get handed out I used to give myself a target I’m gonna

used to give myself a target I’m gonna

used to give myself a target I’m gonna shake hands with this many people I’m

shake hands with this many people I’m

shake hands with this many people I’m gonna introduce my company to these many

gonna introduce my company to these many

gonna introduce my company to these many people and I did it and I pushed myself

people and I did it and I pushed myself

people and I did it and I pushed myself to do it and until it became a habit

to do it and until it became a habit

to do it and until it became a habit until it started to come naturally to

until it started to come naturally to

until it started to come naturally to the extent that a few days ago I took my

the extent that a few days ago I took my

the extent that a few days ago I took my kids to school here for their admission

kids to school here for their admission

kids to school here for their admission and I ended up speaking to the principal

and I ended up speaking to the principal

and I ended up speaking to the principal of my company so it turned into a

of my company so it turned into a

of my company so it turned into a conversation and a pitch about my

conversation and a pitch about my

conversation and a pitch about my company right but so what so I don’t

company right but so what so I don’t

company right but so what so I don’t know when I’m gonna meet the next person

know when I’m gonna meet the next person

know when I’m gonna meet the next person who’s going to be my next investor or my

who’s going to be my next investor or my

who’s going to be my next investor or my big client or introduce me to the next

big client or introduce me to the next

big client or introduce me to the next investor or a big client right so that’s

investor or a big client right so that’s

investor or a big client right so that’s why it became a habit it comes naturally

why it became a habit it comes naturally

why it became a habit it comes naturally and if I can do this you definitely can

and if I can do this you definitely can

and if I can do this you definitely can the biggest difficulty I would say one

the biggest difficulty I would say one

the biggest difficulty I would say one of the biggest difficulties I faced was

of the biggest difficulties I faced was

of the biggest difficulties I faced was actually when I started my business I

actually when I started my business I

actually when I started my business I didn’t really know much about EdTech

didn’t really know much about EdTech

didn’t really know much about EdTech well actually I didn’t really know much

well actually I didn’t really know much

well actually I didn’t really know much about tech or marketing or finance or

about tech or marketing or finance or

about tech or marketing or finance or design or anything else really

design or anything else really

design or anything else really and I had no money right so what did I

and I had no money right so what did I

and I had no money right so what did I do

do

do so initially for the first few months I

so initially for the first few months I

so initially for the first few months I learned I practiced I read I used to

learned I practiced I read I used to

learned I practiced I read I used to stay up all night long doing night long

stay up all night long doing night long

stay up all night long doing night long doing courses online asking people

doing courses online asking people

doing courses online asking people colleagues friends previous employers

colleagues friends previous employers

colleagues friends previous employers anybody who would listen who would

anybody who would listen who would

anybody who would listen who would answer my phone call I was asking them

answer my phone call I was asking them

answer my phone call I was asking them for help and I would just learn

for help and I would just learn

for help and I would just learn practicing for the first few months

practicing for the first few months

practicing for the first few months that’s all I was doing and I did I

that’s all I was doing and I did I

that’s all I was doing and I did I learned design I learned marketing I

learned design I learned marketing I

learned design I learned marketing I learned how to make financial cash flows

learned how to make financial cash flows

learned how to make financial cash flows I learned about a/b testing what is SEO

I learned about a/b testing what is SEO

I learned about a/b testing what is SEO what is API I had no idea and now I’m

what is API I had no idea and now I’m

what is API I had no idea and now I’m doing all these things right so if I can

doing all these things right so if I can

doing all these things right so if I can do this

do this

do this so can you the first logo I designed was

so can you the first logo I designed was

so can you the first logo I designed was myself using a free software online

myself using a free software online

myself using a free software online right and that was good I did it and I

right and that was good I did it and I

right and that was good I did it and I liked it right but I did it the point is

liked it right but I did it the point is

liked it right but I did it the point is that I did it and now I understand these

that I did it and now I understand these

that I did it and now I understand these things I understand marketing and SEO

things I understand marketing and SEO

things I understand marketing and SEO strategies I do a/b testing I prepare

strategies I do a/b testing I prepare

strategies I do a/b testing I prepare financial cash flows and I speak to

financial cash flows and I speak to

financial cash flows and I speak to investors and you know I talk about

investors and you know I talk about

investors and you know I talk about projections and do all these things but

projections and do all these things but

projections and do all these things but this didn’t happen overnight I spent the

this didn’t happen overnight I spent the

this didn’t happen overnight I spent the first few months working really hard and

first few months working really hard and

first few months working really hard and making up for what I didn’t know

making up for what I didn’t know

making up for what I didn’t know realizing what I didn’t know and I had

realizing what I didn’t know and I had

realizing what I didn’t know and I had to keep pushing myself every time it was

to keep pushing myself every time it was

to keep pushing myself every time it was 2:00 a.m. and I just wanted to go to bed

2:00 a.m. and I just wanted to go to bed

2:00 a.m. and I just wanted to go to bed but I knew there was this one more thing

but I knew there was this one more thing

but I knew there was this one more thing I had to do I used to tell myself I can

I had to do I used to tell myself I can

I had to do I used to tell myself I can do this and I will do this so I mean

do this and I will do this so I mean

do this and I will do this so I mean related to design in the beginning all

related to design in the beginning all

related to design in the beginning all the brochures for my company I designed

the brochures for my company I designed

the brochures for my company I designed them myself because I couldn’t afford to

them myself because I couldn’t afford to

them myself because I couldn’t afford to hire a designer and I showed a friend of

hire a designer and I showed a friend of

hire a designer and I showed a friend of mine and he literally laughed and said

mine and he literally laughed and said

mine and he literally laughed and said oh did your five-year-old just mess

oh did your five-year-old just mess

oh did your five-year-old just mess around with the computer and drop these

around with the computer and drop these

around with the computer and drop these things so we laughed about it right and

things so we laughed about it right and

things so we laughed about it right and I said okay fine but I kept learning

I said okay fine but I kept learning

I said okay fine but I kept learning I kept showing those designs to people

I kept showing those designs to people

I kept showing those designs to people learning what do I change where do I put

learning what do I change where do I put

learning what do I change where do I put this how do I do this you know different

this how do I do this you know different

this how do I do this you know different elements in the design on all of that

elements in the design on all of that

elements in the design on all of that and I did get good and I’m not just

and I did get good and I’m not just

and I did get good and I’m not just saying that okay so a few days ago I did

saying that okay so a few days ago I did

saying that okay so a few days ago I did hire a professional designer and they

hire a professional designer and they

hire a professional designer and they were going through some of the older

were going through some of the older

were going through some of the older graphics I made and they said hey that’s

graphics I made and they said hey that’s

graphics I made and they said hey that’s really cool who made that for you and I

really cool who made that for you and I

really cool who made that for you and I said hey that was me I made it right so

said hey that was me I made it right so

said hey that was me I made it right so the thing is you can learn and if I can

the thing is you can learn and if I can

the thing is you can learn and if I can learn how to design you can do you

learn how to design you can do you

learn how to design you can do you really can trust me okay so I mean the

really can trust me okay so I mean the

really can trust me okay so I mean the funny thing is that how people are the

funny thing is that how people are the

funny thing is that how people are the funniest thing actually is how people

funniest thing actually is how people

funniest thing actually is how people react when I walk into the room so my

react when I walk into the room so my

react when I walk into the room so my staff gets a meeting I go to meet a

staff gets a meeting I go to meet a

staff gets a meeting I go to meet a client and I walk into the room and

client and I walk into the room and

client and I walk into the room and literally people just do this like it’s

literally people just do this like it’s

literally people just do this like it’s a physical reaction so you’re the

a physical reaction so you’re the

a physical reaction so you’re the director yes

director yes

director yes the director right but who’s who’s to

the director right but who’s who’s to

the director right but who’s who’s to see oh that’s me

see oh that’s me

see oh that’s me right but oh so who founded the company

right but oh so who founded the company

right but oh so who founded the company that’s really and if they know that I’m

that’s really and if they know that I’m

that’s really and if they know that I’m married then they say all right so but

married then they say all right so but

married then they say all right so but basically this is your husband’s thing

basically this is your husband’s thing

basically this is your husband’s thing right side no it’s mine right so one guy

right side no it’s mine right so one guy

right side no it’s mine right so one guy actually was waiting in his office and

actually was waiting in his office and

actually was waiting in his office and he walked in and he just did this he

he walked in and he just did this he

he walked in and he just did this he literally did this and I said oh sorry

literally did this and I said oh sorry

literally did this and I said oh sorry I’m reacting I usually expect

I’m reacting I usually expect

I’m reacting I usually expect gray-haired old men at this level like

gray-haired old men at this level like

gray-haired old men at this level like that didn’t really make it any better

that didn’t really make it any better

that didn’t really make it any better so I do find that I have to justify my

so I do find that I have to justify my

so I do find that I have to justify my credibility I have to justify the worth

credibility I have to justify the worth

credibility I have to justify the worth of my company and what we’ve set out to

of my company and what we’ve set out to

of my company and what we’ve set out to do more than perhaps if my husband went

do more than perhaps if my husband went

do more than perhaps if my husband went to that meeting room instead of me and I

to that meeting room instead of me and I

to that meeting room instead of me and I could have asked my husband to do it but

could have asked my husband to do it but

could have asked my husband to do it but I said no because I can do this because

I said no because I can do this because

I said no because I can do this because it’s my company as my vision right and

it’s my company as my vision right and

it’s my company as my vision right and if I can do this if I can go out and

if I can do this if I can go out and

if I can do this if I can go out and convince all these people that I can do

convince all these people that I can do

convince all these people that I can do this and I am doing this and deliver

this and I am doing this and deliver

this and I am doing this and deliver something worthwhile every time I do

something worthwhile every time I do

something worthwhile every time I do that every time I convince one person I

that every time I convince one person I

that every time I convince one person I make that little bit of a difference for

make that little bit of a difference for

make that little bit of a difference for all the other women entrepreneurs and

all the other women entrepreneurs and

all the other women entrepreneurs and leaders all over the world right so can

leaders all over the world right so can

leaders all over the world right so can you imagine if I am doing this tiny tiny

you imagine if I am doing this tiny tiny

you imagine if I am doing this tiny tiny little bits if we could all stand up for

little bits if we could all stand up for

little bits if we could all stand up for our ambitions and our passions and just

our ambitions and our passions and just

our ambitions and our passions and just say I can do this and go out and do it

say I can do this and go out and do it

say I can do this and go out and do it that would change the external dialogue

that would change the external dialogue

that would change the external dialogue that would change the external narrative

that would change the external narrative

that would change the external narrative but where is that change going to come

but where is that change going to come

but where is that change going to come from that change is gonna come from

from that change is gonna come from

from that change is gonna come from within saying I can do this so you

within saying I can do this so you

within saying I can do this so you definitely can too but I have to say

definitely can too but I have to say

definitely can too but I have to say that the most difficult for me the most

that the most difficult for me the most

that the most difficult for me the most difficult thing for me was dealing with

difficult thing for me was dealing with

difficult thing for me was dealing with the social expectations the pressure

the social expectations the pressure

the social expectations the pressure which leads to a lack of confidence in

which leads to a lack of confidence in

which leads to a lack of confidence in myself it is really really difficult I

myself it is really really difficult I

myself it is really really difficult I mean there’s no denying it it’s for me

mean there’s no denying it it’s for me

mean there’s no denying it it’s for me was the most difficult thing I have an

was the most difficult thing I have an

was the most difficult thing I have an amazing husband and I have an amazing

amazing husband and I have an amazing

amazing husband and I have an amazing mom and they support me unwaveringly

mom and they support me unwaveringly

mom and they support me unwaveringly right but people will get you down

right but people will get you down

right but people will get you down they will make life so difficult I had

they will make life so difficult I had

they will make life so difficult I had convinced myself

convinced myself

convinced myself that I am a bad mom I convinced myself I

that I am a bad mom I convinced myself I

that I am a bad mom I convinced myself I am a bad wife or a bad daughter right

am a bad wife or a bad daughter right

am a bad wife or a bad daughter right I’m not doing right by these people

I’m not doing right by these people

I’m not doing right by these people maybe I’m doing something wrong

maybe I’m doing something wrong

maybe I’m doing something wrong by running a business and I convinced

by running a business and I convinced

by running a business and I convinced myself of that because of what people

myself of that because of what people

myself of that because of what people said and to deal with that I mean

said and to deal with that I mean

said and to deal with that I mean there’s two things firstly yeah filter

there’s two things firstly yeah filter

there’s two things firstly yeah filter out those people okay you will find out

out those people okay you will find out

out those people okay you will find out who are your true friends and well

who are your true friends and well

who are your true friends and well wishers when you start this journey but

wishers when you start this journey but

wishers when you start this journey but the thing is that once you’ve done that

the thing is that once you’ve done that

the thing is that once you’ve done that it really has to come from within it

it really has to come from within it

it really has to come from within it doesn’t matter who’s supporting you or

doesn’t matter who’s supporting you or

doesn’t matter who’s supporting you or what they’re saying if you keep telling

what they’re saying if you keep telling

what they’re saying if you keep telling yourself I can do this I can be a good

yourself I can do this I can be a good

yourself I can do this I can be a good mom and I can be an entrepreneur and I

mom and I can be an entrepreneur and I

mom and I can be an entrepreneur and I can make a profit on this business right

can make a profit on this business right

can make a profit on this business right I can make the next big sale then you

I can make the next big sale then you

I can make the next big sale then you will end up doing and I will end up

will end up doing and I will end up

will end up doing and I will end up happening so I mean I look at all these

happening so I mean I look at all these

happening so I mean I look at all these I’ve heard that people say that there is

I’ve heard that people say that there is

I’ve heard that people say that there is a lack of women entrepreneurs or lack of

a lack of women entrepreneurs or lack of

a lack of women entrepreneurs or lack of role models for women but seriously when

role models for women but seriously when

role models for women but seriously when you start out the journey let’s not even

you start out the journey let’s not even

you start out the journey let’s not even think about the big names right in my

think about the big names right in my

think about the big names right in my journey in the last three months four

journey in the last three months four

journey in the last three months four months in Pakistan I have met the most

months in Pakistan I have met the most

months in Pakistan I have met the most amazing and inspiring women and they’re

amazing and inspiring women and they’re

amazing and inspiring women and they’re all around us you don’t have to go far

all around us you don’t have to go far

all around us you don’t have to go far right the inspiration is there the role

right the inspiration is there the role

right the inspiration is there the role models are there and there are people

models are there and there are people

models are there and there are people out there working all you have to do is

out there working all you have to do is

out there working all you have to do is actually say yes I can go out and you

actually say yes I can go out and you

actually say yes I can go out and you will find them okay so we all have

will find them okay so we all have

will find them okay so we all have dreams but sometimes we just need to

dreams but sometimes we just need to

dreams but sometimes we just need to believe that we can make those dreams

believe that we can make those dreams

believe that we can make those dreams happen and after listening to my story I

happen and after listening to my story I

happen and after listening to my story I mean really there will be ups and downs

mean really there will be ups and downs

mean really there will be ups and downs it will be really really difficult and

it will be really really difficult and

it will be really really difficult and you will have to work really hard your

you will have to work really hard your

you will have to work really hard your final exams don’t even come near it okay

final exams don’t even come near it okay

final exams don’t even come near it okay so if you think you know what hard is

so if you think you know what hard is

so if you think you know what hard is it’s not hard okay so it is gonna get

it’s not hard okay so it is gonna get

it’s not hard okay so it is gonna get really hard but always when it gets

really hard but always when it gets

really hard but always when it gets really tough just think of me today on

really tough just think of me today on

really tough just think of me today on the stage and just think if I can do it

the stage and just think if I can do it

the stage and just think if I can do it you can do it thank you