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I Couldn’t Turn my Back on my Motherland, Heritage and Another Child | Caroline Ticarro | TEDxUMN


I am Vietnamese I was born in Saigon in

I am Vietnamese I was born in Saigon in 1970 and also a child of a war the first

1970 and also a child of a war the first

1970 and also a child of a war the first four years of my childhood was during

four years of my childhood was during

four years of my childhood was during the end of the Vietnam War and two

the end of the Vietnam War and two

the end of the Vietnam War and two million Vietnamese people had already

million Vietnamese people had already

million Vietnamese people had already been killed I am a refugee

been killed I am a refugee

been killed I am a refugee today 42 years ago my parents chose to

today 42 years ago my parents chose to

today 42 years ago my parents chose to escape the only home that my brothers

escape the only home that my brothers

escape the only home that my brothers and I had ever known

and I had ever known

and I had ever known we traveled by boat to the Philippines

we traveled by boat to the Philippines

we traveled by boat to the Philippines and landed in a refugee camp and waited

and landed in a refugee camp and waited

and landed in a refugee camp and waited there with hundreds and thousands of

there with hundreds and thousands of

there with hundreds and thousands of other Vietnamese people waited for a

other Vietnamese people waited for a

other Vietnamese people waited for a country to open its door to accept us a

few months afterwards we were sponsored

few months afterwards we were sponsored by a loving community here in

by a loving community here in

by a loving community here in Minneapolis I am American we were able

Minneapolis I am American we were able

Minneapolis I am American we were able to have the opportunity to live the

to have the opportunity to live the

to have the opportunity to live the American dream and exactly 23 years

American dream and exactly 23 years

American dream and exactly 23 years after I came to Minnesota I went back to

after I came to Minnesota I went back to

after I came to Minnesota I went back to become a mother with the adoption of my

become a mother with the adoption of my

become a mother with the adoption of my twin girls they are beautiful they are

twin girls they are beautiful they are

twin girls they are beautiful they are strong and they wanted to leave a legacy

strong and they wanted to leave a legacy

strong and they wanted to leave a legacy for them I was really sad though I saw

for them I was really sad though I saw

for them I was really sad though I saw all the children that couldn’t be

all the children that couldn’t be

all the children that couldn’t be adopted and I wanted to help them I

adopted and I wanted to help them I

adopted and I wanted to help them I certainly didn’t know how to do it but I

certainly didn’t know how to do it but I

certainly didn’t know how to do it but I knew that I couldn’t turn my back on my

knew that I couldn’t turn my back on my

knew that I couldn’t turn my back on my motherland on my heritage and on another

motherland on my heritage and on another

motherland on my heritage and on another child so six months after they came home

child so six months after they came home

child so six months after they came home I started catalysts foundation with the

I started catalysts foundation with the

I started catalysts foundation with the sole intention of helping orphanages

sole intention of helping orphanages

sole intention of helping orphanages just when they needed something late one

just when they needed something late one

just when they needed something late one night doing laundry a lot of laundry

night doing laundry a lot of laundry

night doing laundry a lot of laundry I was watching a news show on a story

I was watching a news show on a story

I was watching a news show on a story about children in the brothels of

about children in the brothels of

about children in the brothels of Cambodia and I was clueless I saw that

Cambodia and I was clueless I saw that

Cambodia and I was clueless I saw that the children that were being brought out

the children that were being brought out

the children that were being brought out for the customers to choose from were

for the customers to choose from were

for the customers to choose from were children but not only Cambodian but

children but not only Cambodian but

children but not only Cambodian but Vietnamese

Vietnamese

Vietnamese and they’re as young as eight five here

and they’re as young as eight five here

and they’re as young as eight five here are the facts they’re in 2016 there are

are the facts they’re in 2016 there are

are the facts they’re in 2016 there are 46 million victims of human trafficking

46 million victims of human trafficking

46 million victims of human trafficking that is the entire population of Canada

that is the entire population of Canada

that is the entire population of Canada and Scandinavia it affects every

and Scandinavia it affects every

and Scandinavia it affects every continent every country every economy

continent every country every economy

continent every country every economy including here in the United States the

including here in the United States the

including here in the United States the average cost of a slave 90 dollars

average cost of a slave 90 dollars

average cost of a slave 90 dollars traffickers are profiting a hundred and

traffickers are profiting a hundred and

traffickers are profiting a hundred and fifty billion dollars a year from

fifty billion dollars a year from

fifty billion dollars a year from children women boys girls

sleepless nights a lot of crying I

sleepless nights a lot of crying I realized two things first I actually

realized two things first I actually

realized two things first I actually can’t stop human trafficking second the

can’t stop human trafficking second the

can’t stop human trafficking second the children that were being taken were most

children that were being taken were most

children that were being taken were most likely the poorest the uneducated and

likely the poorest the uneducated and

likely the poorest the uneducated and the illiterate and I knew I can do

the illiterate and I knew I can do

the illiterate and I knew I can do something about that so we started

something about that so we started

something about that so we started working with victims of human

working with victims of human

working with victims of human trafficking and after I learned their

trafficking and after I learned their

trafficking and after I learned their struggles I got mad I was tired of being

struggles I got mad I was tired of being

struggles I got mad I was tired of being sad and I wanted to do something

sad and I wanted to do something

sad and I wanted to do something I met families that have lived and

I met families that have lived and

I met families that have lived and raised their families and a garbage dump

raised their families and a garbage dump

raised their families and a garbage dump I met grandparents who sold their

I met grandparents who sold their

I met grandparents who sold their kidneys for $15 just to feed their

kidneys for $15 just to feed their

kidneys for $15 just to feed their family that month

I’ve cried with a father who unknowingly

I’ve cried with a father who unknowingly sold his daughter for $50 to a brothel

sold his daughter for $50 to a brothel

sold his daughter for $50 to a brothel owner that tricked him not because he

owner that tricked him not because he

owner that tricked him not because he wanted to but because he thought that he

wanted to but because he thought that he

wanted to but because he thought that he would be safe

I have hug children that have never had

I have hug children that have never had a full stomach that have learned how to

a full stomach that have learned how to

a full stomach that have learned how to work before they learn how to read and

work before they learn how to read and

work before they learn how to read and at this point I could have walked away I

at this point I could have walked away I

at this point I could have walked away I could have said enough is enough but how

could have said enough is enough but how

could have said enough is enough but how do you do that how do I look at my

do you do that how do I look at my

do you do that how do I look at my children and know that the reason they

children and know that the reason they

children and know that the reason they were brought to an orphanage was because

were brought to an orphanage was because

were brought to an orphanage was because of poverty and then do nothing about it

of poverty and then do nothing about it

of poverty and then do nothing about it what would you have done this is say say

what would you have done this is say say

what would you have done this is say say spends three hours in the morning and

spends three hours in the morning and

spends three hours in the morning and three hours in the afternoon to get a

three hours in the afternoon to get a

three hours in the afternoon to get a bucket of water to get two buckets of

bucket of water to get two buckets of

bucket of water to get two buckets of water for her family she walks up to the

water for her family she walks up to the

water for her family she walks up to the nearest waterfall in the jungle to bring

nearest waterfall in the jungle to bring

nearest waterfall in the jungle to bring him home this is her daughter Dao Dao is

him home this is her daughter Dao Dao is

him home this is her daughter Dao Dao is nine years old when we met her she had

nine years old when we met her she had

nine years old when we met her she had never gone to school and her mom was

never gone to school and her mom was

never gone to school and her mom was desperate for any sort of income to come

desperate for any sort of income to come

desperate for any sort of income to come into the family and she said why don’t

into the family and she said why don’t

into the family and she said why don’t you work for the nice lady that has a

you work for the nice lady that has a

you work for the nice lady that has a coffee shop in the next town

this is dows little brother he is a

this is dows little brother he is a cowboy he’s five years old and for us

cowboy he’s five years old and for us

cowboy he’s five years old and for us that means he’s following cows and water

that means he’s following cows and water

that means he’s following cows and water buffaloes all day long

buffaloes all day long

buffaloes all day long collecting their dung bringing it home

collecting their dung bringing it home

collecting their dung bringing it home drying it and selling it back to farmers

drying it and selling it back to farmers

drying it and selling it back to farmers for fertilizer he’s working eight hours

for fertilizer he’s working eight hours

for fertilizer he’s working eight hours a day to earn 25 cents

a day to earn 25 cents

a day to earn 25 cents at the age of five this is their baby

at the age of five this is their baby

at the age of five this is their baby sister she’s only a few months old our

sister she’s only a few months old our

sister she’s only a few months old our volunteer doctors just told me last

volunteer doctors just told me last

volunteer doctors just told me last month

month

month that she has an untreated hernia from a

that she has an untreated hernia from a

that she has an untreated hernia from a home delivery but only because she was

home delivery but only because she was

home delivery but only because she was not allowed to go to the Hospitals and

not allowed to go to the Hospitals and

not allowed to go to the Hospitals and Clinics because of the color of their

Clinics because of the color of their

Clinics because of the color of their skin this is their twig home it is no

skin this is their twig home it is no

skin this is their twig home it is no bigger than twice the size of the rug I

bigger than twice the size of the rug I

bigger than twice the size of the rug I stand on there’s no running water

stand on there’s no running water

stand on there’s no running water there’s no bathroom there’s no floor and

there’s no bathroom there’s no floor and

there’s no bathroom there’s no floor and there’s no kitchen this could have been

there’s no kitchen this could have been

there’s no kitchen this could have been my life this could have been my

my life this could have been my

my life this could have been my children’s life and what if it had been

children’s life and what if it had been

children’s life and what if it had been your life khalasar

your life khalasar

your life khalasar grown and changed a lot over the last 18

grown and changed a lot over the last 18

grown and changed a lot over the last 18 years we’ve moved from helping

years we’ve moved from helping

years we’ve moved from helping orphanages to helping victims of child

orphanages to helping victims of child

orphanages to helping victims of child of child and human trafficking to now

of child and human trafficking to now

of child and human trafficking to now helping communities we currently work

helping communities we currently work

helping communities we currently work with a community of ethnic minorities

with a community of ethnic minorities

with a community of ethnic minorities that are the 52nd smallest in Vietnam

that are the 52nd smallest in Vietnam

that are the 52nd smallest in Vietnam and they have been denied the

and they have been denied the

and they have been denied the opportunity ten anything to have any

opportunity ten anything to have any

opportunity ten anything to have any basic human rights because they make up

basic human rights because they make up

basic human rights because they make up less than 1% of the population we have

less than 1% of the population we have

less than 1% of the population we have holistic solutions that work we know

holistic solutions that work we know

holistic solutions that work we know that if you focus on the education of a

that if you focus on the education of a

that if you focus on the education of a child teacher to read you teach your

child teacher to read you teach your

child teacher to read you teach your parents that education is valuable and

parents that education is valuable and

parents that education is valuable and that their community deserves to have

that their community deserves to have

that their community deserves to have everything that they need then they will

everything that they need then they will

everything that they need then they will make a difference and they will have

make a difference and they will have

make a difference and they will have some hope I truly truly believe that if

some hope I truly truly believe that if

some hope I truly truly believe that if you educate a girl to read she can tell

you educate a girl to read she can tell

you educate a girl to read she can tell me where she is when she’s taken when

me where she is when she’s taken when

me where she is when she’s taken when she’s lost at the next coffee shop or

she’s lost at the next coffee shop or

she’s lost at the next coffee shop or the beauty shop before she sold for cuts

the beauty shop before she sold for cuts

the beauty shop before she sold for cuts to her first customer for sex when you

to her first customer for sex when you

to her first customer for sex when you educate a child that his life is more

educate a child that his life is more

educate a child that his life is more than collecting cow dung that he can

than collecting cow dung that he can

than collecting cow dung that he can grow up to be a farmer owned is on land

grow up to be a farmer owned is on land

grow up to be a farmer owned is on land feed his family and his neighbor’s when

feed his family and his neighbor’s when

feed his family and his neighbor’s when you educate a family that education is

you educate a family that education is

you educate a family that education is the way to break the cycle of poverty

the way to break the cycle of poverty

the way to break the cycle of poverty she will understand that she has and

she will understand that she has and

she will understand that she has and deserves the right to have water enough

deserves the right to have water enough

deserves the right to have water enough water to drink cook and bathe that their

water to drink cook and bathe that their

water to drink cook and bathe that their children have the right to have full

children have the right to have full

children have the right to have full stomachs so they that they can thrive

stomachs so they that they can thrive

stomachs so they that they can thrive and reach their full potential and that

and reach their full potential and that

and reach their full potential and that they have the right to basic medical and

they have the right to basic medical and

they have the right to basic medical and dental care so that they can survive a

dental care so that they can survive a

dental care so that they can survive a basic simple tooth infection

and when you bring volunteers from all

and when you bring volunteers from all over the world to come work with them

over the world to come work with them

over the world to come work with them sand by side by side with them play with

sand by side by side with them play with

sand by side by side with them play with them and just hold their hands like this

them and just hold their hands like this

them and just hold their hands like this group of volunteers that built a

group of volunteers that built a

group of volunteers that built a playground in four days then the

playground in four days then the

playground in four days then the community will understand that their

community will understand that their

community will understand that their world is bigger than their backyard and

world is bigger than their backyard and

world is bigger than their backyard and that they had the right to be counted

that they had the right to be counted

that they had the right to be counted Dow will nine year old is now in eighth

Dow will nine year old is now in eighth

Dow will nine year old is now in eighth grade she loves school and wants to go

grade she loves school and wants to go

grade she loves school and wants to go to high school and university her little

to high school and university her little

to high school and university her little brother is still a cowboy but for fun

brother is still a cowboy but for fun

brother is still a cowboy but for fun his favorite subject is math their mom

his favorite subject is math their mom

his favorite subject is math their mom doesn’t have to spend six hours to get

doesn’t have to spend six hours to get

doesn’t have to spend six hours to get water any more because we installed

water any more because we installed

water any more because we installed water pipes to their homes

water pipes to their homes

water pipes to their homes and now she can stay home take care of

and now she can stay home take care of

and now she can stay home take care of the kids feed their family and also go

the kids feed their family and also go

the kids feed their family and also go to our vocational training class we know

to our vocational training class we know

to our vocational training class we know that when you give a child back her

that when you give a child back her

that when you give a child back her dignity her smile comes back and she

dignity her smile comes back and she

dignity her smile comes back and she will no longer be the victims we also

will no longer be the victims we also

will no longer be the victims we also know that if you stick with it not only

know that if you stick with it not only

know that if you stick with it not only stay mad and stay sad but if you stick

stay mad and stay sad but if you stick

stay mad and stay sad but if you stick with it it makes a difference

with it it makes a difference

with it it makes a difference I started kalos foundation to leave a

I started kalos foundation to leave a

I started kalos foundation to leave a legacy for my children and to help the

legacy for my children and to help the

legacy for my children and to help the children that I thought I should adopt

children that I thought I should adopt

children that I thought I should adopt but with the support and love from my

but with the support and love from my

but with the support and love from my daughters and my best friends I know

daughters and my best friends I know

daughters and my best friends I know that I’m making it they’re friends and

that I’m making it they’re friends and

that I’m making it they’re friends and if I can make a difference in a small

if I can make a difference in a small

if I can make a difference in a small rural village in Vietnam you can make a

rural village in Vietnam you can make a

rural village in Vietnam you can make a difference

difference

difference I am Vietnamese I am a child of a war I

I am Vietnamese I am a child of a war I

I am Vietnamese I am a child of a war I am a refugee I am American I am a mother

am a refugee I am American I am a mother

am a refugee I am American I am a mother I am a catalyst and you are the catalyst

I am a catalyst and you are the catalyst

I am a catalyst and you are the catalyst for hope

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