hey thanks good morning good morning picture this
picture this
picture this I’m sick it’s my birthday and I opened
I’m sick it’s my birthday and I opened
I’m sick it’s my birthday and I opened this Easy Bake Oven which in a house of
this Easy Bake Oven which in a house of
this Easy Bake Oven which in a house of five kids and thirty grand a year we
five kids and thirty grand a year we
five kids and thirty grand a year we know this is a total grandma level
know this is a total grandma level
know this is a total grandma level present it’s beautiful it’s pink it’s
present it’s beautiful it’s pink it’s
present it’s beautiful it’s pink it’s got a nice light bulb and my sister Kate
got a nice light bulb and my sister Kate
got a nice light bulb and my sister Kate who’s eight at the time she comes up and
who’s eight at the time she comes up and
who’s eight at the time she comes up and she’s really watching the process and
she’s really watching the process and
she’s really watching the process and she’s digging into how everything works
she’s digging into how everything works
she’s digging into how everything works and 45 minutes later I’m meeting my
and 45 minutes later I’m meeting my
and 45 minutes later I’m meeting my brownie and she walks up to me and she
brownie and she walks up to me and she
brownie and she walks up to me and she looks me and my six-year-old eyes and
looks me and my six-year-old eyes and
looks me and my six-year-old eyes and she says I can produce better results
she says I can produce better results
she says I can produce better results faster she then proceeds to source all
faster she then proceeds to source all
faster she then proceeds to source all of the candles and boxes and tinfoil and
of the candles and boxes and tinfoil and
of the candles and boxes and tinfoil and anything she can find to create her own
anything she can find to create her own
anything she can find to create her own Easy Bake Oven 20 minutes later she’s
Easy Bake Oven 20 minutes later she’s
Easy Bake Oven 20 minutes later she’s eating her brownie I’m crying saying I
eating her brownie I’m crying saying I
eating her brownie I’m crying saying I don’t like brownies anyway since Kate
don’t like brownies anyway since Kate
don’t like brownies anyway since Kate was really little she had this idea of
was really little she had this idea of
was really little she had this idea of the world that if she wanted something
the world that if she wanted something
the world that if she wanted something she could create it which is why I the
she could create it which is why I the
she could create it which is why I the little sister I got to grow up as a
little sister I got to grow up as a
little sister I got to grow up as a human guinea pig I won point at
human guinea pig I won point at
human guinea pig I won point at literally one point Kate the broomy on a
literally one point Kate the broomy on a
literally one point Kate the broomy on a trampoline tied lines and sheets to me
trampoline tied lines and sheets to me
trampoline tied lines and sheets to me on a very windy day and turned me into a
on a very windy day and turned me into a
on a very windy day and turned me into a mini paraglider I think the worst was
mini paraglider I think the worst was
mini paraglider I think the worst was when I woke up from a concussion
when I woke up from a concussion
when I woke up from a concussion Kate leaning over me looking down saying
Kate leaning over me looking down saying
Kate leaning over me looking down saying out loud is she dead
out loud is she dead
out loud is she dead I promise our talk is not all about the
I promise our talk is not all about the
I promise our talk is not all about the ways to torture your younger siblings
ways to torture your younger siblings
ways to torture your younger siblings but what these stories really show is
but what these stories really show is
but what these stories really show is that we were lucky not just lucky to
that we were lucky not just lucky to
that we were lucky not just lucky to still be alive we were lucky to grow up
still be alive we were lucky to grow up
still be alive we were lucky to grow up in a home where we could take risks we
in a home where we could take risks we
in a home where we could take risks we could make bold ambitious declarations
could make bold ambitious declarations
could make bold ambitious declarations build new things and embrace whatever
build new things and embrace whatever
build new things and embrace whatever messy results that followed yes there
messy results that followed yes there
messy results that followed yes there were some bumps and bruises along the
were some bumps and bruises along the
were some bumps and bruises along the way and some concussions and maybe some
way and some concussions and maybe some
way and some concussions and maybe some knocked out front teeth but we were so
knocked out front teeth but we were so
knocked out front teeth but we were so lucky that no matter what our crazy
lucky that no matter what our crazy
lucky that no matter what our crazy ideas we had a safe place to explore
ideas we had a safe place to explore
ideas we had a safe place to explore them when we were little
them when we were little
them when we were little our ideas were valuable until proven
our ideas were valuable until proven
our ideas were valuable until proven otherwise this is a far cry from the
otherwise this is a far cry from the
otherwise this is a far cry from the workforce and the world that we all find
workforce and the world that we all find
workforce and the world that we all find ourselves in today it seems like every
ourselves in today it seems like every
ourselves in today it seems like every day at work you are more likely to be
day at work you are more likely to be
day at work you are more likely to be underestimated and undervalued than to
underestimated and undervalued than to
underestimated and undervalued than to have your ideas and your goals taken
have your ideas and your goals taken
have your ideas and your goals taken seriously this can have a huge impact on
seriously this can have a huge impact on
seriously this can have a huge impact on how you see yourself and your ambition
how you see yourself and your ambition
how you see yourself and your ambition but the good news is the opposite is
but the good news is the opposite is
but the good news is the opposite is also true
also true
also true when people are assumed to be valuable
when people are assumed to be valuable
when people are assumed to be valuable they often rise to the occasion we see
they often rise to the occasion we see
they often rise to the occasion we see so many examples of this in the research
so many examples of this in the research
so many examples of this in the research and in life my favorite example
and in life my favorite example
and in life my favorite example especially because this is one of our
especially because this is one of our
especially because this is one of our grandmother’s that was the Rosie the
grandmother’s that was the Rosie the
grandmother’s that was the Rosie the Riveter we actually have both
Riveter we actually have both
Riveter we actually have both grandmothers that were Rosie the
grandmothers that were Rosie the
grandmothers that were Rosie the riveters women before the war
riveters women before the war
riveters women before the war we’re told that they should stay home or
we’re told that they should stay home or
we’re told that they should stay home or take a handful of women’s jobs and yet
take a handful of women’s jobs and yet
take a handful of women’s jobs and yet during the war women were told they were
during the war women were told they were
during the war women were told they were capable of helping the United States win
capable of helping the United States win
capable of helping the United States win the war they went from 1% of the
the war they went from 1% of the
the war they went from 1% of the aircraft industry to 65% of that
aircraft industry to 65% of that
aircraft industry to 65% of that workforce in just a few short years they
workforce in just a few short years they
workforce in just a few short years they told themselves that we can do it and
told themselves that we can do it and
told themselves that we can do it and they did being given the space to take
they did being given the space to take
they did being given the space to take risks and knowing what you’re capable of
risks and knowing what you’re capable of
risks and knowing what you’re capable of can change your life and we understand
can change your life and we understand
can change your life and we understand that this sense of possibility it might
that this sense of possibility it might
that this sense of possibility it might be foreign to a lot of you particularly
be foreign to a lot of you particularly
be foreign to a lot of you particularly if you’ve joined a workforce that has
if you’ve joined a workforce that has
if you’ve joined a workforce that has made it their personal mission to beat
made it their personal mission to beat
made it their personal mission to beat the optimism out of you or as one of my
the optimism out of you or as one of my
the optimism out of you or as one of my former bosses used to jokingly say the
former bosses used to jokingly say the
former bosses used to jokingly say the beatings will continue until morale
beatings will continue until morale
beatings will continue until morale improve but honestly what frustrates us
improve but honestly what frustrates us
improve but honestly what frustrates us so much is that we live in this time
so much is that we live in this time
so much is that we live in this time where there has never been more
where there has never been more
where there has never been more potential we have all of this technology
potential we have all of this technology
potential we have all of this technology and the sense of connectedness and yet
and the sense of connectedness and yet
and the sense of connectedness and yet there has never been a time where there
there has never been a time where there
there has never been a time where there is more portals for people to shoot you
is more portals for people to shoot you
is more portals for people to shoot you down or make you feel invaluable and it
down or make you feel invaluable and it
down or make you feel invaluable and it is not just that people say mean things
is not just that people say mean things
is not just that people say mean things right
right
right we all have thick skin you have thick
we all have thick skin you have thick
we all have thick skin you have thick skin
skin
skin what’s really heartbreaking is that
what’s really heartbreaking is that
what’s really heartbreaking is that people are actually under estimating
people are actually under estimating
people are actually under estimating each other that means that they think
each other that means that they think
each other that means that they think you are lower in value or influence or
you are lower in value or influence or
you are lower in value or influence or ability than you actually are we all
ability than you actually are we all
ability than you actually are we all know what this feels like you could be
know what this feels like you could be
know what this feels like you could be the youngest guy at a company where you
the youngest guy at a company where you
the youngest guy at a company where you are the new kid until you have been
are the new kid until you have been
are the new kid until you have been there for 10 years
there for 10 years
there for 10 years or you might be the only woman in the
or you might be the only woman in the
or you might be the only woman in the room at all like my friends who said if
room at all like my friends who said if
room at all like my friends who said if I lean any further in I will fall over
I lean any further in I will fall over
I lean any further in I will fall over and she was still not getting that
and she was still not getting that
and she was still not getting that promotion or maybe you just don’t look
promotion or maybe you just don’t look
promotion or maybe you just don’t look like any of the leadership in your
like any of the leadership in your
like any of the leadership in your organization we feel this on a really
organization we feel this on a really
organization we feel this on a really personal level I don’t know if you’ve
personal level I don’t know if you’ve
personal level I don’t know if you’ve noticed but Kate and I we are both women
noticed but Kate and I we are both women
noticed but Kate and I we are both women and if that’s not enough we have worked
and if that’s not enough we have worked
and if that’s not enough we have worked in very male-dominated spaces so it’s
in very male-dominated spaces so it’s
in very male-dominated spaces so it’s something that we’ve felt almost on a
something that we’ve felt almost on a
something that we’ve felt almost on a daily basis and the funniest part about
daily basis and the funniest part about
daily basis and the funniest part about what she just said is that it still
what she just said is that it still
what she just said is that it still catches me off guard I I was jet sitting
catches me off guard I I was jet sitting
catches me off guard I I was jet sitting around for work the other day I rocked
around for work the other day I rocked
around for work the other day I rocked all my meetings I came home at 2:00 in
all my meetings I came home at 2:00 in
all my meetings I came home at 2:00 in the morning on a red-eye feeling
the morning on a red-eye feeling
the morning on a red-eye feeling exhausted and feeling so good about my
exhausted and feeling so good about my
exhausted and feeling so good about my life and my abilities and the next
life and my abilities and the next
life and my abilities and the next morning I go into the dry cleaner I hand
morning I go into the dry cleaner I hand
morning I go into the dry cleaner I hand this woman my suit and she looks at me
this woman my suit and she looks at me
this woman my suit and she looks at me and she says does he like his shirt
and she says does he like his shirt
and she says does he like his shirt starch and I went from feeling like I
starch and I went from feeling like I
starch and I went from feeling like I was on top of the world to feeling like
was on top of the world to feeling like
was on top of the world to feeling like my own dry cleaner does not take me
my own dry cleaner does not take me
my own dry cleaner does not take me seriously because of how I look and I
seriously because of how I look and I
seriously because of how I look and I get it
get it
get it I might not look like the typical
I might not look like the typical
I might not look like the typical emergency manager and she might not look
emergency manager and she might not look
emergency manager and she might not look like the typical ship captain and you
like the typical ship captain and you
like the typical ship captain and you might not look like the typical CEO so
might not look like the typical CEO so
might not look like the typical CEO so guess what you should all probably just
guess what you should all probably just
guess what you should all probably just start expecting to be underestimated
start expecting to be underestimated
start expecting to be underestimated and I’m not saying that’s right it’s
and I’m not saying that’s right it’s
and I’m not saying that’s right it’s actually really unfair and it’s awful
actually really unfair and it’s awful
actually really unfair and it’s awful but as long as you believe that being
but as long as you believe that being
but as long as you believe that being underestimated doesn’t change your real
underestimated doesn’t change your real
underestimated doesn’t change your real value or influence or ability which also
value or influence or ability which also
value or influence or ability which also means that being underestimated isn’t
means that being underestimated isn’t
means that being underestimated isn’t the whole problem it is not the whole
the whole problem it is not the whole
the whole problem it is not the whole problem the problem is what you let it
problem the problem is what you let it
problem the problem is what you let it do to you and in a time when everyone is
do to you and in a time when everyone is
do to you and in a time when everyone is I’m hitting everyone else I know that
I’m hitting everyone else I know that
I’m hitting everyone else I know that owning your value can feel like a
owning your value can feel like a
owning your value can feel like a rebellious act but owning your value can
rebellious act but owning your value can
rebellious act but owning your value can also put you so far ahead of the curve
also put you so far ahead of the curve
also put you so far ahead of the curve because when you’re different you have a
because when you’re different you have a
because when you’re different you have a spotlight and you can let that spotlight
spotlight and you can let that spotlight
spotlight and you can let that spotlight shine on you and it can make you feel
shine on you and it can make you feel
shine on you and it can make you feel really small or you can walk into that
really small or you can walk into that
really small or you can walk into that spotlight and use it to have your ideas
spotlight and use it to have your ideas
spotlight and use it to have your ideas heard this isn’t easy this actually
heard this isn’t easy this actually
heard this isn’t easy this actually takes a lot of practice and
takes a lot of practice and
takes a lot of practice and determination and grit but you can do it
determination and grit but you can do it
determination and grit but you can do it because the ambition and goals they come
because the ambition and goals they come
because the ambition and goals they come with risk and while you may not have
with risk and while you may not have
with risk and while you may not have grown up an environment that embraces
grown up an environment that embraces
grown up an environment that embraces either of those things we still want you
either of those things we still want you
either of those things we still want you to be successful right now and so we
to be successful right now and so we
to be successful right now and so we have compiled three messages from our
have compiled three messages from our
have compiled three messages from our mother if you want to succeed when
mother if you want to succeed when
mother if you want to succeed when you’re underestimated message number one
you’re underestimated message number one
you’re underestimated message number one you yes you can do anything that you set
you yes you can do anything that you set
you yes you can do anything that you set your mind to and it can be something big
your mind to and it can be something big
your mind to and it can be something big or it can be something that’s really
or it can be something that’s really
or it can be something that’s really tough or god forbid we set our minds to
tough or god forbid we set our minds to
tough or god forbid we set our minds to doing something that we actually like to
doing something that we actually like to
doing something that we actually like to do if I can literally start in a teeny
do if I can literally start in a teeny
do if I can literally start in a teeny tiny town in the Midwest learn how to
tiny town in the Midwest learn how to
tiny town in the Midwest learn how to captain a boat a hundred foot boat
captain a boat a hundred foot boat
captain a boat a hundred foot boat across an ocean
across an ocean
across an ocean fixa diesel engine and then end up
fixa diesel engine and then end up
fixa diesel engine and then end up running a crew of sailors in Egypt I
running a crew of sailors in Egypt I
running a crew of sailors in Egypt I think you guys can also do anything that
think you guys can also do anything that
think you guys can also do anything that you want but we’ve got to set our minds
you want but we’ve got to set our minds
you want but we’ve got to set our minds to it when we started talking about this
to it when we started talking about this
to it when we started talking about this topic of being underestimated at work
topic of being underestimated at work
topic of being underestimated at work the stories literally poured in and one
the stories literally poured in and one
the stories literally poured in and one message became very clear the mindset of
message became very clear the mindset of
message became very clear the mindset of those who were underestimated and
those who were underestimated and
those who were underestimated and succeeded was very different than the
succeeded was very different than the
succeeded was very different than the mindset of those who were underestimated
mindset of those who were underestimated
mindset of those who were underestimated and felt stuck our friend put it simply
and felt stuck our friend put it simply
and felt stuck our friend put it simply I’m young I’m short I’m Indian and I’m a
I’m young I’m short I’m Indian and I’m a
I’m young I’m short I’m Indian and I’m a woman
woman
woman she said you don’t think every single
she said you don’t think every single
she said you don’t think every single time I walk into a room full of clients
time I walk into a room full of clients
time I walk into a room full of clients they don’t look around like who is this
they don’t look around like who is this
they don’t look around like who is this girl telling us what to do
girl telling us what to do
girl telling us what to do and she’s crushing it in the tech
and she’s crushing it in the tech
and she’s crushing it in the tech industry by the way and what was
industry by the way and what was
industry by the way and what was interesting about
interesting about
interesting about she handled the problem was it was quite
she handled the problem was it was quite
she handled the problem was it was quite simple she actually externalize the
simple she actually externalize the
simple she actually externalize the issue saying their opinion of my ability
issue saying their opinion of my ability
issue saying their opinion of my ability is actually based on zero facts no
is actually based on zero facts no
is actually based on zero facts no ability whatsoever they know nothing
ability whatsoever they know nothing
ability whatsoever they know nothing about me and she would put that garbage
about me and she would put that garbage
about me and she would put that garbage intentionally to the side and she would
intentionally to the side and she would
intentionally to the side and she would focus on getting the job done because
focus on getting the job done because
focus on getting the job done because she knew that she could people that are
she knew that she could people that are
she knew that she could people that are succeeding when their us underestimated
succeeding when their us underestimated
succeeding when their us underestimated our believing in themselves and focusing
our believing in themselves and focusing
our believing in themselves and focusing on what they want not what they don’t
on what they want not what they don’t
on what they want not what they don’t want you have to focus on what you want
want you have to focus on what you want
want you have to focus on what you want versus what makes you feel comfortable
versus what makes you feel comfortable
versus what makes you feel comfortable are you focusing on the jerk in the
are you focusing on the jerk in the
are you focusing on the jerk in the corner of your office that’s making you
corner of your office that’s making you
corner of your office that’s making you feel small and insignificant or are you
feel small and insignificant or are you
feel small and insignificant or are you focusing and finding that great leader
focusing and finding that great leader
focusing and finding that great leader that’s in front of you that you can
that’s in front of you that you can
that’s in front of you that you can learn everything from are we focusing on
learn everything from are we focusing on
learn everything from are we focusing on how we’re gonna get shot down when we
how we’re gonna get shot down when we
how we’re gonna get shot down when we walk into negotiate our salary or are we
walk into negotiate our salary or are we
walk into negotiate our salary or are we focusing on how great it is finally
focusing on how great it is finally
focusing on how great it is finally going to feel to find a company that
going to feel to find a company that
going to feel to find a company that appreciates our value because we our
appreciates our value because we our
appreciates our value because we our valuable you’ve got to set your mind as
valuable you’ve got to set your mind as
valuable you’ve got to set your mind as a first step on what she wants and get
a first step on what she wants and get
a first step on what she wants and get rid of all that other junk and focus on
rid of all that other junk and focus on
rid of all that other junk and focus on what you want as a first step and that
what you want as a first step and that
what you want as a first step and that brings us to point number two message
brings us to point number two message
brings us to point number two message number two I’m doing it anyway
number two I’m doing it anyway
number two I’m doing it anyway when we were little my mom had five kids
when we were little my mom had five kids
when we were little my mom had five kids and my dad had five kids
and my dad had five kids
and my dad had five kids yes we’re we’re all around the kitchen
yes we’re we’re all around the kitchen
yes we’re we’re all around the kitchen table and my mom is teaching me how to
table and my mom is teaching me how to
table and my mom is teaching me how to write my ABCs so we’re practicing our
write my ABCs so we’re practicing our
write my ABCs so we’re practicing our letters and my sister over here who is
letters and my sister over here who is
letters and my sister over here who is two at the time she keeps coming up and
two at the time she keeps coming up and
two at the time she keeps coming up and interrupting us and my mom is like
interrupting us and my mom is like
interrupting us and my mom is like nicely dismissing her you know and my
nicely dismissing her you know and my
nicely dismissing her you know and my sister guess what she doesn’t like to be
sister guess what she doesn’t like to be
sister guess what she doesn’t like to be dismissed very much and so Amanda
dismissed very much and so Amanda
dismissed very much and so Amanda actually goes over to the counter grabs
actually goes over to the counter grabs
actually goes over to the counter grabs a pot comes back over throws it on the
a pot comes back over throws it on the
a pot comes back over throws it on the floor stomps her foot at my mother and
floor stomps her foot at my mother and
floor stomps her foot at my mother and says I want to make an A my mom just
says I want to make an A my mom just
says I want to make an A my mom just looks at the rest of us and says it is
looks at the rest of us and says it is
looks at the rest of us and says it is time to teach the baby how to write and
time to teach the baby how to write and
time to teach the baby how to write and the lesson of this story is that you
the lesson of this story is that you
the lesson of this story is that you have to tell the world what you are
have to tell the world what you are
have to tell the world what you are ready for
ready for
ready for and you’re going to be told no and
and you’re going to be told no and
and you’re going to be told no and you’re going to be told not now and you
you’re going to be told not now and you
you’re going to be told not now and you have to figure out a way to do it anyway
have to figure out a way to do it anyway
have to figure out a way to do it anyway since throwing a pot is probably not the
since throwing a pot is probably not the
since throwing a pot is probably not the right approach in a lot of situations
right approach in a lot of situations
right approach in a lot of situations find a different approach learn a better
find a different approach learn a better
find a different approach learn a better one surround yourself with information
one surround yourself with information
one surround yourself with information and knowledge and wisdom and experience
and knowledge and wisdom and experience
and knowledge and wisdom and experience the wisdom that surrounds you is
the wisdom that surrounds you is
the wisdom that surrounds you is absolutely everything when you don’t
absolutely everything when you don’t
absolutely everything when you don’t know how to make an A find someone who
know how to make an A find someone who
know how to make an A find someone who does
does
does learn what you can from them and figure
learn what you can from them and figure
learn what you can from them and figure out how to just keep moving and we’re
out how to just keep moving and we’re
out how to just keep moving and we’re not saying that earning your stripes is
not saying that earning your stripes is
not saying that earning your stripes is ever going away and I think we can
ever going away and I think we can
ever going away and I think we can probably all agree we don’t want it to
probably all agree we don’t want it to
probably all agree we don’t want it to because putting in the work and the time
because putting in the work and the time
because putting in the work and the time is absolutely necessary and what’s
is absolutely necessary and what’s
is absolutely necessary and what’s equally as necessary is believing when
equally as necessary is believing when
equally as necessary is believing when you do you deserve to have a seat at the
you do you deserve to have a seat at the
you do you deserve to have a seat at the table because the thing is once you’ve
table because the thing is once you’ve
table because the thing is once you’ve owned and earned your stripes you are
owned and earned your stripes you are
owned and earned your stripes you are allowed to use them I think we women as
allowed to use them I think we women as
allowed to use them I think we women as a group are the worst at this I think
a group are the worst at this I think
a group are the worst at this I think we’re pretty terrible at it actually
we’re pretty terrible at it actually
we’re pretty terrible at it actually guess what year women started earning
guess what year women started earning
guess what year women started earning more master’s degrees than men 1987 30
more master’s degrees than men 1987 30
more master’s degrees than men 1987 30 years ago women started earning more
years ago women started earning more
years ago women started earning more master’s degrees than men and women
master’s degrees than men and women
master’s degrees than men and women continued to earn more masters and
continued to earn more masters and
continued to earn more masters and bachelor’s and doctors degrees every
bachelor’s and doctors degrees every
bachelor’s and doctors degrees every year and yet we still meet a woman every
year and yet we still meet a woman every
year and yet we still meet a woman every week that does not feel as qualified as
week that does not feel as qualified as
week that does not feel as qualified as the man sitting next door you are more
the man sitting next door you are more
the man sitting next door you are more than likely every bit as qualified as
than likely every bit as qualified as
than likely every bit as qualified as the man sitting next to you that is why
the man sitting next to you that is why
the man sitting next to you that is why you’re sitting next to each other and if
you’re sitting next to each other and if
you’re sitting next to each other and if more women can earn these degrees why do
more women can earn these degrees why do
more women can earn these degrees why do we still feel like it is a stretch to
we still feel like it is a stretch to
we still feel like it is a stretch to not have the same number of women
not have the same number of women
not have the same number of women holding Senate seats and running fortune
holding Senate seats and running fortune
holding Senate seats and running fortune 500 companies we all need to tell the
500 companies we all need to tell the
500 companies we all need to tell the world what we’re ready for and that
world what we’re ready for and that
world what we’re ready for and that brings us to our third and final and
brings us to our third and final and
brings us to our third and final and potentially most important thing our
potentially most important thing our
potentially most important thing our mother used to say to us it is a good
mother used to say to us it is a good
mother used to say to us it is a good thing that you’re tough when I was
thing that you’re tough when I was
thing that you’re tough when I was little and I’d fall down and I’d scrape
little and I’d fall down and I’d scrape
little and I’d fall down and I’d scrape my knee instead of my mom picking me up
my knee instead of my mom picking me up
my knee instead of my mom picking me up and saying oh honey are you okay she
and saying oh honey are you okay she
and saying oh honey are you okay she used to pick me up and say oh honey
used to pick me up and say oh honey
used to pick me up and say oh honey is a good thing you’re tough failure and
is a good thing you’re tough failure and
is a good thing you’re tough failure and criticism are inevitable unfortunately
criticism are inevitable unfortunately
criticism are inevitable unfortunately those things are never going to go away
those things are never going to go away
those things are never going to go away and that is when we need to tell
and that is when we need to tell
and that is when we need to tell ourselves it is a good thing we’re tough
ourselves it is a good thing we’re tough
ourselves it is a good thing we’re tough and we also need to foster the self of
and we also need to foster the self of
and we also need to foster the self of confidence inside of us especially when
confidence inside of us especially when
confidence inside of us especially when we’re being underestimated and told we
we’re being underestimated and told we
we’re being underestimated and told we can’t and psychologists tell us in order
can’t and psychologists tell us in order
can’t and psychologists tell us in order to have a base to build our
to have a base to build our
to have a base to build our self-confidence we have to believe one
self-confidence we have to believe one
self-confidence we have to believe one simple thing
simple thing
simple thing your actions influence your result
your actions influence your result
your actions influence your result that’s it
that’s it
that’s it your actions influence your results in
your actions influence your results in
your actions influence your results in other words and this is really exciting
other words and this is really exciting
other words and this is really exciting it means that you are in charge of
it means that you are in charge of
it means that you are in charge of designing your life as you move forward
designing your life as you move forward
designing your life as you move forward through it it’s probably the most
through it it’s probably the most
through it it’s probably the most exciting thing that we can think of and
exciting thing that we can think of and
exciting thing that we can think of and you know what sometimes this is not easy
you know what sometimes this is not easy
you know what sometimes this is not easy because it means you have to take
because it means you have to take
because it means you have to take massive action in a different direction
massive action in a different direction
massive action in a different direction to get the results that you want when I
to get the results that you want when I
to get the results that you want when I was sailing through Pacific I ended up
was sailing through Pacific I ended up
was sailing through Pacific I ended up in a hurricane and I remember thinking a
in a hurricane and I remember thinking a
in a hurricane and I remember thinking a couple things number one I’m really
couple things number one I’m really
couple things number one I’m really scared
scared
scared it was pretty messy for me and number
it was pretty messy for me and number
it was pretty messy for me and number two I thought if I ever get home again
two I thought if I ever get home again
two I thought if I ever get home again I’m never gonna sail again just this is
I’m never gonna sail again just this is
I’m never gonna sail again just this is you know this is not good for me
you know this is not good for me
you know this is not good for me so when I arrived limping back to shore
so when I arrived limping back to shore
so when I arrived limping back to shore I did not make it to my destination I
I did not make it to my destination I
I did not make it to my destination I felt this spotlight more than ever
felt this spotlight more than ever
felt this spotlight more than ever because the people that were around me
because the people that were around me
because the people that were around me that didn’t think I could do it that did
that didn’t think I could do it that did
that didn’t think I could do it that did not think I was capable of making it
not think I was capable of making it
not think I was capable of making it they were not thinking I was appropriate
they were not thinking I was appropriate
they were not thinking I was appropriate age to run that type of program they
age to run that type of program they
age to run that type of program they were actually right because I did not
were actually right because I did not
were actually right because I did not make it I failed and that’s when I
make it I failed and that’s when I
make it I failed and that’s when I remember my mom telling me she’s here
remember my mom telling me she’s here
remember my mom telling me she’s here it’s a good thing you’re tough and so I
it’s a good thing you’re tough and so I
it’s a good thing you’re tough and so I packed my bags and two days later I left
packed my bags and two days later I left
packed my bags and two days later I left for the ocean
for the ocean
for the ocean and when I made my destination the
and when I made my destination the
and when I made my destination the second time there was something really
second time there was something really
second time there was something really magical about that you all will have
magical about that you all will have
magical about that you all will have your own worst storm and you will be
your own worst storm and you will be
your own worst storm and you will be criticized and you will fail and that is
criticized and you will fail and that is
criticized and you will fail and that is when you need to tell yourself it’s a
when you need to tell yourself it’s a
when you need to tell yourself it’s a good thing I’m tough and take a step
good thing I’m tough and take a step
good thing I’m tough and take a step forward again because that is where you
forward again because that is where you
forward again because that is where you will experience true growth yes it would
will experience true growth yes it would
will experience true growth yes it would have been easier for Amanda to have
have been easier for Amanda to have
have been easier for Amanda to have probably just not gotten back on the
probably just not gotten back on the
probably just not gotten back on the boat and it would have been easier for
boat and it would have been easier for
boat and it would have been easier for our mothers who have underestimated my
our mothers who have underestimated my
our mothers who have underestimated my abilities to build an easy bake oven and
abilities to build an easy bake oven and
abilities to build an easy bake oven and it would have been easier for our
it would have been easier for our
it would have been easier for our grandmothers to have stayed home rather
grandmothers to have stayed home rather
grandmothers to have stayed home rather than building machine guns and airplanes
than building machine guns and airplanes
than building machine guns and airplanes during the war but can you imagine what
during the war but can you imagine what
during the war but can you imagine what the world would be like if everyone’s
the world would be like if everyone’s
the world would be like if everyone’s mother and sister and co-worker and
mother and sister and co-worker and
mother and sister and co-worker and supervisor told them that they could do
supervisor told them that they could do
supervisor told them that they could do anything they set their minds to as we
anything they set their minds to as we
anything they set their minds to as we work towards that future you have to
work towards that future you have to
work towards that future you have to remember you can do anything you set
remember you can do anything you set
remember you can do anything you set your mind to but you have to focus on
your mind to but you have to focus on
your mind to but you have to focus on what you want and you have to tell the
what you want and you have to tell the
what you want and you have to tell the world what you’re ready for you’re still
world what you’re ready for you’re still
world what you’re ready for you’re still going to be underestimated I’m sorry
going to be underestimated I’m sorry
going to be underestimated I’m sorry you’re still going to be underestimated
you’re still going to be underestimated
you’re still going to be underestimated but you can walk into the room with this
but you can walk into the room with this
but you can walk into the room with this attitude that they will only
attitude that they will only
attitude that they will only underestimate me once surround yourself
underestimate me once surround yourself
underestimate me once surround yourself with people you can learn from and when
with people you can learn from and when
with people you can learn from and when you get knocked down remember it is a
you get knocked down remember it is a
you get knocked down remember it is a good thing you’re tough you can say on
good thing you’re tough you can say on
good thing you’re tough you can say on our knees Lydia we know she is going to
our knees Lydia we know she is going to
our knees Lydia we know she is going to be a world changer and we are excited
be a world changer and we are excited
be a world changer and we are excited about the possibility that she will not
about the possibility that she will not
about the possibility that she will not be underestimated for being a woman that
be underestimated for being a woman that
be underestimated for being a woman that walks into a boardroom or in to perform
walks into a boardroom or in to perform
walks into a boardroom or in to perform surgery like her doctor dad we cannot
surgery like her doctor dad we cannot
surgery like her doctor dad we cannot wait until the men and the women in her
wait until the men and the women in her
wait until the men and the women in her generation no longer undervalue each
generation no longer undervalue each
generation no longer undervalue each other but rather work together to create
other but rather work together to create
other but rather work together to create a bigger and brighter future thank you
a bigger and brighter future thank you
a bigger and brighter future thank you [Applause]
[Applause]
[Applause] you
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