some of you might have been lucky enough one day to look at the sky and see
one day to look at the sky and see
one day to look at the sky and see what’s called a murmuration it’s where
what’s called a murmuration it’s where
what’s called a murmuration it’s where tens of thousands of birds could have
tens of thousands of birds could have
tens of thousands of birds could have come together to make these just
come together to make these just
come together to make these just astonishing shapes they’re just really
astonishing shapes they’re just really
astonishing shapes they’re just really really beautiful things we kind of see
really beautiful things we kind of see
really beautiful things we kind of see successful lives like that we see
successful lives like that we see
successful lives like that we see successful people as being part of this
successful people as being part of this
successful people as being part of this big motion this thing which just looks
big motion this thing which just looks
big motion this thing which just looks like it was what nature intended doing
like it was what nature intended doing
like it was what nature intended doing something amazing but the thing is life
something amazing but the thing is life
something amazing but the thing is life is never that simple
is never that simple
is never that simple think about that murmuration of birds
think about that murmuration of birds
think about that murmuration of birds when you zoom right in what do you see
when you zoom right in what do you see
when you zoom right in what do you see you see these individual tiny little
you see these individual tiny little
you see these individual tiny little starlings flapping about scared half to
starlings flapping about scared half to
starlings flapping about scared half to death
death
death just trying to survive in that moment
just trying to survive in that moment
just trying to survive in that moment and here’s the thing that’s my story
and here’s the thing that’s my story
and here’s the thing that’s my story from the outside that’s a success story
from the outside that’s a success story
from the outside that’s a success story I’m that guy that set up a business at
I’m that guy that set up a business at
I’m that guy that set up a business at school when he was 14 I’m that guy who
school when he was 14 I’m that guy who
school when he was 14 I’m that guy who grew it into an international company
grew it into an international company
grew it into an international company running it from a mobile phone in his
running it from a mobile phone in his
running it from a mobile phone in his school bag and then I went on to build a
school bag and then I went on to build a
school bag and then I went on to build a portfolio career and became a
portfolio career and became a
portfolio career and became a philanthropist and teacher all these
philanthropist and teacher all these
philanthropist and teacher all these great international universities and
great international universities and
great international universities and then got an MBA it’s pretty cool right
then got an MBA it’s pretty cool right
then got an MBA it’s pretty cool right wrong here’s the thing you are an
wrong here’s the thing you are an
wrong here’s the thing you are an observer you are just seeing me as part
observer you are just seeing me as part
observer you are just seeing me as part of that cloud of people that we hold up
of that cloud of people that we hold up
of that cloud of people that we hold up as being successful and much like the
as being successful and much like the
as being successful and much like the cloud of birds when you zoom in all of
cloud of birds when you zoom in all of
cloud of birds when you zoom in all of us are the same all of us are just
us are the same all of us are just
us are the same all of us are just flapping around doing what we can in
flapping around doing what we can in
flapping around doing what we can in that moment to survive with the
that moment to survive with the
that moment to survive with the challenges that life throws at us I
challenges that life throws at us I
challenges that life throws at us I always remember being quite an anxious
always remember being quite an anxious
always remember being quite an anxious child and when you were a child
child and when you were a child
child and when you were a child that’s actually quite a good thing it
that’s actually quite a good thing it
that’s actually quite a good thing it made me curious I was that kid that was
made me curious I was that kid that was
made me curious I was that kid that was up all night reading the encyclopedia I
up all night reading the encyclopedia I
up all night reading the encyclopedia I took things apart and put them back
took things apart and put them back
took things apart and put them back together I was building electronics and
together I was building electronics and
together I was building electronics and just you know annoying my mum and dad by
just you know annoying my mum and dad by
just you know annoying my mum and dad by blowing out the fuses at home and then
blowing out the fuses at home and then
blowing out the fuses at home and then when I was 14 and I discovered complete
when I was 14 and I discovered complete
when I was 14 and I discovered complete I discovered the Internet I got obsessed
I discovered the Internet I got obsessed
I discovered the Internet I got obsessed with it but not for the reason you might
with it but not for the reason you might
with it but not for the reason you might imagine a teenager would I got
imagine a teenager would I got
imagine a teenager would I got fascinated by how you build websites and
fascinated by how you build websites and
fascinated by how you build websites and how the internet works so I taught
how the internet works so I taught
how the internet works so I taught myself to code and then in a futile
myself to code and then in a futile
myself to code and then in a futile effort to make some money to pay for
effort to make some money to pay for
effort to make some money to pay for flying lessons because that was my real
flying lessons because that was my real
flying lessons because that was my real dream I started building websites for
dream I started building websites for
dream I started building websites for companies and that’s when I started
companies and that’s when I started
companies and that’s when I started running that business whilst I was still
running that business whilst I was still
running that business whilst I was still at school but as that business grew my
at school but as that business grew my
at school but as that business grew my anxiety grew with it but at the time I
anxiety grew with it but at the time I
anxiety grew with it but at the time I was far too busy to care I was too busy
was far too busy to care I was too busy
was far too busy to care I was too busy running a business being at school
running a business being at school
running a business being at school getting bullied dealing with being a
getting bullied dealing with being a
getting bullied dealing with being a teenager figuring life out and all those
teenager figuring life out and all those
teenager figuring life out and all those things that you just happen to be going
things that you just happen to be going
things that you just happen to be going through at the time so being anxious was
through at the time so being anxious was
through at the time so being anxious was way down my list of priorities in some
way down my list of priorities in some
way down my list of priorities in some ways it was kind of inevitable but
ways it was kind of inevitable but
ways it was kind of inevitable but that’s fast-forward a little bit so now
that’s fast-forward a little bit so now
that’s fast-forward a little bit so now imagine it’s around 1999-2000 the market
imagine it’s around 1999-2000 the market
imagine it’s around 1999-2000 the market really tense I’m now 1617 or thereabouts
really tense I’m now 1617 or thereabouts
really tense I’m now 1617 or thereabouts I’ve got an office in New York
I’ve got an office in New York
I’ve got an office in New York Manchester London and Sydney and but
Manchester London and Sydney and but
Manchester London and Sydney and but people knew were in a bubble
people knew were in a bubble
people knew were in a bubble this isn’t right and much like so many
this isn’t right and much like so many
this isn’t right and much like so many industries everyone’s kind of complicit
industries everyone’s kind of complicit
industries everyone’s kind of complicit in that and then the truth came out
in that and then the truth came out
in that and then the truth came out WorldCom went bust they are a giant
WorldCom went bust they are a giant
WorldCom went bust they are a giant telecommunications company they lost a
telecommunications company they lost a
telecommunications company they lost a hundred and eighty six billion dollars
hundred and eighty six billion dollars
hundred and eighty six billion dollars of investor money in less than a day
of investor money in less than a day
of investor money in less than a day which is pretty impressive and they
which is pretty impressive and they
which is pretty impressive and they triggered a two trillion dollar economic
triggered a two trillion dollar economic
triggered a two trillion dollar economic tsunami better known as a dot-com bubble
tsunami better known as a dot-com bubble
tsunami better known as a dot-com bubble burst as a tiny side note to that
burst as a tiny side note to that
burst as a tiny side note to that tsunami was my own company getting swept
tsunami was my own company getting swept
tsunami was my own company getting swept away
away
away I went from running at full pelt in this
I went from running at full pelt in this
I went from running at full pelt in this amazing career to just hitting a brick
amazing career to just hitting a brick
amazing career to just hitting a brick wall
wall
wall I had this massive wake-up call
I had this massive wake-up call
I had this massive wake-up call everything I knew about myself vanished
everything I knew about myself vanished
everything I knew about myself vanished in that instant and I had to start again
in that instant and I had to start again
in that instant and I had to start again but here’s the thing at the time I was
but here’s the thing at the time I was
but here’s the thing at the time I was powered by adrenaline so I didn’t really
powered by adrenaline so I didn’t really
powered by adrenaline so I didn’t really have the time or the inclination to stop
have the time or the inclination to stop
have the time or the inclination to stop and lick my wounds so I threw myself
and lick my wounds so I threw myself
and lick my wounds so I threw myself straight back into a new venture this
straight back into a new venture this
straight back into a new venture this time in textiles and commodities
time in textiles and commodities
time in textiles and commodities very quickly I was working harder than
very quickly I was working harder than
very quickly I was working harder than I’d ever worked before learning a new
I’d ever worked before learning a new
I’d ever worked before learning a new industry learning how this new market
industry learning how this new market
industry learning how this new market worked and very quickly going back to
worked and very quickly going back to
worked and very quickly going back to being held out as what they say is
being held out as what they say is
being held out as what they say is successful but as the company grew I
successful but as the company grew I
successful but as the company grew I started to get really burnt out and so I
started to get really burnt out and so I
started to get really burnt out and so I decided as many people to open it just
decided as many people to open it just
decided as many people to open it just make up at a time in my life now just to
make up at a time in my life now just to
make up at a time in my life now just to kind of you know get a bit more balanced
kind of you know get a bit more balanced
kind of you know get a bit more balanced but every time I made a bit of time it
but every time I made a bit of time it
but every time I made a bit of time it got filled with anxiety initially just
got filled with anxiety initially just
got filled with anxiety initially just little bits here and there and then more
little bits here and there and then more
little bits here and there and then more and more and more consuming until
and more and more consuming until
and more and more consuming until sometimes it became relentless on those
sometimes it became relentless on those
sometimes it became relentless on those days when anxiety became all-consuming I
days when anxiety became all-consuming I
days when anxiety became all-consuming I had a plan and my plan was at find a
had a plan and my plan was at find a
had a plan and my plan was at find a sanctuary and one of those places was
sanctuary and one of those places was
sanctuary and one of those places was right next to our office we had this
right next to our office we had this
right next to our office we had this beautiful multi-story car park I say
beautiful multi-story car park I say
beautiful multi-story car park I say beautiful because of the view I could
beautiful because of the view I could
beautiful because of the view I could see out all across Manchester it was
see out all across Manchester it was
see out all across Manchester it was quiet no one had looked for me there no
quiet no one had looked for me there no
quiet no one had looked for me there no one had care I was there it’s a car park
one had care I was there it’s a car park
one had care I was there it’s a car park right and that’s where I went just to
right and that’s where I went just to
right and that’s where I went just to get some peace and quiet when everything
get some peace and quiet when everything
get some peace and quiet when everything was getting a bit too much I remember
was getting a bit too much I remember
was getting a bit too much I remember one particular day it been a really
one particular day it been a really
one particular day it been a really ordinary day you know when you go to
ordinary day you know when you go to
ordinary day you know when you go to work and you come home and you don’t
work and you come home and you don’t
work and you come home and you don’t really done anything just a really
really done anything just a really
really done anything just a really normal day but for some reason that day
normal day but for some reason that day
normal day but for some reason that day my mind was tormenting me so at the end
my mind was tormenting me so at the end
my mind was tormenting me so at the end of the day I thought right I’m going to
of the day I thought right I’m going to
of the day I thought right I’m going to just go to the sanctuary for a bit and
just go to the sanctuary for a bit and
just go to the sanctuary for a bit and just spend a bit of time calm my mind
just spend a bit of time calm my mind
just spend a bit of time calm my mind and then continue I really remembered
and then continue I really remembered
and then continue I really remembered today just looking out over the edge of
today just looking out over the edge of
today just looking out over the edge of that carpark and you could see all the
that carpark and you could see all the
that carpark and you could see all the lights of the cars coming into the city
lights of the cars coming into the city
lights of the cars coming into the city people may be going a free evening
people may be going a free evening
people may be going a free evening shouts and all the red lights of all the
shouts and all the red lights of all the
shouts and all the red lights of all the cars leaving people going home and there
cars leaving people going home and there
cars leaving people going home and there was that background hum of city noise
was that background hum of city noise
was that background hum of city noise it’s kind of like that white noise you
it’s kind of like that white noise you
it’s kind of like that white noise you get sometimes we need to sleep and then
get sometimes we need to sleep and then
get sometimes we need to sleep and then I remember then I wasn’t agitated I
I remember then I wasn’t agitated I
I remember then I wasn’t agitated I wasn’t stressed anymore things just made
wasn’t stressed anymore things just made
wasn’t stressed anymore things just made sense this was my only escape route it
sense this was my only escape route it
sense this was my only escape route it was going to be quick and then it would
was going to be quick and then it would
was going to be quick and then it would be over with this wasn’t the first time
be over with this wasn’t the first time
be over with this wasn’t the first time I’d thought about doing something like
I’d thought about doing something like
I’d thought about doing something like that but it was the first time I got
that but it was the first time I got
that but it was the first time I got this close to succeeding
this close to succeeding
this close to succeeding I approached the edge and I felt this
I approached the edge and I felt this
I approached the edge and I felt this sense of overwhelming loneliness I
sense of overwhelming loneliness I
sense of overwhelming loneliness I didn’t want to go in silence I just
didn’t want to go in silence I just
didn’t want to go in silence I just wanted to speak to somebody anybody just
wanted to speak to somebody anybody just
wanted to speak to somebody anybody just to have one last conversation that day
to have one last conversation that day
to have one last conversation that day but I knew if I called a friend or a
but I knew if I called a friend or a
but I knew if I called a friend or a family member what am I gonna get
family member what am I gonna get
family member what am I gonna get shocked a bit of pain a bit of judgment
shocked a bit of pain a bit of judgment
shocked a bit of pain a bit of judgment a bit of fuss and I didn’t want drama I
a bit of fuss and I didn’t want drama I
a bit of fuss and I didn’t want drama I decided I just wanted to go so I picked
decided I just wanted to go so I picked
decided I just wanted to go so I picked up my phone and I called a helpline it
up my phone and I called a helpline it
up my phone and I called a helpline it was a number that had saved on my phone
was a number that had saved on my phone
was a number that had saved on my phone a few days earlier what I’d be feeling
a few days earlier what I’d be feeling
a few days earlier what I’d be feeling low and I just seen it on a poster and
low and I just seen it on a poster and
low and I just seen it on a poster and I’d written it down and I called because
I’d written it down and I called because
I’d written it down and I called because I knew I could speak to someone
I knew I could speak to someone
I knew I could speak to someone anonymously then I would be a
anonymously then I would be a
anonymously then I would be a disembodied voice on the end of the
disembodied voice on the end of the
disembodied voice on the end of the phone like they would simultaneously
phone like they would simultaneously
phone like they would simultaneously somebody and nobody
somebody and nobody
somebody and nobody they didn’t say much they didn’t say
they didn’t say much they didn’t say
they didn’t say much they didn’t say anything really they just listened but
anything really they just listened but
anything really they just listened but for the first time in my life I told
for the first time in my life I told
for the first time in my life I told somebody openly that I wanted to end it
somebody openly that I wanted to end it
somebody openly that I wanted to end it all I told somebody openly that I felt
all I told somebody openly that I felt
all I told somebody openly that I felt like a failure but I couldn’t cope but I
like a failure but I couldn’t cope but I
like a failure but I couldn’t cope but I was scared
was scared
was scared and I didn’t know what to do the space
and I didn’t know what to do the space
and I didn’t know what to do the space that they gave me to say those words the
that they gave me to say those words the
that they gave me to say those words the empathy they showed me by listening to
empathy they showed me by listening to
empathy they showed me by listening to what I was saying was enough at that
what I was saying was enough at that
what I was saying was enough at that time to get me to take a step back and
time to get me to take a step back and
time to get me to take a step back and the next thing I remember was tears the
the next thing I remember was tears the
the next thing I remember was tears the following day back in the office
following day back in the office
following day back in the office business as usual how you doing oh yeah
business as usual how you doing oh yeah
business as usual how you doing oh yeah I’m good man how are you yeah good all
I’m good man how are you yeah good all
I’m good man how are you yeah good all good good weekend yeah great and that’s
good good weekend yeah great and that’s
good good weekend yeah great and that’s the thing when you have anxiety and
the thing when you have anxiety and
the thing when you have anxiety and depression you learn to become an actor
depression you learn to become an actor
depression you learn to become an actor and for me that haptic that acting was
and for me that haptic that acting was
and for me that haptic that acting was honed in the business world you know you
honed in the business world you know you
honed in the business world you know you end up becoming this hyper masculine
end up becoming this hyper masculine
end up becoming this hyper masculine hyper alpha caricature of what an
hyper alpha caricature of what an
hyper alpha caricature of what an entrepreneur should be like but I guess
entrepreneur should be like but I guess
entrepreneur should be like but I guess we kind of like doing this to ourselves
we kind of like doing this to ourselves
we kind of like doing this to ourselves because sometimes it’s far easier to
because sometimes it’s far easier to
because sometimes it’s far easier to live as this veneer of the per
live as this veneer of the per
live as this veneer of the per you create rather than actually
you create rather than actually
you create rather than actually admitting the person that you are and
admitting the person that you are and
admitting the person that you are and unfortunately I still see this every
unfortunately I still see this every
unfortunately I still see this every single day in the business world
single day in the business world
single day in the business world we’re fueled by social media
we’re fueled by social media
we’re fueled by social media affirmations right so we’re humbled to
affirmations right so we’re humbled to
affirmations right so we’re humbled to bid incited to something or honored to
bid incited to something or honored to
bid incited to something or honored to have accepted something we’ve kind of
have accepted something we’ve kind of
have accepted something we’ve kind of taken the pissing contest out of the
taken the pissing contest out of the
taken the pissing contest out of the bathroom thrown it into the clouds and
bathroom thrown it into the clouds and
bathroom thrown it into the clouds and so when it rains on us what do you
so when it rains on us what do you
so when it rains on us what do you expect it’s gonna fall it’s really
expect it’s gonna fall it’s really
expect it’s gonna fall it’s really difficult for me to describe to you how
difficult for me to describe to you how
difficult for me to describe to you how that conversation felt on the car park
that conversation felt on the car park
that conversation felt on the car park but imagine one day you woke up locked
but imagine one day you woke up locked
but imagine one day you woke up locked in a coffin it’s dark you can’t breathe
in a coffin it’s dark you can’t breathe
in a coffin it’s dark you can’t breathe you’re hot you’re anxious you’re clawing
you’re hot you’re anxious you’re clawing
you’re hot you’re anxious you’re clawing at the sides you literally don’t know
at the sides you literally don’t know
at the sides you literally don’t know what to do and then all of a sudden
what to do and then all of a sudden
what to do and then all of a sudden there’s a hole and through that hole you
there’s a hole and through that hole you
there’s a hole and through that hole you can see the blue of the sky you suddenly
can see the blue of the sky you suddenly
can see the blue of the sky you suddenly feel the cool fresh air hit your face
feel the cool fresh air hit your face
feel the cool fresh air hit your face and then it’s just that relief was how
and then it’s just that relief was how
and then it’s just that relief was how that conversation felt to me that day
that conversation felt to me that day
that conversation felt to me that day coping with anxiety and depression is
coping with anxiety and depression is
coping with anxiety and depression is hard but the stage after that recovery
hard but the stage after that recovery
hard but the stage after that recovery is harder it’s like climbing a mountain
is harder it’s like climbing a mountain
is harder it’s like climbing a mountain completely unprepared I started with the
completely unprepared I started with the
completely unprepared I started with the usual things I went to my GP and then I
usual things I went to my GP and then I
usual things I went to my GP and then I was on a waiting list and I was waiting
was on a waiting list and I was waiting
was on a waiting list and I was waiting and waiting and waiting to see a
and waiting and waiting to see a
and waiting and waiting to see a therapist so in the meantime I did what
therapist so in the meantime I did what
therapist so in the meantime I did what we all would do I read more self-help
we all would do I read more self-help
we all would do I read more self-help books and Tony Robbins could possibly
books and Tony Robbins could possibly
books and Tony Robbins could possibly write in a lifetime I did yoga
write in a lifetime I did yoga
write in a lifetime I did yoga acupuncture singing bowls anything you
acupuncture singing bowls anything you
acupuncture singing bowls anything you can imagine to try and kid myself that I
can imagine to try and kid myself that I
can imagine to try and kid myself that I was getting well but guess what it’s a
was getting well but guess what it’s a
was getting well but guess what it’s a placebo and very quickly the clouds came
placebo and very quickly the clouds came
placebo and very quickly the clouds came back but this time I remembered that
back but this time I remembered that
back but this time I remembered that conversation that night on the car park
conversation that night on the car park
conversation that night on the car park and I chose a different path I was one
and I chose a different path I was one
and I chose a different path I was one of the lucky ones I could afford to go
of the lucky ones I could afford to go
of the lucky ones I could afford to go and find the best psychiatrists and
and find the best psychiatrists and
and find the best psychiatrists and psychologists to put me back together
psychologists to put me back together
psychologists to put me back together and they spent hundreds and hundreds of
and they spent hundreds and hundreds of
and they spent hundreds and hundreds of hours doing that but before they did
hours doing that but before they did
hours doing that but before they did they had to trim
they had to trim
they had to trim through miles of barbed wire assumptions
through miles of barbed wire assumptions
through miles of barbed wire assumptions that I created in my own mind the first
that I created in my own mind the first
that I created in my own mind the first of them was medication I’d always been
of them was medication I’d always been
of them was medication I’d always been quite anti medication I’d been the
quite anti medication I’d been the
quite anti medication I’d been the person that listened to people when they
person that listened to people when they
person that listened to people when they went don’t take those crazy pills
went don’t take those crazy pills
went don’t take those crazy pills they’ll change you they’re addictive
they’ll change you they’re addictive
they’ll change you they’re addictive probably you know but here’s the thing I
probably you know but here’s the thing I
probably you know but here’s the thing I tell you today I wish I taken them a
tell you today I wish I taken them a
tell you today I wish I taken them a decade sooner medication saved my life
decade sooner medication saved my life
decade sooner medication saved my life imagine that you had a friend with
imagine that you had a friend with
imagine that you had a friend with cancer or diabetes or a heart condition
cancer or diabetes or a heart condition
cancer or diabetes or a heart condition would any of you in this room be
would any of you in this room be
would any of you in this room be irresponsible enough to say to them
irresponsible enough to say to them
irresponsible enough to say to them don’t take those pills I read about this
don’t take those pills I read about this
don’t take those pills I read about this to the magazine there’s an herbal thing
to the magazine there’s an herbal thing
to the magazine there’s an herbal thing you’ll be fine just go for a run listen
you’ll be fine just go for a run listen
you’ll be fine just go for a run listen don’t worry I really hope you wouldn’t
don’t worry I really hope you wouldn’t
don’t worry I really hope you wouldn’t but we do that to people every single
but we do that to people every single
but we do that to people every single day go through anxiety and depression
day go through anxiety and depression
day go through anxiety and depression and a range of other conditions the
and a range of other conditions the
and a range of other conditions the second thing was therapy in my mind
second thing was therapy in my mind
second thing was therapy in my mind therapy was what crazy people did but
therapy was what crazy people did but
therapy was what crazy people did but here’s the thing when you want to get
here’s the thing when you want to get
here’s the thing when you want to get physically fit you see your personal
physically fit you see your personal
physically fit you see your personal trainer it’s kind of like no big deal
trainer it’s kind of like no big deal
trainer it’s kind of like no big deal when you want to improve your mental
when you want to improve your mental
when you want to improve your mental health you see a therapist for some
health you see a therapist for some
health you see a therapist for some reason that’s a big deal it doesn’t make
reason that’s a big deal it doesn’t make
reason that’s a big deal it doesn’t make sense the medication gave me some
sense the medication gave me some
sense the medication gave me some stability and the therapy or the CBT the
stability and the therapy or the CBT the
stability and the therapy or the CBT the psychoanalysis all of those things what
psychoanalysis all of those things what
psychoanalysis all of those things what gave me the operating manual for my
gave me the operating manual for my
gave me the operating manual for my brain and the resilience then to cope
brain and the resilience then to cope
brain and the resilience then to cope with life I also had to get over my ego
with life I also had to get over my ego
with life I also had to get over my ego I’d created a barrier in my own mind
I’d created a barrier in my own mind
I’d created a barrier in my own mind worrying what are people going to think
worrying what are people going to think
worrying what are people going to think of me if they find out what will people
of me if they find out what will people
of me if they find out what will people say when they hear that I’ve been going
say when they hear that I’ve been going
say when they hear that I’ve been going through this or that I tried to make an
through this or that I tried to make an
through this or that I tried to make an attempt on my own life what will people
attempt on my own life what will people
attempt on my own life what will people say but I had to lift that veil and
say but I had to lift that veil and
say but I had to lift that veil and expose that scarred reality to the world
expose that scarred reality to the world
expose that scarred reality to the world and it was raw but I’m really glad I did
and it was raw but I’m really glad I did
and it was raw but I’m really glad I did and there’s three reasons first of all
and there’s three reasons first of all
and there’s three reasons first of all you’re not alone everyone is a bit
you’re not alone everyone is a bit
you’re not alone everyone is a bit broken the second of all if anyone
broken the second of all if anyone
broken the second of all if anyone judges you on something as arbitrary as
judges you on something as arbitrary as
judges you on something as arbitrary as your mental health they don’t deserve to
your mental health they don’t deserve to
your mental health they don’t deserve to be in your life I don’t care who they
be in your life I don’t care who they
be in your life I don’t care who they are
are
are and thirdly people might not understand
and thirdly people might not understand
and thirdly people might not understand what you’re going through and that’s
what you’re going through and that’s
what you’re going through and that’s fine they can still show you love and
fine they can still show you love and
fine they can still show you love and and compassion and help you get
and compassion and help you get
and compassion and help you get through it
through it
through it I also had to really re-evaluate what
I also had to really re-evaluate what
I also had to really re-evaluate what mattered in life and it might sound
mattered in life and it might sound
mattered in life and it might sound strange coming from a business person
strange coming from a business person
strange coming from a business person but it’s not money or things or this
but it’s not money or things or this
but it’s not money or things or this thing we call success what matters is
thing we call success what matters is
thing we call success what matters is the simple stuff spending time with the
the simple stuff spending time with the
the simple stuff spending time with the people you love your friends your
people you love your friends your
people you love your friends your hobbies your cats listening to your
hobbies your cats listening to your
hobbies your cats listening to your favorite music whatever it is I had to
favorite music whatever it is I had to
favorite music whatever it is I had to make time for me to be me not a CEO not
make time for me to be me not a CEO not
make time for me to be me not a CEO not a philanthropist not a professor none of
a philanthropist not a professor none of
a philanthropist not a professor none of those things I had to make sure that I
those things I had to make sure that I
those things I had to make sure that I became the sanctuary I could escape to
became the sanctuary I could escape to
became the sanctuary I could escape to when things got too much because that’s
when things got too much because that’s
when things got too much because that’s how you learn to survive I also had to
how you learn to survive I also had to
how you learn to survive I also had to realize that vulnerability is not a bad
realize that vulnerability is not a bad
realize that vulnerability is not a bad word and that’s really difficult when
word and that’s really difficult when
word and that’s really difficult when you’re growing up trying to be taught to
you’re growing up trying to be taught to
you’re growing up trying to be taught to be a man about things but vulnerability
be a man about things but vulnerability
be a man about things but vulnerability is not weakness
is not weakness
is not weakness vulnerability is a superpower it’s the
vulnerability is a superpower it’s the
vulnerability is a superpower it’s the tool that we have to be human it allows
tool that we have to be human it allows
tool that we have to be human it allows us to receive and show empathy it allows
us to receive and show empathy it allows
us to receive and show empathy it allows us to take chances on ourselves which
us to take chances on ourselves which
us to take chances on ourselves which make us move forward vulnerability is
make us move forward vulnerability is
make us move forward vulnerability is meaning that you’re the first person in
meaning that you’re the first person in
meaning that you’re the first person in a relationship to say I love you
a relationship to say I love you
a relationship to say I love you vulnerability means that you forgive
vulnerability means that you forgive
vulnerability means that you forgive yourself for everything that you are
yourself for everything that you are
yourself for everything that you are everything that you’ve done and maybe
everything that you’ve done and maybe
everything that you’ve done and maybe even tried to do and it allows you to
even tried to do and it allows you to
even tried to do and it allows you to move forward and heal vulnerability
move forward and heal vulnerability
move forward and heal vulnerability means that you can recover and recovery
means that you can recover and recovery
means that you can recover and recovery means you realize there’s no such thing
means you realize there’s no such thing
means you realize there’s no such thing as well there’s no such thing as the
as well there’s no such thing as the
as well there’s no such thing as the perfect physique and a perfect health
perfect physique and a perfect health
perfect physique and a perfect health the perfect life and it doesn’t matter
the perfect life and it doesn’t matter
the perfect life and it doesn’t matter what Instagram tells you I would never
what Instagram tells you I would never
what Instagram tells you I would never ever wish for anyone to get to the
ever wish for anyone to get to the
ever wish for anyone to get to the position I did on the car park that day
position I did on the car park that day
position I did on the car park that day but I’m actually really thankful because
but I’m actually really thankful because
but I’m actually really thankful because in those moments and in the journey
in those moments and in the journey
in those moments and in the journey since it allowed me to reflect on life
since it allowed me to reflect on life
since it allowed me to reflect on life in a way that people only tend to get to
in a way that people only tend to get to
in a way that people only tend to get to do in those last few moments when our
do in those last few moments when our
do in those last few moments when our time is up it’s allowed me to realize
time is up it’s allowed me to realize
time is up it’s allowed me to realize that you don’t need a purpose to be
that you don’t need a purpose to be
that you don’t need a purpose to be purposeful
purposeful
purposeful you don’t need a reason to live you
you don’t need a reason to live you
you don’t need a reason to live you don’t need an identity to be human or a
don’t need an identity to be human or a
don’t need an identity to be human or a position from which to speak the truth
position from which to speak the truth
position from which to speak the truth you don’t need Beauty to be beautiful
you don’t need Beauty to be beautiful
you don’t need Beauty to be beautiful you don’t need space to feel peace in
you don’t need space to feel peace in
you don’t need space to feel peace in life all you need is just to be thank
life all you need is just to be thank
life all you need is just to be thank you
you
you [Applause]
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