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[Applause] what does a miracle look like to you
what does a miracle look like to you
what does a miracle look like to you think about it you might think oh I
think about it you might think oh I
think about it you might think oh I don’t know a miracle when I see one
don’t know a miracle when I see one
don’t know a miracle when I see one but do you really and what if miracles
but do you really and what if miracles
but do you really and what if miracles happen to you all the time you just
happen to you all the time you just
happen to you all the time you just don’t notice him to me it’s a miracle
don’t notice him to me it’s a miracle
don’t notice him to me it’s a miracle that I’m standing here at this TEDx
that I’m standing here at this TEDx
that I’m standing here at this TEDx event because as multi mentioned about
event because as multi mentioned about
event because as multi mentioned about five years ago I did not believe in
five years ago I did not believe in
five years ago I did not believe in miracles at all I’ve felt insignificant
miracles at all I’ve felt insignificant
miracles at all I’ve felt insignificant for the longest time I thought everybody
for the longest time I thought everybody
for the longest time I thought everybody else was put on this planet with the
else was put on this planet with the
else was put on this planet with the purpose except for me
purpose except for me
purpose except for me so it was no wonder I went into a
so it was no wonder I went into a
so it was no wonder I went into a burnout and I remember at some point I
burnout and I remember at some point I
burnout and I remember at some point I got so frustrated I thought I’m just
got so frustrated I thought I’m just
got so frustrated I thought I’m just gonna pray to whoever’s out there to
gonna pray to whoever’s out there to
gonna pray to whoever’s out there to give me a sign a clear clue on what to
give me a sign a clear clue on what to
give me a sign a clear clue on what to do
do
do and I promised them I would listen and I
and I promised them I would listen and I
and I promised them I would listen and I promised them I would do whatever they
promised them I would do whatever they
promised them I would do whatever they asked me to and guess what happened
worse than nothing I felt from a burnout
worse than nothing I felt from a burnout into a depression how’s that for a sign
fortunately by the time I had surrounded
fortunately by the time I had surrounded myself with some of the best coaches and
myself with some of the best coaches and
myself with some of the best coaches and therapists and I pulled myself out of
therapists and I pulled myself out of
therapists and I pulled myself out of the pit I’ve been sitting in and he
the pit I’ve been sitting in and he
the pit I’ve been sitting in and he dawned on me that I actually had a
dawned on me that I actually had a
dawned on me that I actually had a saying over my life and the biggest
saying over my life and the biggest
saying over my life and the biggest lightbulb moment for me was when I
lightbulb moment for me was when I
lightbulb moment for me was when I discovered that only I am responsible
discovered that only I am responsible
discovered that only I am responsible for my life meaning it’s nobody else’s
for my life meaning it’s nobody else’s
for my life meaning it’s nobody else’s responsibility whether I’m happy or not
responsibility whether I’m happy or not
responsibility whether I’m happy or not nor am I responsible for anybody else’s
nor am I responsible for anybody else’s
nor am I responsible for anybody else’s happiness so how did I go from there to
happiness so how did I go from there to
happiness so how did I go from there to noticing miracles once I discovered that
noticing miracles once I discovered that
noticing miracles once I discovered that I had an influence on my life I also
I had an influence on my life I also
I had an influence on my life I also noticed that that was only in the
noticed that that was only in the
noticed that that was only in the present moment as in I couldn’t
present moment as in I couldn’t
present moment as in I couldn’t influence the past anymore
influence the past anymore
influence the past anymore it’s already gone and the future well
it’s already gone and the future well
it’s already gone and the future well that only exists in my mind so what I
that only exists in my mind so what I
that only exists in my mind so what I started doing is noticing like what am I
started doing is noticing like what am I
started doing is noticing like what am I feeling am I happy am i sad what am I
feeling am I happy am i sad what am I
feeling am I happy am i sad what am I thinking and what else is going on and
thinking and what else is going on and
thinking and what else is going on and that’s when I started noticing them the
that’s when I started noticing them the
that’s when I started noticing them the miracles I can point out a couple of
miracles I can point out a couple of
miracles I can point out a couple of more but I’ll give you a real-life
more but I’ll give you a real-life
more but I’ll give you a real-life example X instead because I also
example X instead because I also
example X instead because I also remember the moment I had to call the
remember the moment I had to call the
remember the moment I had to call the banks Department of that payments over
banks Department of that payments over
banks Department of that payments over to you for the first time and I’m saying
to you for the first time and I’m saying
to you for the first time and I’m saying the first time because it wasn’t the
the first time because it wasn’t the
the first time because it wasn’t the last time and I had my phone in one hand
last time and I had my phone in one hand
last time and I had my phone in one hand and their number in the other and I was
and their number in the other and I was
and their number in the other and I was just trembling all over thinking I wish
just trembling all over thinking I wish
just trembling all over thinking I wish I did not have to call these people I
I did not have to call these people I
I did not have to call these people I wish I could just pay them but I owe
wish I could just pay them but I owe
wish I could just pay them but I owe them but that didn’t help I wasn’t
them but that didn’t help I wasn’t
them but that didn’t help I wasn’t making the call so I figured I need to
making the call so I figured I need to
making the call so I figured I need to change my thinking come up with
change my thinking come up with
change my thinking come up with something different and I realized well
something different and I realized well
something different and I realized well the bank wants my money I need more time
the bank wants my money I need more time
the bank wants my money I need more time to get them the money maybe we could
to get them the money maybe we could
to get them the money maybe we could strike a deal and a phone call itself
strike a deal and a phone call itself
strike a deal and a phone call itself really wasn’t that bad actually
really wasn’t that bad actually
really wasn’t that bad actually I am spoke to a bank employee who asked
I am spoke to a bank employee who asked
I am spoke to a bank employee who asked me how I plan to get them the money
me how I plan to get them the money
me how I plan to get them the money I said I’m waiting for other people to
I said I’m waiting for other people to
I said I’m waiting for other people to pay me and I said I’ll keep you informed
pay me and I said I’ll keep you informed
pay me and I said I’ll keep you informed you know
you know
you know and I hung up the phone and then a small
and I hung up the phone and then a small
and I hung up the phone and then a small miracle happened I realized all the time
miracle happened I realized all the time
miracle happened I realized all the time I’d been afraid of the bank of an
I’d been afraid of the bank of an
I’d been afraid of the bank of an organization big enough to put me out on
organization big enough to put me out on
organization big enough to put me out on the street which was let’s face it my
the street which was let’s face it my
the street which was let’s face it my biggest fear but I hadn’t had a
biggest fear but I hadn’t had a
biggest fear but I hadn’t had a conversation with the bank I had spoken
conversation with the bank I had spoken
conversation with the bank I had spoken to one person someone who could
to one person someone who could
to one person someone who could influence what will happen next
influence what will happen next
influence what will happen next yes but one person all the same and that
realisation changed every subsequent
realisation changed every subsequent phone call whether it was with the bank
phone call whether it was with the bank
phone call whether it was with the bank with the insurance company with the
with the insurance company with the
with the insurance company with the phone company because I was doing a lot
phone company because I was doing a lot
phone company because I was doing a lot of people a lot of money and every time
of people a lot of money and every time
of people a lot of money and every time I would think I am gonna be on the phone
I would think I am gonna be on the phone
I would think I am gonna be on the phone with another human being and we are
with another human being and we are
with another human being and we are going to create a win-win situation so
going to create a win-win situation so
going to create a win-win situation so that small miracle lets her be going I
that small miracle lets her be going I
that small miracle lets her be going I was able to sell my apartment in
was able to sell my apartment in
was able to sell my apartment in Amsterdam for a record amount and with
Amsterdam for a record amount and with
Amsterdam for a record amount and with that money I could move from the
that money I could move from the
that money I could move from the Netherlands to France which was my big
Netherlands to France which was my big
Netherlands to France which was my big dream nobody had expected that
dream nobody had expected that
dream nobody had expected that not even me I did insist on miracles so
not even me I did insist on miracles so
not even me I did insist on miracles so all around me in my life I see a lot of
all around me in my life I see a lot of
all around me in my life I see a lot of people sigh and complain about the
people sigh and complain about the
people sigh and complain about the slightest setback and that’s fine and
slightest setback and that’s fine and
slightest setback and that’s fine and it’s normal but I also see a lot of
it’s normal but I also see a lot of
it’s normal but I also see a lot of people getting stuck in that and it
people getting stuck in that and it
people getting stuck in that and it turns their lives into of rots you see
turns their lives into of rots you see
turns their lives into of rots you see the human brain is hardwired to look for
the human brain is hardwired to look for
the human brain is hardwired to look for trouble it’s called the negativity bias
trouble it’s called the negativity bias
trouble it’s called the negativity bias and a negativity bias is the tendency to
and a negativity bias is the tendency to
and a negativity bias is the tendency to prefer the negative over the positive if
prefer the negative over the positive if
prefer the negative over the positive if you go back to the
you go back to the
you go back to the when we were cavemen it totally makes
when we were cavemen it totally makes
when we were cavemen it totally makes sense I mean you’d have saber-tooth
sense I mean you’d have saber-tooth
sense I mean you’d have saber-tooth Tigers lurking in the bushes and a
Tigers lurking in the bushes and a
Tigers lurking in the bushes and a positive attitude wasn’t really gonna
positive attitude wasn’t really gonna
positive attitude wasn’t really gonna save your life nowadays there’s not so
save your life nowadays there’s not so
save your life nowadays there’s not so many Tigers lurking around anymore but
many Tigers lurking around anymore but
many Tigers lurking around anymore but we’re still being plagued by this
we’re still being plagued by this
we’re still being plagued by this prehistorical conditioning and the
prehistorical conditioning and the
prehistorical conditioning and the attitude society teaches us doesn’t help
attitude society teaches us doesn’t help
attitude society teaches us doesn’t help either to me it’s like we’re being
either to me it’s like we’re being
either to me it’s like we’re being brainwashed through the news through
brainwashed through the news through
brainwashed through the news through social media to expect the worst instead
social media to expect the worst instead
social media to expect the worst instead of the best so it’s probably because of
of the best so it’s probably because of
of the best so it’s probably because of these negative tendencies that miracles
these negative tendencies that miracles
these negative tendencies that miracles are generally being perceived as huge
are generally being perceived as huge
are generally being perceived as huge happenings the kind of stuff that
happenings the kind of stuff that
happenings the kind of stuff that doesn’t happen to the ordinary Jain or
doesn’t happen to the ordinary Jain or
doesn’t happen to the ordinary Jain or Joe and I discrete to me miracles happen
Joe and I discrete to me miracles happen
Joe and I discrete to me miracles happen on a daily basis and they have added
on a daily basis and they have added
on a daily basis and they have added more gratitude and happiness to my life
more gratitude and happiness to my life
more gratitude and happiness to my life you see if you’re waiting for that one
you see if you’re waiting for that one
you see if you’re waiting for that one big miracle that one big break uess miss
big miracle that one big break uess miss
big miracle that one big break uess miss out on all the small miraculous moments
out on all the small miraculous moments
out on all the small miraculous moments in between and you put your life into an
in between and you put your life into an
in between and you put your life into an everlasting waiting room where you’re
everlasting waiting room where you’re
everlasting waiting room where you’re saving your real appreciation for that
saving your real appreciation for that
saving your real appreciation for that one big break the way I look at my life
one big break the way I look at my life
one big break the way I look at my life the way that has changed my new
the way that has changed my new
the way that has changed my new perception is a miracle to me and where
perception is a miracle to me and where
perception is a miracle to me and where my thoughts changed on the inside my
my thoughts changed on the inside my
my thoughts changed on the inside my actions changed on the outside so
actions changed on the outside so
actions changed on the outside so nowadays I say a couple of affirmative
nowadays I say a couple of affirmative
nowadays I say a couple of affirmative sentences every day and for the skeptics
sentences every day and for the skeptics
sentences every day and for the skeptics among you affirmations have
among you affirmations have
among you affirmations have scientifically been proven to enhance
scientifically been proven to enhance
scientifically been proven to enhance your thinking your creativity and your
your thinking your creativity and your
your thinking your creativity and your performance and one of the phrases I say
performance and one of the phrases I say
performance and one of the phrases I say is
is
is expect miracles in my life now you may
expect miracles in my life now you may
expect miracles in my life now you may think who am I to expect miracles all
think who am I to expect miracles all
think who am I to expect miracles all the time and why don’t I wish them on
the time and why don’t I wish them on
the time and why don’t I wish them on people really need a miracle not being
people really need a miracle not being
people really need a miracle not being naive trust me and I’ve told you
naive trust me and I’ve told you
naive trust me and I’ve told you adversity happens to me as well but when
adversity happens to me as well but when
adversity happens to me as well but when it does I always expect to receive a
it does I always expect to receive a
it does I always expect to receive a lesson and discovering that lesson can
lesson and discovering that lesson can
lesson and discovering that lesson can be a miracle too you see if there’s
be a miracle too you see if there’s
be a miracle too you see if there’s anything I’d like to share with you
anything I’d like to share with you
anything I’d like to share with you today is that miracles are not a matter
today is that miracles are not a matter
today is that miracles are not a matter of deserving they are a matter of
of deserving they are a matter of
of deserving they are a matter of perceiving situations incidents
perceiving situations incidents
perceiving situations incidents coincidences as miraculous that’s what a
coincidences as miraculous that’s what a
coincidences as miraculous that’s what a difference lies between feeling lucky
difference lies between feeling lucky
difference lies between feeling lucky for a moment and feeling happy must at a
for a moment and feeling happy must at a
for a moment and feeling happy must at a time and also makes me no different from
time and also makes me no different from
time and also makes me no different from you it’s not that I experienced all
you it’s not that I experienced all
you it’s not that I experienced all these miracles because I have more
these miracles because I have more
these miracles because I have more rights of them than you do I just
rights of them than you do I just
rights of them than you do I just recognized them so if it weren’t for my
recognized them so if it weren’t for my
recognized them so if it weren’t for my best friend and business partner
best friend and business partner
best friend and business partner Cassie Quentin who had overheard a
Cassie Quentin who had overheard a
Cassie Quentin who had overheard a conversation back in the Netherlands I
conversation back in the Netherlands I
conversation back in the Netherlands I would not be standing here generally
would not be standing here generally
would not be standing here generally this is called synchronicity being at
this is called synchronicity being at
this is called synchronicity being at the right place at the right time I am
the right place at the right time I am
the right place at the right time I am calling it a miracle if you think that
calling it a miracle if you think that
calling it a miracle if you think that I’m just lucky and this could never
I’m just lucky and this could never
I’m just lucky and this could never happen to you let’s go back to where it
happen to you let’s go back to where it
happen to you let’s go back to where it started for me are you taking
started for me are you taking
started for me are you taking responsibility for your own life for
responsibility for your own life for
responsibility for your own life for your own happiness because that’s where
your own happiness because that’s where
your own happiness because that’s where it all starts
are you recognizing what’s happening in
are you recognizing what’s happening in the moment and then perceiving whether
the moment and then perceiving whether
the moment and then perceiving whether it could be more special than usual
making miracles part of your daily life
making miracles part of your daily life does not make them less miraculous I’m
does not make them less miraculous I’m
does not make them less miraculous I’m not trying to suck the magic out of
not trying to suck the magic out of
not trying to suck the magic out of miracles trust me anything I’d like to
miracles trust me anything I’d like to
miracles trust me anything I’d like to add more magic to anything and also you
add more magic to anything and also you
add more magic to anything and also you may have noticed I haven’t given you a
may have noticed I haven’t given you a
may have noticed I haven’t given you a definition of what a miracle is Who am I
definition of what a miracle is Who am I
definition of what a miracle is Who am I to decide that for you that would
to decide that for you that would
to decide that for you that would definitely make them less magical
definitely make them less magical
definitely make them less magical I wonder though do you think differently
I wonder though do you think differently
I wonder though do you think differently about what a miracle looks like to you
about what a miracle looks like to you
about what a miracle looks like to you now have you perhaps come up with some
now have you perhaps come up with some
now have you perhaps come up with some different examples because that would be
different examples because that would be
different examples because that would be a miracle to me thank you
a miracle to me thank you
a miracle to me thank you [Applause]
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