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How To Let Go Of Your Past | David Bentley | TEDxLeamingtonSpa


who here was born with a physical

who here was born with a physical disability or know somebody that was

disability or know somebody that was

disability or know somebody that was born with a physical disability please

born with a physical disability please

born with a physical disability please raise your hands thank you who here was

raise your hands thank you who here was

raise your hands thank you who here was bullied at school or knows somebody that

bullied at school or knows somebody that

bullied at school or knows somebody that was bullied at school please raise your

was bullied at school please raise your

was bullied at school please raise your hands thank you

hands thank you

hands thank you now I’m gonna ask everybody to stand up

now I’m gonna ask everybody to stand up

now I’m gonna ask everybody to stand up if you could all just stand up thank you

if you could all just stand up thank you

if you could all just stand up thank you now we need to take your right hand and

now we need to take your right hand and

now we need to take your right hand and place it into your chest thank you now

place it into your chest thank you now

place it into your chest thank you now I’m gonna ask you to bring your right

I’m gonna ask you to bring your right

I’m gonna ask you to bring your right foot and bring it in words thank you now

foot and bring it in words thank you now

foot and bring it in words thank you now I haven’t asked you to do this because I

I haven’t asked you to do this because I

I haven’t asked you to do this because I want you to feel silly I’m doing this

want you to feel silly I’m doing this

want you to feel silly I’m doing this because I was born with damage to my

because I was born with damage to my

because I was born with damage to my brain at birth which controls the right

brain at birth which controls the right

brain at birth which controls the right side of my body so I didn’t know I had a

side of my body so I didn’t know I had a

side of my body so I didn’t know I had a right arm and leg you can sit down now

if it’s okay with you I’m gonna share my

if it’s okay with you I’m gonna share my journey about how I overcame my

journey about how I overcame my

journey about how I overcame my disability and also how I overcame the

disability and also how I overcame the

disability and also how I overcame the emotional trauma that was attached with

emotional trauma that was attached with

emotional trauma that was attached with being a different child is that okay

thank you the doctors told my parents

thank you the doctors told my parents that I wouldn’t they wouldn’t have a

that I wouldn’t they wouldn’t have a

that I wouldn’t they wouldn’t have a normal child and to prepare for life

normal child and to prepare for life

normal child and to prepare for life with a disabled child they said that I

with a disabled child they said that I

with a disabled child they said that I wouldn’t be able to ride a bike that I

wouldn’t be able to ride a bike that I

wouldn’t be able to ride a bike that I wouldn’t be able to do things that

wouldn’t be able to do things that

wouldn’t be able to do things that normal children do well I can tell you

normal children do well I can tell you

normal children do well I can tell you that I ski on black slopes I have a

that I ski on black slopes I have a

that I ski on black slopes I have a scuba diving license and for sure I can

scuba diving license and for sure I can

scuba diving license and for sure I can ride a bike so I think the doctors were

ride a bike so I think the doctors were

ride a bike so I think the doctors were wrong my parents never told me that I

wrong my parents never told me that I

wrong my parents never told me that I was different thanks mom and it wasn’t

was different thanks mom and it wasn’t

was different thanks mom and it wasn’t until I started to go to school did I

until I started to go to school did I

until I started to go to school did I start to realize that I was different

start to realize that I was different

start to realize that I was different did I start to get

did I start to get

did I start to get comments like why is your hand like that

comments like why is your hand like that

comments like why is your hand like that why are you walking funny and I was like

why are you walking funny and I was like

why are you walking funny and I was like I don’t know there was different

I don’t know there was different

I don’t know there was different comments growing up and there was times

comments growing up and there was times

comments growing up and there was times where I was looked at called names there

where I was looked at called names there

where I was looked at called names there was a time where I was with the small

was a time where I was with the small

was a time where I was with the small group of friends that I had at school

group of friends that I had at school

group of friends that I had at school and they started to pick on me and push

and they started to pick on me and push

and they started to pick on me and push me around I remember falling over and my

me around I remember falling over and my

me around I remember falling over and my shoe coming off and I’m so angry I

shoe coming off and I’m so angry I

shoe coming off and I’m so angry I remember I’m taking my shoe and trying

remember I’m taking my shoe and trying

remember I’m taking my shoe and trying to hit them with my shoe and as they’re

to hit them with my shoe and as they’re

to hit them with my shoe and as they’re running away they’re faster than me some

running away they’re faster than me some

running away they’re faster than me some chasing them and then I’m spitting at

chasing them and then I’m spitting at

chasing them and then I’m spitting at them humiliating experience and I

them humiliating experience and I

them humiliating experience and I remember going home sitting on my

remember going home sitting on my

remember going home sitting on my bathroom floor and crying and thinking I

bathroom floor and crying and thinking I

bathroom floor and crying and thinking I have no friends and I don’t want to go

have no friends and I don’t want to go

have no friends and I don’t want to go back to school I had an operation on my

back to school I had an operation on my

back to school I had an operation on my right foot to straighten my foot out

right foot to straighten my foot out

right foot to straighten my foot out when I went to take my cast off I went

when I went to take my cast off I went

when I went to take my cast off I went to the doctor’s in London and he took my

to the doctor’s in London and he took my

to the doctor’s in London and he took my cast off the moment that he took my cast

cast off the moment that he took my cast

cast off the moment that he took my cast off I started crying and shouting I’m so

off I started crying and shouting I’m so

off I started crying and shouting I’m so angry my leg is now half the size of my

angry my leg is now half the size of my

angry my leg is now half the size of my left leg and I’m terrified what they’re

left leg and I’m terrified what they’re

left leg and I’m terrified what they’re gonna think of me at school and the

gonna think of me at school and the

gonna think of me at school and the doctors like I don’t understand

doctors like I don’t understand

doctors like I don’t understand normally people are happy when they take

normally people are happy when they take

normally people are happy when they take the cast off but for me I was too

the cast off but for me I was too

the cast off but for me I was too concerned with what other people were

concerned with what other people were

concerned with what other people were going to think of me I had a plastic

going to think of me I had a plastic

going to think of me I had a plastic brace on my foot and you know I felt

brace on my foot and you know I felt

brace on my foot and you know I felt like Forrest Gump I would be looked at

like Forrest Gump I would be looked at

like Forrest Gump I would be looked at in some kind of way in the way that

in some kind of way in the way that

in some kind of way in the way that somebody’s looking at me all of my

somebody’s looking at me all of my

somebody’s looking at me all of my childhood and it got to me because I

childhood and it got to me because I

childhood and it got to me because I didn’t want to be that child why me the

didn’t want to be that child why me the

didn’t want to be that child why me the turning point came when I was introduced

turning point came when I was introduced

turning point came when I was introduced to NLP considered the technology of

to NLP considered the technology of

to NLP considered the technology of achievement I was like okay I can

achievement I was like okay I can

achievement I was like okay I can conceptualize achieving goals I’m gonna

conceptualize achieving goals I’m gonna

conceptualize achieving goals I’m gonna show these guys I’m gonna achieve the

show these guys I’m gonna achieve the

show these guys I’m gonna achieve the best life that I can what is that I want

best life that I can what is that I want

best life that I can what is that I want to travel around the world

to travel around the world

to travel around the world I want to have sexy beautiful girls and

I want to have sexy beautiful girls and

I want to have sexy beautiful girls and I want to create a business that allows

I want to create a business that allows

I want to create a business that allows me to do all these things so I did all

me to do all these things so I did all

me to do all these things so I did all of these things and then I came home and

of these things and then I came home and

of these things and then I came home and something was missing I was having

something was missing I was having

something was missing I was having conversations with people and I was

conversations with people and I was

conversations with people and I was feeling triggered these emotions were

feeling triggered these emotions were

feeling triggered these emotions were coming up

coming up

coming up I wasn’t feeling comfortable in my own

I wasn’t feeling comfortable in my own

I wasn’t feeling comfortable in my own skin and I didn’t know why it wasn’t

skin and I didn’t know why it wasn’t

skin and I didn’t know why it wasn’t until I stopped looking externally and

until I stopped looking externally and

until I stopped looking externally and started looking internally did I realize

started looking internally did I realize

started looking internally did I realize that actually there’s a happy fun

that actually there’s a happy fun

that actually there’s a happy fun creative guy that wants to make a

creative guy that wants to make a

creative guy that wants to make a difference that wants to bring people

difference that wants to bring people

difference that wants to bring people together the wants to have a positive

together the wants to have a positive

together the wants to have a positive impact in this world it wasn’t until I

impact in this world it wasn’t until I

impact in this world it wasn’t until I came home and started connecting with

came home and started connecting with

came home and started connecting with myself did I really realize that

myself did I really realize that

myself did I really realize that actually what I was doing was for

actually what I was doing was for

actually what I was doing was for validation I was chasing girls for

validation I was chasing girls for

validation I was chasing girls for validation I built an entire identity on

validation I built an entire identity on

validation I built an entire identity on validation my message today and also my

validation my message today and also my

validation my message today and also my passion as an embodiment coach is to

passion as an embodiment coach is to

passion as an embodiment coach is to share the importance of connecting with

share the importance of connecting with

share the importance of connecting with your body of coming home emotion is

your body of coming home emotion is

your body of coming home emotion is energy in motion we experience emotions

energy in motion we experience emotions

energy in motion we experience emotions that growing up and these emotions get

that growing up and these emotions get

that growing up and these emotions get caught in our body our body is an

caught in our body our body is an

caught in our body our body is an unconscious or unconscious mind and

unconscious or unconscious mind and

unconscious or unconscious mind and unless we process these emotions from

unless we process these emotions from

unless we process these emotions from our past the pain the anger the

our past the pain the anger the

our past the pain the anger the humiliation unless these emotions finish

humiliation unless these emotions finish

humiliation unless these emotions finish their process and have a voice they

their process and have a voice they

their process and have a voice they manifest themselves in different ways

manifest themselves in different ways

manifest themselves in different ways from illnesses to addictions to anger

from illnesses to addictions to anger

from illnesses to addictions to anger problems when I started to come home and

problems when I started to come home and

problems when I started to come home and connect with my body and release the

connect with my body and release the

connect with my body and release the emotions I started to make more money I

emotions I started to make more money I

emotions I started to make more money I started to have better friends I started

started to have better friends I started

started to have better friends I started to do

to do

to do things that I want to do in my life

there’s something else I want to share

there’s something else I want to share with you I’m also a beatboxer I was

with you I’m also a beatboxer I was

with you I’m also a beatboxer I was inspired by my sister’s boyfriend when I

inspired by my sister’s boyfriend when I

inspired by my sister’s boyfriend when I was 15 and I thought he was amazing

was 15 and I thought he was amazing

was 15 and I thought he was amazing and I copied him for you you come back

and I copied him for you you come back

and I copied him for you you come back home come come come home

thank you thank you so I want to leave

thank you thank you so I want to leave you I want to leave you with a message

you I want to leave you with a message

you I want to leave you with a message where in your body do you have impressed

where in your body do you have impressed

where in your body do you have impressed emotions from your past

emotions from your past

emotions from your past because we all do thank you

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