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How I Overcame My Fear of Public Speaking | Danish Dhamani | TEDxKids@SMU


my name is Donna SH and my full-time job

my name is Donna SH and my full-time job is to count people’s arms and us and

is to count people’s arms and us and

is to count people’s arms and us and like it all started at my first day of

like it all started at my first day of

like it all started at my first day of school after my family moved from

school after my family moved from

school after my family moved from Pakistan to Tanzania

Pakistan to Tanzania

Pakistan to Tanzania I was busy sketching my dream cars in my

I was busy sketching my dream cars in my

I was busy sketching my dream cars in my notebook and all of a sudden I hear a

notebook and all of a sudden I hear a

notebook and all of a sudden I hear a voice in my direction the teacher

voice in my direction the teacher

voice in my direction the teacher Daanish can you please rise up and

Daanish can you please rise up and

Daanish can you please rise up and introduce yourself she had put me on the

introduce yourself she had put me on the

introduce yourself she had put me on the spot I was in this foreign land 30 pairs

spot I was in this foreign land 30 pairs

spot I was in this foreign land 30 pairs of eyes staring at me how would you feel

of eyes staring at me how would you feel

of eyes staring at me how would you feel when a teacher puts you on the spot in

when a teacher puts you on the spot in

when a teacher puts you on the spot in this kind of situation my mind went

this kind of situation my mind went

this kind of situation my mind went blank my heart started racing I kept

blank my heart started racing I kept

blank my heart started racing I kept quiet I started hearing giggles in the

quiet I started hearing giggles in the

quiet I started hearing giggles in the classroom and then tears ran down my

classroom and then tears ran down my

classroom and then tears ran down my cheek that was the first time I felt the

cheek that was the first time I felt the

cheek that was the first time I felt the fear of speaking in front of others the

fear of speaking in front of others the

fear of speaking in front of others the first time I felt the fear of public

first time I felt the fear of public

first time I felt the fear of public speaking

fast-forward a few years I was at

fast-forward a few years I was at college here in America that fear still

college here in America that fear still

college here in America that fear still stuck with me it wasn’t slow it was part

stuck with me it wasn’t slow it was part

stuck with me it wasn’t slow it was part of my soul now when I was little I had

of my soul now when I was little I had

of my soul now when I was little I had many other fears I was afraid of the

many other fears I was afraid of the

many other fears I was afraid of the dark the monsters under my bed the

dark the monsters under my bed the

dark the monsters under my bed the cockroaches and I don’t mean the tiny

cockroaches and I don’t mean the tiny

cockroaches and I don’t mean the tiny cockroaches here but the big flying

cockroaches here but the big flying

cockroaches here but the big flying cockroaches I had back home in Pakistan

cockroaches I had back home in Pakistan

cockroaches I had back home in Pakistan in Tanzania but I outgrew these fears I

in Tanzania but I outgrew these fears I

in Tanzania but I outgrew these fears I overcame them as I grew older but public

overcame them as I grew older but public

overcame them as I grew older but public speaking no way I was still afraid of it

speaking no way I was still afraid of it

speaking no way I was still afraid of it but I decided enough was enough I

but I decided enough was enough I

but I decided enough was enough I decided to do something about it to take

decided to do something about it to take

decided to do something about it to take that step and find a solution and so I

that step and find a solution and so I

that step and find a solution and so I went to the one place on the internet

went to the one place on the internet

went to the one place on the internet where we all look for problems – our

where we all look for problems – our

where we all look for problems – our solution to our problems Google I

solution to our problems Google I

solution to our problems Google I searched on Google how to overcome the

searched on Google how to overcome the

searched on Google how to overcome the fear of public speaking the first link

fear of public speaking the first link

fear of public speaking the first link told me about the great things I could

told me about the great things I could

told me about the great things I could be if I overcame this fear sound like a

be if I overcame this fear sound like a

be if I overcame this fear sound like a leader

leader

leader get a great job share your ideas give a

get a great job share your ideas give a

get a great job share your ideas give a TED talk change the world the second

TED talk change the world the second

TED talk change the world the second link showed me all the different ways I

link showed me all the different ways I

link showed me all the different ways I could overcome this fear hire a speech

could overcome this fear hire a speech

could overcome this fear hire a speech coach talk in front of the mirror do

coach talk in front of the mirror do

coach talk in front of the mirror do online courses attend public speaking

online courses attend public speaking

online courses attend public speaking clubs like Toastmasters that’s when I

clubs like Toastmasters that’s when I

clubs like Toastmasters that’s when I realized that I had it wrong all this

realized that I had it wrong all this

realized that I had it wrong all this time I thought you are either born a

time I thought you are either born a

time I thought you are either born a public speaker or you’re not I was wrong

public speaker or you’re not I was wrong

public speaker or you’re not I was wrong I realized that public speaking is

I realized that public speaking is

I realized that public speaking is actually a teachable skill that means

actually a teachable skill that means

actually a teachable skill that means that if any one of you here wants to

that if any one of you here wants to

that if any one of you here wants to speak powerfully like any of your famous

speak powerfully like any of your famous

speak powerfully like any of your famous public speakers yes you can we all can

public speakers yes you can we all can

public speakers yes you can we all can now some of these solutions work for me

now some of these solutions work for me

now some of these solutions work for me others not so much

others not so much

others not so much like hiring a speech coach that was

like hiring a speech coach that was

like hiring a speech coach that was outside of my student budget but online

outside of my student budget but online

outside of my student budget but online courses that’s where I learned how to

courses that’s where I learned how to

courses that’s where I learned how to vary my tone up and down how do talk

vary my tone up and down how do talk

vary my tone up and down how do talk really really fast that I could get

really really fast that I could get

really really fast that I could get someone’s excited or to slow right down

someone’s excited or to slow right down

someone’s excited or to slow right down to get someone’s attention and I

to get someone’s attention and I

to get someone’s attention and I practiced I practiced in front of the

practiced I practiced in front of the

practiced I practiced in front of the mirror at least that’s where I had one

mirror at least that’s where I had one

mirror at least that’s where I had one friend who thought I was good as for the

friend who thought I was good as for the

friend who thought I was good as for the public speaking Club Toastmasters that

public speaking Club Toastmasters that

public speaking Club Toastmasters that was fantastic I got to go in front of

was fantastic I got to go in front of

was fantastic I got to go in front of others and I got feedback on what I did

others and I got feedback on what I did

others and I got feedback on what I did good and what I did bad so I did all

good and what I did bad so I did all

good and what I did bad so I did all these things and I realized that first I

these things and I realized that first I

these things and I realized that first I was trapped in this cold dark hole where

was trapped in this cold dark hole where

was trapped in this cold dark hole where the fear of public speaking haunted at

the fear of public speaking haunted at

the fear of public speaking haunted at me it pulled me down and over here was

me it pulled me down and over here was

me it pulled me down and over here was this promise of sunshine of green

this promise of sunshine of green

this promise of sunshine of green pastures no anxiety but the path from

pastures no anxiety but the path from

pastures no anxiety but the path from here to here was all over the place I

here to here was all over the place I

here to here was all over the place I had to do all these things and I thought

had to do all these things and I thought

had to do all these things and I thought to myself there had to be one simpler

to myself there had to be one simpler

to myself there had to be one simpler way there had to be one way that I could

way there had to be one way that I could

way there had to be one way that I could go from here and leap to here so I went

go from here and leap to here so I went

go from here and leap to here so I went back to Google the source of all wisdom

back to Google the source of all wisdom

back to Google the source of all wisdom did some research

did some research

did some research and I started learning and reading a lot

and I started learning and reading a lot

and I started learning and reading a lot about artificial intelligence about

about artificial intelligence about

about artificial intelligence about these personal assistants we have in our

these personal assistants we have in our

these personal assistants we have in our pocket like Siri Alexa who understand

pocket like Siri Alexa who understand

pocket like Siri Alexa who understand what we’re saying hey Siri was the next

what we’re saying hey Siri was the next

what we’re saying hey Siri was the next meeting I have here’s your meeting they

meeting I have here’s your meeting they

meeting I have here’s your meeting they understand what we say what if they

understand what we say what if they

understand what we say what if they could also understand how you’re saying

could also understand how you’re saying

could also understand how you’re saying something and analyze your voice what if

something and analyze your voice what if

something and analyze your voice what if they could be your speech coaches what

they could be your speech coaches what

they could be your speech coaches what if every single person in the world

if every single person in the world

if every single person in the world anywhere had their own personal

anywhere had their own personal

anywhere had their own personal on-demand speech coach can you imagine a

on-demand speech coach can you imagine a

on-demand speech coach can you imagine a world where anyone has this help to help

world where anyone has this help to help

world where anyone has this help to help them overcome this fear of public

them overcome this fear of public

them overcome this fear of public speaking to help them speak powerfully

speaking to help them speak powerfully

speaking to help them speak powerfully to help them share their ideas that’s

to help them share their ideas that’s

to help them share their ideas that’s the idea that God has started that’s the

the idea that God has started that’s the

the idea that God has started that’s the idea that helped us create or I aural AI

idea that helped us create or I aural AI

idea that helped us create or I aural AI a mobile app that counts your arms and

a mobile app that counts your arms and

a mobile app that counts your arms and us a mobile app that gives you

us a mobile app that gives you

us a mobile app that gives you personalized lessons a place to practice

personalized lessons a place to practice

personalized lessons a place to practice them quietly in privacy and an app that

them quietly in privacy and an app that

them quietly in privacy and an app that gives you instant feedback using

gives you instant feedback using

gives you instant feedback using artificial intelligence now a year and a

artificial intelligence now a year and a

artificial intelligence now a year and a half ago when my roommate and I started

half ago when my roommate and I started

half ago when my roommate and I started building this we were no experts all we

building this we were no experts all we

building this we were no experts all we knew is that we want to build something

knew is that we want to build something

knew is that we want to build something we want to create a solution we were no

we want to create a solution we were no

we want to create a solution we were no speech coaches we were not public

speech coaches we were not public

speech coaches we were not public speakers we were no data scientists but

speakers we were no data scientists but

speakers we were no data scientists but we had the power of the Internet so we

we had the power of the Internet so we

we had the power of the Internet so we read bunch of research papers on

read bunch of research papers on

read bunch of research papers on computational linguistics we spoke with

computational linguistics we spoke with

computational linguistics we spoke with hundreds of speech coaches trying to

hundreds of speech coaches trying to

hundreds of speech coaches trying to understand how they give feedback on

understand how they give feedback on

understand how they give feedback on their speech we watched videos on

their speech we watched videos on

their speech we watched videos on machine learning and artificial

machine learning and artificial

machine learning and artificial intelligence so that we could codify all

intelligence so that we could codify all

intelligence so that we could codify all these things and create this app because

these things and create this app because

these things and create this app because we believe that we can use technology to

we believe that we can use technology to

we believe that we can use technology to help people become better versions of

help people become better versions of

help people become better versions of ourselves and the reason I’m sharing my

ourselves and the reason I’m sharing my

ourselves and the reason I’m sharing my story with you guys today is not to tell

story with you guys today is not to tell

story with you guys today is not to tell you guys go out and build apps or be

you guys go out and build apps or be

you guys go out and build apps or be entrepreneurs

entrepreneurs

entrepreneurs I’m saying go out and face your fears

I’m saying go out and face your fears

I’m saying go out and face your fears don’t burry them deep inside if you have

don’t burry them deep inside if you have

don’t burry them deep inside if you have a problem look for a solution if nothing

a problem look for a solution if nothing

a problem look for a solution if nothing exists create that solution if you don’t

exists create that solution if you don’t

exists create that solution if you don’t have the skills go to Google find how

have the skills go to Google find how

have the skills go to Google find how you can improve your knowledge and

you can improve your knowledge and

you can improve your knowledge and create something for me it’s all started

create something for me it’s all started

create something for me it’s all started when I was little that first time I felt

when I was little that first time I felt

when I was little that first time I felt the fear of public speaking

the fear of public speaking

the fear of public speaking that’s what empowered me to act that’s

that’s what empowered me to act that’s

that’s what empowered me to act that’s what empowered me to go on this journey

what empowered me to go on this journey

what empowered me to go on this journey of becoming a better speaker and this

of becoming a better speaker and this

of becoming a better speaker and this journey is never ending you will never

journey is never ending you will never

journey is never ending you will never see the finish line in fact there is no

see the finish line in fact there is no

see the finish line in fact there is no finish line in public speaking you can

finish line in public speaking you can

finish line in public speaking you can always get better remember that you can

always get better remember that you can

always get better remember that you can always become a better speaker you only

always become a better speaker you only

always become a better speaker you only stop if you tell yourself you’re good

stop if you tell yourself you’re good

stop if you tell yourself you’re good enough thank you

by the way I was recording my speech

by the way I was recording my speech let’s see what feedback or I gives ok so

let’s see what feedback or I gives ok so

let’s see what feedback or I gives ok so I had a few filler words like you know

I had a few filler words like you know

I had a few filler words like you know and um my pace

and um my pace

and um my pace ok 107 words per minute not too bad good

ok 107 words per minute not too bad good

ok 107 words per minute not too bad good energy and then some feedback or I was

energy and then some feedback or I was

energy and then some feedback or I was giving almost perfect I think I need to

giving almost perfect I think I need to

giving almost perfect I think I need to practice a little bit more and it’s

practice a little bit more and it’s

practice a little bit more and it’s saying looks like you’ll be hosting a

saying looks like you’ll be hosting a

saying looks like you’ll be hosting a TED talk at no time and my speech is

TED talk at no time and my speech is

TED talk at no time and my speech is already a plus and my transcript and I

already a plus and my transcript and I

already a plus and my transcript and I can even play back my audio and listen

can even play back my audio and listen

can even play back my audio and listen to itself check it out

to itself check it out

to itself check it out [Applause]

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