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How Feedback from a Jerk Co-Worker Could Revolutionize Performance | Rachelle Pereira | TEDxBroadway


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[Applause] so by trade I am a facilitator and a

so by trade I am a facilitator and a

so by trade I am a facilitator and a coach and one thing that all of my

coach and one thing that all of my

coach and one thing that all of my clients have had in common over the

clients have had in common over the

clients have had in common over the years is that they’re really interested

years is that they’re really interested

years is that they’re really interested in data and I get this because we live

in data and I get this because we live

in data and I get this because we live in the information age and the way that

in the information age and the way that

in the information age and the way that we use data is fundamental for the way

we use data is fundamental for the way

we use data is fundamental for the way that we do business however I have found

that we do business however I have found

that we do business however I have found that there is an enormous amount of

that there is an enormous amount of

that there is an enormous amount of untapped data out there I like to call

untapped data out there I like to call

untapped data out there I like to call this blind spot data because it exists

this blind spot data because it exists

this blind spot data because it exists but it’s hard to get at and most

but it’s hard to get at and most

but it’s hard to get at and most organizations find it very very

organizations find it very very

organizations find it very very difficult to be able to utilize and

difficult to be able to utilize and

difficult to be able to utilize and gather this data and some organizations

gather this data and some organizations

gather this data and some organizations just flat-out disregard it all together

just flat-out disregard it all together

just flat-out disregard it all together and this is an incredible Mis

and this is an incredible Mis

and this is an incredible Mis opportunity because within this data

opportunity because within this data

opportunity because within this data lies the potential to be a game-changer

lies the potential to be a game-changer

lies the potential to be a game-changer for every single industry so I wanted to

for every single industry so I wanted to

for every single industry so I wanted to share some trade secrets with you on how

share some trade secrets with you on how

share some trade secrets with you on how you might be able to gather this data

you might be able to gather this data

you might be able to gather this data and utilize it but first I’m going to

and utilize it but first I’m going to

and utilize it but first I’m going to tell you a really quick story about my

tell you a really quick story about my

tell you a really quick story about my co-founder Katie Byrne and myself so

co-founder Katie Byrne and myself so

co-founder Katie Byrne and myself so because we work in communication we

because we work in communication we

because we work in communication we really do try to model best practice and

really do try to model best practice and

really do try to model best practice and so we spend a lot of time working on our

so we spend a lot of time working on our

so we spend a lot of time working on our relationship and making sure that that’s

relationship and making sure that that’s

relationship and making sure that that’s strong cuz that helps our business and

strong cuz that helps our business and

strong cuz that helps our business and so we were having a meeting recently

so we were having a meeting recently

so we were having a meeting recently well this was actually months ago to be

well this was actually months ago to be

well this was actually months ago to be fair and she says to me she this

fair and she says to me she this

fair and she says to me she this Rochelle you know there’s something

Rochelle you know there’s something

Rochelle you know there’s something that’s on my mind and I really wanted to

that’s on my mind and I really wanted to

that’s on my mind and I really wanted to talk to you about it and I have to admit

talk to you about it and I have to admit

talk to you about it and I have to admit the way she said that it really made my

the way she said that it really made my

the way she said that it really made my stomach hurt because of like oh man

stomach hurt because of like oh man

stomach hurt because of like oh man what’s coming here and then I said well

what’s coming here and then I said well

what’s coming here and then I said well okay well what’s on your mind and she

okay well what’s on your mind and she

okay well what’s on your mind and she said well I’ve heard you say this now a

said well I’ve heard you say this now a

said well I’ve heard you say this now a couple of times I’ve heard you say to

couple of times I’ve heard you say to

couple of times I’ve heard you say to other people I don’t have time to watch

other people I don’t have time to watch

other people I don’t have time to watch TV and I think when you say that I think

TV and I think when you say that I think

TV and I think when you say that I think it makes you look like a snob

it makes you look like a snob

it makes you look like a snob that’s what I said I’m like what are you

that’s what I said I’m like what are you

that’s what I said I’m like what are you talking about there’s no way I could

talking about there’s no way I could

talking about there’s no way I could look like a snob that’s crazy and she

look like a snob that’s crazy and she

look like a snob that’s crazy and she says it’s because you know I know but

says it’s because you know I know but

says it’s because you know I know but people like TV people watch TV they

people like TV people watch TV they

people like TV people watch TV they might think that you’re judging them by

might think that you’re judging them by

might think that you’re judging them by you saying that you don’t have time to

you saying that you don’t have time to

you saying that you don’t have time to watch TV and the whole time she’s saying

watch TV and the whole time she’s saying

watch TV and the whole time she’s saying this I’m making these like over-the-top

this I’m making these like over-the-top

this I’m making these like over-the-top phases like what flight you serious and

phases like what flight you serious and

phases like what flight you serious and she says hey it’s just food for thought

she says hey it’s just food for thought

she says hey it’s just food for thought I’ll leave it there it’s no big deal and

I’ll leave it there it’s no big deal and

I’ll leave it there it’s no big deal and then I said well thank you very much for

then I said well thank you very much for

then I said well thank you very much for that and let’s move on to the next

that and let’s move on to the next

that and let’s move on to the next agenda item please you know and I have

agenda item please you know and I have

agenda item please you know and I have to be it was a really silly exchange but

to be it was a really silly exchange but

to be it was a really silly exchange but one where I felt really too burned you

one where I felt really too burned you

one where I felt really too burned you know it hurt and I think it hurt because

know it hurt and I think it hurt because

know it hurt and I think it hurt because I’m proud of a couple of things I’m

I’m proud of a couple of things I’m

I’m proud of a couple of things I’m really proud of my work ethic and I’m

really proud of my work ethic and I’m

really proud of my work ethic and I’m proud of my ability to connect with

proud of my ability to connect with

proud of my ability to connect with other people and I felt like what she

other people and I felt like what she

other people and I felt like what she was saying was is by talking about my

was saying was is by talking about my

was saying was is by talking about my work ethic I was disconnecting from

work ethic I was disconnecting from

work ethic I was disconnecting from other people it was like I couldn’t be

other people it was like I couldn’t be

other people it was like I couldn’t be myself and that’s the part that really

myself and that’s the part that really

myself and that’s the part that really hurt my feelings but you know I sat on

hurt my feelings but you know I sat on

hurt my feelings but you know I sat on it for a bit and I thought about it and

it for a bit and I thought about it and

it for a bit and I thought about it and I slept on it and it took a couple of

I slept on it and it took a couple of

I slept on it and it took a couple of days really but I realized it is totally

days really but I realized it is totally

days really but I realized it is totally obnoxious when people say I don’t have

obnoxious when people say I don’t have

obnoxious when people say I don’t have time to watch TV I thought what am i

time to watch TV I thought what am i

time to watch TV I thought what am i doing why did I say the Hat so I went

doing why did I say the Hat so I went

doing why did I say the Hat so I went back to her I said Katie you’re totally

back to her I said Katie you’re totally

back to her I said Katie you’re totally right I’m not gonna say it I’m gonna try

right I’m not gonna say it I’m gonna try

right I’m not gonna say it I’m gonna try to watch TV like be relatable yeah it’s

to watch TV like be relatable yeah it’s

to watch TV like be relatable yeah it’s like no big deal and you know and that

like no big deal and you know and that

like no big deal and you know and that was it so let me go back to that blind

was it so let me go back to that blind

was it so let me go back to that blind spot data that I had talked about at the

spot data that I had talked about at the

spot data that I had talked about at the very beginning you know that

very beginning you know that

very beginning you know that game-changing data that exists but it’s

game-changing data that exists but it’s

game-changing data that exists but it’s hard to see it was in the story that I

hard to see it was in the story that I

hard to see it was in the story that I just told

just told

just told did you guys hear it at all it was

did you guys hear it at all it was

did you guys hear it at all it was feedback feet you’re disappointed aren’t

feedback feet you’re disappointed aren’t

feedback feet you’re disappointed aren’t you I can tell you’re doesn’t win

you I can tell you’re doesn’t win

you I can tell you’re doesn’t win because feedback isn’t cool feedback is

because feedback isn’t cool feedback is

because feedback isn’t cool feedback is not sexy I get it I get it but the thing

not sexy I get it I get it but the thing

not sexy I get it I get it but the thing is is the way that we receive feedback

is is the way that we receive feedback

is is the way that we receive feedback and are able to action feedback that’s

and are able to action feedback that’s

and are able to action feedback that’s the game changer for every single one of

the game changer for every single one of

the game changer for every single one of us in the room so and I’d say that is

us in the room so and I’d say that is

us in the room so and I’d say that is sexy personally so and and I think that

sexy personally so and and I think that

sexy personally so and and I think that you would agree that Katie was right to

you would agree that Katie was right to

you would agree that Katie was right to tell me that right because I didn’t know

tell me that right because I didn’t know

tell me that right because I didn’t know how I could be potentially be perceived

how I could be potentially be perceived

how I could be potentially be perceived and I don’t want to be perceived that

and I don’t want to be perceived that

and I don’t want to be perceived that way so had she not told me or I hadn’t

way so had she not told me or I hadn’t

way so had she not told me or I hadn’t listened I could have been going all

listened I could have been going all

listened I could have been going all over town sort of bragging about how I

over town sort of bragging about how I

over town sort of bragging about how I don’t watch TV and pissing people off

don’t watch TV and pissing people off

don’t watch TV and pissing people off you know

you know

you know left right and center and and that’s not

left right and center and and that’s not

left right and center and and that’s not what I wanted but I don’t think I’m

what I wanted but I don’t think I’m

what I wanted but I don’t think I’m alone here in fact I know I’m not alone

alone here in fact I know I’m not alone

alone here in fact I know I’m not alone because we have worked with thousands of

because we have worked with thousands of

because we have worked with thousands of seasoned professionals all over the

seasoned professionals all over the

seasoned professionals all over the world who struggle with the same thing

world who struggle with the same thing

world who struggle with the same thing that we’re missing critical pieces of

that we’re missing critical pieces of

that we’re missing critical pieces of data and I think it’s for two reasons

data and I think it’s for two reasons

data and I think it’s for two reasons one is we take we take issue with the

one is we take we take issue with the

one is we take we take issue with the person who’s giving us the message and

person who’s giving us the message and

person who’s giving us the message and we take issue with the message itself so

we take issue with the message itself so

we take issue with the message itself so let’s look at both of those things a

let’s look at both of those things a

let’s look at both of those things a little bit closer so let’s imagine it

little bit closer so let’s imagine it

little bit closer so let’s imagine it wasn’t Katie who gave me that feedback

wasn’t Katie who gave me that feedback

wasn’t Katie who gave me that feedback let’s imagine anybody else had given me

let’s imagine anybody else had given me

let’s imagine anybody else had given me that feedback like a stranger

that feedback like a stranger

that feedback like a stranger acquaintance second cousin whatever I’m

acquaintance second cousin whatever I’m

acquaintance second cousin whatever I’m pretty confident I would have heard that

pretty confident I would have heard that

pretty confident I would have heard that and immediately thought they don’t know

and immediately thought they don’t know

and immediately thought they don’t know me like they’re addicted to television

me like they’re addicted to television

me like they’re addicted to television you know it would have like thought like

you know it would have like thought like

you know it would have like thought like they’ve got problems right and I would

they’ve got problems right and I would

they’ve got problems right and I would have essentially taken that data

have essentially taken that data

have essentially taken that data crumpled it up thrown in the garbage and

crumpled it up thrown in the garbage and

crumpled it up thrown in the garbage and not even thought about it

not even thought about it

not even thought about it not even once really the only reason I

not even once really the only reason I

not even once really the only reason I was able to listen to the data was

was able to listen to the data was

was able to listen to the data was because it did come from Katie who not

because it did come from Katie who not

because it did come from Katie who not only you know I said before is a trusted

only you know I said before is a trusted

only you know I said before is a trusted business partner but she’s also a really

business partner but she’s also a really

business partner but she’s also a really close friend she’s even listed on our

close friend she’s even listed on our

close friend she’s even listed on our will to take care of our children if my

will to take care of our children if my

will to take care of our children if my husband and I die and it was still hard

husband and I die and it was still hard

husband and I die and it was still hard to hear the feedback right so this means

to hear the feedback right so this means

to hear the feedback right so this means that it’s hard for us to hear feedback

that it’s hard for us to hear feedback

that it’s hard for us to hear feedback from anybody right do you agree with

from anybody right do you agree with

from anybody right do you agree with this yes I know you do so now the second

this yes I know you do so now the second

this yes I know you do so now the second part is the message like let’s

part is the message like let’s

part is the message like let’s complicate it even more now we take

complicate it even more now we take

complicate it even more now we take issue with the message because we’re

issue with the message because we’re

issue with the message because we’re human beings and we try to avoid pain

human beings and we try to avoid pain

human beings and we try to avoid pain and that’s normal right we want to duck

and that’s normal right we want to duck

and that’s normal right we want to duck and dive we want to avoid pain so what

and dive we want to avoid pain so what

and dive we want to avoid pain so what we do is we either think that the

we do is we either think that the

we do is we either think that the message is nonsensical or we start to

message is nonsensical or we start to

message is nonsensical or we start to build the story look through this

build the story look through this

build the story look through this internal story as a way of discrediting

internal story as a way of discrediting

internal story as a way of discrediting it so let me give you an example and I

it so let me give you an example and I

it so let me give you an example and I think it’s going to resonate with you so

think it’s going to resonate with you so

think it’s going to resonate with you so years ago I was teaching a workshop and

years ago I was teaching a workshop and

years ago I was teaching a workshop and I had a participant let’s let’s call her

I had a participant let’s let’s call her

I had a participant let’s let’s call her Janice and she was complaining about a

Janice and she was complaining about a

Janice and she was complaining about a colleague let’s call him John and

colleague let’s call him John and

colleague let’s call him John and essentially what she was saying was that

essentially what she was saying was that

essentially what she was saying was that she was like he always nitpicks me I can

she was like he always nitpicks me I can

she was like he always nitpicks me I can never do anything right I think he’s

never do anything right I think he’s

never do anything right I think he’s trying to get me fired you know she was

trying to get me fired you know she was

trying to get me fired you know she was really upset and so I said well give me

really upset and so I said well give me

really upset and so I said well give me an example so she shows me this

an example so she shows me this

an example so she shows me this mail and the email had I kid you not

mail and the email had I kid you not

mail and the email had I kid you not three lines at most and basically what

three lines at most and basically what

three lines at most and basically what it said was we’re working on a contract

it said was we’re working on a contract

it said was we’re working on a contract together I think there’s something

together I think there’s something

together I think there’s something missing can you take a look and so I say

missing can you take a look and so I say

missing can you take a look and so I say to her like Janice I don’t know I don’t

to her like Janice I don’t know I don’t

to her like Janice I don’t know I don’t I don’t see anything malicious in this

I don’t see anything malicious in this

I don’t see anything malicious in this email and she was like you don’t know

email and she was like you don’t know

email and she was like you don’t know this guy he’s a game player there’s a

this guy he’s a game player there’s a

this guy he’s a game player there’s a lot more written here than what you can

lot more written here than what you can

lot more written here than what you can actually say oh I really okay and she

actually say oh I really okay and she

actually say oh I really okay and she goes he’s probably copied my manager

goes he’s probably copied my manager

goes he’s probably copied my manager he’s trying to catch me out I mean she

he’s trying to catch me out I mean she

he’s trying to catch me out I mean she had this whole thing in her mind that

had this whole thing in her mind that

had this whole thing in her mind that was real and so I said what are you

was real and so I said what are you

was real and so I said what are you gonna do about it and she goes well I’m

gonna do about it and she goes well I’m

gonna do about it and she goes well I’m gonna I’m sick of this so I’m gonna

gonna I’m sick of this so I’m gonna

gonna I’m sick of this so I’m gonna confront him I’m gonna confront his

confront him I’m gonna confront his

confront him I’m gonna confront his manager I’m gonna loop my manager in and

manager I’m gonna loop my manager in and

manager I’m gonna loop my manager in and she’s searching for like plot these

she’s searching for like plot these

she’s searching for like plot these layers of confrontation and I’m sitting

layers of confrontation and I’m sitting

layers of confrontation and I’m sitting there thinking to myself whoa there is a

there thinking to myself whoa there is a

there thinking to myself whoa there is a cost that we pay for this kind of an

cost that we pay for this kind of an

cost that we pay for this kind of an internal storytelling right so first of

internal storytelling right so first of

internal storytelling right so first of all she’s made herself really upset

all she’s made herself really upset

all she’s made herself really upset second of all she’s planning to take

second of all she’s planning to take

second of all she’s planning to take action that I’m pretty confident is

action that I’m pretty confident is

action that I’m pretty confident is gonna have a detrimental you know impact

gonna have a detrimental you know impact

gonna have a detrimental you know impact on the way she’s viewed in her

on the way she’s viewed in her

on the way she’s viewed in her organization but thirdly and most

organization but thirdly and most

organization but thirdly and most importantly for this conversation she’s

importantly for this conversation she’s

importantly for this conversation she’s complicit completely missed the feedback

complicit completely missed the feedback

complicit completely missed the feedback altogether right he said there’s

altogether right he said there’s

altogether right he said there’s something to sing in the contract

something to sing in the contract

something to sing in the contract she’s now completely forgotten about

she’s now completely forgotten about

she’s now completely forgotten about this and she could send the contract out

this and she could send the contract out

this and she could send the contract out without it missing and that in itself

without it missing and that in itself

without it missing and that in itself could have adverse outcome so this

could have adverse outcome so this

could have adverse outcome so this sounds really dramatic but by a show of

sounds really dramatic but by a show of

sounds really dramatic but by a show of hands how many of you guys have gotten

hands how many of you guys have gotten

hands how many of you guys have gotten worked up about an email before yeah

worked up about an email before yeah

worked up about an email before yeah like yeah like all of you guys right

like yeah like all of you guys right

like yeah like all of you guys right yeah everybody has and not and that’s

yeah everybody has and not and that’s

yeah everybody has and not and that’s normal because we are naturally great

normal because we are naturally great

normal because we are naturally great storytellers and today we’ve heard so

storytellers and today we’ve heard so

storytellers and today we’ve heard so many great examples of how storytelling

many great examples of how storytelling

many great examples of how storytelling is very positive but when we allow our

is very positive but when we allow our

is very positive but when we allow our imaginations to run wild and we’re

imaginations to run wild and we’re

imaginations to run wild and we’re burying messages that we really need to

burying messages that we really need to

burying messages that we really need to hear that’s when the storytelling can

hear that’s when the storytelling can

hear that’s when the storytelling can actually get in our way and it’s not

actually get in our way and it’s not

actually get in our way and it’s not very productive and interestingly enough

very productive and interestingly enough

very productive and interestingly enough you will even do this with positive

you will even do this with positive

you will even do this with positive messages so just think about the last

messages so just think about the last

messages so just think about the last time somebody saved somebody said

time somebody saved somebody said

time somebody saved somebody said something to you that was a compliment

something to you that was a compliment

something to you that was a compliment and you found it a little bit

and you found it a little bit

and you found it a little bit embarrassing how quickly did you think

embarrassing how quickly did you think

embarrassing how quickly did you think to yourself they say that to everybody

to yourself they say that to everybody

to yourself they say that to everybody right you just told yourself a little

right you just told yourself a little

right you just told yourself a little story right there

story right there

story right there so the question is is how do we gather

so the question is is how do we gather

so the question is is how do we gather feedback and listen to it like and

feedback and listen to it like and

feedback and listen to it like and gather it like data regardless of who’s

gather it like data regardless of who’s

gather it like data regardless of who’s saying it to us and what they’re saying

saying it to us and what they’re saying

saying it to us and what they’re saying so now I want to share with you two

so now I want to share with you two

so now I want to share with you two strategies that we use with our clients

strategies that we use with our clients

strategies that we use with our clients and our clients love it because it works

and our clients love it because it works

and our clients love it because it works the first strategy you can get your

the first strategy you can get your

the first strategy you can get your notepads out okay yeah the first

notepads out okay yeah the first

notepads out okay yeah the first strategy is when feedback happens to you

strategy is when feedback happens to you

strategy is when feedback happens to you it sometimes feels like you’ve just been

it sometimes feels like you’ve just been

it sometimes feels like you’ve just been hit with a Mack truck and you don’t know

hit with a Mack truck and you don’t know

hit with a Mack truck and you don’t know what to do with it right now the

what to do with it right now the

what to do with it right now the strategy is remove the emotion okay

strategy is remove the emotion okay

strategy is remove the emotion okay remove the emotion so this is this is

remove the emotion so this is this is

remove the emotion so this is this is the technique what I want you to do is

the technique what I want you to do is

the technique what I want you to do is on a post-it note write down what’s

on a post-it note write down what’s

on a post-it note write down what’s happening and try to be as factual as

happening and try to be as factual as

happening and try to be as factual as you possibly can like really try to

you possibly can like really try to

you possibly can like really try to remove the emotion so let me show you

remove the emotion so let me show you

remove the emotion so let me show you Janice would say John’s a jerk

Janice would say John’s a jerk

Janice would say John’s a jerk she’d say that’s a fact right and then

she’d say that’s a fact right and then

she’d say that’s a fact right and then she’d say and he’s trying to get me

she’d say and he’s trying to get me

she’d say and he’s trying to get me fired I would say that does sound

fired I would say that does sound

fired I would say that does sound emotional what’s happening in the email

emotional what’s happening in the email

emotional what’s happening in the email right so then she’d try again she said

right so then she’d try again she said

right so then she’d try again she said well John is John is blaming me for

well John is John is blaming me for

well John is John is blaming me for missing something in the contract I

missing something in the contract I

missing something in the contract I would say well blame still has an

would say well blame still has an

would say well blame still has an emotional charge you see that right

emotional charge you see that right

emotional charge you see that right there’s an emotional charge to that so

there’s an emotional charge to that so

there’s an emotional charge to that so let’s take that out now let’s look John

let’s take that out now let’s look John

let’s take that out now let’s look John emailed me about something missing from

emailed me about something missing from

emailed me about something missing from the contract now that’s it that’s data

the contract now that’s it that’s data

the contract now that’s it that’s data right that’s a fact we can either agree

right that’s a fact we can either agree

right that’s a fact we can either agree or disagree we can either take action or

or disagree we can either take action or

or disagree we can either take action or not take action but now we have control

not take action but now we have control

not take action but now we have control because this is not about me or us this

because this is not about me or us this

because this is not about me or us this is just a thing right so try to remove

is just a thing right so try to remove

is just a thing right so try to remove the emotion this is what I used when

the emotion this is what I used when

the emotion this is what I used when Katie gave me her feedback she wasn’t

Katie gave me her feedback she wasn’t

Katie gave me her feedback she wasn’t saying I was a snob she was saying when

saying I was a snob she was saying when

saying I was a snob she was saying when I say something specific it could be

I say something specific it could be

I say something specific it could be perceived in a specific way and I can

perceived in a specific way and I can

perceived in a specific way and I can either choose to agree or disagree and I

either choose to agree or disagree and I

either choose to agree or disagree and I chose to agree right you’ll remove it if

chose to agree right you’ll remove it if

chose to agree right you’ll remove it if I had thought that she was calling me a

I had thought that she was calling me a

I had thought that she was calling me a slob we might not be business partners

slob we might not be business partners

slob we might not be business partners now right so I want us to start thinking

now right so I want us to start thinking

now right so I want us to start thinking about using this technique the second

about using this technique the second

about using this technique the second technique is one for those of you that

technique is one for those of you that

technique is one for those of you that really want a master receiving feedback

really want a master receiving feedback

really want a master receiving feedback and if you really want to do this my

and if you really want to do this my

and if you really want to do this my suggestion to you is get out in front of

suggestion to you is get out in front of

suggestion to you is get out in front of it

it

it wait for it to happen to you get out and

wait for it to happen to you get out and

wait for it to happen to you get out and ask for feedback find your KT or an

ask for feedback find your KT or an

ask for feedback find your KT or an equivalent of a KT and in a very genuine

equivalent of a KT and in a very genuine

equivalent of a KT and in a very genuine and open and honest way ask their

and open and honest way ask their

and open and honest way ask their opinion about something about you ask

opinion about something about you ask

opinion about something about you ask for that feedback and then sit with it

for that feedback and then sit with it

for that feedback and then sit with it and try not to be defensive and try not

and try not to be defensive and try not

and try not to be defensive and try not to story tell and learn from it and

to story tell and learn from it and

to story tell and learn from it and start thinking about what does this data

start thinking about what does this data

start thinking about what does this data tell you and how can you use it to start

tell you and how can you use it to start

tell you and how can you use it to start transforming the way that you behave in

transforming the way that you behave in

transforming the way that you behave in your work and you behave at home

your work and you behave at home

your work and you behave at home so let’s still do this together I want

so let’s still do this together I want

so let’s still do this together I want you to picture in your mind somebody you

you to picture in your mind somebody you

you to picture in your mind somebody you trust somebody who cares about you not

trust somebody who cares about you not

trust somebody who cares about you not only is it professional

only is it professional

only is it professional but also as a human being like picture

but also as a human being like picture

but also as a human being like picture them do you see them in your mind yeah

them do you see them in your mind yeah

them do you see them in your mind yeah you guys hi mom

you guys hi mom

you guys hi mom right okay now I want you to think they

right okay now I want you to think they

right okay now I want you to think they hold blind spot data about you they see

hold blind spot data about you they see

hold blind spot data about you they see you in a unique way that you cannot see

you in a unique way that you cannot see

you in a unique way that you cannot see yourself what do you want to know from

yourself what do you want to know from

yourself what do you want to know from them what’s the game-changing data that

them what’s the game-changing data that

them what’s the game-changing data that they have about you what’s that question

they have about you what’s that question

they have about you what’s that question now the last step you’re not going to

now the last step you’re not going to

now the last step you’re not going to get mastery unless you do this and that

get mastery unless you do this and that

get mastery unless you do this and that is ask them translate that from thinking

is ask them translate that from thinking

is ask them translate that from thinking about it to actually doing it so get out

about it to actually doing it so get out

about it to actually doing it so get out there on your way home pick up the phone

there on your way home pick up the phone

there on your way home pick up the phone and start the conversation and really

and start the conversation and really

and start the conversation and really start living in the information age

start living in the information age

start living in the information age today thank you

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