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How accurate is your self-perception? | Alba Alamillo | TEDxMountainViewHighSchool


I have a question for you do you know

I have a question for you do you know yourself do you know yourself

by looking at you I would say that

by looking at you I would say that you’re not too sure and that’s okay it’s

you’re not too sure and that’s okay it’s

you’re not too sure and that’s okay it’s a hard question to answer

a hard question to answer

a hard question to answer besides sometimes we think we know

besides sometimes we think we know

besides sometimes we think we know ourselves only to find out that we are

ourselves only to find out that we are

ourselves only to find out that we are completely round when I was in high

completely round when I was in high

completely round when I was in high school I know myself I knew myself

school I know myself I knew myself

school I know myself I knew myself I knew that I was ugly awkward nerdy and

I knew that I was ugly awkward nerdy and

I knew that I was ugly awkward nerdy and that my classmates were talking behind

that my classmates were talking behind

that my classmates were talking behind my back you fast forward a few decades

my back you fast forward a few decades

my back you fast forward a few decades later I meet with some of my high school

later I meet with some of my high school

later I meet with some of my high school classmates and I mentioned how I knew I

classmates and I mentioned how I knew I

classmates and I mentioned how I knew I was the ugly awkward nerdy girl in the

was the ugly awkward nerdy girl in the

was the ugly awkward nerdy girl in the class and they were surprised because

class and they were surprised because

class and they were surprised because they didn’t see me that way because they

they didn’t see me that way because they

they didn’t see me that way because they thought they were the ugly awkward ones

thought they were the ugly awkward ones

thought they were the ugly awkward ones I thought they were right and I thought

I thought they were right and I thought

I thought they were right and I thought they were right that conversation with

they were right that conversation with

they were right that conversation with my friends taught me something we all

my friends taught me something we all

my friends taught me something we all know when we thought we knew ourselves

know when we thought we knew ourselves

know when we thought we knew ourselves but we were wrong is this the exception

but we were wrong is this the exception

but we were wrong is this the exception or the role as a therapist I talked to a

or the role as a therapist I talked to a

or the role as a therapist I talked to a lot of people a lot and these are a few

lot of people a lot and these are a few

lot of people a lot and these are a few conversations that I have had one day I

conversations that I have had one day I

conversations that I have had one day I meet with a teenage girl very pretty

meet with a teenage girl very pretty

meet with a teenage girl very pretty very smart very articulate but she tells

very smart very articulate but she tells

very smart very articulate but she tells me that she feels awful because she’s

me that she feels awful because she’s

me that she feels awful because she’s very ugly

very ugly

very ugly why are you ugly because my boyfriend

why are you ugly because my boyfriend

why are you ugly because my boyfriend broke up with me her problem is not her

broke up with me her problem is not her

broke up with me her problem is not her looks her problem is her thought process

looks her problem is her thought process

looks her problem is her thought process that leads to a distorted self

that leads to a distorted self

that leads to a distorted self perception another example I meet with a

perception another example I meet with a

perception another example I meet with a teenage boy smart funny and he feels

teenage boy smart funny and he feels

teenage boy smart funny and he feels like a complete loser why are you a

like a complete loser why are you a

like a complete loser why are you a loser because I got a C in my test

loser because I got a C in my test

loser because I got a C in my test what would a C make you a loser or

what would a C make you a loser or

what would a C make you a loser or because I see it with a C is going to be

because I see it with a C is going to be

because I see it with a C is going to be very hard for me to get into a good

very hard for me to get into a good

very hard for me to get into a good college and if I don’t get into a good

college and if I don’t get into a good

college and if I don’t get into a good college my life is ruined

college my life is ruined

college my life is ruined there we go his problem is not his fear

there we go his problem is not his fear

there we go his problem is not his fear his grades is his thought process that

his grades is his thought process that

his grades is his thought process that leads to a distorted self perception is

leads to a distorted self perception is

leads to a distorted self perception is this exclusive to teenagers

this exclusive to teenagers

this exclusive to teenagers no I have talked to a lot of adults and

no I have talked to a lot of adults and

no I have talked to a lot of adults and I have heard horrible things you don’t

I have heard horrible things you don’t

I have heard horrible things you don’t even wanna know

even wanna know

even wanna know has your thought process always been the

has your thought process always been the

has your thought process always been the way it is right now no when you were

way it is right now no when you were

way it is right now no when you were little your thoughts where along the

little your thoughts where along the

little your thoughts where along the lines of I’m smart I’m beautiful I’m

lines of I’m smart I’m beautiful I’m

lines of I’m smart I’m beautiful I’m charming and cute and important even

charming and cute and important even

charming and cute and important even when you were learning how to walk you

when you were learning how to walk you

when you were learning how to walk you were able to celebrate every step that

were able to celebrate every step that

were able to celebrate every step that you were able to take instead of beating

you were able to take instead of beating

you were able to take instead of beating yourself up every time you fell down if

yourself up every time you fell down if

yourself up every time you fell down if we had to learn how to walk as adults

we had to learn how to walk as adults

we had to learn how to walk as adults many of us would still be crawling

many of us would still be crawling

many of us would still be crawling because we give it a try with all a few

because we give it a try with all a few

because we give it a try with all a few times we beat ourselves up with colors

times we beat ourselves up with colors

times we beat ourselves up with colors of losers and I know we’re not good at

of losers and I know we’re not good at

of losers and I know we’re not good at this stuff so there we go for many years

this stuff so there we go for many years

this stuff so there we go for many years you had no problem saying out loud how

you had no problem saying out loud how

you had no problem saying out loud how wonderful cute important you were until

wonderful cute important you were until

wonderful cute important you were until some adult with great intentions told

some adult with great intentions told

some adult with great intentions told you sweetheart you’re getting a little

you sweetheart you’re getting a little

you sweetheart you’re getting a little too old to say those things it’s not

too old to say those things it’s not

too old to say those things it’s not humble and you learned and you paid

humble and you learned and you paid

humble and you learned and you paid attention and you realize that no adult

attention and you realize that no adult

attention and you realize that no adult around you would say out loud how

around you would say out loud how

around you would say out loud how wonderful they were all the opposite one

wonderful they were all the opposite one

wonderful they were all the opposite one day for example your dad is driving you

day for example your dad is driving you

day for example your dad is driving you to school and he pushes the gas pedal

to school and he pushes the gas pedal

to school and he pushes the gas pedal instead of the brakes oh I’m an idiot he

instead of the brakes oh I’m an idiot he

instead of the brakes oh I’m an idiot he says or your teacher she spills her

says or your teacher she spills her

says or your teacher she spills her coffee all over her papers I’m so stupid

coffee all over her papers I’m so stupid

coffee all over her papers I’m so stupid and you learn and you think it’s funny

and you learn and you think it’s funny

and you learn and you think it’s funny and you want to join the

and you want to join the

and you want to join the self-deprecating crowd therefore one day

self-deprecating crowd therefore one day

self-deprecating crowd therefore one day you trip and you fall and you say oops

you trip and you fall and you say oops

you trip and you fall and you say oops I’m so clumsy and one day you make a

I’m so clumsy and one day you make a

I’m so clumsy and one day you make a mistake and you say oops I’m so dumb if

mistake and you say oops I’m so dumb if

mistake and you say oops I’m so dumb if a three-year-old says out loud that

a three-year-old says out loud that

a three-year-old says out loud that she’s cute we will all think that she’s

she’s cute we will all think that she’s

she’s cute we will all think that she’s adorable and we will all agree if I say

adorable and we will all agree if I say

adorable and we will all agree if I say out loud that I’m cute we will all think

out loud that I’m cute we will all think

out loud that I’m cute we will all think that I’m weird and ridiculous it’s not

that I’m weird and ridiculous it’s not

that I’m weird and ridiculous it’s not socially acceptable to say out loud for

socially acceptable to say out loud for

socially acceptable to say out loud for me how wonderful or cute I am or if I

me how wonderful or cute I am or if I

me how wonderful or cute I am or if I slammed my finger with a drawer and I

slammed my finger with a drawer and I

slammed my finger with a drawer and I say oh my gosh I’m so stupid nobody will

say oh my gosh I’m so stupid nobody will

say oh my gosh I’m so stupid nobody will even blink remember this

even blink remember this

even blink remember this the first times you call yourself a

the first times you call yourself a

the first times you call yourself a stupid or dumb you know

stupid or dumb you know

stupid or dumb you know you are like it felt like a lie because

you are like it felt like a lie because

you are like it felt like a lie because deep in your heart you knew you were

deep in your heart you knew you were

deep in your heart you knew you were wonderful but as you keep on saying

wonderful but as you keep on saying

wonderful but as you keep on saying those things over and over something is

those things over and over something is

those things over and over something is happening you start changing your

happening you start changing your

happening you start changing your thought process and that makes you

thought process and that makes you

thought process and that makes you change yourself perception and that’s a

change yourself perception and that’s a

change yourself perception and that’s a real tragedy because that’s the moment

real tragedy because that’s the moment

real tragedy because that’s the moment you start forgetting about your

you start forgetting about your

you start forgetting about your greatness what’s going on what why is

greatness what’s going on what why is

greatness what’s going on what why is her brain like this one we have in in

her brain like this one we have in in

her brain like this one we have in in our brain we have two systems system

our brain we have two systems system

our brain we have two systems system number one very old very primitive very

number one very old very primitive very

number one very old very primitive very impulsive

impulsive

impulsive I will represent it as a lizard

I will represent it as a lizard

I will represent it as a lizard so this lizard only cares about one

so this lizard only cares about one

so this lizard only cares about one thing

thing

thing your survival doesn’t care about your

your survival doesn’t care about your

your survival doesn’t care about your happiness your weight waistline your

happiness your weight waistline your

happiness your weight waistline your popularity but it doesn’t even have

popularity but it doesn’t even have

popularity but it doesn’t even have common sense only cares about one thing

common sense only cares about one thing

common sense only cares about one thing your survival and it’s very impulsive to

your survival and it’s very impulsive to

your survival and it’s very impulsive to the point that she doesn’t see herself

the point that she doesn’t see herself

the point that she doesn’t see herself as this she sees herself as that on the

as this she sees herself as that on the

as this she sees herself as that on the other hand you have another system very

other hand you have another system very

other hand you have another system very new very modern very sophisticated it

new very modern very sophisticated it

new very modern very sophisticated it has the ability to process a lot of

has the ability to process a lot of

has the ability to process a lot of information I will represent it as a

information I will represent it as a

information I will represent it as a little cell phone because it’s very

little cell phone because it’s very

little cell phone because it’s very modern so what does this one do this one

modern so what does this one do this one

modern so what does this one do this one thinks over things analyzes predicts

thinks over things analyzes predicts

thinks over things analyzes predicts judge etc etc something like that for

judge etc etc something like that for

judge etc etc something like that for example one day you’re driving on the

example one day you’re driving on the

example one day you’re driving on the highway and the car in front of you

highway and the car in front of you

highway and the car in front of you suddenly stops boom the lizard before

suddenly stops boom the lizard before

suddenly stops boom the lizard before you’re aware the lizard makes you stop

you’re aware the lizard makes you stop

you’re aware the lizard makes you stop and then your little computer that’s

and then your little computer that’s

and then your little computer that’s always thinking always finger-pointing

always thinking always finger-pointing

always thinking always finger-pointing Wow why did he stop is he drunk is he

Wow why did he stop is he drunk is he

Wow why did he stop is he drunk is he texting was there a car accident is

texting was there a car accident is

texting was there a car accident is there a police officer is there a hole

there a police officer is there a hole

there a police officer is there a hole in the road that one is always judging

in the road that one is always judging

in the road that one is always judging this one doesn’t have the ability to

this one doesn’t have the ability to

this one doesn’t have the ability to overthink analyze predict takes

overthink analyze predict takes

overthink analyze predict takes everything you say at face value this

everything you say at face value this

everything you say at face value this one doesn’t have the ability to be

one doesn’t have the ability to be

one doesn’t have the ability to be impulsive and react to save you another

impulsive and react to save you another

impulsive and react to save you another example if I say something to you

example if I say something to you

example if I say something to you something like

I startled you that was your lizard I’m

I startled you that was your lizard I’m sorry then your little computer on the

sorry then your little computer on the

sorry then your little computer on the other hand wow that was not nice why did

other hand wow that was not nice why did

other hand wow that was not nice why did she do that for

she do that for

she do that for anyway worser accent from so now that

anyway worser accent from so now that

anyway worser accent from so now that you know that this one reacts and this

you know that this one reacts and this

you know that this one reacts and this one over thinks because I just showed

one over thinks because I just showed

one over thinks because I just showed you how it works this is what happens to

you how it works this is what happens to

you how it works this is what happens to you on a daily basis one day you are

you on a daily basis one day you are

you on a daily basis one day you are very hungry you over it and because you

very hungry you over it and because you

very hungry you over it and because you overeat you get angry and because you’re

overeat you get angry and because you’re

overeat you get angry and because you’re angry you call yourself a pig and

angry you call yourself a pig and

angry you call yourself a pig and because you call yourself a pig on an

because you call yourself a pig on an

because you call yourself a pig on an impulse you over it again and you get

impulse you over it again and you get

impulse you over it again and you get angry again and you call yourself a pig

angry again and you call yourself a pig

angry again and you call yourself a pig again and you look at the box of cookies

again and you look at the box of cookies

again and you look at the box of cookies and you say only one cookie only one

and you say only one cookie only one

and you say only one cookie only one cookie and before you know it

cookie and before you know it

cookie and before you know it boom you finish the whole box you are

boom you finish the whole box you are

boom you finish the whole box you are trapped in a loop what’s the part of the

trapped in a loop what’s the part of the

trapped in a loop what’s the part of the loop that you can control the words

loop that you can control the words

loop that you can control the words because sometimes human nature you will

because sometimes human nature you will

because sometimes human nature you will over it you will get angry but you don’t

over it you will get angry but you don’t

over it you will get angry but you don’t have to call yourself a pig this one

have to call yourself a pig this one

have to call yourself a pig this one takes everything you say it fails value

takes everything you say it fails value

takes everything you say it fails value face value you say your Pig and you will

face value you say your Pig and you will

face value you say your Pig and you will live like a pig so what if instead of

live like a pig so what if instead of

live like a pig so what if instead of calling yourself a P a pig you’re

calling yourself a P a pig you’re

calling yourself a P a pig you’re worried you get angry and you say I love

worried you get angry and you say I love

worried you get angry and you say I love myself no matter what and people may

myself no matter what and people may

myself no matter what and people may think not yet ridiculous if I say that

think not yet ridiculous if I say that

think not yet ridiculous if I say that I’m gonna eat more that’s not true the

I’m gonna eat more that’s not true the

I’m gonna eat more that’s not true the nicer you are to yourself the better

nicer you are to yourself the better

nicer you are to yourself the better decision process you will have so you

decision process you will have so you

decision process you will have so you keep on saying that you love yourself

keep on saying that you love yourself

keep on saying that you love yourself that you can do better and before you

that you can do better and before you

that you can do better and before you know it you change your behavior another

know it you change your behavior another

know it you change your behavior another example one day you’re supposed to work

example one day you’re supposed to work

example one day you’re supposed to work on a project and instead of working on

on a project and instead of working on

on a project and instead of working on the project you go to the movies with

the project you go to the movies with

the project you go to the movies with friends then you come home late feeling

friends then you come home late feeling

friends then you come home late feeling guilty and saying oh my gosh I should

guilty and saying oh my gosh I should

guilty and saying oh my gosh I should have stayed home and and work in the

have stayed home and and work in the

have stayed home and and work in the project I’m very lazy you’re lazy

because you’re lazy

because you’re lazy you keep on procrastinating and before

you keep on procrastinating and before

you keep on procrastinating and before you know it you spend all night playing

you know it you spend all night playing

you know it you spend all night playing video games and calling yourself lazy at

video games and calling yourself lazy at

video games and calling yourself lazy at the same time while beating you up you

the same time while beating you up you

the same time while beating you up you change the way you say things and you

change the way you say things and you

change the way you say things and you say

say

say I love myself I know I went to the

I love myself I know I went to the

I love myself I know I went to the movies I should have stayed but I know I

movies I should have stayed but I know I

movies I should have stayed but I know I can do better I love myself and you’re

can do better I love myself and you’re

can do better I love myself and you’re kind and compassionate to yourself

kind and compassionate to yourself

kind and compassionate to yourself before you know it you’re gonna be

before you know it you’re gonna be

before you know it you’re gonna be working on your project what’s the worst

working on your project what’s the worst

working on your project what’s the worst loop I have ever seen with my clients

loop I have ever seen with my clients

loop I have ever seen with my clients the victim loop how does the victim loop

the victim loop how does the victim loop

the victim loop how does the victim loop start one day you somebody bugs you and

start one day you somebody bugs you and

start one day you somebody bugs you and you don’t speak up and you can angry you

you don’t speak up and you can angry you

you don’t speak up and you can angry you feel like a wimp and you call yourself a

feel like a wimp and you call yourself a

feel like a wimp and you call yourself a wimp

wimp

wimp and then somebody bugs you again and you

and then somebody bugs you again and you

and then somebody bugs you again and you don’t speak up and you get sad and you

don’t speak up and you get sad and you

don’t speak up and you get sad and you call yourself a wimp again and the truth

call yourself a wimp again and the truth

call yourself a wimp again and the truth is that you don’t want to get into the

is that you don’t want to get into the

is that you don’t want to get into the victim loop because I have met a lot of

victim loop because I have met a lot of

victim loop because I have met a lot of victims and you know what happens to

victims and you know what happens to

victims and you know what happens to them everything even the nice little

them everything even the nice little

them everything even the nice little puppy from your friends that’s cute and

puppy from your friends that’s cute and

puppy from your friends that’s cute and nice to everybody if you are a victim it

nice to everybody if you are a victim it

nice to everybody if you are a victim it will bite you so if you’re already in

will bite you so if you’re already in

will bite you so if you’re already in the victim loop this is how you get out

the victim loop this is how you get out

the victim loop this is how you get out somebody bugs you you don’t speak up

somebody bugs you you don’t speak up

somebody bugs you you don’t speak up you don’t call yourself a wimp or a

you don’t call yourself a wimp or a

you don’t call yourself a wimp or a coward what you do is say I’m brave and

coward what you do is say I’m brave and

coward what you do is say I’m brave and courageous and you say it and you think

courageous and you say it and you think

courageous and you say it and you think it and you and you sing it in the shower

it and you and you sing it in the shower

it and you and you sing it in the shower you just say it and say it and say this

you just say it and say it and say this

you just say it and say it and say this one is listening and you know what’s

one is listening and you know what’s

one is listening and you know what’s going to happen one day you’re going to

going to happen one day you’re going to

going to happen one day you’re going to be waiting in line somewhere playing

be waiting in line somewhere playing

be waiting in line somewhere playing with your phone minding your business

with your phone minding your business

with your phone minding your business somebody’s going to cut in line and you

somebody’s going to cut in line and you

somebody’s going to cut in line and you are going to say excuse me the lines

are going to say excuse me the lines

are going to say excuse me the lines behind me and then you’re going to be

behind me and then you’re going to be

behind me and then you’re going to be like oh I spoke I can’t believe it that

like oh I spoke I can’t believe it that

like oh I spoke I can’t believe it that was your lizard now people ask me okay

was your lizard now people ask me okay

was your lizard now people ask me okay okay I can say nice things about myself

okay I can say nice things about myself

okay I can say nice things about myself but what if somebody is mean to me what

but what if somebody is mean to me what

but what if somebody is mean to me what if somebody insults me because my aunt

if somebody insults me because my aunt

if somebody insults me because my aunt when I was little my aunt told me that

when I was little my aunt told me that

when I was little my aunt told me that that I was a good-for-nothing and my

that I was a good-for-nothing and my

that I was a good-for-nothing and my classmate she said that I was very ugly

classmate she said that I was very ugly

classmate she said that I was very ugly what do I do if somebody insults me okay

what do I do if somebody insults me okay

what do I do if somebody insults me okay when I was seven years old

when I was seven years old

when I was seven years old I thought I was very pretty like every

I thought I was very pretty like every

I thought I was very pretty like every kid but my grandmother said to me you

kid but my grandmother said to me you

kid but my grandmother said to me you know what you have a very ugly nose

know what you have a very ugly nose

know what you have a very ugly nose because it’s very wide that’s when the

because it’s very wide that’s when the

because it’s very wide that’s when the nose drama

nose drama

nose drama in my life I went from pretty to ugly in

in my life I went from pretty to ugly in

in my life I went from pretty to ugly in a few seconds and I tortured myself for

a few seconds and I tortured myself for

a few seconds and I tortured myself for years about my nose to the point that I

years about my nose to the point that I

years about my nose to the point that I would wear a clothespin on my nose

would wear a clothespin on my nose

would wear a clothespin on my nose every night to make my nose a little

every night to make my nose a little

every night to make my nose a little thinner so and if everyone looked at my

thinner so and if everyone looked at my

thinner so and if everyone looked at my nose for one second I would be like oh

nose for one second I would be like oh

nose for one second I would be like oh my gosh they’re looking at my nose like

my gosh they’re looking at my nose like

my gosh they’re looking at my nose like my life was surrounded about my nose

my life was surrounded about my nose

my life was surrounded about my nose even in high school I thought I was ugly

even in high school I thought I was ugly

even in high school I thought I was ugly because of my nose only because my

because of my nose only because my

because of my nose only because my grandma said it to me so I want you to

grandma said it to me so I want you to

grandma said it to me so I want you to realize something in your brain you have

realize something in your brain you have

realize something in your brain you have approximately 50,000 thoughts a day

approximately 50,000 thoughts a day

approximately 50,000 thoughts a day 50,000 thoughts a day okay and let’s say

50,000 thoughts a day okay and let’s say

50,000 thoughts a day okay and let’s say that for ten years I said every day that

that for ten years I said every day that

that for ten years I said every day that I had an ugly nose so let’s do the math

I had an ugly nose so let’s do the math

I had an ugly nose so let’s do the math I said it seven million times because

I said it seven million times because

I said it seven million times because it’s ten years if I say two thousand

it’s ten years if I say two thousand

it’s ten years if I say two thousand times a day at least that’s seven

times a day at least that’s seven

times a day at least that’s seven million times that I called myself ugly

million times that I called myself ugly

million times that I called myself ugly because of my nose now how many times my

because of my nose now how many times my

because of my nose now how many times my grandmother said to me that I had an

grandmother said to me that I had an

grandmother said to me that I had an ugly nose just once so what happened

ugly nose just once so what happened

ugly nose just once so what happened after ten years why is it only ten years

after ten years why is it only ten years

after ten years why is it only ten years because after ten years when I was

because after ten years when I was

because after ten years when I was seventeen I said to my parents please

seventeen I said to my parents please

seventeen I said to my parents please please I want to have no surgery because

please I want to have no surgery because

please I want to have no surgery because I am very ugly please nobody will want

I am very ugly please nobody will want

I am very ugly please nobody will want to marry me I am human garbage please I

to marry me I am human garbage please I

to marry me I am human garbage please I need a surgery so my parents saw me how

need a surgery so my parents saw me how

need a surgery so my parents saw me how traumatic I was about the whole thing

traumatic I was about the whole thing

traumatic I was about the whole thing they said okay okay because they really

they said okay okay because they really

they said okay okay because they really saw me suffering so I went for this

saw me suffering so I went for this

saw me suffering so I went for this surgery and the truth is that the doctor

surgery and the truth is that the doctor

surgery and the truth is that the doctor didn’t change my nose that much because

didn’t change my nose that much because

didn’t change my nose that much because my friends didn’t notice and even my

my friends didn’t notice and even my

my friends didn’t notice and even my grandmother I saw her a few months later

grandmother I saw her a few months later

grandmother I saw her a few months later and I said grandmother you know like my

and I said grandmother you know like my

and I said grandmother you know like my nose now and she said yeah why what was

nose now and she said yeah why what was

nose now and she said yeah why what was wrong with your other nose she said that

wrong with your other nose she said that

wrong with your other nose she said that after 10 years he didn’t remember what

after 10 years he didn’t remember what

after 10 years he didn’t remember what she has said so if you’re worried about

she has said so if you’re worried about

she has said so if you’re worried about people but mouthing you don’t worry what

people but mouthing you don’t worry what

people but mouthing you don’t worry what happens with people who are bad-mouthing

happens with people who are bad-mouthing

happens with people who are bad-mouthing others they have a hyperactive little

others they have a hyperactive little

others they have a hyperactive little computer out of control so the people

computer out of control so the people

computer out of control so the people who are but mouthing others there but

who are but mouthing others there but

who are but mouthing others there but mouthing you then the

mouthing you then the

mouthing you then the mouthing me then thereby mouthing with

mouthing me then thereby mouthing with

mouthing me then thereby mouthing with their family their friends their

their family their friends their

their family their friends their teachers then they forget they run out

teachers then they forget they run out

teachers then they forget they run out of people and they start all over again

of people and they start all over again

of people and they start all over again the problem is when somebody calls you

the problem is when somebody calls you

the problem is when somebody calls you dumb and ugly once they move on to

dumb and ugly once they move on to

dumb and ugly once they move on to badmouth somebody else and then you call

badmouth somebody else and then you call

badmouth somebody else and then you call yourself dumb and ugly 50,000 times a

yourself dumb and ugly 50,000 times a

yourself dumb and ugly 50,000 times a day every day for the rest of your life

day every day for the rest of your life

day every day for the rest of your life that’s where the problem is what do I

that’s where the problem is what do I

that’s where the problem is what do I suggest you do stop being humble and I

suggest you do stop being humble and I

suggest you do stop being humble and I see many of you thinking what stop being

see many of you thinking what stop being

see many of you thinking what stop being humble that’s not what you learned some

humble that’s not what you learned some

humble that’s not what you learned some of you are already reacting like that

of you are already reacting like that

of you are already reacting like that why is he saying not to be humble you’re

why is he saying not to be humble you’re

why is he saying not to be humble you’re reacting

reacting

reacting that’s your lizard I’m not asking you to

that’s your lizard I’m not asking you to

that’s your lizard I’m not asking you to be mean to be rude to be obnoxious to be

be mean to be rude to be obnoxious to be

be mean to be rude to be obnoxious to be to be a bad person I’m not asking you

to be a bad person I’m not asking you

to be a bad person I’m not asking you that you can still be kind loving sweet

that you can still be kind loving sweet

that you can still be kind loving sweet generous clean organized empathic polite

generous clean organized empathic polite

generous clean organized empathic polite keep all the riches in the darn

keep all the riches in the darn

keep all the riches in the darn dictionary but one because being humble

dictionary but one because being humble

dictionary but one because being humble hasn’t been working for you for me or

hasn’t been working for you for me or

hasn’t been working for you for me or for anyone I know I want you to

for anyone I know I want you to

for anyone I know I want you to celebrate your accomplishments to shower

celebrate your accomplishments to shower

celebrate your accomplishments to shower yourself with love to kiss your image in

yourself with love to kiss your image in

yourself with love to kiss your image in the mirror to walk with courage with

the mirror to walk with courage with

the mirror to walk with courage with pride and then when you start saying

pride and then when you start saying

pride and then when you start saying nice things about yourself you’re going

nice things about yourself you’re going

nice things about yourself you’re going to start changing your thought process

to start changing your thought process

to start changing your thought process and that will make you change your self

and that will make you change your self

and that will make you change your self perception when you change your self

perception when you change your self

perception when you change your self perception and you realize you’re

perception and you realize you’re

perception and you realize you’re wonderful again you will be able to

wonderful again you will be able to

wonderful again you will be able to present yourself to the world with pride

present yourself to the world with pride

present yourself to the world with pride with confidence with courage and that’s

with confidence with courage and that’s

with confidence with courage and that’s great because we the world we need your

great because we the world we need your

great because we the world we need your talent we need your ideas we need your

talent we need your ideas we need your

talent we need your ideas we need your creativity

creativity

creativity you’re way too precious to be hiding

you’re way too precious to be hiding

you’re way too precious to be hiding under the shadow of your insecurities

under the shadow of your insecurities

under the shadow of your insecurities you can be a good friend become your

you can be a good friend become your

you can be a good friend become your best friend instead of your worst enemy

best friend instead of your worst enemy

best friend instead of your worst enemy you know how to praise others start

you know how to praise others start

you know how to praise others start praising yourself

praising yourself

praising yourself and next time somebody asks you if you

and next time somebody asks you if you

and next time somebody asks you if you know yourself I want you to say yes I do

know yourself I want you to say yes I do

know yourself I want you to say yes I do I am a masterpiece thank you

I am a masterpiece thank you

I am a masterpiece thank you [Applause]

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