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Have You Heard From Your Libido Lately? | Keesha Ewers | TEDxSanJuanIsland


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[Applause] among other things I am a doctor of

among other things I am a doctor of

among other things I am a doctor of psychology now you can imagine that that

psychology now you can imagine that that

psychology now you can imagine that that leads them to some pretty interesting

leads them to some pretty interesting

leads them to some pretty interesting conversations at cocktail parties at

conversations at cocktail parties at

conversations at cocktail parties at medical conferences and in my office a

medical conferences and in my office a

medical conferences and in my office a classic one from some of my patients

classic one from some of my patients

classic one from some of my patients goes like this

goes like this

goes like this dr. Keisha my sex drive is run off and

dr. Keisha my sex drive is run off and

dr. Keisha my sex drive is run off and left me I’m strung out overworked

left me I’m strung out overworked

left me I’m strung out overworked overtired my girlfriend said you gave

overtired my girlfriend said you gave

overtired my girlfriend said you gave her bioidentical hormones and they’re a

her bioidentical hormones and they’re a

her bioidentical hormones and they’re a miracle I want some of that being the

miracle I want some of that being the

miracle I want some of that being the medical detective that I am i probe a

medical detective that I am i probe a

medical detective that I am i probe a little further and I say so Jane and

little further and I say so Jane and

little further and I say so Jane and we’ll call this woman Jane when’s the

we’ll call this woman Jane when’s the

we’ll call this woman Jane when’s the last time you had a libido level that

last time you had a libido level that

last time you had a libido level that you were happy with well this is where

you were happy with well this is where

you were happy with well this is where stories unfold that will tell you how

stories unfold that will tell you how

stories unfold that will tell you how complex woman’s libido really is and why

complex woman’s libido really is and why

complex woman’s libido really is and why we have to actually look for the root

we have to actually look for the root

we have to actually look for the root cause of what’s going on when it tanks

cause of what’s going on when it tanks

cause of what’s going on when it tanks and why there will never be a pill to

and why there will never be a pill to

and why there will never be a pill to fix something like women’s libido so I

fix something like women’s libido so I

fix something like women’s libido so I get answers that range like this libido

get answers that range like this libido

get answers that range like this libido I’ve never had a libido or stories of

I’ve never had a libido or stories of

I’ve never had a libido or stories of overwhelm over scheduled overtired

overwhelm over scheduled overtired

overwhelm over scheduled overtired overly self-critical women who are not

overly self-critical women who are not

overly self-critical women who are not taking care of themselves each and every

taking care of themselves each and every

taking care of themselves each and every day or setting good boundaries and

day or setting good boundaries and

day or setting good boundaries and saying yes to doing everything and have

saying yes to doing everything and have

saying yes to doing everything and have nothing left over for themselves

nothing left over for themselves

nothing left over for themselves sometimes I get stories that involve

sometimes I get stories that involve

sometimes I get stories that involve chronic pain sometimes with a chronic

chronic pain sometimes with a chronic

chronic pain sometimes with a chronic illness like an autoimmune disease and

illness like an autoimmune disease and

illness like an autoimmune disease and you’ll see as I progress that

you’ll see as I progress that

you’ll see as I progress that autoimmunity and low vitality are

autoimmunity and low vitality are

autoimmunity and low vitality are intimately connected in women sometimes

intimately connected in women sometimes

intimately connected in women sometimes depression and of course being treated

depression and of course being treated

depression and of course being treated with an antidepressant whose number one

with an antidepressant whose number one

with an antidepressant whose number one side effect is can you guess low libido

side effect is can you guess low libido

side effect is can you guess low libido right in each of these cases women are

right in each of these cases women are

right in each of these cases women are often asking me for hormones and

often asking me for hormones and

often asking me for hormones and sometimes that is entirely appropriate

sometimes that is entirely appropriate

sometimes that is entirely appropriate it is the root cause

it is the root cause

it is the root cause for example a woman that comes to me and

for example a woman that comes to me and

for example a woman that comes to me and says doctor Keesha

says doctor Keesha

says doctor Keesha my sex drive ran off and left me I love

my sex drive ran off and left me I love

my sex drive ran off and left me I love my husband I want to have sex with my

my husband I want to have sex with my

my husband I want to have sex with my husband

husband

husband but every time I have sexual intercourse

but every time I have sexual intercourse

but every time I have sexual intercourse ever since menopause it feels like I

ever since menopause it feels like I

ever since menopause it feels like I have cut glass in my vagina in the other

have cut glass in my vagina in the other

have cut glass in my vagina in the other cases I have to say Jane you know that

cases I have to say Jane you know that

cases I have to say Jane you know that estrogen progesterone and testosterone

estrogen progesterone and testosterone

estrogen progesterone and testosterone are not going to give you a juicy sex

are not going to give you a juicy sex

are not going to give you a juicy sex life if you never had one before we need

life if you never had one before we need

life if you never had one before we need to get to the root cause and in this

to get to the root cause and in this

to get to the root cause and in this case I’m listening for clues to her

case I’m listening for clues to her

case I’m listening for clues to her missing libido in the story of her body

missing libido in the story of her body

missing libido in the story of her body her microbiome as we just heard before

her microbiome as we just heard before

her microbiome as we just heard before in her emotions in her libidos story in

in her emotions in her libidos story in

in her emotions in her libidos story in her beliefs about herself in the world

her beliefs about herself in the world

her beliefs about herself in the world that she lives in in other words we have

that she lives in in other words we have

that she lives in in other words we have to patch the hole on the bottom of the

to patch the hole on the bottom of the

to patch the hole on the bottom of the boat now why do I know this because this

boat now why do I know this because this

boat now why do I know this because this is my own story in my early 30s I was

is my own story in my early 30s I was

is my own story in my early 30s I was diagnosed with rheumatoid arthritis

diagnosed with rheumatoid arthritis

diagnosed with rheumatoid arthritis which back then was an incurable

which back then was an incurable

which back then was an incurable autoimmune disease and it still remains

autoimmune disease and it still remains

autoimmune disease and it still remains an incurable autoimmune disease in the

an incurable autoimmune disease in the

an incurable autoimmune disease in the conventional medical model of picked the

conventional medical model of picked the

conventional medical model of picked the drug that matches the symptom so I went

drug that matches the symptom so I went

drug that matches the symptom so I went in to see my doctor strung out over

in to see my doctor strung out over

in to see my doctor strung out over tired no sex drive and I didn’t care

tired no sex drive and I didn’t care

tired no sex drive and I didn’t care about it and completely overwhelmed with

about it and completely overwhelmed with

about it and completely overwhelmed with the pain that I was in I was prescribed

the pain that I was in I was prescribed

the pain that I was in I was prescribed an antidepressant medication a cancer

an antidepressant medication a cancer

an antidepressant medication a cancer fighting drug and a non-steroidal

fighting drug and a non-steroidal

fighting drug and a non-steroidal anti-inflammatory drug I went home and I

anti-inflammatory drug I went home and I

anti-inflammatory drug I went home and I looked up the side effects of these I

looked up the side effects of these I

looked up the side effects of these I had rheumatoid arthritis in my genetics

had rheumatoid arthritis in my genetics

had rheumatoid arthritis in my genetics my grandfather had it my rheumatologist

my grandfather had it my rheumatologist

my grandfather had it my rheumatologist shrugged her shoulder and said its

shrugged her shoulder and said its

shrugged her shoulder and said its genetic come back and see me in six

genetic come back and see me in six

genetic come back and see me in six months or when it gets worse

months or when it gets worse

months or when it gets worse what I saw on the side effect profile in

what I saw on the side effect profile in

what I saw on the side effect profile in my research on these medications didn’t

my research on these medications didn’t

my research on these medications didn’t make me very happy if I were to follow

make me very happy if I were to follow

make me very happy if I were to follow that conventional medical model today

that conventional medical model today

that conventional medical model today I’d probably be on a ambien for sleep

I’d probably be on a ambien for sleep

I’d probably be on a ambien for sleep probably on an antidepressant on

probably on an antidepressant on

probably on an antidepressant on hormones adderall for a lack of focus

hormones adderall for a lack of focus

hormones adderall for a lack of focus and concentration right and I would be

and concentration right and I would be

and concentration right and I would be chasing the symptoms that have been

chasing the symptoms that have been

chasing the symptoms that have been caused by the methotrexate so I did my

caused by the methotrexate so I did my

caused by the methotrexate so I did my own research and I discovered a lot of

own research and I discovered a lot of

own research and I discovered a lot of science that linked meditation and yoga

science that linked meditation and yoga

science that linked meditation and yoga a positively to helping people with

a positively to helping people with

a positively to helping people with autoimmune disease so I started

autoimmune disease so I started

autoimmune disease so I started practicing yoga and practicing

practicing yoga and practicing

practicing yoga and practicing meditation one day while I was sitting

meditation one day while I was sitting

meditation one day while I was sitting in meditation I started working with the

in meditation I started working with the

in meditation I started working with the word autoimmune and I realized Auto

word autoimmune and I realized Auto

word autoimmune and I realized Auto meant I was attacking myself my immune

meant I was attacking myself my immune

meant I was attacking myself my immune system had turned on me so I asked the

system had turned on me so I asked the

system had turned on me so I asked the question that forever changed my health

question that forever changed my health

question that forever changed my health journey and my medical practice why was

journey and my medical practice why was

journey and my medical practice why was I committing suicide in a societally

I committing suicide in a societally

I committing suicide in a societally acceptable way this was a battle I

acceptable way this was a battle I

acceptable way this was a battle I couldn’t win me fighting me so I started

couldn’t win me fighting me so I started

couldn’t win me fighting me so I started searching my memory banks for a time

searching my memory banks for a time

searching my memory banks for a time when I didn’t want to live and I found

when I didn’t want to live and I found

when I didn’t want to live and I found it my 10 year old little girl self

it my 10 year old little girl self

it my 10 year old little girl self sitting out on a balcony feeling very

sitting out on a balcony feeling very

sitting out on a balcony feeling very unprotected very unsafe very much like I

unprotected very unsafe very much like I

unprotected very unsafe very much like I wanted to die you see I’m one of the

wanted to die you see I’m one of the

wanted to die you see I’m one of the tens of thousands of adults who are

tens of thousands of adults who are

tens of thousands of adults who are sexually Amal ested and childhood this

sexually Amal ested and childhood this

sexually Amal ested and childhood this was happening while I was in elementary

was happening while I was in elementary

was happening while I was in elementary school when I was 10 years old so you

school when I was 10 years old so you

school when I was 10 years old so you could say I had an ace score of 1 ace

could say I had an ace score of 1 ace

could say I had an ace score of 1 ace stands for adverse childhood experience

stands for adverse childhood experience

stands for adverse childhood experience and it refers to the ACE study that was

and it refers to the ACE study that was

and it refers to the ACE study that was done between 1995 and 1997 by the

done between 1995 and 1997 by the

done between 1995 and 1997 by the Centers for Disease Control and Kaiser

Centers for Disease Control and Kaiser

Centers for Disease Control and Kaiser Permanente this study linked adverse

Permanente this study linked adverse

Permanente this study linked adverse childhood experiences to the chronic

childhood experiences to the chronic

childhood experiences to the chronic illnesses that we get as adults such as

illnesses that we get as adults such as

illnesses that we get as adults such as autoimmune disease so with my a score of

autoimmune disease so with my a score of

autoimmune disease so with my a score of 1 meaning I had endured one trauma that

1 meaning I had endured one trauma that

1 meaning I had endured one trauma that they measured in this study that put me

they measured in this study that put me

they measured in this study that put me in an 18% higher risk of getting

in an 18% higher risk of getting

in an 18% higher risk of getting autoimmunity than if I had an A score 0

autoimmunity than if I had an A score 0

autoimmunity than if I had an A score 0 now what does this have to do with

now what does this have to do with

now what does this have to do with libido level with women’s vitality with

libido level with women’s vitality with

libido level with women’s vitality with your hormone levels turns out everything

your hormone levels turns out everything

your hormone levels turns out everything so I want you to picture savanna and

so I want you to picture savanna and

so I want you to picture savanna and Africa and the hungry lioness chasing

Africa and the hungry lioness chasing

Africa and the hungry lioness chasing down a zebra the zebra is about to be

down a zebra the zebra is about to be

down a zebra the zebra is about to be lunch and it knows it the sympathetic

lunch and it knows it the sympathetic

lunch and it knows it the sympathetic nervous system has just activated in the

nervous system has just activated in the

nervous system has just activated in the zebra you have one two so do i whenever

zebra you have one two so do i whenever

zebra you have one two so do i whenever there’s a threat to you you perceive a

there’s a threat to you you perceive a

there’s a threat to you you perceive a threat or there’s an actual danger you

threat or there’s an actual danger you

threat or there’s an actual danger you go into what we call fight-or-flight the

go into what we call fight-or-flight the

go into what we call fight-or-flight the zebra now

zebra now

zebra now it’s not safe to stop and have sex right

it’s not safe to stop and have sex right

it’s not safe to stop and have sex right now right so all the hormones that are

now right so all the hormones that are

now right so all the hormones that are responsible for you to feel sexual

responsible for you to feel sexual

responsible for you to feel sexual desire are co-opted by your internal

desire are co-opted by your internal

desire are co-opted by your internal harm and alarm system your body knows

harm and alarm system your body knows

harm and alarm system your body knows innately that it’s not safe to stop and

innately that it’s not safe to stop and

innately that it’s not safe to stop and go to the bathroom to sleep it’s going

go to the bathroom to sleep it’s going

go to the bathroom to sleep it’s going to only remember what’s pertinent for

to only remember what’s pertinent for

to only remember what’s pertinent for survival

survival

survival there goes your memory and you’re not

there goes your memory and you’re not

there goes your memory and you’re not going to feel libido so this is what

going to feel libido so this is what

going to feel libido so this is what happens in childhood remember our

happens in childhood remember our

happens in childhood remember our childhood brains are still immature

childhood brains are still immature

childhood brains are still immature we’re not fully developed until we’re 26

we’re not fully developed until we’re 26

we’re not fully developed until we’re 26 years old in our brain has an experience

years old in our brain has an experience

years old in our brain has an experience that it can’t explain so you make up a

that it can’t explain so you make up a

that it can’t explain so you make up a story about that with an immature brain

story about that with an immature brain

story about that with an immature brain you carry those stories as beliefs into

you carry those stories as beliefs into

you carry those stories as beliefs into your adulthood in adulthood they inform

your adulthood in adulthood they inform

your adulthood in adulthood they inform your behaviors research shows that if

your behaviors research shows that if

your behaviors research shows that if you have an ace score of one or more or

you have an ace score of one or more or

you have an ace score of one or more or have experienced trauma that you’re a

have experienced trauma that you’re a

have experienced trauma that you’re a little more likely to be hyper vigilant

little more likely to be hyper vigilant

little more likely to be hyper vigilant about looking for danger your radars

about looking for danger your radars

about looking for danger your radars tuned in turned up a little bit higher

tuned in turned up a little bit higher

tuned in turned up a little bit higher well hyper vigilant mind means a hyper

well hyper vigilant mind means a hyper

well hyper vigilant mind means a hyper vigilant immune system now you’re going

vigilant immune system now you’re going

vigilant immune system now you’re going to be looking for danger perceived or

to be looking for danger perceived or

to be looking for danger perceived or otherwise sets off that fearful thinking

otherwise sets off that fearful thinking

otherwise sets off that fearful thinking response and the feelings in your body

response and the feelings in your body

response and the feelings in your body in your mind and there go your hormones

in your mind and there go your hormones

in your mind and there go your hormones and there goes your sex drive ladies so

and there goes your sex drive ladies so

and there goes your sex drive ladies so here I am newly diagnosed with

here I am newly diagnosed with

here I am newly diagnosed with rheumatoid arthritis I have four

rheumatoid arthritis I have four

rheumatoid arthritis I have four beautiful children a life that I love

beautiful children a life that I love

beautiful children a life that I love and I don’t want to die but I’m wired

and I don’t want to die but I’m wired

and I don’t want to die but I’m wired with a ten year old girl’s pain so I

with a ten year old girl’s pain so I

with a ten year old girl’s pain so I knew I didn’t need medication I knew I

knew I didn’t need medication I knew I

knew I didn’t need medication I knew I needed reprogramming I need to rewire my

needed reprogramming I need to rewire my

needed reprogramming I need to rewire my sympathetic nervous systems response

sympathetic nervous systems response

sympathetic nervous systems response tune down that hyper vigilance let my

tune down that hyper vigilance let my

tune down that hyper vigilance let my cells know that the messaging that they

cells know that the messaging that they

cells know that the messaging that they received when I was 10 years old had

received when I was 10 years old had

received when I was 10 years old had been outdated I need to upgrade my

been outdated I need to upgrade my

been outdated I need to upgrade my operating system so I did worked really

operating system so I did worked really

operating system so I did worked really hard at this this

hard at this this

hard at this this is not magic pill theory stuff this is

is not magic pill theory stuff this is

is not magic pill theory stuff this is hard work and within a year my

hard work and within a year my

hard work and within a year my rheumatoid arthritis was gone never to

rheumatoid arthritis was gone never to

rheumatoid arthritis was gone never to be seen in 20 years and no medications

be seen in 20 years and no medications

be seen in 20 years and no medications how did I do this I developed a system

how did I do this I developed a system

how did I do this I developed a system called the freedom framework it’s what I

called the freedom framework it’s what I

called the freedom framework it’s what I use with my patients today it’s what I

use with my patients today it’s what I

use with my patients today it’s what I used in myself has four steps first is

used in myself has four steps first is

used in myself has four steps first is uncover the root cause you have to look

uncover the root cause you have to look

uncover the root cause you have to look at your microbiome your body your mind

at your microbiome your body your mind

at your microbiome your body your mind your heart your spirit and your story

your heart your spirit and your story

your heart your spirit and your story then confront the data that you collect

then confront the data that you collect

then confront the data that you collect through your laboratory testing and the

through your laboratory testing and the

through your laboratory testing and the other things that you’re going through

other things that you’re going through

other things that you’re going through with your data collection process then

with your data collection process then

with your data collection process then connect the dots between what you’re

connect the dots between what you’re

connect the dots between what you’re eating what’s on your fork matters what

eating what’s on your fork matters what

eating what’s on your fork matters what you’re drinking how you’re thinking and

you’re drinking how you’re thinking and

you’re drinking how you’re thinking and how you’re believing with how you feel

how you’re believing with how you feel

how you’re believing with how you feel today then create the life you actually

today then create the life you actually

today then create the life you actually want to live with intentionality instead

want to live with intentionality instead

want to live with intentionality instead of what I call the factory default

of what I call the factory default

of what I call the factory default settings from your childhood story now

settings from your childhood story now

settings from your childhood story now this experience for me along with the

this experience for me along with the

this experience for me along with the hundreds of women that were coming to me

hundreds of women that were coming to me

hundreds of women that were coming to me looking for hormones for low libido and

looking for hormones for low libido and

looking for hormones for low libido and other things that we mentioned before

other things that we mentioned before

other things that we mentioned before inspired me to do my own study there was

inspired me to do my own study there was

inspired me to do my own study there was nothing in the medical literature that

nothing in the medical literature that

nothing in the medical literature that showed what I’d have said I called it

showed what I’d have said I called it

showed what I’d have said I called it the Hertz study healing unresolved

the Hertz study healing unresolved

the Hertz study healing unresolved trauma I did it in 2013 and I asked

trauma I did it in 2013 and I asked

trauma I did it in 2013 and I asked women they’re an old experience from

women they’re an old experience from

women they’re an old experience from childhood those traumatizing to you

childhood those traumatizing to you

childhood those traumatizing to you remember it’s perceived right that you

remember it’s perceived right that you

remember it’s perceived right that you believe is being activated in your

believe is being activated in your

believe is being activated in your current day relationship that’s

current day relationship that’s

current day relationship that’s affecting your level of libido 80% said

affecting your level of libido 80% said

affecting your level of libido 80% said yes what I learned was new to medicine

yes what I learned was new to medicine

yes what I learned was new to medicine but not new to developmental psychology

but not new to developmental psychology

but not new to developmental psychology so remember brains not fully developed

so remember brains not fully developed

so remember brains not fully developed till you’re 26 so now we have an

till you’re 26 so now we have an

till you’re 26 so now we have an opportunity to use these old traumas

opportunity to use these old traumas

opportunity to use these old traumas right as a catalyst for human growth and

right as a catalyst for human growth and

right as a catalyst for human growth and development another thing that I found

development another thing that I found

development another thing that I found is a piece of research from Professor

is a piece of research from Professor

is a piece of research from Professor Saskia mol and her team and she found

Saskia mol and her team and she found

Saskia mol and her team and she found that chronic daily stress how you

that chronic daily stress how you

that chronic daily stress how you perceive your stress on a day to day

perceive your stress on a day to day

perceive your stress on a day to day basis

basis

basis actually acts the same way inside your

actually acts the same way inside your

actually acts the same way inside your body in your mind as post-traumatic

body in your mind as post-traumatic

body in your mind as post-traumatic stress disorder or an a score of one or

stress disorder or an a score of one or

stress disorder or an a score of one or more so you could say that PTSD and an a

more so you could say that PTSD and an a

more so you could say that PTSD and an a score of one or more trauma with a

score of one or more trauma with a

score of one or more trauma with a capital T and daily perceived stress

capital T and daily perceived stress

capital T and daily perceived stress trauma with a lowercase T now the other

trauma with a lowercase T now the other

trauma with a lowercase T now the other interesting thing is these both affect

interesting thing is these both affect

interesting thing is these both affect the brain in the same way you can see

the brain in the same way you can see

the brain in the same way you can see right here in the right hand side of

right here in the right hand side of

right here in the right hand side of this PET scan the brain is damaged in

this PET scan the brain is damaged in

this PET scan the brain is damaged in the prefrontal cortex the place that you

the prefrontal cortex the place that you

the prefrontal cortex the place that you need to be making your decisions as an

need to be making your decisions as an

need to be making your decisions as an adult the other thing I found is that as

adult the other thing I found is that as

adult the other thing I found is that as I was mapping the brain with the

I was mapping the brain with the

I was mapping the brain with the neurobiology of libido and PTSD I found

neurobiology of libido and PTSD I found

neurobiology of libido and PTSD I found that the areas of the brain that are

that the areas of the brain that are

that the areas of the brain that are needed for women to feel sexual desire

needed for women to feel sexual desire

needed for women to feel sexual desire are the same areas affected by stress

are the same areas affected by stress

are the same areas affected by stress again there goes your libido ladies

again there goes your libido ladies

again there goes your libido ladies right so we’ve covered a broad

right so we’ve covered a broad

right so we’ve covered a broad cross-section of sciences psychology

cross-section of sciences psychology

cross-section of sciences psychology endocrinology neurobiology immunology

endocrinology neurobiology immunology

endocrinology neurobiology immunology and sexology all to get to the root

and sexology all to get to the root

and sexology all to get to the root cause of autoimmunity and low libido and

cause of autoimmunity and low libido and

cause of autoimmunity and low libido and women can be summed up with a

women can be summed up with a

women can be summed up with a handy-dandy little acronym penis not to

handy-dandy little acronym penis not to

handy-dandy little acronym penis not to worry ladies I have you covered the

worry ladies I have you covered the

worry ladies I have you covered the parts of the brain that I told you are

parts of the brain that I told you are

parts of the brain that I told you are needed for you to feel sexual desire

needed for you to feel sexual desire

needed for you to feel sexual desire summed up in the word vagina so the good

summed up in the word vagina so the good

summed up in the word vagina so the good news about all this is in spite of what

news about all this is in spite of what

news about all this is in spite of what you saw in those brain scans this is

you saw in those brain scans this is

you saw in those brain scans this is reversible you can heal from trauma it

reversible you can heal from trauma it

reversible you can heal from trauma it will actually take some trauma release

will actually take some trauma release

will actually take some trauma release therapy I certainly needed it but the

therapy I certainly needed it but the

therapy I certainly needed it but the process of releasing held onto hurt of

process of releasing held onto hurt of

process of releasing held onto hurt of learning to forgive perpetrators who

learning to forgive perpetrators who

learning to forgive perpetrators who have hurt you and then forgiving

have hurt you and then forgiving

have hurt you and then forgiving yourself or holding onto your pain and

yourself or holding onto your pain and

yourself or holding onto your pain and yourself or hurting others is what grows

yourself or hurting others is what grows

yourself or hurting others is what grows compassion and empathy in you and a love

compassion and empathy in you and a love

compassion and empathy in you and a love for life and all of life’s experiences

for life and all of life’s experiences

for life and all of life’s experiences so that you stop judging them as good or

so that you stop judging them as good or

so that you stop judging them as good or bad this process tones up the

bad this process tones up the

bad this process tones up the parasympathetic nervous system the

parasympathetic nervous system the

parasympathetic nervous system the parasympathetic nervous system is the

parasympathetic nervous system is the

parasympathetic nervous system is the other side of your autonomic nervous

other side of your autonomic nervous

other side of your autonomic nervous system

system

system it’s the one where you can feed and

it’s the one where you can feed and

it’s the one where you can feed and breed or rest and digest it’s the one

breed or rest and digest it’s the one

breed or rest and digest it’s the one that you can sit with your beloved and

that you can sit with your beloved and

that you can sit with your beloved and fully connect with vulnerability and

fully connect with vulnerability and

fully connect with vulnerability and intimacy physically mentally emotionally

intimacy physically mentally emotionally

intimacy physically mentally emotionally spiritually this is the one that allows

spiritually this is the one that allows

spiritually this is the one that allows you to go to the bathroom and sleep and

you to go to the bathroom and sleep and

you to go to the bathroom and sleep and wake up rested and to remember the life

wake up rested and to remember the life

wake up rested and to remember the life experiences that you want to hold on to

experiences that you want to hold on to

experiences that you want to hold on to why is this also important you might

why is this also important you might

why is this also important you might have guessed by now that libido is much

have guessed by now that libido is much

have guessed by now that libido is much more than sex it’s your life force it is

more than sex it’s your life force it is

more than sex it’s your life force it is a benchmark for measuring your vitality

a benchmark for measuring your vitality

a benchmark for measuring your vitality level and Ayurvedic medicine is called

level and Ayurvedic medicine is called

level and Ayurvedic medicine is called ojas I call it your ode juice your

ojas I call it your ode juice your

ojas I call it your ode juice your passion you get on the scale and you

passion you get on the scale and you

passion you get on the scale and you look at your weight as feedback from

look at your weight as feedback from

look at your weight as feedback from your body about your metabolism you go

your body about your metabolism you go

your body about your metabolism you go and get your blood pressure check for

and get your blood pressure check for

and get your blood pressure check for feedback about your heart your eyes

feedback about your heart your eyes

feedback about your heart your eyes about your vision check in with your

about your vision check in with your

about your vision check in with your libido level for your vitality it’s

libido level for your vitality it’s

libido level for your vitality it’s important it’s like a gas gauge on your

important it’s like a gas gauge on your

important it’s like a gas gauge on your dashboard of your car you know that if

dashboard of your car you know that if

dashboard of your car you know that if that thing says empty and you keep

that thing says empty and you keep

that thing says empty and you keep pushing on that gas pedal you’re going

pushing on that gas pedal you’re going

pushing on that gas pedal you’re going to be broken down the side of the road

to be broken down the side of the road

to be broken down the side of the road it’s the same way ladies if your

it’s the same way ladies if your

it’s the same way ladies if your vitality level is low your libido levels

vitality level is low your libido levels

vitality level is low your libido levels low and you reach for coffee or a

low and you reach for coffee or a

low and you reach for coffee or a doughnut or dark chocolate and you want

doughnut or dark chocolate and you want

doughnut or dark chocolate and you want to keep on going through it you’re going

to keep on going through it you’re going

to keep on going through it you’re going to break down on the side of the road

to break down on the side of the road

to break down on the side of the road and possibly with an autoimmune disease

and possibly with an autoimmune disease

and possibly with an autoimmune disease like I did there’s a way out of this and

like I did there’s a way out of this and

like I did there’s a way out of this and it’s the first step of that freedom

it’s the first step of that freedom

it’s the first step of that freedom framework I referred to uncover the root

framework I referred to uncover the root

framework I referred to uncover the root cause look for clues from your body your

cause look for clues from your body your

cause look for clues from your body your mind your spirit your emotions and how

mind your spirit your emotions and how

mind your spirit your emotions and how you tell your story I call this your

you tell your story I call this your

you tell your story I call this your libido story if you’re telling it from a

libido story if you’re telling it from a

libido story if you’re telling it from a victim standpoint you’re going to be

victim standpoint you’re going to be

victim standpoint you’re going to be activating that fight or flight system

activating that fight or flight system

activating that fight or flight system frequently poof no libido if you own

frequently poof no libido if you own

frequently poof no libido if you own that you’re the author of your story if

that you’re the author of your story if

that you’re the author of your story if you know that you’re going to experience

you know that you’re going to experience

you know that you’re going to experience stress no matter what it’s part of life

stress no matter what it’s part of life

stress no matter what it’s part of life but how you perceive it is what

but how you perceive it is what

but how you perceive it is what activates the nervous system that gets

activates the nervous system that gets

activates the nervous system that gets activated that is up to you how you

activated that is up to you how you

activated that is up to you how you perceive yourself how you perceive your

perceive yourself how you perceive your

perceive yourself how you perceive your old hurts they affect your libido level

old hurts they affect your libido level

old hurts they affect your libido level your life

your life

your life and your health I call this your libido

and your health I call this your libido

and your health I call this your libido mindset so ask yourself what’s your

mindset so ask yourself what’s your

mindset so ask yourself what’s your libido mindset it’s a very important

libido mindset it’s a very important

libido mindset it’s a very important question because what’s in your head

question because what’s in your head

question because what’s in your head goes to your bed

goes to your bed

goes to your bed thank you

thank you

thank you [Applause]

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