[Music] [Applause]
Wow how’s it going well obviously my
Wow how’s it going well obviously my name is reine dove I’m a model active ER
name is reine dove I’m a model active ER
name is reine dove I’m a model active ER active ER activist actor and gender
active ER activist actor and gender
active ER activist actor and gender capitalist and I am nervous as heck but
capitalist and I am nervous as heck but
capitalist and I am nervous as heck but I’m here for a reason so now if there
I’m here for a reason so now if there
I’m here for a reason so now if there are any journalists in the audience and
are any journalists in the audience and
are any journalists in the audience and you’re wondering oh shit what pronoun do
you’re wondering oh shit what pronoun do
you’re wondering oh shit what pronoun do I use for this person a pronoun is just
I use for this person a pronoun is just
I use for this person a pronoun is just a sound for me and on listening for in
a sound for me and on listening for in
a sound for me and on listening for in that sound is positivity so be creative
that sound is positivity so be creative
that sound is positivity so be creative you can even call me if you want to now
you can even call me if you want to now
you can even call me if you want to now I’m just gonna get a little more
I’m just gonna get a little more
I’m just gonna get a little more comfortable and make you guys a little
comfortable and make you guys a little
comfortable and make you guys a little bit more comfortable take off some
bit more comfortable take off some
bit more comfortable take off some things I feel like according to my birth
things I feel like according to my birth
things I feel like according to my birth certificate this is what I should be
certificate this is what I should be
certificate this is what I should be wearing technically let’s just get this
wearing technically let’s just get this
wearing technically let’s just get this down here oh yeah that’s so nice
down here oh yeah that’s so nice
down here oh yeah that’s so nice little red dress in a slicker that’s
little red dress in a slicker that’s
little red dress in a slicker that’s nice mm-hmm better so cata bra you have
nice mm-hmm better so cata bra you have
nice mm-hmm better so cata bra you have to go with that this was a freest point
to go with that this was a freest point
to go with that this was a freest point in my life see that little face kind of
in my life see that little face kind of
in my life see that little face kind of like I had no expectations I was just a
like I had no expectations I was just a
like I had no expectations I was just a lonely sperm traveling with about 250
lonely sperm traveling with about 250
lonely sperm traveling with about 250 million other sperm things are pretty
million other sperm things are pretty
million other sperm things are pretty great back then no one told me what to
great back then no one told me what to
great back then no one told me what to wear or how to be or how to dress and I
wear or how to be or how to dress and I
wear or how to be or how to dress and I started out life a winner I mean I beat
started out life a winner I mean I beat
started out life a winner I mean I beat 250 million other sperm to get to this
250 million other sperm to get to this
250 million other sperm to get to this egg it’s a race that’s bigger than 4.9
egg it’s a race that’s bigger than 4.9
egg it’s a race that’s bigger than 4.9 thousand times the size of the New York
thousand times the size of the New York
thousand times the size of the New York City Marathon so uh yeah I pretty much
City Marathon so uh yeah I pretty much
City Marathon so uh yeah I pretty much shot out the gate and just you know did
shot out the gate and just you know did
shot out the gate and just you know did what I got to do and that was awesome
what I got to do and that was awesome
what I got to do and that was awesome see I was doing just fine until I popped
see I was doing just fine until I popped
see I was doing just fine until I popped out of the vagina and then the doctors
out of the vagina and then the doctors
out of the vagina and then the doctors ordered three simple words that was
ordered three simple words that was
ordered three simple words that was shackle me into my first social prison
shackle me into my first social prison
shackle me into my first social prison it’s a girl
the minute they said those words I was
the minute they said those words I was no longer simply me I suddenly became
no longer simply me I suddenly became
no longer simply me I suddenly became she and at that point I also became
she and at that point I also became
she and at that point I also became measured against everything as she was
measured against everything as she was
measured against everything as she was supposed to be how I dress talk act love
supposed to be how I dress talk act love
supposed to be how I dress talk act love my level of attractiveness I know guys
my level of attractiveness I know guys
my level of attractiveness I know guys calm yourselves even how I gained or
calm yourselves even how I gained or
calm yourselves even how I gained or respect or trust the path to obtain my
respect or trust the path to obtain my
respect or trust the path to obtain my wildest dreams was suddenly divided in
wildest dreams was suddenly divided in
wildest dreams was suddenly divided in half and filled with potholes of social
half and filled with potholes of social
half and filled with potholes of social societal pressures that urged me to go
societal pressures that urged me to go
societal pressures that urged me to go in a certain direction all because of
in a certain direction all because of
in a certain direction all because of what was right for my genitals now
what was right for my genitals now
what was right for my genitals now here’s the thing as a she here’s how I
here’s the thing as a she here’s how I
here’s the thing as a she here’s how I measured up it wasn’t pretty I found out
measured up it wasn’t pretty I found out
measured up it wasn’t pretty I found out I was actually pretty low on the totem
I was actually pretty low on the totem
I was actually pretty low on the totem pole there’s me so soft so sweet that’s
pole there’s me so soft so sweet that’s
pole there’s me so soft so sweet that’s my mother big shout out to mom hi mom
my mother big shout out to mom hi mom
my mother big shout out to mom hi mom thank you I know she’s a good-looking
thank you I know she’s a good-looking
thank you I know she’s a good-looking woman see the thing is is I looked
woman see the thing is is I looked
woman see the thing is is I looked around on television on billboards and
around on television on billboards and
around on television on billboards and in magazines and I just didn’t see the
in magazines and I just didn’t see the
in magazines and I just didn’t see the she that was me
she that was me
she that was me I didn’t see any girl that looked like
I didn’t see any girl that looked like
I didn’t see any girl that looked like me and then I’m gonna quote a lot of
me and then I’m gonna quote a lot of
me and then I’m gonna quote a lot of times when I say girl or guy that’s for
times when I say girl or guy that’s for
times when I say girl or guy that’s for a different TED talk but I’m not really
a different TED talk but I’m not really
a different TED talk but I’m not really into those kinds of labels see I was
into those kinds of labels see I was
into those kinds of labels see I was tall and I was muscular I grew up on a
tall and I was muscular I grew up on a
tall and I was muscular I grew up on a farm that check out that swimsuit bottle
farm that check out that swimsuit bottle
farm that check out that swimsuit bottle awesome
awesome
awesome man yeah Sports definitely pretty
man yeah Sports definitely pretty
man yeah Sports definitely pretty awesome at that fashion sense on point
awesome at that fashion sense on point
awesome at that fashion sense on point and I had a lot of weird haircuts in
and I had a lot of weird haircuts in
and I had a lot of weird haircuts in fact I actually aesthetically looked a
fact I actually aesthetically looked a
fact I actually aesthetically looked a lot more like my first boyfriend in high
lot more like my first boyfriend in high
lot more like my first boyfriend in high school and I see that right there the
school and I see that right there the
school and I see that right there the resemblance sometimes I wonder if I
resemblance sometimes I wonder if I
resemblance sometimes I wonder if I dated them just for pure narcissism you
dated them just for pure narcissism you
dated them just for pure narcissism you know it’s just like I mean look at that
know it’s just like I mean look at that
know it’s just like I mean look at that just one more time look at that oh yeah
just one more time look at that oh yeah
just one more time look at that oh yeah we’re gonna leave that creepy face up
we’re gonna leave that creepy face up
we’re gonna leave that creepy face up there for one second and because of
there for one second and because of
there for one second and because of these things I grew up thinking I guess
these things I grew up thinking I guess
these things I grew up thinking I guess I’m an ugly girl maybe I wasn’t meant to
I’m an ugly girl maybe I wasn’t meant to
I’m an ugly girl maybe I wasn’t meant to be the housewife material and maybe I
be the housewife material and maybe I
be the housewife material and maybe I wasn’t meant to be arm candy I figured
wasn’t meant to be arm candy I figured
wasn’t meant to be arm candy I figured out that maybe the she that I was
out that maybe the she that I was
out that maybe the she that I was supposed to be was the girl who survives
supposed to be was the girl who survives
supposed to be was the girl who survives the apocalypse and go
the apocalypse and go
the apocalypse and go on the escapades with her motorcycle in
on the escapades with her motorcycle in
on the escapades with her motorcycle in her shotgun and her German Shepherd that
her shotgun and her German Shepherd that
her shotgun and her German Shepherd that was my place in life I was gonna be like
was my place in life I was gonna be like
was my place in life I was gonna be like Resident Evil you know that was me yeah
Resident Evil you know that was me yeah
Resident Evil you know that was me yeah you know I’m not a housewife I’m just
you know I’m not a housewife I’m just
you know I’m not a housewife I’m just gonna shoot some zombies that’s my
gonna shoot some zombies that’s my
gonna shoot some zombies that’s my destiny right there no be real with me
destiny right there no be real with me
destiny right there no be real with me okay
okay
okay and if some of you guys might be like
and if some of you guys might be like
and if some of you guys might be like you know crazy miracle workers here but
you know crazy miracle workers here but
you know crazy miracle workers here but raise your hand if you chose the body
raise your hand if you chose the body
raise your hand if you chose the body that you were born in I’m not talking
that you were born in I’m not talking
that you were born in I’m not talking trance and I’m not talking about like
trance and I’m not talking about like
trance and I’m not talking about like plastic surgery or anything weird like
plastic surgery or anything weird like
plastic surgery or anything weird like that I just literally mean before you
that I just literally mean before you
that I just literally mean before you popped out of that vagina did you choose
popped out of that vagina did you choose
popped out of that vagina did you choose the body that you came out in no we
the body that you came out in no we
the body that you came out in no we didn’t choose this it’s not my fault
didn’t choose this it’s not my fault
didn’t choose this it’s not my fault that I was born into this vessel and
that I was born into this vessel and
that I was born into this vessel and it’s not your fault that you were born
it’s not your fault that you were born
it’s not your fault that you were born into this vessel so why is society
into this vessel so why is society
into this vessel so why is society punishing me why are they punishing you
punishing me why are they punishing you
punishing me why are they punishing you why are they getting in your way because
why are they getting in your way because
why are they getting in your way because of it if it’s not your fault why are
of it if it’s not your fault why are
of it if it’s not your fault why are they limiting you now fast forward when
they limiting you now fast forward when
they limiting you now fast forward when I was 19 I became a wilderness
I was 19 I became a wilderness
I was 19 I became a wilderness firefighter and this was my part of my
firefighter and this was my part of my
firefighter and this was my part of my attractive career right here check it
attractive career right here check it
attractive career right here check it out I know a lot of you guys might think
out I know a lot of you guys might think
out I know a lot of you guys might think that that’s me right there with the
that that’s me right there with the
that that’s me right there with the chainsaw kind of like looking kind of
chainsaw kind of like looking kind of
chainsaw kind of like looking kind of douchey you doing this um no that’s not
douchey you doing this um no that’s not
douchey you doing this um no that’s not me I wish I could be that miracle worker
me I wish I could be that miracle worker
me I wish I could be that miracle worker see I walked into a room but
see I walked into a room but
see I walked into a room but predominantly men these men okay and the
predominantly men these men okay and the
predominantly men these men okay and the first thing they did was call me he my
first thing they did was call me he my
first thing they did was call me he my whole life I thought it was an ugly girl
whole life I thought it was an ugly girl
whole life I thought it was an ugly girl I’d never been mistaken as a he before I
I’d never been mistaken as a he before I
I’d never been mistaken as a he before I would have corrected them but then I saw
would have corrected them but then I saw
would have corrected them but then I saw the way they were talking about the
the way they were talking about the
the way they were talking about the women in the room and they were
women in the room and they were
women in the room and they were measuring their usefulness
measuring their usefulness
measuring their usefulness based on how attractive they were and I
based on how attractive they were and I
based on how attractive they were and I realized I had a choice be the ugly girl
realized I had a choice be the ugly girl
realized I had a choice be the ugly girl or be a dude so I decided to be a dude
or be a dude so I decided to be a dude
or be a dude so I decided to be a dude and I was gonna tell them the truth
and I was gonna tell them the truth
and I was gonna tell them the truth later you know like work really hard and
later you know like work really hard and
later you know like work really hard and then like you’re like surprised haha put
then like you’re like surprised haha put
then like you’re like surprised haha put shoulder punch but then later turned
shoulder punch but then later turned
shoulder punch but then later turned into 11 months so it’s a little bit of
into 11 months so it’s a little bit of
into 11 months so it’s a little bit of time passed before that situation
time passed before that situation
time passed before that situation happened right there
happened right there
happened right there and one time in the middle of fire
and one time in the middle of fire
and one time in the middle of fire fighting I was actually celebrating with
fighting I was actually celebrating with
fighting I was actually celebrating with all the men no women allowed and we were
all the men no women allowed and we were
all the men no women allowed and we were around the fire and somebody said
around the fire and somebody said
around the fire and somebody said something that I would consider to be
something that I would consider to be
something that I would consider to be the most manly thing that has ever been
the most manly thing that has ever been
the most manly thing that has ever been said we’re all drinking whiskey kind of
said we’re all drinking whiskey kind of
said we’re all drinking whiskey kind of illegally and like hanging out around
illegally and like hanging out around
illegally and like hanging out around the fire and one guy says if I die I
the fire and one guy says if I die I
the fire and one guy says if I die I need you to promise me that you were
need you to promise me that you were
need you to promise me that you were gonna go back to the place that you last
gonna go back to the place that you last
gonna go back to the place that you last saw me and scoop up some of my ashes and
saw me and scoop up some of my ashes and
saw me and scoop up some of my ashes and send it home to my mother I was like
send it home to my mother I was like
send it home to my mother I was like shit got serious man okay we were just
shit got serious man okay we were just
shit got serious man okay we were just sitting there I felt like a chest hair
sitting there I felt like a chest hair
sitting there I felt like a chest hair pop out and then everybody took a swig
pop out and then everybody took a swig
pop out and then everybody took a swig of whiskey and then they all did
of whiskey and then they all did
of whiskey and then they all did something I did not expect they stood up
something I did not expect they stood up
something I did not expect they stood up walk to the edge of the sandstone cliff
walk to the edge of the sandstone cliff
walk to the edge of the sandstone cliff in the middle of the desert and they all
in the middle of the desert and they all
in the middle of the desert and they all started to pee off the cliff together in
started to pee off the cliff together in
started to pee off the cliff together in solidarity
solidarity
solidarity I’ve never peed in front of these guys
I’ve never peed in front of these guys
I’ve never peed in front of these guys before ever
before ever
before ever usually they thought I think they
usually they thought I think they
usually they thought I think they probably thought like I had to poop a
probably thought like I had to poop a
probably thought like I had to poop a lot because I just like always you know
lot because I just like always you know
lot because I just like always you know went into a place where I could hide or
went into a place where I could hide or
went into a place where I could hide or squat so suddenly I found myself
squat so suddenly I found myself
squat so suddenly I found myself shoulder to shoulder with these guys
shoulder to shoulder with these guys
shoulder to shoulder with these guys kind of like okay I guess I got to do
kind of like okay I guess I got to do
kind of like okay I guess I got to do this and I took two hands and I’m kind
this and I took two hands and I’m kind
this and I took two hands and I’m kind of like funneling it out trying to get
of like funneling it out trying to get
of like funneling it out trying to get it out away from me and it got all over
it out away from me and it got all over
it out away from me and it got all over me and I gave me the nickname hobo which
me and I gave me the nickname hobo which
me and I gave me the nickname hobo which in America means homeless person because
in America means homeless person because
in America means homeless person because I smelled like urine for a week later on
I smelled like urine for a week later on
I smelled like urine for a week later on when they found out that I was a woman
when they found out that I was a woman
when they found out that I was a woman they said that’s impossible and the
they said that’s impossible and the
they said that’s impossible and the medic was like why and they’re like well
medic was like why and they’re like well
medic was like why and they’re like well we saw his dick he had to hold it with
we saw his dick he had to hold it with
we saw his dick he had to hold it with two hands and my response today is that
two hands and my response today is that
two hands and my response today is that a dick doesn’t make a man a man
a dick doesn’t make a man a man
a dick doesn’t make a man a man especially at noon okay at first I
especially at noon okay at first I
especially at noon okay at first I actually thought that being perceived as
actually thought that being perceived as
actually thought that being perceived as a guy was pretty great I was like I got
a guy was pretty great I was like I got
a guy was pretty great I was like I got a golden ticket I found that maybe it
a golden ticket I found that maybe it
a golden ticket I found that maybe it was like a superpower you know like the
was like a superpower you know like the
was like a superpower you know like the ability to be a young white man in
ability to be a young white man in
ability to be a young white man in America yeah it was a pretty damn
America yeah it was a pretty damn
America yeah it was a pretty damn awesome power for most things but then
awesome power for most things but then
awesome power for most things but then over those 11 months well he certainly
over those 11 months well he certainly
over those 11 months well he certainly did experience and improved quality of
did experience and improved quality of
did experience and improved quality of life I also began to experience
life I also began to experience
life I also began to experience disadvantages that I’d never experienced
disadvantages that I’d never experienced
disadvantages that I’d never experienced as a woman and that a lot of guys don’t
as a woman and that a lot of guys don’t
as a woman and that a lot of guys don’t really feel like they can talk about for
really feel like they can talk about for
really feel like they can talk about for starters I wasn’t allowed to express
starters I wasn’t allowed to express
starters I wasn’t allowed to express unapologetic sadness or fear
unapologetic sadness or fear
unapologetic sadness or fear I couldn’t express these things and if I
I couldn’t express these things and if I
I couldn’t express these things and if I did I better be able to just suck it up
did I better be able to just suck it up
did I better be able to just suck it up and show that I’m able to resolve so if
and show that I’m able to resolve so if
and show that I’m able to resolve so if I cry I have to be like but don’t worry
I cry I have to be like but don’t worry
I cry I have to be like but don’t worry about me bruh you know show their punch
about me bruh you know show their punch
about me bruh you know show their punch I couldn’t argue full force with another
I couldn’t argue full force with another
I couldn’t argue full force with another female firefighter so if a female
female firefighter so if a female
female firefighter so if a female firefighter and I were having a conflict
firefighter and I were having a conflict
firefighter and I were having a conflict she could yell at me she could even slap
she could yell at me she could even slap
she could yell at me she could even slap me across the face and she would be
me across the face and she would be
me across the face and she would be applauded for standing up to herself
applauded for standing up to herself
applauded for standing up to herself against a tall white guy but if I were
against a tall white guy but if I were
against a tall white guy but if I were to slap her across the face being
to slap her across the face being
to slap her across the face being perceived as male I would probably go to
perceived as male I would probably go to
perceived as male I would probably go to jail and then my life would be ruined
jail and then my life would be ruined
jail and then my life would be ruined now
now
now by the way nobody should ever slap you
by the way nobody should ever slap you
by the way nobody should ever slap you could anyone across the face like ever
could anyone across the face like ever
could anyone across the face like ever you know don’t don’t do it I’m not
you know don’t don’t do it I’m not
you know don’t don’t do it I’m not promoting violence here but if you have
promoting violence here but if you have
promoting violence here but if you have to like in a defense you know anyway and
to like in a defense you know anyway and
to like in a defense you know anyway and lastly I realized and there are a lot of
lastly I realized and there are a lot of
lastly I realized and there are a lot of things I realize but these are the top
things I realize but these are the top
things I realize but these are the top three I realized that man I didn’t get
three I realized that man I didn’t get
three I realized that man I didn’t get any freebies okay as a woman you know
any freebies okay as a woman you know
any freebies okay as a woman you know free drinks like free entry into like
free drinks like free entry into like
free drinks like free entry into like places and like you know sometimes you
places and like you know sometimes you
places and like you know sometimes you can’t have like these meltdowns and
can’t have like these meltdowns and
can’t have like these meltdowns and people like it’s okay you know no
people like it’s okay you know no
people like it’s okay you know no freebies as a dude none I was expected
freebies as a dude none I was expected
freebies as a dude none I was expected to be able to pay my way into everything
to be able to pay my way into everything
to be able to pay my way into everything and not just pay my way into everything
and not just pay my way into everything
and not just pay my way into everything but also have money in the chamber to
but also have money in the chamber to
but also have money in the chamber to cover someone else I had to have the
cover someone else I had to have the
cover someone else I had to have the ability to pull someone else’s weight
ability to pull someone else’s weight
ability to pull someone else’s weight just in case so what I’m saying guys is
just in case so what I’m saying guys is
just in case so what I’m saying guys is you know some of you may have it a lot
you know some of you may have it a lot
you know some of you may have it a lot easier because of your male status but
easier because of your male status but
easier because of your male status but I’m telling you you don’t have it easy
I’m telling you you don’t have it easy
I’m telling you you don’t have it easy either and a lot of people don’t talk
either and a lot of people don’t talk
either and a lot of people don’t talk about that so what does this mean
about that so what does this mean
about that so what does this mean it basically means no matter how we
it basically means no matter how we
it basically means no matter how we express ourselves in gender or sex
express ourselves in gender or sex
express ourselves in gender or sex meinen society’s gonna screw us over we
meinen society’s gonna screw us over we
meinen society’s gonna screw us over we are screwed it’s not fair my golden
are screwed it’s not fair my golden
are screwed it’s not fair my golden ticket turned out to be just another
ticket turned out to be just another
ticket turned out to be just another flawed form of life that I could live so
flawed form of life that I could live so
flawed form of life that I could live so I decided to say fuck it fuck it I’ll be
I decided to say fuck it fuck it I’ll be
I decided to say fuck it fuck it I’ll be both I’ll be all I’ll be whatever I have
both I’ll be all I’ll be whatever I have
both I’ll be all I’ll be whatever I have to be to get the most out of my life
to be to get the most out of my life
to be to get the most out of my life because I don’t have time to be
because I don’t have time to be
because I don’t have time to be disadvantaged I don’t have time to stand
disadvantaged I don’t have time to stand
disadvantaged I don’t have time to stand in a line I’d be polite and be like oh
in a line I’d be polite and be like oh
in a line I’d be polite and be like oh I’m sorry I’m a girl I can’t do that
I’m sorry I’m a girl I can’t do that
I’m sorry I’m a girl I can’t do that we’re like oh yeah lady it’s okay like
we’re like oh yeah lady it’s okay like
we’re like oh yeah lady it’s okay like you know if I go ahead of me you know I
you know if I go ahead of me you know I
you know if I go ahead of me you know I don’t have time for that shit I got
don’t have time for that shit I got
don’t have time for that shit I got important things to do on this planet
important things to do on this planet
important things to do on this planet okay
okay
okay and now I make a living off from it and
and now I make a living off from it and
and now I make a living off from it and that mentality what I did was first I
that mentality what I did was first I
that mentality what I did was first I studied the common factors society
studied the common factors society
studied the common factors society affiliates with different genders and
affiliates with different genders and
affiliates with different genders and sexes and I began to emulate those
sexes and I began to emulate those
sexes and I began to emulate those qualities various situations to get the
qualities various situations to get the
qualities various situations to get the most out of them so when I was in a
most out of them so when I was in a
most out of them so when I was in a situation that was more advantageous to
situation that was more advantageous to
situation that was more advantageous to be seen as female
be seen as female
be seen as female I would arch my back soften my gestures
I would arch my back soften my gestures
I would arch my back soften my gestures and raise my voice hi how’s it going
and raise my voice hi how’s it going
and raise my voice hi how’s it going nice to see you
nice to see you
nice to see you all right when I was in a situation that
all right when I was in a situation that
all right when I was in a situation that it was seen as more beneficial to be
it was seen as more beneficial to be
it was seen as more beneficial to be male I’ve brought my shoulders forward I
male I’ve brought my shoulders forward I
male I’ve brought my shoulders forward I made a lot of eye contact I made sure
made a lot of eye contact I made sure
made a lot of eye contact I made sure that everything I said was intentional I
that everything I said was intentional I
that everything I said was intentional I lowered my voice put up my dick
lowered my voice put up my dick
lowered my voice put up my dick sometimes
sometimes
sometimes just kidding I do that sometimes you
just kidding I do that sometimes you
just kidding I do that sometimes you have to I mean you know you’re wrong
have to I mean you know you’re wrong
have to I mean you know you’re wrong situation okay and suddenly when I
situation okay and suddenly when I
situation okay and suddenly when I started doing this every day my life
started doing this every day my life
started doing this every day my life exploded in a huge way and after I
exploded in a huge way and after I
exploded in a huge way and after I accidentally become a fashion model
accidentally become a fashion model
accidentally become a fashion model separate TED talk and actor I found
separate TED talk and actor I found
separate TED talk and actor I found myself being able to portray all sexes
myself being able to portray all sexes
myself being able to portray all sexes and genders making twice the amount of
and genders making twice the amount of
and genders making twice the amount of money I would have as an ugly girl and
money I would have as an ugly girl and
money I would have as an ugly girl and twice the amount of money I would have
twice the amount of money I would have
twice the amount of money I would have as a decent-looking guy I mean I’m just
as a decent-looking guy I mean I’m just
as a decent-looking guy I mean I’m just not mean to brag but you know hey ok so
not mean to brag but you know hey ok so
not mean to brag but you know hey ok so now when you google my name you’re gonna
now when you google my name you’re gonna
now when you google my name you’re gonna see pictures like this you’re gonna see
see pictures like this you’re gonna see
see pictures like this you’re gonna see some photos like this check that out
some photos like this check that out
some photos like this check that out right there that’s nice no real alcohol
right there that’s nice no real alcohol
right there that’s nice no real alcohol in that though this one that’s the
in that though this one that’s the
in that though this one that’s the Brooklyn Bridge
Brooklyn Bridge
Brooklyn Bridge this one right here nice little lingerie
this one right here nice little lingerie
this one right here nice little lingerie this one nice it’s a make up campaign
this one nice it’s a make up campaign
this one nice it’s a make up campaign that’s my first Vogue Italia shot oh and
that’s my first Vogue Italia shot oh and
that’s my first Vogue Italia shot oh and sometimes this Google Images and I were
sometimes this Google Images and I were
sometimes this Google Images and I were like having a problem because this thing
like having a problem because this thing
like having a problem because this thing when you type in rained of sometimes
when you type in rained of sometimes
when you type in rained of sometimes it’s at the top of the image thing I
it’s at the top of the image thing I
it’s at the top of the image thing I don’t know how many people are looking
don’t know how many people are looking
don’t know how many people are looking up this pigeon but it is very fucking
up this pigeon but it is very fucking
up this pigeon but it is very fucking famous it is so annoying
now after a period of time in the
now after a period of time in the industry okay I decided to coin this
industry okay I decided to coin this
industry okay I decided to coin this term I mean this way of life and I
term I mean this way of life and I
term I mean this way of life and I called it gender capitalism now gender
called it gender capitalism now gender
called it gender capitalism now gender capitalism is when you recognize
capitalism is when you recognize
capitalism is when you recognize society’s perception of gender and make
society’s perception of gender and make
society’s perception of gender and make use of it in the most advantageous way
use of it in the most advantageous way
use of it in the most advantageous way you capitalize on it for me that
you capitalize on it for me that
you capitalize on it for me that literally means presenting myself as
literally means presenting myself as
literally means presenting myself as what society deems to be male or female
what society deems to be male or female
what society deems to be male or female and to give a situation to get the most
and to give a situation to get the most
and to give a situation to get the most out of it cuz I don’t have time to fuck
out of it cuz I don’t have time to fuck
out of it cuz I don’t have time to fuck around it’s your fault if you think I’m
around it’s your fault if you think I’m
around it’s your fault if you think I’m something else now I’m gonna give you an
something else now I’m gonna give you an
something else now I’m gonna give you an example of how I would use personally
example of how I would use personally
example of how I would use personally with my superpower jeanna capitalism
with my superpower jeanna capitalism
with my superpower jeanna capitalism Titanic long sad movie but walk with me
Titanic long sad movie but walk with me
Titanic long sad movie but walk with me here okay if I had gone on to the
here okay if I had gone on to the
here okay if I had gone on to the Titanic during this time period I would
Titanic during this time period I would
Titanic during this time period I would have gotten a job as a male deckhand
have gotten a job as a male deckhand
have gotten a job as a male deckhand making sure that my clothes are nice and
making sure that my clothes are nice and
making sure that my clothes are nice and baggy make that eye contact lower that
baggy make that eye contact lower that
baggy make that eye contact lower that voice bring those shoulders forward and
voice bring those shoulders forward and
voice bring those shoulders forward and I would have gotten pay three times more
I would have gotten pay three times more
I would have gotten pay three times more than the highest paid female working
than the highest paid female working
than the highest paid female working position on that ship
position on that ship
position on that ship however the minute that ship was sinking
however the minute that ship was sinking
however the minute that ship was sinking and they said women and children first
and they said women and children first
and they said women and children first I’m like off I’m on to those like votes
I’m like off I’m on to those like votes
I’m like off I’m on to those like votes I am out of there because then at that
I am out of there because then at that
I am out of there because then at that point if you’re a dude you have to stay
point if you’re a dude you have to stay
point if you’re a dude you have to stay behind and die I’m not gonna do that are
behind and die I’m not gonna do that are
behind and die I’m not gonna do that are you kidding me I didn’t think all this
you kidding me I didn’t think all this
you kidding me I didn’t think all this money as a deckhand should have to put
money as a deckhand should have to put
money as a deckhand should have to put up with that shit
up with that shit
up with that shit and that is gender capitalism now I
and that is gender capitalism now I
and that is gender capitalism now I don’t feel bad about it some people
don’t feel bad about it some people
don’t feel bad about it some people would be like hey you know you’re kind
would be like hey you know you’re kind
would be like hey you know you’re kind of supporting these gender stereotypes
of supporting these gender stereotypes
of supporting these gender stereotypes and supporting this oppression but
and supporting this oppression but
and supporting this oppression but that’s the complete opposite I fight
that’s the complete opposite I fight
that’s the complete opposite I fight stereotypes and oppression every day
stereotypes and oppression every day
stereotypes and oppression every day just by living unapologetically and
just by living unapologetically and
just by living unapologetically and letting other people around me live
letting other people around me live
letting other people around me live unapologetically I ask the question when
unapologetically I ask the question when
unapologetically I ask the question when did we take science and turn it into
did we take science and turn it into
did we take science and turn it into shackles when when there was this such a
shackles when when there was this such a
shackles when when there was this such a big factor this whole situation here
big factor this whole situation here
big factor this whole situation here when the social opinion becomes fact
when the social opinion becomes fact
when the social opinion becomes fact that we have to live by when it becomes
that we have to live by when it becomes
that we have to live by when it becomes so dire to conform to a homogenous
so dire to conform to a homogenous
so dire to conform to a homogenous binary standard at one point you know
binary standard at one point you know
binary standard at one point you know it’s true the human race I mean we
it’s true the human race I mean we
it’s true the human race I mean we needed to survive we needed to identify
needed to survive we needed to identify
needed to survive we needed to identify each other on like genitalia because we
each other on like genitalia because we
each other on like genitalia because we literally pun intended needed to know we
literally pun intended needed to know we
literally pun intended needed to know we were fucking with because the humans
were fucking with because the humans
were fucking with because the humans only lived for like twenty thirty years
only lived for like twenty thirty years
only lived for like twenty thirty years at one point I mean we had a hard time
at one point I mean we had a hard time
at one point I mean we had a hard time we had to get society going you know we
we had to get society going you know we
we had to get society going you know we had to build up the population that was
had to build up the population that was
had to build up the population that was something we designed so that we could
something we designed so that we could
something we designed so that we could have a more efficient population but the
have a more efficient population but the
have a more efficient population but the human race has enough people now the
human race has enough people now the
human race has enough people now the population is high enough and in fact we
population is high enough and in fact we
population is high enough and in fact we have dominated the planet to such a
have dominated the planet to such a
have dominated the planet to such a point that we are choking it with our
point that we are choking it with our
point that we are choking it with our needs this social design that was once
needs this social design that was once
needs this social design that was once constructed for efficiency has now not
constructed for efficiency has now not
constructed for efficiency has now not only become inefficient but has become
only become inefficient but has become
only become inefficient but has become detrimental to our well-being and bility
detrimental to our well-being and bility
detrimental to our well-being and bility to further our species we don’t need to
to further our species we don’t need to
to further our species we don’t need to grow a population anymore okay we need
grow a population anymore okay we need
grow a population anymore okay we need to feed the population we have we need
to feed the population we have we need
to feed the population we have we need to water the population we have we need
to water the population we have we need
to water the population we have we need to shelter the population we have so we
to shelter the population we have so we
to shelter the population we have so we need to redesign society to maximize our
need to redesign society to maximize our
need to redesign society to maximize our potential to do that which means getting
potential to do that which means getting
potential to do that which means getting out of the intellectual way of every
out of the intellectual way of every
out of the intellectual way of every single human so we can be the best we
single human so we can be the best we
single human so we can be the best we can to solve these problems it is that
can to solve these problems it is that
can to solve these problems it is that simple
simple
simple so what does it mean for you question on
so what does it mean for you question on
so what does it mean for you question on my talk there’s a little talking point
my talk there’s a little talking point
my talk there’s a little talking point right there just taking a pivot
right there just taking a pivot
right there just taking a pivot well not everybody here with Dean
well not everybody here with Dean
well not everybody here with Dean themselves androgynous I just want to
themselves androgynous I just want to
themselves androgynous I just want to say every human is androgynous androgyny
say every human is androgynous androgyny
say every human is androgynous androgyny is not the opinion of yourself it’s the
is not the opinion of yourself it’s the
is not the opinion of yourself it’s the other people’s opinion of you and
other people’s opinion of you and
other people’s opinion of you and everyone here is androgynous you should
everyone here is androgynous you should
everyone here is androgynous you should be ambiguous however right now the way
be ambiguous however right now the way
be ambiguous however right now the way the society stands a lot of you probably
the society stands a lot of you probably
the society stands a lot of you probably can’t be able to seamlessly walk through
can’t be able to seamlessly walk through
can’t be able to seamlessly walk through and pass as male or female on a straight
and pass as male or female on a straight
and pass as male or female on a straight hard line but being a gender capitalist
hard line but being a gender capitalist
hard line but being a gender capitalist doesn’t mean that you have to do that it
doesn’t mean that you have to do that it
doesn’t mean that you have to do that it also doesn’t mean that you have to not
also doesn’t mean that you have to not
also doesn’t mean that you have to not identify with your own gender you don’t
identify with your own gender you don’t
identify with your own gender you don’t have to be like I am now in it you can
have to be like I am now in it you can
have to be like I am now in it you can still say he or she you can say you’re
still say he or she you can say you’re
still say he or she you can say you’re whatever you want you can identify with
whatever you want you can identify with
whatever you want you can identify with whatever elements of you that you want
whatever elements of you that you want
whatever elements of you that you want to it’s just that you recognize how
to it’s just that you recognize how
to it’s just that you recognize how society sees gender and you capitalize
society sees gender and you capitalize
society sees gender and you capitalize off from it and there are only two rules
off from it and there are only two rules
off from it and there are only two rules to do this it is a very simple thing
to do this it is a very simple thing
to do this it is a very simple thing rule number one just gonna put that
rule number one just gonna put that
rule number one just gonna put that there
there
there eliminate the limits stop telling
eliminate the limits stop telling
eliminate the limits stop telling yourself you can’t do something because
yourself you can’t do something because
yourself you can’t do something because of who or what you are and stop getting
of who or what you are and stop getting
of who or what you are and stop getting in other people’s way of exceeding what
in other people’s way of exceeding what
in other people’s way of exceeding what society tells they are gonna put that up
society tells they are gonna put that up
society tells they are gonna put that up there as a plug okay look we were taught
there as a plug okay look we were taught
there as a plug okay look we were taught at birth to undercut ourselves okay
at birth to undercut ourselves okay
at birth to undercut ourselves okay we’re taught not to think selfishly and
we’re taught not to think selfishly and
we’re taught not to think selfishly and I know that a lot of us don’t feel
I know that a lot of us don’t feel
I know that a lot of us don’t feel comfortable about bragging about
comfortable about bragging about
comfortable about bragging about ourselves or doing things to show off
ourselves or doing things to show off
ourselves or doing things to show off how awesome we are right you’re not
how awesome we are right you’re not
how awesome we are right you’re not allowed to be like I’m awesome because
allowed to be like I’m awesome because
allowed to be like I’m awesome because some other persons give like douchebag
some other persons give like douchebag
some other persons give like douchebag you know but the most selfless thing you
you know but the most selfless thing you
you know but the most selfless thing you can do is be a gender capitalist because
can do is be a gender capitalist because
can do is be a gender capitalist because when other people get in your way
when other people get in your way
when other people get in your way they’re not getting dressed in your way
they’re not getting dressed in your way
they’re not getting dressed in your way they’re getting on the way of all the
they’re getting on the way of all the
they’re getting on the way of all the good you have to offer them so they’re
good you have to offer them so they’re
good you have to offer them so they’re getting in their own way and when you
getting in their own way and when you
getting in their own way and when you get in the way of other people you’re
get in the way of other people you’re
get in the way of other people you’re getting in the way of all the good those
getting in the way of all the good those
getting in the way of all the good those people can offer you you’re getting in
people can offer you you’re getting in
people can offer you you’re getting in your own way so rule number one get the
your own way so rule number one get the
your own way so rule number one get the fuck out of your way get out the way
fuck out of your way get out the way
fuck out of your way get out the way it’s very simple it’s very very simple
it’s very simple it’s very very simple
it’s very simple it’s very very simple rule number two if you see something say
rule number two if you see something say
rule number two if you see something say something
something
something now this slogan is very popular around
now this slogan is very popular around
now this slogan is very popular around the world is used for a lot of things
the world is used for a lot of things
the world is used for a lot of things but it’s popular for a reason and it’s
but it’s popular for a reason and it’s
but it’s popular for a reason and it’s as simple as it sounds we need to be
as simple as it sounds we need to be
as simple as it sounds we need to be advocates for each other for our
advocates for each other for our
advocates for each other for our co-workers for our family for the person
co-workers for our family for the person
co-workers for our family for the person that we’re dating
that we’re dating
that we’re dating hold them to equal standards and no
hold them to equal standards and no
hold them to equal standards and no matter what sex or gender they are okay
matter what sex or gender they are okay
matter what sex or gender they are okay even for strangers because those people
even for strangers because those people
even for strangers because those people might save your life one day those
might save your life one day those
might save your life one day those people might hire you one day those
people might hire you one day those
people might hire you one day those people might make the bread that you eat
people might make the bread that you eat
people might make the bread that you eat in the morning you don’t know you have
in the morning you don’t know you have
in the morning you don’t know you have to lift them up and you have to speak up
to lift them up and you have to speak up
to lift them up and you have to speak up for them it’s not simple two rules you
do this and you’re gonna stop missing
do this and you’re gonna stop missing out on a whole half of your life that
out on a whole half of your life that
out on a whole half of your life that you’re missing it’s not fair your life
you’re missing it’s not fair your life
you’re missing it’s not fair your life you’ve been cheated you lost a whole
you’ve been cheated you lost a whole
you’ve been cheated you lost a whole half of potential a whole half of
half of potential a whole half of
half of potential a whole half of camaraderie a whole half of you and you
camaraderie a whole half of you and you
camaraderie a whole half of you and you had to fight damn hard to get to where
had to fight damn hard to get to where
had to fight damn hard to get to where you are right now
you are right now
you are right now be that hard but you have to navigate
be that hard but you have to navigate
be that hard but you have to navigate through all these social pressures and
through all these social pressures and
through all these social pressures and it’s not fair so to bring it back to the
it’s not fair so to bring it back to the
it’s not fair so to bring it back to the beginning let’s imagine a new world a
beginning let’s imagine a new world a
beginning let’s imagine a new world a world where when you’re born they’re not
world where when you’re born they’re not
world where when you’re born they’re not like it’s a girl
like it’s a girl
like it’s a girl haha or it’s a boy they say it’s a you
haha or it’s a boy they say it’s a you
haha or it’s a boy they say it’s a you and you’re taught about yourself in a
and you’re taught about yourself in a
and you’re taught about yourself in a scientific way not a social way instead
scientific way not a social way instead
scientific way not a social way instead of saying uh you’re more likely to act
of saying uh you’re more likely to act
of saying uh you’re more likely to act like this because you’re a male or a
like this because you’re a male or a
like this because you’re a male or a female people will say to you okay um
female people will say to you okay um
female people will say to you okay um you have these hormonal levels you have
you have these hormonal levels you have
you have these hormonal levels you have these chemicals in your body you have
these chemicals in your body you have
these chemicals in your body you have these chromosomal elements and you have
these chromosomal elements and you have
these chromosomal elements and you have these different physiological attributes
these different physiological attributes
these different physiological attributes you may be likely to experience life in
you may be likely to experience life in
you may be likely to experience life in this particular way but it’s up to you
this particular way but it’s up to you
this particular way but it’s up to you if you were taught about how your body
if you were taught about how your body
if you were taught about how your body works is a unique machine things would
works is a unique machine things would
works is a unique machine things would be different if you learned about you
be different if you learned about you
be different if you learned about you you wouldn’t feel like oh I’m an angry
you wouldn’t feel like oh I’m an angry
you wouldn’t feel like oh I’m an angry girl because you’re not like all the
girl because you’re not like all the
girl because you’re not like all the other girls or I’m an a I’m like a weak
other girls or I’m an a I’m like a weak
other girls or I’m an a I’m like a weak guy because you’re comparing yourself to
guy because you’re comparing yourself to
guy because you’re comparing yourself to all the guys you would compare yourself
all the guys you would compare yourself
all the guys you would compare yourself only to you we aren’t meant to be
only to you we aren’t meant to be
only to you we aren’t meant to be compared to anyone else okay we aren’t
compared to anyone else okay we aren’t
compared to anyone else okay we aren’t meant to look like anyone else look in
meant to look like anyone else look in
meant to look like anyone else look in the audience everyone is so different we
the audience everyone is so different we
the audience everyone is so different we don’t look like ants
don’t look like ants
don’t look like ants we don’t look like grains of sand on the
we don’t look like grains of sand on the
we don’t look like grains of sand on the beach and even those things are
beach and even those things are
beach and even those things are different when looked at underneath a
different when looked at underneath a
different when looked at underneath a microscope you are not this vessel any
microscope you are not this vessel any
microscope you are not this vessel any person at any time you could lose any of
person at any time you could lose any of
person at any time you could lose any of your senses sight smell sound taste
your senses sight smell sound taste
your senses sight smell sound taste touch you could lose any body part you
touch you could lose any body part you
touch you could lose any body part you could lose your dick okay you could lose
could lose your dick okay you could lose
could lose your dick okay you could lose your tits you could lose anything all of
your tits you could lose anything all of
your tits you could lose anything all of the sexual organs internal and external
the sexual organs internal and external
the sexual organs internal and external and when that happens if that happens
and when that happens if that happens
and when that happens if that happens heaven forbid that happens you still are
heaven forbid that happens you still are
heaven forbid that happens you still are you there’s this thing that goes beyond
you there’s this thing that goes beyond
you there’s this thing that goes beyond the body and not to you that’s the thing
the body and not to you that’s the thing
the body and not to you that’s the thing that’s meant to be compared to each
that’s meant to be compared to each
that’s meant to be compared to each other us not this so it’s that simple we
other us not this so it’s that simple we
other us not this so it’s that simple we are not this so get the fuck out of your
are not this so get the fuck out of your
are not this so get the fuck out of your way and stop letting opinions get in the
way and stop letting opinions get in the
way and stop letting opinions get in the way of the fact that this is your life
way of the fact that this is your life
way of the fact that this is your life and you should be doing everything you
and you should be doing everything you
and you should be doing everything you can
can
can to be the best that you can be thank you
to be the best that you can be thank you
to be the best that you can be thank you [Applause]
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